Jill, Derick & the Kids: Moving On!!

[auntieminem]

Interesting, the IG post and story are gone but still up on FB. 

[GeeGolly]

1 hour ago, auntieminem said:

Interesting, the IG post and story are gone but still up on FB. 

I didn't see the IG story but I noticed she blocked faces on FB. Did she not do that on IG?

[Salacious Kitty]

12 minutes ago, GeeGolly said:

I didn't see the IG story but I noticed she blocked faces on FB. Did she not do that on IG?

I'm sure she posted simultaneously. She probably got more grilling on IG, hence the deletion.

[GeeGolly]

4 hours ago, Salacious Kitty said:

I'm sure she posted simultaneously. She probably got more grilling on IG, hence the deletion.

I thought maybe it was a video reel on IG and a still on FB. I wasn't sure if you could block out all those random faces on a video.

[Salacious Kitty]

9 hours ago, GeeGolly said:

I thought maybe it was a video reel on IG and a still on FB. I wasn't sure if you could block out all those random faces on a video.

No, she posted stills.

[farmgal4]

So now Jill and Derrick are hiding the boy’s faces in pics?  And Israel is no longer attending school?

[SMama]

7 minutes ago, farmgal4 said:

So now Jill and Derrick are hiding the boy’s faces in pics?  And Israel is no longer attending school?

TBH it’s better to keep the boys’ faces hidden given Derick’s job. Right now he is prosecuting small potatoes cases, but it’s good practice for when he starts prosecuting the uglier cases. I was only a lowly CPS SW and forensic interviewer, and I was, still am, very mindful of keeping my kids off the Internet. 
 

Jill avoiding the school subject doesn’t bode well. Why would they choose to hold those kids back?

[GeeGolly]

Jill would do better to change the flavor of her IG. Stop with the kid focused posts. Its just silly to include the boys, but hide their faces or cut off their heads. Jill could have showed her purchases laid out on a bed. No need to have headless kids modelling them.

Its just as silly as when Jinger tried to shill kid's dresses but posted a pic of the backs of her girls sitting down in the grass.

[wilsie]

14 minutes ago, GeeGolly said:

Jill would do better to change the flavor of her IG. Stop with the kid focused posts. Its just silly to include the boys, but hide their faces or cut off their heads. Jill could have showed her purchases laid out on a bed. No need to have headless kids modelling them.

Its just as silly as when Jinger tried to shill kid's dresses but posted a pic of the backs of her girls sitting down in the grass.

Exactly.  I have no problem not showing children but trying to appease people who think they should be seeing them just doesn't work.  I find the ways they avoid showing faces more annoying than charming.

[farmgal4]

12 minutes ago, GeeGolly said:

Jill would do better to change the flavor of her IG. Stop with the kid focused posts. Its just silly to include the boys, but hide their faces or cut off their heads. Jill could have showed her purchases laid out on a bed. No need to have headless kids modelling them.

Its just as silly as when Jinger tried to shill kid's dresses but posted a pic of the backs of her girls sitting down in the grass.

I agree.  If you don’t want people to know what your kid looks like, keep them off of social media completely.  I also agree that the boys should have their identities  hidden now that Derrick is a lawyer.  You can’t be too careful nowadays.  There’s a lot of evil out there.

[BetyBee]

I sure hope these kids are attending real school. Izzy seemed to love school. And it would help them to make friends in their new neighborhood. I hope Jill isn't doing "homeschool" because it's easier with a newborn to stay home. I know from experience that it's tough, but it's not forever. If she really needed to, she could find someone to drive them during Freddy's early days. It's hard to interrupt naps, especially when you're adjusting to breastfeeding, but it's better for the older boys to go to school, imo. 

[ginger90]

All it takes is a search and the boy’s pictures are readily available. They also didn’t remove older ones from their own social media. Their blog has current pictures from when Jill had the baby, no hidden faces there. Their address is readily available, and their post office box has been public knowledge for quite some time, old house, and new. It’s something that just can’t be undone.

[sagittarius sue]

1 hour ago, SMama said:

TBH it’s better to keep the boys’ faces hidden given Derick’s job. Right now he is prosecuting small potatoes cases, but it’s good practice for when he starts prosecuting the uglier cases. I was only a lowly CPS SW and forensic interviewer, and I was, still am, very mindful of keeping my kids off the Internet. 
 

Jill avoiding the school subject doesn’t bode well. Why would they choose to hold those kids back?

Many new mothers would treasure being able to spend half the day alone with their baby, onlly having to deal with the baby's needs.  However, we know how clingy Jill is, could also be suffering from post-partum depression, and wants constant companionship even if it has a negative effect on her kids.  I hope the situation changes fairly soon..  

