Small Talk: The Prayer Closet

[crazycatlady58]

I do not like peppers.  As a child a would complain that bell peppers ` burned` my tongue.   My mother would say that's not possible they have no heat. That did not make sense because to me they were hot. I can use black pepper in small amounts on my food but thats about it. The rest of tge family has no problem with spicy foods. 

[Jeeves]

Yes, I wish people would keep their damn noses out of other people's PRIVATE business, like what they eat. Of course you shouldn't passively let someone near and dear to you endanger their health with an actual eating disorder, but that's not what this is about.

Adults. Making conscious decisions about what food to eat and what beverages to drink. It's not anybody else's fecking business and nobody needs their opinions about it unless they ask for said opinions. 

I hate foodies. Well, okay, I have friends who are foodies and I don't hate them. But. OTOH said friends know I don't share that passion and they don't bore my ass off by talking in great detail about some wonderful dish they ate X months ago at Y fine restaurant. Let's say I hate foodies who don't know how to STFU about it when their audience obviously is bored rigid, doesn't give a sh*t how many orgasms their taste buds had on any occasion, and certainly doesn't want to hear about that at all. I am also not particularly interested in spending staggering amounts on "fine dining." I enjoy going out for dinner with friends and appreciate a nice atmosphere and good food, but the company is as important to me as the food, and the food doesn't have to be fancy. I'm not a cheapo about it but there are limits.

[GeeGolly]

I pretty much like all foods, or I should say, most, but fine dining has a broad definition for me. Much like clothing, IMO, beyond a certain price point, I feel its buying bragging rights more than anything else.

[Jynnan tonnix]

8 minutes ago, crazycatlady58 said:

I do not like peppers.  As a child a would complain that bell peppers ` burned` my tongue.   My mother would say that's not possible they have no heat. That did not make sense because to me they were hot. I can use black pepper in small amounts on my food but thats about it. The rest of tge family has no problem with spicy foods. 

I don't do spicy foods or pickled foods. I can take a little bit of heat, but for me, what most people consider very mild is about on the edge of where it starts to become more like pain. Same with heat as in temperature - Mr Jyn seems to be able to take what should literally be scalding food (as in soup that was still boiling when it was poured into a bowl) and eat it immediately. I'm still blowing on it ten minutes later. Likewise, he likes to set the hot tub to 105, which is above the recommended range, whereas I can't handle anything over 102, and even then, I'm inching and ouching my way into it. I'll sit in it happily at 100, but he won't even bother going in when it's that "cold". 102is our compromise, but he still thinks that's barely warm enough.

I do like almost all foods, though, and the ones I don't care for generally have a texture rather than a taste that I can't deal with. I don't like certain slimy things - Jello makes me gag, and I can't deal with fat on meat, or undercooked egg whites, but on the other hand, I can do raw oysters, so it doesn't make sense. I do have to chew them a bit, though - can't just slide a whole one down my gullet.

[Scarlett45]

You know what I have always found interesting about human behavior? How many introverts are married/partnered in mainstream North American Culture (if there is such a thing), were marriage/partnership isnt a social requirement for 1. economic survival, 2. partnered sex, 3. procreation/childrearing. 

I am a huge extrovert- goodness I miss parties so much! But the idea of letting someone live in my house and eat my food that talks back makes me itchy. Like no. (I let Cosmo live here but he doesn't talk back although he tries to take my food sometimes!)

I know statistically MOST people will partner at some time in their life, but I do think its interesting, I have found introverts are more likely to be partnered than extroverts once people get into their senior years.

[Jeeves]

8 minutes ago, Scarlett45 said:

I know statistically MOST people will partner at some time in their life, but I do think its interesting, I have found introverts are more likely to be partnered than extroverts once people get into their senior years.

I'm an introvert and have never had a partner; some of the same attitude you mentioned about having someone else in my space and my stuff, lol.

I worked at jobs outside my home all my adult life. Most of them involved quite a bit of contact with people all day long. As I approached retirement I knew I would no longer have that kind of human interaction daily from my job. I haven't always done the best at *not* isolating at home. OTOH for a lot of my "retirement" years - after retiring from my full-time job -  I have worked different temporary jobs/assignments. I have also done various kinds of volunteer work. Those required interacting with people. I do need that interaction, since as I sometimes tell people, I'm an introvert, not a hermit. 

I think introverts who are partnered are better off in retirement. If the relationship is a good one, there's "built-in" companionship and someone to talk with. Ideally not someone who's riding your tail all day long to chatter, lol. TBH my retirement is the only thing that made me regret not being married or having a partner. Not massively enough to change things though. I still need my privacy.

[Scarlett45]

1 minute ago, Jeeves said:

I'm an introvert and have never had a partner; some of the same attitude you mentioned about having someone else in my space and my stuff, lol.

I worked at jobs outside my home all my adult life. Most of them involved quite a bit of contact with people all day long. As I approached retirement I knew I would no longer have that kind of human interaction daily from my job. I haven't always done the best at *not* isolating at home. OTOH for a lot of my "retirement" years - after retiring from my full-time job -  I have worked different temporary jobs/assignments. I have also done various kinds of volunteer work. Those required interacting with people. I do need that interaction, since as I sometimes tell people, I'm an introvert, not a hermit. 

