Sweet Fellowship: Duggars and Friends (aka the Bates Family and Other Featured Families Thread)

[Sew Sumi]

The Bateses are moving on up in the world. Torby got a People exclusive. 

http://people.com/tv/bringing-up-bates-tori-bates-bobby-smith-engaged/

[Lunera]

Does this mean she's not gonna finish school? I remember Kelly saying they wouldn't get married until she graduated in May. What's the rush?

[Sew Sumi]

I totally predict a winter break wedding. She can still finish school in the spring like Erin did. 

[Scarlett45]

5 minutes ago, Lunera said:

Does this mean she's not gonna finish school? I remember Kelly saying they wouldn't get married until she graduated in May. What's the rush?

They might get married the weekend after graduation. 8months is a long engagement for these folks but not unheard of. 

Edited September 22, 2017 by Scarlett45

[andromeda331]

I was hoping the announcement wasn't a Tori engagement. Tori had said she didn't want to get engaged until next May. She was pretty firm on that in the episode where her sisters tried to press her to get engaged sooner. Erin saying she had gotten married and still finished school. None of them seemed to listen to Tori saying she didn't want to. That she wanted to wait until she graduated and didn't want to plan a wedding while going to school. I really hope the engagement happening now is something Tori wanted and not her parents or her sisters. If she wants to get married after graduation I hope she does just that.

[Sew Sumi]

The People article mentions a December wedding. However, on the livestream, they said they didn't have a date. I think that's stalling to keep the fans guessing. 

[Autumn0516]

Tori said she didn't want to get married until graduation. She'd recently said on an episode that she thought he'd propose in October, so I think she was planning on being engaged well before she graduated. 

Either they'll get married in May or June, or maybe over winter break but if she's that close to finishing I'm sure she will graduate, newlywed or not. 

 

Tori is engaged, Carlin is probably courting and Josie has a "special" friend. I'd guess all the of age Bates girls will be married by the end of next year. 

[BitterApple]

Congrats to Tori, her ring is pretty.

I'm hoping she finishes school. It would be such a waste to drop out with only a year to go.

A winter wedding would make sense, that way she could have her honeymoon before the spring semester starts.

Edited September 22, 2017 by BitterApple

[Sew Sumi]

Erin did it. No reason Tori can't. Plus, Tori said that she's probably going to depend on Kelly and her sisters to do the actual wedding planning, so that frees her up between semesters. Her nails are still nicely manicured, so this didn't happen that long ago. Maybe a week to ten days? Didn't UP start pimping this late last week during the season finale or was it earlier this week? I honestly didn't pay attention to when they started pimping it, just that it would be tonight. 

[awaken]

Apparently, being engaged entities them to back-against-front hugs, full frontal hugs, and pinkie-holding. 

[GeeGolly]

This is the first Bates SIL to have a heart for preaching. Bobby isn't Fundy so I'm curious how Bobby working with Gil at his church will work out. Does Bobby need to shun music, dance, working women, etc, to preach at Gil's church?  

[riverblue22]

12 hours ago, Sew Sumi said:

The Bateses are moving on up in the world. Torby got a People exclusive. 

http://people.com/tv/bringing-up-bates-tori-bates-bobby-smith-engaged/

Maybe People has figured out this is a far more photogenic and appealing family with actual personalities that the other bunch is missing.

[kokapetl]

He’s a looker

[SMama]

Bobby is not fundy?

[Sew Sumi]

He went to PCC. That alone makes him at minimum a fringe fundie. He might not have been exposed to the courtship model before meeting Tori, but I've seen a couple of his school projects, and he projects pretty fundie in his speech and by extension, his beliefs. 

[GeeGolly]

Those pictures are so defrauding. Bobby has his hands on her abdomen in one pic and a full tight frontal hug in the other. Yikes.

[Churchhoney]

44 minutes ago, GeeGolly said:

Those pictures are so defrauding. Bobby has his hands on her abdomen in one pic and a full tight frontal hug in the other. Yikes.

Maybe People found out that a little good old-fashioned mild sexuality and affection are more enticing to readers than the umpty-umpth Duggar sermon about side hugs (and why the person you're going to marry in a couple months should not touch you in an unholy attempt to prevent your splintering your tibia on pavement.)

[scriggle]

3 hours ago, GeeGolly said:

Those pictures are so defrauding. Bobby has his hands on her abdomen in one pic and a full tight frontal hug in the other. Yikes.

They're practicing for the inevitable pregnancy announcement a month or so after the wedding.

