S10.E11: Jessa's Wedding

[mmecorday]

It really annoyed me when Boob told Jessa that she had been such a wonderful daughter. Dude, just because she's married doesn't mean she's no longer your daughter! I think what he meant was, "We'll miss the smell of burning stuff in the oven when you were in charge of cooking dinner."

 

When Josie marries, will Michelle and Boob say, "It seems like only yesterday [insert names of all their daughters here] were getting married."

[andromeda331]

That prayer Ben's father gave to him and the groomsmen. Wow, who doesn't want to wear that many marriages fail on their wedding day?

I loved that Jordan got be the only Duggar flower girl. Its nice to see her included and her alone.

I loved Jessa's wedding dress.

I still can't get over having that many people coming to your wedding and not really serving anything.  

I hate how JimBob always has to mention his own wedding.

I hate the running out of the ceremony.

I don't know who was more annoying Sierra or JimBob.

I liked the table remembering Jessa's grandfathers that was really sweet.

[ChicksDigScars]

Michelle hugged Ben and told him that she loves him.  I don't remember her saying that to Derick.

 

Well, it has been speculated that Michelle has a bit of a crush on the lover-ly Ben-jer-min. She's never warmed up to Derick, but man, she goes out of her way to feel up and kiss Bin at any opportunity. 

 

I'm sure that Derick has NO PROBLEM with this. 

 

 

 

It really annoyed me when Boob told Jessa that she had been such a wonderful daughter.

 

When Jessa said, "I'm still your daughter," after JB waxed poetic about "giving her away," I did a fist pump. You are not handing over ownership papers, you boob. You don't sign your daughters' titles over to their husbands like they're a fleet of freaking SUV's. 

 

 

 

So we got Jilly-Muffin and Jessa-Wessa.   What are the other kids called?

Jana-Banana?

 

Jessa-Blessa is their little cutsey name for her, and I swear that I did hear JB refer to Jana as Jana-Banana during one of their many bus trips. It was one of the earlier shows, as they were loading onto the Stink Bus. He was standing at the door, taking inventory of each kid as they all got on board and said, "Jana.....Banana..." with a weird pause in between as Jana climbed in. 

Edited April 1, 2015 by ChicksDigScars

[Just24]

Was the minister from New York?  I think New Yorkers pronounce an a as a r sometimes.

 

It's an east coast thing. I know someone who grew up on the east coast, and he will sometimes add an 'R' to various words. He'll say 'war-shing machine' for 'washing machine.' From what I can find online, it looks like the pastor might be from Florida.

[flyingdi]

I think they should've showed more of Ben's family.  I would have liked them to introduce Ben's siblings.  You knew they were in the wedding party but I'll be darned if I could tell who was who besides Jessa`s sisters.

[Temperance]

Thoughts while watching the wedding:

Budget talk. Okay so staying on budget is impressive when you have actual numbers of what people are spending and saving, when you know what the budget is, and how they arrived at the budget.

Who was the young Duggar man talking about being a groomsman?

I think the wedding march has been given the musical equivalent to being blinged out.  

Does Sierra look pregnant again to anyone else? She is a close friend of the Duggars. 

 

Who gives this woman? They should have gone with Jinger and her buddy group: Jordyn and Justin?

 

I wonder what exactly were Jinger's lowest points. 

I don't think we need the James and Jason cams. If I were TLC I would have saved that for John David's wedding.

I wonder if the Duggar girls know taking pictures while cold makes your pores smaller. 

Jessa looks like Elizabeth Berkley (probably someone has said, but with her face made up, it's particularly easy to spot.)

 

Since the producers asked the family to describe a lot in one word I thought I'd try:

The budget in one word: pretentious

Jim-Bob "giving his daughters away": possessive

Jessa on not having a chaperone: glowing 

Michelle as mother of the bride: Cheerleader (The protein bar and helping her not smudge make-up)

the wedding vows: modern (surprisingly I always remember Josh and Anna's wedding where Anna promised to obey Josh. ) 

 

I thought it was sleazy that the way the minister described the three hour kiss.

 

When they drank the water, I was thinking I know they don't believe in alcohol, but he's not legal drinking age. 

