S07.E00: Being Gary

[druzy]

To celebrate Leah's ninth birthday, Gary plans a trip to Florida with his family and hopes to fix his difficult relationship with his mom, Carol; his parents recently started dating each other again.

Tue 02/19 8:00 PM - 9:01 PM 

[CofCinci]

I didn’t realize his relationship with his mother had issues?

[GreatKazu]

Is this the first time we are hearing about Gary's dad? 

[MyPeopleAreNordic]

Wait....when we "met" Gary at the beginning of 16&P/TM, wasn't Gary's mom married to a guy who was around Gary's age? Maybe that guy had even been Gary's friend?

I assume now Gary's mom and that guy have divorced, so now Gary's mom and Gary's dad are dating each other again? 

On 2/9/2018 at 10:22 AM, GreatKazu said:

Is this the first time we are hearing about Gary's dad? 

I don't remember ever hearing about him/seeing him before.

I'm glad Gary is getting his own special, but I hope Kristina gets a "Being Kristina" as well. I know she'll be featured heavily in Gary's special, but since she does more "mothering" than many of the girls in the franchise, I'd love for her to get her own special, too. (And I'm still saying Randy and Pete the Pig need their own specials, too.)

[FairyDusted]

I have wondered where Carol went. Yeah, I sorta recall a young dude laying up at her house only because I think Gary saying he couldn't stay with her. Interesting about his Dad… 

Edited February 13, 2018 by FairyDusted
one missing letter changes everything

[druzy]

On 2/9/2018 at 7:32 AM, druzy said:

To celebrate Leah's ninth birthday, Gary plans a trip to Florida with his family and hopes to fix his difficult relationship with his mom, Carol; his parents recently started dating each other again.

Tue 02/20 8:00 PM - 9:01 PM 

MTV changed the air date to Monday 02/19/20 8:00 PM

[GreatKazu]

1 hour ago, druzy said:

MTV changed the air date to Monday 02/19/20 8:00 PM

They were so busy hustling on that editing they had to do. 

Thanks @druzy for keeping us updated.

[CofCinci]

I’m really looking forward to this episode. Go Gary!

[Rebecca]

On 2/12/2018 at 3:13 PM, MyPeopleAreNordic said:

Wait....when we "met" Gary at the beginning of 16&P/TM, wasn't Gary's mom married to a guy who was around Gary's age? Maybe that guy had even been Gary's friend?

I assume now Gary's mom and that guy have divorced, so now Gary's mom and Gary's dad are dating each other again? 

I don’t think he was around Gary’s age but he was definitely younger than his mom. His mom also well, looks rough for her age. Public records indicate that Carol Zizak is 52 years old and Christopher Zizak, who I am assuming is the former husband we are talking about, is listed as being 41 years old. I'm still looking for more info. 

In an old tweet from 2012 Gary mentions another former step father (who sounds like a sicko) so we can assume Carol has been married at least 3 times. There are also 4 last names associated with her. Link to that tweet: https://mobile.twitter.com/itsgarytime/status/210218323357609984

Finally a “Being” episode I’m excited to watch!!!!

Edited February 16, 2018 by Rebecca

[druzy]

[Spencer Hastings]

I can’t believe that there’s going to be a special about Gary...and that I’m happy about it.  2018, what’s up? 

[druzy]

[MyPeopleAreNordic]

On 2/16/2018 at 12:27 PM, Rebecca said:

I don’t think he was around Gary’s age but he was definitely younger than his mom. His mom also well, looks rough for her age. Public records indicate that Carol Zizak is 52 years old and Christopher Zizak, who I am assuming is the former husband we are talking about, is listed as being 41 years old. I'm still looking for more info. 

Thanks, @Rebecca! Gary is 31, so the stepdad wasn't his age/one of his friends. I don't know why I thought that.

I guess I can see how having a twenty-something stepdad when you're in your late teens would be weird, though, especially if you didn't get along with them.  I say go ahead, Carol the Cougar, though! LOL. (I know they've since divorced.)

