I am the middle of 3, with both the oldest and the youngest having mental health issues. My older sister was a horrible bully to me and my younger brother stole from me and bullied me (I don’t use the term bully lightly; it was systematic and over the course of years, not an occasional thing). Neither faced anything in the way of consequences - at best they were told to knock it off, and I was supposed to “ignore them.” There were also much higher expectations of me, and more restrictions (I think because they couldn’t control my siblings, they were going to control me.) it should be no surprise that I went to college 700 miles away as soon as I could, and haven’t lived near any of my family since. As an adult I try to appreciate that my parents were doing the best that they could at the time, and I don’t feel like I have unresolved issues to deal with concerning my family, I kind of just don’t care that much about them. I’m surprisingly okay with that.