Jeremiah & Hannah: Done Counting and Done Caring

[mythoughtis]

My mom had 3 under 3… before birth control.  Then she didn’t have any more.

i really don’t recommend 3 under 3. 

[andromeda331]

7 hours ago, mythoughtis said:

My mom had 3 under 3… before birth control.  Then she didn’t have any more.

i really don’t recommend 3 under 3. 

I had a co-worker who did that. But her and her husband wanted three kids and  decided to go that route to get the diaper and baby phase over with. They were the only ones I know who ever had 3 under 3 on purpose.

Edited January 7 by andromeda331

[ginger90]

Nothing to see here!

 

 

 

Edited January 7 by ginger90

[Notabug]

11 hours ago, mythoughtis said:

My mom had 3 under 3… before birth control.  Then she didn’t have any more.

i really don’t recommend 3 under 3. 

Back in the 50's and 60's, that was pretty common.  Many women quit their jobs once they were married and many were pregnant within the year.  My mom got married in '55, had my sister 13 months later in '56, I was her Irish twin born in '57 and my mom miscarried when I was just a few months old.  She would've had 3 under two had that last pregnancy been viable.  She spaced things out after that, having 3 more each 2 years apart and then having an 'oops' in her 40's when her baby was 9+.  

In grade school, my two closest friends were from families of 8 and 9 respectively.  Another friend was one of 3 kids and we all wondered why her family was so small.  The times, they have changed.

[lianau]

My mother was born around 5 months after her parents wedding in 1952. Obviously she was a very healthy and good sized preemie. My grandmother had another child 2 years later and her third and last  one 5 years later. 

[satrunrose]

my dad's family was big, but very regularly spaced out in the pre-birth control era. I always wondered if it was a coincidence or my grandma putting her nurses training to good use. 

[Notabug]

1 hour ago, satrunrose said:

my dad's family was big, but very regularly spaced out in the pre-birth control era. I always wondered if it was a coincidence or my grandma putting her nurses training to good use. 

If your grandmother breastfed her kids, that could account for the spacing.  Many women do not ovulate, especially in the first 6 months or so while breastfeeding.

Or, she paid attention when they discussed human reproduction in nursing school or had access to plenty of condoms.

Edited January 11 by Notabug

[andromeda331]

2 hours ago, satrunrose said:

my dad's family was big, but very regularly spaced out in the pre-birth control era. I always wondered if it was a coincidence or my grandma putting her nurses training to good use. 

Three of my grandparents came from large families but they were regulary spaced. I think most large families were like that instead of the Duggar, Bates and etc. Unlike them the parents actually had to raise the kids, mothers make dinner from scratch, laundry, and all the other stuff without the appliances we have. The fathers actually had to work generally worked long hours which put a cramp in going to bed all the time. If the Duggars, Bates and etc. actually had work and raise their children instead of pushing it off on their daughters, they would have fewer kids. 

[GeeGolly]

My mom had 4 kids in 6+ years. The 1st two are Irish twins, the next one 2+ years later and me, the last, 3 years later. It seems to me as my mom became busier raising kids she was less up to making them.

As many of you pointed out, having kids is one thing, purposely having a huge litter was not and is not the norm.

God didn't give the Duggars 19 kids, sex and a calendar did that.

[CalicoKitty]

My mother was the youngest of 10 children, and they were all spaced out about every two years.  My mother was 20 years younger than her eldest sister.  My dad's mother was only 5 years older than my aunt Liz.

[EmeraldGirl]

My aunt and uncle had 10 children. He was a doctor and she was a nurse. My old Slovak grandmother got pissed off and asked how a doctor and a nurse could not know how to stop it from happening. Ha. Yes, she had to do a lot of babysitting.
 

I never asked what was up with my family. I wish I would have because they’re both gone. But I have two sisters, 15 and 6 years older than me. WTF kind of spreading out is that? My mom never mentioned infertility, but in those days families kept so many secrets so who knows?

[Vantraveller]

My mum had 6 kids in 8 years. And her sister ended up with 7 but had her fifth before her first turned 5. No multiples in either family. Ah the good old Catholics in the 60's! My school was full of families like ours.

 

[oliviabenson]

3rd one: Brandy.  Brenda, Brenda Lynn , Brenna, Bryceton 

 

Edited January 15 by oliviabenson

[EmeraldGirl]

Britton! Baylee! Barnabuss! 

