Jessa, Ben and Their Brood: Making a (Diaper) Mountain out of a Mold House

[Portia]

I'm a little surprised at all the love for Ellianna when so many folks here seem to dislike Maryella.To me they're of a piece. I'm not crazy about the fern as a plant,  but as a name I think it has character.

[dargosmydaddy]

14 minutes ago, Portia said:

I'm a little surprised at all the love for Ellianna when so many folks here seem to dislike Maryella.

I think most people had issues with the spelling of Maryella rather than the name itself, saying that Mariella or Mary Ella would have been better.

Similarly, if Jessa had named the baby Elliana Fern, I'm sure people would be complaining about too many E-names (to go along with Evangeline and Evelyn) and/or too many "Ella" names (to go along with Maryella and Bella). 

Edited July 22, 2021 by dargosmydaddy

[iwantcookies]

50 minutes ago, BigBingerBro said:

Precious new life?

Yeah right. Fern will be denied proper education, food, clothes and will share a bedroom with 3 siblings. Some life ! 
 

Baby Triscuit will be sitting in the fridge drinking milk soon enough.

[Heathen]

3 hours ago, Panopticon said:

Fleur Delacour would be just about the worst Harry Potter character for them too. Not only was she fine with using her beauty to distract men (Nike!) but she was the best student in her school and competed against boys in physical/magical events. Plus she had enough strength of conviction to risk her neck fighting in a magical war… she didn’t leave that to the menfolk either. 

Of course she did get married barely out of her teens to an older man who was one of many sometimes-interchangeable brothers, so the Duggars might be okay with that part.

But Bill was Head Boy, became a Curse-Breaker for Gringotts, and had long hair and an earring. Duggars say "nope!" 

Topic: Jim Bob looks happy holding Fern. I do think he loves his children and grandchildren. Not so sure Mullet does. 

Edited July 22, 2021 by Heathen

[Joan of Argh]

4 hours ago, iwantcookies said:

Precious new life?

Yeah right. Fern will be denied proper education, food, clothes and will share a bedroom with 3 siblings. Some life ! 
 

Baby Triscuit will be sitting in the fridge drinking milk soon enough.

Baby Triscuit 😂😂😂 she’ll be curled up in a corner, fast asleep and clutching a box of crackers.

Last night I was thinking they should have named her “Fern Gully Seewald”

[Snow Fairy]

I was so annoyed at the introduction of baby to Ivy and the boys. Why does Ivy need to hold her immediately and all the talks "this is your sister, this baby was in mommy's belly"

Ivy did not look very happy

 

Jessa liked the hospital experience and epidural

[GeeGolly]

Ivy looked to be grappling with the new baby like many two year olds - with a big feeling of, WTF. I'm guessing she was expecting a doll. Ivy is going to have a hard time with this intrusion of a needy human. She strutted around the Mold House like she owned it, and she knew one little "waah" from her would stop her brothers' in their tracks. Now Fern's waahs are going to get all the attention.

I actually think Ben and Jessa know what they're in for and are trying to make it easier for Ivy (and themselves), but are failing. And Ivy is one step ahead of them. She said, "he wants to sleep in that room", meaning not with Jessa.

And poor Spurge, he gets it. Like his grandmother, Jessa is going to be very busy for the next six months, so Spurge is going to need to be a grownup - a brother-mom - and take on responsibility wrangling in Henry and Ivy.

 

Because I jumped around in the video and had the volume very low, I was wondering if they said who the guy was that did the spontaneous photoshoot?

[ginger90]

 

 

 

5 pictures here:

https://www.instagram.com/p/CRnIC9iJW4g/

Edited July 22, 2021 by ginger90

[JoanArc]

1 hour ago, ginger90 said:

 

 

 

5 pictures here:

https://www.instagram.com/p/CRnAkYpsi5j/?chaining=true

“Shit....this house is small. Oh and FU if you think I’m going near the body fluid couch for a picture.”

[GeeGolly]

I don't know where they were when Spurge was holding court, but that room alone is as big as Jessa's living room and kitchen combined.

[Churchhoney]

10 hours ago, iwantcookies said:

Precious new life?

Yeah right. Fern will be denied proper education, food, clothes and will share a bedroom with 3 siblings. Some life ! 
 

