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  1. cmr2014

    The Duggalos: Jinger and the Holy Goalie

    Do they still have that cat? I haven't seen him in their posts in ages.
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    Jill & Derick Dullard: Counting On (Donations)

    Everything we've seen about Jill shows that she is unable (or unwilling) to extrapolate anything out of her life at the TTH and reformat the information for her own smaller family. All of her recipes are for an army. Almost all of her recipes use canned food because she needs to have a pantry of canned food just like the TTH -- she is simply too busy to purchase fresh food. Here she's cooking with a disposable pan because she is too busy to wash a big pan. Her explanation for why her house is a pigsty in general is that she is a very busy #boymom.
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    Jill & Derick Dullard: Counting On (Donations)

    Okay, so this is gross -- no big surprise. The thing that jumped out to me was the 24 oz CAN of spaghetti sauce. First of all, I see no sign of any tomato based anything in that poo-pile. Second, I've never had canned spaghetti sauce -- canned tomato sauce, yes; canned spaghetti, yes; but I've never even seen canned spaghetti sauce. Jill is so entrenched in the Gothard/survivalist/food pantry style of cooking of her youth that it never seems to occur to her to eat anything that's not out of a can.
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    JD and Abbie: Captured Before the Rapture

    Thank you. I'm constantly amazed at the posts all over this board implying that this or that daughter/daughter-in-law is hiding a pregnancy. That has simply never happened -- they barely wait until the pee-stick is dry. Jessa held out the longest with Spurgeon, and she announced at 3 or 4 months.
  5. While I think their gender roles aren't as rigid as some people in their cult, I don't think Ben is doing a lot of housework any more than Jessa is working outside the house. Ben irons because he wants his clothes to look decent and Jessa is never going to do it. He helps in the kitchen because he would like food that is not cream soup based. I personally don't think that Jessa is a significantly better homemaker than Jill, but I do think she's smarter about her SM presence. Jessa's house is filthy and she has the same ambivalence to clean sheets that Jill does. While I don't think Ben is as big a douche as Derick (that's not saying much, either), he's still a jerk. He's been silent on SM for years -- but he and Jessa were flaming assholes on SM when they were first married. Jessa and Ben are better looking than Jill and Derick, and their kids are better looking. Jessa takes better photos than Jill, and she actually edits her posts and chooses nice photos. Whether we acknowledge it or not, we are hard-wired to prefer attractive people. Jill comes across as desperately needy and clingy and Jessa doesn't, but I think that Jessa is just as damaged as Jill. In my opinion, any perception that their marriage is egalitarian (or particularly happy) is an illusion.
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    Jill & Derick Dullard: Counting On (Donations)

    I was thinking about this recently, and I think that we sort of mis-remember the sister-mom role. Jill provided some affection and attention to her buddies to supplement the zero attention they got from their actual mother. The sister-moms kept track of their buddies when the family was out as a group. All of the kids had other siblings to play with during the day. No one appears to have taken responsibility to see that they were fed regularly. They appear to have seldom bathed. The TTH was (is) filthy -- the kids run around INSIDE all day long, and their feet are black with dirt all the time. There are (and haven't been since the initial reveal) clean sheets on any of the beds. I don't blame the sister-moms for any of this, of course. JB and J'chelle were overwhelmed by parenthood and the responsibilities of maintaining a household back when they had 5 kids. Their response, of course, was to have 14 more. Think about what Jill's day would be like if she was a normal homemaker. Get up in the morning, get the kids dressed. Make breakfast. Find an activity for Izzy and drop Sam in a playpen while she cleans the house and/or does some laundry Make lunch Take the kids to the park or the library or a similar activity Come home and find an activity for Izzy and drop Sam in a play pen Make dinner Clean up while Derick plays with his sons Give the kids a bath, get them into pajamas, read them a story, and put them to bed. Lotion time with Derick Think about how much of that she actually does -- not much. I think her days are as aimless and chaotic as her days at the TTH. I also think the fact that she's expected to feed those kids EVERY DAY, and entertain those kids EVERY DAY, is exhausting for her. She has no experience with schedules, or routines, and I'm sure it's nearly impossible for her to figure out how she would squeeze cleaning into her "busy" day. She also has no frame of reference for what a clean, comfortable, inviting house would look or feel like.
  7. cmr2014

