MAFS Social Media, Spoilers & Speculation

[Babyitsmb]

read this article it Diggs deep into weather sam and neil are together http://starcasm.net/archives/338816 

[nutella fitzgerald]

The "changed" woman Sam has a new interview. She was kind enough to include a little dig to her social media "haters"

https://www.theknot.com/news/married-at-first-sight-sam-role-ive-been-nasty-cold-towards-neil-3974

Is it my phone or does that picture actually look like an age-progressed photo of a missing child?

GUYS. Is Sam living a real-life version of the Taylor Lautner classic Abduction? Would it explain even a millionth of how horrible her personality is if she were? I gotta ruminate on this.

[lavenderpenguin]

 

David circa 2014.  Would Ashley be more attracted to this version of him? I think he looks so much better here. Almost makes you forget his bad teeth. 

 

2014?! What in the world happened in the course of one year? He looks like almost entirely different person. 

[ClareWalks]

Yeah, he looks like he gained at least 30 lb and his hairline receded. And the bad beard happened.

[Kiss my mutt]

He looks like he could be on the bachelor. Hey, that's not a bad idea!

[cassabox]

Sam posted on twitter that her wedding date was June 28th but the other couples were June 6 and 7.

According to season 2 spoiler, there were 3 couples married in Atlanta on June 5, 6 and 7

So it makes me wonder if Neil and Sam were a back up couple?

Also makes sense that they didn't show Neil and Sam getting their photo album, since their wedding date is way off from the other two couples

Also makes sense that last episode when Neil made a birthday party for Sam, it lines up with the date of her actual birthday. If she was married beginning of June, he celebrated it super early

[Jack Sampson]

Sam posted on twitter that her wedding date was June 28th but the other couples were June 6 and 7.

According to season 2 spoiler, there were 3 couples married in Atlanta on June 5, 6 and 7

So it makes me wonder if Neil and Sam were a back up couple?

Also makes sense that they didn't show Neil and Sam getting their photo album, since their wedding date is way off from the other two couples

Also makes sense that last episode when Neil made a birthday party for Sam, it lines up with the date of her actual birthday. If she was married beginning of June, he celebrated it super early

Good detective work. Makes me wonder what happened to the other couple.

[crazychicken]

Great detective work now I am really curious to know if the participant came to their senses before the wedding or bolted at first sight. I would have loved to see what actually happened or at least an explanation.

[BonnieLass]

David is either delusional or playing things up for the camera (IMHO):

 

2014?! What in the world happened in the course of one year? He looks like almost entirely different person. 

I read somewhere that he posted that photo in 2014, but it was actually taken a year or two before that. I have no idea what is correct, however. 

[qtpye]

David looks so yummy in that picture.  It does look like a different person, but he still is not a bad looking guy.

[stuckin60s]

So frustrated with Ashley's actions.  For a registered Social Worker and someone in nursing school she is trained for hard conversations.  She either is not a good SW/N or just a complete fraud.

 

also her comments about "really trying" I wear my ring....  she is delusional

 

AND who told sent the message that David had asked someone out for drinks, is someone spying for her?  is she friends with his friends?

 

it would be interesting if at the end David states he wont be married to someone that wont try and she says WAIT, I thought we were getting better, I want to stay

[crazychicken]

http://www.aetv.com/shows/married-at-first-sight/season-3/episode-10/sneak-peek-celebrations

 

Seriously Vanessa is doing my head in, she left because he did not say he loved her. She is such a baby, he makes an off the cuff remark and the next day she is still cracking the poops and making him pay for something he had no idea that he did. That girl has not got a realistic idea of marriage, I have been married over 20 years and both my husband & I still makes jokes like this in front of our friends.

