Josiah and Lauren: He Has To Marry Somebody

[galaxygirl76]

None of them know how the hashtag thing work, do they. 

[Barb23]

It also looks like she's wearing a better fitting supportive bra.  Maybe she can take Jill bra shopping. 

[madpsych78]

Lauren is a lot of things, but I will state that she knows how to wear clothes. 

[BetyBee]

"Rainbow Baby" - give me a break, Lauren.  The only way she can turn this around and not making her little "miracle" feel less than is if she tells her actual child that she is so glad she is here every day of her life and shuts the hell up about "Asa".  

[Picture It. Sicily]

If she hadn't been taking pregnancy tests every day of her married life she would never have known about "Asa".

[libgirl2]

3 hours ago, doodlebug said:

Rainbow baby?  Give me a break!!!  She is not going to let it go, is she?  And Miracles do Happen, y'all,  As I am sure you are all aware by now, Lauren is the first woman in the history of the world to suffer an early miscarriage.  And, therefore, the first to have a baby afterwards.  I can't wait to see Asa's stocking hung on the mantel at Christmas.

On s shallow note, I do like her outfit.  It looks like she's wearing a T shirt in a heavier material that actually fits her, so no belly button popping out.  And no modesty layer underneath.  Not bad.

Don't give her any ideas!!! 

She does dress nicely though. 

[DangerousMinds]

4 hours ago, galaxygirl76 said:

None of them know how the hashtag thing work, do they. 

Not one!

[Madtown]

5 hours ago, doodlebug said:

I can't wait to see Asa's stocking hung on the mantel at Christmas.

Wait till the 1st birthday party.....Lauren will insist that "Asa" would want his sister to have the presents...

Edited September 27, 2019 by Madtown

[Churchhoney]

5 hours ago, doodlebug said:

Rainbow baby?  Give me a break!!!  She is not going to let it go, is she?  And Miracles do Happen, y'all,  As I am sure you are all aware by now, Lauren is the first woman in the history of the world to suffer an early miscarriage.  And, therefore, the first to have a baby afterwards.  I can't wait to see Asa's stocking hung on the mantel at Christmas.

On s shallow note, I do like her outfit.  It looks like she's wearing a T shirt in a heavier material that actually fits her, so no belly button popping out.  And no modesty layer underneath.  Not bad.

#rainbowbaby -- That hashtag is going to draw at least a bit more attention for her, at least for a second. Her post will get on lists related to that hashtag.....She clearly wants attention -- and probably followers, if she can get them -- just like the rest of them do. Attention beats accuracy and appropriateness every time for Lauren, I expect.

I expect that's at least part of why they all use so many -- maybe "media consultant" Laura's idea (well, maybe it isn't why Jill does it -- she may just be in the dark because....uh....Jill.) .....With the others, though, I'd be surprised if their "media consultant" hasn't recommended using a lot of hashtags -- hopefully ones that other people use -- as a traffic booster. (The "other people use these" thing may trip most of the Duggarlings up, of course. I doubt they pay much  attention to what's happening among the general public on social media or that they'd spend any time looking up what the popular hashtags are for the kind of stuff they're posting....)

But many small-business coaches and marketing coaches tell small and new enterprises to use a ton of oft-searched hashtags like #rainbowbaby-- I've heard 25 or 30 per post suggested--  to up their chances of getting people to look (even if the hashtags aren't all 100 percent relevant -- just kinda relevant). The same advice isn't given if you're already very well known.....but a lot of people do recommend this for people who are still trying to build an audience. And I've heard of it working for some people too....I expect Laura has heard the same.....And Duggardom is on the hunt for followers these days.....Gotta build the audience and the "influence" because Dollars and Fame! 

[libgirl2]

55 minutes ago, Madtown said:

Wait till the 1st birthday party.....Lauren will insist that "Asa" would want his sister to have the presents...

And one gift will be "from" Asa. 

[BitterApple]

When I first started reading the post I thought, "Finally! Lauren's focusing on this child and not Asa," and then I got down to the hashtags. Sigh. 

[cmr2014]

53 minutes ago, libgirl2 said:

And one gift will be "from" Asa. 

I wonder if there will be "rainbow birthday parties" for Asa. Lauren can make a cake and have her daughter make presents for her deceased older brother . . .

