Jessa, Ben and Their Brood: Making a (Diaper) Mountain out of a Mold House

[Sew Sumi]

The books are probably required reading for whatever school he's doing. I find it easier to highlight hard copy books for future reference than a Kindle. But he's a millennial; highlighting Kindle books shouldn't be an issue. 

Or maybe these books aren't available on Kindle?

Edited November 2, 2017 by Sew Sumi

[ariel]

1 hour ago, Arwen Evenstar said:

Were they even allowed to watch Gilligan’s Island?

I don't think so.  Ginger (spelled with a G) was quite the hussy in gowns she wore.

[floridamom]

No way would MaryAnn's Daisy Duke shorts with high heels be allowed  either.

[SMama]

But if the books are in his kindle he can’t display them. Bin is a follower, Jeremy has lots of books, Bin will have lots of books. Neither can comprehend what they are reading, but BOOKS!

[Churchhoney]

1 hour ago, DangerousMinds said:

She is Jes now? Since when?

When is it EVER appropriate to hire a ghost writer to write your personal anniversary note to your spouse?? Beyond pathetic and desperate.

Well, maybe it isn't a ghostwriter. Maybe those who actually realize that they're not great writers just as Grandma to help them compose and polish their stuff. Clearly JB and M don't generally do this -- but I can see Jessa doing that. 

47 minutes ago, DangerousMinds said:

Bin is buying all kinds of books on Amazon? Wouldn't it make more sense to buy Kindle versions if you live in a small home?

Well, a lot of nonfiction, particularly of the academic type or stuff that has only a small market, isn't on Kindle. Or the Kindle price is, like, $39 while you can get a used hardback or paper version for a couple of bucks plus shipping. ... 

Plus, while I love my Kindle, I don't know about Bin but I find e-books crummy if you're actually trying to use them for study or for a research project. You can't mark them up nearly as easily as you can mark a hard-copy book (and even the millennials I know say that) . And it's way harder to find the things you've bookmarked on Kindle than it is to find the post-it note you stuck in the hard copy. The indexes in Kindle books tend to be awkward to use, too. 

Edited November 2, 2017 by Churchhoney

[Madtown]

4 hours ago, bythelake said:

Happy Birthday to Mr. M. Mine was yesterday, and not one of my family chose to post a flowery message to me on social media, thank heavens. I got beautiful cards, and dinner out but the best part was that my granddaughter spent over 6 hrs on a bus and train to come home from college to surprise me. She has to do the return trip tomorrow. Now, that's love.

Thank you and Happy Birthday to you! What a wonderful surprise from your granddaughter! That beats a mushy novel for all of social media to see! Benessa could take a lesson from the wonderful birthday you had!

[Abmis]

So we're supposed to believe someone in that household irons?  Sorry Jes, we've seen your clothes.

[bythelake]

1 hour ago, Madtown said:

Thank you and Happy Birthday to you! What a wonderful surprise from your granddaughter! That beats a mushy novel for all of social media to see! Benessa could take a lesson from the wonderful birthday you had!

Thanks. It was good to see her after 2 months.  Can't wait to see Ben's reply to Jessa!  I think Jessa knows that the leghumpers love this stuff, and it's all an attempt to market the brand. So immature.

[GeeGolly]

9 hours ago, Churchhoney said:

Obviously, Bin has learned to sleep on his knees, leaning against the side of a bed. Pretty clever, Bin. More than I would have given you credit for. 

Don't give him too much credit. The bed is covered with clean unfolded clothes. He probably thought kneeling against was his only option.

[cmr2014]

Jessa's message to Ben is sad.

It smacks so loudly of "trying too hard" that I'm embarrassed for her. I don't see any reason to doubt that she wrote it because it's pretty illiterate -- I think it was proof-read, though, to get all the commas and quotation marks in there correctly. It meanders all over the place, almost every sentence is its own paragraph, and the verb tenses flip-flop from paragraph to paragraph. It looks very much like it came from a Gothard marriage booklet template because the format is exactly the same as JB and J'chelle's "heartfelt" birthday messages.

The saddest thing for me, though, is that if Jessa had written this on an actual sheet of paper and tucked it in Ben's sock drawer, he would have been blown away. He would have cherished this dumb note and saved it for the rest of his life. She knows that, too,because he's "romantic," but she just couldn't do something to make him happy. It's all about the brand all the time.

[Genevrier]

What I got from Jessa’s message to Bin:

He can’t stomach her cooking, and finds every excuse to avoid sleeping in the bed with her.

