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  1. That was my thought too. I didn't spend much time with the photos but as noted, it's not what I'd consider a "custom" kitchen. And all that cr@p that's "decorating" every. cubic. inch. of the place? Makes me squirmy. Ick.
  2. @Oldernowiser. I'm so sorry for your loss.
  3. It's all pure spec here, lol, since I'm older than their mothers and can't stand fundies. But, I couldn't stand being in the same room with Jeremy for ten minutes and I'd pick Derick over him in a heartbeat if those were the choices in a spousal lottery and the alternative was a slow and painful death. I agree with the comments above that Derick isn't choosing Jill's clothes or hanging over her shoulder every time she posts on SM. In fact, ever since he started law school, until COVID anyway, he's been outta the house all day M-F at least. Either at school or his summer internships or even delivering freakin' GrubHub. Jill, as we all remember, started her married life as a Stage IV (or V?) Clinger. Now she manages to care for her kids and house all day long without another adult present. She goes to the store without her husband or a sibling along. That's HUGE for somebody raised in the TTH. HUUUGGGE! She has friends who aren't relatives or Gothardites or fundies. That's also a change from her life before marriage. The Dillards' journey through life during their relatively short marriage has been messy, with career changes, the shock that Jill didn't effortlessly pump out babies, extended family issues, and all played out very publicly. We've seen Jill being the Clinger and Derick acting like a jerkwad. We've also seen, IMO, Derick acting as a caring and responsible husband who (somehow) bought and moved his family into a regular middle-class starter tract house in a regular middle-class starter subdivision, while he turned his career direction from the ministry to law school. No camera crews in the house, no hanging out with the in-laws at the TTH every day, no reality TV show governing the pattern of their activities, no daily kowtowing to the Almighty James Robert Duggar, King of the Tribe, Blessed Be His Name. Derick wasn't reared in fundie-land; he's a mainstream Arkansas Southern Baptist guy who went to college and the movies and didn't wear full length bluejeans to swim in or have to take an accountability partner to leave the hosue. After his flirtation with the fundie world and Duggar-land, he's back to where he came from and Jill's there with him. I hope she is indeed in therapy and I hope she's enjoying her life. We've seen her make mistakes but there's something sweet about her IMO. She's trying, she's branching out, and I hope she is in therapy and that it's helping her. While Derick's back where he came from, she's in new territory in many ways. Meanwhile Jinger's swapped one dominating headship for another. She looks well-dressed and lives in a VERY nice house, and I hope she and the Rev have nice hot satisfying sex, and that he isn't mean to her when they're alone. I hope she has another uncomplicated delivery of a healthy baby, and enjoys her children. But IMO she's married to a guy who's a mediocre preacher and seems awfully full of himself. So far he seems to have coasted along on life by grabbing onto the coattails of older influential men. His dad's connections got him his starter church in Laredo, which he spent minimal energy on as soon as he latched onto JB Duggar's daughter and JB Duggar's TV show. Without cutting ties with the Duggar pot o' gold, he hopped onto MacArthur's gravy train. I don't know. Connections can get you in the door, but at some point you have to show them what you've got. So far, what Jeremy's got is a lot of ambition, expensive tastes, and a wife with a million SM followers. Talent, discipline, work ethic? Not so much in evidence, IMO.
  4. I didn't say - or imply - that you must be a professional to have an opinion. I merely asked for the basis of the sweeping statement, "Every patient with WLS immediately looks 30 years older." I've known a couple of people in IRL who've had WLS. Those people didn't "immediately look 30 years older." In fact, they didn't look older at all, and after their rest and recovery period they looked just fine. Nor IMO did the participants on M600PL "immediately look 30 years older." This appears to be an issue on which our opinions differ. Which is fine.
