Jessa, Ben and Their Brood: Making a (Diaper) Mountain out of a Mold House

[Salacious Kitty]

I've seen how Abbie "parents" her 10 kids. They are feral. Always getting hurt. She goes off on luxury vacations and leaves them behind (just got back from Hawaii). Jessa is a fool for buying into this because she professes to be Christian. 

[GeeGolly]

13 minutes ago, Salacious Kitty said:

I've seen how Abbie "parents" her 10 kids. They are feral. Always getting hurt. She goes off on luxury vacations and leaves them behind (just got back from Hawaii). Jessa is a fool for buying into this because she professes to be Christian. 

Oh my, the author's 10 kids include 2 sets of twins. She must be Jessa's hero.

[Salacious Kitty]

4 minutes ago, GeeGolly said:

Oh my, the author's 10 kids include 2 sets of twins. She must be Jessa's hero.

And the older kids raise the younger ones. Typical fundies.

[cmr2014]

I'm going to call bs on "Biblical" child rearing. There is very little in the Bible relating to children and virtually nothing about child rearing -- and virtually nothing in the New Testament. There are a few mentions in the Old Testament regarding the importance of discipline and, of course, the various situations where parents are allowed to kill their children.

Jessa needs to stop talking. It would be a good idea for her to actually parent the (too many) children that she already has and not presume to give "advice" to anyone.

[oliviabenson]

Preaching from a house with a diaper mountain, dirty sheets, unkempt kids… sit down Jessa Blessa. At least she is unemployed so who will fire her ? 
 

Maybe right now she is baking bread and making a big salad and a nice roasted chicken for dinner.

Edited October 5, 2022 by oliviabenson

[Trillium]

21 minutes ago, GeeGolly said:

Jessa answering a post calling out the secular mom culture phrase.

STFU Jessa with the gaslighting. It literally says “secular mom culture” aka mediocre motherhood according to the “author” vs “Biblically excellent motherhood”. What context are we missing? 

And I’ve never once read any secular  parenting advice or options  that says “Oh don’t make your kids help with anything ! It’s too hard! Do it yourself!!! Sooooo much easier”

Fundies and evangelicals tend to perch and believe that non-“correct Jesus Christians” are all miserable, promiscuous, hatefully, evil people. I was literally told as a child I could not be happy in life if I didn’t accept Jesus and all my non Christian friends at school were soooo unhappy because they didn’t go to church like me. So it’s probably unfathomable to them that “secular” parents can be good parents. 

[Cinnabon]

1 hour ago, Suzn said:

There's so much wrong with this that it's hard to know where to start.

"Secular mom culture"!  Jessa has no firsthand knowledge of secular motherhood and it is ridiculous to believe that there some monolithic "culture" that all non-fundy mothers adhere to.  She's comparing her superior mothering to mythological secular mothers.

Jessa is full of shit.

Right. I was raised by my fairly strict, conservative, Catholic parents, including a SAH mom. Was she a “secular” mother?

Edited October 5, 2022 by Cinnabon

[ginger90]

1 hour ago, GeeGolly said:

Jessa answering a post calling out the secular mom culture phrase.

Yet she edited it out of the post. 🤷🏼‍♀️

[Salacious Kitty]

Abbie doesn't know shit about how popular culture raises their kids. She surrounds herself with like minded people and sycophants. 

[GeeGolly]

Its funny, I read a few parenting books back in the day and not one of them pitted any groups of moms against another. Almost every suggestion was followed by, do what's best for you and your baby. And get this shocker - not one mentioned religion at all.

Edited October 5, 2022 by GeeGolly

[ginger90]

Post by Jessa:

Moms are everyday heroes. Proof: They can disappear behind a door for 30 seconds to change a diaper and lay a baby down for a nap, while continuing to use their 6th sense to perceive any possible danger in the rest of the house— and then they can magically reappear just in the nick of time to stop a bad idea from going— well— bad. 

Haha! Kids can certainly keep you on your toes, and you have to give them credit for thinking outside the box and trying to be problem solvers! And then there are times you have to go a step further to explain the “no” and make a rule you never dreamed you’d have to make as a mother! 

New Seewald house rule: No stacking anything on top of anything and then standing on top of the second anything. 

(Now that I think about it, when the boys were tiny, I’m pretty sure I used a similar tactic with a step ladder on top of an outdoor table to hang their swing from a tree branch— but I digress.)

