I'm one of the barely a second thought people. When I went to an hour of counseling with the first one I was told that the healthiest mentally after a miscarriage tried to forget the due date, did not memorialize either the conception or due date, did not plant trees or any other thing, and absolutely did not have annual celebrations or commemorations. It worked fine for that one and the following ones for us.
I try very much not to comment on how other people handle it, but I admit I have trouble wrapping my mind around the Laurens of the world. There is such a high early miscarriage rate that it seems misplaced to me to put that much emotional weight into such a high risk situation. Did Lauren not realize how high the early miscarriage rate is? I do hope Lauren learns to temper it all before her daughter gets a year old.