I think introverts who are partnered are better off in retirement. If the relationship is a good one, there's "built-in" companionship and someone to talk with. Ideally not someone who's riding your tail all day long to chatter, lol. TBH my retirement is the only thing that made me regret not being married or having a partner. Not massively enough to change things though. I still need my privacy.

I understand what you are saying. I in no way think introverts are hermits, I get what you mean but not wanting to change things. 

 

[Nysha]

1 hour ago, Jynnan tonnix said:

I do like almost all foods, though, and the ones I don't care for generally have a texture rather than a taste that I can't deal with. I don't like certain slimy things - Jello makes me gag, and I can't deal with fat on meat, or undercooked egg whites, but on the other hand, I can do raw oysters, so it doesn't make sense. I do have to chew them a bit, though - can't just slide a whole one down my gullet.

I've never eaten raw shellfish, but what is the point of swallowing them whole? Do they taste better that way?

17 minutes ago, Scarlett45 said:

You know what I have always found interesting about human behavior? How many introverts are married/partnered in mainstream North American Culture (if there is such a thing), were marriage/partnership isnt a social requirement for 1. economic survival, 2. partnered sex, 3. procreation/childrearing. 

I am a huge extrovert- goodness I miss parties so much! But the idea of letting someone live in my house and eat my food that talks back makes me itchy. Like no. (I let Cosmo live here but he doesn't talk back although he tries to take my food sometimes!)

I know statistically MOST people will partner at some time in their life, but I do think its interesting, I have found introverts are more likely to be partnered than extroverts once people get into their senior years.

Introverts tend to marry so they don't turn into hoarders or cat people. If you don't like to get out & socialize, then you spend a lot of time in your own head. Occasionally it's nice to hear a different voice.

I was married for almost 20 years to an extrovert. I had my own few friends that I socialized with occasionally but most of our friends were his friends and I just tagged along. He passed away 19 years ago and once all but my youngest moved out I realized that I had been putting up with so much unwanted noise. I'm pretty sure I'll never have a live-in partner again because I love being able to be home and enjoy being by myself.

[Scarlett45]

2 minutes ago, Nysha said:

Introverts tend to marry so they don't turn into hoarders or cat people.

This made me almost spit out my tea!

[CherryMalotte]

23 minutes ago, Nysha said:

because I love being able to be home and enjoy being by myself.

While of course I love Mini Malotte, I'm so happy that she moved out and got on with her life.  And I love love love how quiet it is now!  I love that I can play my music when I want really loud, and not get yelled at that she's on the phone or is trying to study or watch a movie.  Or not have anything on at all...it's still and you can read  with no distractions.  It's heaven.  

[thehorseofpower]

I do border on hermit in my tendencies, honestly...so being married and having kids helps me to not devolve completely into a hairy ranting forest dweller, as I feel this could be possible if I was left entirely to my own devices. 🤣

Maybe it's that many introverts are fine with one on one or small groups and tend to desire a small number of deep relationships over a large number of acquaintances, which does fit with marriage and/or children. I tend to be this way.

However, I took a personality test at work once, and my results said "You require a lot of time alone to be happy. If you have children, it would be best for you to purposely schedule time away from them on a regular basis." I kid you not, those were the exact words. It was a strange test!

I also told my husband after we got married that our relationship would probably be better if he would go to his parents' or a friend's house for the weekend every month or so. He found this a bit bewildering, but he did do it fairly regularly until the kids came along. 😊

Edited March 30, 2021 by thehorseofpower

[QuinnInND]

I'm not sure what I am as far as extrovert/introvert. When I first left home, my first job was as a bartender. I had to learn to talk to anyone about anything. Which was hard because I didn't know diddly. When I was pulled into being a high class call girl, my pimp got me into porn, and at first, I was very shy and introverted. I didn't want to be there and I was embarrassed to be naked in front of the camera, much less having sex. Then he gave me some cocaine and alcohol to "loosen me up", and the extrovert in me came out. I did porn effortlessly. I loved being photographed and looked at and being the center of attention and doing everything for the camera. I loved parties then.  Lots of nice men and lots of attention. I learned how to play cards, and keep the men's attention on me instead of their cards and the poker game. But after I left the life, I'm more introverted. Partly because I was always worried about someone recognizing me from then, which has subsided considerably as time has gone on, and being ashamed of what I was and what I had done. I wanted to hide from the world. But being an officer and pilots wife isn't a good fit for being an introvert for the most part. You've got to schmooze with the other officers wives and go to parties and ceremonies, and committees and being a key spouse.  It was hard at first, but I got used to it. I do enjoy being alone with my family, but do enjoy an occasional party.  I can still talk to anyone about anything.  My husband helped me so much. He always told me I didn't have to duck my head to anyone. 