What’s the funniest/wildest rule you’ve ever found yourself having to make for your kiddos? ☺️🤍

Edited October 5, 2022 by ginger90

[Salacious Kitty]

7 minutes ago, ginger90 said:

Post by Jessa:

Moms are everyday heroes. Proof: They can disappear behind a door for 30 seconds to change a diaper and lay a baby down for a nap, while continuing to use their 6th sense to perceive any possible danger in the rest of the house— and then they can magically reappear just in the nick of time to stop a bad idea from going— well— bad. 

Haha! Kids can certainly keep you on your toes, and you have to give them credit for thinking outside the box and trying to be problem solvers! And then there are times you have to go a step further to explain the “no” and make a rule you never dreamed you’d have to make as a mother! 

New Seewald house rule: No stacking anything on top of anything and then standing on top of the second anything. 

(Now that I think about it, when the boys were tiny, I’m pretty sure I used a similar tactic with a step ladder on top of an outdoor table to hang their swing from a tree branch— but I digress.)

What’s the funniest/wildest rule you’ve ever found yourself having to make for your kiddos? ☺️🤍

Those are some bored as fuck kids.

[oliviabenson]

Please buy oldest boy some clothes that are loose enough for him to breathe.

[Salacious Kitty]

Just now, oliviabenson said:

Please buy oldest boy some clothes that are loose enough for him to breathe.

On a positive note, it looks like Jessa gave him a decent haircut. 

[Cinnabon]

41 minutes ago, GeeGolly said:

Its funny, I read a few parenting books back in the day and not one of them pitted any groups of moms against another. Almost every suggestion was followed by, do what's best for you and your baby. And get this shocker - not one mentioned religion at all.

They are part of the problem in society today, imo. Framing everything as a binary “us vs them” is dangerous. 

[Nysha]

2 hours ago, GeeGolly said:

Its funny, I read a few parenting books back in the day and not one of them pitted any groups of moms against another. Almost every suggestion was followed by, do what's best for you and your baby. And get this shocker - not one mentioned religion at all.

The religious parenting books I've read will make you weep. Every one of them was pro-corporal punishment by the time your baby was old enough to pull themselves up and grab things. 

[andromeda331]

Gee Jessa you sound defensive. Your not an "easy" mom or one who whatever your claiming in your post. Your lazy as fuck. The complaints aren't secular moms picking on poor fundie moms. You are lazy. Your kids are never cleaned, your house is never cleaned, your kids don't do anything, and you have no excuse because you don't work. Doing anything is apparently too much work for you.

Secular moms have managed to get their kids bathed, dressed, and off to school or daycare while they go to work. They work all day long come home and get dinner on the table. They manage to keep their house clean and do a bunch of other things while having kids. If by some chance they don't it's because they have a good excuse being busy working and taking care of the kids. Some days or weeks its messier but that's not the norm. 

What do you do all day? Your not getting your kids dressed. Your not bathing them. Your not brushing their hair. Your not playing with them. Your not busy with homeschooling. You don't do anything.

Your mother did absolutely nothing to raise you and your siblings and for some reason you find that example to follow in her lazy crappy parenting. 

Edited October 6, 2022 by andromeda331

[crazy8s]

My question is where was Jessa's supposed superior mommy spidey-sense when Ivy got the permanent marker and drew on the new cabinet door? Why didn't she swoop in and keep that bad idea from going bad?

Also, Spurge and Henry's bad idea was to make something to climb on so they could reach school supplies??

[GeeGolly]

Jessa was likely gone an extra minute or two while she was getting dinner out of the bedroom freezer to thaw later. Yup, the bedroom freezer. 🤣

[cmr2014]

14 hours ago, ginger90 said:

Post by Jessa:

Moms are everyday heroes. Proof: They can disappear behind a door for 30 seconds to change a diaper and lay a baby down for a nap, while continuing to use their 6th sense to perceive any possible danger in the rest of the house— and then they can magically reappear just in the nick of time to stop a bad idea from going— well— bad. 

Haha! Kids can certainly keep you on your toes, and you have to give them credit for thinking outside the box and trying to be problem solvers! And then there are times you have to go a step further to explain the “no” and make a rule you never dreamed you’d have to make as a mother! 

New Seewald house rule: No stacking anything on top of anything and then standing on top of the second anything. 

(Now that I think about it, when the boys were tiny, I’m pretty sure I used a similar tactic with a step ladder on top of an outdoor table to hang their swing from a tree branch— but I digress.)

