Pet Peeves: Aka Things That Make You Go "Gah!"

[PRgal]

3 hours ago, Caoimhe said:

For part of my secondary school years students were able to arrive for their first class and leave after their final one. I always chose the earliest ones, finished around lunch, then went to work. Others chose the later classes and didn’t come in until their first one. It did restrict what classes you could take but suited more students. 

We weren't allowed that until our final year.  The late mornings were called "sleep ins" and I LOVED THAT!!!!!

[nokat]

I want to learn a new language. I'm familiar with a couple, as in I can read and understand a bit. So I was looking again at ASL. I knew the alphabet because someone taught me and we would sign to each other in class.

[Browncoat]

I guess I'm the outlier in that I prefer mornings.  In undergrad, I took all the early classes -- sometimes I had no other options, but if I had options, I'd pick the 8 am ones.  In grad school, I'd get to school way early, and often leave mid-afternoon (although in grad school, the work never really stopped).  Even now, I flex my time so that I arrive to work very early and leave early.  I am apparently physically unable to sleep late, and always have been.  I think I've slept later than 7 am twice in my life.

I guess I'd just rather get to work, get it over with, and go home.

[Dimity]

8 minutes ago, Browncoat said:

I guess I'd just rather get to work, get it over with, and go home.

This was me when I worked downtown.  I preferred to get in before the traffic built up and leave before the rush hour.  I don't know if this is the same issue now though with so many working from home.  In any event I am definitely not a morning person or a night owl.  I am the lesser known early afternoon person.

[KittyMom4]

11 hours ago, Yeah No said:

Exactly, thank you. Of course now that I'm retired the world is finally catching onto this! Although I do see how it also depends on what you do and what you need to be present for at different times of the day. Being an executive admin. I had bosses that wanted me working when they were working and if that's early, they wanted me available early should they need me for something time sensitive. So I am aware that there might be good reasons for bosses to want employees there when they are. But usually for me the people I worked for worked long hours around the clock so it was just a matter of whether they were OK with me not being there in the morning when they got in, or not there after 5:00 p.m. Often it didn't matter but that didn't stop some of them from wanting me there early even if it didn't make any difference.

EA was my old position, and while I loved the people and the perks, I am glad to have a position now where my physical presence isn't mandatory, it only matters that I get the work done. 

[Caoimhe]

1 hour ago, Browncoat said:

I guess I'm the outlier in that I prefer mornings.  In undergrad, I took all the early classes -- sometimes I had no other options, but if I had options, I'd pick the 8 am ones.  In grad school, I'd get to school way early, and often leave mid-afternoon (although in grad school, the work never really stopped).  Even now, I flex my time so that I arrive to work very early and leave early.  I am apparently physically unable to sleep late, and always have been.  I think I've slept later than 7 am twice in my life.

I guess I'd just rather get to work, get it over with, and go home.

Even after 35 years together my husband finds it hard to accept that NO I will not attempt anything mentally taxing past lunch time. Ask me from 5am until to 1pm and I’ll be happy to help! When we had flex time in work I started at six am and finished at half two. It was heaven for a person like me.

[Bastet]

12 hours ago, Yeah No said:

Being an executive admin. I had bosses that wanted me working when they were working

When I had to go into the office, and had my own assistant (now that I'm in the non-profit world, we share), I wanted her in at 9:00 precisely because I wasn't there.  If the day started with a disaster, she could either handle it or, if necessary, call me.  She needed to leave at 4:30 to catch her bus, and I was perfectly happy being on my own for a few hours in the evening.  But I liked having her there in the morning when I wasn't.

[Absolom]

In the continuing story of compressor guy, while I was away a few days ago his car wouldn't start.  He told neighbors it was the battery.  I told the neighbor who was telling me about the car that compressor guy needed to take the car in for a thorough check.  He left early Thursday morning and was gone almost all day. Last night there was a brand new car in his driveway. 😁

[Dimity]

Prefacing your anti-Semitic comment with "of course antisemitism is evil" doesn't change what you said.  I have never hit unfriend on FB so fast.