[Soup333]

Wow. I just commented in the episode thread that I'm afraid Vanessa is going to fuck this up for herself. Would she rather he say he's in love with her and it not be true? All he said was, "that's a big word." Which it is. It's been a little over a month. She expects that he's already in love with her at this point? She needs serious counseling over her abandonment issues. Long term counseling. Her father left after 18+ years of marriage, so is she going to be nervous about her relationship failing for the next 20 years? 

Edited January 27, 2016 by Soup333

[tinypeanut]

Vanessa''s expectations are way off if she thinks people fall in love that quick.  I would run if someone told me they were in love with me in 3-4 weeks.   Even though they are married she is looking at the entire situation incorrectly since they never dated and did now know each other.

Edited January 27, 2016 by tinypeanut

[tinypeanut]

Yes, David is delusional if he thinks everything will work out.

 

  I really wish these people could walk away DURING the program if things don't work out between them.  I read that they can be penalized $$$$ if they do not finish the show per the contract they signed.  This relationship is bordering on ridiculous and wonder if the producers keep giving David that pep talk?

[MsPH]

That clip of Tres and Vanessa is just ridiculous. What the hell is her problem? I hate it when men assume a woman is PMS'ing when their actions seem irrational, but that's the only explanation I can think of for what I just saw. Unless he's been telling her off camera that he loves her, I don't see why she'd be shocked by his comment. They barely know each other!

[cardigirl]

Wow. I just commented in the episode thread that I'm afraid Vanessa is going to fuck this up for herself. Would she rather he say he's in love with her and it not be true? All he said was, "that's a big word." Which it is. It's been a little over a month. She expects that he's already in love with her at this point? She needs serious counseling over her abandonment issues. Long term counseling. Her father left after 18+ years of marriage, so is she going to be nervous about her relationship failing for the next 20 years? 

Well, I had a similar fear, and lo and behold, at 25 years of marriage, he walked.  But sometimes I think self-fulfilling prophecy, and sometimes I think, he would have walked no matter what and my insecurity about it may have been based on me knowing something was 'off' in our relationship.

Edited January 27, 2016 by cardigirl

[Snewtsie]

Well, I had a similar fear, and lo and behold, at 25 years of marriage, he walked.  But sometimes I think self-fulfilling prophecy, and sometimes I think, he would have walked no matter what and my insecurity about it may have been based on me knowing something was 'off' in our relationship.

My marriage of 10 years just ended for the exact same reason.  Heartbreaking.  And like you, I don't know if it was my insecurities that made it eventually happen, or if it would have happened anyway.  Maybe both are true.

 

Vanessa needs help to feel secure in herself so she is not looking toward Tres, or anyone else, to make her feel more complete.  I really like these two together, but both people have to be at the same place mentally & emotionally for a relationship to work.  

[henrysmom]

Although I like Vanessa and Tres, all of the people on this show just seem broken.  They all need therapy, not marriage.  It is almost as if they are thinking marriage will "fix" whatever is wrong with them.  David thinks his grief over his father will go away if he's married.  Vanessa's abandonment issues will go away if she's married.  I know the show has to take what they can get, but you'd think a city as big as Atlanta would have been able to find six people more suitable for the process.  But probably not, since this is the best they could come up with and they've moved on to Miami.

[Gigi43]

Oh NO. So, while I don't Tweet, I do use Instagram for things related to work (or, well, trying to get myself work), and I was just wasting time when I should have been posting stuff relating to Valentines Day and I see Jamie's posting pics of herself... in Atlanta... "doing a job she loves." God help those men (especially David) even more if she is hosting the reunion. There was something about missing Doug in the comments so she's not there for a get together all the casts. I apologize for sharing this troubling news lol

Although I like Vanessa and Tres, all of the people on this show just seem broken.  They all need therapy, not marriage.  It is almost as if they are thinking marriage will "fix" whatever is wrong with them.  David thinks his grief over his father will go away if he's married.  Vanessa's abandonment issues will go away if she's married.  I know the show has to take what they can get, but you'd think a city as big as Atlanta would have been able to find six people more suitable for the process.  But probably not, since this is the best they could come up with and they've moved on to Miami.

