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6 minutes ago, Barb23 said:

"Meet Me in St. Louis" is one of my favorite movies & I don't dare remove it from my saved movies & shows. I love the acting of the youngest daughter Tootie Smith played by Margaret O'Brien.  I love all the costumes & dresses as well. I think I may watch it again this afternoon. I agree with the poster who said she has had enough of the Hallmark Christmas movies.  I'm with her.

I had a great Christmas.  Our family was able to have its traditional brunch & gift exchange at my mother-in-law's.  My adult son really didn't want me to go since I am high risk.  I told him I really needed to see everyone for my mental health. (It was ten of us total.)  I have not been out of the house except for doctor's appointments & my nephew's outside wedding in September where we practiced precautions.   I told him we would be safe as we could be at my MIL's.  Our family consisting of me, my husband  and son sat on one side of the room  which is where we usually sit anyway. I was pushed back in a corner sitting in my wheelchair with my son next to me.  We wore our masks. The  other family members sat on the other side of the room, over six feet away.  I agreed with my son on Christmas Eve that we would take our food home & eat it there. He was worried we could catch something when we had our masks off. As you can tell, he is very overprotective of me (which I appreciate) but there comes a time when you have to bend the rules just a little bit. So after opening gifts which was so much fun this year, it was time to eat. I really wanted to stay so I told Son I would like to stay and eat there instead of going home. We could stay right where we were in the living room instead of being around others in the two dining areas. I could tell he wasn't  gung ho with the idea but agreed to stay & eat where we were seated.  We left shortly thereafter.  They also didn't have trouble lifting me in my wheelchair up & down my MIL's front steps.  Usually I'm able to stand & hobble my way up the steps but this year I'm wearing one of the foot boots because of sores on my feet. I'm not supposed to put any pressure on it so there's  no way I could have done the steps.  So the guys each took a side and lifted me up & down with no difficulty.  

My MIL came to our house later in the afternoon to enjoy our seafood Christmas dinner put together by my husband.  We had delicious Maryland crab soup, crab cakes, steamed shrimp and sides of scalloped potatoes, biscuits & rolls. We got everything from a local carryout seafood restaurant we go to often. I also enjoyed the restaurant's homemade sweet iced tea which I think is the best around (besides my mother's.)  We got a gallon of it & since I'm the only one who likes it, I've really been enjoying it. Plus we have plenty of leftovers.  Needless to say, we were all stuffed.

It was so nice to see & be with my husband's side of the family.  Some of the gifts caused plenty of laughs.  I got three jigsaw puzzles so that will keep me busy for awhile.  Santa also brought me gummy bears, my favorite.  It really hurts that they are one of Jill Dillard's favorites as well but I try not to think of that while enjoying mine.  My husband was also happy with the "old time" candy Santa brought him like Beeman gum, Bonomo Turkish Taffy (vanilla flavor) and Goetzes caramel creams in the flat trays.  He enjoys them more than a box of chocolates. Son of Barb got some of his old time favorites like  Pacifier Candy Pops and the hard candy sticks in his favorite flavors. 

So it ended up being a great Christmas, Covid precautions and all.  (Anything beats when I was in the hospital on Christmas a few years ago.)

Now I'm off to watch "Meet me in St. Louis" with a glass of sweet tea. 

That sounds like a wonderful day! 

 

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54 minutes ago, Barb23 said:

I also enjoyed the restaurant's homemade sweet iced tea which I think is the best around (besides my mother's.)  We got a gallon of it & since I'm the only one who likes it, I've really been enjoying it. 

Yum, I love sweet and unsweet iced tea! I could give up juice, soda, milk, etc. but you can have my iced tea when you pry it from my cold, dead hands. 

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On 12/26/2020 at 12:24 PM, iwantcookies said:

Thank you!

Its like peoples fingers will fall off if they text me once in a while to say hi. Today is my birthday let’s see how many people will even remember... 

Happy holidays Calico!

Happy Birthday @IWANTCOOKIES!

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1 hour ago, iwantcookies said:

Thank you!

Its like peoples fingers will fall off if they text me once in a while to say hi. Today is my birthday let’s see how many people will even remember... 

Happy holidays Calico!