    Jill & Derick Dullard: Counting On (Donations)

    I don't think there's anything wrong with the boys sharing a room, either. They're very young, and a lot of little kids feel more secure sleeping with someone else. I do, however, find the rest of it inappropriate. Izzy's bed is too small, and should have been passed down to Sam by now. Sam is two and doesn't need to be in a crib. That big chair is in the room for Jill to nurse -- Sam isn't an infant who gets up in the middle of the night to nurse. Jill is a HOMEMAKER by choice. Her home isn't clean, or comfortable, or inviting. There's simply no excuse for no clean sheets on the beds and no pillow cases on the pillows. I will grant her, however, that her kids look clean these days and their clothes fit and are appropriate. While the quality of the food she makes isn't great, they obviously get enough to eat, and she does make an effort to provide some bits and pieces of healthy food here and there.
  8. There's absolutely nothing wrong with this EXCEPT that she's lecturing us. If she had phrased this as something she was learning as a mother instead of a lesson for her fans it would have been fine.
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    Jill & Derick Dullard: Counting On (Donations)

    This is simply revolting. I'm not a great housekeeper, but no one in my home would ever be expected to sleep like that. Aside from the lack of sheets, those look like old, filthy pillows with no pillow-cases. As someone mentioned above, why not just stop filming for a minute and straighten up? Maybe just stuff that vomit inducing mess into a closet?
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    Jill & Derick Dullard: Counting On (Donations)

    I didn't see any bedding on that air mattress. It's just like home (the TTH) and no one even thinks of putting a sheet on a bed. What the hell does Jill do all day? She doesn't clean her house; she dumps some starch and some soup in a crock-pot for dinner; she barely acknowledges her kids; she doesn't have a TV; she doesn't read. As far as I can tell, she dumps her kids off somewhere and follows Derick around.
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    The Duggalos: Jinger and the Holy Goalie

    I'm not much of a baby person, but this is adorable.
  12. cmr2014

    Jill & Derick Dullard: Counting On (Donations)

    The thing that got me was she said that she decided not to wait until the place was "decorated." She forgot to say that she wasn't going to wait until it was "clean." I'm sure that's a clean as her house ever gets, but it looks slovenly -- not dirty at least -- but unkept. Part of the issue is that as everyone else has noted, there's no play space for the boys so they use the living room as the main play space. It's just what she knows. The kids are jammed into a tiny room like lincoln logs, the living room is crammed with toys and junk, and there is a much larger, completely empty bedroom that she literally doesn't know what to do with. If she thinks Derick is going to stop racing off to the library every chance he gets because he has a "study" now, she's sadly mistaken . . .
  13. cmr2014

    Joy and Austin: This One Time At Family Camp

    I completely agree with you. I have been reading all of these posts about Joy "posting" these pictures, but we don't know that that's true. She and Austin obviously didn't take the pictures, and we don't know that she asked anyone to post them. This seems much more like a decision that JB would make and explain it as part of the "ministry." I don't even think it would occur to Joy to think that it was her decision to make, and I would doubt that her social media presence is high on her list of priorities right now.
  14. cmr2014

    Josiah and Lauren: He Has To Marry Somebody

    I hadn't thought about it in these terms, but you're absolutely right. I'd been kind of thinking about her as a tiresome, self-absorbed person, but she's going to be a mom, and she's not going to be okay with putting her child first. I have always thought that Josiah just kind of took what was presented to him, but I wonder if he was actually attracted to Lauren because she's like his mother. It's hard to believe that anyone could be a worse mother than J'chelle, but maybe Lauren will manage to do so.
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    Joy and Austin: This One Time At Family Camp

    It's tremendously sad for Joy and Austin. It would be sad for anyone but, given their beliefs, I would imagine that they feel tremendously guilty on top of the many other emotions they're dealing with right now. That having been said, I do hope that this slows their roll in the baby department -- it probably won't, but there's always hope. Remember that Joy and Austin are the only two who have explicitly stated that they see nothing wrong with the Pearl "training" methods. What we see are cute babies and toddlers, we don't see inside the daily lives of these kids with the religious brow-beating and the harsh physical "discipline." I have much more compassion for these theoretical kids than I do their parents, and I hope that none of them will come close to recreating the horror show of the Duggar parents.
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