S03.E08: Selective Virtues

[bichonblitz]

18 hours ago, Frozendiva said:

My Indian work friend retired a couple of years ago. She seemed more modern and I don’t think she moved in with her kids and their spouses. I think she was born in Tanzania and then moved to Canada.

Sounds like your work friend adapted to American culture the same way Jenny should adapt to the culture of India. 

[Frozendiva]

17 minutes ago, bichonblitz said:

Sounds like your work friend adapted to American culture the same way Jenny should adapt to the culture of India. 

They even adopted Canadian holidays like Christmas. They had a tree because they liked the lights and it looked pretty, the days were dark and it made things brighter, the kids had friends in school who celebrated it. It was a day to spend with family and eat some turkey or whatever. They were in Canada now. Jenny can bring some of her own traditions and add it to the new culture with Sumit and his family.

[nutella fitzgerald]

27 minutes ago, bichonblitz said:

Sounds like your work friend adapted to American culture the same way Jenny should adapt to the culture of India. 

Man, you guys are harder on Jenny than my own Indian mother is. Jenny has made way more of an effort to assimilate than we have seen on Sumit’s end to make her adjustment easier. She wears Indian clothes, she mentioned trying to cook Indian food, and if she had more than two people to talk to in India she might have picked up some more Hindi by now.

Sumit had a traditional Indian wife, but he divorced her in a ($20) grand gesture where he begged his parents to reject the customs of old. But all of a sudden Jenny is held to the expectations of Indian housewives from 30 years ago? Why?

[Breedom]

2 hours ago, Mondrianyone said:

She had a home, a business, and I assume some insurance bucks from her dead husband.

Do we know that her husband had life insurance? He may have been unemployed at the time, so that means his company didn't provide that. Both of them so young, chances are they didn't buy it on their own, especially if his health was okay.

 

3 hours ago, Xebug67 said:

Ellie saying what she said to Victor about it being HER money that he'd been spending struck me as a very emasculating thing to say, but he didn't seem to be too bothered by it.  I really do think that she's at the point where she doesn't want to be throwing more good money after bad when it comes to rebuilding Victor's home.  Talk about NOT being in it for better or worse.  She clearly envisioned her vacation paradise as being her future life, and now that the island is completely devastated she's not interested in making her future home there.

True. She never thought she'd be spending her money on rebuilding, so that comment was probably made out of a small sliver of resentment, which will start to grow at a colossal rate as she starts to shell out more and more money. She was so focused on dropping everything in getting to this love-of-her-life, not at all considering she'd be the one to start financing "their" new place in it's entirety. Her savings could be gone quickly. Maybe she's putting all her charges on a credit card and she's starting to stress over it big time. Plus does she deep down think that Victor is really committed to her? Possibly not after that non-emotional apology he gave her for his cheating.

[Mondrianyone]

I'm actually not the poster who said that bit about her once having a home, a business, etc. It's one of those quote glitches. That was @KateHearts. I said I think she still does have those things, assuming she really owned them in the first place. If she did, I don't believe she sold off anything.

[ExMathMajor]

On 10/17/2021 at 12:12 PM, Kid said:

The Liar and the Tool:  The Tool is just not getting it.  He is being as clear as a bell.  His parents and his wants and needs come first.

Ellie:  If he did not mean what he said to the other woman, what makes you think he means what he said to you???   

Kenny and Armando:  He is crying AGAIN!  If going on 60 people don’t have babies then perhaps they should not hook up with a young partner.  Something to think about.

Alina and the Sanctimonious Shit:  If she stays with him, she deserves everything she gets.  Go Mama Alina!!  You tell him.  Caffeine BAD Sex GOOD.🤣🤣

Corey and Evelyn:  Don’t care. 

Bini and Ari:  NOW she thinks maybe it was not a good idea to come to the States because she’s worried that Bini will actually have a good time while she’s gone. I thought the surgery in the United States was essential!

I was going to comment on this episode but this post basically does it for me. Thank you for sparing me the keystrokes. 😊

[magemaud]

6 hours ago, Mondrianyone said:

Maybe he considers servicing Jenny sexually to be his job. It's not a totally unreasonable assumption.

Plus washing her hair and clipping her toenails 

[magemaud]

Jenny and Sumit’s Kitchen 

[CattyK]

I thought Jenny and Sumit had sunk as low as they could when he took her to the park/cow pasture and gave her the promise ring.  But now the scene of Jenny trying to work in the kitchen while being berated is worse. She acts so grateful for being treated like an idiot.  
But I really can’t wait for her next scene where she’ll angrily declare she deserves better and isn’t going to put up with it anymore.

