S03.E11: Secret, Secret, I've Got a Secret

[Baltimore Betty]

8 minutes ago, poeticlicensed said:

When someone studying to be a doctor or dentist finishes medical or dental school, even before they are licensed and practicing, they are indeed a doctor or dentist, even while still in school. 

My thought was that he was a GP dentist but was also studying to be a Periodontist or some other specialist.

[magemaud]

3 hours ago, alegtostandon said:

What confused me was when Mom said $10,000.00, he said "I'm just a student"...I thought he was a dentist? 

I think Omar has finished his basic dentistry education but said he was receiving additional training to specialize in periodontistry. 

Baltimore Betty, you beat me to it 

[ALittleShelfish]

2 hours ago, DiamondGirl said:

It showed an area code of 845 (outside NYC).  What airline or travel site does not have a toll free number?  

I wonder if he was actually on the phone with a TLC production assistant playing the role of "Airline Representative".  I didn't check the credits.  

[HaaCHOO]

22 minutes ago, Jeanne222 said:

I don't see how Akini's family can be so picky.  Did we  not see the country and home her parents are locked into.  The ally ways and street people.  Scared me.

I would think they would see him as a blessing.  Who in the heck are they to judge???

And if the various "rules" she gave that were to be followed immediately upon entering the room, perhaps a quick reminder before they open the door would be a courtesy.  Courtesy?  Who ever heard of such a thing?  She's a Nigerian princess.

[Cementhead]

8 hours ago, renatae said:

Yes'm. How do you sprain your ankle during romantic activities? Did she chain him to the bed and throw him off? Drag him by the ankle and force him to participate? Dangle him from the ceiling fan? Inquiring minds really are afraid to find out. 😱

Maybe he was climbing her by her clip-on braid and fell?  Because plastic is slippery. 

[HaaCHOO]

2 hours ago, Laurie4H said:

I don’t think Tim is attractive but I don’t think he is ugly.  His face is decent and he seems like a cool guy to be friends with.  There was no reason to tell Jeniffer that his ex texted him.  That whole thing seemed staged.  

STAGED!  I agree.  After Jennifer threw that drink in his face, I rewound and watched again.  It looked like a cup of milk...and even when she supposedly put it to her lips to take a drink, she might have taken a drop--leaving the cup filled to the brim.  FOR STAGED THROWING!   Also, the table of four we could see in the scene didn't even blink.  Was Tim's hair so wet because they had tried that scene a couple of times before they got it right?

[magemaud]

2 hours ago, Baltimore Betty said:

Tim's female friends...I am giving the side eye to, maybe it's just me but they seemed a tad trans and that one with the lipstick? WTF? Total drag queen make up.

“Daisy” was a head taller than Tom! 

[HaaCHOO]

1 hour ago, Gobi said:

Darcey's pants came with a built-in catheter.

And a slew of antibiotics patches.

[KateHearts]

I cannot imagine an evening out in Darcy's rubber sadist outfit. And did you catch the comment as she squeaked her way into it? "Sounds like sex!" This woman equates sex with love. If he sleeps with you, it's automatically meaningful. That's why she is so "relieved" she and Tom slept together, even though she sprained his ankle. To her, that's "connection," "spark," and soon-to-be proposal. 

I can appreciate Tim's being respectful of Jeniffer and not attempting sex the first night; however he seems actually scared of her- watch how he avoids eye contact and keeps a distance. And who cares about the old girlfriend? If it's over, it doesn't matter. Most people over the age of 25 have some sort of romantic past.

