Jill, Derick & the Kids: Moving On!!

[lucy711]

I think Jill would be devastated by what Derrick wrote.  But if I were married to Derrick (heaven forbid!) I wouldn't be.  That's because I agree with him in a way.  I don't believe in the idea of "soulmates" and I think everyone settles to an extent.  I'm writing this as a happily married woman.  I dated my husband for five years, and we've been married for ten.  I am content in my marriage and don't want to be with anyone else.  But I think it would be a lie to say that I couldn't be equally happy with another man.  If he didn't attend the same college as I did and we never met, I believe I would have found someone else and most likely been married happily.  Overall my husband is a great guy, but he has some flaws that I "settled for" and ditto for me.  Call it unromantic (it is) but it is true and I don't think either of us has a problem being realistic about it.

The reason I don't believe in the idea of "the one" is that I have seen too many people in my family be widowed and find happiness in a second marriage.  My parents were married for 25 years.  They had a great marriage.  My mom died and my dad remarried.  He has another great marriage.  I suppose what I'm saying is that I find Derrick to be realistic and since I'm a grown woman I don't need my husband to pretend that I'm the moon and the stars.  I do feel bad for Jill because I think she would like that, but I know that I'm loved and appreciated. I don't need any cliched statements about romance to make me feel valued.

Edited March 21, 2019 by lucy711

[Oldernowiser]

2 hours ago, lucy711 said:

 I don't need any cliched statements about romance to make me feel valued.

But you actually are valued and words seem to be all Jill gets. 

Derrick doesn’t seem to give a rusty damn about anyone except in what benefit they provide to him. The idea of loving someone because of who they are doesn’t  seem to break through his colorful candy coating of total self-absorption.

Deeds, not words. They both throw around hashtags about how bestevah their spouse is, but has Derrick ever posted anything about Jill as a human being? Cooking him meals, raising his children, kissing his ego...yes. But how about I love it when she laughs? Or I love that she believes in me despite all evidence to the contrary?

This latest essay of “how great am I” fails to even provide Jill with the usual lip service.

 I feel bad for her, too.

[Ijustwantsomechips]

16 hours ago, yogi2014L said:

I'll add

Addicted to Social Media, lazy, entitled

- Signed also a 30 something Millenial 

And I’ll add:

-An insufferable know it all wjth answers to all the world’s problems

-Signed, a late 30s millennial raised as a Gen Xer

[toodles]

3 hours ago, lucy711 said:

I think Jill would be devastated by what Derrick wrote.  But if I were married to Derrick (heaven forbid!) I wouldn't be.  That's because I agree with him in a way.  I don't believe in the idea of "soulmates" and I think everyone settles to an extent.  I'm writing this as a happily married woman.  I dated my husband for five years, and we've been married for ten.  I am content in my marriage and don't want to be with anyone else.  But I think it would be a lie to say that I couldn't be equally happy with another man.  If he didn't attend the same college as I did and we never met, I believe I would have found someone else and most likely been married happily.  Overall my husband is a great guy, but he has some flaws that I "settled for" and ditto for me.  Call it unromantic (it is) but it is true and I don't think either of us has a problem being realistic about it.

The reason I don't believe in the idea of "the one" is that I have seen too many people in my family be widowed and find happiness in a second marriage.  My parents were married for 25 years.  They had a great marriage.  My mom died and my dad remarried.  He has another great marriage.  I suppose what I'm saying is that I find Derrick to be realistic and since I'm a grown woman I don't need my husband to pretend that I'm the moon and the stars.  I do feel bad for Jill because I think she would like that, but I know that I'm loved and appreciated. I don't need any cliched statements about romance to make me feel valued.

I like your post a thousand times.  I feel this way too.

[Oldernowiser]

Okay, so today I turned 61, so I thought I would write a couple of thousand words about how I am wonderful and brave and godly and an inspiration to so many.

Just kidding.

[Natalie68]

15 minutes ago, Oldernowiser said:

Okay, so today I turned 61, so I thought I would write a couple of thousand words about how I am wonderful and brave and godly and an inspiration to so many.

Just kidding.

Happy birthday!!!

[Suzn]

26 minutes ago, Oldernowiser said:

Okay, so today I turned 61, so I thought I would write a couple of thousand words about how I am wonderful and brave and godly and an inspiration to so many.

Just kidding.

You should write it - I am absolutely positive it would be more interesting than Derelict's offering. 😊

[tabloidlover]

Jill needs to dump Citrus and Lemon stat... from her IG story this morning, please note the horrible sandals and the shirt looks like a shirt my mom wore in the late 70’s

[JoanArc]

46 minutes ago, Ijustwantsomechips said:

And I’ll add:

-An insufferable know it all wjth answers to all the world’s problems

-Signed, a late 30s millennial raised as a Gen Xer

Don’t forget: Has never owned their own home.

edit: Code “NOTHANKSJILL” saves you 100% at Citrus and Lemon.