  5. Hi, @Happyfatchick! Good to see you back. @sixlets I am so sorry for your sh*tty day of pain and I hope today is better for you. I also feel like I'm losing my mind sometimes. What's saving it for now is that I've been working a temp assignment since February, mostly at home at first and 100% at home since mid-March. Keeps me occupied during regular biz hours M-F at the computer, and the extra money is much appreciated. This weekend, Saturday *and* Sunday, I hopped in the minivan and drove to a state park about 45 minutes from here. I'd never been to it and there was a history-related event there. Outdoors under a picnic shelter, everybody masked and it wasn't crowded. The park has great trails and scenery but by the time I got there Saturday it was too hot for me to explore much of the trails, since I wasn't dressed for hiking in the heat. So, yesterday (Sunday) I got up early and got to the park early before the heat, and did a total of 2.5 miles on one of the trails. I'd judged it pretty well but the last bit of it, I wished I'd worn crop pants instead of long pants, as the day had warmed up. TBH some of the terrain proved a bit of a challenge to my old overweight bod, especially the increase in elevation during the final part. But I took it easy and felt very accomplished that I did it. In a few minutes I'll get dressed and go walk at least a mile in a nice city park nearby. I've been doing that several mornings for the last couple of weeks, and I feel better during the day when I've had my walk. There are people around but it's not mobbed or anything, and plenty of masks in evidence including mine. Where I have to keep my mind from going all "Catastrophe ahead!!" on me, is thinking about winter. I freaking hate cold weather, snow, and ice. I have a circulatory condition (Raynaud's), fortunately rather mild, but still it means that no matter how well I bundle up, my hands and feet become painful after a few minutes outdoors when it's cold. And I'm subject to frostbite in relatively mild conditions. No nice outdoor walks for me here in the winter. However, I have August and September, and most of October, in which to enjoy my outdoor walks. And, I'm hatching plans to get out of here and go somewhere warm for at least January and February. It has to do with the old minivan I bought. My first two-night camping trip in it (to a state park 4 hours from here) is coming up in a couple of weeks. I hope that I like the experience, and hope to do more little trips like that in the next few months. Both as a nice break from sitting at home, and as practice to fine-tune my setup and learn from experience. Because I'd love to figure out an itinerary, probably AZ and NM, for camping in the van on extended road trips in January and February. I'd assumed that the second row seats in the minivan would be too heavy for me to remove unassisted. Well, hallelujah! I managed to do that myself; got them out and stored away. May need help to replace them if I ever want to do that. I'm planning to pay a mechanic to do the tricky job of removing the third row seats. They are permanently installed but I want them gone. They fold flat but if they aren't there, there's a nice sized storage area I can make use of. So between messing with my old minivan and poking my nose outdoors more often, and working, and talking to people on the phone, I'm hanging onto my so-called sanity. But damn, I have relatives in Houston who've had COVID, and cancer, and I can't go see them. I have good friends here who are in bad health and have basically (and prudently) self-quarantined, and I haven't seen them for months now. All of that hurts my heart.
  6. What's the basis for this statement? Your experience as a professional treating WLS patients? Your personal knowledge? People you've seen on TV?
  7. +1 to all that, but especially about the poor cat literally being eaten to death by fleas. I think my jaw dropped when Dr. Pol diagnosed that. All I could think was, geez lady you're all weeping for the TV cameras about how much you love your "baby." But you couldn't give the cat a simple pill or topical treatment once a freaking month? Where I live the topical treatments are now OTC, FFS. Just buy 'em at Walmart and keep your pets safe. I was tired after a day when I got to go outdoors (yay) so last night's episodes sort of blurred together. It was nice to see a few scenes where owners brought in healthy litters of puppies for their first checkups and shots. Helped to balance out the cases of neglect. I was impressed by the efforts of the family whose dog got loose and was hit by a car. I'm sure that set of wheels they got for him wasn't cheap, and I'm also sure that the special care needed for his recovery has to take a lot of time and effort. I hope his nerve damage continued to heal.