[druzy]

Here is another preview that has more footage. Gary never knew his father.

Edited February 19, 2018 by druzy

[druzy]

On 2/9/2018 at 11:22 AM, GreatKazu said:

Is this the first time we are hearing about Gary's dad? 

That's because Gary never knew him, until now. The second preview I posted has more footage. I'm looking forward to watching this special!

[druzy]

Edited February 20, 2018 by druzy
I think a tweet or Instagram that I posted was deleted.

[ginger90]

What was it, Druzy?

[druzy]

1 hour ago, ginger90 said:

What was it, Druzy?

I don't know why my post is empty above your post.

I hope my post doesn't merge with my previous post because this will not make sense.

It's Gary Time!!!

They merged.

Edited February 20, 2018 by druzy

[AirQuotes]

Last night my husband was watching a Duck Dynasty marathon so we didn't watch Victoria.  So now tonight I have to watch Victoria and maybe I can stay awake long enough to watch Being Gary.   

I remember when Amber when on her deranged rant about he only bought his nice house and chickens to spite her. lol

[druzy]

2 minutes ago, AirQuotes said:

Last night my husband was watching a Duck Dynasty marathon so we didn't watch Victoria.  So now tonight I have to watch Victoria and maybe I can stay awake long enough to watch Being Gary.   

I remember when Amber when on her deranged rant about he only bought his nice house and chickens to spite her. lol

Being Gary is on 8/7 Central tonight.

[druzy]

[AirQuotes]

9 minutes ago, druzy said:

Being Gary is on 8/7 Central tonight.

I have it set on the dvr.  It's just if I can stay awake to watch it after Victoria. lol

[druzy]

[druzy]

[Mothra]

WTF?  Poor Gary.  His mom needs psychological help imo.  I wondered if she just didn't want to appear on TV.  She kept her head down so much on the few occasions she was captured by the camera.  And "no sex" is the reason she didn't want to marry what's-his-name?  She wants him to get it taken care of, by which I guess she means go to the doctor, but why in hell would he want to propose, knowing that this was such a big problem?  Gary, you are such a good guy, my heart goes out to you.

[charmed1]

I noticed that Jody was wearing a wedding band while he was proposing marriage to Carol.

Poor Robert. What an embarrassing thing to have happen to him and in front of other people.

Edited February 20, 2018 by charmed1

[athousandclowns]

1. Spoiler

   2 hours ago, Mothra said:

   WTF?  Poor Gary.  His mom needs psychological help imo.  I wondered if she just didn't want to appear on TV.  She kept her head down so much on the few occasions she was captured by the camera.  And "no sex" is the reason she didn't want to marry what's-his-name?  She wants him to get it taken care of, by which I guess she means go to the doctor, but why in hell would he want to propose, knowing that this was such a big problem?  Gary, you are such a good guy, my heart goes out to you.

   E

   I echo the poor Gary. His crazy ass angry mother is not getting sex? Hmmmmmm wonder why?  It's amazing Gary turned out functinal and good.  

[Emkat]

I thought I remembered Gary's mother being on pretty regularly in the early seasons. Wasn't she watching Leah quite a bit then and they filmed a lot in her house?

[GreatKazu]

WTH did I just watch?

This wasn't Being Gary. It was "Being Gary's Dad Who Isn't Giving Carol the Nymphomaniac Any Sex."

lol

Carol, I get it. Being menopausal heightened my sex drive. The thing is, as men get older, sometimes their sex drive decreases. I think she was pushing him to get Viagra. Men tend to be embarrassed when it comes to talking to a doctor about their sex issues. I think that was his issue. 

As for her telling Gary about herdepression, man, she sounded like Amber in that moment.

I think she might be feeling depressed, not actually suffering from depression. She is demanding intimacy and sex. She isn't getting any and it is making her feel unloved and unwanted.

Those two need to NOT get married until Gary's dad follows through with seeing his doctor, and it would help if they visited a couple's counselor.

I feel cheated. I wanted more Gary, Kristina, and their home life.