[Adeejay]

On ‎9‎/‎21‎/‎2017 at 9:42 PM, Sew Sumi said:

Bateses' big news: 

Tori's engaged. 

I was hoping it would be that Michael was pregnant, oh well. 

Every time I see this link at the top of the page, I keep hoping it's an announcement that Michael is pregnant.  I have a feeling it's going to happen soon; fingers crossed. 

[Sew Sumi]

Bateses confirm December wedding. You're welcome. I called this last year. :D

 

[kokapetl]

11 minutes ago, Sew Sumi said:

Bateses confirm December wedding. You're welcome. I called this last year. :D

 

He’s so pretty!

I don’t even know what she looks like. 

ETA: Oh it’s a slideshow. She’s standard Bates face. 

Edited September 24, 2017 by Kokapetl

[SMama]

Why must they always include the parents on the proposals? Is it a fundy, Gothard, or controlling patriarchy thing?

Edited September 24, 2017 by SMama

[floridamom]

I couldn't successfully attach the early photo of the Kellar family, but google "Anna Keller's Family" and there's a montage of photos. It's the one with the family dressed all in navy blue outfits.

[Absolom]

[xwordfanatik]

What, only eight kids?  What is wrong with those people?  <sarcasm>

The Bates boys make the Duggar boys look even worse, if that's possible.

[tabloidlover]

Is there a reason that fundy engagements require a huge planned out presentation?   As in staged, decorated, family on hand, photographer at the ready?    I don't get it.   When my husband proposed, it was just the two of us.   Guess I have failed fundyism again, gonna need a moment to collect myself.

[Rabbittron]

When my now. ex-husband proposed he did it over the phone because we were in a long distance relationship.

[Catfin]

4 minutes ago, tabloidlover said:

Is there a reason that fundy engagements require a huge planned out presentation?   As in staged, decorated, family on hand, photographer at the ready?    I don't get it.   When my husband proposed, it was just the two of us.   Guess I have failed fundyism again, gonna need a moment to collect myself.

Right there with you! It seems to be more the norm for non-fundies  as well these days, something I attribute to Pinterest. Every life event is overly documented and attended. 

 

When Mr. Fin and I were expecting our first child, his mom told me to call her as soon as we were headed to the hospital so she could put on her "face."  I played dumb and asked why. She said she wanted to look good in the pictures. At that point, I told her the only people that would be in attendance would be those who participated in the conception.  She did not take it well. 

[Rabbittron]

I will bet that if Michael can't concive she will be happy to adopt.  No sins of the father bullshit here.

[Barb23]

15 minutes ago, tabloidlover said:

Is there a reason that fundy engagements require a huge planned out presentation?   As in staged, decorated, family on hand, photographer at the ready?    I don't get it.   When my husband proposed, it was just the two of us.   Guess I have failed fundyism again, gonna need a moment to collect myself.

I was thinking the same thing.

[wilsie]

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Is there a reason that fundy engagements require a huge planned out presentation?   As in staged, decorated, family on hand, photographer at the ready? 

@tabloidlover  There are no dates, proms and dances, and a whole lot more things that most fundies don't indulge in.  They court, get engaged, married and reproduce.  This is all they have.  They don't seem to be able to be allowed any privacy until they marry.  And I imagine, with the fundy family on tv, they often get paid media attention.

[dargosmydaddy]

3 hours ago, floridamom said:

I couldn't successfully attach the early photo of the Kellar family, but google "Anna Keller's Family" and there's a montage of photos. It's the one with the family dressed all in navy blue outfits.

Pa Keller did look marginally better with hair. With Ma, I still can't see past the tragic glasses and hair to make much of a judgement. Neither of them is approaching "good looking" IMO, but all their kids are decent looking, so I guess the genes came from somewhere...

[Jynnan tonnix]

1 hour ago, Rabbittron said:

When my now. ex-husband proposed he did it over the phone because we were in a long distance relationship.

When my husband proposed, it was completely unplanned. We had only been dating about three months, and while I could tell he was getting pretty serious, I was still  somewhat unsure about the whole relationship. We were talking about it, and I said something to the effect that I didn't think he was as serious about it as he thought he was, and his answer was, "I'll show you how serious I am. Marry me". Then he tickled me until I said yes (I am deathly ticklish),  bought a ring the next day, and wouldn't let me take my agreement back. He said he considered himself engaged, and that was that. We kept dating, but it took me another six months to decide to wear the ring. 