[Zella]

Though most of my friendships have been with other introverts, I've personally found there are some extroverts who have more introvert friendly personalities than others, and they can be quite lovely in pushing me out of my comfort zone but not in a way that is obnoxious. I couldn't imagine being married to one who doesn't. I remember getting stuck on a school trip with extroverts who were not introvert-friendly, and I told them, point blank, to fuck off. Which doesn't go over well on a COFO sponsored trip. LOL 

But I think that can be the personal difference between feeling like you're trapped in hell and thinking the other person balances you out nicely. 

 

6 minutes ago, thehorseofpower said:

I do border on hermit in my tendencies, honestly...so being married and having kids helps me to not devolve completely into a hairy ranting forest dweller, as I feel this could be possible if I was left entirely to my own devices. 🤣

Maybe it's that many introverts are fine with one on one or small groups and tend to desire a small number of deep relationships over a large number of acquaintances, which does fit with marriage and/or children. I tend to be this way.

However, I took a personality test at work once, and my results said "You require a lot of time alone to be happy. If you have children, it would be best for you to purposely schedule time away from them on a regular basis." I kid you not, those were the exact words. It was a strange test!

I also told my husband after we got married that our relationship would probably be better if he would go to his parents' or a friend's house for the weekend every month or so. He found this a bit bewildering, but he did do it fairly regularly until the kids came along. 😊

When I was at COFO, they were super into the Enneagram tests that Jill loves. I scored as a 5. And there was some literature that warned that unhealthy 5s descend into "eccentricity, nihilism, and isolation." Honestly, none of those seemed that bad to me! LOLOLOL 

[Scarlett45]

51 minutes ago, thehorseofpower said:

However, I took a personality test at work once, and my results said "You require a lot of time alone to be happy. If you have children, it would be best for you to purposely schedule time away from them on a regular basis." I kid you not, those were the exact words. It was a strange test!

I also told my husband after we got married that our relationship would probably be better if he would go to his parents' or a friend's house for the weekend every month or so. He found this a bit bewildering, but he did do it fairly regularly until the kids came along. 😊

I understand this completely. Anyone that isnt you can get on your nerves!

[DangerousMinds]

I’m in between, I think that’s called an “amibivert.” I can really enjoy being out in crowds, but when I’m done, I’m done. I just turn off and need lots of time to myself. This can be confusing to others but I am also very ADHD and can talk your ear off at times. Sometimes I’m very awkward and self conscious but i can also enjoy dancing and being the center of attention (usually while under the influence of something). But I’ve been fine during the past few years being close to a hermit. I have definitely been happier alone as an adult. It’s not always as clear cut as some may think. 

[GeeGolly]

46 minutes ago, DangerousMinds said:

I’m in between, I think that’s called an “amibivert.” I can really enjoy being out in crowds, but when I’m done, I’m done. I just turn off and need lots of time to myself. This can be confusing to others but I am also very ADHD and can talk your ear off at times. Sometimes I’m very awkward and self conscious but i can also enjoy dancing and being the center of attention (usually while under the influence of something). But I’ve been fine during the past few years being close to a hermit. I have definitely been happier alone as an adult. It’s not always as clear cut as some may think. 

I'm similar to you. I can thrive on others' energy, but also need downtime to recharge. I also need changes in environment and tasks. So I have struggled this past year.

[rue721]

2 hours ago, Scarlett45 said:

I understand this completely. Anyone that isnt you can get on your nerves!

Dude sometimes I even annoy myself. Sometimes it feels like, can't I ever get a break from this woman? Not this same old shit again! But nope... 🙄😂

[emma675]

1 hour ago, DangerousMinds said:

I’m in between, I think that’s called an “amibivert.” I can really enjoy being out in crowds, but when I’m done, I’m done. I just turn off and need lots of time to myself. This can be confusing to others but I am also very ADHD and can talk your ear off at times. Sometimes I’m very awkward and self conscious but i can also enjoy dancing and being the center of attention (usually while under the influence of something). But I’ve been fine during the past few years being close to a hermit. I have definitely been happier alone as an adult. It’s not always as clear cut as some may think. 

I'm similar. I can turn the extrovert on and chat away to anyone at parties and in groups but when I'm done and tired, I shut down. And I need lots of time alone to recover from the stimulation. I've done fairly well with quarantine and I've found I miss going out with friends more than I thought I would. But I don't need to be around people or have a significant other with me 24/7. I often wonder if I'll ever get married now that I'm so set in my ways.

[Jeeves]

@Zella, those are good points about some people who are extroverts being good company for introverts, and some not so good at all.

Some of my friends, not that I have a lot of them, lol, are extroverts. But not clods, and they treat me with respect and consideration. I have occasionally had to spend time in the company of clods and it's been hell.

