Scarlett45

Enjoy your trip and travel safely. What an experience.

I am so sorry. Sending comfort to your family.

My Mom knew that I followed this show since the beginning and discussed it with you all here. I shared with her how sad I was to hear of Garrison’s death, his love of cats etc. so although she wasn’t a fan of the show she was aware of what happened through me. Saturday she said every time she saw his picture with his cat (in a magazine or the news) her heart went out to his Moms and siblings (she thinks Kody is a “you know what”, just from the general news); and she wanted to watch Christine’s wedding special. So we did a thing where I gave her all the details on everyone during the two part special. She said that Garrison had so many people that loved him and would cherish his memory, and she only hoped that they would lean on each other during this time. She said she couldn’t imagine as a mother that type of horror. I think that human emotions are universal and even if you didn’t know Garrison or watch the show, you could be someone like my mom and have deep empathy. I just hope each family member is gentle with themselves in their grief.

I assumed Frankie made the quilt- although I don’t doubt Marcus and Jerome helped him. Yes. I also wondered what happens to Lucy’s brother. I think Hawk did love Lucy, and he certainly didn’t want her to be sick or unwell. I don’t doubt if Lucy had been in the hospital he would’ve visited her and taken good care of her (we saw when she went into labor he was there all night and just went home to change which was NOT common in that era- fathers weren’t allowed in the delivery room); but he would’ve done it out of duty and friendship, NOT because he was “in love” with her. He felt guilty (rightly so!) when she was trying to reach him at work and he was off fucking Tim. But because he’s a selfish ass, he ruins Tim’s career chances rather than you know, having some self control! Tim is a PERSON not a toy for you to play with. I am glad we got more of Mary. I would’ve liked to have seen her in the 80s. What job did she get with the senator whose seat she eventually ran for? Because she said she no longer worked for the federal gov, so maybe a chief of staff or PA position. At this point Lucy is in her late 50s/ early 60s (although the fashion was on point they didn’t age the characters enough with makeup)- leaving behind her daughter, friends, extended family, grandchildren, to go to Milan to keep Hawk company? For WHAT? I don’t think she hates Hawk, she knows he cared for her and he is the father of their children, and they share the love for their grandchild(ren) but why should she uproot her entire life and give up everything for him NOW?!! I don’t hate Hawk, but I hated when 1. He sent Leonard conversion therapy, 2. He outed Tim and ruined a career for him in the federal government because Hawk didn’t want to be tempted by his presence. Selfish asshole. Hawk has so much internalized homophobia, and because he’s had to spend so much time hiding he is always playing defense. He’s not an evil guy- it’s clear he was a good father, his daughter loves him very much and I’m so glad she showed up to support him. But parent/child love is inherently unselfish. I say all that to say, I’m not surprised out of anyone the person he loved best was his child. It was amazing many series. I loved Frankie, Marcus and their chosen family with Jerome. Jerome was a college student in 1979, so maybe he was born in 1960, he was 26 in 1986. My Mom said it’s likely he made it to 1996 but it’s not likely he’s alive in 2024.

I do love how Frankie and Marcus have been written, because I understand where both were coming from, and why they butted heads. As much as I wanted Frankie to get over Marcus, I know why Frankie kept taking him back, whenever their relationship “fit” in his life (like how after his father died). Marcus may not have lost his job for being gay in 1979, but he certainly may have for being gay and black from someone who wanted an excuse to get rid of him (or replace him with a white gay person or a straight black person). The rules “on paper” are often very different than reality, and likely Marcus was the primary breadwinner given Frankie was a social worker. I also understood why Marcus didn’t want Frankie at the protest, and I understand why Frankie felt he had to be there. Unlike fucking selfish ass Hawk, I do think Marcus was thinking of Frankie’s well being because he loves him. I think Hawk loves his children, and I think he loves Lucy, but not as much as he loves himself. His entire speech about Kimberly’s baby shower was about her being embarrassed by him. Not HIS behavior- it was because she didnt idolize him any more. I no doubt Kim loves her father and would’ve forgiven him almost anything, she had a baby coming and he just abandoned her after she lost her brother. Lucy was right, Lucy was still trying to be a Mom to her even in her grief- as parents do.