[CofCinci]

2 hours ago, Emkat said:

I thought I remembered Gary's mother being on pretty regularly in the early seasons. Wasn't she watching Leah quite a bit then and they filmed a lot in her house?

Yes. She had that vintage Pepsi vending machine  rusting out in her front yard. 

[Maire]

Having watched from the beginning I never thought Gary would end up being my fave. I love his farm and his family. He is really giving it his all. Plus I really appreciate that he and Christina are not drunk/high all the time. Good job Gary!

[meredithalmighty]

Gary loves Florida that's for sure! He should have warned Jodi about Florida  engagements. Where did Gary proposed to Kristina? Did they ever show their engagement on Teen Mom?

I really admire Gary for the forgiveness he showed towards his dad. 

I feel bad for his dynamic with his Mom- I'm not sure if it can ever truly be fixed. She wants to act like a teenager and Gary has endorsed adulthood. Even Robert seems to have moved  on from her. I cringed when she said, "Shut up Gary."  It's really a shame how disconnected Gary's  mom acts towards her grandchildren. 

Liked Gary's relationship with Robert- I think he would have been better off if he just invited Robert and his son onto the family trip.

I didn't see the entire episode because the MTV server went down, but really felt for Kristina when she shared the pain of her parents not being around. 

Kudos to Gary for being such a family focused person. I hope that him & Kristina realize that they have opportunities to make lasting friendships with the other parents who have kids in their kids classes. In the long run, that may be more positive than trying to rebuild a bond with his mom.

[FlowerofCarnage]

Gary's mom gives me "I film myself having sex and upload it to amateur porn sites" vibe. Lol

[Booger666]

I actually felt a little bad for Gary’s mom.  He asked her to be around more and she said she would if he stopped making jokes at her expense.  All Gary had to say was “OK” but he didn’t.  He has a habit of not knowing when enough is enough and he just kept going at her.  I was glad the producer interrupted them because that finally seemed to get them both to settle down a bit.  Hopefully they can let their past hurts go and get along going forward.

[Marisagf]

Any ideas of where I can see Being Gary?  MTV Canada doesn't show the Being Specials and I get blocked on the MTV US site.

 

Thanks!

[Feline Queen]

I think Gary dodged a bullet by not ending up with Amber. He's created a great life for his family. Kudos to him. 

[Calm81]

Wow.

Gary dodged a freight train when Amber went to gel because his mom, Carol, reminded me of Amber. Thank goodness for Kristina.

Did I actually hear Amber GROAN because Gary wanted her to talk to Leah on the phone to wish her happy birthday????? If it ain’t on social media I ain’t got time for that?!?!?!?! Fucking cow!

And I loved it when she told Gary “make sure she has fun!” Bitch please, Gary and Kristina are the only reasons that child has joy in her life since her momma and grandma don’t give two flying fucks about spending time with her because of their DEPRESSION.

This special pissed me off and made me love Gary even more. A couple of years ago I spent 6 months orchestrating a family trip for Christmas and had a bunch of moody negative people included when all I wanted to do was bring my family closer. I could relate to Gary on this trip and I just want to hug him. Leah and Emi are so lucky he has such a strong desire to be a great father!!!!

Disclaimer: I don’t mean to dismiss Carols depression or menopause, it’s just that I don’t like it when people treat others so badly because of what they’re going through. My mom had terrible menopause so I know it isn’t a fun experience and I went through postpartum depression three times but you just can’t be treating people so poorly, especially the people you’re claiming to love.

P.S. 

Psst. Hey Carol, I hear that talking sweet nothings into a man ear while blowing on his ear can make his oar stand up...maybe try that next time you want sex otherwise your nasty attitude is a bonerkill.

Ending my bitchy rant now. ??

[druzy]

1 hour ago, Marisagf said:

Any ideas of where I can see Being Gary?  MTV Canada doesn't show the Being Specials and I get blocked on the MTV US site.

 

Thanks!