Edited April 1, 2015 by Temperance

[Lillybee]

I do say Benjerman but I am from NYC so that is my excuse. But I don't say Jesser the way the preacher did.

[MarkySnark]

Could someone please explain why the fuck John Sling David Blade was giving his thought on what makes a good marriage? I expected him to finish with, "It helps if yew like the way they talk. Mmmmm hmmmmm."

[Sew Sumi]

Okay, looking at pics now flooded out from the photogs, the Abercrombie hoodies were bridesmaids gifts (I keep wanting to type "grifts") as well as a pair of Rocket Dog sneakers. 

 

Doesn't make it right to wear it at the reception, Jill. And note that Jill didn't wear the shoes. I have a low toebox making my feet officially "wide," and even I can wear Rocket Dogs. If it was as cold as they said in the morning, didn't Jill wear a jacket? Jeeez. Those hoodies were for bonding BEFORE the ceremony, as evidenced in the pics I saw (from Libby Zellon). She wants credit, so here's a pic:

 

https://instagram.com/p/06hhuFKWg0/?taken-by=ezellon

[woodscommaelle]

No woman over 40 (Guinn's age) should try to rock a side pony.

Maybe she saw an episode of Shark Tank and wanted to emulate Lori Grenier's look.

[direpup]

That wedding march sounded like a dirge preceding a plague wagon - "Bring out your dead!"

[woodscommaelle]

I thought it was nice that Joy was kind of shadowing Sierra around the day of the wedding.  Maybe it's something she'll discover she'd like to do as a 'profession' if ever given the chance.

Was Jessa barefoot at the rehearsal dinner?

Running back down the aisle after the ceremony gave me second-hand embarassment.  I don't like it.

If she was in charge of a rehearsal dinner, I don't think in a million years Michelle would ever think of honoring the other family's deceased loved ones like Guinn did.

How did NO ONE think of waterproof mascara for a WEDDING??!?!?

Edited April 1, 2015 by woodscommaelle

[cmr2014]

I thought that the interaction between JB and Jessa was sweet (pardon the expression). It was nice to see him give her a kiss -- I don't think I've ever seen either JB or J'chelle kiss one of their children. I think it also meant a lot to her to have -- for one short moment in her life -- her father's undivided attention.

 

Other than that moment, though, it was so clear that Jessa was outta there. She said she was sad because she was separated from Ben for a couple of hours, not because she would miss the TTH or her buddies, or even Jinger. I wish they had moved closer to Ben's family, and that she could really have gotten some space.

 

J'chelle has serious boundary issues. She doesn't touch any of her children, but thinks it's okay to have her hands all over Ben. She was also all over that guy at her reunion in a way that was uncomfortable to watch. Still, she can only side-hug her kids -- why?

[HeyNow]

I have to say, I'm rather torqued that there wasn't one shot of Amy or her mom.  If I remember right, Amy sang in the wedding.  Editors, not even one shot????

 

I really do like Guinn.

[Spencer Hastings]

Jinger had me in tears! I like the relationship she has with Jessa and for whatever reason, she seems to be carrying a lot of baggage and guilt around. Undeserving? No matter what I was going through? She's carrying A LOT around and I'm glad she had such a good relationship with Jessa. I hope Jessa is still her best friend, although she strikes me as the "Call me when you're married, too" type.

I laughed at James when he said he was glad he didn't have to be in this wedding. That kid is over it as much as Jessa is.

Michelle couldn't keep her hands away from Ben! She rubbed his back and hugged him so many times. He's so defrauding.

Guinn tries so hard to engage Michelle but you can tell that she's just being polite in her interactions. I would pay to hear her real assessment of Michelle.

This weddings seemed to be harder on a few Duggars than Jill's was. Jinger was obviously a mess but even Mother of the Year managed to squeeze out a single tear. She seems to be much more attached to Jessa. Could have knocked me over with a feather when she brought her protein and insisted that she eat. That was so....motherly.

Edited April 1, 2015 by Spencer Hastings

[Sew Sumi]

I have to say, I'm rather torqued that there wasn't one shot of Amy or her mom.  If I remember right, Amy sang in the wedding.  Editors, not even one shot????

 

I really do like Guinn.