[JustHereForFood]

15 hours ago, Dimity said:

Prefacing your anti-Semitic comment with "of course antisemitism is evil" doesn't change what you said.  I have never hit unfriend on FB so fast.

I've been horrified and disappointed by so many people and institutions in the last year.

[RealityCheck]

I would categorize this as a minor peeve but an irritating one.  Verizon is my cable TV provider.  Last month, Verizon informed me of a mandatory cable box upgrade so I dutitfully upgraded.  The cable box footprint is considerably smaller (yah!) but the old box had a digital clock that is missing from the new box, which is highly inconvenient.  It's especially annoying because the clock was positioned perfectly, in sightline, when I entered the room.  Now I'm going to have to buy a clock to replace it.

[Shelbie]

I had the exact same complaint when my cable box changed. The clock had always been there and I couldn’t get used to it being gone.

I went to Walmart and bought a very cheap , small digital clock. I refused to spend a lot of money on it and the cheap one has worked for years.

[Absolom]

I switched from cable to streaming and lost my "clocks." My two cheap digital clocks have been troopers.

[HissyFit]

1 hour ago, Shelbie said:

I had the exact same complaint when my cable box changed. The clock had always been there and I couldn’t get used to it being gone.

I went to Walmart and bought a very cheap , small digital clock. I refused to spend a lot of money on it and the cheap one has worked for years.

I did the same thing. The cheap little digital tucked into the shelf next to the new box and works great. Eight or nine bucks and darn well worth it.

[PRgal]

My parents have been having issues with their phones.  They’ve been Samsung/Android users for years.  My mom’s phone doesn’t seem to get alerts (we’ve had a look at their settings) and my dad’s brand new phone has other issues.  I keep telling them that they should switch to iPhone (since my husband and I have never had issues.  Plus no green bubble!!  Guess it doesn’t matter since we use WhatsApp anyway…)! But my mom not getting alerts when I message her means it’s hard to reach her.  She also doesn’t always pick up when I call.  

[Yeah No]

1 hour ago, PRgal said:

My parents have been having issues with their phones.  They’ve been Samsung/Android users for years.  My mom’s phone doesn’t seem to get alerts (we’ve had a look at their settings) and my dad’s brand new phone has other issues.  I keep telling them that they should switch to iPhone (since my husband and I have never had issues.  Plus no green bubble!!  Guess it doesn’t matter since we use WhatsApp anyway…)! But my mom not getting alerts when I message her means it’s hard to reach her.  She also doesn’t always pick up when I call.  

I am beyond upset with my Samsung phone. I loved my last one but the one I've had for the past few years has gotten buggier and buggier. Calls are dropped when I'm at home using wi-fi calling even though there's no reason for it and when I turn that off I only get 4G even though I have 5G service. I have had everything checked out by tech. support and there's no issue with anything in my area. And the camera sucks and has actually gotten worse over the years. I've had techs. look at it to see if there's some kind of weird setting screwing up the quality but no.

When my husband and I went on vacation we took photos of the same things and his i-phone photos were gorgeous while mine all looked like they had a star filter over them. It's particularly bad in certain lights. I clean the lenses all the time too! I didn't have any of these issues with my former phone but it's just too old and inadequate to go back to it (I didn't trade it in). I could still use the camera and other things on wi-fi and set them to upload on Google photos, but that's annoying. I paid a lot for the newer phone and now Verizon keeps sending me bogus trade-in offers that always have a catch and turn out not to be a great deal at all.