[Scarlett45]

The elaborate proposals don't bother me. As a poster stated above, these young people don't have prom, graduation, etc - rites of passage where they are admired and their community supports them. All they have are engagements and weddings. Big proposals aren't my thing, but the fundys aren't alone in participating in the trend. 

[floridamom]

Absolom: Thank you....that's the photo I couldn't attach. There is another one out there in which Mrs. Kellar was younger in and she looked quite nice...so, it's lack of trying on her part. You guys are the best.

I have to hone up on my computer skills...I tried to copy and paste, but it didn't work for me.

[Absolom]

To attach a photo like that, you usually have to save it to your hard drive and then paste it in.  I'm using the laptop today so it isn't too tough.  

[Adeejay]

Congrats to Tori and Bobby on their engagement.  It was really starting to get embarrassing watching Kelly beg Bobby to propose.  Say what you want about Michelle, but we’ve never seen her “hinting” to any of her prospective son in-law. I hope Tori will be able to secure a nice size home like the Duggar girls instead of something from tiny house nation like her sisters. 

[RedheadZombie]

Tori's dress and Bobby's hand on her belly make her look like she's already in the second trimester of a pregnancy.

4 hours ago, tabloidlover said:

Is there a reason that fundy engagements require a huge planned out presentation?   As in staged, decorated, family on hand, photographer at the ready?    I don't get it.   When my husband proposed, it was just the two of us.   Guess I have failed fundyism again, gonna need a moment to collect myself.

I find the whole thing creepy as well.  I'm actually amazed they're able to seal the deal on the wedding night without both sets of parents guiding them.

[xwordfanatik]

What gets me is the emphasis on that all-important "first kiss at the altar."  All the showing off, especially Boob and Ma hamming it up onstage at the kids' weddings, is just stupid.  They try & steal the limelight, and it's so narcissistic.  Ugh.

[Libby96]

I still shake my head that the likes of People magazine pays these people (Duggars and Duggar-adjacent) any attention.  They are getting engaged, married and pregant at breakneck speed because that is all they think is important and about all they do.  When one of them breaks away, gets a real education, and writes a tell all THEN People magazine would have a story.

I'm not against marriage or kids.  They are a very important part of my own life.  I just don't understand people who think the whole rest of the world is as excited about their lifetime milestones as they are.

Edited September 24, 2017 by Libby96

[RedheadZombie]

1 hour ago, Adeejay said:

Congrats to Tori and Bobby on their engagement.  It was really starting to get embarrassing watching Kelly beg Bobby to propose.  Say what you want about Michelle, but we’ve never seen her “hinting” to any of her prospective son in-law. I hope Tori will be able to secure a nice size home like the Duggar girls instead of something from tiny house nation like her sisters. 

And for whatever reason, other than Joy, the Duggar girls tend to marry a little older - excepting Michael.  Not that it makes them superior in any way, but at least limits the children by a few. 

[ariel]

They will probably be "gifted" with a very nice honeymoon in Europe & not appreciate the culture or the food.

[Natalie68]

On 9/24/2017 at 9:22 AM, dargosmydaddy said:

Pa Keller did look marginally better with hair. With Ma, I still can't see past the tragic glasses and hair to make much of a judgement. Neither of them is approaching "good looking" IMO, but all their kids are decent looking, so I guess the genes came from somewhere...

I am sure Jesus would love his flock to have nice glasses.  In fact aren't these people always talking about their countenance?  At first I thought the gal with the big hair next to her WAS her and then I saw those glasses.  

[Fuzzysox]

Any word on Tabby Paine? Seems like she dropped off the face of the earth.

[SMama]

If I married a rapist I would do the same. Dr. Paine got his daughter married but perhaps does not want the bad publicity. He has enough with the lawsuit.

[Lunera]

Tabitha and the rapist got married in January, I'm assuming she's in hiding and due with a blessing any day now.

[SMama]

Even more reason to lay low.

[Sew Sumi]

5 hours ago, Lunera said:

Tabitha and the rapist got married in January, I'm assuming she's in hiding and due with a blessing any day now.

 I thought they got married on April Fool's Day. I remember making sick, sad jokes about it. 

[Sew Sumi]

I think Jilly wants to audition to sing at an NFL game. Go for it! Everyone will be kneeling while they yak up their beer by the end! 

[Genevrier]

25 minutes ago, Sew Sumi said:

I think Jilly wants to audition to sing at an NFL game. Go for it! Everyone will be kneeling while they yak up their beer by the end! 

Well, that woke the dog up AND brought my 22-year old to the door of my room calling, 'Maman, what the F*CK are you doing in there?'