S11.E03: It's Not The First Time

[Jax7917]

What is wrong with Henry’s girl  friends ? Are they trying out for their own reality tv show ? 
 

Henry is as boring as they get , but Christina is a pill . I agree with the poster that said they feel bad for both of them . Henry is a snooze fest and Christina seems like the type that doesn’t listen Or care about anything you say , she just talks right over you . There’s not gonna be anything between those two , except pillows to separate them . 

[humbleopinion]

Bennett’s mother is Deb Margolin...a playwright, performance artist, founder of the Split Britches Theater, recipient of an Obie and a professor of undergraduate Theater Studies Program at Yale. Big Time Stuff.
That explains the dramatic And odd toast to her son and stranger wife with an outpouring of skepticism and Befuddlement Of the situation she is celebrating.

Anyone else BesideS me and  Doctor Sigmund Freud find it interesting that Bennett is a mini me of his mom and Amelia a mini me of her mom?

Yes, Bennett and Amelia are quirky overload but I appreciate their giddy excitement for each other and you can feel their “fire”through the teevee screen.

Betcha Amelia wiggled out of that plaid green and blue flannel Jumpsuit before the Exiting camera crew clicked the door shut ...
Most likely she and Bennett flailed around like the wind sock Guy in front of the hot dog stand and cell phone store to top off a magical third meeting to exchange vows, a Cirque du Soleil wedding and blowout reception.

Benmelia warms a spot on my cold dark dead heart.

Edited July 31, 2020 by humbleopinion

[JapMo]

19 minutes ago, cardigirl said:

As for Olivia and Brett, I'm hoping against hope that somehow he softens up. This show never goes for subtle though, so I doubt they're going to do it this time. 

I'm with you on that.  I've been hoping he's not the dick he showed everyone in the first episode.  He does OK with Olivia, but there's times he looks like he's just going through the motions and really isn't attracted to her.  That has me worried.  But he's said several times he thinks they are well matched.  On the previews for this season, it appears he walks out on her.  I don't know....that scene bothered me.  I thought about it and wondered if perhaps he could have been leaving temporarily because he might have been exposed to the virus.  For whatever reason, the show is painting him the villain pretty early on.  They usually don't do that.  Of course, you can see they are trying to create drama with Bennett on whether he will move if Amelia has to do her residency in a different town.  I'm not falling for it.....she would quit doctoring if it meant losing him.

I would be very surprised if Brett turns out to be another Luke or that guy from last season that constantly demanded they turn off the cameras.  He never gave that poor girl any chance.  

Something about Olivia I find weird.  She kept thanking everyone for coming to the wedding.  She thanked Brett at least twice for going through the program with her.....so basically thanked him for marrying her.  She thanked his brothers for showing up, little knowing they would crawl over ground glass for an open bar and open mic.  I just thought it odd that you would thank your groom and his family.

[ShowFan]

Poor Olivia with her favorite fast food question ...such a turn off for anyone who actually cares what crap they put in their mouth. I can’t believe I’m going to put “Brett” and “classy” in the same sentence, and I’m sure it will never happen again, but his response to her question was quite classy. Way better than I would have snubbed her if she asked me that.

7 minutes ago, JapMo said:

Something about Olivia I find weird.  She kept thanking everyone for coming to the wedding.  She thanked Brett at least twice for going through the program with her.....so basically thanked him for marrying her.  She thanked his brothers for showing up, little knowing they would crawl over ground glass for an open bar and open mic.  I just thought it odd that you would thank your groom and his famil

She comes across as a very low confidence and low self esteem girl to me...the constant thanking and apologizing are way over the top

[ShowFan]

39 minutes ago, configdotsys said:

Not much to say about Brett and Olivia. He seems like a bad match for anyone. I don't know if I can explain it but he does not seem to have any sort of genuineness to him. He just seems like he's 100% douche all the time

As someone said in one of the forums, Brett looks like he smells farts for a living 

[Jax7917]

I can see Amani and miles as a better match than Miles and Karen . They both just seem more genuine than the ones they were paired with . 

