Small Talk: The Prayer Closet

[bythelake]

4 minutes ago, Rabbittron said:

To all my wonderful friends. I  might or might not be able to play Find Smuggar tonight.  The reason is my youngest is in the hospital with a brain tumor.  He was complaining about headaches so my pediatrician got him a appointment with a brain doctor who works with kids and she admitted him this morning.  Right now they are running all kind of testing. 

So sorry to hear this. I can't imagine what you're going through. Hugs,prayers, and good thoughts. Please update us when you are able. 

[bigskygirl]

{{{HUGS}}} for you, your son, and family. Wishing and hoping for the best.

[lookeyloo]

@Rabbittron - sending all good and positive and strong healing wishes out to your son and family!  

[EVS]

24 minutes ago, Rabbittron said:

To all my wonderful friends. I  might or might not be able to play Find Smuggar tonight.  The reason is my youngest is in the hospital with a brain tumor.  He was complaining about headaches so my pediatrician got him a appointment with a brain doctor who works with kids and she admitted him this morning.  Right now they are running all kind of testing. 

I’m so sorry!  You are both in my thoughts and prayers. 

[Mollie]

@RABBITTRON  I'm so sorry you and your child are going through this.  Is there anything we can do to help while you are waiting for the test results?

[frenchtoast]

@Rabbittron, all good thoughts and vibes and full frontal hugs and I'm so sorry this is happening to you and your family.

[Sew Sumi]

@Rabbittron All the FF hugs to you and your baby. Hope all tests are clear. 

[Barb23]

Rabbitron - OMG, how scary. Thinking & praying for you & your family. Please keep us posted when you can. You know you're cyber friends are always here for you. 

[crazycatlady58]

1 hour ago, Rabbittron said:

To all my wonderful friends. I  might or might not be able to play Find Smuggar tonight.  The reason is my youngest is in the hospital with a brain tumor.  He was complaining about headaches so my pediatrician got him a appointment with a brain doctor who works with kids and she admitted him this morning.  Right now they are running all kind of testing. 

Many hugs and prayers  for you and you family . Please  know that if you need to talk or vent this is a good place.

[Rabbittron]

 Well who’s the results from the MRI the tumor is wrapped around his brainstem they don’t know if it’s cancerous or not he’s in the OR right now we don’t know how long it’ll take and also I called his father and told him what is going on and all his father said was to me to bad so sad not my problem and you better have both boys ready at 6 o’clock so I can have my weekend with them And if I don’t have them ready at 6 o’clock he’s going to call the police on me and say I’m refusing to have him have his visitation weekend so it looks like depending on how long the operation is keep my mind off what he’s going through Hell I might be playing where is  Smuggar?

[zoomama]

rabbitron, my first instinct was to pray, which i did. i am caught off-guard with this, as i bet you were.  i truly dont know what to say except to send my thoughts as have the others here. 

 

ETA: i posted this before reading your update. i am floored. 

Edited February 2, 2018 by zoomama

[Rabbittron]

Thank you all for your prayers and thoughts so far I’ll keep you updated

[crazycatlady58]

Just now, Rabbittron said:

 Well who’s the results from the MRI the tumor is wrapped around his brainstem they don’t know if it’s cancerous or not he’s in the OR right now we don’t know how long it’ll take and also I called his father and told him what is going on and all his father said was to me to bad so sad not my problem and you better have both boys ready at 6 o’clock so I can have my weekend with them And if I don’t have them ready at 6 o’clock he’s going to call the police on me and say I’m refusing to have him have his visitation weekend so it looks like depending on how long the operation is keep my mind off what he’s going through Hell I might be playing where is  Smuggar?

I have no words about the boys father. More prayers  and hugs.

[Sew Sumi]

I'd like to punch the boy's father in the face and kick him in the nuts for good measure. What an asshole.