[ginger90]

Screenshot from a video:

[Ohiopirate02]

42 minutes ago, ginger90 said:

Screenshot from a video:

I know I'm going to hell for this, but Lauren's skin is horrible.  Nothing about this look is pleasing.  Her eyeshadow accentuates her dark circles, her lipstick is uneven.  She needs to learn how to use concealer. 

[Sew Sumi]

What's she shilling?

[ginger90]

27 minutes ago, Sew Sumi said:

What's she shilling?

[Oldernowiser]

So Peter was the drag queen Apostle?

[Ohiopirate02]

I looked up that Bible verse "Your beauty should not come from outward adornment, such as elaborate hairstyles and the wearing of gold jewelry  4 Rather, it should be that of your inner self the unfading beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is of great worth in God’s sight." 

I don't think this means spackle makeup all over your face.  I say this as someone who wears makeup every day, but I do it because I like it, and I don't bring the bible into it.

[Twopper]

On 9/20/2019 at 8:58 PM, Ohiopirate02 said:

I was under the impression that they went with a gender neutral name with Asa due to how early she lost the pregnancy.   Making Asa a boy is just the patriarchy rearing its ugly head, and will always be a reminder to their little girl that she was not first.  Make no mistake, she will see these pictures and this has the potential to really hurt her.  Big brother Asa can never be a disappointment,  but she can.  It makes me sick to think Lauren is starting her daughter on this path before she is even born.

I hope for the daughter's sake that Lauren will focus on and enjoy her living child so that the sad memories of the miscarriage fade away.  My mom had several miscarriages and two still births before she had me, but I never knew it until I was 10 or 11 and was learning about Mr. Monthly Visitor.

The idea of a cake in memory of a miscarriage creeps me out. 

Edited September 28, 2019 by Twopper

[doodlebug]

4 hours ago, ginger90 said:

Screenshot from a video:

If this is the end result of wearing 'natural cosmetics' give me the unnatural, synthetic stuff every time.  Lauren usually looks better than this, if she wants to shill for a cosmetic company, the idea would be to look attractive.  This photo looks like a 'before' not an 'after'.

[farmgal4]

5 hours ago, ginger90 said:

Screenshot from a video:

I’m always fixated on the details that others rarely ever notice.  In this pic, it’s the booger. 

[Barb23]

8 hours ago, farmgal4 said:

I’m always fixated on the details that others rarely ever notice.  In this pic, it’s the booger. 

I have to admit I noticed it too after enlarging the picture to check out her lipstick. 

[Minivanessa]

8 hours ago, farmgal4 said:

I’m always fixated on the details that others rarely ever notice.  In this pic, it’s the booger. 

The things you can't un-see once you see them. Thanks. I think. 🤣

[funky-rat]

18 hours ago, cmr2014 said:

I wonder if there will be "rainbow birthday parties" for Asa. Lauren can make a cake and have her daughter make presents for her deceased older brother . . .

I have a friend that does this, and we actually stopped speaking for a time because of it.

My heart broke for her that she had a relatively late miscarriage (much later than Lauren).  I have had a few, but all early.  She was lucky enough to go on to have more children (I was never able).  She makes one of her kids share a birthday with their deceased sibling, and she never makes much of an effort to show happiness at this party.  It upsets me.  It's not fair to the living child who has to include a cemetary visit in their special day (there are 364 other days to do that).  And one time, I lost my temper and said "At least you went on to have several more children.  Please think of them on their special day, and celebrate."  That caused her to stop speaking to me for several years. She seems to have dialed back on the "festivities".

[Albanyguy]

This whole "Asa" thing reminds me of Elvis Presley, who had a twin brother that died at birth. His mother, who was a bit of a whack job, raised Elvis to live in the shadow of his dead twin, constantly harping on the invisible "brother" who was always at his side. Elvis grew up never feeling like an individual in his own right and became obsessed with lavishing endless devotion on his mother to make up for the fact that he was alive and his twin wasn't. I think Lauren's new baby is in for a rough time.

[xwordfanatik]

That little girl is going to grow up with survivor's guilt.  How sad that makes me.

On a superficial note, I always check a mirror before I leave the house for boogers.  I'm hardly ever photographed, but you bet I would check then, too.  Snotty noses just make me queasy.