I've thought about switching to an i-phone but despite being more tech. savvy than a lot of my friends I find it very counterintuitive to use compared to Android. I'm usually good at figuring that kind of stuff out but the i-phone confounds me. I've also found that it won't do certain things I've gotten used to on Android and it doesn't "play nice" with Android and anything Microsoft, so if you want to share photos and other things with people not on i-phone it's deliberately and annoyingly difficult, which I've heard has actually prompted a lawsuit. And now my husband is telling me he's not so happy with i-phone anymore and is considering getting an Android phone! So I give up! 🤷‍♀️

Actually I think it might be more a function of my particular phone than Samsung or Android in general and people are telling me they're not having my issues with their Android phones so I probably just need to get a new one. But given how much they cost these days and how much I spent on this one 3 years ago (even with a "great" deal) I'm not happy about having to do that. I'm retired now so I look at money differently now. I could try to get Verizon to give me a new one through my device protection insurance based on my issues but I don't know if that would work either, and I don't want to take another chance on this model again anyway.

[PRgal]

@Yeah No:  I should probably mention that to my parents!  My dad said he didn't want to relearn how to navigate a phone since he's never had an iPhone, but he (and my mom) knows how to use an iPad.  And if you can use an iPad, you can use an iPhone.

[lookeyloo]

8 hours ago, Yeah No said:

I am beyond upset with my Samsung phone. I loved my last one but the one I've had for the past few years has gotten buggier and buggier. Calls are dropped when I'm at home using wi-fi calling even though there's no reason for it and when I turn that off I only get 4G even though I have 5G service. I have had everything checked out by tech. support and there's no issue with anything in my area. And the camera sucks and has actually gotten worse over the years. I've had techs. look at it to see if there's some kind of weird setting screwing up the quality but no.

When my husband and I went on vacation we took photos of the same things and his i-phone photos were gorgeous while mine all looked like they had a star filter over them. It's particularly bad in certain lights. I clean the lenses all the time too! I didn't have any of these issues with my former phone but it's just too old and inadequate to go back to it (I didn't trade it in). I could still use the camera and other things on wi-fi and set them to upload on Google photos, but that's annoying. I paid a lot for the newer phone and now Verizon keeps sending me bogus trade-in offers that always have a catch and turn out not to be a great deal at all.

I've thought about switching to an i-phone but despite being more tech. savvy than a lot of my friends I find it very counterintuitive to use compared to Android. I'm usually good at figuring that kind of stuff out but the i-phone confounds me. I've also found that it won't do certain things I've gotten used to on Android and it doesn't "play nice" with Android and anything Microsoft, so if you want to share photos and other things with people not on i-phone it's deliberately and annoyingly difficult, which I've heard has actually prompted a lawsuit. And now my husband is telling me he's not so happy with i-phone anymore and is considering getting an Android phone! So I give up! 🤷‍♀️

Actually I think it might be more a function of my particular phone than Samsung or Android in general and people are telling me they're not having my issues with their Android phones so I probably just need to get a new one. But given how much they cost these days and how much I spent on this one 3 years ago (even with a "great" deal) I'm not happy about having to do that. I'm retired now so I look at money differently now. I could try to get Verizon to give me a new one through my device protection insurance based on my issues but I don't know if that would work either, and I don't want to take another chance on this model again anyway.

I will just say I have loved all my iPhones.  I am sad to hear you are having phone problems.  If my house were on fire I would try and put my glasses on, take my hearing aids, one card that Sweet Son wrote me and my iPhone.  And if nothing else, my iPhone!  I got a lanyard so I can wear it and never be without it.  We have an unhealthy relationship!

[Yeah No]

6 hours ago, lookeyloo said:

I will just say I have loved all my iPhones.  I am sad to hear you are having phone problems.  If my house were on fire I would try and put my glasses on, take my hearing aids, one card that Sweet Son wrote me and my iPhone.  And if nothing else, my iPhone!  I got a lanyard so I can wear it and never be without it.  We have an unhealthy relationship!

Thank you. Part of my problem is that I detest having to switch to any new phone, whatever it is. They keep making it easier to transfer everything over to a new phone but inevitably there are settings, background colors and apps that need tweaking and it takes forever before I get everything up and running the way I like it. I am like that with computers too. I bought a new one a few weeks ago because my PC, although it's only about 5 years old, is not upgradable to Windows 11. I haven't even taken it out of the box yet. I've had too many other things going on to be able to handle setting it up right now. I have a support line I pay for that will help me with it if necessary but I still hate it, and that's despite having all my documents in the cloud, too.