[farmgal4]

5 minutes ago, BetyBee said:

I sure hope these kids are attending real school. Izzy seemed to love school. And it would help them to make friends in their new neighborhood. I hope Jill isn't doing "homeschool" because it's easier with a newborn to stay home. I know from experience that it's tough, but it's not forever. If she really needed to, she could find someone to drive them during Freddy's early days. It's hard to interrupt naps, especially when you're adjusting to breastfeeding, but it's better for the older boys to go to school, imo. 

They could put Israel on the school bus, unless he doesn’t live in the same district as his school.

[coconspirator]

Maybe she's homeschooling, but maybe, along with not putting their faces on social media anymore, she is also being more discrete about where the boys go to school and is posting things much later than when they actually happen.  We may never know if they continue to be protective of the kids on social media. Not a bad thing at all. 

[Scarlett45]

16 hours ago, SMama said:

TBH it’s better to keep the boys’ faces hidden given Derick’s job. Right now he is prosecuting small potatoes cases, but it’s good practice for when he starts prosecuting the uglier cases. I was only a lowly CPS SW and forensic interviewer, and I was, still am, very mindful of keeping my kids off the Internet. 
 

Jill avoiding the school subject doesn’t bode well. Why would they choose to hold those kids back?

I agree with you @SMama. Not lonely does Derick have a public facing job, he and Jill have been on reality tv and have "fans". For the boys safety and privacy keeping them off of social media is a good idea. 

16 hours ago, GeeGolly said:

Jill would do better to change the flavor of her IG. Stop with the kid focused posts. Its just silly to include the boys, but hide their faces or cut off their heads. Jill could have showed her purchases laid out on a bed. No need to have headless kids modelling them.

Its just as silly as when Jinger tried to shill kid's dresses but posted a pic of the backs of her girls sitting down in the grass.

Yeah. I understand people want to share their life on social media, and their kids are a part of that life. But I also understand being concerned about the children's safety and privacy.

[Madtown]

I wonder if Jill is posting a few days after the actual day the picture was taken? She could be posting stuff from the weekend during the week. 
I would really really hope she is not homeschooling with a newborn. I remember her posts of being exhausted doing preschool stuff with Izzy when Sam was a newborn. Plus, she(likeJoy)should not be doing any homeschooling, newborn or not. 

[CalicoKitty]

Just a thought--maybe the school asked them not to post.  School officials would know of Jill's family history and how she has a social media following.  Especially if it is private school. 

[GeeGolly]

21 minutes ago, CalicoKitty said:

Just a thought--maybe the school asked them not to post.  School officials would know of Jill's family history and how she has a social media following.  Especially if it is private school. 

Most first day of school pics I see are taken at home.

[CalicoKitty]

29 minutes ago, GeeGolly said:

Most first day of school pics I see are taken at home.

True.  But before she also posted pictures of the school and the name of the school.  Maybe it was easier just not to post. But maybe I am giving Jill too much credit for thinking things out.  (I am grasping at straws here.  I just really, really hope at least Izzy is back at school this year.  Deciding to wait a year for Kindergarten--I get that.  But I sure hope Izzy is getting the school experience that he appeared to like so much.)

[Salacious Kitty]

1 hour ago, CalicoKitty said:

Just a thought--maybe the school asked them not to post.  School officials would know of Jill's family history and how she has a social media following.  Especially if it is private school. 

It would be schools, plural, if they sent Sammy to Kinder this year. The Siloam Springs schools are grouped in two grade increments, starting with PK/K. 

[CalicoKitty]

1 minute ago, Salacious Kitty said:

It would be schools, plural, if they sent Sammy to Kinder this year. The Siloam Springs schools are grouped in two grade increments, starting with PK/K. 

Maybe a district request?  I have no idea but I could see that happening.   I just really, really hope that at least Iz is in school.  I'm wondering if they would opt for a private Christian school, who really would not like the publicity.  (Nothing at all against private schools.  We have some great ones around here.). I have thought in the past that Jill posted way, way too much private business about her kids.  J and D actually do not owe the public any information about them or their kids.  (I know---Happy Mail.  But I live in hope for the privacy of the kids.)

[SnapHappy]

Telling a parent they can't put their child on non-school related social media these days is the best way for that school to get a call from the local ACLU.  

Schools have some rules about who can post what, but it's generally restricted to teachers, employees and students themselves. 

Parents?  Anybody REALLY think a lawyer is going to let the school tell him what he can or can't post about his kids, when his taxes pay for for the schools in their district? 

Edited September 23, 2022 by SnapHappy

[Absolom]

Maybe Jill had a chat with Jinger.

[jacourt]

It makes me sad to think that Izzy is being taught at home.  He seemed to like being in school.

[Salacious Kitty]

4 minutes ago, jacourt said:

It makes me sad to think that Izzy is being taught at home.  He seemed to like being in school.