Try this link

[Maharincess]

I haven't watched yet, I'm planning to because I've always liked Gary a lot.  I don't want to sound like a bitch in the middle of all of this (well deserved) Gary love but, did they say anything about Gary's weight in the show?  From what I can see he's as big as he ever was, I just hope he gets serious about it and gets it under control so he can be around for a long time for his girls.   I wonder why he hasn't had the weight loss surgery. 

[Marisagf]

Thanks, @druzy!!!  That link worked for me!

[GreatKazu]

4 hours ago, Maharincess said:

I haven't watched yet, I'm planning to because I've always liked Gary a lot.  I don't want to sound like a bitch in the middle of all of this (well deserved) Gary love but, did they say anything about Gary's weight in the show?  From what I can see he's as big as he ever was, I just hope he gets serious about it and gets it under control so he can be around for a long time for his girls.   I wonder why he hasn't had the weight loss surgery. 

No. Although, in one scene he seemed to be a bit slimmer, not much. But I think it was because he was wearing a black t-shirt.

[charmed1]

5 hours ago, Calm81 said:

Gary dodged a freight train when Amber went to gel because his mom, Carol, reminded me of Amber. 

Absolutely. Especially the bit about the multiple men Gary said Carol had throughout his life. Poor Robert ordering a pizza and being introduced to the pizza delivery man as his father. If Gary and Robert didn’t confirm it, I would think it was some bad sitcom plot. 

[Bridget]

6 hours ago, Maharincess said:

I haven't watched yet, I'm planning to because I've always liked Gary a lot.  I don't want to sound like a bitch in the middle of all of this (well deserved) Gary love but, did they say anything about Gary's weight in the show?  From what I can see he's as big as he ever was, I just hope he gets serious about it and gets it under control so he can be around for a long time for his girls.   I wonder why he hasn't had the weight loss surgery. 

No mention of his weight at all. There were a few flashbacks from when he was still with Amber and he looked like he has put on weight since Leah was born.

I have also thought about his weight for a long time and wonder why he hasn't tried to get a handle on that. Maybe Tyler can prep, freeze & mail meals to Gary? Kidding! Kind of.

It would be devastating for Kristina & the girls if his life is cut short early due to something that he could have been prevented, like losing weight. I'm not suggesting that being heavy alone causes death, but I'm surprised he hasn't (to our knowledge) tried to get a handle on it. I'd think that the health problems that accompany males with such high BMIs would be enough to get his arse into gear, especially since he's so focused on his immediate family (as you will also see on the special). 

There is something we learned about his family & their dynamics, so it wouldn't surprise me if he was an emotional eater when he was younger, and that led to him steadily gaining weight. 

Many larger/husky/big boned male high school athletes eat huge amounts of food because they think they're burning it off. Gary is probably one of those guys who never "grew out" of his high school athlete eating habits.

 

 

 

 

[Emmierose]

I agree that maybe part of the reason Gary’s mom doesn’t get sex is because she comes across as a raging bitch most of the time.  That plus she also seems to belong to the “I don’t shower or wash my hair” club.  Now Gary’s dad doesn’t seem like a squeaky clean prize either, but he’s not the one bitching about “WANTING TO FEEL WANTED”.

Amber and Carol are cut from the very same cloth.  Amber’s excuse for everything now is that she’s pregnant and Carol is struggling because she’s “going through menopause”.  Bitches please.  I’ve done both and while I wasn’t a happy pregnant person nor is menopause what I would call fun, it doesn’t change who you are fundamentally.  Cranky sometimes, tired, emotional, but not an excuse to suck or be mean or act like a psycho.   

From what I watched, Jody and Carol should NOT get married nor be engaged.   There isn’t any love there at all. 

Edited February 24, 2018 by Emmierose
Because Gary’s Dad is Jody not Jodi

[gunderda]

14 hours ago, Bridget said:

No mention of his weight at all. There were a few flashbacks from when he was still with Amber and he looked like he has put on weight since Leah was born.