[Jynnan tonnix]

17 hours ago, Vantraveller said:

My mum had 6 kids in 8 years. And her sister ended up with 7 but had her fifth before her first turned 5. No multiples in either family. Ah the good old Catholics in the 60's! My school was full of families like ours.

 

My mother-in-law had seven kids (3 boys, one girl, then three more boys) in just over nine years, but after that, my father-in-law got a vasectomy.  It was good that they stopped when they did, because the youngest ended up having osteogenesis imperfecta (brittle bone disease), which put a huge strain on the family in general. My father-in-law worked three jobs just to make ends meet, my mother-in-law  was so often in the hospital with her youngest, and Mr Jyn, as the oldest, had to do a lot of day-to-day childcare, cooking, and such by the time he was about 10 years old.

[jschoolgirl]

20 hours ago, oliviabenson said:

3rd one: Brandy.

 

They would never give a child the name of an alcoholic beverage!

[lookeyloo]

4 minutes ago, jschoolgirl said:

They would never give a child the name of an alcoholic beverage!

True story. I worked with a woman who had a daughter.  Her daughter married a man with the last name of Alexander.   They had a daughter.  And sure enough, they named her...Brandy Alexander.  Brandy Alexander grew up in the deep south of a devout Christian family, and is a lesbian and in the military.  Of course many of you know that Sweet Son was gay and I am totally a hundred percent on board with all of it.  But to these people, well...

[oliviabenson]

5 hours ago, jschoolgirl said:

They would never give a child the name of an alcoholic beverage!

Brandita or Brandina 

[Heathen]

Have they said the next spawn is female? If so, Brianne is my guess, after Jill Rod's coulda-been daughter-in-law. Who cares if it sounds similar to the first two kids' names -- this is a family where the names mostly sound alike anyway. 

[EmeraldGirl]

Or just go for the fish, Branzino. 
 

One of the teen moms named her twin daughters Aleeah and Aliannah. Not only are they kind of the same name, but WTF with the spelling! Don’t make life harder than it has to be. No teacher or friend etc. is ever gonna spell that right.

[beckie]

Yes, they've said they're having another girl.

On 1/16/2025 at 11:10 PM, EmeraldGirl said:

Or just go for the fish, Branzino. 
 

One of the teen moms named her twin daughters Aleeah and Aliannah. Not only are they kind of the same name, but WTF with the spelling! Don’t make life harder than it has to be. No teacher or friend etc. is ever gonna spell that right.

And they call one of them by her middle name, so as to avoid confusion.  But that could have been avoided by not naming them like that in the first place!

[Salacious Kitty]

Hannah had the baby. 

[GeeGolly]

Emy Jane and Ivy Jane. So Duggar.

[beckie]

They must have run out of names starting with 'br' that they liked. 

[oliviabenson]

I guess it's pronounced Emmy. Too bad it wasn't Brenda or Brandy or Brie.

Actually I forgot what her kids are named.

Edited May 18 by oliviabenson

[Salacious Kitty]

Brynley and Brielle. 

[dargosmydaddy]

4 hours ago, beckie said:

They must have run out of names starting with 'br' that they liked. 

Good for them in NOT sticking to a theme, or worrying that the new baby will feel left out for not having a "Br" name. Which is what JB and Michelle should have done...

[dargosmydaddy]

5 hours ago, GeeGolly said:

Emy Jane and Ivy Jane. So Duggar.

Ivy already has a cousin Isla Jane on the Seewald side, so she's used to it.

Isn't one of Jed and Katey's twins Emma? Emma and Emy within a few months of each other... maybe they chose an E name so she'll be an honorary triplet?

[oliviabenson]

with that many kids already it be impossible to find a name that doesn't match it has not been used yet. just use the name you like and call it a day.

[Gemma Violet]

There're two Evys (Evangeline and Evelyn) and an Ivy, and now an Emmie and an Emma.

Edited May 19 by Gemma Violet

[GeeGolly]

There are endless names. For a first name I would find a name nobody used and one that isn't similar. For the middle name, no big deal.

At least the Duggar grandkids won't end up in the same classroom. 

[crazy8s]

1 hour ago, GeeGolly said:

At least the Duggar grandkids won't end up in the same classroom. 

Oh but they might. All those kids living on the TTH property and any others close by might surely end up at the TTH dining table and school room computer area shown on the show.