[For Cereals]

On 7/29/2020 at 6:16 PM, Empress1 said:

HENRY IS FRIEND WITH TRISHELLE FROM THE REAL WORLD 

Trashelle!

Is it just me or does Bennet look like he could one day lead a cult, like there’s a dark side lurking just underneath?

[princelina]

5 hours ago, OnTime said:

Why are Amani and Woody starting to remind me of Chicago Sheila and Nate??

Because Woody really looks like Nate!  You could see it in the matchmaking special, but at this point his beard is full and hides that pointy chin.  Also Woody and Nate both were into calling their wife their "queen" 😄 

[humbleopinion]

1 hour ago, ShowFan said:

As someone said in one of the forums, Brett looks like he smells farts for a living 

Shorty Olivia has a groundhog’s view of those ugly comically flared nostrils perpetually poised to sniff out invisible but deadly farts...

[Boo Boo]

Karen is beautiful, but I think she looks 40, not 30.

[Kiss my mutt]

Karen is very composed and poised which makes her seem older than she is, since most 30 year old on reality tv are pretty immature for their ages. 

[Soup333]

13 hours ago, LakeGal said:

I laughed when Christina's mom shut the door on her daughter's train and continued to walk ahead of her like she was the bride.  She acted like it was her day.  

At least Christina did get flowers from Henry before the wedding.  She can quit complaining no man (other than grandfather) has bought her flowers.  

I thought the flowers came with another gift that we didn’t see Christina open. I thought she’d linger over that a little since she made such a fuss over getting flowers from a man. 

12 hours ago, Neurochick said:

1. Were Olivia's bridesmaids lesbians?

2. What's rude about not wearing dresses?  At one point in the 1980's the style was for bridesmaids to wear black.

We don’t know if they’re lesbians or not. I thought they looked very sharp in their suits. 

Edited July 31, 2020 by Soup333

[Ms.C.]

On 7/29/2020 at 7:01 PM, Empress1 said:

They feel like a prank, like the show just put them together to fuck with the audience.

I was thinking Henry’s (girl) friends did this as a joke.   They were cruel.  

[Ms.C.]

On 7/29/2020 at 7:31 PM, Archer27 said:

Henry and Christina are both drips. They looked like they were on their most awful blind date.

Love Bennett and Amelia; Woody and Amani; Miles (not Karen) I am rooting for them. 

Olivia was given the worst of the worst. She is smiling through it all, saying how excited she is...she is attracted to her husband. Deep down, she may realize she got the short end of the straw.

 

 

 

She said she wanted the nice guy who finishes last.   Just a nice guy.   I think that would have been Henry.  I don’t think she would judge him.  She would support and understand him IMO.  What a miss. 

[Ms.C.]

On 7/29/2020 at 7:14 PM, Straycat80 said:

Those family speeches by mom Bennett and dad Henry were painful. Dad Henry acted like he was auditioning for his own show on Comedy Central. Take a seat dad. 

I liked Mom Bennet’s.   Seemed real.  Poor Henry and Brett!  No wonder they have issues! 

[LennieBriscoe]

Henry's busybody entourage is all-female;  he chooses to marry a stranger rather than date someone via his friends' connections (no girlfriend relationship for "4-5 years"); he requires of said stranger bride "good hair and shoes" (what happened to "good personality"?); and he has difficulty looking others in the eye.  

Maybe between the marriages of Henry/Christina and  Brett/Olivia, people are considering for Henry the wrong spouse! 😉

 

Edited July 31, 2020 by LennieBriscoe

[Ms.C.]

17 hours ago, Silver Bells said:

Wonder why kind of physician?  MD, Vet, Surgeon?  Is there more?

She said med school. If vet I think she would have said veterinary school.  She will need to do residency somewhere and I’m curious about that.   

[absolutelyido]

16 hours ago, Kiss my mutt said:

I never would have guessed that man was Henry’s father. He does seem to love his son a lot but I could feel Henry’s discomfort and I wouldn’t feel good about embarrassing one of my kids like that especially if they were the sensitive sort. He kinda made it about him and look at how hilarious I am. His accent was awesome though. 