[drafan]

I've come to the conclusion that these people use the word "meek" to mean "humble". If you get out your thesaurus, it will come up eventually.

21 minutes ago, cmr2014 said:

The saddest thing for me, though, is that if Jessa had written this on an actual sheet of paper and tucked it in Ben's sock drawer, he would have been blown away. He would have cherished this dumb note and saved it for the rest of his life. She knows that, too,because he's "romantic," but she just couldn't do something to make him happy. It's all about the brand all the time.

With "Jes"?  Always.

[Sew Sumi]

Did "Jes" allow comments on her post, or was it posted on the blog? At any rate, here's some damage control...

[louannems]

Zoom in on the table grout/grooves: Filthy!  NOT from just this one meal either!

Very cute video otherwize!

The fabric of the baby chair is about to rip through.

[Sew Sumi]

I noticed the gunk in the grooves as well. Jes needs to get a good scrubby sponge down in those crevices, pronto. 

As I said last night, some cleaning she could have done rather than write a novel addressed to the interwebs. 

[mynextmistake]

16 hours ago, floridamom said:

A spare bedroom????? There are 4 of them in a 2 bedroom house...please don't tell me they have a 'family bed'? Can't Jessa EVER sleep appropriately? What's wrong with Ben for not putting the boys in their own bedroom. Mine had their own from the first night home from the hospital. It's a small house..I'm sure she could hear the baby cry at night from her room...doors are left open for that purpose.

Jessa's posts are always too long. I don't think that situation is a 'happy and wonderful' on a day to day basis is she always has to write that much about everything.

Many families choose to cosleep with their young children. It’s not “inappropriate” to do so. Sharing a bed with your infant can be risky, but you can purchase cosleepers, which are essentially bassinets that hook to your bed. It makes night feedings much easier and many parents feel it helps with bonding. Our daughter slept in a cosleeper for about 9 months before we moved her to her own crib. 

[sometimesy]

3 minutes ago, mynextmistake said:

Many families choose to cosleep with their young children. It’s not “inappropriate” to do so. Sharing a bed with your infant can be risky, but you can purchase cosleepers, which are essentially bassinets that hook to your bed. It makes night feedings much easier and many parents feel it helps with bonding. Our daughter slept in a cosleeper for about 9 months before we moved her to her own crib. 

Image in my head:

15 years down the road they have 12 more children and all 16 people are snuggled in one room with a quilt made of washable diapers and old t-shirts,  like a Mad magazine Waltons spoof. 

[Love2dance]

12 hours ago, bythelake said:

Happy Birthday to Mr. M. Mine was yesterday, and not one of my family chose to post a flowery message to me on social media, thank heavens. I got beautiful cards, and dinner out but the best part was that my granddaughter spent over 6 hrs on a bus and train to come home from college to surprise me. She has to do the return trip tomorrow. Now, that's love.

Happy birthday! Sounds like you had a wonderful and loving day. ??

[trimthatfat]

I am cringing at the baby eating off of the table because I know the table hasn't been cleaned in a while.

[GeeGolly]

2 hours ago, trimthatfat said:

I am cringing at the baby eating off of the table because I know the table hasn't been cleaned in a while.

Yup. Jessa knew from previous snark about the Lost Girls that folks think children should be clean. I guess there wasn't enough snark about keeping a home clean. Since this concept is relatively new to her she isn't even noticing the grime in the crevices, while most folks don't need to see the grime before cleaning. 

[questionfear]

17 hours ago, Sew Sumi said:

The books are probably required reading for whatever school he's doing. I find it easier to highlight hard copy books for future reference than a Kindle. But he's a millennial; highlighting Kindle books shouldn't be an issue. 

Or maybe these books aren't available on Kindle?

 

17 hours ago, SMama said:

But if the books are in his kindle he can’t display them. Bin is a follower, Jeremy has lots of books, Bin will have lots of books. Neither can comprehend what they are reading, but BOOKS!

Oddly enough ebook sales have dropped because Millenials prefer hard copies. Some of it is the instagram phenomenon (gotta brag about your shelves of books, yo!) and some of it is that people are just backlashing from doing everything on their phones.

[ehall1052]

?There were 10 in the bed and the little one said “Roll over, roll over”. So they all rolled over and Ben fell out....?

[BitterApple]

The crumbs in the grout is triggering the OCD clean freak in me, but Henry is a sweet little chunky monkey.

[sometimesy]

Why does a table have grooves like that? 