What’s the funniest/wildest rule you’ve ever found yourself having to make for your kiddos? ☺️🤍

I'm going to call bs on this photo, too, unless Jessa literally walks around the house all day with her phone plastered to her face (possible). I think it's far more likely that she found the kids doing something like this and re-staged the event to show them trying to reach their school supplies -- that would explain Spurgeon's bored posture. If they were actually going for the school supplies, Spurgeon is tall enough to reach them.

All of Jessa's parenting fails are attributed to "kids!!!! amiright!" while everyone else's are attributable to "secular parenting." As @andromeda331 pointed out, Jessa is a SAHM by choice and does nothing associated with that life choice: no cleaning, no cooking, and no child supervision. Her house is filthy, her kids are poorly put together (unless it's "photo-in-the-weeds day"), and they forage for food. She's got nothing to crow about, and she should look at her own photos and get a clue, and work on herself.

[GeeGolly]

I don't think the boys were going for school supplies. This cabinet is from floor to ceiling. I'm guessing what they wanted is purposely cropped from the photo.

[SMama]

26 minutes ago, GeeGolly said:

I'm guessing what they wanted is purposely cropped from the photo.

Food for Henry and well fitting clothes for Spurgeon? 

[Salacious Kitty]

5 minutes ago, SMama said:

Food for Henry and well fitting clothes for Spurgeon? 

It wasn't just me who noticed how tight Spurge's clothes are. Jessa needs to size up with him. What he's wearing in that picture would probably be better suited to Henry.

[Madtown]

10 hours ago, andromeda331 said:

Gee Jessa you sound defensive. Your not an "easy" mom or one who whatever your claiming in your post. Your lazy as fuck. The complaints aren't secular moms picking on poor fundie moms. You are lazy. Your kids are never cleaned, your house is never cleaned, your kids don't do anything, and you have no excuse because you don't work. Doing anything is apparently too much work for you.

Secular moms have managed to get their kids bathed, dressed, and off to school or daycare while they go to work. They work all day long come home and get dinner on the table. They manage to keep their house clean and do a bunch of other things while having kids. If by some chance they don't it's because they have a good excuse being busy working and taking care of the kids. Some days or weeks its messier but that's not the norm. 

What do you do all day? Your not getting your kids dressed. Your not bathing them. Your not brushing their hair. Your not playing with them. Your not busy with homeschooling. You don't do anything.

Your mother did absolutely nothing to raise you and your siblings and for some reason you find that example to follow in her lazy crappy parenting. 

This needs to be posted in her comments on said post..

Defensive should be her middle name..

[Cinnabon]

1 hour ago, Madtown said:

This needs to be posted in her comments on said post..

Defensive should be her middle name..

Defensive Bitch

[Salacious Kitty]

2 hours ago, Madtown said:

This needs to be posted in her comments on said post..

Defensive should be her middle name..

Posting that would be an instant block. Jessa blocked me for far less (it's been so long that I don't even remember what I said, but it wasn't bitchy or mean. I know better).

[Madtown]

14 minutes ago, Salacious Kitty said:

Posting that would be an instant block. Jessa blocked me for far less (it's been so long that I don't even remember what I said, but it wasn't bitchy or mean. I know better).

Oh, I know she would block instantly, but I would take that block to post it..lol.

[Salacious Kitty]

I'm sure my post was deleted as well. She loves to live in her own little echo chamber. 

[Churchhoney]

23 hours ago, Absolom said:

Who on earth has she been listening to where she found such ludicrously unfounded beliefs?  

Her parents? THe other honchos of her parents' cult and churches? Her husband's parents? 

I'd bet on all of the above, actually. 

After all, these are the reasons why your kid can't go to any actual school, even a conservative Christian one. And why you can't have friends in the neighborhood, just people you preach to. And why you can't work outside your home. .... All those people who aren't exactly like you are EVIL and they're causing EVIL In the world and Satans gonna get 'em while you sit above in your golden crown. And of course, when EVIL people raise children they screw up EVERYTHING in a large and EVIL way. 

They don't look for facts about anything. They're not open-minded about anything. These beliefs shes's spouting are the beliefs they've adopted through at least a few generations now because they're the beliefs that make THEM the superior beings they believe they are. 

20 hours ago, Cinnabon said:

Right. I was raised by my fairly strict, conservative, Catholic parents, including a SAH mom. Was she a “secular” mother?

Yes! In fact, even most Protestant parents are to this crew, I'll bet. They REALLY are a totally insular, totally-bigoted-against-virtually-everybody-who-isn't-them, crappy, super-arrogant little cult. 

Edited October 6, 2022 by Churchhoney

[Lady Whistleup]

Jessa is so sour and miserable. Every post she makes reeks of her patented defensiveness and anti-charisma. I just can’t with her anymore.