This isn't quite a "clod" story, but awkward. Once, a long time ago, I was at a really nice resort attending a bar association convention. I mean, a place I'd never have paid for but my firm picked up the bill for us to go. On Sunday morning after two long days and evenings of meetings and greetings and dinners (I actually held a bar association office that year), I was happily seated at a table for one in the big dining room at breakfast. I was eating my omelette, sipping my coffee, and reading the Sunday paper. Relaxed and happy as a clam. Then suddenly a hand grabbed my arm, and I was looking up into the completely concerned friendly face of a lovely woman lawyer about my age whom I knew. She was very warm-hearted and was saying oh we can't let you eat alone! You need to come and sit with us, gesturing to a table where sat her hubby and kids, whom I didn't know. I mean, she's a lovely caring person and I liked her a lot - but she just did NOT get that I was happy as a pig in mud having my nice breakfast alone. Which was definitely more pleasant for me than being foisted on her husband and kids like some kind of lonely loser she found on the street and brought home to breakfast. Her action was well intentioned but I was embarrassed. Because she was saying essentially, in front of a good number of the bar association,  "Oh my God, you poor lonely loser, don't worry, we'll save you from your tragic solo breakfast!" She thought she was riding to my rescue. SMH. Awkward indeed. I assured her that I was very happy as I was and was almost done anyway. Thanks but no thanks. And of course after she ruined my breakfast I finished eating and quickly left the dining room instead of having that last cup of coffee. Yes, she was a super extrovert, no surprise, to the point that she could not comprehend that I could be happy and at ease sitting alone at breakfast. It was just beyond her understanding, so she really thought she was trying to rescue me from shame and misery. 

[Love2dance]

This conversation about introverts and extroverts is fascinating to me. I’m learning so much. Not quite sure where I fit in....I think I’m a true mix. Thanks everyone for such a stimulating conversation!

[Jeeves]

5 hours ago, Love2dance said:

This conversation about introverts and extroverts is fascinating to me. I’m learning so much. Not quite sure where I fit in....I think I’m a true mix. Thanks everyone for such a stimulating conversation!

As I understand it, it's really just a matter of where you sit on a line (continuum?) with "pure extrovert" one on end and "total introvert" on the other. I think I started life way over on the "introvert" end of things and have moved toward the middle over the course of. my life. I'm sure a lot of people are pretty much in the middle.

I think that generally speaking, an extrovert is energized by contact with others including large groups. In my nonscientific terms, an extrovert can get squirrely if they go too long without enough human interaction. On the other hand, an introvert will be drained by too much human interaction or socializing, and needs alone time or quiet time to recharge. I am much better at socializing than I used to be, but I still need alone time to recharge and feel mentally and emotionally balanced. 

And, yes, I think most people are neither 100% extroverts or 100% hermits. Most people need some amount of social/human interaction, and also some quiet/alone time. You're probably in some pathological or otherwise mentally ill state if you can absolutely never ever be alone for even a short time, or can not tolerate any personal interaction with another. I don't think, statistically speaking, that those extremes are common. It's more where the preferred balance is for an individual between socializing and quiet/alone time, that illustrates whether they lean toward extraversion or introversion. 

I also think that individual sensitivity to noise, light, and other stimuli would play into this. I doubt that a hypersensitive person would thrive in crowded noisy situations, which I don't think is essentially an introvert/extrovert personality issue, but would appear to influence tolerance for social interactions. 

Edited March 31, 2021 by Jeeves

[Scarlett45]

I think you are 100% @Jeeves, I also think how you are socialized and how you grow up plays a part in this as well. I am certainly on the side of extroversion, but due to my sister's disability I was socialized as an only child- (my Mom was an only child too), so I am very used to doing things alone. Traveling alone, movies alone, dining alone doesn't bother me at all. I love parties, crowds, big groups etc but if I want to do something, "company" isnt a requirement. If I want to do something, I do it. That is one of the benefits of solo travel- you do what you want when you want and you dont have to compromise with anyone.

Also growing up in a major city, I am used to the presence of constant "strangers", I feel far safer and comfortable in a strange city than in the middle of a rural area. I am sure habit and experience plays into that as well as being charged by the energy of the crowd.

[Scarlett45]

I have been going to the hospital every couple of days to visit my great aunt, after several "bad days", yesterday was a "good day"! She was speaking in full sentences, drank half of the Frappuccino I brought her with "It's good." after each small sip 🙂. She then wanted ME to drink it! (I dont like frappucinos, maybe the espresso one on a very hot day with no syrup). She was all smiles and happiness when she saw me. I don't think any being is as happy to see me these days as my great aunt and Cosmo.

Now I am dealing with my cousin (her daughter) to figure out where she will go after discharged, she walked into the hospital but cannot walk now. Save me and give me patience. I know the good days will be further and further a part.

[Mindthinkr]

Ok Ladies. How are you solving this problem? I have my new vaccination card. It’s bigger than my driver’s license, insurance or Medicare cards. Where do I keep it? It doesn’t fit in my wallet and I don’t want it to get frayed around the edges, bent or marred. 
I also don’t want a huge wallet because I don’t carry a large purse. Thx. 

[Jeeves]

1 minute ago, Mindthinkr said:

Ok Ladies. How are you solving this problem? I have my new vaccination card. It’s bigger than my driver’s license, insurance or Medicare cards. Where do I keep it? It doesn’t fit in my wallet and I don’t want it to get frayed around the edges, bent or marred. 
I also don’t want a huge wallet because I don’t carry a large purse. Thx. 