 

That is why Cortney and Jason have seriously grown on me in this last First Year season. Although I kind of wonder if Jason really wants to find his father or if it makes for a better story, Cortney has not once tried to convince him that their marriage and potential family is all he'll need and Jason seems to get that this is the sort of thing that should be sorted out before you have kids, because having a kid isn't the answer to Daddy Issues. In 2016 you're going to have to look hard to find people that have zero aspects of loss, sickness, something, but just because you have had something happen doesn't mean you just carry it with you until you find someone who magically makes it better. Life doesn't work like that... yet these "Experts" seem intent on pushing the idea it does.

Edited January 27, 2016 by Gigi43

[BonnieLass]

Here's another clip regarding spirituality:

 

[Waterlilly]

No spiritual awakening for Ash and David?

[Crazy Bird Lady]

Wow. I just commented in the episode thread that I'm afraid Vanessa is going to fuck this up for herself. Would she rather he say he's in love with her and it not be true? All he said was, "that's a big word." Which it is. It's been a little over a month. She expects that he's already in love with her at this point? She needs serious counseling over her abandonment issues. Long term counseling. Her father left after 18+ years of marriage, so is she going to be nervous about her relationship failing for the next 20 years? 

 

That's being really harsh on Vanessa. She is married to Tres, having been paired with him by 'experts' who supposedly have an ability to predict long-term compatibility. They shared a wedding and a honeymoon, they live together, and they make... er, correction, Vanessa makes love with him. They've even been discussing children - having "a boy and a girl" together. But you're saying she is wrong to hope that he has fallen in love with her??

Edited January 28, 2016 by Crazy Bird Lady

[Soup333]

That's being really harsh on Vanessa. She is married to Tres, having been paired with him by 'experts' who supposedly have an ability to predict long-term compatibility. They shared a wedding and a honeymoon, they live together, and they make... er, correction, Vanessa makes love with him. They've even been discussing children - having "a boy and a girl" together. But you're saying she is wrong to hope that he has fallen in love with her??

 

No, Vanessa's being harsh on herself and on Tres. They've known each other for FIVE WEEKS. It was a comment made what appears to be the middle of a party. What did she expect him to do, start gushing about how he's head over heels in love with her?? She has unrealistic expectations of relationships and she admittedly has abandonment issues. She will likely never have a successful relationship until she deals with those. The fact of the matter is, people can leave whenever they want. He could leave her after 5 years or 35 years if he wanted. Right now she is punishing Tres for what her father did. That's not going to work. It won't. That comment was worth her flipping out, evidently not speaking to him right after the party but giving him the cold shoulder (based on his comments) and then going back to her house? Really? I thought they were married, aren't they supposed to talk and work things out instead of throwing hissy fits and leaving? 

[BonnieLass]

If anyone is interested, Sam and Neil are going off a bit on the Twitter trolls. Probably saying things they'll regret. I've been taking screen shots in case they delete the posts. Sam's disclosed her salary, and Neil put a troll in his place (as only he could, I imagine), which caused Sam to declare she loved Neil.  

[Crazy Bird Lady]

If anyone is interested, Sam and Neil are going off a bit on the Twitter trolls. Probably saying things they'll regret. I've been taking screen shots in case they delete the posts. Sam's disclosed her salary, and Neil put a troll in his place (as only he could, I imagine), which caused Sam to declare she loved Neil.  

 

That sounds very much like what I expected, unfortunately. These spoilers give me the strong impression that Sam and Neil (not Vanessa and Tres) are probably the only couple still together.

[BonnieLass]

Vanessa also got into the game w/the trolls. 

 

"Vanessa Nelson ‏@Vanessa_MAFS  2 hours ago

This abandonment theme is old. And I don't feel "controlled" by it. can I have one emotion without it being that?"