No, Amy indicated that she would be pretty much out of this "season" [of life] of the show. Jessa and Amy have never seemed close, even on camera. Too alike, I think. As in, posing for the closest camera. 

[Hpmec]

The Duggars' wedding receptions are beyond cringeworthy. Who invites hundreds of people to travel hundreds, if not thousands, of miles, and then has the audacity to serve them a cup of ice cream in a parking lot? It's just so cheap and tacky. And they think nothing of it. I'm not wealthy and I don't have a tv show, but I guarantee that if and when my daughter ties the knot, I will make sure everyone is comfortable and no one goes away hungry.

Ben and Jessa don't have a lot to say to each other. She has a plastered on perma-grin around him and he is just a goofy teenager. It's a purely physical attraction, and sad that they had to get married in order to be able to spend time alone together.

I agree that J'Chelle acts like a horny teenager with a huge crush when she's around Bin. She's a hillbilly version of Mrs. Robinson. Wonder if Boob picks up on it. I would think it would piss him off to no end.

And Boob has no reason to think he's losing a daughter. For God's sake, she's living in Grandma's house, and her uneducated, basically unemployable teen groom is scrubbing Boob's toilets for a living. Those two are firmly under Duggar control and not going anywhere.

I, too, had high hopes for Derick. No more. He's swimming in an ocean of kool-aid. Sad.

Edited April 1, 2015 by Hpmec

[whoknowswho]

Do people really have that big of a problem with women wearing flats? I have really flat feet and can't wear heels for more than a few minutes before my feet start cramping so badly that I can't walk anymore. I wore flats at my wedding (and I'm sure people here will clutch their pearls at this, but I wore Chucks) and every wedding I've ever been a bridesmaid for or attended. I've never heard anyone complain to me about it before. (And, no it's not widely known that I have flat feet. People just didn't care).

My husband and I are 50 year old hippies who got married at our favorite waterfall last summer wearing...CROCS!  Gasp! (It was just us, our witnesses and a Justice of the Peace, who wore Birkenstocks and capris, it was that kind of wedding.)

Mine were cute, flat 2 tone burgundy to match my skirt, and good for a very difficult climb down to the water, and I'm a barefoot person too. I'm either barefoot or wearing flats all the time, except when I'm in rubber boots in the barn. Haven't worn heels in 25 years, and am thankful for that. 

That said, we don't have a widely visible family or TV show, and we don't care about anything other than comfort...

[Sew Sumi]

Woah! When Jinger started crying, BEN gave her an almost hug, although Jessa was on Jinger's other side. Does that count as a defrauding moment for Jinger? Mechelle must have blown a gasket! 

[andromeda331]

I laughed at James when he said he was glad he didn't have to be in this wedding.

 

That was funny. 

[woodscommaelle]

Jinger had me in tears! I like the relationship she has with Jessa and for whatever reason, she seems to be carrying a lot of baggage and guilt around. Undeserving?

Yeah I had to rewind that and put on closed captioning. What is Jinger undeserving of? Jessa's love, friendship? Either way, probably one of the most real moments of feeling by a Duggar their entire time on tv.

[AnyoneButYou]

That said, we don't have a widely visible family or TV show, and we don't care about anything other than comfort...

 

I think that even though the Duggars are a visible family, some of them don't care about anything other than comfort, either. I'm fine with that since it's a reality show, and this is their reality. Jill especially seems to go for comfort. And Joy seemed really uncomfortable wearing those shoes Jinger and Jana talked her into wearing for Jill's wedding, so I have a feeling that she chose flats for that reason. I don't know. I just think quibbling over clothing and shoes is so strange when there are so many other things to snark on when it comes to this family. They all looked presentable to me. I'm pretty sure most of the people at the wedding are pretty similar to the Duggars and couldn't care less about their shoes, clothes, or hair.

 

And your wedding sounds like something my husband and I would have loved had our parents not freaked out when we told them. We compromised with a nice family and close friends wedding in a park.

Edited April 1, 2015 by AnyoneButYou

[Spencer Hastings]

I think since Benjermin has allergies he might be a little high from Benadryl and Claritin D, which would explain some of his slowness.