I think it would have been one thing for Henry's father to make that speech if Henry and Christina had known each for a long time so Christina knew what Henry was really like and that his father was just (hopefully) joking. But I thinks it's pretty thoughtless to make that speech making Henry look bad, even in a joking manner, when Christina knows nothing about Henry.

Henry said he is a medical recruiter. It would seem to me that job would require him talking to a lot of job candidates that he doesn't know. Yet Henry was barely able to look Christina in the eye or make any small talk. Although he is an introvert, I would think Henry would have learned to do those things through his job. Obviously, this is a much different situation, but still.

[Hangin Out]

12 hours ago, DrewPaul2010 said:

Maybe 4 weeks into it if anyone wants to swap they can go for it...wife swap and married at first sight.

Great idea .. I go for that.  I think all of us could do a better job, lol.  But then, there would be no drama and nothing to snark about.

[gonecrackers]

It's too early in the season to know for sure but I'm not impressed with Henry as a "nice guy", given the entourage he travels around with & his superficial concerns about his stranger wife. It will be interesting to see how he handles himself on the honeymoon. His friend(s) will probably have a room down the hall...

Edited July 31, 2020 by gonecrackers

[Jax7917]

Never thought I’d hear a straight guy say that the thing they want in a woman is nice hair and shoes . 
 

Most Guys never notice hair . I can come home with 5 inches chopped and my husband says it looks exactly the same . And the person having nice shoes ? He seemed so serious about it lol . 
I’d feel more badly for Christina If she wasn’t such a bitch . Miles is the only one I wouldn’t divorce instantly based on personality . 

[Empress1]

10 hours ago, Kiss my mutt said:

Karen is very composed and poised which makes her seem older than she is, since most 30 year old on reality tv are pretty immature for their ages. 

She’s also reserved and soft-spoken, which tends not to be a trait of people on reality shows. I think Olivia seems older than she is for similar reasons.

[Adeejay]

39 minutes ago, Jaclyn88 said:

Never thought I’d hear a straight guy say that the thing they want in a woman is nice hair and shoes . 

Henry also specifically said he wanted to be matched with a petite woman, and yet, they matched him with a woman taller than him. I don’t think he was happy about that.

[slaterain]

On 7/30/2020 at 10:49 AM, HZAnita said:

Drunk Flora, Fauna, and Merryweather hovering with their wands (champagne glasses), ready to whisk Prince Henry away from Evil Christina to a safe cottage in the woods

Best Description of those hovering 'friends'!!!

 

22 hours ago, ramble said:

I want to say poor Henry but good grief gravy why is this guy on this show?!? He is painfully uncomfortable and can’t even make minimal chit chat. Not that I think his bride is a prize. If she thinks marriage is going to be like a romantic movie she is going to be so disappointed. I wonder if Henry thought doing this show might wake up whichever one of his honey bees he has buzzing around him that he desires and they’d suddenly realize he’s more than “just a friend”. Ain’t going to happen dude. 

 

22 hours ago, DrewPaul2010 said:

No one thinks they'll be picked when they first sign up and see this massive crowd. If I were a single man I'd show up just to meet the single eligible woman...its got to be a happy hunting ground!

Here is my theory... Henry is in love with Trishelle but has been completely friendzoned. Like many have said, she keeps him around as her backup +1 in all the string-along glory. The brunette friend who wanted to claw out Christina's eyes - I think she has a thing for Henry but he is still too infatuated by Trishelle to notice/care. Trishelle is who really wanted to be on the show and made sure Henry came along to the casting. Only he got picked! So of course Trishelle still wants to be on tv so she encourages him to do it. Brunette is still pissy - hence the rant on anyone who would do this show. And now Trishelle is using every opportunity to be on the show as the best friend - in all her drunken trashy glory.  

[Jack Sampson]

43 minutes ago, gonecrackers said:

It's too early in the season to know for sure but I'm not impressed with Henry as a "nice guy", given the entourage he travels around with & his concerns about his stranger wife being quite superficial. It will be interesting to see how he handles himself on the honeymoon. His friend(s) will probably have a room down the hall...

