Jessa, Ben and Their Brood: Making a (Diaper) Mountain out of a Mold House

[DangerousMinds]

On 11/13/2019 at 8:09 PM, Fallacy said:

Ivy is adorable just like her brothers, and I do believe Blessa love their kids.

However, Ben would bore me to tears as a husband, so I don’t know what Jessa ever saw in him. He seems more than a little dumb, and Jessa is not. I know many feel sympathy for Ben because he let his lust for a hot girl trap him in an early marriage and a growing family, but I feel more sympathy for Jessa who has to deal with his mumbling. I’ve yet to see Ben speak with any conviction, clarity, or passion. He just mumbles some nonsense. I guess Jessa wanted a man she could control, and she sure got her wish. The downside is that Ben rarely seems to care about anything. He just takes up space and brings home a bit of money. What else does he do? He can’t even build a deck off their bedroom. Jessa has to call in her brothers for that.

I know we joke about all the toilets Ben cleans because of that one episode in which we saw him clean one toilet for JimBob. But, maybe Ben only does janitor work because he lacks the brain power to do much else. My only sympathy for Ben is that he has JimBob for a father in law.

Eh, I think Jessa is incredibly boring, too. She has never shown interest in anything outside her bubble. Even Jill had “midwifery “ and Jinger had photography. Bin at least shows interest in school and music. I don’t think Jessa is particularly smart, either.

Edited November 15, 2019 by DangerousMinds

[Sew Sumi]

Jessa had her hair and makeup. Now, she's let those go, too.

[GeeGolly]

IMO, if Jessa thought viewers and TLC would find her more interesting with snot-nosed kids wearing ill fitting clothing, that's exactly what we'd see.

I think Jessa has the worst combination of her parents' traits. To me she appears lazy, arrogant, self-righteous and calculating. Jessa shows viewers what she thinks will keep her on TLC - full stop.

[Madtown]

Because Saturday is different from any other day, how?

[galaxychaser]

On 11/13/2019 at 7:08 PM, Sew Sumi said:

That's nice, Ben. I guess it's nice to feel appreciated after a day of scrubbing toilets for your FIL.

5) to smell the diaper mountain! Mmm yum

[awaken]

6 hours ago, Madtown said:

Because Saturday is different from any other day, how?

My thoughts exactly when I saw her post!  Just like every other day!

[madpsych78]

That's Henry on the right? He looks the same size as Spurgie! (I get he's closer to the camera)

[Churchhoney]

On 11/14/2019 at 9:24 AM, madpsych78 said:

If you notice in the latest Counting On episode, Ben was the only son-in-law who decided to attend the camping trip. Of course Derick is off the show and Jeremy's in LA, but what's Austin (and Joy's) excuse? I would think they would have loved the events. 

Methinks the other SILs have taken "leave and cleave" to heart but not Ben as much.

We don't know what Bin does for a living, but it seems pretty clear he hasn't yet got that pastoral thing that he seemed to really want at one time.

Meanwhile, though, Austin has a career he's developed over a fair amount of time and that looks to be something that more or less engages him. And Der and Jer are in school and can at least believe for now that they're on the way to something they feel is significant and suits their interests. 

I wonder whether Bin has just been unable to get into any kind of real groove with his working life, may feel a little down or even empty over that, and has opted to center his interests on his family and move forward that way -- since it's what he has and since he clearly does love and like his kids.

Seems like maybe that's what Mike Seewald did in his life, too? So it came naturally to Bin? .... And married to Jessa, you'd then spend a lot of time in the middle of the larger Duggar clan -- since she seems more of a TTH denizen than any of the other married daughters? 

Edited November 17, 2019 by Churchhoney

[Churchhoney]

On 11/14/2019 at 11:32 PM, DangerousMinds said:

Eh, I think Jessa is incredibly boring, too. She has never shown interest in anything outside her bubble. Even Jill had “midwifery “ and Jinger had photography. Bin at least shows interest in school and music. I don’t think Jessa is particularly smart, either.