I don't think the baby is in danger from eating a few germs, but Jessa has absolutely NOTHING else to do but focus on her small home and her children. She was raised to be a stay at home wife in a traditional gender role. But I hear she can pack a suitcase for 21. 

With that said, I know she has a lot of help from the TTH at any time, but if she is only able to accomplish just one task, I'm glad she chose to focus on the little boys. 

[Oldernowiser]

I think it’s a faux tile table...those are faux grout lines.

 I am going to tell myself the grout is supposed to be that color. 

Edited November 3, 2017 by Oldernowiser

[Maharincess]

16 hours ago, louannems said:

Zoom in on the table grout/grooves: Filthy!  NOT from just this one meal either!

Very cute video otherwize!

The fabric of the baby chair is about to rip through.

Ew, I didn't even have to zoom in to see the filth.  I'm a clean freak, I love a clean house, but since I've been in a wheelchair for the past three years I can't clean like I used to.  Even in a wheelchair my house is cleaner than her house.  Like many of you I don't understand how a person who was raised to be a housewife can be so very bad at cooking and cleaning.  What the hell does she do?! 

[queenanne]

3 hours ago, BitterApple said:

The crumbs in the grout is triggering the OCD clean freak in me, but Henry is a sweet little chunky monkey.

Haha, I thought it was Spurgeon until I saw his hair!

[SMama]

Jessa spends her time drafting and editing her next public birthday/anniversary/mother’s day/father’s day saga greeting to post online. Because if it isn’t posted on social media it didn’t happen. 

Is poor Henry terribly congested or is he just that awesome at slurping sounds? Rufus save chunky monkey Henry from allergies and asthma. 

[floridamom]

Why is Jessa letting Henry eat popcorn? He could choke on that.

[SMama]

It looked like Gerber puffs to me. Could be wrong since last my girl ate them was eight years ago.

Edited November 3, 2017 by SMama

[BitterApple]

I think it was some sort of puffed cereal. 

[queenanne]

19 minutes ago, SMama said:

It looked like Gereber puffs to me. Could be wrong since last my girl ate them was eight years ago.

Unless my eyes deceive me, it was a five-flower-petaled thing, textured like an animal cracker or cereal type piece.

[QuinnInND]

Those look like puffs to me. My girls love them. And the table makes me twitchy. God Jessa is a pig. Ugh. 

[JocelynCavanaugh]

My college students overwhelmingly prefer print versions of their textbooks. If they go with the ebooks it's usually due to lower cost, not aesthetic preference. 

I want to change my user name to Hangry Sloth now. 

[Arwen Evenstar]

15 minutes ago, JocelynCavanaugh said:

want to change my user name to Hangry Sloth now

That’s an awesome user name.  Have you seen the Geico commercial of the sloth playing Pictionary?  It’s hilarious.

There was a voodoo healer on 90 day fiancé named Mambo Gladys, and someone on PTV snapped that one up. That woman was crazy funny.

[Catfin]

Gross. I'm sterilizing my house tomorrow in honor of Jessa.  Mine's not as bad as her house, but I've been neglectful and it needs doing. 

[galaxychaser]

All she talks about is food.  You'd think she was obese haha.  

[JocelynCavanaugh]

30 minutes ago, Arwen Evenstar said:

That’s an awesome user name.  Have you seen the Geico commercial of the sloth playing Pictionary?  It’s hilarious.

There was a voodoo healer on 90 day fiancé named Mambo Gladys, and someone on PTV snapped that one up. That woman was crazy funny.

I saw that user name and was super jealous! 

I FF all commercials now but that one sounds like it would be worth looking up. 

[awaken]

Hinry is much more a seewald than spurgeon.  He looks totally different. 

[Marigold]

What interests me is that Jessa has no clue her table is gross and to NOT put that on social media.  It's so hard to process that she really is THAT ignorant. 

[floridamom]

Last weekend I cleaned my house non-stop. I actually scrubbed the bathrooms and the kitchen. All the while, thinking about Jessa's filthy house. I have to develop another hobby.

[Arwen Evenstar]

11 hours ago, JocelynCavanaugh said:

I saw that user name and was super jealous! 

I FF all commercials now but that one sounds like it would be worth looking up. 

You can always go to YouTube. There’s plenty there.

[Churchhoney]

11 hours ago, Marigold said:

What interests me is that Jessa has no clue her table is gross and to NOT put that on social media.  It's so hard to process that she really is THAT ignorant. 