Agreed. My allergies are terrible and I take a Zyrtec daily. Ben always seems to be in an allergy haze that's very familiar to me. It can take a second to catch up with what's happening when you're battling allergies and the medicine that's supposed to be helping.

[woodscommaelle]

Why would Jill (and by 'Jill' I mean 'Derick) paint her toes the day of the wedding? Hours before the wedding, really. Couldn't this have been something they did in the comfort of their own home the night prior to the wedding?

[WalrusGirl]

...It's an outdoor reception in November. Even in the south, did reserving some outdoor heaters not occur to anyone??

Can I assume that the...aggressive...piano style meant that Erin Bates played for Jessa's wedding too, and that the Bates name just shan't be spoken on TLC? Though the minister's pronunciation of "Benjermin" instantly absolved the pianist. Unless I'm missing something about Ben's unique full first name, but Jessa pronounced it the typical way. I wonder if they never heard the minister say his name out until the actual ceremony? Just me, but I'd rather the minister say my casual shortened name correctly than butcher my full name. Repeatedly. At my wedding. On national television.

Though he got major points with me for being "very clear" that the no-kissing thing isn't in the Bible, and for how he handled the lack of kiss at the end of the ceremony. (Which I love love love - even if you're going to have your first kiss on your wedding day, you don't have to do it in front of 1300 people. Josh's reaction was weird, but I seem to remember thinking his stance on it was weird way back when he and Anna got married too. As in, weird beyond having your first kiss on your wedding day, which I sadly had heard of friends-of-friends doing before the Duggars were on TV.)

It was really thoughtful of Gwen to make the remembrance table - that it was her who planned it and not Ben and Jessa. She seems to handle Michelle in particular very well, and I'm glad for Jessa that Gwen is someone with whom she can have a good MIL/DIL relationship.

Poor Jinger. :-( But I do love that she and Ben seem tight too. I read quite a bit into all of the kids seeming really fond of Ben, but I particularly liked Ben joining Jessa in giving her a hug at the rehearsal - it seemed genuine, not awkwardly "I should do/be a part of this this too." Interesting that no one has spazzed out about Jessa and Ben's frontal hug (hee) when they got engaged, her hand basically on his thigh as they hold hands, or Ben giving Jinger real hugs alongside Jessa. Like they gave up after Jill and Derek's front-hug "slip" and Jessa and Ben's premature loss of handholding virginity.

I was also struck by Michelle being concerned about Jessa eating something, like a typical mother. And Jessa's wanting a picture with the wedding license (or probably keepsake certificate, since it was large and fancy?) like Michelle had with JB. (And the explanation that Michelle was winking...every time I've seen that picture, I figured she used to have a problem with one of her eyelids that had been corrected at some point, since that isn't always solely a cosmetic issue.) Was also amused by her and JB getting the kids ready (or "helping," sigh) without Jana or any of the older girls! A watershed mothering day.

Ugh to Michelle squawking about JB "giving you away, he's giving you away!" when Jessa declined JB's plan to hand her hand to Ben (?). JB was pretty chill and didn't seem offended, though, and I liked his and Jessa's comfort level in planning the approved choreography/symbolism ("hug, forehead kiss, motion"). JB may be a piece of work in many other ways, but the guy loves his kids - loved seeing him genuinely emotional at both of the girls' weddings, and I wasn't surprised that waterproof makeup didn't occur to Jessa since she isn't typically a cryer. (Though since she welled up during the engagement, that maybe should have tipped her off. I only wear waterproof, since I have contacts, so can't relate to remembering to go for one tube vs the other.)

Their reactions to the other's "surprises" were really sweet (no sarcasm!).

I like how much more relaxed everyone seemed this time around, but I'm not sure how much of that was attributable to the bride/couple and how much is that it's the second big family wedding in five months, so there would be a bit of a "here we go again" vibe. Not sure why Derek wouldn't have painted Jill's toes at home the night before, other than as an excuse to hang out together in the bridal suite, but no matter.

I can live with the running out of the church - not my thing, never seen it in real life, seems incompatible with the setting, but whatever. I can live with being escorted out by your own significant other, when the bride encourages it or says go for it, especially given their culture. But the "let me make this about me with a dip and a smooch for everyone as I reclaim my woman" bugs.