[bigskygirl]

5 minutes ago, Rabbittron said:

 Well who’s the results from the MRI the tumor is wrapped around his brainstem they don’t know if it’s cancerous or not he’s in the OR right now we don’t know how long it’ll take and also I called his father and told him what is going on and all his father said was to me to bad so sad not my problem and you better have both boys ready at 6 o’clock so I can have my weekend with them And if I don’t have them ready at 6 o’clock he’s going to call the police on me and say I’m refusing to have him have his visitation weekend so it looks like depending on how long the operation is keep my mind off what he’s going through Hell I might be playing where is  Smuggar?

Nice...What a piece of work!!! {{{HUGS}}}

[Mollie]

22 minutes ago, Rabbittron said:

 Well who’s the results from the MRI the tumor is wrapped around his brainstem they don’t know if it’s cancerous or not he’s in the OR right now we don’t know how long it’ll take and also I called his father and told him what is going on and all his father said was to me to bad so sad not my problem and you better have both boys ready at 6 o’clock so I can have my weekend with them And if I don’t have them ready at 6 o’clock he’s going to call the police on me and say I’m refusing to have him have his visitation weekend so it looks like depending on how long the operation is keep my mind off what he’s going through Hell I might be playing where is  Smuggar?

This surgery takes a long time, six to eight hours is normal.  Most of these brain tumors in children are benign.  They are removed and never grow back.  I hope that will be the result for your child.  As for your ex husband:  I'm glad you had the good sense to divorce the jerk.

[Arwen Evenstar]

@Rabbittron  sending you hugs, prayers, and good vibes as you go through all of this. Reading your news was like a sucker punch to my heart. I cannot even begin to imagine what this must be like. He’s a very brave little boy. Your ex sounds like a real shit heel. 

[EVS]

55 minutes ago, Rabbittron said:

 Well who’s the results from the MRI the tumor is wrapped around his brainstem they don’t know if it’s cancerous or not he’s in the OR right now we don’t know how long it’ll take and also I called his father and told him what is going on and all his father said was to me to bad so sad not my problem and you better have both boys ready at 6 o’clock so I can have my weekend with them And if I don’t have them ready at 6 o’clock he’s going to call the police on me and say I’m refusing to have him have his visitation weekend so it looks like depending on how long the operation is keep my mind off what he’s going through Hell I might be playing where is  Smuggar?

I’m so sorry. The last thing you need right now is extra aggravation from their dad. I  hope the surgery is going well and the tumor is not cancerous. 

[jennblevins]

{{hugs}} to @Rabbittron and prayers for everyone involved in the whole mess.  It always seems like sitting through some else’s surgery is worse than having it yourself. 

[Rabbittron]

I don't know what it's worse waiting for my son and surgery wondering what is going on or watching RULive also the music in the beginning reminds me of a western and I'm waiting to see John Wayne?

[emma675]

Rabbittron, hugs and calming, healing thoughts to you and your kiddo. And I volunteer to lead the charge to kick his father's ass.

[Rabbittron]

Just got done watching it there was one who resembled him and also they have a new program for people who have to come back a second time and they said they started it a few weeks ago so that fits into our timeline when he went back

[Love2dance]

@Rabbittron, wishing for the best outcome for you and your son. Having a sick child is such a heart wrenching,  difficult thing.

[Mollie]

11 hours ago, Rabbittron said:

Just got done watching it there was one who resembled him and also they have a new program for people who have to come back a second time and they said they started it a few weeks ago so that fits into our timeline when he went back

After reading this, I am convinced that Josh is there and that he got caught messing around again.

If so many people have to come back a second time, then their 'treatment' program must not work very well!  Maybe RU should employ psychologists who have training in treating addicts instead of treating people with forced labor and Bible study.  And while they're at it, a real psychologist might be able to help the morbidly obese Cisco lose his addiction to gluttony. This is a comment someone posted on the RU Facebook page:

"Faith-based (more like fear-based) recovery does not work. People who have addictions are in need of real help and there are better local organizations in the Rockford area that can give them real help and hope: Rosecrance, for example, is excellent. This place is run by a church that is a borderline cult, and shouldn’t even legally be able to operate."