I have also thought about his weight for a long time and wonder why he hasn't tried to get a handle on that. Maybe Tyler can prep, freeze & mail meals to Gary? Kidding! Kind of.
 

I think he did sort of recently - I remember seeing a story about how he had lost a little bit.  Looking at his mom and now dad.... it's probably not an easy thing with his genes.

[druzy]

Gary anxiously waits to find out the results of the paternity test he took with Jody.

[Marisagf]

Gary was awesome in this special.  He and Kristina are such nice and normal people.  And for the Teen Mom franchise that is a massive compliment!  His mom is a piece of work, but she never seemed that loony when we used to see her on Teen Mom.  

Even his voice over readings were miles ahead of everyone else's performances!!!  I was very impressed.  Team Gary and Kristina, all the way!

[Marley]

Gary’s Mom seems messed up. What an embarrassing proposal. Also roommates don’t get engaged lol.

This special made me like Gary more. It’s crazy how good he turned out with such shitty parents lol.

Did Amber not call Leah for her bday? Did Gary actually have to call Amber to make her say happy bday to her daughter?  Damn Amber is a mega loser. Her stupid sigh at the beginning of the call. 

Leah is a cute little kid.

Edited February 22, 2018 by Marley

[Bridget]

On 2/20/2018 at 12:03 PM, Calm81 said:

Wow.

Gary dodged a freight train when Amber went to gel because his mom, Carol, reminded me of Amber. Thank goodness for Kristina.

Did I actually hear Amber GROAN because Gary wanted her to talk to Leah on the phone to wish her happy birthday????? If it ain’t on social media I ain’t got time for that?!?!?!?! Fucking cow!

And I loved it when she told Gary “make sure she has fun!” Bitch please, Gary and Kristina are the only reasons that child has joy in her life since her momma and grandma don’t give two flying fucks about spending time with her because of their DEPRESSION.

This special pissed me off and made me love Gary even more. A couple of years ago I spent 6 months orchestrating a family trip for Christmas and had a bunch of moody negative people included when all I wanted to do was bring my family closer. I could relate to Gary on this trip and I just want to hug him. Leah and Emi are so lucky he has such a strong desire to be a great father!!!!

Disclaimer: I don’t mean to dismiss Carols depression or menopause, it’s just that I don’t like it when people treat others so badly because of what they’re going through. My mom had terrible menopause so I know it isn’t a fun experience and I went through postpartum depression three times but you just can’t be treating people so poorly, especially the people you’re claiming to love.

P.S. 

Psst. Hey Carol, I hear that talking sweet nothings into a man ear while blowing on his ear can make his oar stand up...maybe try that next time you want sex otherwise your nasty attitude is a bonerkill.

Ending my bitchy rant now. ??

I couldn't believe it when I heard it. Honest to God. And it was LOUD!

I know Amber is crazy, but that was straight up sad. Regardless of the context (pregnant, hungry, angry, tired), it was a horrible thing to do, whether it was on camera or off. She has no clue the damage she is doing to her daughter. NONE. She is going to be truly shocked when Leah wants nothing to do with her and she will keep her four brain cells busy wondering why.

Go back and watch every episode of the show. THAT IS WHY. She is truly terrible.

[mamadrama]

Gosh, the difference between Kristina and Amber...

I understand where Gary's coming from with his family. My mom and dad weren't married and they split up before I was born. Unlike Gary's mom, though, my mom never dated after that so there was no parade of men throughout my life. Mom's lived as a nun for the past 37 years. But I've never been on vacation with both of my parents. Well, I've never been on a trip with my Dad, period. A year and a half ago, I learned that I have a half brother, too. I would love to get our whole family together and do something. 

Gary has a sweet little family unit with his wife and daughters. They look like they have a lot of fun and are very close. My husband's dad disowned him and cut him out of his life 7 years ago and my mother-in-law died 2 weeks after our son died. People will ask my husband, "Do you ever go back to England to visit your family?" and he'll always reply, "My family is here." He doesn't have anyone outside of me and the kids. We are also very insular, very close.