Baby Triscuit will be sitting in the fridge drinking milk soon enough.

'Precious" in the sense that she's one more gold star next to JB's and M's names on that big grade chart in the sky, of course. 

Reminds me of that "goodbye to TLC" note where they took credit even for getting a bunch of other people's babies born.....So when it comes to babies with their own DNA....Well, wow!!!!

As far as anything else, eh.....They couldn't care less, as you say. 

Edited July 22, 2021 by Churchhoney

[BetyBee]

I think Fern looks like Michelle. 

[BitterApple]

7 minutes ago, BetyBee said:

I think Fern looks like Michelle. 

Lulz! My first thought is she looks like Guinn! Isn't it funny how people can see babies and get completely opposite impressions? 😅

[CouchTater]

3 hours ago, GeeGolly said:

Because I jumped around in the video and had the volume very low, I was wondering if they said who the guy was that did the spontaneous photoshoot?

I think it was Jim Bob.

[xwordfanatik]

Henry looked happy holding Fern.  Not so much the SeaWorld kid (I guess that's who he was.)

 

[Kellyee]

Looking at pictures of the birthday party that Jinger threw for Felicity versus the birthday celebrations that Jessa's kids get, you wouldn't even believe they are related or best friends. Felicity gets a fancy cake and the poor Seewald kids get Amazon boxes and stale ice cream. Does Jeremy have a lot of money from his family or something? Not that the party looked expensive, just really nice. They seem to have very different lifestyles now, Jessa and Jinger. Except the ridiculous need to stay meek and keep sweet. That appears to be universal.

[iwantcookies]

Jessa probably had a hospital birth so she can continue having kids. Wonder if she had real prenatal care this time too.

[JoanArc]

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Exceptthe ridiculous need to stay meek and keep sweet. That appears to be universal.

 I’m just over here trying to picturing a meek, sweet, Jessa...

 

[iwantcookies]

11 minutes ago, JoanArc said:

 I’m just over here trying to picturing a meek, sweet, Jessa...

 

That cat is plotting my death 🤣🤣🤣

[Spazamanaz]

5 hours ago, GeeGolly said:

I don't know where they were when Spurge was holding court, but that room alone is as big as Jessa's living room and kitchen combined.

That was taken at the dining room table at the Jim Boob & MEchelle's.

[ozziemom]

15 minutes ago, Spazamanaz said:

That was taken at the dining room table at the Jim Boob & MEchelle's.

So the Seewald family headed right to the Big House? With a newborn.

[drafan]

13 hours ago, Heathen said:

Topic: Jim Bob looks happy holding Fern. I do think he loves his children and grandchildren. Not so sure Mullet does. 

Nah. Only as a money-maker / show-reviver ....the caption was mostly about them....JB'S birthday and THEIR 10th granddaughter. Ugh.

[GeeGolly]

49 minutes ago, Spazamanaz said:

That was taken at the dining room table at the Jim Boob & MEchelle's.

Wow, I never realized how big it was. Definitely narrower than Jessa's living room/kitchen, but not by much.

 

 

[iwantcookies]

35 minutes ago, ozziemom said:

So the Seewald family headed right to the Big House? With a newborn.

My guess lost girls will help with child care for Jess

[Cinnabon]

26 minutes ago, drafan said:

Nah. Only as a money-maker / show-reviver ....the caption was mostly about them....JB'S birthday and THEIR 10th granddaughter. Ugh.

Exactly. Not love at all.

[beckie]

49 minutes ago, drafan said:

Nah. Only as a money-maker / show-reviver ....the caption was mostly about them....JB'S birthday and THEIR 10th granddaughter. Ugh.

She's not their 10th granddaughter. She's the tenth in a row of granddaughters. 

[xwordfanatik]

I wonder if Ben secretly thinks he should have gone for Jinjer?  She seems like she would have let him "wear the pants," unlike Jessa.

Still, he's the headship, so if he wants them to stop breeding, he needs to decide that, and do something about it.

[MargeGunderson]

24 minutes ago, xwordfanatik said:

I wonder if Ben secretly thinks he should have gone for Jinjer?  She seems like she would have let him "wear the pants," unlike Jessa.

Still, he's the headship, so if he wants them to stop breeding, he needs to decide that, and do something about it.

