I believe in the past they sent the couple out for brunch with some friends/family - but as a couple. (Which meant that one family member had to take the role of the asshole who asked, "Did you consummate the marriage?"
I guess you and your husband weren't matched by experts then 😄 I know Bennet and Amelia are both "quirky", but when one person has always wanted to have kids and the other is ethically opposed to having them - I'm no expert, but I'd say that beats "they're both quirky" . Of course, I've never seen the inside of their (or your!) underwear drawer, so that could change the outcome of so many things . . .