- what is the idea behind same-sex family members doing side hugs? serious question. It seems so awkward to me. Occasionally they do frontal hugs, so I don't get what determines when they do sidehugs and when they do regular hugs?

I have no idea - I wonder if it's just ingrained as the standard hug and habit? Then again, I never figured out why an old friend (from the same church and youth group) started hugging me oddly after college until reading about the Duggars' side hugs. It was awkward because I'd go for the regular hugs we'd given hello and goodbye for 10 years, and he'd go for the side hug, and it didn't coincide with any relationship, new or otherwise. But I literally didn't know that side-hugging was a thing, so I'm just guessing here.

[Micks Picks]

Clothing and messy hair styles that are perfectly appropriate for the beach or the park are simply not appropriate for a church wedding.  Sorry, no matter what you may think, standards matter.  You don't have to wear a high heel (I wouldn't or don't) but would wear a nice pair of flats or something with a super short heel.  It seems disrespectful to look such a mess as Jill for the wedding in a church.  No excuse for it. When you go to the lord's house for the wedding or a hotel venue, you look the part.  It says who you are very clearly, and that you have manners.  It's respectful.

 

I hope JD finds a fine girl soon, if he wants one, and has a good life.  I don't think he's a bad guy.  There a piece of sugar out there for any cup of tea.

[Kiss my mutt]

I'm confused by their hugging rules too. Michelle gave jessa a frontal hug that lasted a long time at her wedding but Jinger and Jessa did the awkward side hug. Most of the hugs outside of the immediate family seem to be frontal hugs and boy, howdy was Michelle glomming onto Ben.

[BitterApple]

Michelle also front hugged Bin at the reception, and Bin gave both his sister and mother normal hugs at the rehearsal dinner. When Michelle embraced Jessa and held her that was the only time I can recall her showing true affection for one of her children.

I still can't figure out what motivated this courtship though. Bin doesn't turn 20 til May, so he was barely 19 when he got married which means he was barely 18 when they started courting. Unless Boob was afraid Jessa would go off the rails, I can't understand why he thought Ben was husband material.

[The Ascension]

These Duggar receptions. There are no words to describe how terrible. Being horrendous, cheap hosts is most definitely not precious.

 

Seriously, Jessa was such a beautiful bride. I am so surprised by how much I love her dress. Like, to the point where I would wear it as my own wedding dress.

 

Ben (and I heard Benjermin too!) may struggle to communicate, but it does come across that he is kind, genuine, loves (and is good with) kids and clearly adores Jessa. Damn he is so young though. I honestly haven't been checking their IG feeds so I was surprised to hear so many think they are expecting. But..of course. It's past time.

 

I really love that they did the first kiss in private. At JillDill's wedding, everyone's obsession of it really grossed me out.

 

Damn DerrickDillard, I had high hopes for you. I really hate how these Duggar guys need to walk their wives back up the aisle. It's just so..."of course". Can't trust the woman to walk a few feet on the arm of another man! 

 

Jill looked like an absolute mess. I really, really dislike her. It's so interesting how in the getting ready scenes, she was nowhere to be found, when the others were fawning over Jessa. Probably walking around looking for someone to remind them that she was already married, was pregnant or trying to find DerrickDillard. 

 

Jinger made me cry. I think it came across quite clear in this episode that Jessa, while she can come across as icy to the viewing public, really connects with her siblings. The emotion, the sentiments expressed, and the "rock on" (I am out of touch) sign one of the girls gave to Jessa before she walked down the aisle when Jessa was sitting in the chair. 

[DangerousMinds]

I'd like to know more about Jinger's tough times in life, or however she phrased it. The trials and tribulations of Jinger.

Edited April 1, 2015 by DangerousMinds

[alegtostandon]

BenjeRmin?!?

 

I do not know where this guy was from, but I had a friend who was from Boston & he added an 'R' to a lot of words, like, his daughters name is 'Amanda' & he called her 'Amander'. Always sounded so funny to me.

[Chai]

I do not know where this guy was from, but I had a friend who was from Boston & he added an 'R' to a lot of words, like, his daughters name is 'Amanda' & he called her 'Amander'. Always sounded so funny to me.