I think Bin is immature, wishy-washy and totally happy to let Jessa take the lead because that means he doesn’t have to do anything himself. Bin and Jinger together would be a nightmare of indecision and ineptitude. Jessa may suck in many ways, but at least she shows signs of life and a certain amount of resilience that seems to be missing in Bin. I think she stepped up to the plate when it became clear that the boy she married wasn’t going to lead. Good for her! 

[Zella]

21 minutes ago, MargeGunderson said:

I think Bin is immature, wishy-washy and totally happy to let Jessa take the lead because that means he doesn’t have to do anything himself. Bin and Jinger together would be a nightmare of indecision and ineptitude. Jessa may suck in many ways, but at least she shows signs of life and a certain amount of resilience that seems to be missing in Bin. I think she stepped up to the plate when it became clear that the boy she married wasn’t going to lead. Good for her! 

Yeah a lot of the guys I know who are like Ben actually like having a Jessa as a wife. The passive-aggressive ones will still resent the hell out of their wife when it conflicts with what they want or inconveniences them, but they never actively step up to provide any balance because the rest of the time they like the lack of responsibility. And truthfully a lot of them like being able to shrug off responsibility even when they dislike the decision because then they can always blame her because it was her idea, don't you know. 

I don't think Jessa and Ben are happy in their relationship, and I would find Jessa pretty hard to take in person. But she never really disguised her personality around him before they were married, so it's not like he was blindsided. 

[Gemma Violet]

3 hours ago, ozziemom said:

So the Seewald family headed right to the Big House? With a newborn.

No, it looks like Jessa and Ben stayed at the hospital while someone (presumably JB/Michelle) took the kids to the big house.  Jessa/Ben & baby went straight to their home from the hospital.   

[BigBingerBro]

[Suzn]

1 hour ago, Zella said:

Yeah a lot of the guys I know who are like Ben actually like having a Jessa as a wife. The passive-aggressive ones will still resent the hell out of their wife when it conflicts with what they want or inconveniences them, but they never actively step up to provide any balance because the rest of the time they like the lack of responsibility. And truthfully a lot of them like being able to shrug off responsibility even when they dislike the decision because then they can always blame her because it was her idea, don't you know. 

I don't think Jessa and Ben are happy in their relationship, and I would find Jessa pretty hard to take in person. But she never really disguised her personality around him before they were married, so it's not like he was blindsided. 

OMG!  That describes my ex-husband.  OMG!  I may be a Jessa!

[MargeGunderson]

2 minutes ago, Suzn said:

OMG!  That describes my ex-husband.  OMG!  I may be a Jessa!

Me too, Suzan, but like Jessa I’m still married to mine! (He’s not a total Ben, but he does have Ben-tendencies.

[Suzn]

2 minutes ago, MargeGunderson said:

Me too, Suzan, but like Jessa I’m still married to mine! (He’s not a total Ben, but he does have Ben-tendencies.

Eighteen years was enough for me!  🤣

[Zella]

I've never been married to a Ben, but I've worked in group projects with them. And I used to tell them when they got off their ass and did something they were allowed to have an opinion. I can't imagine being locked in a house with them for any extended period of time without violence erupting on one end or the other. LOL 

[JoanArc]

13 minutes ago, MargeGunderson said:

Me too, Suzan, but like Jessa I’m still married to mine! (He’s not a total Ben, but he does have Ben-tendencies.

Bendencies.

[Cinnabon]

20 minutes ago, JoanArc said:

Bendencies.

Bindincies 

[BetyBee]

54 minutes ago, JoanArc said:

Bendencies.

 

34 minutes ago, Cinnabon said:

Bindincies 

Too funny! 

I noticed in the recent videos that Ben & Jessa call each other "Love". It gives me the impression that they've had some marriage counseling, probably pastoral. They don't seem to have much to say to one another, but at least they are making a small effort. Bin also made a point of washing Ivy's hands before she held Fern. I think he's used to a higher level of cleanliness, but he's so passive he keeps most of his thoughts to himself. 

[Absolom]

So now that the kids have been at the hospital, at the big house, and presumably now back home with the newborn, they can pass along all the germs they've picked up this week.