[oliviabenson]

I never thought I'd be so happy with an android phone. Not too bad. 

[Cloud9Shopper]

People who come up to a register to ring out their orders and then are not ready to pay. I had a mother and son in my grocery line last night who not only decided to come up with $500 worth of groceries 10 minutes before close but then took almost 20 minutes to find their card! Thus holding up me, the cashier, two courtesy clerks who had to do the money audit, and the closing store manager. Does this lady act embarrassed or apologize profusely for what she’s doing? Oh of course not. When the manager finally told her she has to figure out what she’s doing, she continued to protest “oh I just had the card!” and “It took me so long to shop for all of this!” like she didn’t have all day to come in for her two carts worth of groceries. (She and her son also had a young child with them at nearly 9 pm and did a whole “where’s the card? I gave it to you; check your pockets!”)

I will say that most of the time when my customers realize they forgot their card, they come back in pretty quick and ready to pay. (Mostly because they left the card in the car or they only live less than five minutes away.) And I probably would have been more forgiving had she only bought three or four things. But the audacity to load up on $500 worth of groceries and not be immediately ready to pay while holding up a closing staff…this is the kind of thing that makes me wish “the customer is always right” would just die. She also then decided after finding her card, that instead of apologizing profusely and immediately paying and leaving, that she needed lighters and proceeded to want to argue to pay cash after registers had already been counted. I would have told her no at that point. Sorry, store is closed. Time to go home. The dollar store is open till 10 or you can come back for lighters tomorrow…

Edited November 12 by Cloud9Shopper

[Mrsmaul2021]

@Cloud9Shopper, I worked several customer services jobs throughout my life. My last and longest was banking. My first job was Dillard's dept store back in 1992.  Just reading your story is giving me PTSD

 

[Dimity]

Ugh, the fundies have come out of the woodwork.  In the past couple of weeks we've had two or three different groups come knocking trying to convert us.  Used to be family groups but now it's all men.  No idea if that means anything or just a coincidence.  I don't answer the door and their hellfire and brimstone pamphlets that they leave in the mailbox go straight into the recycling box.  I hate though that they keep coming to my door. 

[Ancaster]

VIN number.  That "N" at the end stands for "number".  So please stop saying VIN number.

[Bastet]

9 minutes ago, Ancaster said:

VIN number.  That "N" at the end stands for "number".  So please stop saying VIN number.

Same with "PIN number".

At least use of "ATM machine" seems to have died off.

[Absolom]

SSN, the N stands for number.

[SoMuchTV]

11 minutes ago, Absolom said:

SSN, the N stands for number.

Do you actually hear people saying “SSN number”? I realize now I hear people saying “social” rather than SSN, now that I think about it. 

[Absolom]

I did for the 20 years I worked there.

[Ancaster]

"Oyshter"

"Horshradish"

"Hairy" Potter

Edited November 14 by Ancaster

[PRgal]

5 hours ago, Ancaster said:

"Oyshter"

"Horshradish"

"Hairy" Potter

Harry and hairy sound identical for some accents.  It's just how it is.

Peeve:  Getting around downtown Toronto will be tough the next three days (and next Thursday, Friday and Saturday as well).  Swifties are descending for her six concerts here.....However, it would generate MILLIONS for the city's economy, especially with hotel prices jacked up about a million times the norm.

[tearknee]

6 minutes ago, PRgal said:

Harry and hairy sound identical for some accents.  It's just how it is.

Peeve:  Getting around downtown Toronto will be tough the next three days (and next Thursday, Friday and Saturday as well).  Swifties are descending for her six concerts here.....However, it would generate MILLIONS for the city's economy, especially with hotel prices jacked up about a million times the norm.

You live in Toronto?

https://rockradioscrapbook.ca/

http://chumtribute.com/

[PRgal]

2 minutes ago, tearknee said:

You live in Toronto?

https://rockradioscrapbook.ca/

http://chumtribute.com/

Yep.