Rather than a genuine nice guy, Henry just seems like a nerd who can't close.  That Trishelle woman (I had to look up who she is) called him boring, not too nice.  From what Google says, she's known for having a threesome in a hot tub so who knows what she considers boring. 

Again, introverts shouldn't be allowed on the show.

 

24 minutes ago, Jaclyn88 said:

Most Guys never notice hair . I can come home with 5 inches chopped and my husband says it looks exactly the same .

All guys notice hair.  Guys immediately notice if a girl has a five head, an I-want-to-speak-to-your-manager cut, a shaved head, has extensions, weird colors, etc - if it's in any normal range or hasn't changed substantially, we don't mention it.  Cut off all your hair and your husband will notice, get an angry Karen cut and he'll notice...  

[Jack Sampson]

2 minutes ago, slaterain said:

Here is my theory... Henry is in love with Trishelle but has been completely friendzoned. Like many have said, she keeps him around as her backup +1 in all the string-along glory. The brunette friend who wanted to claw out Christina's eyes - I think she has a thing for Henry but he is still too infatuated by Trishelle to notice/care. Trishelle is who really wanted to be on the show and made sure Henry came along to the casting. Only he got picked! So of course Trishelle still wants to be on tv so she encourages him to do it. Brunette is still pissy - hence the rant on anyone who would do this show. And now Trishelle is using every opportunity to be on the show as the best friend - in all her drunken trashy glory.  

According to Google, she's been married since 2017.  I doubt she was trying to get on the show.

[Empress1]

4 minutes ago, slaterain said:

Here is my theory... Henry is in love with Trishelle but has been completely friendzoned. Like many have said, she keeps him around as her backup +1 in all the string-along glory. 

I noticed a sizeable rock on Trishelle’s finger; a quick Google search tells me she’s married. I more got the vibe that the brunette had “he’s supposed to be paying attention to ME” intentions. Trishelle didn’t seem to care that much about Henry; she just seemed drunk. The brunette was the one who was talking shit about everything & saying she didn’t respect Christina or the marriage.

[Elizzikra]

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She said med school. If vet I think she would have said veterinary school.  She will need to do residency somewhere and I’m curious about that.   

It's med school - she's a people doctor not a pet doctor. Someone above said she is going to do her residency in family practice. Residency match day is the third Friday in March. I don't know when this was filmed but it looked from the previews like she would find out where she matched after the wedding but during filming, so Bennett might have to move if he stays with her.

[Empress1]

5 minutes ago, Elizzikra said:

It's med school - she's a people doctor not a pet doctor. Someone above said she is going to do her residency in family practice. Residency match day is the third Friday in March. I don't know when this was filmed but it looked from the previews like she would find out where she matched after the wedding but during filming, so Bennett might have to move if he stays with her.

Someone asks him about whether he’d be willing to move for her residency and they don’t show his answer. It’s a very fair question.

[Neurochick]

13 hours ago, princelina said:

Because Woody really looks like Nate!  You could see it in the matchmaking special, but at this point his beard is full and hides that pointy chin.  Also Woody and Nate both were into calling their wife their "queen" 😄 

Woody needs someone like Amani in his life because she has a father and a step father.  I bet she's never dated a man who had a baby with another women while she was going with him.  

[configdotsys]

44 minutes ago, Empress1 said:

Someone asks him about whether he’d be willing to move for her residency and they don’t show his answer. It’s a very fair question.

In the clip they showed, he shook his head no but I will bet that that was producer shenanigans and his response to a different question entirely.

I was a bit put off by the way they played up them having met before. The tone that Bennett used when he said, "Not the first time," did not evoke a visual of a casual conversation at a party or whatever. It almost sounded sinister, like they had hooked up before.  Then it turns out that the big "OMG I know him!" into a "Yeah, you explained credit cards to me," at a party. But of course, it's all about the shenanigans.

