Happy Valentines Day! And now a too many words from Allison Bontrager! Allison has a blog called From Allison. She has spent all week coaching single women on what to do during Valentines week.
On Monday we got a post about what she learned from her older single friends, Lindsay and Priscilla. Lindsay taught her that the value of being attentive to small tasks (value of faithfulness in the small things, the greatness of servanthood (to other people like Jesus, others, yourself) and the importance of family, no matter your age. From Priscilla, Allison learned the adventure of singleness, the blessedness of true contentment, and the value of hard work.
On Tuesday, Allison told us her plans for Valentines day. They include celebrating with her young siblings (who are single?), sending cards to her grandparents, making brownies for her family and "emailing a “Starbucks date” (gift card + note via email) to some random couples whose marriages have been an inspiration to me". The main point is " You don’t have to wait till you have a Significant Other to celebrate Valentines Day! Gals, you could plan a fancy evening out with some girlfriends or siblings! I have friends who do a big Valentines Day party for a group of friends (guys + girls) every year. You could plan a candlelight dinner for your family!" etc.
On Wednesday, Allison did Q&A about whether to pray about a guy. It's more complicated than you think. God created marriage so he wants you to get married. It's good to want to get married. However praying too much about one guy could lead to an infatuation. Don't give away pieces of your heart. Don't get infatuated with someone else's future husband (not necesarily meaning the guy is engaged, but also meaning God may want him to marry someone else who he hasn't met yet).
On Thursday, Allison wrote about whether true love still exists. It does, despite the fact she has "become frustrated by the mediocrity and sometimes the downright pathetic-ness of so many of the marriages around me." She then has a list of things true love isn't. Most of her list is conventional, but this gem: A guy who texts you more faithfully than he prays for you.
So then we get true love which comes from God. "True love is discreet, selfless, patient, and gracious." Discreet is interesting as parents and married siblings took pictures of everybody kissing their spouse at once! True love also involves honesty, devotion and no wandering eyes. She then gives a long list of things that show true love to her. From "the boyfriend who proves his commitment before he declares his love" to "a husband who holds his wife’s hand while she throws up from morning sickness" to "a husband who does a household chore for his wife just to bless her" , it's a long list that mostly focuses on marriage and pregnancy. It reminds of Jill Dillard, when she first got married.
Anyway those are the highlights. If you want to know more, you can see her blog.