Angela has a serious, serious anger and control problem. She goes from "it's true love!" (eyes batting) to whipping out her pointer finger at Michael in the car and barking "DON'T SAY YOU'RE SORRY!" in a hot minute. The guy is so star-struck on America that he is willing to completely turn the other cheek- time and time again. And the shoving? She'd better mean it when she says she's leaving and they are over. She is probably saving his life by walking away. Her desire to control everything about him is pathological. He can't celebrate his birthday on that day when she is 3000 miles away? He can't take a picture if a female is in the frame? He can't spend the money SHE GIVES HIM WILLINGLY unless she approves? And yet, she insists that he isn't trustworthy, he hasn't "proven" himself worth her attention? Imagine when he comes back to Georgia with her. She'll dangle her Southern "kindness" in front of him every chance she gets.   "SCRUB THE FLOOR! DON'T FORGET WHO BROUGHT YOU HERE AND BOUGHT YOU TRUMP BOXERS!!!!" 

Edited September 9, 2019 by KateHearts

[magemaud]

1 hour ago, Bryce Lynch said:

Tiny Tim specializes in customizing revolvers and 1911 pistols in a lot of rather artistic ways.  So, he might have the least manly gun shop in America

Lady Guns to be carried in your blinged out “Lord’s Prayer” concealed carry handbag. 

[humbleopinion]

58 minutes ago, magemaud said:

Carb loading...

WTF is that janky tattoo?

A puma with teeth and a bowling ball with Jen's Joker face in the dark ball part accentuating her weird mouth crease and sharp chinny chin chin...fugly

Edited September 9, 2019 by humbleopinion

[magemaud]

2 hours ago, kacesq said:

Did we hear whatever it was that Fidel said to Akinyi that sent her running out of the house crying?  Inquiring minds want to know...

No, we’re supposed to wonder about what Ben did wrong (besides meeting the family empty handed and not introducing himself) and what Fidel said to keep us on the edge of our seats until next week 

[heatherchandler]

22 minutes ago, iwasish said:

Attempted a hobbling?

Edited September 9, 2019 by heatherchandler
For the squemish - remember it is just a rubber foot for the movie!

[magemaud]

Poor Mah-Kuhl.  He’s not allowed to work and he’s not allowed to hang out with his friends or be anywhere that he might encounter “wimmen.” So what DOES he do all day when Ange is thousands of miles away? 

[Baltimore Betty]

2 minutes ago, magemaud said:

No, we’re supposed to wonder about what Ben did wrong (besides meeting the family empty handed

As long as we are on the subject, did Rebecca the Tatooed Girl bring anything to the Family Zied?  

That scene with Tim and his espicy Latina in her grandparents kitchen when Jeniffffer is plating up the food...Tim barking, "Are you done yet?" was not a good look for him. 

Those plates looked like rice and French fries. When Timmy was carrying the bag I saw something red thru the plastic bag and I thought it was blood from a freshly killed chicken! See what this show does to me, I only imagine the worst when it comes to the food being served on this show!

5 minutes ago, magemaud said:

Poor Mah-Kuhl.  He’s not allowed to work and he’s not allowed to hang out with his friends or be anywhere that he might encounter “wimmen.” So what DOES he do all day when Ange is thousands of miles away? 

I guess it puts the lotion on.

[Toaster Strudel]

14 hours ago, TrininisaScorp said:

Omar tryna get tf outta Syria makes sense, but with this child?!

Mohamed got out of Tunisia with Danielle.

They take the first fool willing to go through with it. Beggars can't be choosers.

[Bryce Lynch]

10 minutes ago, magemaud said:

Lady Guns to be carried in your blinged out “Lord’s Prayer” concealed carry handbag. 

They aren't really "lady guns".  More like really fancy man guns, I think.  

Funny, you mention the Lord's Prayer.  He makes 1911 grips with a gold plated image of  the Virgin Mary Lady of Guadalupe.  

https://www.gringoguns.com/product/1911-metal-nickel-24k-gold-virgin-mary-lady-of-guadalupe/

His guns make me think of General George S. Patton's famous response when a reporter asked him about his "pearl handled" revolver:

“Son, only a pimp in a Louisiana whore house carries pearl-handled revolvers. These are ivory.”

The funniest thing, is his company is called Gringo Custom Guns.  If he named the store after what South Americans call him, maybe he should change it to Pussy Custom Guns. 

[libgirl2]

1 minute ago, Toaster Strudel said:

Mohamed got out of Tunisia with Danielle.