She is, though. And about far more things -- and far deeper and more important things -- than household dirt. Guarantee it.

How many houses has Jessa actually been in ? And how many times has she been relaxed enough to actually take in what went on in those houses of people outside her immediate family circle? She's quite possibly never been relaxed enough, or in a state where she could suspend judgment enough, to actually take someone else's way of life in. 

When I was first away from my home I was surprised over and over and over at little tiny ways I saw people behaving that I'd never even conceived of, and I've heard permanently-entrapped members of my family express similar shock at things that 90 percent of the world considers utterly normal. 

When the people in charge of you devote their lives to keeping you ignorant, you are indeed that ignorant. She really isn't to blame here. Although I wish she'd start looking outside a bit. But I think that, despite having the rep as the tough one, she's really too scared to look very far beyond her tiny world. 

I think this is where we can see why Jilly Muffin went crazy living in another country , and that it's in all likelihood not just Jilly Muffin who would have that response. Consider the number of things that would be utter culture shock to Jessa -- and remember that they include the tradition of putting a diaper into a receptacle as soon as you've changed it. 

They've lived entirely in their own little world and been completely conditioned to think that that world is the be all, the end all, the standard, and the ideal. And then think how different their world from most other people's worlds. In about a million ways. .... That's quite a source of ignorance right there. 

Edited November 4, 2017 by Churchhoney

[Oldernowiser]

Ergo, cult.

Three generations of grubby brainwashed baby machines metastasizing.

 I look at that sweet little chub and just feel bad for how limited his life will be.

But at least he’s not a girl.

[Arwen Evenstar]

55 minutes ago, Churchhoney said:

She's quite possibly never been relaxed enough, or in a state where she could suspend judgment enough, to actually take someone else's way of life in. 

THIS! Duggars are all about judging others, despite their protestations to the contrary.  They have been conditioned since birth to eschew/fear/disapprove of anyone/anything not Jim Bob Approved. 

They have been filled with such fear that they will probably never learn to or even think of questioning their teaching/programming.  It’s really sad to see this kind of willful ignorance in this day and age.

 A big tenet of Christianity is to live in the world,  but  not be of the world. In other words, you have to live with all kinds of people, but you have to discern what is best for you as far as behaviors, where “the line” is for you.  Bottom line is you need to be in the world enough to function in it and participate in the economy and social constructs. You cannot afford to be ignorant of what is going on around you, and you can’t just blindly believe everything you’ve been told by religious leaders and other authority figures. Faith is a journey, but thinking is required.

11 minutes ago, Oldernowiser said:

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Three generations of grubby brainwashed baby machines metastasizing.

Sounds like a premise for a horror movie, but that horror is all too real. 

[Sew Sumi]

Jessa's Happy Birthday to Me/tribute to Mechelle post. Tomorrow, we get Spurgeon. 

[Angeltoes]

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Although I wish she'd start looking outside a bit. But I think that, despite having the rep as the tough one, she's really too scared to look very far beyond her tiny world. 

Now that Jinge has dipped her toe into the real world, I wonder if she reports things she's learned back to the rest of the shut-ins.  "There are girls our age who live by themselves and go to the store alone whenever they feel like it!  They don't get married until they want to and some of them wait until they're in their 30's!  They have their own bank accounts without their daddy's name on it!  Females can be doctors, lawyers, police, firefighters, pilots, store owners and in the military!"  I can picture them looking around to be sure JB isn't listening and saying in whispers,"Nooooo, that can't be true!"

[SMama]

And how was Jessa going to get that epidural with a home birth? Revising history as all Duggars do. The oldest Duggar kidults will probably always have food issues, due to living from food donations for so long. Volderjosh ballooned after marriage, Jill related hiding in the bathroom to eat, and now Jessa talks more than usual about food. Those lean years will never be forgotten, and no matter how plentiful food is now, they can't turn off that trauma switch. It does not surprise me how much Jessa focused on food.

[cmr2014]

29 minutes ago, Sew Sumi said:

Jessa's Happy Birthday to Me/tribute to Mechelle post. Tomorrow, we get Spurgeon. 

Of course the kids' birthdays are all about J'chelle and how she "risked her life" for each of them. They are such awful people.

[Arwen Evenstar]

1 minute ago, cmr2014 said:

Of course the kids' birthdays are all about J'chelle and how she "risked her life" for each of them. They are such awful people.

A.l our mothers took a risk to bring us all into this world.  What makes MEChelle so special?