I folded mine in half and put it in my small wallet. I have also taken a photo of it which is on my smartphone. I have heard that Staples and Office Depot (and probably other such businesses) will laminate the cards for free so I may unfold mine and get it laminated, which will make it more awkward to carry of course, and gets us back to your problem. Sigh.

[GeeGolly]

3 minutes ago, Mindthinkr said:

Ok Ladies. How are you solving this problem? I have my new vaccination card. It’s bigger than my driver’s license, insurance or Medicare cards. Where do I keep it? It doesn’t fit in my wallet and I don’t want it to get frayed around the edges, bent or marred. 
I also don’t want a huge wallet because I don’t carry a large purse. Thx. 

Make a copy of it at reduced size. If you want to get extra fancy, laminate both copies. I also have a photo of mine and my husband's on my phone.

[Mindthinkr]

Mine has room to add booster vaccines so I can’t get it laminated. I guess I could get a copy and have that laminated 💡💡💡

[SunnyBeBe]

53 minutes ago, Jeeves said:

I folded mine in half and put it in my small wallet. I have also taken a photo of it which is on my smartphone. I have heard that Staples and Office Depot (and probably other such businesses) will laminate the cards for free so I may unfold mine and get it laminated, which will make it more awkward to carry of course, and gets us back to your problem. Sigh.

I just read on local tv site warning about laminating due to it causing the ink to smudge. Idk. Doubt I’ll risk it.  It suggested to put card  into a slide-in plastic cover. I’ve seen a few advertised online.  

This pandemic has taken away my live concerts. I can’t describe what live music provides me.  I love the crowd, dancing, meeting new people, singing along...just my thing, though I need downtime too. It’s like going to church for me.  I’m not sure if that’s why I have felt so off lately or not.  A lot has happened since covid hit....people dying, missing friends and family, work routine changed, too. I am great at entertaining myself.....but this has gotten to be ridiculous!  Lol I’m looking forward to my first live concert since the pandemic in a couple of weeks AND I’m spending the night with a good friend afterwards, since the venue is about an hour away and she lives nearby.  (Seats are divided into pods and socially distanced.) She is also fully vaxed and very covid safety savvy, so I think it’ll be ok.   I hope this is what I need. 
 

Did anyone watch SNL Saturday?  Omg...love Maya Rudolph.  The skit is about the vaccine. No offense to anyone due to age. I just thought it was funny. ..........I decided to remove link since the clip has a political comment. But you can check it out on you tube. SNL Boomers Got The Vax. 

Edited March 31, 2021 by SunnyBeBe

[doodlebug]

58 minutes ago, Mindthinkr said:

Ok Ladies. How are you solving this problem? I have my new vaccination card. It’s bigger than my driver’s license, insurance or Medicare cards. Where do I keep it? It doesn’t fit in my wallet and I don’t want it to get frayed around the edges, bent or marred. 
I also don’t want a huge wallet because I don’t carry a large purse. Thx. 

I took a picture of mine and it's in my phone.  The actual card is lying in the 'in-box' on my desk at work and I made a copy which I keep at home with various important papers.

2 hours ago, Scarlett45 said:

I have been going to the hospital every couple of days to visit my great aunt, after several "bad days", yesterday was a "good day"! She was speaking in full sentences, drank half of the Frappuccino I brought her with "It's good." after each small sip 🙂. She then wanted ME to drink it! (I dont like frappucinos, maybe the espresso one on a very hot day with no syrup). She was all smiles and happiness when she saw me. I don't think any being is as happy to see me these days as my great aunt and Cosmo.

 

Ahh, Scarlett, you've finally come over to the dark side with the rest of us dog lovers!  You will never have anyone in your life who will be as delighted in your presence as Cosmo.  Dogs love you even if you run out of dog food and are forced to give them string cheese instead of a real meal.  They love you even after you bathe them or take them to the vet for shots.  They still love you right after you've scolded them for chewing up your shoe. 

And, they are the best greeters ever.  When I get home from work, they're both at the door, tails wagging, doggie smiles on their faces.  The older one stands there basking in love as I greet her and pet her.  The little guy runs to his toy basket and grabs a squeak toy, usually his skunk, but sometimes a squirrel or dog.  He then runs in circles squeaking and squeaking his toy to let the whole world know I am home.  It's a virtual parade every day.

Edited March 31, 2021 by doodlebug

[iwantcookies]

7 minutes ago, SunnyBeBe said:

I just read on local tv site warning about laminating due to it causing the ink to smudge. Idk. Doubt I’ll risk it.  It suggested to put card  into a slide-in plastic cover. I’ve seen a few advertised online.  

This pandemic has taken away my live concerts. I can’t describe what live music provides me.  I love the crowd, dancing, meeting new people, singing along...just my thing, though I need downtime too. It’s like going to church for me.  I’m not sure if that’s why I have felt so off lately or not.  A lot has happened since covid hit....people dying, missing friends and family, work routine changed, too. I am great at entertaining myself.....but this has gotten to be ridiculous!  Lol I’m looking forward to my first live concert since the pandemic in a couple of weeks AND I’m spending the night with a good friend afterwards, since the venue is about an hour away and she lives nearby.  (Seats are divided into pods and socially distanced.) She is also fully vaxed and very covid safety savvy, so I think it’ll be ok.   I hope this is what I need. 
 