Edited March 21, 2019 by JoanArc

[BitterApple]

1 minute ago, tabloidlover said:

Jill needs to dump Citrus and Lemon stat... from her IG story this morning, please note the horrible sandals and the shirt looks like a shirt my mom wore in the late 70’s

Jill just can't seem to get it right. On the plus side, her hair is neatly braided and the clothes fit well. However, she can't stage a picture to save her life. The boys are distracting and she's squinting, which makes her expression look pinched and annoyed. Ffs, all she has to do is Google some famous influencers and copy what they do. It's not that hard.

[ginger90]

[PradaKitty]

That picture of Jill looks as though it was taken in 1975 with the ugly shirt and platform shoes. It also looks as though they live in Section 8 housing...

I was thinking earlier today that Jill’s life has become sooooo drab. She lives in a small, dark and dingy apartment, cooks drab, bland, beige food and just looks basically like Hell most of the time. Her life needs COLOR in all aspects. Can they paint the walls in their dingy home?  Can she incorporate color into her cream of puke meals? Can she look through some fashion magazines and see how clothes are supposed to fit? 

Guess not. 

[allonsyalice]

wait did she just discover platform shoes? why did she describe what it is?

[wilsie]

1 hour ago, Oldernowiser said:

Okay, so today I turned 61, so I thought I would write a couple of thousand words about how I am wonderful and brave and godly and an inspiration to so many.

Just kidding.

Happy Birthday!

[ginger90]

Happy birthday, @Oldernowiser !! 🎉 

[Ohiopirate02]

22 minutes ago, not you again said:

I wonder what Jana thinks of Dreck's epistle.  I believe the story has been God hasn't put "the right one" in her path, correct?  According to Dreck she simply needs to marry the next single man she sees and everything will be fine, because Jesus.

I was wondering the same thing.  One thing about being Catholic, being single is just as valid of a calling as marriage or religious life.  Because the fact is, there are not an equal number of men and women in the world for all of us to pair up.  Some of us are not going to meet a Mr./Ms. Right Now let alone a Mr/Ms. Right.  Dreck really does insult Jana with the idea that her life is incomplete because she is single.

[Barb23]

Does Derelict realize some people don't want to marry?

I wondered what Jana thought too. 

[Suzn]

Why oh why are they posed looking into the sun????  OMG the deep squint is just horrible.  Can't Jill even see what unattractive pictures those are?

[BradandJanet]

At least she found a shirt with some mustard stripes to match the famous mustard cardigan. 

[DangerousMinds]

1 hour ago, Ohiopirate02 said:

I was wondering the same thing.  One thing about being Catholic, being single is just as valid of a calling as marriage or religious life.  Because the fact is, there are not an equal number of men and women in the world for all of us to pair up.  Some of us are not going to meet a Mr./Ms. Right Now let alone a Mr/Ms. Right.  Dreck really does insult Jana with the idea that her life is incomplete because she is single.

And some men want men and some women want women. Or many other combinations!

[Ohiopirate02]

20 minutes ago, DangerousMinds said:

And some men want men and some women want women. Or many other combinations!

There is also that.  I was trying to appeal to Dreck's narrow mindset where being gay is a choice and not an innate part of who you are and show how messed up his whole screed truly is.  

[GeeGolly]

3 hours ago, Oldernowiser said:

Okay, so today I turned 61, so I thought I would write a couple of thousand words about how I am wonderful and brave and godly and an inspiration to so many.

Just kidding.

Happy Birthday to our good friend @Oldernowiser. She is a blessing and an example to us all. She contributes thoughtful and Godly posts and is a true example of a Proverbs 31 Woman. We can't wait to see what God has in store for you! 🙏🍰😉

[Oldernowiser]

21 minutes ago, GeeGolly said:

Happy Birthday to our good friend @Oldernowiser. She is a blessing and an example to us all. She contributes thoughtful and Godly posts and is a true example of a Proverbs 31 Woman. We can't wait to see what God has in store for you! 🙏🍰😉

🤣🤣🤣

Best part of my whole birthday except it made me spit water all over my iPad..

Thank you!!!!