Edited February 3, 2018 by Mollie

[Rabbittron]

 I got a phone call from my lawyer asking me why am refusing visitation I thought what are you talking about and he said that he got a call from my exes lawyer that I’m refusing visitation I said I was not refusing visitation but that our youngest is undergoing brain surgery so my lawyer says oh his lawyer didn’t say that so I don’t know what happened after that I imagined it but I don’t recall his lawyer And yelled at him for the bullshit

[EVS]

@SMama  Slow Cooker Italian beef sandwich recipe:

1   4-5 lb roast (I usually use eye round but the recipe says rump)

3 cups beef broth

2 packages dry Italian dressing 

1 bay leaf

1 teaspoon each of the following spices:

salt

ground black pepper

dried oregano

dried basil

onion salt

dried parsley

garlic powder

Cut roast into 8-10 chunks and put in slow cooker  

Combine broth, Italian dressing and spices in a saucepan. Stir well and bring to a boil. 

Pour broth mixture over meat. 

Cook 10-12 hours on low or 4-5 hours on high

When done, remove bay leaf and shred with fork. 

[SMama]

Thank You!!!!

@Rabbitron, full frontal hugs to you and your children, also prayers, and positive vibes. 

[jcbrown]

@Rabbitron, so sorry to hear. Hang in there.

Edited February 3, 2018 by jcbrown
tagging OP still not working.

[Catfin]

@Rabbittron, so sorry to hear about your Bunnytron. I hope your ex gets a splinter in his scrotum. 

[crazycatlady58]

27 minutes ago, Rabbittron said:

 I got a phone call from my lawyer asking me why am refusing visitation I thought what are you talking about and he said that he got a call from my exes lawyer that I’m refusing visitation I said I was not refusing visitation but that our youngest is undergoing brain surgery so my lawyer says oh his lawyer didn’t say that so I don’t know what happened after that I imagined it but I don’t recall his lawyer And yelled at him for the bullshit

I imagine  your ex. got an ear  full from his lawyer . I have a few  words I would  like to pass on to him myself . 

[Annb67]

@rabbittron I am so sorry about your nuggett. Thoughts and prayers to you. I can't even imagine.

May your ex husband's nuts get gnawed off by a rabid dog and then he gets impaled by a big rusty beam.

[MORGANH]

I think you all are wonderful people!  I love that we can come here and share what bothers and upsets us as well as our joys. That really is the most amazing part of this community. 

To those struggling with incessant donation requests, there really is just so much we can do. I truly feel that you don’t need to feel guilty about not donating , especially after it seems aggressive. I have to remind myself that these folks don’t know many of our personal situations.  Many of us could be strapped but aren’t posting it on social media. I know I don’t have the funds to donate either. We just literally can’t afford to donate. It just isn’t possible. The fact that you feel so conflicted just shows how kind you are and definitely not an asshole in my book!  If it’s one thing that I’ve learned is that we have to take care of ourselves first. I’m personally working on saying “no” especially when I feel like I’m being taken advantage of. I’ve seen many messages on Go Fund Me that say “I wish I could donate but I don’t have any money to give. I will be praying for you and thinking of you”.  Maybe I’m a softie but I think that’s a really nice thing to do. Then again I can’t say that it would ibe a post seen often by those that are going overboard and hounding for donations. It’s just not right. I do feel badly for their tragedies but sometimes I send a card instead.

I hope you all can feel well about your decisions to avoid, block, etc. Sometimes a FB vacation isn’t a bad thing.

(((Hugs)))

MrsO

[LilJen]

On ‎1‎/‎28‎/‎2018 at 6:14 AM, OneMoreStop said:

Any other non sleepers out there? This is nuts. I sleep for about 3 hours and then I am UP. Too bad everyone else in the house is sleeping or I could get shit done!

i eventually fall back to sleep a few hours later thanks to books and Netlixvand headphones but wake up late. Medications don’t really work. Starting to think I’m part vampire.