[ginger90]

[Salacious Kitty]

I spoke too soon about Spurge having a decent haircut. It looks like Jessa cropped the back and sides, leaving the front to grow wild. 

Horrible look. Poor kid.

Edited October 7, 2022 by Salacious Kitty

[xwordfanatik]

Hair hanging in my face would drive me crazy.  That baby fine hair on some of the kids must be snarled beyond brushing.

It would be nice if they stopped breeding, although I don't believe they will. ☹️

[Abmis]

When I look at Spurge and Henry in that picture A Flock of Seagalls song I Ran starts running through my head. 

[ozziemom]

43 minutes ago, Abmis said:

When I look at Spurge and Henry in that picture A Flock of Seagalls song I Ran starts running through my head. 

Thanks for putting that ear worm in my head!

[Absolom]

She needs to get Spurgeon a professional haircut and quit trying to pretend he has a curly mop.  Also why is he always the one in the too small clothes?  

[libgirl2]

1 hour ago, ozziemom said:

Thanks for putting that ear worm in my head!

Mine too. 

[ozziemom]

2 hours ago, Absolom said:

She needs to get Spurgeon a professional haircut and quit trying to pretend he has a curly mop.  Also why is he always the one in the too small clothes?  

Henry probably gets hand me downs that are all stretched out, and the girls wear dresses not too tight shirt and shorts. We’ve seen all of them in pjs that look too tight also. 

[Joan of Argh]

5 hours ago, ginger90 said:

Henry and Spurge’s haircuts look ridiculous plus they both look like “ohhh goody just what I wanted to do, walk around shopping with my mom and baby sisters”

maybe it’s just that pic but Spurge looks like JimBoob and Henry looks like he’s in pain.

I feel so sorry for Spurge… does he ever play sports or have any interaction with kids his own age?

[Salacious Kitty]

10 minutes ago, Joan of Argh said:

Henry and Spurge’s haircuts look ridiculous plus they both look like “ohhh goody just what I wanted to do, walk around shopping with my mom and baby sisters”

maybe it’s just that pic but Spurge looks like JimBoob and Henry looks like he’s in pain.

I feel so sorry for Spurge… does he ever play sports or have any interaction with kids his own age?

I think Jessa would argue that Henry is Spurge's BFF. I think Anna's two older boys are too old. Not sure about the last one. Maybe they play with him at the TTH? But we never see the Seewald kids with anyone, even their cousins.

[Tdoc72]

I don’t mind the look but it seems like it would have to be trimmed often to keep it out of his face. I feel bad for him. He seems smart and nice and would probably be a good friend. I guess I hope he has some “sweet church friends” that he plays with, b/c we never seen him w/anyone besides his sibs. 

Edited October 7, 2022 by Tdoc72
LOL—ended with his sins instead of sibs.

[farmgal4]

On 10/5/2022 at 6:17 PM, Salacious Kitty said:

Abbie doesn't know shit about how popular culture raises their kids. She surrounds herself with like minded people and sycophants. 

Who is Abbie?

[Salacious Kitty]

1 minute ago, farmgal4 said:

Who is Abbie?

The "author" that Jessa is quoting in her motherhood posts. 

[farmgal4]

1 minute ago, Salacious Kitty said:

The "author" that Jessa is quoting in her motherhood posts. 

Thank you!

[Lady Whistleup]

Fern already has the saddest eyes. Poor kid ...

[Joan of Argh]

7 hours ago, Lady Whistleup said:

Fern already has the saddest eyes. Poor kid ...

I agree she often has a bewildered grimace  🥺

I think Fern’s wearing one of Spurges sweaters… it’s way too big for her… the sleeves are rolled and bunched up at her wrists.

[BitterApple]

If Jessa wants to keep the boys' hair long she needs to take them to a barber or salon and have it properly cut. Whatever hack job she's doing is resulting in a tangled mess and it makes them look even more unkempt. If she can afford to dump tens of thousands of dollars into a house she doesn't own, she can afford a kid's haircut. 

[GeeGolly]

Someone needs to send Jessa a picture of Sam Sheepdog, so she'll knock off doing these ridiculous haircuts.

[graybrown bird]

Maybe it was just an off moment for everyone concerned, but none of the four children look happy in that picture.  Why would Jessa post it?

[satrunrose]

I wouldn't think a vintage market is high on the list of super fun activities for most small kids. They all have a bit of a "can we go home now?" look. 

Edited October 8, 2022 by satrunrose