Edited July 31, 2020 by configdotsys

[Empress1]

46 minutes ago, Neurochick said:

I bet she's never dated a man who had a baby with another women while she was going with him.  

Amani’s last relationship ended because she found out her boyfriend was actually married. So: not great.

[Elizzikra]

1 hour ago, Empress1 said:

Someone asks him about whether he’d be willing to move for her residency and they don’t show his answer. It’s a very fair question.

Yeah although I hope the "experts" gauged his willingness to relocate before matching him with a soon-to-be medical resident. She doesn't have a choice about moving - she needs to complete a residency and you get what you get, so she has to go where they send her.

[Mercolleen]

On 7/29/2020 at 8:35 PM, Straycat80 said:

It just hit me who Christina looks like, Patty Stanger from The Millionaire Matchmaker. 

She also reminds me of Arpana from Indian Matchmaking. That pursed mouth.

ETA: @configdotsys beat me to it!

Edited July 31, 2020 by Mercolleen

[Mercolleen]

On 7/29/2020 at 10:55 PM, OnTime said:

None of Brett's three brother's look anything like him or each other.

Yes, but you know, they are so studly, they were worried he would be matched with one of their former conquests!

[Jack Sampson]

54 minutes ago, configdotsys said:

Then it turns out that the big "OMG I know him!" into a "Yeah, you explained credit cards to me," at a party. But of course, it's all about the shenanigans.

A doctor who doesn't understand credit cards, isn't she so quirky?  What's next, she doesn't have a checking account?  I would never let this woman doctor me.

[Mercolleen]

On 7/30/2020 at 12:57 AM, LaLaLaLa said:

And Bennett's mom...put a sock in it. It's amazing that Bennett turned out somewhat normal (good quirky, genuine, and nice) with her influence in his life. 

Oh, no! Am I the only one who likes Bennett's mom?

[Mercolleen]

On 7/30/2020 at 1:34 PM, JapMo said:

I had that thought too.  It's pretty obvious to me Henry is crazy about the brunette, Kristin, whether he admits it or not.  So why would someone so introverted and who secretly carries a huge torch for another woman sign up for Married at First Sight?  Dare I say it.....Kristin had a hand in this?  There's no way Henry thought it up on his own.  Just no way.

Do you think that's why she wore the dress she had to keep hiking up, so that he could peek at her boobies?

[Mercolleen]

23 hours ago, Adeejay said:

Woody reminds me of Sammy Davis, Jr.

Yes! They've got the same chin.

[humbleopinion]

16 hours ago, JapMo said:

Something about Olivia I find weird.  She kept thanking everyone for coming to the wedding.  She thanked Brett at least twice for going through the program with her.....so basically thanked him for marrying her.  She thanked his brothers for showing up, little knowing they would crawl over ground glass for an open bar and open mic.  I just thought it odd that you would thank your groom and his family.

Olivia's nerves compelled her to thank everything in sight. Very annoying.

Hate it as much as her saying "sorry" way too much.

Both puts her in the position of weakness and submission...stop it, stop it!

[humbleopinion]

1 hour ago, Mercolleen said:

Oh, no! Am I the only one who likes Bennett's mom?

She's won an Obie. Mad props.

As a mother it is her prerogative to to fuss about his hair, BO, dirty socks....his reasons to marry a stranger

Mazel tov! to the happy couple

Bennett stomped the glass...

[willgracefan]

On 7/29/2020 at 10:43 PM, Myrtle Urkele said:

I appreciate that Bennett is trying to be respectful when discussing wedding night expectations! I'm really not feeling this ice cream/freezer analogy though

Most sex jokes go over my head. But this one really got me, I literally thought he wanted to eat ice cream with Amelia in their room. 

[cinsays]

1 hour ago, Mercolleen said:

Oh, no! Am I the only one who likes Bennett's mom?

me!   I like her too!

[princelina]

1 hour ago, Mercolleen said:

Oh, no! Am I the only one who likes Bennett's mom?

 

8 minutes ago, cinsays said:

me!   I like her too!