 

On ‎1‎/‎28‎/‎2018 at 8:18 AM, Catfin said:

Tired of waking up in a pool of sweat. Pretty sure the menopause fairy is visiting. 

 

On ‎1‎/‎28‎/‎2018 at 10:01 AM, Catfin said:

I'm overdue for my annual.  Will be calling Monday morning. 

Curious, has anyone done hormone replacement therapy? I've always had the mindset of "hell no" as my mom's breast cancer was linked to twenty years use of the meds.  Not certain why her doc had her on HRT twenty years and am pretty sure they should lose their license for that. 

 

On ‎1‎/‎28‎/‎2018 at 10:39 AM, Catfin said:

Thanks for the feedback. I had a hysterectomy ten years ago at 42 but kept my ovaries. Will have to see what my gyn thinks.  This female aging is for the birds. I can  also do without the chin hair. Argh. 

I see I have found a tribe of middle-aged women. Been fighting hot flashes and night sweats for going on 7 years now (I'll be 49 next month). Had a few mood swings and migraines early on but those haven't revisited me fortunately. And I'm one of the many who can't take hormones. Fun times.

15 hours ago, Rabbittron said:

 Well who’s the results from the MRI the tumor is wrapped around his brainstem they don’t know if it’s cancerous or not he’s in the OR right now we don’t know how long it’ll take and also I called his father and told him what is going on and all his father said was to me to bad so sad not my problem and you better have both boys ready at 6 o’clock so I can have my weekend with them And if I don’t have them ready at 6 o’clock he’s going to call the police on me and say I’m refusing to have him have his visitation weekend so it looks like depending on how long the operation is keep my mind off what he’s going through Hell I might be playing where is  Smuggar?

:( Praying he is OK.

[MORGANH]

@Rabbittron I apologize for missing your posts. Count me in as one that will join the army of friends hear willing to “remind” him of what an awful person he is. I am truly speechless by his actions and the suffering he is causing you.

I am sending much love to you and your son and his progress. 

No one messes with our children and gets away with it. No. One. ?

If you can and haven’t already, please try to keep any record you can of your ex’s poor behavior. 

((Hugs)))

[doodlebug]

I would like to set up a Go Fund Me to put out a hit on Rabbittron's ex.  Anyone care to donate?

As for giving random people cash on the internet, I donate to no Go Fund Me's for people I do not know or who are not vouched for by people I trust.  I am single, my house is paid for, I make a very nice income and have no major debt.  So what?  My money was earned the old fashioned way and I do not contribute unless I am fairly certain that the recipient will use it for a real need. I can write a check to people I actually know if I want to help someone out.  Or give it to a charity that I know is legit.

I run into patients all the time who tell me all about their recent Caribbean cruise, show me their latest designer purse and smoke a pack a day and then tell me they have no money to pay for ibuprofen.  I have pointed out on occasion that it is obvious that it is not so much that they cannot pay for it but they CHOOSE not to.  Two very different things.

[Absolom]

I seldom carry more than $2 cash in my wallet.  I began that when I was working and a co-worker's mother died in a foreign country. A collection was begun headed by our bosses to send her and if possible her family to the funeral.  Most of us gave quite generously.  Two weeks went by and she hadn't taken any leave.  I asked her about the funeral and she smiled and said they decided to use the money to go to Australia on vacation.  I have always been either "out of cash" or I'll give you what I have in my wallet ever since.  I do have a zipper pocket in my handbag with cash in it.  I have never and don't expect to ever contribute to a GoFundMe.  Just last Sunday I had someone try to grift both cash and my handicapped placard from me at a store parking lot.  Life has made me cynical.  ;)

[EVS]

52 minutes ago, doodlebug said:

I would like to set up a Go Fund Me to put out a hit on Rabbittron's ex.  Anyone care to donate?