Happy Anniversary @ChiCricket. You and your husband were so cute! (I am sure you are still very cute😃) I am glad you have had so many happy years together and a beautiful family. Shallow bus- do you still have your veil? Its gorgeous. I could see your daughters, granddaughters wanting to be married in it. Unrelated- have any of you all got sucked into the "WTF Did I Marry?" with Reesa Tessa? She went viral over President's Day weekend (mid February) on Tik Tok, and many Youtube content creators I follow who do TLC Reality TV show reactions have reacted to it. The reactions have been as good as the story!

ME TOO! I got to meet Michael Ealy in NOLA in 2012- I was in Whole Foods to buy yellow roses for a Saints fan that died that year (I missed the funeral) and he was buying produce. But did you guys hear that we WILL be getting a "Young Ghost/Tommy" Book of Power? I thought that was going to be Book III, but I guess the 90s stuff with Young Kanaan is so good, they arent taking it to the turn of the millennium, in the timeline of Book III right now, Ghost and Tommy are 10-12ish years old.

Focusing on work somewhat might be good for them. With the social media work they can preschedule things as needed, and if emotions get to be too much, it’s not as if they will run out of bereavement days. (Meaning they can focus on family/healing until they are more up to addressing their business) So many people don’t even get days for bereavement, between planning funeral arrangements, the paperwork, attending to the loved ones personal affairs it’s exhausting. And the people that do that are usually the ones most emotionally distraught. It’s so hard.

M NEVER takes days off, she is a human being too, I am thankful I had the extra PTO and could take the half days to handle it, but it would be nice if things would calm down for a hot min. I leave for vacation again in May (Scotland), and trust I will be looking forward to that. Unrelated- I sent my very first kit off to ThredUp, I had a gazillion graphic tees that were hugely too big (my BFFs aunt loves to buy people clothes, she is sweet, but I dont need 20 xxl graphic tees), and if everything sells I will make $20 after fees. I think this spring I will do one last clean out of clothing that doesnt fit and my closet should be streamlined with summer and winter things. I was able to sell my nice items (formal dresses etc) on Poshmark, but it wasnt worth it for graphic tees you can pick up at Five Below.

Hey Small talk Fam- it’s been busy, no sooner did I get back from vacation did M get a stomach bug so I had caregiver duty and am still catching up on my work load; but I wanted to stop in, say hi and share this amazing photo of Cosmo and Lady Reese together. Cosmo is getting groomed April 2nd, so he will no longer look like a sheep. I have a therapy appointment to handle emotionally processing everything that’s going on with the family and how things are shifting. I think I’m doing a decent job taking care of myself emotionally. We all know I can handle the “tasks” but I will get in an emotional hole and just not deal with the feelings. I’m dealing I promise. My Mom is responding well medically but yesterday she decided to channel grandfather and started bitching at me about random stuff as soon as I came in the door to check on them. My Mom really does try to be nice so I am giving her grace, it sucks to not feel well and she is grumpy, but I’m oh so thankful all my sister wanted was to show me a Pinocchio and Geppetto character meet and greet on YouTube at Disneyland! I remembered I need to start gathering stuff for her Easter gift.

I am glad the cats have good homes with Garrison’s siblings. I am sure that helps them feel like they could do something for him, and makes them feel closer to him. I know I feel that way since Cosmo came to me, and Janelle took in her mother’s dog after she died. With everything Janelle is going through now, it was so thoughtful to post and let us know. Edited to add- I also donated to High Country Humane and my work place will match. The outpour of donations also demonstrates to his loved ones that his presence touched many people.

From what I gathered, they were together, and lived together (hence the framed poem as a bday gift) but Marcus left and moved back home to take care of his sick father, Frankie finished up touring and was moving on to a new career/city and not waiting for Marcus any more. What I like about the writing of Frankie and Marcus (as much as it breaks my heart) is although Marcus doesn’t choose a heteronormative life like Hawk did, he’s still not socially or emotionally free to be who he is. He’s always compromising and playing “respectability politics”, which as a black person I understand (he feels he has other needs to prioritize) , just like I understand how that’s not enough for Frankie. It just makes me sad.

You didn’t miss anything. They never showed or insinuated they had separated.

Yes. Gwen and Gabe are three days a part, (born in October)- Aurora was born the next April. They were the same grade growing up because of the older two’s late bday.

Garrison had a girlfriend as of Thanksgiving 2022, but I think the one we’ve seen a lot of on social media (and that you’re thinking of) is Hunter’s.