[mythoughtis]

8 hours ago, lucy711 said:

I think Jill would be devastated by what Derrick wrote.  But if I were married to Derrick (heaven forbid!) I wouldn't be.  That's because I agree with him in a way.  I don't believe in the idea of "soulmates" and I think everyone settles to an extent.  I'm writing this as a happily married woman.  I dated my husband for five years, and we've been married for ten.  I am content in my marriage and don't want to be with anyone else.  But I think it would be a lie to say that I couldn't be equally happy with another man.  If he didn't attend the same college as I did and we never met, I believe I would have found someone else and most likely been married happily.  Overall my husband is a great guy, but he has some flaws that I "settled for" and ditto for me.  Call it unromantic (it is) but it is true and I don't think either of us has a problem being realistic about it.

The reason I don't believe in the idea of "the one" is that I have seen too many people in my family be widowed and find happiness in a second marriage.  My parents were married for 25 years.  They had a great marriage.  My mom died and my dad remarried.  He has another great marriage.  I suppose what I'm saying is that I find Derrick to be realistic and since I'm a grown woman I don't need my husband to pretend that I'm the moon and the stars.  I do feel bad for Jill because I think she would like that, but I know that I'm loved and appreciated. I don't need any cliched statements about romance to make me feel valued.

Yes. Absolutely.  Derrick could have said this and everyone would have understood his point.  Or he could have discussed their courting concept - because that’s not about romance, it’s about finding someone who fits into your life and your familys’ life.  

But instead  he throws up word salad that ends up insulting Jill unnecessarily and doesn’t even get his point across. 

[Jynnan tonnix]

Hey, Happy Birthday, @Oldernowiser!! Hope it's been a great day!

[Oldernowiser]

2 hours ago, BradandJanet said:

At least she found a shirt with some mustard stripes to match the famous mustard cardigan. 

As I am excusing myself from all respectable behavior today, I will point out that that awful shirt:

1) hits her in the broadest part of her hips and makes them look huge;

2) somehow makes her shoulders look weirdly narrow;

3) has those old-lady sleeves that cover up the batwings but are otherwise completely unflattering (and note that I am an old lady and wouldn’t wear this on a drunken bet).

Ahhh. I feel better.

[BigBingerBro]

If I were Citrus and Potpourri (or whatever it is) I'd be majorly pissed off over those photos.  Dear Lord, couldn't they find a shady place to stand???    And what is that saying about wearing horizontal stripes??????

[jcbrown]

1 hour ago, BigBingerBro said:

If I were Citrus and Potpourri (or whatever it is) I'd be majorly pissed off over those photos.  Dear Lord, couldn't they find a shady place to stand???    And what is that saying about wearing horizontal stripes??????

Dreck looks like a serial killer in the pic he is in with her. Squinting, and the shadows around his eyes have shadows. Incompetent as usual, Jilly Muffin. I almost feel sorry for her.

[Zella]

Happy birthday, @Oldernowiser! 😄 

[awaken]

Derick looks like a demonic ghoul in this picture!  Scary!!

i can’t believe they’re squinting that hard in every photo!  

[awaken]

On 3/20/2019 at 2:30 PM, ginger90 said:

If you aren’t married, don’t wait for a perfect person because you’ll just die single.

I’m confused by what he’s saying here. That single people should just go ahead and marry so they don’t die alone?! What happened to waiting patiently for the one god has in store for you?

[JoanArc]

7 minutes ago, awaken said:

I’m confused by what he’s saying here. That single people should just go ahead and marry so they don’t die alone?! What happened to waiting patiently for the one god has in store for you?

No masturbating while you’re waiting, is what!

[Portia]

5 hours ago, GeeGolly said:

Happy Birthday to our good friend @Oldernowiser. She is a blessing and an example to us all. She contributes thoughtful and Godly posts and is a true example of a Proverbs 31 Woman. We can't wait to see what God has in store for you! 🙏🍰😉

.No mention of @OLDERNOWISER 's Servant's Heart? 

[latetotheparty]

5 hours ago, GeeGolly said:

Happy Birthday to our good friend @Oldernowiser. She is a blessing and an example to us all. She contributes thoughtful and Godly posts and is a true example of a Proverbs 31 Woman. We can't wait to see what God has in store for you! 🙏🍰😉

You mean our sweet friend. 

[Temperance]

If you google  Duggar birthday message generator, this exists. 

[Sew Sumi]

I've seen some of the generated messages. Hilariously fundiesque.

[3 is enough]

Happy Birthday Oldernowiser! I hope you had a fantastic day! 🙂

[Christina87]

I was thinking Jill's shirt looks just like something my grandmother would have worn in the 90's. It is just not flattering! She would be better off modeling for 3130, because at least some of their clothes are cute. And I agree with the poster that said Derick looks like a serial killer. The pictures look way worse than her usual, which is not good if you're advertising something. 