Did anyone watch SNL Saturday?  Omg...love Mia Rudolph.  The skit is about the vaccine. No offense to anyone due to age. I just thought it was funny. 

 

It’s Maya not Mia 

[SunnyBeBe]

2 minutes ago, iwantcookies said:

It’s Maya not Mia 

Thanks!

[Scarlett45]

58 minutes ago, doodlebug said:

Ahh, Scarlett, you've finally come over to the dark side with the rest of us dog lovers!  You will never have anyone in your life who will be as delighted in your presence as Cosmo.  Dogs love you even if you run out of dog food and are forced to give them string cheese instead of a real meal.  They love you even after you bathe them or take them to the vet for shots.  They still love you right after you've scolded them for chewing up your shoe. 

I am researching some places I can take him weekend mornings before I have to take care of my sister, now that the weather is getting warmer. There is an outdoor cafe near by where we may go and I will have coffee and a chocolate hazelnut croissant (they are to to die for, and I know Cosmo cannot eat that). He is pretty agreeable to most things, but he is a bit reactive to other big dogs on leash. Very small dogs he is fine with so long as they dont start it first!

OH, I met the owner of the cocker spaniel in my neighborhood who is "coat goals", her coat is SO SHINNY, bronze like a new PENNY. A few more months of skin supplements and a grooming appointment and Cosmo will get here.

Did I tell you guys I was able to make contact with my godmother's old vet/boarding facility (finally, I had been calling them and no answer)? The receptionist was so sad! She said she noticed they were boarding him a LOT in the fall, and then not at all but didnt want to ask, and they didn't know she was sick (she didnt want people to know), but that she loved Cosmo very much and she was very sure that he was in good hands with me. I am glad I could tell them so they wouldnt be calling her cell in the spring with appt reminders. I made a new file there in case I need to board him (I do not intend to board him, but just in case).

[Jeanne222]

Yes a dog's love is unconditional.  They love you no matter what!  Make a gray day sunny.

So yesterday was my annual doctor's appt.  I take a Xanax for anxiety.  Have taken the mild dose for years.  It's required I see the doctor for a new prescription.

I have nothing wrong and before I saw the doctor   lots of paperwork by the nurse!  Lordy they are always looking for something!

One of the forms was questions about depression!  Do I sleep well?  Do I eat aimlessly?  Do I snap and get angry!  I just said no to everything but it's been on my mind that I do some of those things occasionally.  I do tend to graze.  Hubby drives me nuts with napping all day and microwaving all night.  That disturbs my sleep.

So happy, good natured me has been pondering all day am I depressed?    

Edited March 31, 2021 by Jeanne222

[Leeds]

 

 

 

19 hours ago, thehorseofpower said:

I do border on hermit in my tendencies, honestly...so being married and having kids helps me to not devolve completely into a hairy ranting forest dweller, as I feel this could be possible if I was left entirely to my own devices. 🤣

Maybe it's that many introverts are fine with one on one or small groups and tend to desire a small number of deep relationships over a large number of acquaintances, which does fit with marriage and/or children. I tend to be this way.

However, I took a personality test at work once, and my results said "You require a lot of time alone to be happy. If you have children, it would be best for you to purposely schedule time away from them on a regular basis." I kid you not, those were the exact words. It was a strange test!

I also told my husband after we got married that our relationship would probably be better if he would go to his parents' or a friend's house for the weekend every month or so. He found this a bit bewildering, but he did do it fairly regularly until the kids came along. 😊

A therapist my ex husband and I saw together suggested this but his ego couldn't handle me perhaps getting some benefit/pleasure from time away from him.  Of course, if he was the one wanting time away, it was a great idea.

19 hours ago, Zella said:

When I was at COFO, they were super into the Enneagram tests that Jill loves. I scored as a 5. And there was some literature that warned that unhealthy 5s descend into "eccentricity, nihilism, and isolation." Honestly, none of those seemed that bad to me! LOLOLOL 

What's COFO?

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[Zella]

11 minutes ago, Leeds said:

 

What's COFO?

College of the Ozarks. As Urban Dictionary defines it, "A school in the middle of nowhere that provides a free college education for the price of your soul and former identity."

[beckie]

When I was younger, I thought I might become a hermit. I don't like people.  I know that sounds awful but I don't.  I have to get used to them. Its easier for me to communicate online than actually talking on the phone or in person. 

[DangerousMinds]

2 hours ago, Mindthinkr said:

Ok Ladies. How are you solving this problem? I have my new vaccination card. It’s bigger than my driver’s license, insurance or Medicare cards. Where do I keep it? It doesn’t fit in my wallet and I don’t want it to get frayed around the edges, bent or marred. 
I also don’t want a huge wallet because I don’t carry a large purse. Thx. 

