S14.E13: A Night at Swingers

[PrincessPurrsALot]

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Couples night, hosted by Erin and her husband, puts Jessel and her husband in the hot seat; Ubah shares a secret with Sai; Jenna takes her son shopping; Sai shares a heartwarming moment with her aunt.

Original air date 2023.10.08

[bosawks]

Seriously, shut up, Sai!

[chick binewski]

Sai, once again exclaiming she doesn't care about a nonsensical argument that she created in her own mind and then proceeding to have an absolute fit about said argument. 

[Pi237]

Sai is the one talking in circles. Jessel apologized twice and she's still going on about 'you brought up my mother'   Yes, because You used your own mom to pad your sob story.  You don't get to cry about it now.  Jessel was just trying to find common ground.   Sai gets really angry about things she supposedly doesn't care about.

The old 'just being honest' and 'I say what everyone else is afraid to say.' Nope. You're just a bitch who Wants Jessel's husband to be cheating on her. I feel sorry for them both nkw. This is a nasty group.

[Pi237]

Ugh hate these forced gushing about your spouse scenes.  They knew how to answer so they wouldn't have to pay for it off camera. Totally insincere.

[65mickey]

Sai is a crazy mean bitch. That's all I got from this episode. 

[hoodooznoodooz]

Awww…. Jenna and Beckett hold hands when they walk down the street.

[TOL]

Jessel is so inauthentic.  Can’t stand her

[hoodooznoodooz]

I didn’t understand, “It’s Gwyneth all over again.”

[swankie]

This is who I think of whenever I see Pavit on my screen. 🤣

 

[hoodooznoodooz]

So there were some rumblings about how Brynn and Sai are no longer friends. Brynn disclosed something about Sai that was private or a secret.

I wonder who is in the wrong? 😉

Bravo filmed and aired Sai sharing with the women her relationship with her mother, her mother’s alcoholism and her mother’s death. So they should have understood that they should never discuss her mother again, once they left Anguilla.

Edited October 9, 2023 by hoodooznoodooz

[Chatty Cake]

I can’t believe I sort of liked Sai earlier in the season. She’s awful and that husband seems kind of douchey. Erin is a complete ass kissing asshole. I don’t get what’s so great about Abe either. He looks rather effeminate imo. That’s not to say that Jessel and Pavit aren’t full of shit. I think they are but she didn’t deserve the pile on at the night out.

Didn’t Brynn already have a stupid party celebrating her nasty self? Why does she get a brynnsgiving and a birthday? I hate the sound of her voice and I’m sick of her “poke holes in condoms with rich men” bullshit. 

[Gracie123]

I think I'm out.  This show is not interesting, the women are awful, and I don't believe a word anyone says.  Bravo really screwed the pooch with this reboot.

[Baltimore Betty]

Erin's husband reminds me of when Jerry Seinfeld got a bad hair cut.

[JAYJAY1979]

7 hours ago, hoodooznoodooz said:

Awww…. Jenna and Beckett hold hands when they walk down the street.

That was creepy.

 

Things I liked about the episode:

Seeing Ubah at work, talking to a restaurant about them using her hot sauces in their meals.  

Jenna and her son at the eye glass boutique while she talked about how having a good relationship with her son takes away the sting of her bad relationship with her mom (though holding hands is very creepy)

Sai and her aunt had a nice scene, but I have a feeling the editors put that scene in as an emergency PR stunt to give her more layers.

Things I didn't like about the episode:

Erin/Sai's obession with Jessel's marriage.  That tells me things are not rosy in their own marriages if they're obsessed with Jessel's marriage.  

So Erin has theories on Jessel/Pravit's marriage... well Erin I have theories on your marriage to Abe.  It works both ways dear.

Sai obviously has unresolved issues about her mom and her upbringing.

Next weeks preview:

I've read that Sai and Brynn are no longer close, and it had something to Ubah.  So what I'm thinking is that whatever Ubah hinted about to Sai on camera Sai blabbed to Brynn and Brynn mentioned it at the party.

[Baltimore Betty]

7 hours ago, hoodooznoodooz said:

Awww…. Jenna and Beckett hold hands when they walk down the street.

The kid is 15, props to their relationship that he can hold hands in public and on camera.

So we find out that Pivot has been to Vietnam two other times (obviously prior to being on this show) so for Jessel this is nothing new but it is to the others.  How much would it have been to just buy additional points or use the airline credit card and buy everything on it?