Edited July 22, 2021 by Absolom

[NoThyme]

4 hours ago, GeeGolly said:

Wow, I never realized how big it was. Definitely narrower than Jessa's living room/kitchen, but not by much.

 

 

Are they allowed to drink anything when they eat? 

[BetyBee]

17 minutes ago, NoThyme said:

Are they allowed to drink anything when they eat? 

Maybe Gothard has rules about that. He has rules about every other dumb thing!

[JoanArc]

1 hour ago, Cinnabon said:

Bindincies 

Blessticular Cancer

[madpsych78]

4 hours ago, MargeGunderson said:

I think Bin is immature, wishy-washy and totally happy to let Jessa take the lead because that means he doesn’t have to do anything himself. Bin and Jinger together would be a nightmare of indecision and ineptitude. Jessa may suck in many ways, but at least she shows signs of life and a certain amount of resilience that seems to be missing in Bin. I think she stepped up to the plate when it became clear that the boy she married wasn’t going to lead. Good for her! 

And Jessa and Jeremy together would bicker over each other while fighting for dominance, culminating in many nights of passionate hot sex.

[emmawoodhouse]

17 minutes ago, madpsych78 said:

And Jessa and Jeremy together would bicker over each other while fighting for dominance, culminating in many nights of passionate hot sex.

Eeew. 

[farmgal4]

14 hours ago, ginger90 said:

 

 

 

5 pictures here:

https://www.instagram.com/p/CRnIC9iJW4g/

Fern is beautiful and perfect.

[farmgal4]

3 hours ago, BigBingerBro said:

Omg, Spurgie is so funny!  I can think of a few memes that would fit that expression!

[lascuba]

6 hours ago, Zella said:

Yeah a lot of the guys I know who are like Ben actually like having a Jessa as a wife. The passive-aggressive ones will still resent the hell out of their wife when it conflicts with what they want or inconveniences them, but they never actively step up to provide any balance because the rest of the time they like the lack of responsibility. And truthfully a lot of them like being able to shrug off responsibility even when they dislike the decision because then they can always blame her because it was her idea, don't you know. 

I don't think Jessa and Ben are happy in their relationship, and I would find Jessa pretty hard to take in person. But she never really disguised her personality around him before they were married, so it's not like he was blindsided. 

 

6 hours ago, MargeGunderson said:

I think Bin is immature, wishy-washy and totally happy to let Jessa take the lead because that means he doesn’t have to do anything himself. Bin and Jinger together would be a nightmare of indecision and ineptitude. Jessa may suck in many ways, but at least she shows signs of life and a certain amount of resilience that seems to be missing in Bin. I think she stepped up to the plate when it became clear that the boy she married wasn’t going to lead. Good for her! 

I really with we could like posts more than once, because both of these are right on. I often find myself defending Jessa not because I like her at all, but partly because pretty much everyone around her just sucks that much more. I've never felt the tiniest twinge of sympathy for Ben. His motivations for wanting to meet Jessa put him in asshole territory early, and everything he's done since has dug him deeper. 

[Zella]

4 minutes ago, lascuba said:

I've never felt the tiniest twinge of sympathy for Ben.

Yeah I don't feel sorry for either one of them. I do feel sorry for their kids, though. I don't think that's a fun house to exist in, even by Duggar standards. The passive-aggressive vibes and tension just radiate off both Jessa and Ben in still photos. I bet in person it's almost suffocating. 

[emmawoodhouse]

5 minutes ago, lascuba said:

 

I really with we could like posts more than once, because both of these are right on. I often find myself defending Jessa not because I like her at all, but partly because pretty much everyone around her just sucks that much more. I've never felt the tiniest twinge of sympathy for Ben. His motivations for wanting to meet Jessa put him in asshole territory early, and everything he's done since has dug him deeper. 

Jumping off on Ben's motivations in meeting the "hot" Duggar daughter. It's even worse when you consider that his parents actually drove him to the church to meet her. He was 17, and the Seewalds were ready to marry him off. 

So, Ben got his hot girl. But 4 kids in less than 6 years have taken the bloom off the rose. 

[Zella]

Yeah I don't feel sorry for Ben, but his parents really did him a disservice by enabling that bullshit. I am not sure if his parents have changed too much, but his sisters have me wondering if they learned lessons from Ben's life and ran in the opposite direction.