Agreed. Jessa seems to be the one among the older girls who's never expressed an interest in anything other than her own kids (she's still got that) and her looks (not so much any more).....But i guess that's often true with the "hot girl" in whatever crowd it is, isn't it? 

Edited November 17, 2019 by Churchhoney

[Churchhoney]

17 hours ago, Madtown said:

Because Saturday is different from any other day, how?

Jessa's ridiculous habit of saying things she figures are relatable to the general public even though they're not at all relatable to her. Next up, some small lament about Monday Morning. 

I wonder what she really thinks when she posts that stuff. Does she just copy it from other people's social media without even thinking about why others post such things? Or is it more conscious than that? 

Edited November 17, 2019 by Churchhoney

[Sew Sumi]

Here's Monday's antics. 

[Jynnan tonnix]

3 hours ago, Sew Sumi said:

Here's Monday's antics. 

Ooooh! Does this mean that Henry is a future Pastafarian??

Edited November 18, 2019 by Jynnan tonnix

[wilsie]

24 minutes ago, Jynnan tonnix said:

Ooooh! Does this mean that Henrty is a future Pastafarian??

We can only hope😊  

[floridamom]

Man, those kids are so bored. They need a nice preschool like their Dillard cousins. It's a shame.

[farmgal4]

4 hours ago, Sew Sumi said:

Here's Monday's antics. 

I guess Spurgie finally conquered potty training. 🚽

[GeeGolly]

Maybe it's because I just ate, but that picture of the boys playing with the wooden track (& past pics) has me feeling like those boys are stuffed into tight fitting clothing. Like I can imagine the imprints of their jeans on their waists and chubby little legs.

I had to stop typing for a sec to unbutton my own jeans - ate too much.

[Joan of Argh]

On 11/8/2019 at 8:32 AM, NotthebadVictoria said:

Just watched the episode and it dawned on me, the “gender guessing party” was Blehssa smugly taunting everyone that she won’t tell the gender. What a bitch, there’s bitchy and then just a bitch. Who throws a party to taunt your family that “I know something you don’t know”. These morons really do have the emotional maturity of a child. She really enjoyed that attention, I don’t know who I dislike more, her or Lauren. 

A very long time ago I liked Jessa but then I started to notice what a dumb bitch she is.

I wanted someone to stick out their leg and trip her smug ass when they hid for their first kiss after wedding..... I mean Jesus you have guests and the *kiss* isn't really just for the bride and groom it's for everyone to celebrate but once again Jessa acted like a jerk and Ben goose stepped right along behind her.

Looks like nothing has changed she's still being a jerk and Ben follows.  🙄

[Joan of Argh]

On 11/14/2019 at 8:32 PM, DangerousMinds said:

Eh, I think Jessa is incredibly boring, too. She has never shown interest in anything outside her bubble. Even Jill had “midwifery “ and Jinger had photography. Bin at least shows interest in school and music. I don’t think Jessa is particularly smart, either.

I agree... I think Jessa is boring and she has no sense of humour.

I remember when she was out for tea with Michelle and telling her how Ben would say things when they were courting like "I'm gonna buy you a million roses" or something like that and all she can say is "where would I put them" and she had this dumb look on her face .... Jeeez bitch it's not meant to be taken literally... It's a declaration of love and it was Ben trying to be sweet in his own awkward teenager kind of way. 

I can barely stand episodes like the $60 romantic date contest.... Watching the couples gives me the creeps because during the TH's it's like watching two 12 yr olds flirt and talk about kissing and shit.... They're all so sickeningly silly when it comes to anything with romance or sex.

[madpsych78]

I think if Jessa had grown up in a more secular family, she would be touted as the more logical woman of reason. Girlfriend is definitely not emotional.

[Sew Sumi]

Additionally, she's definitely humorless (good observation @Joan of Argh) and utterly without charm.

[Lunera]

All these fundie couples, especially the very young ones, would have definitely benefited from some birth control or abstinence for at least 2 years after marriage. Bringing in a baby 9 months after marrying someone you barely know is a recipe for disaster. 

Definitely not possible with this sex and baby obsessed family. 