At this point Private should have made travel plans that included his wife especially if their sex life is non existent, go to Paris and stay at the Ritz for a few nights, eat well, see the sights, this tells me all I need to know about their relationship, he seems to lazy to care about it and that is fine by her.

Funny how Erin decides on Swingers for a night out considering she and Abe were talking about swinging in the last episode, I think she is leaning in to something that will never happen with them.

If Brynn has Covid why was there a film crew in her apartment? In the past the other HW's would self film themselves but she got a camera person to hang in her apartment?

I am about ready to order Ubah Hot, has anybody here tried it?

[Baltimore Betty]

10 minutes ago, JAYJAY1979 said:

Seeing Ubah at work, talking to a restaurant about them using her hot sauces in their meals.  

I just went on her website...sold out. I went to the Beatnik menu and there is no mention of anything made with Ubah Hot, hmmmm.

[snarts]

Unpopular opinion but Sai doesn't bother me and I understood her irritation with the lunch. Jessel invited her, then was 40 minutes late and ridiculed her for not drinking. Jessel stated her goal was to reassure Sai that she wasn't trying to compare background stories only to quickly add that her uncle was an alcoholic like Sai's mom. I had whiplash watching it.

Now that Ubah's seemingly reined in the irrational anger, the only one seriously annoying me is Brynn. Now there's the true shit stirrer, gleefully getting everyone riled up by playing messenger. 

Edited October 9, 2023 by snarts

[kristen111]

So happy to know Erin gave Abe a Bj.  Now I can go on with my day.  Ugh!

[janiema]

Every franchise has a scene in which one of the cast shows up really late for an engagement. I have always thought that this was production driven rather than being organic. The two cast members are told by production two different times to show up. That’s my theory, anyway. Just another example of laziness on the part if production/writers because it happens on EVERY franchise that I watch.

[hoodooznoodooz]

1 hour ago, Baltimore Betty said:

I just went on her website...sold out. I went to the Beatnik menu and there is no mention of anything made with Ubah Hot, hmmmm.

I checked the website also. Nothing Ubah.

[Thumper]

I “clicked” away when I saw the beginning conversation between Sai and Erin and once again Sai distorting her lunch with Jessel.   🙄

[TexasGal]

Sai pinky swore to keep Ubah's secret.   I'll be shocked, SHOCKED I say, if she tells someone.

[bichonblitz]

3 hours ago, JAYJAY1979 said:

Next weeks preview:

I've read that Sai and Brynn are no longer close, and it had something to Ubah.  So what I'm thinking is that whatever Ubah hinted about to Sai on camera Sai blabbed to Brynn and Brynn mentioned it at the party.

 

Looks like Sai has another scream fest and then walks out next week. She needs to be a one and done if there is even a second season of this drivel. 

Jessel is doomed. All she has to do is open her mouth and that is enough ammo for Sai to lose her mind and Erin to snicker in the background. 

We get it, Abe. You and Erin are the only married couple on the planet that like sex. You know what they say about couples that talk about it all the time....means they really ain't gettin' much of it!

 

On 10/7/2023 at 8:08 PM, PrincessPurrsALot said:

Couples night, hosted by Erin and her husband, puts Jessel and her husband in the hot seat

What and how exactly did they host? Pick up the phone and invite 2 other couples to a club? Wow, that took a lot of effort. 

Is being "sick" code for producers to mean we don't need you in this scene so stay out? Brynn has been sick a couple of times, then Ubah and I believe Jenna. I've never seen so much illness on one cast in one short season. Notice never thirsty Erin because she's the star of the show and is much needed! She even came to a party (Jessel's) when she had a sick kid at home. Ugh!

Edited October 9, 2023 by bichonblitz

[chick binewski]

11 hours ago, hoodooznoodooz said:

I didn’t understand, “It’s Gwyneth all over again.”

Apparently Bryn took KKB's direction and made another nonsense Paltrow reference (Paltrow ran into someone on the ski slopes, resulting in a lawsuit where -even if she was innocent - ageism & elitism were on full display).

[peachmangosteen]

I just had to post to say that Sai is one of the worst people I’ve ever had the displeasure of watching lol.

[PrincessPurrsALot]

4 hours ago, snarts said:

Unpopular opinion but Sai doesn't bother me and I understood her irritation with the lunch. Jessel invited her, then was 40 minutes late and ridiculed her for not drinking. Jessel stated her goal was to reassure Sai that she wasn't trying to compare background stories only to quickly add that her uncle was an alcoholic like Sai's mom. I had whiplash watching it.

Now that Ubah's seemingly reined in the irrational anger, the only one seriously annoying me is Brynn. Now there's the true shit stirrer, gleefully getting everyone riled up by playing messenger. 