Imma pin mine to my shirt and keep wearing my mask just to trigger the anti maskers! 😆 /jk

[DangerousMinds]

1 hour ago, SunnyBeBe said:

I just read on local tv site warning about laminating due to it causing the ink to smudge. Idk. Doubt I’ll risk it.  It suggested to put card  into a slide-in plastic cover. I’ve seen a few advertised online.  

This pandemic has taken away my live concerts. I can’t describe what live music provides me.  I love the crowd, dancing, meeting new people, singing along...just my thing, though I need downtime too. It’s like going to church for me.  I’m not sure if that’s why I have felt so off lately or not.  A lot has happened since covid hit....people dying, missing friends and family, work routine changed, too. I am great at entertaining myself.....but this has gotten to be ridiculous!  Lol I’m looking forward to my first live concert since the pandemic in a couple of weeks AND I’m spending the night with a good friend afterwards, since the venue is about an hour away and she lives nearby.  (Seats are divided into pods and socially distanced.) She is also fully vaxed and very covid safety savvy, so I think it’ll be ok.   I hope this is what I need. 
 

Did anyone watch SNL Saturday?  Omg...love Maya Rudolph.  The skit is about the vaccine. No offense to anyone due to age. I just thought it was funny. ..........I decided to remove link since the clip has a political comment. But you can check it out on you tube. SNL Boomers Got The Vax. 

I’m like you. Despite some of my introvert tendencies, music has been the most important thing in my life and I’ve been going to live shows since I was 15. Wayyyy too much of my life spent in bars and clubs seeing bands! Far fewer in recent years, though. I will be happy to see my next show, whenever that happens. And yes, I also saw the SNL skit and laughed so hard! maya Rudolph is brilliant!

[DangerousMinds]

46 minutes ago, Jeanne222 said:

Yes a dog's love is unconditional.  They love you no matter what!  Make a gray day sunny.

So yesterday was my annual doctor's appt.  I take a Xanax for anxiety.  Have taken the mild dose for years.  It's required I see the doctor for a new prescription.

I have nothing wrong and before I saw the doctor   lots of paperwork by the nurse!  Lordy they are always looking for something!

One of the forms was questions about depression!  Do I sleep well?  Do I eat aimlessly?  Do I snap and get angry!  I just said no to everything but it's been on my mind that I do some of those things occasionally.  I do tend to graze.  Hubby drives me nuts with napping all day and microwaving all night.  That disturbs my sleep.

So happy, good natured me has been pondering all day am I depressed?    

I take antidepressants and small amounts of Xanax and I STILL do most of those things. No, I don’t think sometimes eating aimlessly and sometimes getting angry and snapping mean you’re depressed. If you start “snapping” more than usual, though, it’s worth thinking about why. But still completely normal. 

Edited March 31, 2021 by DangerousMinds

[GeeGolly]

I'm guessing the questionnaire was a PHQ9. It asks if one has seen an increase in specific symptoms in the last two weeks.

Edited March 31, 2021 by GeeGolly

[Suzn]

Reporting in on the Introvert/Extrovert scale:  I am definitely an introvert and still more than a little shy (definitely not the same characteristics).  I don't need a lot of human contact and the isolation of working at home and the pandemic haven't been too difficult in general.  There are some things I miss, but I'm OK with not doing them for a while.  My daughter lives with me and she is also an introvert and we talk in varying amounts every day, but go long periods doing our own things.  I don't like events with lots of people, but can enjoy small groups of people I am comfortable with and like one on one best.  There are some extroverts that seem to bring out the latent extrovert in me, which works best if there is alcohol included.  My best friend is a co-worker and we usually have a very long phone call or Teams meeting call about once a week.

[Jeanne222]

2 hours ago, DangerousMinds said:

I take antidepressants and small amounts of Xanax and I STILL do most of those things. No, I don’t think sometimes eating aimlessly and sometimes getting angry and snapping mean you’re depressed. If you start “snapping” more than usual, though, it’s worth thinking about why. But still completely normal. 

It's common, I think, that the power of suggestion makes us overthink things.    I know of several people that have had to go on medication for depression this last year.  It's been hard on a lot of people.  I hope getting back to 'normal' will make everybody feel better.

Thank YOU for your reply. 

[Jeanne222]

1 hour ago, GeeGolly said:

I'm guessing the questionnaire was a PHQ9. It asks if one has seen an increase in specific symptoms in the last two weeks.

Nurse was asking me a ton of questions.  Even asked me to verify my name and birthdate.  She said at the beginning there would be a lot of questions and forms to fill out due to them going paperless. 

I'm kind of wondering if this particular one was due to covid and so many feeling bad. 

I only see my doctor once a year so I guess things change.

[SunnyBeBe]

Has anyone ever used Libre Office?  I read it helps manage documents.  I struggle with format a lot with Word documents.  It’s so frustrating.  

[doodlebug]

24 minutes ago, Jeanne222 said:

Nurse was asking me a ton of questions.  Even asked me to verify my name and birthdate.  She said at the beginning there would be a lot of questions and forms to fill out due to them going paperless. 