Guilty as charged! (I'm from Boston) For as many R's as we drop (Cah =Car ) We do seem to add an R when there isn't any! :-)

[Turquoise]

I thought it was strange, given that MEchelle supposedly got the littles ready at home, that Sierra had to tell her, "Just wait until you see Jordyn-Grace." Shouldn't the Mother of the Year already know what she looks like in her dress? That said, I'm glad Jordyn got a little extra attention that day.

[Fuzzysox]

Poor Boob and Mullet, they had to get the howlers and lost girls ready for the wedding without the help of any J'Slave. How could God be so cruel.

But, but, but they purposed some family bonding time together!

 

I noticed that too that they were watching JosieGrosie like a hawk. Thank goodness that kid got little screen time this epi.

 

Jordyn is just a gorgeous girl. She will be stunning when she gets older.

Edited April 1, 2015 by Fuzzysox

[bigskygirl]

I found it interesting about Jim Bob said about his dad being a fun loving guy and would have like Ben. This is coming from a man who said his father abuse him by not being religious enough and JB treated his dad like crap before he died.

[MarkySnark]

I really felt bad for Jinger. When she was talking to Jessa at the rehearsal dinner, the look on her face said, "Don't leave me here alone with these people!!"

[Marigold]

I was groggy watching last night but I think Jessa made the sign language gesture of "I love you" It's the pinky, index and thumb up with the other two fingers down.

I really dislike Jill. She is very self involved like MEchelle. At least Mechelle looks neat even if she is out of style. Jill looks like a slob.

As MEchelle ages and her children grow up, it's becoming more and more obvious that she is SO bizarely emotionally unattached from her children. She was as emotionally involved in these weddings as Jim Boob having a used car auction.

Jim Boob, you can see, really is attached to the these children.

I can't believe they didn't provide adequate food for people. Jessa and Jill were so careless and unhospitable in that regard. But again, they are Duggars so very self involved. I'm sure THEY weren't hungry.

[Cherrio]

When Josie wandered into the room and saw Jessa's pristine dress, I just knew she was going to put a booger on it or something.

Thank You for making me laugh my ass off first thing this morning.  I thought the same thing last night, someone get that kid away from that dress.

[Adeejay]

I want to like Jill, I really do, but she is making it very difficult.  At the rehearsal, when the wedding planner called the names for the lineup, she just had to announce, “Pregnant lady coming through; waddle, waddle.”  Derick should not have been allowed in the girls’ dressing room to paint Jill’s toe nails.  It was inappropriate.  What if some of the girls weren’t fully dressed?!  There were a lot of talk about Jill nabbing a professional man and Jessa nabbing a boy, but based on their behaviors, Jessa and Ben appear to be way more mature than Jill and Derick.

[Marigold]

Derick is officially limp spaghetti. I really thought he was gonna be so different.

And I didn't realize how REALLY ANNOYING Jill is. She is awful. I think Josh annoys me less.

[Cherrio]

I will have to add my comments about Ben.  I am sincerely asking if he has some sort of "problems"?   His eyes look blank and empty.  I can almost hear the grinding of his brain when he tries to talk.   

      I do not see any genuine love from Jessa and all I get from Ben is this hazy thorazine attempt at wondering what the hell he is trying to think and feel. They both seem empty for different reasons.

 I did see some spark and real happiness when Jessa saw the ring for the first time. I noticed she couldnt stop looking at it, instead of listening to their vows.

                 The other thing I was wondering about was when Jana was getting something out of what looked like a big pill box to me. It was during the scene where JB was in the dressing room with Jessa.    Jana is halfway thru getting whatever she wanted out of this box, then realizes she is on camera and turns her back to finish putting it in her mouth.           

 Are they all medicated?     

[truelovekiss]

I personally thought that this was the best Duggar wedding so far. I know Ben is really young (so is Jessa), their views are extremely limited and they have a lot of growing up to do, but I finally have come to believe they are a good match for each other.

Jinger had me choked up. As sad as it was to see her hurting, it made me happy to see that these kids love and help each other, because Jchelle certainly doesn't. I really like that she has a (platonic, non-defrauding) friendship with Ben too.