While Jessel is awkward and annoying, I think she was trying to bond and be supportive.  However, as usual, her language choice wasn't the best.  If she had said I saw a little of an alcoholic's behavior with my uncle; of course, that is nowhere near what you experienced with your mother . . . . which is what I think she was trying to express.  At the same time, Sai is going to hear the worst from her no matter what she says.  It's bitch eating crackers for Sai.  Jessel can do nothing right in her eyes.  She will always hear the worst in what she says. 

Brynn is playing her housewife role as directed.  Spread shit. ✔️ Repeat every rumor. ✔️ Misstate what others have said. ✔️ Feign shock and horror when stories are told. ✔️ It is all so transparent and boring.  She's at her best with her brother when she drops her OTT persona.

2 hours ago, TexasGal said:

Sai pinky swore to keep Ubah's secret.   I'll be shocked, SHOCKED I say, if she tells someone.

But the pinky swear is the most solid and unimpeachable promise!  When testifying in court, doesn't the witness pinky swear  to tell the truth?  When getting married, don't the partners pinky swear?  

[Steph J]

1 hour ago, bichonblitz said:

Is being "sick" code for producers to mean we don't need you in this scene so stay out? Brynn has been sick a couple of times, then Ubah and I believe Jenna.

I don't necessarily doubt the legitimacy of any of them being sick since new covid strains have been going around, but I do have questions. Namely, if Brynn was sick and quarantining, then why was someone there filming her? And where was Brynn staying where she could be filmed, since she supposedly isn't allowed to film in her apartment? 

[realityplease]

Maybe I wasn't paying close enough attention - but I thought when Brynn was being filmed during her covid quarantine (as when she spoke to Ubah while Ubah was in a bubble bath), she was supposedly being filmed by her cellphone.

As for Sai & Erin - they're despicable. Jessel is a try-hard & can be tone-deaf to other's emotions, but she didn't seem to be purposefully deceitful to Sai or Erin - nor trying to upset Sai, but simply trying to connect in an awkward way.  For Sai to keep insisting that she didn't care & didn't want to be there was flat out mean & intentionally hurtful.  That's not a "truth-teller" - that's an asshole. 

As for Pavit & his points - it IS a thing.  I don't blame him for wanting a brief escape with first class service - at a great discounted price - in order to garner points for later use on a family vacation AND get a brief pampering.  (I used to call the airport my "happy place" when once every month for five years (!) I escaped to go home cross-country for a day or two - both to get a respite from being caregiver to two stroke-impaired parents for the rest of the month & to touch base with my regular life.)  Eating caviar at 36,000 miles, having a banh mi before  returning home doesn't seem like a bad deal nor imply something like sex tourism or whatever the hell Sai & Erin were mean-girl suggesting. Better they should pay attention to their own lives, husbands & children.

[MaggieG]

36 minutes ago, realityplease said:

Maybe I wasn't paying close enough attention - but I thought when Brynn was being filmed during her covid quarantine (as when she spoke to Ubah while Ubah was in a bubble bath), she was supposedly being filmed by her cellphone.

As for Sai & Erin - they're despicable. Jessel is a try-hard & can be tone-deaf to other's emotions, but she didn't seem to be purposefully deceitful to Sai or Erin - nor trying to upset Sai, but simply trying to connect in an awkward way.  For Sai to keep insisting that she didn't care & didn't want to be there was flat out mean & intentionally hurtful.  That's not a "truth-teller" - that's an asshole. 

As for Pavit & his points - it IS a thing.  I don't blame him for wanting a brief escape with first class service - at a great discounted price - in order to garner points for later use on a family vacation AND get a brief pampering.  (I used to call the airport my "happy place" when once every month for five years (!) I escaped to go home cross-country for a day or two - both to get a respite from being caregiver to two stroke-impaired parents for the rest of the month & to touch base with my regular life.)  Eating caviar at 36,000 miles, having a banh mi before  returning home doesn't seem like a bad deal nor imply something like sex tourism or whatever the hell Sai & Erin were mean-girl suggesting. Better they should pay attention to their own lives, husbands & children.

When Pavit was explaining it, I got what he was saying. Especially if he was a ticket that is going to expire. Why let it expire when you can use it? Sai and Erin being "confused" were just being obnoxious. 