[farmgal4]

9 hours ago, PradaKitty said:

That picture of Jill looks as though it was taken in 1975 with the ugly shirt and platform shoes. It also looks as though they live in Section 8 housing...

I was thinking earlier today that Jill’s life has become sooooo drab. She lives in a small, dark and dingy apartment, cooks drab, bland, beige food and just looks basically like Hell most of the time. Her life needs COLOR in all aspects. Can they paint the walls in their dingy home?  Can she incorporate color into her cream of puke meals? Can she look through some fashion magazines and see how clothes are supposed to fit? 

Guess not. 

I seriously think they do live in Section 8 housing.

[awaken]

1 hour ago, JoanArc said:

No masturbating while you’re waiting, is what!

Oooooh, ok, now I get it!  😁

57 minutes ago, Portia said:

.No mention of @OLDERNOWISER 's Servant's Heart? 

She really is in such a precious season of life!  💕

[3 is enough]

On 3/20/2019 at 1:03 PM, Zella said:

Lordy, I guess turning 30 has made him a philosopher. I turn 30 later this year. Maybe I'll subject you all to my wisdom in a lengthy humble-brag blog post to celebrate. 

Geez, I am turning 60 later this year, and I have never felt the need to share my "wisdom" about life.  He is going to be exponentially more annoying as an old man, if that is possible.

[louannems]

4 hours ago, BigBingerBro said:

If I were Citrus and Potpourri (or whatever it is) I'd be majorly pissed off over those photos.  Dear Lord, couldn't they find a shady place to stand???    And what is that saying about wearing horizontal stripes??????

Derrick's squinting looks horrific!  Like a nightmare!  What was Jill thinking?

Jill's striped shirts remind me of the striped, cotton shirts I dressed my three year old son in decades ago!

[3 is enough]

3 minutes ago, louannems said:

Jill's striped shirts remind me of the striped, cotton shirts I dressed my three year old son in decades ago!

My brother always called them Ernie and Bert shirts.  He hated them as a kid and even as an adult he refused to buy horizontally striped shirts for his son. 😄

[Christina87]

16 minutes ago, louannems said:

Derrick's squinting looks horrific!  Like a nightmare!  What was Jill thinking?

Jill's striped shirts remind me of the striped, cotton shirts I dressed my three year old son in decades ago!

I know exactly what you mean! My dad and his brother had to wear those shirts, and we have so many pictures of them wearing them on vacation!

[Oldernowiser]

You are all such a precious blessing to me!

Today for my birthday we dumped off our non-existent children at somebody’s house (not entirely sure whose) and we date-nighted by sitting on the same side of the table and simultaneously holding hands and eating a beige food-like substance. We then purposed to share a straw to consume 647 grams of sugar in a free brown semi-solid dessert beverage-like substance. Yay!!! #bestbirthdayevah #soblessed #randommeaninglesshashtag

(In reality I turned down Mr. Wiser’s offer of a dinner out and instead we spent the day at a nursery loading up on new plants. And you all made me laugh and it was a lovely day. Thanks!)

[ChiCricket]

 

Happy Birthday, @Oldernowiser! and to keep it somewhat on topic, here's a Duggar gif for ya. 😂

[ChiCricket]

1 hour ago, 3 is enough said:

Geez, I am turning 60 later this year, and I have never felt the need to share my "wisdom" about life.  He is going to be exponentially more annoying as an old man, if that is possible.

Whenever people complain about a "crabby old person", I tell them they were probably  just as crabby when they were younger.

It's just as you get older, you let your crabiness fly free.

Now get off my lawn!

[Love2dance]

Hope you had the happiest of birthdays, @Oldernowiser. You didn’t mention it, but hoping after your “date night” you got to enjoy a yummy drippy Sunday. 🍨

[graefin]

16 hours ago, ginger90 said:

Jill and Derick both look like Black-Eyed Kids. (Warning: Do not let them into your car!)

(For those of you unfamiliar with the reference, here ya go: http://anomalyinfo.com/Stories/1996-ca-brian-bethels-odd-encounter. And for those wanting to read the original story written by Brian Bethel, go here: https://www.pararational.com/brian-bethel-the-black-eyed-kids/.)

Edited March 22, 2019 by graefin

[Madtown]

Can I ask why the fuck I had a dream about Derick last night? I've never had a Duggar dream and the first time I do, it's with this asshole. He was a chef apparently and was cooking breakfast for a bunch of people at some big hall of sorts. If you didn't compliment on how good it was, he would choke you to near death. I actually had to pull his hands off someone as they were turning purple. Jilly just stood there and watched as if it were a normal thing and ok to do. So then I figured this was a something he did all the time at home. Also, Spurgeon was their kid.

Edited March 22, 2019 by Madtown