[Absolom]

Lauren is I'm sure going create problems for her daughter if she doesn't straighten out very soon.  We lost a twin in utero and didn't tell the survivor until she was in her late teens.  There were zero mentions or memorabilia or anything ever.  As my mother put it so nicely life is for the living move on with the best life for the daughter you do have.  Wonderful words.  Lauren needs to hear and believe something like that.

[Oldernowiser]

My profound hope is that once the actual baby is born, her need for drama will be more than satisfied by the new arrival. With any luck, she can have a big old “motherrr eees bleeeedinggg” TLC EMT/ambulance birth and hold that over her daughter’s head instead of a fictional older brother (after all, “I risked my life to have you!” is a family motto...)

Poor Si...he’s so screwed.

[awaken]

17 hours ago, Ohiopirate02 said:

I looked up that Bible verse "Your beauty should not come from outward adornment, such as elaborate hairstyles and the wearing of gold jewelry  4 Rather, it should be that of your inner self the unfading beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is of great worth in God’s sight." 

 It doesn’t make sense that this verse is used for a make up company! Wouldn’t using make up be using outward adornment to enhance your beauty? 

2 hours ago, xwordfanatik said:

That little girl is going to grow up with survivor's guilt.  How sad that makes me.

On a superficial note, I always check a mirror before I leave the house for boogers.  I'm hardly ever photographed, but you bet I would check then, too.  Snotty noses just make me queasy.

 Ha ha, me too! Always check for boogers and something stuck in my teeth! 

[jmt111]

17 hours ago, farmgal4 said:

I’m always fixated on the details that others rarely ever notice.  In this pic, it’s the booger. 

Well she did get her training from Jill!

[ginger90]

[jcbrown]

1 hour ago, ginger90 said:

She really is an insufferable drama queen.

[Gweilo]

I'm no Lauren fan, but I don't really find that insufferable - getting down onto the floor in late pregnancy was freaking impossible for me! It was a multi step process with unattractive groaning.

Also, it seems that they're having their classes in a hospital? Thank god they're not as stupid as Jill and Jessa and just planning to wing it at home on the sofa. I think Josiah will be a very diligent birth partner and father.

[BigBingerBro]

I have a feeling that Lauren is completely opposite to her sister-in-laws.  She's probably be going to every pre-birth class possible, weekly ultrasounds, second and third opinions during pre-natal checkups and the most lavishly equipped birthing suite at the hospital reserved.

[Natalie68]

On 9/27/2019 at 4:03 AM, ginger90 said:

I am around this age group a lot at work and the thought of them raising children is a little scary.  Most are not ready to care for themselves let alone be a parent.  I also find it quite sad to give up your youth.  But whatevs.  At 18/19/20/21 I rather enjoyed going out at all hours, going to concerts, clubs, to Frimples for cinnamon rolls at 2am just 'cause, driving to LA because I had an afternoon free, driving to Mexico for a long weekend, but different strokes I guess.  

[3 is enough]

I don’t get it.  I had 3 pregnancies.  Yes, I got big and was uncomfortable. I had carpal tunnel and in the latter stages of my last pregnancy I had to sleep sitting up some nights because lying on my shoulder would cause my arm to fall asleep and the “pins and needles” feeling was really unpleasant.  But I just went and got into the recliner and tried to go back to sleep.  I didn’t wake my husband, or wish that he could “feel my pain”. What would that have accomplished?  

Lauren really is insufferable.  I can only imagine how she would deal with a fussy, colicky baby.  I really hope for the child’s sake that she is an easy baby who feeds well and sleeps well.

[Lukeysboat]

On 9/11/2019 at 9:50 PM, Lunera said:

I guess she doesn't know that Hispanic means spanish speaking. She should have said she's a quarter Salvadoran

I don’t know why I was taken back to this page, but thought I’d comment while I’m here. Hispanic does not exclusively mean Spanish-speaking. I majored in Spanish and have lived in two Latin American countries and never heard that. 

Merriam-Webster gives these definitions: “1: of, relating to, or being a person of Latin American descent and especially of Cuban, Mexican, or PuertoRican origin living in the U.S.

2: of or relating to the people, speech, or culture of Spain”

The Hispanic Network offers this explanation: “Hispanic and Latino are often used interchangeably though they actually mean two different things. Hispanic refers to people who speak Spanish and/or are descended from Spanish-speaking populations, while Latino refers to people who are from or descended from people from Latin America.”