[tearknee]

Sorry, i just thought you would enjoy those websites

[ABay]

31 minutes ago, PRgal said:

Harry and hairy sound identical for some accents.  It's just how it is.

Yes, that's what I was going to say when I read @Ancaster's post. Berry and Barry (ask a Jeopardy fan...or don't), merry and marry, all the same sound. I can't remember where the Harvard Dialect survey showed them sounding different.

Here's the map: http://dialect.redlog.net/index.html

I also saw an article that said 57% of Americans pronounce them the same. I don't know what the other 43% are doing with those vowels. One of my friends who does pronounce them differently said the words slowly to me and I didn't hear a difference.

Edited November 14 by ABay

[Ancaster]

1 hour ago, ABay said:

Yes, that's what I was going to say when I read @Ancaster's post. Berry and Barry (ask a Jeopardy fan...or don't), merry and marry, all the same sound. I can't remember where the Harvard Dialect survey showed them sounding different.

Here's the map: http://dialect.redlog.net/index.html

I also saw an article that said 57% of Americans pronounce them the same. I don't know what the other 43% are doing with those vowels. One of my friends who does pronounce them differently said the words slowly to me and I didn't hear a difference.

One of the many reasons my friends and family find me obnoxious - Mary, marry, merry.  Three words, three pronunciations.  I sit in my corner and weep.

[Dimity]

"I know no one is going to agree but I pay taxes for soldiers not for students" - this hit my FB wall today and I am just shaking my head.  What does this even mean?  You think your taxes pay specifically only for things you support?  Like there's a little checklist that the govt gives you at some point or another and you get to pick 5 things you support and rank them in importance?  I am so sick and tired of this crap.

[SweetieDarling]

3 hours ago, ABay said:

Yes, that's what I was going to say when I read @Ancaster's post. Berry and Barry (ask a Jeopardy fan...or don't), merry and marry, all the same sound. I can't remember where the Harvard Dialect survey showed them sounding different.

Here's the map: http://dialect.redlog.net/index.html

I also saw an article that said 57% of Americans pronounce them the same. I don't know what the other 43% are doing with those vowels. One of my friends who does pronounce them differently said the words slowly to me and I didn't hear a difference.

It's part of the "Philadelphia accent" to pronounce Marry, Mary and Merry differently. Can (verb) and Can (noun) are also pronounced differently

[PRgal]

25 minutes ago, SweetieDarling said:

It's part of the "Philadelphia accent" to pronounce Marry, Mary and Merry differently. Can (verb) and Can (noun) are also pronounced differently

Lemme guess, the noun is more like "kin," right?  

[SweetieDarling]

1 hour ago, PRgal said:

Lemme guess, the noun is more like "kin," right?  

no, it rhymes with man

[SoMuchTV]

2 hours ago, SweetieDarling said:

It's part of the "Philadelphia accent" to pronounce Marry, Mary and Merry differently. Can (verb) and Can (noun) are also pronounced differently

 

1 hour ago, PRgal said:

Lemme guess, the noun is more like "kin," right?  

 

13 minutes ago, SweetieDarling said:

no, it rhymes with man

I never really thought about it, but I absolutely do pronounce them differently. Or maybe it’s just that “can” as a verb gets less emphasis, generally. “I c’n put this in the trash can.”  The only exception would be for emphasis - “You CAN have a cookie, but MAY you?” (Mid Atlantic/Appalachian area)

[meep.meep]

On 11/14/2024 at 10:13 AM, Dimity said:

"I know no one is going to agree but I pay taxes for soldiers not for students" - this hit my FB wall today and I am just shaking my head.  What does this even mean?  You think your taxes pay specifically only for things you support?  Like there's a little checklist that the govt gives you at some point or another and you get to pick 5 things you support and rank them in importance?  I am so sick and tired of this crap.

The two are not mutually exclusive.  Their Venn diagrams overlap.