As for giving random people cash on the internet, I donate to no Go Fund Me's for people I do not know or who are not vouched for by people I trust.  I am single, my house is paid for, I make a very nice income and have no major debt.  So what?  My money was earned the old fashioned way and I do not contribute unless I am fairly certain that the recipient will use it for a real need. I can write a check to people I actually know if I want to help someone out.  Or give it to a charity that I know is legit.

I run into patients all the time who tell me all about their recent Caribbean cruise, show me their latest designer purse and smoke a pack a day and then tell me they have no money to pay for ibuprofen.  I have pointed out on occasion that it is obvious that it is not so much that they cannot pay for it but they CHOOSE not to.  Two very different things.

I would gladly donate to a Go Fund Me that hired someone to take the biggest rod recommended by the Pearls and practice extensive rod training with it on Rabbittron’s ex. I would pay extra if the person made sure that the ex couldn’t father any more children.  Bastard doesn’t deserve them.

I’m a little worried that we haven’t heard how the surgery went. Hopefully, everything went ok and Rabbitron is just busy caring for her child.

Edited February 3, 2018 by EVS

[Rabbittron]

Hi friends:

I just got up surgery ended about 4:30 mt this morning.  It was not only twisted but also wrapped around it self. He is in a lot of pain of course it was also benign.  The only thing he is upset about is he will be missing school.  He is a kid who loves school. He wants me to go to school on Monday and get all his school work. He just had major surgery and all he cares about is missing school. 

[latetotheparty]

9 minutes ago, Rabbittron said:

Hi friends:

I just got up surgery ended about 4:30 mt this morning.  It was not only twisted but also wrapped around it self. He is in a lot of pain of course it was also benign.  The only thing he is upset about is he will be missing school.  He is a kid who loves school. He wants me to go to school on Monday and get all his school work. He just had major surgery and all he cares about is missing school. 

That’s one amazing, not to mention resilient, kid you’ve got there Rabbitron. Meanwhile, your ex can go walk in traffic. 

[EVS]

I’m glad he got through the surgery ok and the tumor was benign.  How long will he be in the hospital and how long will his recovery take?

[Lisa418722]

I'm glad he made it through the surgery.  Wow! The fact he is upset about missing school.  You have a great kid there.  What kind of recovery is he going to have to go through?

[Love2dance]

@Rabbittron, wonderful news. Hope your son will recover quickly, and get back to school soon, as he wishes. Maybe you can get some sleep now.

[MargeGunderson]

That’s fantastic news, @Rabbittron. I hope you can rest a bit easier tonight. Your son sounds very special.

[Jynnan tonnix]

Adding to the great big breaths of relief over the outcome of surgery & diagnosis!! Your son does, indeed, sound very special! And add my name to the hit list for your ex!

[Panopticon]

What a good kid! Hope he feels better soon, and you, too, Rabbittron.

Edited February 4, 2018 by Panopticon

[LilJen]

Breaths of relief from here, too.

[crazycatlady58]

So happy for you and your son Rabbittron. I hope he is back in school soon.

[DragonFaerie]

6 hours ago, Rabbittron said:

Hi friends:

I just got up surgery ended about 4:30 mt this morning.  It was not only twisted but also wrapped around it self. He is in a lot of pain of course it was also benign.  The only thing he is upset about is he will be missing school.  He is a kid who loves school. He wants me to go to school on Monday and get all his school work. He just had major surgery and all he cares about is missing school. 

So happy to hear it's benign.  One wonderful kid there - that comes out of surgery and doesn't want to miss school - WOW.  May you have a day of pizza and beer for yourself, in public, so when the ex-hubby has an ouchie, you have an alibi.  Go Momma!

[Rabbittron]

My son just asked me the funniest question he said to me did you find Smuggar last night?

[Rabbittron]

7 hours ago, EVS said:

I’m glad he got through the surgery ok and the tumor was benign.  How long will he be in the hospital and how long will his recovery take?

He should be in the hospital at least two weeks and recovery can take up to a year.