Jchelle telling Jessa to eat reminded me of my mom chasing me down before my Confirmation in 8th grade and giving me a snack because she knows when I get dizzy when I'm hungry and nervous. That was a case of my mom really knowing me, knowing I would forget to eat, and knowing I would probably pass out if I didn't. Real moms know their kids.

I liked Jordyn as the only flower girl (besides Ben's sister), Josiah and Joseph as groomsmen and some friends and Ben's sisters as bridesmaids instead of transforming the entire wedding party into a Duggar show. When you have 19 siblings, you're not going to be close to all of them. Odds are, you might not even like some of them. I like that Jessa chose the people she was closest to, whether they were related to her or not. Despite what Jchelle and Boob have tried to teach her, friends can be like family and it's probably a good thing to have friends you're not related to.

Loled so hard when the dashing Binjermin Seewald was talking about how moist and refreshing ice cream is. Stay gold, Ben...

I do think Boob showed more affection and genuine love towards Blessa than ever before. Which is nice, but also sad that the only way she could get attention from her father was by getting married. I think it's clear that he prefers Jilly Muffin in terms of personality, because they're two ofthe goofiest people on earth. I also was a little sad that he could only say how beautiful she is. Yeah, she was beautiful, but I don't know if I've ever heard him compliment her past being beautiful and organized.

The parking lot reception killed me. I'm completely open to different weddings, because I'm not a Duggar so I'm not dead set that my way of living is the only way, but for crap's sake, Boob, your daughter is getting married. You can afford more than ice cream and water in Mason jars. Why not buy some tables and chairs? They certainly have enough birthdays, graduations (lol), weddings and jender reveal parties to get some use out of them.

Guinn is lovely. Every time Steve Carrel came on, I was hoping for something funny. Sadly, no funnies came.

[3girlsforus]

Jill was only 4 months pregnant at the wedding, right??? She was acting like she was 40 weeks along with triplets. There is no waddle, waddle at that stage. In fact most people are just starting to wear baggier clothes. Talk about self-centered brat. She and Michelle are definitely cut from the same cloth.

[Fuzzysox]

No way did they have 1300 people there. When the camera panned the church attendance it seemed like more empty seats than actual guests. 

 

Sorry, but they could have done so much better. As we have commented before, Anna's parents were so much not financially able pulled off a nice wedding with FOOD.

[Mountainair]

Yes, the more I see of Jill the less I like her. Her smug, holier than thou, First Lady pregnant act grates. Her entire demeanor and all of her clothing choices in the name of being pregnant irked, big time. It's been said before but plenty of people, myself included actually worked 8-10 hour days, on their feet, with a uniform at an actual job. For me I worked in banking which meant appropriate foot wear and dress. Just because I was pregnant didn't meant I didn't still have to be presentable. That Jill couldn't even manage that for one eight hour day is beyond self absorbed and a total attention getting move.

I know there is plenty to snark on besides wardrobe choices but we are talking 8 hours of looking presentable and she couldn't even do that. Get bent Jill!

As for the wedding, too much prayer time for my tastes. Too much inappropriate prayer time at that. Praying about divorces, etc on my wedding day? No thanks. The prayer circle at the front of the church after the sand ceremony, gag me now! To each their own but dayum!!!! God gets it, you love him, don't beat him over the head about it every second of the day.

I watched this while visiting my parents for the week and we all looked at each other when th pastor said something about a three hour kiss. Please! I'm sure the wedding night lasted all of five minutes with those two horny teenagers. What a shame they had to get married to have a damn private conversation. Hope it's worth it guys!

I will say I thought the flowers were pretty, the dress was gorgeous but I thought the rest felt like a spring wedding. No jackets for the groomsmen and the short, clingy peach color of the bridesmaid dresses made me think spring, not fall.

[Barb23]

I got to say I enjoyed this wedding a hundred times more than Jill's.  They may think Jill is nicer but everyone seems much more relaxed around Jessa to me.  Even her mother.

  

I'm with you about it seeming more relaxed. Maybe cuz it showed more of Ben's family. And we didn't have to hear Boob ramble on & on & on about losing a daughter like he did at Jill's.

Jill looked nasty.  She's like 3-4 months pregnant here, right?  She could have washed and brushed her hair.