Edited October 20, 2021 by CattyK

[treeofdreams]

1 hour ago, CattyK said:

But I really can’t wait for her next scene where she’ll angrily declare she deserves better and isn’t going to put up with it anymore.

Her constant refrain...and yet, here she still is...

[Mrs. Hanson]

21 hours ago, Shelbie said:

Sumit  looked like he was trying to look like a member of a boy band. He looked like an idiot.

Flock of Seagulls is coming back, people!

 

22 hours ago, Xebug67 said:

Steven is the biggest hypocrite on two legs.  He's also so physically repulsive, I want to throw up in my own mouth every time I have to see that rat face of his

Tell us how you really feel!  LOL!  (I agree!)  I don't watch this season as no one appeals to me, I will stream it and fast forward it at times.  

 

21 hours ago, Chloe Dog said:

Call me crazy, but I'd totally watch some kind of holiday special with Family Sumit, unless Jenny starts picking up too many key words in Hindi that is.  Yeah, I'd be down for that action...

I would watch that too!

Edited October 20, 2021 by Mrs. Hanson

[bichonblitz]

Hmmmm, so Victor wanted his live in girlfriend to buy him a motorcycle. He denies it (not very believably)  but we know it's true. He's a user and I can't stand the guy. 

[magemaud]

5 hours ago, bichonblitz said:

Hmmmm, so Victor wanted his live in girlfriend to buy him a motorcycle. He denies it (not very believably)  but we know it's true. He's a user and I can't stand the guy. 

He didn't actually deny it, just turned Ellie's accusation around to "Why would I ask her to buy me a motorcycle?" Not really answering a question by asking another question is a classic lying conman distraction. 

Edited October 20, 2021 by magemaud

[Hotel Snarker]

"Yay! Mummy is here teaching my 70-year-old fiancé how to clean up the house!" And I am living for it!

Ellie is the other girl. She needs to realize that stat. And the fact that she gave up her business and house (in fucking Seattle!) for him…oof. 

I think Victor is neck and neck with Sumit as the worst man this episode. The way he just brushed off Ellie’s emotions about his cheating. No remorse or consideration for her.

Ari’s family is so disrespectful to Bini. He is the father and they aren’t even factoring him into a discussion about where to raise his kid! They’re talking like it’s a given he’s NOT going to raise him!

Sorry, but I was Team Kenny this episode. Even though the adoption process can take a while, it seems like a better option. I feel like their huge age gap is starting to impact some aspects of their relationship.

Alina drinks coffee every day and it manifested SteVen. You all can doubt but I’m pretty sure this is the work of the Angel of Destruction.

If I ever get to the point where I'm letting a bunny owned by some random dude on the street decide my future, someone needs to take me out back and put me out of my misery.

Alina’s mom, Anna, is a BOSS. 😎 She is a true example of a great 90 Day Fiance mom.

I got angry when I heard Evelin refer to Jenny as “that thing”. Jenny was told by Corey that he was single. If anyone is a “thing” it is Corey as he was the one who knew he was married! Gay, I feel so bad for Jenny.

[Breedom]

2 hours ago, Hotel Snarker said:

Ari’s family is so disrespectful to Bini. He is the father and they aren’t even factoring him into a discussion about where to raise his kid! They’re talking like it’s a given he’s NOT going to raise him!

This is the ultimate in disrespect. Bini probably doesn't feel comfortable presenting (or arguing) his position, seeing how Ari's family is so well-off financially and they are paying for the caregiver and household. He doesn't want to do anything to anger Ari either, because of his past experience with his first baby-mama, as he thinks she has the power to destroy his family so he goes along with what she wants without real discussion. This whole dynamic is off and Ari is completely supporting it. Bini will always be last, unfortunately. He deserves better.

[Xebug67]

On 10/19/2021 at 6:12 PM, magemaud said:

Jenny and Sumit’s Kitchen 

Love me some Bette!

[Xebug67]

18 hours ago, Hotel Snarker said:

"Yay! Mummy is here teaching my 70-year-old fiancé how to clean up the house!" And I am living for it!

Ellie is the other girl. She needs to realize that stat. And the fact that she gave up her business and house (in fucking Seattle!) for him…oof. 

I think Victor is neck and neck with Sumit as the worst man this episode. The way he just brushed off Ellie’s emotions about his cheating. No remorse or consideration for her.

Ari’s family is so disrespectful to Bini. He is the father and they aren’t even factoring him into a discussion about where to raise his kid! They’re talking like it’s a given he’s NOT going to raise him!