Happy birthday to you, Cookies. I really hope this year will be better for you. 🎂🎉💐

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Happy Birthday @iwantcookies! I have 2 daughters (born 8 years apart), who have Christmas-time birthdays. Those can get lost in the shuffle. I'm sorry that happened to you this year. I hope next year will be much, much better. 🎂 🎉 🎁

We were planning a zoom with Mom and all of us "kids" yesterday, but she wasn't up to it, so we kids zoomed anyway and talked & laughed for 2 hours! Oh, how I love and miss all my family and friends. We talked to our kids as well. I just know that next Christmas will be more like Christmases past and that sometime in 2021, things will normalize all around the world. I sure hope so, anyway. Feeling sluggish today. I'm just gonna knit and watch movies, I think! It's 3pm, so it's about time I made a plan for the day!

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2 hours ago, iwantcookies said:

Yes same here. I keep trying, same results over and over. People claim I want friends, I’m so lonely etc. I keep reaching out, keep being ignored. At least COVID is a good excuse this year. Meetup.com was a total bust for me. I went to at least 20 different groups, same results. 
 

Im glad internet exists so I can whine to someone lol. 
 

Happy holidays Beckie! Hang in there! 

I’m so sorry. Internet friendships are all I’ve enjoyed this year, because of the pandemic. Not safe to meet up with anyone in person. Hopefully that will change in a few months.

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OMG those pups are so cute with their Xmas treats!!!  Little darlings!

Dagnabit!  I got a card in the mail today from my mom's cousin and wife.  They sent me the second thing I hate about the holidays (after my niece and her too many EotS pictures) - it's the dreaded Yearly Update.  I hate these with the heat of a thousand suns!  I should say this - if you are giving me a normal update about your life, hope everyone is well, well now that I can get behind.  You know,  like REGULAR people.  But these two - they are like blonde Bobbsey twins who have had this charmed ass life and want to tell you ALL ABOUT IT.  They are involved in their church, he does whatever consulting in his life long business that he made a killing at, she never had to work though I think she has here and there just for the 'fun' of it, their kids are wonderful, they have ex number of wonderful grandchildren....shit that makes me spit.  I'm happy they have such a wonderful life, but damn it anyway the rest of us have struggles and don't want to hear about your plane, or your fabulous consulting whatever, or any of it.  Half the time I think people that send out all this kind of news are really lacking in the confidence department, or need daily affirmations of how wonderful they are or their life is because behind the curtain their kids are just as screwed up as everybody else's are.

I know, I should be happy for them, blah blah blah - I'm not responding to this card...yet.  This couple though, when my mom died and grandma passed - nothing.  No sympathy cards, nothing.  But I get sent a card with this white wonder bread shit and it rankles me.  I'm so tempted to FB the wife (we aren't friends) and pointedly say 'please don't send me your cards, I don't need them, I'll not see you again ever, your kids don't know who the hell I am, and my kid certainly doesn't give a shit who you are' and leave it at that.  I don't want to hear from people even just once a year brag about themselves. 

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My parents loosely know this crazy religious family (although I think they're Catholic, not fundy) with a dozen kids. Dad is a doctor and mom is the home school teacher. They always do the "look how fabulous our life is" Christmas newsletter and if I didn't laugh at it, I'd want to punch them all. It reads like a combination of a perfect Norman Rockwell family with a dash of religious superiority. It's nauseating and I don't see how they think people enjoy getting it.

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43 minutes ago, emma675 said:

My parents loosely know this crazy religious family (although I think they're Catholic, not fundy) with a dozen kids. Dad is a doctor and mom is the home school teacher. They always do the "look how fabulous our life is" Christmas newsletter and if I didn't laugh at it, I'd want to punch them all. It reads like a combination of a perfect Norman Rockwell family with a dash of religious superiority. It's nauseating and I don't see how they think people enjoy getting it.

You aren’t supposed to enjoy those types of letters. You are supposed to read them and admire how well they’ve done for themselves.  If your life isn’t as picture perfect as theirs, that’s too bad. 🙄

I know that sometimes things actually aren’t real great behind the scenes. However, I also know only too well that sometimes people really are leading charmed lives and they seem to genuinely believe that any problem someone else might have was somehow self inflicted. 

I have a relative leading a charmed life and she hires a professional to decorate her house for Christmas and then hires a photographer so she can illustrate her Christmas letter with perfect pictures of her perfect house and perfect grandchildren. I’ve heard her social media is even more over the top. 
 

