None of them would ever think of going to a family counsellor for a few sessions to work all this out.
No, you do not have to like or love your inlaws or your family. They are working on their own crap/ However, to make this work they need to have some non toxic lines of communication. Otherwise, go to a costume shop or hair shop and buy a few cheap wigs to throw around.
Do wonder if after her arrests, Larissa spoke to anyone who spoke Portuguese. She is in a difficult place with no support. The police can see through a lot of nonsense. Not everyone who brings in a K1 visa spouse is an exemplary person - some are abusive and hold them as hostages of sorts. Colt and Debbie should have been spoken to about this - and separately.