Sorry, but I was Team Kenny this episode. Even though the adoption process can take a while, it seems like a better option. I feel like their huge age gap is starting to impact some aspects of their relationship.

Alina drinks coffee every day and it manifested SteVen. You all can doubt but I’m pretty sure this is the work of the Angel of Destruction.

If I ever get to the point where I'm letting a bunny owned by some random dude on the street decide my future, someone needs to take me out back and put me out of my misery.

Alina’s mom, Anna, is a BOSS. 😎 She is a true example of a great 90 Day Fiance mom.

I got angry when I heard Evelin refer to Jenny as “that thing”. Jenny was told by Corey that he was single. If anyone is a “thing” it is Corey as he was the one who knew he was married! Gay, I feel so bad for Jenny.

Bini and his sisters clearly love their own culture.  Given that fact, dummy (I'm talking to YOU, Bini), make babies with Ethiopian women like your conga drums ex-girlfriend.  That way you will have better than a snowball's chance in hell of the baby(ies) growing up with those same beliefs.  Stop inseminating American women that you bump into on the street during their vacations.

What exactly has Victor been doing for work all of his life prior to meeting his bank, I mean girlfriend, Ellie?

This episode's segment about Kenny and Armando felt to me like these two can't enjoy the breath of fresh air that they've been given of not having to combat anything for a change.  Not only are they good to go re getting married, but huge barriers have come down with regards to Armando's family.  Enjoy the good things before you all are getting yourselves twisted up about making babies vs. adopting children.  How is it that only now you two are having this conversation?  Before getting as serious with each other as you two are is when this conversation should have been had, and decisions made.  Personally, I have never wanted children, and thus don't have them.  I'm 54 years of age (Kenny's age range), and even if I did like kids and had already had them, the last thing I would want to do is start all over again with being a parent. 

To each his own, though, because my parents adopted me through a private adoption vs. state adoption when they were 54 and 53 respectively.  However, they had tried all of their married lives to have children but were unable to conceive, so for them, despite the ages they were, it was not too late.  Unfortunately, and let me preface this by saying that they were the best parents ever, BUT because of their being older, I lost both of them at very young ages (my dad when I was 18 and my mom when I was 29).  Furthermore, I was taking care of my mother the last 7 years of her life because she had full blown Alzheimer's.  That's a lot to put on a young person.  BUT I wouldn't have traded my parents for any others for the world, despite all of that.

I also FLOVE Alina's mom.  Unfortunately, I don't think she's going to be able to talk any sense into Alina.

Evelin pissed me off to no end with that nasty comment about Jenny, who seems to have been an innocent party in all of this.  Evelin is the farthest thing from an angel, just like Corey is also no angel.  These two need to NOT direct any negativity at the innocent party in all of this, Jenny, re their numerous marital problems (this couple had nothing but numerous pre-marital problems as well).

Edited October 21, 2021 by Xebug67

[Mrs. Hanson]

3 hours ago, Xebug67 said:

I'm 54 years of age (Kenny's age range), and even if I did like kids and had already had them, the last thing I would want to do is start all over again with being a parent. 

I am 56 and did always want them, hence I did, at ages 32 and 34.  Having said that, EMPTY NEST IS THE BEST.  I have ZERO desire for grandkids for at least ten years and if my sons choose to not have kids......fine with me.  My choice, may not be theirs.  No badgering.  I am saying this as it ANNOYS me (hence I don't watch much anymore as it grates with parents being overly involved in reproductive decisions or people of either gender wanting to start again in their mid 50's.  I muted Angela (when she aired) a loooong time ago for this very reason.  

 

22 hours ago, Hotel Snarker said:

Ellie is the other girl. She needs to realize that stat. And the fact that she gave up her business and house (in fucking Seattle!) for him…oof. 

I highly doubt she really sold her house.  No one is that stupid.....are they?  Oh wait......

[PinkFlamingo]

On 10/18/2021 at 12:34 AM, Auntie Anxiety said:

It was nice to see that some bunnies were saved from Nutalie’s clutches.

He’s certainly up there in the pantheon of Weirdest Little 90Day Trolls along with Ed and Colt. Tough to name a winner.

Y’all are forgetting Pole? Of Pole and Kareening - or however he pronounced her name. 
But all time biggest 90 day creep/loser/criminal award goes to Geoffrey:

https://people.com/crime/90-day-fiance-star-convicted-of-domestic-assault-and-kidnapping/

 

 

[Mahamid Frauded Me]

On 10/19/2021 at 10:23 AM, Xebug67 said:

Sumit's hairdo usually reminds me of a cockatoo.  I was so distracted with how his hair looked this episode, and I can't quite put my finger on why it bothered/distracted me so much, LOL.