 

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3 hours ago, Zella said:

I have a cousin who sends an obnoxious Yearly Update--not this year, incidentally--and my grandma always does a sarcastically dramatic reading of it for the benefit of the rest of us. 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

I wish you could post it I need a laugh!

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The doggies are adorable❤️

Merry Christmas everyone, just a wee bit late. Personally, I'm glad the holidays are over, and I gather that some of you are too.

Hang in there, 2021 has got to be better than this. No other alternatives accepted...

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12 hours ago, emma675 said:

My parents loosely know this crazy religious family (although I think they're Catholic, not fundy) with a dozen kids. Dad is a doctor and mom is the home school teacher. They always do the "look how fabulous our life is" Christmas newsletter and if I didn't laugh at it, I'd want to punch them all. It reads like a combination of a perfect Norman Rockwell family with a dash of religious superiority. It's nauseating and I don't see how they think people enjoy getting it.

My very religious sister, a pastor's wife, used to send me her yearly Christmas newsletter.  It was filled with so much perfect children/perfect family nonsense that I used to read it aloud to my family in a loud, silly, mocking voice.  One year my daughter let this slip to my sister and that was the last time I received her newsletter.  Oops!

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Happy Belated Birthday IWANTCOOKIES!  There was definitely an outpouring of love and celebration sent your way from the site family. I hope your birthday wishes come true. 
 

I received an annual holiday card from a dear friend who sends them each year so we can keep up with her and her son. This year they were masked in the photo and their activities started with 0- number of times we have dined in a restaurant since March. It painted a perfect snapshot of the year.  Another friend sent one of her alone in a canoe on the water....says, This is how I spent 2020.  

My prime rib turned out perfectly!  I got lucky on my first shot!  This dish will be my new Christmas tradition.    

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I don't mind the newsletter missives, though I do understand how the bragging can be a bit much in some of them. Some people do that on a daily basis on FB & Instagram. The more they brag, the less I believe them! But my older sister sends a nice one every year and hers brought me to tears this year. This was such a hard year and it should be documented. 

Today is my youngest daughter's birthday. She is a treasure, and the best belated Christmas gift I ever received!

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I admit that in the past I’ve read a Christmas letter and made myself miserable by comparing my imperfect life to the perfect life in the letter.

That stopped the day about 5 years ago when I got 2 Christmas letters in the mail. One letter gushed about a great marriage when I knew the wife was cheating on the husband (because she’d told me— husband also knew and was in therapy to decide whether to divorce her). The other letter gushed about how well the children were doing. Now I know these kids and they are great, but at that particular time the parents were tearing their hair out because the toddler would not stop biting his daycare classmates and the older child was suddenly afraid of everything. 
 

Sometimes Christmas letters are just social media printed out on pretty paper.

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I've been fortunate that I've rarely received any of those obnoxious Christmas brag letters. I don't get a lot of Christmas cards in the mail anymore, but some have update letters that are actually interesting and real. 

This year I wondered how that would go. I got three letter/card combos. Two of the letters weren't on full letter-sized paper, more like half-sized or even one-third. They were pleasant, brief, and to the point, which boiled down to: the pandemic changed our lives this year. With some details. The third was on a full sized sheet and was about the same. 

I LOVE the thought of a comedic reading of one of those BS Christmas brag letters! Way to go!

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14 hours ago, CherryMalotte said:

Dagnabit!  I got a card in the mail today from my mom's cousin and wife.  They sent me the second thing I hate about the holidays (after my niece and her too many EotS pictures) - it's the dreaded Yearly Update.  I hate these with the heat of a thousand suns! 

A thousand times...YES!

I have a relative that does this. She prints it on the smallest font you could find and it's about 4 pages! 2nd marraige for both. I have gotten to the point where I don't read it anymore. First, it's way too difficult with the small font and it's a fancy font, impossible! Second, I know what her life is actually like, so don't go bragging. HE is loaded, but you would never know it if you talked to him. She will let you know, even though she only gets a certain amount a month to spend. I think the money would've been gone if he didn't do things like this. The fact they are still married is a beyond me.

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11 hours ago, iwantcookies said:

I wish you could post it I need a laugh!