They take the first fool willing to go through with it. Beggars can't be choosers.

Avery and Danielle are very different women. If I were a guy, I would much rather have the hot young girl than that old and sad woman. 

[Toaster Strudel]

Just now, libgirl2 said:

Avery and Danielle are very different women. If I were a guy, I would much rather have the hot young girl than that old and sad woman. 

It's the luck of the draw. It's only temporary, after all.

[A-Lo]

13 hours ago, mamadrama said:

Comments from my 8yo daughter during viewing:

Darcey: OMG, Mommy, why does that lady not have a waist?! And why are her boobs bigger than my head? Did she buy some toddlers from the Dark Web and just shove them up there for the evening? 

(She watches a lot of You Tube and thinks the "Dark Web" is a box store where one can just pick up stuff, like Target.)

Tim: Well,he seems like a nice enough guy but did something weird happen to his head when he was being born? 

Ben: He should just get the heck out of there and go to a motel. Don't even get his luggage, just buy it all new when he gets back home. If he does't leave then someone might sell HIM to the Dark Web.

Avery: Why is she wearing a Halloween costume in summer?

**upon explaining the scarf to her**

Avery: She changed religions and met someone and decided to marry him in only six months? That's not even long enough for the goat's poop in our compost pile to break down. 

Caesar: I guess supper tonight will be those candy panties since he doesn't have money to buy anything else. 

Rebecca: Do you go through all the stuff in my room like that Mommy's doing for her kid?

Angela: Why's that old lady yelling and cussing at that nice cab driver that's taking her to the boat?

In essence, just as confused as the rest of us and we actually know what's going on...

I am laughing so hard at all of her comments, especially about the candy panties being Caesar's supper!  I would love to watch the show with her!  You've got a burgeoning comedian on your hands.

34 minutes ago, Baltimore Betty said:

My thought was that he was a GP dentist but was also studying to be a Periodontist or some other specialist.

My twins are new dentists and weren't considered "doctors" until they'd completed all of their schooling and passed their board exams.

[Cementhead]

18 minutes ago, magemaud said:

Poor Mah-Kuhl.  He’s not allowed to work and he’s not allowed to hang out with his friends or be anywhere that he might encounter “wimmen.” So what DOES he do all day when Ange is thousands of miles away? 

Edited September 9, 2019 by Cementhead

[humbleopinion]

Agreed, Rebecca should have brought flowers, sweets, a vase to replace the one she will mow over with her rollie bag instead of a "deflowered" Zeid....

 Benji should have taken the initiative to learn the formal greeting in Akinky's mother's language, he should have never passed her or any family member by and never turn his back  to sit before greeting each person in the room waiting for him...

Benji is just the epitome of the stupid American...not taking the time to learn anything about Akinky's culture...much less the courting culture...who doesn't know about dowries?

Benj can't afford a K1 visa...he is a hot mess in a dumpster fire....

 If you don't know your way around a whole cooked fish then we can't be friends....

Edited September 9, 2019 by humbleopinion

[magemaud]

8 minutes ago, Baltimore Betty said:

As long as we are on the subject, did Rebecca the Tatooed Girl bring anything to the Family Zied?

I don’t remember anything in her hands except her wheeled suitcase. (Or was Z pulling that?) She did bring HIM gifts as she unpacked at the hotel. 

While we’re still on the subject of “hostess gifts,” Tim appeared to be empty handed meeting the grandparents, too, although he brought lots of stuff for Jeniffer and Violet. 

[charmed1]

3 hours ago, NoWhammies said:

I can't imagine being part of the housekeeping staff coming into Big Ang's room the morning after. It probably smells like cigarettes, muskox, wild boar, and lube.

Watching her makes me very uncomfortable. She is so abusive to Michael that it's hard to watch. Some suggest she's acting; maybe. But OMG I would not "act" like that and have people think it was really me. She's one of the most horrible people that has ever been on this show.