  8. Oh, it wasn't actual tableware, just mostly small vases, etc., that wouldn't even be visible from the third row, lol. I'm sure the charity store shoppers had a good time with them. And thank goodness I've never been the least bit interested in owning "good china" or "real" silverware. I've bought nice dinnerware (but not fine china) over the years, and as my tastes changed I was able to replace it a few times. I didn't keep the old stuff. I sold a few serving pieces on eBay and gave the rest away. My current dishes are plain white Corelle and my flatware is good quality Oneida stainless. I was something of a shopaholic in decades gone by. If I got into something (clothing, tchotchkes, dishes, whatever), I would just keep buying past the point where I needed or could really use it. I had a fling with Fiestaware, but man that stuff is big and heavy. A friend who loves that stuff was the beneficiary of my replacing it with simple white dishes. These days I'm less hot to buy things and more prone to spending a day having a good clear-out. There's a stack of stuff sitting in my bedroom waiting to be taken to donate to a charity thrift shop, come to think of it.
  9. Your experience reflects what I've read about the current value of china, crystal glassware, etc. - it ain't what it used to be. A few years ago I saw an episode of Antiques Roadshow on PBS, where they showed items that had been appraised on the show years before, and then did current appraisals. It was crazy; so many things had fallen in value, significantly. In a small way I saw that a few years ago. Back in the 80's and early 90's I'd acquired some "Depression" decorative glass, which had been stored in boxes for years. So, I thought I'd clear out some excess, and sell all but a couple of pieces on eBay. Holy smokes, no way! A few minutes looking at listings, prices of actual sales, and calculating the fees I'd pay? Prompted a huge donation of most of that stuff. OTOH as I was going through those storage boxes I found one with some old electronics I'd tossed in when I retired from my full time job and brought them home from the office with no need to use them at home. An old trackball sold in like ten minutes for nearly $100. Go figure. (It was a discontinued Microsoft model that apparently is still very popular among some people.)
  10. Let's not forget the rodents and roaches! (ETA to clarify that I inserted the extra bolded stuff.) And I often just SMH at the apparently super robust immune systems of the hoarders who make it onto these TV shows. Living in filth and yet not deathly physically sick. I wonder if less robust hoarders of the filthy sort, do get sick and die from the filth they live in, and we just don't hear about them. Every time some hoarder on one of these shows is just stubbornly in denial that a rat-excrement-coated item is ruined, I really wonder how they are still alive. Those hoarders came to mind when I watched part of a medical documentary show the other day. One of the stories was about a hardworking young man (married, with kids) who decided to earn some extra money by doing woodworking, a hobby he was really good at. He cleaned out the basement of their house to set up a proper workshop; tragically he swept up a lot of rodent droppings and the dust from those droppings gave him a fatal case of hantavirus. So fecking unfair. Nice guy cleans up his basement and dies; arsehole sicko hoarders live amid rat droppings for years and are not sick. (ETA to add, yes I know there are just a handful of rodent species that are associated with hantavirus. Thank goodness it's not all, or even most, varieties of rats and mice, or lots more people would get hantavirus. But you can get other diseases besides hantavirus from those droppings. Urgh.)
  11. I hear ya. I'm climbing out of the pit of comfort food eating, after falling into it for a few months this spring. Lately I've been able to get in a walk of at least a mile, usually more, at a nearby park, in the early morning three or four days a week. That really helps although TBH it's a pain to get all dressed etc. that early. (I'm happy to be WAH but that also controls my weekdays so I have to fit things in around regular "office" hours.) I swear, I'm a happy introvert, but dammit I'm not a hermit. Living alone in a condo is basically a fine situation for me, but I'm hitting a wall with the isolation. My walks and other outings plus contact with friends and family, and the hours I work with a nice team though it's online, have become crucial to save my alleged sanity. (And I'm masked to even leave my own condo; I have to go through shared hallways, elevator lobbies, garage, etc., just to get outdoors or to my car or to my mailbox.) Early last Saturday morning, I hopped in my old minivan and just drove; visited a town north of here that I'd never been to in all my years living in this state. Just for the hell of it. By the time I got there it was mid-morning, I was hungry, and I found a coffee shop advertising that it served coffee with a side of snark. I HAD to go in! Glad I did. I got good coffee and a no carb breakfast, it wasn't deserted but not at all crowded, the tables were nicely distanced, people had masks on unless eating/drinking. And, to add some lulz to the experience, there was this fabulous message on the wall: And, @Ralphster, I'm sorry for your troubles. Welcome to the discussions.