[PrincessPurrsALot]

It seems Pavit's goal was to use the ticket ion the next few weeks which is what he told Jessel.  They had their staycation.  She said it was related to having it before his trip.  At the same time, we know it was also to fit within the filming timeframe. He bought three tickets that will expire.  He's been able to use two, so he needs to use the last one.  Makes perfect sense.  Whether they understand why he enjoys flying first class to Vietnam for a few days is irrelevant.  Sai and Erin are just being jerks. That behavior does not make them interesting. 

[dancingdreamer]

There's  something  wrong with Sai, I'm not Jessels biggest  fan, but the way Sai goes on, makes me want to throw  something  at the tv. I don't  like any of them, they need to recast the whole show, or lose the few viewers they do have.

[Salacious Kitty]

@realityplease Brynn was shown last night filmed on a bed full length. Not from a phone. 

[Dixie Sugarbaker]

I loved Jessel calling Erin a Pet Parrot. Perfect name for her as she has absolutely no original thoughts but merely parrots what others say.

Sai cannot allow anyone else to have trauma (save Brynn) because without her trauma, what is Sai. She is not that great an influencer, she has absolutely no style or taste, and is not at all witty. All she has is her overcoming trauma story, and while that is commendable it is not unique. Brynn gets a pass from Sai because even Sai knows she can’t compete wIth Brynn’s story. 

[Marley]

Erin and Sai are just mean girls. I am not enjoying them at all. Chill out for a bit and have fun you bitches. Stop being a judgemental bitch about everything.

Ubah is just kind of annoying. I don’t really care about her hot sauce.

Maybe I’m a bitch now but I FF the scenes with Sai and her aunt. Don’t care now after her just constantly being a bitch.

Do not care about Abe and Erin’s sex life.

Pavit going to Vietnam for 24 hours is odd but they are all being so mean about it. If Jessel is ok with it then move on ppl.

I feel like Sai thinks she’s so cool with her whole I don’t care thing. She just come across as a total bitch to me.

Oh my god Jessel didn’t say the exact date her husband is leaving - what a lie. Shut the fuck up Sai. You aren’t just being honest you seem like a miserable person. Erin just cackling away ugh.

David asking why Ubah isn’t in a serious relationship was rude. Mind your business dbag.

David and Abe’s answers about why they are with their wives just seemed like bs to me. I just don’t like them tho now lol so everything they do annoys me.

If Brynn would stop with her stupid constant sex jokes and sex kitten act or whatever it is I could maybe like her as a housewife.

Jenna still not minding her. The scenes with her son was alright.

[Keywestclubkid]

Erin and Sai you both are waaaaay to old for this mean girl Harp harp harp to be your WHOLE personality.. 

[Baltimore Betty]

5 hours ago, bichonblitz said:

What and how exactly did they host? Pick up the phone and invite 2 other couples to a club? Wow, that took a lot of effort. 

Um did you forget, she ordered all the guacamole.  It's like ordering food that is the least like ordering food.

When the hostess came to the table and said they would be teeing off in groups I thought she meant that the couples were a group but no, their "let's do a couples night" was really let's separate the men from the HW's and play golf separately, ahh togetherness.

Why is it that everytime Ubah enters a room I get my hackles up, she always has to announce verbally and physically she is in the room, every time.

 

[Keywestclubkid]

Sai trying to Jessica Fletcher something that just isn’t there is so annoying.. no one cares at this point why he’s going .. he’s going now to get away from you Sai .. Jesus Christ I have never seen someone so invested in a flight that wasn’t their own .. 

[kristen111]

5 hours ago, bichonblitz said:

 

Looks like Sai has another scream fest and then walks out next week. She needs to be a one and done if there is even a second season of this drivel. 

Jessel is doomed. All she has to do is open her mouth and that is enough ammo for Sai to lose her mind and Erin to snicker in the background. 

We get it, Abe. You and Erin are the only married couple on the planet that like sex. You know what they say about couples that talk about it all the time....means they really ain't gettin' much of it!

 

What and how exactly did they host? Pick up the phone and invite 2 other couples to a club? Wow, that took a lot of effort. 

Is being "sick" code for producers to mean we don't need you in this scene so stay out? Brynn has been sick a couple of times, then Ubah and I believe Jenna. I've never seen so much illness on one cast in one short season. Notice never thirsty Erin because she's the star of the show and is much needed! She even came to a party (Jessel's) when she had a sick kid at home. Ugh!

Can’t stand Erin and her husband.  They think they are the coolest couple on the planet.  I give them five more years.   Also think Jessel and husband really love each other.  She’s not a jealous Bitch and has to prove nothing.

[Baltimore Betty]

1 minute ago, kristen111 said:

I give them five more years.

