I was thinking about the Duggar women and their husbands as I was working on dinner just now (I know, I know, a life is needed). I think in many ways Joy has a better shot at building a good relationship, even though she got married so young. Ben, Dreck, and JereME all seem to really want to be someone other than who they are. They also each seem to have chosen a Duggar for a wife for a purpose (idolizing the image on TV, prayer partner and wanting to ride coattails, latching onto "fame," respectively) other than just wanting to spend their lives together. They aspire to a particular image other than being the people they are. Austin, from what we've seen, is the most authentic in being who he is and seems content to be exactly that. Not someone I would want, sure, but for Joy, he seems a good match. It seems to me much easier to build a good relationship with someone who knows who they are and chooses you for who you are rather than to build a relationship with someone who wants to be someone else and to use you as a means to get there.