Oh that wooden teeth, drunk trash bag isn’t acting. She was arrested just last year, refused a breathalyzer, and then told the cop that he used to date her daughter. I don’t know if that’s the prospective egg toter or the pedophile, or some other daughter. She was driving like 25-30 miles over the speed limit DRUNK. She could’ve killed someone. Bitch is vile.

Edited September 9, 2019 by charmed1

[Cammi]

In reference to private investigator Rebecca: I'm approaching 40. If ever I am snooping through my boyfriend's "room" at his parents house (while he is still living AT HOME), just shoot me in the head. Straight up embarrassing as HELL. 

[magemaud]

20 minutes ago, Bryce Lynch said:

They aren't really "lady guns".  More like really fancy man guns, I think.  

Like Yancy Derringer would carry? 

[humbleopinion]

Attention potential suitors going overseas to meet their online soulmates...and of course your love bucket is to help you pick what is appropriate for her family member...

Bring bouquets of flowers, scarves, perfumed lotions to the older female family members...a big hit is vitamins manufactured in the US...think Costco sized bottles of Multivitamins...

Bring Special local sweets or special fruit, high class booze, or fancy cigarettes to the male  heads of family...

Bring name brand stuff like  Nike caps, NBA t shirts for boys, cute purses, makeup for the female teens...or cash is good....

 You must bring gifts...it shows a thoughtfulness and a thanks in advance for their hospitality...you want them to like you and  bribes are always welcome....

Never go empty handed...it is rude...Ben is blowing his chances with Akinky by stiffing the brother but especially the mother....that is unforgivable....

Edited September 9, 2019 by humbleopinion

[SadeO]

15 hours ago, Adeejay said:

I would hate to think what would happen to Benjamin if he wasn't travelling with a camera crew. 

What do you think would happen to him? 

Unfortunately I couldn't catch it on TV, and saw some clips on Youtube and of course uncultured trash in the comments think that Akyni and her family want the geeks money or expected him to bring gifts....typical racial stereotypes.

When you go across the world to meet your girlfriends family and stay in their home, your ass should be bringing a gift, even if it's flowers, some food etc....as a thank you for your hospitality, nice to meet you gift.

You can tell some people have never been anywhere or know anyone from outside of their country. Its basic manners.

The racist just jumps out of people when they see a Black woman on TV. I'm personally mad that Akyni is stuck with a man that eats twinkies. She's a whole fool. Also acting like shes never seen a white person before...lmao...

Edited September 9, 2019 by SadeO

[Frozendiva]

32 minutes ago, magemaud said:

Poor Mah-Kuhl.  He’s not allowed to work and he’s not allowed to hang out with his friends or be anywhere that he might encounter “wimmen.” So what DOES he do all day when Ange is thousands of miles away? 

Turns off his phone.

[humbleopinion]

If the cameras weren't with Ben...he would be sitting by himself at his AirBnB because Akinky would not be allowed to see him in person....she would be under lock and key in her room at her mother's house with her Dad sitting outside the metal double doors sharpening his machetes.....

 No host/hostess expects gifts but it shows that you were raised by a family that taught you good manners and that bearing gifts is the most polite way to show thanks when being invited into a person's home...

Edited September 9, 2019 by humbleopinion

[magemaud]

Now I’m getting targeted ads here for dental services 

[humbleopinion]

Is Omar the dentist in the ad?

[Cementhead]

46 minutes ago, magemaud said:

Poor Mah-Kuhl.  He’s not allowed to work and he’s not allowed to hang out with his friends or be anywhere that he might encounter “wimmen.” So what DOES he do all day when Ange is thousands of miles away? 

Drink gallons of Gatorade to replenish his electrolytes from her last visit?  And protein shakes to prepare for the next?  🤢

[SadeO]

It should just be accepted now that Darcey desperately wants to be on TV. Her acting isn't even believable at this point. Always talking about marriage and the crying is off putting. I dont want to see her on any of the next seasons or spin-offs. 