Some of it may not be funny without the context of knowing my cousin (who thinks she's better than the rest of us). My favorite part is when she goes on and on about her hobby farm and all the magical jams and jellies and breads she makes from scratch because some samples usually accompany the letter, and oh my God, that shit is inedible. Her own dad has told her to stop sending him her homemade "food." She really needs to find another hobby.

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hello everyone, currently sidetracked by a sick husband in the ER for day #2.  he is losing blood somewhere in large amounts, enough to cause his hemoglobin levels  to sink to 6.7.    he had a transfusion last night which raised his level to 8.? and currently is on a cot in a hallway somewhere in the cavernous ER waiting to see a doctor again. the plan as of last night is for him to have ANOTHER colonoscopy tomorrow so they have him on a clear liquid diet while there. he just had a specialized colonoscopy last tuesday in a different university hospital. its possible that he is still bleeding from that i guess.  he is cranky (as i would be ) and impatient with the system.  i am worried. his heart rate was super fast yesterday morning, that was what took him there in the first place.  research suggests that the blood loss could cause the fast heart rate and other symptoms he had.  yet, after two moths of knowing he had this loss, we are no closer to understanding where its going. so now he is uber exposed to covid and i have to be the one to get him home when its time. i dont know what to do!!!

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22 minutes ago, zoomama said:

hello everyone, currently sidetracked by a sick husband in the ER for day #2.  he is losing blood somewhere in large amounts, enough to cause his hemoglobin levels  to sink to 6.7.    he had a transfusion last night which raised his level to 8.? and currently is on a cot in a hallway somewhere in the cavernous ER waiting to see a doctor again. the plan as of last night is for him to have ANOTHER colonoscopy tomorrow so they have him on a clear liquid diet while there. he just had a specialized colonoscopy last tuesday in a different university hospital. its possible that he is still bleeding from that i guess.  he is cranky (as i would be ) and impatient with the system.  i am worried. his heart rate was super fast yesterday morning, that was what took him there in the first place.  research suggests that the blood loss could cause the fast heart rate and other symptoms he had.  yet, after two moths of knowing he had this loss, we are no closer to understanding where its going. so now he is uber exposed to covid and i have to be the one to get him home when its time. i dont know what to do!!!

Praying that the medical staff can find the problem and give him the treatment he needs to recover quickly. Praying for strength for both of you. 

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Oh, Zoo...I’m so sorry you’re going through this! Can you call the hospital and ask them who you can talk to about how to keep yourself safe after he comes home? I suspect he will need some form of quarantine for a period of time. Obviously you both need to be masked up for the car ride and maybe even put him in the back, open all the windows and blast the fans. 
Keep us posted, okay? Second a giant virtual hug.

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2 hours ago, louannems said:

My very religious sister, a pastor's wife, used to send me her yearly Christmas newsletter.  It was filled with so much perfect children/perfect family nonsense that I used to read it aloud to my family in a loud, silly, mocking voice.  One year my daughter let this slip to my sister and that was the last time I received her newsletter.  Oops!

Haha! 
 

Imagine Jill Rodrigues Xmas letter?! Oh my I want to read that...

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2 hours ago, BetyBee said:

I don't mind the newsletter missives, though I do understand how the bragging can be a bit much in some of them. Some people do that on a daily basis on FB & Instagram. The more they brag, the less I believe them! But my older sister sends a nice one every year and hers brought me to tears this year. This was such a hard year and it should be documented. 

Today is my youngest daughter's birthday. She is a treasure, and the best belated Christmas gift I ever received!

Happy birthday to her!!!

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zoomama, I'm so sorry you and your husband are going through this. Do you have a contact at the hospital or his doctor's number? I know hospitals are completely overwhelmed now so it's harder than ever right now to get answers. I'm praying and sending good thoughts your way.

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1 hour ago, zoomama said:

hello everyone, currently sidetracked by a sick husband in the ER for day #2.  he is losing blood somewhere in large amounts, enough to cause his hemoglobin levels  to sink to 6.7.    he had a transfusion last night which raised his level to 8.? and currently is on a cot in a hallway somewhere in the cavernous ER waiting to see a doctor again. the plan as of last night is for him to have ANOTHER colonoscopy tomorrow so they have him on a clear liquid diet while there. he just had a specialized colonoscopy last tuesday in a different university hospital. its possible that he is still bleeding from that i guess.  he is cranky (as i would be ) and impatient with the system.  i am worried. his heart rate was super fast yesterday morning, that was what took him there in the first place.  research suggests that the blood loss could cause the fast heart rate and other symptoms he had.  yet, after two moths of knowing he had this loss, we are no closer to understanding where its going. so now he is uber exposed to covid and i have to be the one to get him home when its time. i dont know what to do!!!