  12. I don't have the time or energy to go far down the rabbit hole of the BRF's finances for myself, so I'm following this discussion with interest. One issue that was involved in Edward VIII's abdication: money. I found a quick tabloid take on how the BRF bought him out; not sure how it really relates to H&M but their leave-taking was a good opportunity for a clickbait story. The lovesick Edward VIII wasn't too distracted to take his family for all the ££££££ he could grab before he handed over the Crown. I remember reading about the financial settlement(s) in a book, it may have been Princes at War (good one, recommended). Edward lied and grossly minimized the value of his personal wealth when negotiating with his family over his allowance - detailed in the article I linked to. I remember reading about this, which the article touches on: King George VI had to buy out his brother’s interest in the Balmoral and Sandringham estates, which were Edward’s personal property and not the Sovereign’s possessions. I believe that cost George VI a significant amount, not just a little blip in his finances. His widow carried on about it for the rest of her long life, as if they'd been impoverished by it, although that wasn't the case. That's made me idly wonder if Balmoral and Sandringham are now the Queen's personal property, or if some other arrangement has been made. Obviously the Abdication has resonated with HM her whole life in many ways, and I wonder if it's affected how she's managed her personal assets. She must have been aware that keeping Balmoral and Sandringham cost her father heavily if her mother kept going on and on about it for nearly 70 years.
  13. Also true of Prince Edward, Earl of Wessex. [ETA: Well, not the pervert thing!!] He made some attempts at a (non-Royal, non-military) career earlier in life, which didn't turn out well. AFAIK he's again a working Royal, and has assumed many duties once performed by his father. I doubt he has accumulated much personal wealth but it's possible his savvy wife has managed their finances so that they do have a little stashed away. OTOH he has nothing like the PoW's properties and wealth.
  14. On another thread someone shared that JB is going to speak at the Big Sandy COVID festival. The blurb they shared says that "God is at work" in the Duggar household. Well I suppose it's a good thing somebody besides Jana is at work there.
  15. I never followed Dave Ramsey's program but I did read a bit about it, nearly 20 years ago. At that time I did get involved with the "Debt-Proof Living" program of Mary Hunt - http://www.debtproofliving.com/ - and it helped me gain better control (not perfect by any means) of my personal finances. The last time I read any of her stuff, Hunt was a devout Christian, not sure if she's evangelical, don't think she was fundie. For a few years I had a paid membership to the Debt Proof Living website and, don't laugh, but actually made some IRL connections with folks that continue to this day. There was definitely a Christian/conservative atmosphere on the forums but at least back then it wasn't jammed down your throat. I have no clue what it's like today. Hunt was at the time living a mainstream sort of life, though, no fundie Quiverfull sh*t for sure. IIRC Hunt's system of getting out of debt was less arbitrary than Ramsey's stuff. For instance Ramsey says you should have an emergency fund of exactly $1000. Hunt IIRC taught people to figure out things like that based on their own circumstances. But IMO in this era of conspicuous consumption, so many people don't reach adulthood with an understanding of debt, savings, budgeting, etc., that any fairly sensible system aimed at paying down/off debt and being a good steward of your personal finances, isn't to be scoffed at. Ramsey's obnoxious and I wouldn't pay a dime to follow him but I think you can glean enough of his system from online sources and maybe buying a book, to figure things out for yourself. ETA @BetyBee - I was writing while you were posting, so you've confirmed what I was thinking, and good for you for getting out of debt! (I sometimes think about how ignorant people can be about their finances, when I'm watching yet another true crime TV show or reading about a murder in the news - and the story involves people who looked prosperous but were over their heads in debt from living beyond their means. I've also idly wondered how Ramsey's "cut your living costs to the bone to pay off your debt and save up for the future" message resonates in some of the megachurches where he probably speaks. Churches which I'm sure lean really hard on their members to tithe generously. Does Ramsey incorporate a 10% "tithing" item into his program? Hmm. .. )
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