I remember Jessa saying she wanted to wait 3 years before having a baby. In your dreams. 🙄 

[Sew Sumi]

Jessa had two babies 3 years in, then waited. She did it all bass ackwards.

[Temperance]

Well it may be easier to wait if you're breast-feeding.

I disagree strongly that a couple should have to a first kiss before an audience. Especially if it's a first kiss in their entire lives. Both Jessa and Ben came from sheltered Christian family that wouldn't let them kiss before hand. Usually couples nowadays have had sex before the wedding. It's not traditional  (at least not for Catholics). It came into the Catholic Church within my mother's lifetime. I've been to weddings and I've never cared that much about the kiss nor can I remember the kiss. 

And the most important reason not to kiss in public is that Jessa wasn't comfortable with it and no one should have to touch someone if they're not comfortable. The public isn't owed PDA.  One of my pet peeves with fundies is that people should get to make their own decisions about their own bodies and how they touch each other consensually. 

Edited November 19, 2019 by Temperance

[GeeGolly]

I believe the reason Jessa and Ben didn't have their first kiss at the alter is because it wasn't their first kiss. The pastor was filmed saying not kissing before marriage was not in the Bible.

Couples of all religions have been having sex prior marriage for eons. Many 8 lb premature babies have been born 7 or 8 months post wedding. Nevermind all the women who were shamed for having babies out of wedlock.

I have no idea what the Bible says about sex, but I'm guessing it emphasizes a few other things as well. 

The "Christian" lessons I've learned from the Duggars to think of Jesus and others before yourself and everything else revolves around sex. Dress modestly, don't dance, don't touch, don't date, don't kiss and whatever you do, don't have sex before marriage and don't use birth control. Oh, and the other lessons revolve around hate suppression and oppression.

So Jessa and Ben are toeing the line just as they've been taught - with the exception of their 'first' kiss. 

[crazycatlady58]

2 hours ago, GeeGolly said:

I believe the reason Jessa and Ben didn't have their first kiss at the alter is because it wasn't their first kiss. The pastor was filmed saying not kissing before marriage was not in the Bible.

Couples of all religions have been having sex prior marriage for eons. Many 8 lb premature babies have been born 7 or 8 months post wedding. Nevermind all the women who were shamed for having babies out of wedlock.

I have no idea what the Bible says about sex, but I'm guessing it emphasizes a few other things as well. 

The "Christian" lessons I've learned from the Duggars to think of Jesus and others before yourself and everything else revolves around sex. Dress modestly, don't dance, don't touch, don't date, don't kiss and whatever you do, don't have sex before marriage and don't use birth control. Oh, and the other lessons revolve around hate suppression and oppression.

So Jessa and Ben are toeing the line just as they've been taught - with the exception of their 'first' kiss. 

That is sad, I would hope if you watched me the Christian lesson you would learn is " Love one another."

[galaxychaser]

Sex pest haha

https://www.dailymail.co.uk/femail/article-7702421/Jessa-Duggar-says-difficult-watch-two-year-old-son-Henry-struggle-speech-delays.html

[Sew Sumi]

[xwordfanatik]

Cute picture.  Henry doesn't look impressed.  I hope he's catching up.  He's adorable.

[anna0852]

James Herriott is a wonderful book to be reading to the kids. And not fundie at all. Good job Jessa (now don't blow it with a diaper mountain)

[Oldernowiser]

That stockpot and colander those kids are playing with...

1) look very expensive 

2) look like they’ve never been used.

[JoanArc]

29 minutes ago, Oldernowiser said:

That stockpot and colander those kids are playing with...

1) look very expensive 

2) look like they’ve never been used.

Probably bought from Amazon for just that photo.

[Sew Sumi]

I don't understand the colander without feet. How do you drain out the bottom if it's sitting flush in the sink?

[Natalie68]

29 minutes ago, Sew Sumi said:

I don't understand the colander without feet. How do you drain out the bottom if it's sitting flush in the sink?

Does it go in the pot like a pasta pot thingie?  Otherwise I am with you curious about how that would work.

[Sew Sumi]

That's the only use for it that I could come up with. But how was the pasta first drained? 