This same thing happened to me about 4 years ago. I started getting heart palpitations and even bending over exhausted me. I thought for sure I had a heart issue. Turned out to be anemia, very low hemoglobin just like your husband. I was in the hospital for several days and received 2 blood transfusions. Also the colonoscopy and endoscopy. They never found out where the blood leak was coming from. I went home and in the coming months had several other outpatient tests, including having to swallow a small camera! They still didn’t find anything, but I was ok and my hemoglobin has stayed high enough since then. I do take iron supplements just in case!

i hope your husband is able to go home soon. Hang in there.

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@zoomama, I'm so sorry you and your husband are going through that! I hope that the medical staff figures out what is cauging it and he can begin healing. Stay as safe as possible. My Mom was in the hospital for 18 days in April and she did not get Covid.  They're very cautious. Please take care and know that we are all thinking of you and your husband. ❤️

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On 12/25/2020 at 10:31 PM, iwantcookies said:

Same here. Not 1 person reached out to me. Not 1. I’m not going to reach out to people anymore. No one even wanted a xmas card from me. At least 2020 taught me I’m all alone and don’t count on other humans. 
 

Big hug to you! Stay safe!

Are we related?  Cause I caused a shit show on Christmas.  I'm recently "alone" and have 3 brothers.  I have to say that 2 of them came "over" outside with masks.. but I think it really hit me how much anger I have.  My mother (I found out on Christmas) has NO MONEY.. well, i would recommend not buying clothes on the internet from high end retailers for number one).  My dad lives in MD and did not even call me on Christmas.. and he has always been my rock since my mother divorced him for "greener pastures".. when she never saw.  So I Instacart food to her (i know, i thought i let it all go - she does not like me.. but lovvves my brothers.. but hasn't seen ONE of her granchildren in years).  So when my mother wouldn't answer the phone from me (i thought something was wrong and her groceries were sitting outside of her apt. at senior housing -she is 82 I think.. nice not to know).  I called the police in her town.. just for a wellness check.  By then she was happily cooking a hamburger (which i did not send) and told my brother to call me and to "settle down".  well.. I went ballistic.. just swearing and crying to myself.  She's a martyr.. but i'm more drama.. guess trying to get a reaction (I've been to shrinks since i was 16 when she left).  So I suppose no one in my immediate family is talking to me now.  GOOD.  Saves me heartache.  

On a positive note:  i talked to my 84 yr old uncle (my mother's brother who she also does not call - he lost his wife this past March) and he practically begged me to come to his house next week.. he is a funny guy.  So I'll be there and NO, my mother never called him on Christmas.  Weird family.  

 

Sorry for the rant.  Hope everyone had something good come out of this Christmas.

 

Sorry for the rant

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@Boston - this is a safe place to rant. I get it; the holidays can really stir up emotions. Wishing you well.

@zoomama, let me add to the chorus of good wishes for you and your husband.

I finally tackled an annoying mess around here. When it came to cables and cords and adapters and whatnot for electronics, I had really Let Things Go. I knew it was bad when I gave up rummaging around for a couple of cables to use with my new desktop computer setup and just bought new ones. I *knew* I must have extras of each kind of cable somewhere but couldn't find them. I mean it was less than ten bucks, but still. Ridiculousness.

I've been in this condo for 15 years, and I must have had that many years' worth of stuff around in various places. I went around late this morning and collected all the cables I could find that weren't attached to a working charger, and put them all on a table I'd set up in the living room. A couple of hours later - I had tamed the mess. In the "after" photo, there's a box of video/audio cables, and plastic bags with various types of USB cords and adapters. The messy box on the right holds stuff that I'm taking over to the Best Buy store to put in their recycling bins, and in the white bag are items to be donated to a charity shop. The "keeper" bags are now in labeled boxes and bins. This mess was bugging me for weeks, and it feels so good to get it cleaned up. 

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