I'm kind of wondering if this particular one was due to covid and so many feeling bad. 

I only see my doctor once a year so I guess things change.

It is a Medicare rule that every patient be verified by two identifiers; most of us use name and birthdate.  Even if both are already on the records/in your chart; we're required to ask.  I was once at a seminar my employers set up to educate us as to HIPPA and various other rules.  When we were told about the identifiers, I mentioned that I had been in practice more than 30 years, had patients who had been seeing me almost that long and whose kids I'd delivered and who I'd literally interacted with 100 or more times.  I knew them by sight and could summon up their name from memory when I ran into them at Target or the county fair  or whatever.  Didn't that count as one of the identifiers?  No, no it doesn't.  

The pandemic has done a real number on everyone's mental health.  People who were already depressed got worse.  People who had never been depressed started exhibiting symptoms.  IMO, it is a very good thing that your doc is screening for it.  Hint: if you have to wonder whether you're depressed or not; you're not.

I'm an introvert who also loves music.  I have an extroverted sister who would go out to see a band every night of the week while I am less enthused than that.  Last weekend a friend celebrated her 50th and had a Van Halen cover band playing.  The lead singer is a friend of hers and they aren't doing many gigs these days, so he offered their services as her birthday present.  She arranged a room at the local Eagles lodge and there were maybe 30 of us there, most of us already vaccinated and it was heaven on earth.  I'd almost forgotten how great it is to hear live music.  Good news for the band: the management at the Eagles lodge liked what they heard and offered them a paying gig at their outdoor venue this summer.  A win-win!

Edited March 31, 2021 by doodlebug

[peppergal]

2 minutes ago, SunnyBeBe said:

Has anyone ever used Libre Office?  I read it helps manage documents.  I struggle with format a lot with Word documents.  It’s so frustrating.  

I mostly used it's predecessor OpenOffice, but I've used Libre a little bit.  I didn't see a lot of difference between it and MS Office from a general user perspective.   Some of the macro and high end stuff is a bit different and documents created in one product might look slightly different when opened in the other.  Since my employer kept switching between "We won't pay MS, use the open source version" and "We should pay for the support for the real thing"  we got really good at figuring out which save formats were most likely to work well on both office suites.

[SunnyBeBe]

9 minutes ago, peppergal said:

I mostly used it's predecessor OpenOffice, but I've used Libre a little bit.  I didn't see a lot of difference between it and MS Office from a general user perspective.   Some of the macro and high end stuff is a bit different and documents created in one product might look slightly different when opened in the other.  Since my employer kept switching between "We won't pay MS, use the open source version" and "We should pay for the support for the real thing"  we got really good at figuring out which save formats were most likely to work well on both office suites.

I see.  I just have to fight format so much.  Why must this be so difficult?  It must be me, because I email it to my paralegal and she fixes it and returns it in good form.  She’s vague about how she does it.  Pretty smart of her. 

[Ohiopirate02]

2 minutes ago, SunnyBeBe said:

I see.  I just have to fight format so much.  Why must this be so difficult?  It must be me, because I email it to my paralegal and she fixes it and returns it in good form.  She’s vague about how she does it.  Pretty smart of her. 

I think formatting is something you either innately get or you don't.  I am not one who gets it and struggle.  It's fun at my job when people think because I'm a librarian I can fix their formatting on any Microsoft program, and I cannot.  I sneak into my office and Google how to do something and pray it works.

[Mindthinkr]

 

3 hours ago, DangerousMinds said:

Imma pin mine to my shirt and keep wearing my mask just to trigger the anti maskers! 😆 /jk

I should add that I was given a button for that very same reason 😂 

[Nysha]

2 hours ago, Suzn said:

Reporting in on the Introvert/Extrovert scale:  I am definitely an introvert and still more than a little shy (definitely not the same characteristics).  I don't need a lot of human contact and the isolation of working at home and the pandemic haven't been too difficult in general.  There are some things I miss, but I'm OK with not doing them for a while.  My daughter lives with me and she is also an introvert and we talk in varying amounts every day, but go long periods doing our own things.  I don't like events with lots of people, but can enjoy small groups of people I am comfortable with and like one on one best.  There are some extroverts that seem to bring out the latent extrovert in me, which works best if there is alcohol included.  My best friend is a co-worker and we usually have a very long phone call or Teams meeting call about once a week.

This sounds a lot like my life. I am extremely introverted and shy as is my son who lives with me. I work at a college and interact with people all day so when I get home I usually lock the door and keep the curtains closed so nobody can bug me. My cell phone message is basically "hang up and text me 'cause I don't check these messages." Thankfully, my best friend lives next door and is an extrovert so any time I want human interaction I can visit her.

The last time I went on vacation I spent 5 days at a casino in Idaho all by myself. It was heavenly to do whatever I wanted, whenever I wanted. It was during the off season so there weren't a lot of guests and I generally had the pool by myself, the restaurants were never crowded, and the staff was extra attentive and willing to chat a bit so I could get my people-fix.