I read that in Vicki's voice, she said the same to whats her name who was wife number 3 of that baseball player.

[Salacious Kitty]

1 minute ago, Baltimore Betty said:

I read that in Vicki's voice, she said the same to whats her name who was wife number 3 of that baseball player.

Meghan! I think it lasted 3. 😂

[CallmeCray]

Pavit is easily my new favorite “cast member”.  

My new LEAST favorite is Sai’s husband, who I had originally thought was cool.   He’s a mean girl, too - that’s why the two of them are REALLY two peas in a pod.

I like Jenna and Pavit, and that’s pretty much it.  I don’t think I officially dislike Ubah, but she makes me ponder it often.  Somehow Jessel’s worked her way up from my “can’t stand” list to my “frequent eyeroll” list, which is definitely a promotion.  Whoda thunk it?! 🤷‍♀️ Not ME!

[hoodooznoodooz]

1 hour ago, Baltimore Betty said:

Why is it that everytime Ubah enters a room I get my hackles up, she always has to announce verbally and physically she is in the room, every time.

 

And “joke” about how she is the most beautiful. 

I cannot relate to individuals who crave attention constantly.

[janiema]

I wonder whether Abe has noticed how Justin, husband of Whitney on RHOSLC,lost his job over sexual escapades. The BJ comment gets awfully close.

[Salacious Kitty]

1 minute ago, janiema said:

I wonder whether Abe has noticed how Justin, husband of Whitney on RHOSLC,lost his job over sexual escapades. The BJ comment gets awfully close.

And his comment about wanting sex all the time. 

[Chatty Cake]

1 hour ago, janiema said:

I wonder whether Abe has noticed how Justin, husband of Whitney on RHOSLC,lost his job over sexual escapades. The BJ comment gets awfully close.

Justin had a horrible cringeworthy sex scene in his undies with Whitney. Abe, I think is all talk. I don’t believe he or Erin is that into sex.

[ichbin]

6 hours ago, realityplease said:

Eating caviar at 36,000 miles, having a banh mi before  returning home doesn't seem like a bad deal nor imply something like sex tourism or whatever the hell Sai & Erin were mean-girl suggesting.

I believe the points thing is just as possible as the sex tourism thing. He can very well be going for miles and a sandwich combined with a break from the kidshile being pampered in first class and probably did just that.  I also know someone (another Indian coincidentally) whose wife (now ex-wife) discovered had been visiting a mistress in various places in Asia while making secret side trips when he was supposed to be on business elsewhere. It came as a complete surprise to everyone who knew him because he didn't seem the type. I've learned through the years that sometimes shit happens and that life offers many possible considerations.

To see Jessel in her confessional saying Sai is probably jealous of the way she dresses while she herself is attired in something that make her look like a chorus girl straight out of Gold Diggers of 1933 singing the We're in the Money number...hysterical!

 

12 hours ago, Baltimore Betty said:

Erin's husband reminds me of when Jerry Seinfeld got a bad hair cut.

OMG, yes! Only Jerry's hair didn't look dirty and greasy.  Abe needs to find some new hair product and styling routine because what he's doing now isn't working for him. What is that, Brylcreem left over from the 1960's that was found during an apartment renovation?

 

20 hours ago, 65mickey said:

Sai is a crazy mean bitch. That's all I got from this episode. 

But not in a fun to watch, love to hate way.

The two I really don't miss at all when they are not in a scene are Brynn and Ubah.

Edited October 9, 2023 by ichbin

[kristen111]

7 hours ago, dancingdreamer said:

There's  something  wrong with Sai, I'm not Jessels biggest  fan, but the way Sai goes on, makes me want to throw  something  at the tv. I don't  like any of them, they need to recast the whole show, or lose the few viewers they do have.

If only.  According to Andy Cohen, everything is fine and the show is a hit.  I don’t see that.  These women are self centered and obnoxious.  None are funny at all.  The old cast were the best.  Not all New York women are like this.  Why do we have to hear sob stories about how hard their lives were.  Who gives a shit?

[CrinkleCutCat]

It says something (to me) about this new iteration of RHoNY that I don’t race here to post something…and when I get here I can’t think of anything to say about the episode!

It’s just not interesting enough. I’ll go further to say that it is mostly tedious. That can’t be a good recipe for a reality show?

Edited October 10, 2023 by CrinkleCutCat
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[65mickey]

What are the ratings or this show? Andy Cohen has been carrying on about this cast being a big hit since before the first episode aired.  These women are trying way too hard to be edgy and so fabulous but they are failing miserably.