[Laurie4H]

1 hour ago, KateHearts said:

I cannot imagine an evening out in Darcy's rubber sadist outfit. And did you catch the comment as she squeaked her way into it? "Sounds like sex!" This woman equates sex with love. If he sleeps with you, it's automatically meaningful. That's why she is so "relieved" she and Tom slept together, even though she sprained his ankle. To her, that's "connection," "spark," and soon-to-be proposal. 

I have a few friends like this in their 40’s that are that way about sex/love.  They don’t know how to date.  They meet someone online and talk about sex the first text or phone call and are aggressive on the first date.  Sometimes you have to take it slow, play hard to get....have a little mystery, and garner some respect.    Some of the men they got with made me sick...ugh I would get more grossed out then turned on.  Not the looks only but just their expression and the texts they sent.  

Edited September 9, 2019 by Laurie4H

[Booger666]

I wondered if Akinyi was mad bc when they were leaving Fidel was talking to Ben like he is a toddler about how to say goodbye nicely to your host. 

[Lady Iris]

24 minutes ago, humbleopinion said:

Attention potential suitors going overseas to meet their online soulmates...and of course your love bucket is to help you pick what is appropriate for her family member...

Bring bouquets of flowers, scarves, perfumed lotions to the older female family members...a big hit is vitamins manufactured in the US...think Costco sized bottles of Multivitamins...

Bring Special local sweets or special fruit, high class booze, or fancy cigarettes to the male  heads of family...

Bring name brand stuff like  Nike caps, NBA t shirts for boys, cute purses, makeup for the female teens...or cash is good....

 You must bring gifts...it shows a thoughtfulness and a thanks in advance for their hospitality...you want them to like you and  bribes are always welcome....

Never go empty handed...it is rude...Ben is blowing his chances with Akinky by stiffing the brother but especially the mother....that is unforgivable....

All this makes perfect beautiful sense and not just for traveling out of the country either. However, I suspect these Americans (myself being one), presume that dragging their ass to these places is present enough *insert mighty eyeroll*.

[Gobi]

11 minutes ago, magemaud said:

Now I’m getting targeted ads here for dental services 

Chocolate panties are bad for your teeth.

[humbleopinion]

 Fidel was probably telling her that she brought a nightmare suitor to her parents that will certainly bring shame and embarrassment to the family's reputation.

She did a very poor job choosing...was this the best she could do...almost any other American was certainly better...

[cinsays]

2 hours ago, Drogo said:

Ah yes, this is where we've seen Tom's ex before: 

Ha...…...I think you are right - looks just like her, only a bit more natural makeup!

[humbleopinion]

You bring money and buy local flowers, fruits, food, cigarettes, booze...

Production could have given Benji a heads up but probably kept Ben in the dark because more drama and stupid behavior makes better teevee.

 Akinky should have insisted he bring extra money for gifts and he may have gotten the hint to bring one for her, too...

[Haute Messe]

15 hours ago, Frozendiva said:

Darcey, please stop being so desperate and let things run their course. Stop rushing - getting some dude in to your bed, always mentioning marriage. You will drive him away. Getting in to that evening outfit was painful. No nice comfortable cocktail dress and a simple pair of pumps? Tom's friends were certainly unique. Ab Fab meets 90 Day meets Little Shop of Horrors. Of course they don't like the blinged out brash American.

Love this!

14 hours ago, Scorpiosunshine said:

Confession: I don't mind Dumpling Tom. Yeah, he catfished a bit, but to me he's just a regular guy.  He could use a little tweaking, but I'd take him over Darcy or even Jesse. Right now I'm just trying to get to know him, but I can say I'm all in and am just waiting for him to let me know where we stand. 💍👰 

For Darcy, everything is an act, a show, an affectation. It's laughable and it's sad. There isn't a single moment when she's not putting on. From her selfie-videos on the plane where she's pouting, whispering, fluttering, and demurely looking into and away from the camera, to the way she dresses, all the way to her voice.

She puts on a (badly-done) phone sex voice, but then goes full "Throw Mama From Tne Train" when she speaks normally and forgets to be breathy. (See her "You never loved me/LIAR!" moment with Jesse.) 