[GeeGolly]

3 hours ago, crazy8s said:

Oh but they might. All those kids living on the TTH property and any others close by might surely end up at the TTH dining table and school room computer area shown on the show.

At least Ivy and the Evys won't be there, but the two Emys likely will be.

[Salacious Kitty]

3 hours ago, crazy8s said:

Oh but they might. All those kids living on the TTH property and any others close by might surely end up at the TTH dining table and school room computer area shown on the show.

Didn't Jana remodel that room before she left? I forget what it's supposed to be now. 

[EmeraldGirl]

Oh, for God sake, there are literally thousands of names they could’ve picked. Especially so close in age to the other Emma/Emy/whatever. Like when the Duggers did a Joseph, Josiah, Johanna, Joy Anna, Josie. 
 

It’s the third kid, so it’s not like it was a name she had picked out and had her heart set on forever. 

[lookeyloo]

I guess I just don't care what they name their kids.  I had two cousins Susan and I am very old.  We didn't have trouble telling the two Susans apart.

[andromeda331]

She's very cute. I'm surprised it wasn't a B name. I like the name. I wonder with the others if it will be confusing for Emy and Emma. 

[GeeGolly]

In a world where they're one of 19 J's and one of 30ish Duggar grandchildren, I think having your own name would mean something.

One of the things I like about my name is it has never been trendy but has hung on for years. I'm almost always the only 'GeeGolly' in the room, but my last agency email had more than I would have guessed.

I once worked on a team with 6 women, 3 of which were Kate, Katie and Katelyn. I like the name Kate but I was also glad it wasn't my name.

I think for a Duggar grandchild a distinctly different name from their cousins would be a small gift of individuality. 

[lookeyloo]

9 hours ago, andromeda331 said:

She's very cute. I'm surprised it wasn't a B name. I like the name. I wonder with the others if it will be confusing for Emy and Emma. 

My guess is the family will figure it out.  "Aunt X's Emy" since they all have the same last initial if they are married to a Duggar boy.  Otherwise Evy V and Evy F for example.

Edited May 21 by lookeyloo

[EmeraldGirl]

I have always hated my name. It’s my mother‘s name, grandmother‘s name, the other grandmother‘s middle name, and three cousins have the same name. People like to shorten it to a nickname, including my entire in law family! I have been known to them from the beginning as the nickname because I met my husband through my cousin – and everyone, but my immediate family called me that name too. I gave my kids names that nobody had. Well at least nobody I knew. Poor first son – everyone in his age group had that same name. I had no idea because there was no Internet, and I just liked it from a baby book. 

[lookeyloo]

1 hour ago, EmeraldGirl said:

I have always hated my name. It’s my mother‘s name, grandmother‘s name, the other grandmother‘s middle name, and three cousins have the same name. People like to shorten it to a nickname, including my entire in law family! I have been known to them from the beginning as the nickname because I met my husband through my cousin – and everyone, but my immediate family called me that name too. I gave my kids names that nobody had. Well at least nobody I knew. Poor first son – everyone in his age group had that same name. I had no idea because there was no Internet, and I just liked it from a baby book. 

Oh gosh.  I named Sweet Son something I liked, and back then, like you said, no internet and I didn't even have a baby book, and then turns out it is the most favorite boys name ever!  He never liked or used a nickname.

[Jynnan tonnix]

On 5/21/2025 at 5:01 AM, GeeGolly said:

In a world where they're one of 19 J's and one of 30ish Duggar grandchildren, I think having your own name would mean something.

One of the things I like about my name is it has never been trendy but has hung on for years. I'm almost always the only 'GeeGolly' in the room, but my last agency email had more than I would have guessed.

I once worked on a team with 6 women, 3 of which were Kate, Katie and Katelyn. I like the name Kate but I was also glad it wasn't my name.

I think for a Duggar grandchild a distinctly different name from their cousins would be a small gift of individuality. 

I come from a very Polish family, but am an only child with a fairly unusual name even within the Polish community. So even though I'm not particularly fond of my first name, at least it isn't just one more of the Basia (Barbara), Kasia (Krystyna), or the handful of variations on Maria which populate most of the other families we know. My mom had a cleaning lady a few years ago who went by "Maryla" because every other variation on Mary/Maria within her circle seemed to have already been used multiple times. I can't quite fathom that degree of veneration. It is my middle name.

Edited May 25 by Jynnan tonnix