 

I believe the reunion show was taped yesterday/today. Perhaps now they feel they can speak a bit more freely on social media (within contractual limits, I assume). 

[cecig75]

Oh NO. So, while I don't Tweet, I do use Instagram for things related to work (or, well, trying to get myself work), and I was just wasting time when I should have been posting stuff relating to Valentines Day and I see Jamie's posting pics of herself... in Atlanta... "doing a job she loves." God help those men (especially David) even more if she is hosting the reunion. There was something about missing Doug in the comments so she's not there for a get together all the casts. I apologize for sharing this troubling news lol

 

That is why Cortney and Jason have seriously grown on me in this last First Year season. Although I kind of wonder if Jason really wants to find his father or if it makes for a better story, Cortney has not once tried to convince him that their marriage and potential family is all he'll need and Jason seems to get that this is the sort of thing that should be sorted out before you have kids, because having a kid isn't the answer to Daddy Issues. In 2016 you're going to have to look hard to find people that have zero aspects of loss, sickness, something, but just because you have had something happen doesn't mean you just carry it with you until you find someone who magically makes it better. Life doesn't work like that... yet these "Experts" seem intent on pushing the idea it does.

I was really hoping Jamie would've gone away by now...guess not! Thanks for the heads up!

[ketose]

I was really hoping Jamie would've gone away by now...guess not! Thanks for the heads up!

I just saw her on Twitter talking about ATL. Maybe she was doing a small segment for the reunion and not hosting it.

[BonnieLass]

Around 10 am yesterday morning, Jamie posted (on Instagram):

 

"Down town Atlanta 

On my way to a job that I LOVE! (I love being an entrepreneur & nurse too - but TV hosting has been a dream I never thought was possible.) Feeling blessed this morning." 

 

I hope that does NOT mean she is "hosting" the entire show. 

[crazychicken]

I really hope that she only plays a small part if we do have to see her but she posted this as well.

https://mobile.twitter.com/jamienotis/status/692565284088082432

I was already struggling to maintain interest this season now I have hit a new low. Fingers crossed we get Kevin as at least he won't fawn over the experts and make it all about himself.

[sleekandchic]

Jamie must have known for a while that she'd be involved with the reunion. How could she have felt comfortable dissing David on twitter last week because he said he was falling in love with Ashley?

[qtpye]

Jamie Otis hosting...no, no, NO!  She is going mug for the camera, kiss the experts' asses (particularly Dr. C), and then talk about how much she loves Doug (even though she is still in love with her ex boyfriend).

 

Please show, make Jamie Otis go away.

 

Can anyone tell me what Sam and Neil are saying on twitter?  I'm not on it, but maybe if you spoiler bar it for people who do not want to know.

 

I am interested in Sam's salary, because if she does stay with Neil, then I believe it will be solely for the money and t.v. opportunities.  She is no more in love with Neil then Jamie is with Doug.

 

It would make more sense if she does not make that much money, though it still a crappy thing to do.

Edited January 28, 2016 by qtpye

[Lola16]

Sam Role ‏@Sam_MAFS 12h12 hours ago

Sam Role Retweeted Kelly

I'm struggling?! ok that's the first! I bought my own place at 27. I make 70k yrly. I'm struggling?!? I'm 31

 

 

I think 70K is probably decent for Atlanta.  Wouldn't be in NYC where that's pretty much starting salary out of grad school.

[Lola16]

I wandered into the abyss that is Twitter.  Neil posted a very funny photo of him and a giraffe:

 

 

And what his beard looked like pre-show (ick):

 

[Waterlilly]

I love Neil, he understands himself and I get him.

[qtpye]

I wonder what Neil would look like with no facial hair?

 

Thanks for answering my question.

 

Sam makes a very decent amount of money for a single person in Atlanta.  I remember a magazine published the average salary in Manhattan was like 58K and not nearly as high as people expected.  However, averages can be very misleading and perhaps those people do not actually live in the borough.