[Absolom]

1 hour ago, 3 is enough said:

Lauren really is insufferable.  I can only imagine how she would deal with a fussy, colicky baby.  I really hope for the child’s sake that she is an easy baby who feeds well and sleeps well.

I kind of hope the baby is a nightmare of colic and fussiness and Lauren decides she can't handle it again and she and Josiah decide to use birth control.

[realityfan26]

11 hours ago, Absolom said:

Lauren is I'm sure going create problems for her daughter if she doesn't straighten out very soon.  We lost a twin in utero and didn't tell the survivor until she was in her late teens.  There were zero mentions or memorabilia or anything ever.  As my mother put it so nicely life is for the living move on with the best life for the daughter you do have.  Wonderful words.  Lauren needs to hear and believe something like that.

Don't feel like you have to answer, but did your twins have TTTS by chance? My grandsons did and thankfully had surgery to correct the blood flow. It's not talked about much and I think current medical technology is helping a lot!

[Absolom]

No. They were fraternal.  

I'm glad your grandsons were able to have the surgery. 🙂

Edited September 29, 2019 by Absolom

[BetyBee]

I wonder if Lauren is still on her parents' insurance?  She certainly could be for this and several births to come.  Jessa & Jill may have sketchier insurance since neither they, nor their husbands have full-time paid employment.  

[GeeGolly]

Lauren has it backwards, Josiah has the hard part. In my opinion, it's far more pleasant to be pregnant than it is to listen to someone bitch and moan for nine months.

[Churchhoney]

4 hours ago, GeeGolly said:

Lauren has it backwards, Josiah has the hard part. In my opinion, it's far more pleasant to be pregnant than it is to listen to someone bitch and moan for nine months.

Especially when they same person bitches and moans nearly as much (or maybe fully as much) when they're not pregnant, too.....

[madpsych78]

At least Josiah appeared to be trying to get a sense of Lauren's experience. I can't imagine any of the other sons or SILs having that level of empathy except for maybe Ben.

Edited September 29, 2019 by madpsych78

[Faul McCartney]

On 9/28/2019 at 5:39 PM, Gweilo said:

I'm no Lauren fan, but I don't really find that insufferable - getting down onto the floor in late pregnancy was freaking impossible for me! It was a multi step process with unattractive groaning.

Also, it seems that they're having their classes in a hospital? Thank god they're not as stupid as Jill and Jessa and just planning to wing it at home on the sofa. I think Josiah will be a very diligent birth partner and father.

I totally agree. I’m due around the same time as Lauren and hate picking up my toddler’s toys etc. from the floor. Late pregnancy is the pits. And thank god they’re planning a hospital birth! 

[judyjudyjudy]

On 9/27/2019 at 5:29 PM, ginger90 said:

Screenshot from a video:

I looked up the ingredients in the foundation by this company...basically coconut oil, clay, arrowroot powder and wax.  I would be one great big zitball too if I used this product!

[Oldernowiser]

Wow. Why not go all the way and just apply a layer of exterior latex?

Makeup by Sherwin-Williams! 

[Ohiopirate02]

7 minutes ago, judyjudyjudy said:

I looked up the ingredients in the foundation by this company...basically coconut oil, clay, arrowroot powder and wax.  I would be one great big zitball too if I used this product!

I know pregnancy hormones are in play, but Lauren looks like she is well on her way to being a great big zitball as well.  I can feel a zit getting ready to form on my face just reading that ingredient list.  I can't use coconut water let alone oil on my skin without breaking out.  I didn't know fundies were on the coconut oil bandwagon as well.  

[Temperance]

On 9/28/2019 at 8:47 PM, BigBingerBro said:

I have a feeling that Lauren is completely opposite to her sister-in-laws.  She's probably be going to every pre-birth class possible, weekly ultrasounds, second and third opinions during pre-natal checkups and the most lavishly equipped birthing suite at the hospital reserved.

I hope you're right and if so, good for her. 

I'm not sure she's planning a hospital birth. That picture reminded me of the place where Jill and Derick had their Lamaze classes. 

[MunichNark]

WHAT did josiah do to be married off to that one? She is completely tone deaf to anyone but herself. Most unpleasant girl