[Anela]

Dad texted me, with just “Ange, call me please.” I saw this pop up on my ipad, and flew off the couch, wondering if he’d hurt himself again, and was on the way to the hospital, or if someone had died. 
 

he needed a code that was sent to my mum’s email address, instead of his own. 

peeves: my doomer brain + he never asks me to call him.  

[Dimity]

The Old Spice commercials where the guy goes ballistic because a woman sharing his house dares to use his Old Spice. 

So they can't buy two bottles?  He can't spare some of his damn Old Spice?  Is ours the only house where using someone else's soap isn't going to get you yelled at?

I watch these commercials and all I see is Mr. Entitled who never learned to share nicely.  Is this the message Old Spice actually wants people to take away from these commercials?

Edited November 16 by Dimity

[Bastet]

5 hours ago, Anela said:

peeves: my doomer brain + he never asks me to call him.  

My mom once left a message on my answering machine, in her worried voice:  "I had to take Dad to the ER."

Of course, when I try to call her, I can't get through (cell phones didn't work in that ER then).  So I don't know whether he's had a heart attack, cut his hand off on the table saw, or what.  I drive over there, and he was having some intestinal problems.  Painful, and needed to be dealt with immediately, but not serious.  That needs to be part of the message, Mother!

I put my purse down, told my dad I was glad he was relatively okay, and told my mom, "There better be another free bed in this joint, because you're about to need one."

[SoMuchTV]

1 hour ago, Bastet said:

My mom once left a message on my answering machine, in her worried voice:  "I had to take Dad to the ER."

Of course, when I try to call her, I can't get through (cell phones didn't work in that ER then).  So I don't know whether he's had a heart attack, cut his hand off on the table saw, or what.  I drive over there, and he was having some intestinal problems.  Painful, and needed to be dealt with immediately, but not serious.  That needs to be part of the message, Mother!

I put my purse down, told my dad I was glad he was relatively okay, and told my mom, "There better be another free bed in this joint, because you're about to need one."

Haha, my daughter went to the urgent care with a scary-looking rash, and I got a text from her saying "they are dead".  What????  She clarified that they weren't busy at all.  Not the best metaphor!

Other daughter has been to the ER so many times between herself & kids, she has learned to lead with "We're all fine, but..."

[Dimity]

Reminds me of the time my then teen daughter had a car accident and in her sobbing call to me led with "I hit someone" and my mind immediately leapt to her having struck a pedestrian!  Finding out it was a fender bender came as a huge relief!

Edited November 16 by Dimity

[RealHousewife]

Stinky dance partners.

Some of the guys smell like it's been awhile since they've showered, and there are also guys who get drenched in sweat and won't take breaks. I know some people sweat easily, but I really appreciate the dancers who take breaks in between dances to cool down, wipe their sweat off, pop mints, etc. 

[Cloud9Shopper]

How easily new clothes get holes in them. I’m wearing a pajama set for the first time, I’ve had it on for not even an hour, and there’s already a hole in the pants! I paid $40 for this set; there is nothing I’ve been doing that would have already made the pants rip. I can’t sew either, and I’m not going to throw out brand new clothes. I’m thinking of getting fabric glue but clothes that are expensive and that new should not already have holes. 

[xls]

DRAWSTRING PANTS!

I can't find plain black pants without them all having dumb-fk drawstrings! 

WTH started this stupid shit? FK U

I have sudden urge innocence buy the time I untie those r******* strings in the bathroom it'll be too late. 

Edited November 18 by xls

[SoMuchTV]

19 minutes ago, xls said:

DRAWSTRING PANTS!

I can't find plain black pants without them all having dumb-fk drawstrings! 

WTH started this stupid shit? FK U

I have sudden urge innocence buy the time I untie those r******* strings in the bathroom it'll be too late. 

I’m not sure if this is an appropriate response to what’s obviously a rant, but it sounds like you’re looking for non-zipper, non sweatpants. I recently found these (hope the link works, I’ll try to come back and edit if not).

https://a.co/d/arOphaa

Adding a picture. They’re stretchy, have front pockets that fit a phone. Could look dressy enough for work with the right top. 

Edited November 18 by SoMuchTV