Honestly, I am having a hard time believing most of this story. She has to be putting us on with all this desperation and proposal crap. And I don't really believe that they "sealed the deal" as Darcey so eloquently put it. It's just too over the top and is too frightening to think that people like this genuinely exist, and that Tom has not jumped out of the nearest window, sprained ankle and all. Come to think of it, maybe he injured it trying to make a get-away.

14 hours ago, Honey said:

Probably what happened to Caesar regarding the airline ticket is that the initial transaction went through just fine.  Then it got bumped to the fraud division at the bank because it was a ticket purchased from the US for a ticket from the Ukraine to Cancun.  The bank reversed the charge on Caesar's behalf, and the reservation was then cancelled by the airline.

That makes more sense than anything, IF any of this story is real, which I doubt.

[cinsays]

17 minutes ago, SadeO said:

It should just be accepted now that Darcey desperately wants to be on TV. Her acting isn't even believable at this point. Always talking about marriage and the crying is off putting. I dont want to see her on any of the next seasons or spin-offs. 

well, we've the got the family Chantal, so guess Darcey could get lucky too

[hookedontv]

1 hour ago, libgirl2 said:

Me too. Wow, nothing hotter than a napkin swan. Seeing one of those just makes your clothes fall right off. 

Darcey would swoon at such a gesture. She would comment "Tom, we should have swans at our wedding!" Darcey would want her clothes to fall off, and then the realization hits her that she can't undress herself out of her tight clothes..... She needs Tom's help..... Tom accidentally gets hit in the face with a spatula that is being used to get her un-stuck from the clothes. Chaos ensues.

The next morning:

Darcey: "Last night was magical, I can't wait until we get married." 

Tom: "Take me to hospital, I think my nose is broken. Again." 

[Cementhead]

1 minute ago, cinsays said:

well, we've the got the family Chantal, so guess Darcey could get lucky too

Yep.  Things can always get more stupider.  Especially on TLC.

[poeticlicensed]

13 minutes ago, humbleopinion said:

You bring money and buy local flowers, fruits, food, cigarettes, booze...

Production could have given Benji a heads up but probably kept Ben in the dark because more drama and stupid behavior makes better teevee.

 Akinky should have insisted he bring extra money for gifts and he may have gotten the hint to bring one for her, too...

If production coached all the 90Day doofuses, then we would have nothing to watch.

If Akyni thought he should have brought gifts, lordy she certainly had ample opportunity to tell him. I mean, what do they all talk about in these online relationships? You would think when someone actually says they are coming over, you tell that person what the cultural expectations are or at the very least, advise the person to google it.  I'm not blaming Akyni, she probably figured everyone knows what is expected, but she has been communicating with Benjamin for months, she should have figured out his limitations, lol. As they all should have. Ignorance and stupidity run deep in this set of 90Dayers. 

Edited September 9, 2019 by poeticlicensed

[nutella fitzgerald]

5 hours ago, libgirl2 said:

He also ordered treats for the room. 

How far we’ve come from “chocolate for the family”.

[HaaCHOO]

26 minutes ago, Cementhead said:

Yep.  Things can always get more stupider.  Especially on TLC.

TLC has been paying Darcey BUCKETLOADS...they might as well continue to try to get their money's worth.

[HaaCHOO]

1 hour ago, SadeO said:

My goodness. You should be embarrassed. 

Thank you...I am!

[humbleopinion]

Why did Cesare spend money he didn't have on that Keebler cookie tower with salmonella dipped strawberries when he already had the chocolate panties?

No wonder "Maria" was able to fleece 40K from this local actor wannabe....

Poor Fidel trying to shape Bennie up to meet Papa Akinky....no amount of lipstick on this pig is going to buff Beni up to be Prince Charming....

Realistically, no way Benni can afford the K1 visa 10K price tag...unless TLC drags it out over a couple of years like Karrine and Paul and TLC foots the bill....