We don't have any confirmation about where Izzy is in school. Jill has been dodging queries.

[SMama]

4 minutes ago, Salacious Kitty said:

We don't have any confirmation about where Izzy is in school. Jill has been dodging queries.

The fact she’s dodging queries is concerning. If there’s nothing to hide a simple yes he’s attending school will suffice.

[crazy8s]

whether the boys are going to school or being home schooled, it was opportunity missed to not show a pic of them with the chalkboards blocking their faces saying "First Day of Second Grade" and "First Day of Kindergarten"

[awaken]

A small private Christian school would love the notoriety that comes with social media posts from “famous” fundie families. So I don’t think that’s the reason. 

[Lady Whistleup]

My gut feeling is that they aren't in school. Jill is pretty responsive on Insta regarding things. If she's dodging questions re: school then I don't think they're currently enrolled and that's depressing, because Israel was obviously an intelligent child who thrived in a real school environment.

[Salacious Kitty]

6 minutes ago, Lady Whistleup said:

My gut feeling is that they aren't in school. Jill is pretty responsive on Insta regarding things. If she's dodging questions re: school then I don't think they're currently enrolled and that's depressing, because Israel was obviously an intelligent child who thrived in a real school environment.

I tend to agree. Her silence speaks volumes.

[Trillium]

I don’t blame them for not saying one way or the other. Even if they said yes he’s in school, it would be easy to narrow down where he’s at public or private.

I don’t like these people, but would never interfere IRL. However there’s some over zealous haters on Reddit who make it their mission to dox, and even take it further. Most of the people on the Reddit sub are lovely people, but there are a few that have take up the mantle to interfere IRL at every opportunity. I absolutely would not say where my kids were at if I was her.

[GeeGolly]

The Dillards announced they were moving, Derick updated his LinkedIn profile and they show the kids at swimming lessons. They also show celebratory pics of their kids. These aren't even bread crumbs, they're signs saying go this way, turn here and X marks the spot.

I'm not saying its easy for them to navigate, but they choose to be "public figures" and they choose to post about their kids. This one foot face in and one foot face out, obviously isn't the solution.

[Lady Whistleup]

If I had to guess, maybe Jill found the move and the newborn baby incredibly isolating and wanted to keep Izzy and Sam home to keep her company. I really hope I'm wrong because Izzy was so obviously loving school. I remember how much pride he took in doing math problems.

[cmr2014]

I'm not sure why this idea is getting so much traction.

Jill just had a baby and two surgeries. She has a newborn at home, and historically has had a rough time with caring for a newborn.

They just moved and Derick has a new job and is out of the house all day, every day. That's going to be an adjustment for her -- maybe not as big an adjustment as when he was at WalMart, but an adjustment.

I just don't see this as the time that Jill decides to start homeschooling. If she had been homeschooling, then it would probably be easier for her to just sit Izzy and Sam in front of some DVDs and toss them some workbooks, but Izzy is used to school and it would be another big adjustment for him. Sam has probably been looking forward to going to school like his big brother, and is probably feeling some jealousy over the new baby, and it would be difficult to settle him into a homeschooling routine.

If they were homeschooling, it would probably be something they had talked about and planned and Jill would have posted stuff about different curriculums, etc. She's posted tons of stuff about the move, the new house, etc. I don't think she'd suddenly go silent about this.

I don't even think that Jill has finally gotten a clue that plastering her kids and their schedule all over social media is a bad idea, I think she's just overwhelmed and doesn't have time for all of the posts she's done in the past. Plus, Derick is getting a paycheck now, and they may not need that extra click-cash to get by.

Edited September 24, 2022 by cmr2014

[GeeGolly]

I assume Izzy likes school because most kids that age do, but I only remember maybe a half dozen posts and pictures about Izzy and school over the last two school years. I also remember Izzy missed the last week of school last year when they moved. Maybe he liked school, maybe he hated it, or maybe school was just school.

I totally (lol) agree Jill not posting a headless first day of school pic and not answering posters doesn't bode well, but I think there's an equal chance this is Jill's skewed way of being internet safe.

[Lady Whistleup]

1 minute ago, GeeGolly said:

I assume Izzy likes school because most kids that age do, but I only remember maybe a half dozen posts and pictures about Izzy and school over the last two school years. I also remember Izzy missed the last week of school last year when they moved. Maybe he liked school, maybe he hated it, or maybe school was just school.

I totally (lol) agree Jill not posting a headless first day of school pic and not answering posters doesn't bode well, but I think there's an equal chance this is Jill's skewed way of being internet safe.

There were more IG stories about Izzy and school. He really seemed to love it. 

[GeeGolly]

19 minutes ago, Lady Whistleup said:

There were more IG stories about Izzy and school. He really seemed to love it. 