[ginger90]

[JoanArc]

“Amazon is a thrift store now!” - Jessa

[Jynnan tonnix]

2 hours ago, Natalie68 said:

Does it go in the pot like a pasta pot thingie?  Otherwise I am with you curious about how that would work.

I have a few colander/sieve type things. The biggest one is the only one with feet. If I'm using one of the others, I either drain the pot with one hand while holding the colander (with an oven mitt) in the other, then put it back on top of the the pot to drain, or, if it's one of the smaller ones, perch it on the dish rack and let it drain into the sink. Sometimes I just balance it between the two sinks on the divider, but there have certainly been times where that didn't turn out quite as well as I'd anticipated.

[crazy8s]

1 hour ago, ginger90 said:

bin just happens to open the door to all those packages on the porch, while Jessa just happens to be in the front yard to get a pic of him being shocked.....

[Sew Sumi]

I rolled my eyes so hard when that came across my feed yesterday. I didn't deem it post-worthy. 😁

[drafan]

1 hour ago, ginger90 said:

I hope one of those boxes contains a power-washer for those front steps.

[Oldernowiser]

In that photo Bin looks like a semi-poor, three-mistresses-removed, fourth cousin of a Saudi prince.

[BitterApple]

1 minute ago, drafan said:

I hope one of those boxes contains a power-washer for those front steps.

For two people who don't work, Ben and Jessa's house sure is a dump. They don't seem to take any pride in it at all. 

[MaryAnneSpier]

1 hour ago, BitterApple said:

For two people who don't work, Ben and Jessa's house sure is a dump. They don't seem to take any pride in it at all. 

It's because it was given to them. 
People who actually work for what they have tend to take pride in it, so therefore they're more inclined to take proper care of it. I noticed this when I was in high school. I bought my own car and drove carefully, kept it clean, maintained it, etc. Many of my fellow classmates were given their car and drove a little more recklessly and didn't seem to take any sense of adult responsibility with theirs. 

[awaken]

4 hours ago, ginger90 said:

Oh poor, befuddled Bin. 

[Kiss my mutt]

He reminds me of the caveman lawyer from snl 

[galaxychaser]

He looks like a confused child looking for mommy 

[GeeGolly]

6 hours ago, drafan said:

I hope one of those boxes contains a power-washer for those front steps.

And trim for the doorway and a stump grinder for the dead tree and a broom and hedge trimmer.

[queenanne]

I thought I had that colander (Oxo I think?), but then I remembered that mine had triangular feet as well, so now I'm just stumped.  It is a really nice colander; but of course I can't speak to its comfort upon the head 🤣.  I had to farm it out to an aunt after I switched boroughs (I gained in overall location what I lost in kitchen, and had no more room for such a kitchen behemoth).

Ivy looks as if she is actually reading the book (aw!).

[galaxygirl76]

He's probably confused where all th money for those boxes came from since no one works. 

[lascuba]

On 11/18/2019 at 11:01 PM, Joan of Argh said:

I agree... I think Jessa is boring and she has no sense of humour.

I remember when she was out for tea with Michelle and telling her how Ben would say things when they were courting like "I'm gonna buy you a million roses" or something like that and all she can say is "where would I put them" and she had this dumb look on her face .... Jeeez bitch it's not meant to be taken literally... It's a declaration of love and it was Ben trying to be sweet in his own awkward teenager kind of way. 

I can barely stand episodes like the $60 romantic date contest.... Watching the couples gives me the creeps because during the TH's it's like watching two 12 yr olds flirt and talk about kissing and shit.... They're all so sickeningly silly when it comes to anything with romance or sex.

Jessa definitely lacks a sense of humor but I will always defend her reaction to Ben's asinine, generic attempt at "romance." Yeah, Ben was a teenager but he had to know at that point that Jessa wasn't into flowery language like that and he still kept pushing it because he wasn't courting Jessa, he was courting his idea of what all girls are and all girls like "romantic" language like that. If Michelle were any kind of mother she would have pointed out that maybe Jessa and Ben were incompatible instead of pushing the idea that women have to always cater to men's feelings.