Dealing with elderly, ill parents is not fun. Both of my parents are in a great assisted living facility now, and my brother and I are now certain we made the correct decision. My dad (95) is unable to speak or do anything for himself anymore. My mother (92) is physically able, but her dementia is getting worse by the day (some days by the hour). She just cannot remember to push the call button when my dad needs to get out of bed. (What button?????) She gets him out. Today I found out the the staff gets Dad up and dressed in the morning, and then Mom changes his clothes and put him back to bed. He sleeps a lot, so being in bed isn't too bad, but she is not to be lifting him or helping him walk. Also, when she changes his clothes, she is dressing him in HER clothes. She keeps taking all the clothes from both of their dressers and moving them around the apartment, so the staff is never sure where to look for clothing. I have no idea---sometimes you just have to laugh.