I wouldn't claim to see all of Jill's posts, but I think I catch most of them. I'm sure she wasn't posting about Izzy and his school weekly, or even monthly. I'll also add that a kid standing for a picture doesn't necessarily show their feelings. I think there were at least a couple of posts of the boys smiling at the dentist, but that doesn't mean they beg to go back. There have been pictures of the boys watching sermons on the laptop, again I'm not going to assume they beg to sit around and watch a sermon on Sunday morning. And even though Jill actually said her boys like rap, I'm going to guess they have no idea what it is.

Edited September 24, 2022 by GeeGolly

[auntieminem]

Jill must be feeling better, her stories have her shopping at Pottershouse with Amy and Deanna who is pictured holding a sleeping Freddy. Today she added a story of her and Derick running errands and says that the older boys are with Amy.  Amy had in her stories the boys playing at her house and seeing a blimp. One thing good thing you can say about Amy is she really wants Dax to have lots of play fun. Now Jills boys will want stair slide and a million toys. Oh and they are watching a giant TV. Wonder if the Dillards have gotten a real TV yet.  About the school thing, who knows. I really cannot imagine her wanting to homeschool and Derick is pro education.  Given his job they need to keep details about their lives private. That has to be hard for Jill.  She has posted about some places they have been but it is after the fact.  Unlike Jinger and Jana, Jill always seemed to like being on the show and in public life.  So being less public has to have been a big adjustment for her even though it is the best for her and their family. 

[GeeGolly]

What is it about Derrick's job that requires extra privacy? 

[Notabug]

19 minutes ago, GeeGolly said:

What is it about Derrick's job that requires extra privacy? 

He's a prosecutor.  Presumably, some of those he prosecutes might decide to bother him or his family if they could find them.  It's become pretty common for people working in the criminal justice system, especially in prosecution, to try to minimize their family's social media presence, presumably because some have been targeted with threats or worse.

[floridamom]

Yes, Derick needs to keep a low profile, personally. He is part of a local district attorneys' office. My former husband prosecuted 25 of 30 years of his career. We had protections in place in the community in which we lived to protect him, our children and myself. Jill needs to make some changes to accommodate Derick and his office. I hope she adjusts well to all that has happened lately. I hope her boys are attending school, public OR private. Israel seemed to love it. I think Sammy would love it too.

[GeeGolly]

21 minutes ago, Notabug said:

He's a prosecutor.  Presumably, some of those he prosecutes might decide to bother him or his family if they could find them.  It's become pretty common for people working in the criminal justice system, especially in prosecution, to try to minimize their family's social media presence, presumably because some have been targeted with threats or worse.

Oh. I had know idea he was actually doing cases. I figured he was clerking.

[Absolom]

Baby cases at first but he would have been assigned the ones that came in the first week or so,  

[GeeGolly]

Derick may need to change up his posting as well.

https://www.instagram.com/derickdillard/?hl=en

[Salacious Kitty]

7 minutes ago, GeeGolly said:

Derick may need to change up his posting as well.

https://www.instagram.com/derickdillard/?hl=en

It was posted a couple of days after the fact, but yeah, there are places that they may revisit.

[SMama]

It’s good that Israel and Sam get to play with kids that are not part of the Duggar 19 ignorance bubble. Jill will eventually mingle with the other spouses in Derick’s office. Baby steps.

Jill had a story while shopping with Amy and Deanna. I honestly thought I heard Israel say to Amy “my mom wants to show you something.”  The IG story was still up and Amy answers him. Maybe it was after school. 

Edited September 25, 2022 by SMama

[ginger90]

I know I’m repeating myself……It is so easy to find out so many things about people online. If they truly think going with not posting the boys faces makes them “safe”,  they’re nuts. As I said previously they posted them on their blog when the baby was born. 
 

They obviously can’t go back in time, but the internet sure does. 

[jcbrown]

4 hours ago, GeeGolly said:

Oh. I had know idea he was actually doing cases. I figured he was clerking.

I was reading too fast and saw this as Derrick twerking. Stopped me in my tracks to imagine the horror and hilarity that would ensue from that.

My uncle was a DA back in the 70s but gave it up when he got tired of the threats aimed at him and his family.

[ALittleShelfish]

57 minutes ago, ginger90 said:

I know I’m repeating myself……It is so easy to find out so many things about people online. If they truly think going with not posting the boys faces makes them “safe”,  they’re nuts. As I said previously they posted them on their blog when the baby was born. 
 

They obviously can’t go back in time, but the internet sure does. 

Right, look at all the people who post about JillRod's address, Nurie's house for sale, etc and they have *addresses*.  Not just Reddit, either, it's on their sub here.  "I can't post their exact address but you can search for...."  ---- isn't that basically posting the address?  It's a wild time out on the innerwebz.