 

I wonder if Neil makes more or less then Sam?  Not that I would care, but if he made less that would probably be another strike against him, because Sam would deem it "unmanly" somehow.

[ProzacQueen]

Vanessa also got into the game w/the trolls. 

 

"Vanessa Nelson ‏@Vanessa_MAFS  2 hours ago

This abandonment theme is old. And I don't feel "controlled" by it. can I have one emotion without it being that?"

 

I believe the reunion show was taped yesterday/today. Perhaps now they feel they can speak a bit more freely on social media (within contractual limits, I assume). 

She must not be watching the show then. Almost every episode, one of the "experts", blathers on about her having abandonment issues. Girl needs to learn her story arc.

[qtpye]

She must not be watching the show then. Almost every episode, one of the "experts", blathers on about her having abandonment issues. Girl needs to learn her story arc.

 

 

This is how the experts would spin this:

 

Vanessa can not see her own abandonment issues because she has abandonment issues.  These abandonment issues make her unable to talk about having abandonment issue for fear of being abandoned.

[crazychicken]

Hopefully the reunion will be Jamie free whatever she filmed is being added by FYI next week, hopefully seperate to the show so I can avoid it

https://www.instagram.com/p/BBFtdoiI55T/?taken-by=jamienotis

[ProzacQueen]

Good lord, if Jaime "I'm still in love with my ex, but can you still impregnate me" Otis, hosts the reunion, we need to invent a drinking game. 

[Pepper Mostly]

that beard is splendiferous! I love Neil. I would throw him some serious play if I was 30 years younger.

[henrysmom]

Jamie's LinkedIn page.  She lists herself as a TV host:

https://www.linkedin.com/in/jamie-n-otis-803a1448?trk=pub-pbmap

[Jack Sampson]

After reading this BS, my opinion of Cortney dropped a tick.

I am much more than just a Makeup Artist. I am a painter, a dreamer, an inventor, a storyteller, a magician, intense and emotional. I feel in colors. I work with my hands, my head and my heart. I use the human body as my canvas to create beauty.

[BonnieLass]

I wonder if Neil makes more or less then Sam?  Not that I would care, but if he made less that would probably be another strike against him, because Sam would deem it "unmanly" somehow.

 

Lab compliance specialists make around $60k-$70k in Atlanta (but could go higher, of course), so he's probably close to her in salary.

[ketose]

Jamie's LinkedIn page.  She lists herself as a TV host:

https://www.linkedin.com/in/jamie-n-otis-803a1448?trk=pub-pbmap

Jamie has called herself that for a while. She hosts videos on some website.

[Gigi43]

Where is that Cortney quote from? ...and does this mean Kanye West is giving seminars?

[CPA Carol]

I thought I read somewhere that originally there was a same sex couple ready for the show and they backed out at the last minute. So perhaps that is why Sam and Neil's wedding was a few weeks later.

[Jack Sampson]

Where is that Cortney quote from? ...and does this mean Kanye West is giving seminars?

Ha.

https://www.linkedin.com/in/cortneyhendrix?trk=pub-pbmap

[Lola16]

I wonder what Neil would look like with no facial hair?

 

Thanks for answering my question.

 

Sam makes a very decent amount of money for a single person in Atlanta.  I remember a magazine published the average salary in Manhattan was like 58K and not nearly as high as people expected.  However, averages can be very misleading and perhaps those people do not actually live in the borough.

 

I wonder if Neil makes more or less then Sam?  Not that I would care, but if he made less that would probably be another strike against him, because Sam would deem it "unmanly" somehow.

Not sure what is included in that average --- could be entry level jobs.  Best place to check salaries is on Glassdoor.

 

Lab compliance specialists make around $60k-$70k in Atlanta (but could go higher, of course), so he's probably close to her in salary.

Not bad. I'm sure if Sam made much more than Neil, she'd have told us.