Me three!  She actually reminds me of my friend's mom - they are a weird theater family too 😄 

[DocTerv]

It was bugging the heck out of me but I finally pieced together than my vision of Amelia seeing patients is based on Dr. Kylie from MadTV (yes, I know, I AM old). The only thing Dr. Kylie was missing was the bird on her head. 

[KateHearts]

On 7/29/2020 at 9:49 PM, Ms.C. said:

Nah.  She’s a physician. Has to have serious side.  Definitely most nervous day of her life.  Giggly and nerves.  Going to be okay. 

I've seen many, many physicians in training pass through our hospital. She is very early on in her training and has had no real independent responsibility for any patients yet. She has the "MD" degree but next comes the real thing. I've also seen a lot of young residents cowboy through things thinking because they had the degree, they were now invincible.  Nuh-uh.  Many of them panicked and froze when they really had to think on their feet. And many of them acted a lot like she does.

When Henry's scenes started, I thought, "yeah, he's the nicest looking one and seems sincere." But sadly, his awkwardness is beyond the pale. The producers sure aren't helping with zooming in on the awkward pauses and Christina's intermittent self-absorption and irritation.  I use closed captions and everytime they were on, the caption said "QUIRKY MUSIC." And on a truly petty note, Henry has yellow teeth.  

Brett didn't have much airtime to expose more of his idiot self, except when he (a repeat from another episode I believe) mentioned that "most of the women I've slept with were strangers." Is this something we should applaud?

Speaking of strangers: every. single. person. on this show pronounces it "shtranger."  Why is that? We don't hear "shtop" or "shtory," do we?

I'm on the fence about Woody, "Mr. Life of the Party." Wasn't that also a description they used for Brandon last season? And we know how that turned out.  Woody has all the smooth lines: "I'll do what my Queen wants," etc. but I think he's a little too Mr. Smooth. As if he's dated lots of women and thinks he wrote the handbook on how to win over a woman. 

I have hopes for Karen and Miles. He seems sincere, all-in and kind.  

Loved the bridesmaids' dresses in Christina's wedding. Amelia's on the other hand... and come on, they really had to wear those lampshades on their head during the reception?

[DrewPaul2010]

On 7/30/2020 at 10:54 AM, cinsays said:

yeah, maybe you'd show up to see the people and mingle but when they decided on you wouldn't you find a reason to back out rather than risk the embarrassment of having the possible fiasco on tv?

You only go around once in life...

On 7/30/2020 at 11:23 AM, bichonblitz said:

Well, judging from the previews it's not looking good.

Previews are anything from next week to the last week to never being shown.

[DrewPaul2010]

9 hours ago, Silver Bells said:

Great idea .. I go for that.  I think all of us could do a better job, lol.  But then, there would be no drama and nothing to snark about.

No power in the universe can stop us from snarking...

[humbleopinion]

9 hours ago, Silver Bells said:

Great idea .. I go for that.  I think all of us could do a better job, lol.  But then, there would be no drama and nothing to snark about.

MAFS Nothing inspires the best snarking....

[DrewPaul2010]

6 hours ago, slaterain said:

Best Description of those hovering 'friends'!!!

 

 

Here is my theory... Henry is in love with Trishelle but has been completely friendzoned. Like many have said, she keeps him around as her backup +1 in all the string-along glory. The brunette friend who wanted to claw out Christina's eyes - I think she has a thing for Henry but he is still too infatuated by Trishelle to notice/care. Trishelle is who really wanted to be on the show and made sure Henry came along to the casting. Only he got picked! So of course Trishelle still wants to be on tv so she encourages him to do it. Brunette is still pissy - hence the rant on anyone who would do this show. And now Trishelle is using every opportunity to be on the show as the best friend - in all her drunken trashy glory.  

I own a small computer shop and a woman and a man came into the shop for repair. I talked to both of them but at some point she found it necessary to declare he's 'just a friend'. I don't want to have friends (regardless of sex) who say my relationship to them is just a friend. Saying we're not a couple this is my friend would be much better.

This should be an interesting couple to watch. Covid will be the main protagonist in this season.