Derick should have concentrated more on doing Jill's hair & makeup than her toenails. Just the way she acted during the whole thing got me. During some of the more serious scenes she's in the background giggling & goofing around. Did anyone else hear someone say that Jill had to "waddle" when they lined up at the rehearsal ? Of course, everyone laughed & she loved it. She was also doing her "look at me I'm pregnant" stance with her arm bent on her hip pushing her belly out. And as we all said, Derick put a tie on. Maybe he was going along with Jill's more "casual appearance vibe" & didn't bother but he's family now - show a little class.

I'm on Team Guinn too. She put Sierra to shame with the Rehearsal dinner. I guess Guinn saw how the Duggars Do a Wedding with Jill's so she pulled out all the stops with the Rehearsal. Hopefully Jana, Jinger & Joy realized this is how a proper wedding function should be, not a thrown together hot mess they are now used to.

A few other observations:

-- Jessa not wearing waterproof makeup. She didn't expect to cry? I'm also thinking that was her excuse to shut up Boob's rambling. There were times Boob looked like he was at a loss of words as to what to say to her.

-- Joshie cracked me up when he was shown "rushing in at the last minute" & then saying he had 2 hours to spare.

-- Was that Aunt Frieda sitting next to Grandma during the wedding? I'm sure it was another family member, but Aunt Frieda came to mind first. Where were the other family members sitting? I'm figuring the front rows on the side sections.

-- I did like Jessa's expression & "it's gorgeous" when she saw her wedding band.

-- Loved that Jordyn got to be a flower girl & there was one shot when she hurried up to walk next to Jessa when they were outside that was really cute

-- I was glad to see Benessa dropped the shabby chic theme at the end & rode away in a carriage. Too bad they couldn't have just kept riding into the sunset & out of Duggarland.

[BitterApple]

Jordyn is the spitting image of Michelle. She's going to be really pretty when she grows up. I'm also happy she got to be the only Duggar flower girl and that the bridal party was a healthy mix of BOTH families and friends.

It seems like the Duggars are obsessively cheap even for Fundies. The Keller, Bates and Maxhell weddings all had a decent selection of finger foods and those families don't have near the money that Boob has.

[Ljohnson1987]

Wasn't one of Ben's groomsmen a drug addict?

[Literata]

The trials and tribulations of Jinger.

 

Bad perms, clearly.

 

Seriously, though, I do like her. Her emotions were genuine. I have to remind myself that as cut off from civilization as the Duggars are, their siblings ARE their only friends. She and Jana don't seem particularly close; maybe she and Joy will bond.

[SopranoKris]

This did NOT need to be a 2 hour special.  I kept falling asleep during the first hour.  I'll have to try to re-watch to see what I missed.  I love that even their pastor said there was nothing wrong with kissing.  That it isn't prohibited any where in the bible!  Thank you for saying that!!!!  Their ridiculous courtship rules are nuts.  These poor kids felt like they had to have their kiss in private because there was so much pressure on them for their first kiss.  It's a simple kiss.  It shouldn't be turned in to this end-all-be-all event.  Heck, usually your first kiss is pretty lame.  Of course, you're usually junior high/high school age when you have your first kiss.  Not early 20s!

 

Was that Erin Bates pounding on the piano?  Or did they simply pump in the previous sound track from Jill's wedding?  I don't get the over-the-top, grandiose piano for the bridal march.  It's not appropriate.

 

I do have to say:  I was raised independent Baptist, which is what the Duggars are.  Wedding receptions are typically VERY bare bones.  There are usually no elaborate celebrations.  Most consisted of punch & cake and that's it.  No dancing, no meal, no drinking.  In fact, it wasn't until I got away from home and went to a non-Baptist wedding that I experienced a "real" reception, with a DJ, waiters, food, drinks, dancing, bouquet toss, etc.  I consider myself non-denomenational now.  I know families just like the Duggars (but not with such a large brood) and their kids are so emotionally stunted from the lack of socialization & lack of interaction with others.  They're ALWAYS at home.  The only time they interact with others is at church and they're all so much alike.  They never learn to adapt to social situations in the outside world.  I just can't believe in that.  They make up their own, crazy rules.  No thank you!