It reminded me of the low flow shower head episode on Seinfeld 

[Mrs. Hanson]

4 hours ago, PinkFlamingo said:

Y’all are forgetting Pole? Of Pole and Kareening - or however he pronounced her name. 
But all time biggest 90 day creep/loser/criminal award goes to Geoffrey:

https://people.com/crime/90-day-fiance-star-convicted-of-domestic-assault-and-kidnapping/

 

 

That interview where he natters on about "my life, my choice, my past" shows just how unaware he is.  You did not get caught streaking, or as a female were flashing your boobs at Mardi Gras.  You BEAT UP A WOMAN, jackass.  Violently.

[Dobian]

19 hours ago, PinkFlamingo said:

Y’all are forgetting Pole? Of Pole and Kareening - or however he pronounced her name.

Yeah now they do porn on Only Fans.  They're moving up in the world.

[Twopper]

On 10/17/2021 at 4:22 PM, CrazyInAlabama said:

Just because Kenny has raised his kids, and has at least one grandchild, it doesn't mean that Armando doesn't want more children.    

No, but they should have discussed this earlier.  A lot earlier, especially if it is a deal breaker for one or the other of them.   On the other hand, they may well have agreed one way or the other about it, and this is TLC trying to amp up a plot line for them now that we will soon know if Pa Armando shows up at the wedding.

The only redeeming part of this whole episode was the scene in which Armando, Kenny, and Hannah are playing nail salon.   I loved it.

I was appalled but not surprised that Steven would try to convert Ma Alina.  I was hoping she might make an effort to convert him to the Russian Orthodox church.   We had a neighbor who was famous for converting the Mormon and JW missionaries who came to him;  they became Catholic.  Eventually word must have gotten back to the missionary senders, because he got fewer and fewer missionaries.  Or maybe they just wrote off our neighborhood.

 

[PinkFlamingo]

45 minutes ago, Dobian said:

Yeah now they do porn on Only Fans.  They're moving up in the world.

I know there are people out there that are into a lot of freaky things, but who would want to see that? 

[magemaud]

49 minutes ago, Twopper said:

I was appalled but not surprised that Steven would try to convert Ma Alina

I remember him saying he wanted to convert her whole family! I think that's his plan for moving to Russia, he will continue his Mormon missionary and pressure everyone he meets to convert with his Russian wife by his side ringing doorbells. 

Edited October 22, 2021 by magemaud

[JLaw]

I'm just glad Steven got his first NFL win last week...

[Mrs. Hanson]

5 hours ago, JLaw said:

I'm just glad Steven got his first NFL win last week...

Do NOT smear Trevor Lawrence!!!! 😉

[magemaud]

While Ari is in the US for medical reasons, maybe she should get her vision checked

[Back Atcha]

11 hours ago, magemaud said:

I remember him saying he wanted to convert her whole family! I think that's his plan for moving to Russia, he will continue his Mormon missionary and pressure everyone he meets to convert with his Russian wife by his side ringing doorbells. 

Steven isn't the brightest of missionaries...nor even close to the maturity of those who leave on missions at 18.  Could he be be neurodiverse and simply taking many things too literally?  He will be annoying potential converts for a long--LONG time.  And--probably...women.

[Back Atcha]

On 10/18/2021 at 10:54 AM, treeofdreams said:

Steven trying to convert her mother was creepy - and another red flag. 

Steven will never get this.  He probably can't under the concept of a "red flag."
 

[Pepper Mostly]

20 hours ago, magemaud said:

I remember him saying he wanted to convert her whole family! I think that's his plan for moving to Russia, he will continue his Mormon missionary and pressure everyone he meets to convert with his Russian wife by his side ringing doorbells. 

Its the Mormon way. My parents were in Salt Lake once, (they used to drive out to see my grandfather in Arizona and wind their way back to Massachusetts just stopping along the way for fun) and my mother said that the people were super nice and friendly but always, ALWAYS trying to convert you. 

[Twopper]

On 10/19/2021 at 10:31 PM, CattyK said:

I thought Jenny and Sumit had sunk as low as they could when he took her to the park/cow pasture and gave her the promise ring.  But now the scene of Jenny trying to work in the kitchen while being berated is worse. She acts so grateful for being treated like an idiot.  

You might want to see the version with the bonus section where Sumit tries to teach Jenny the proper way to use an Indian toilet and explains why it is better than the American way.  It seems they have both a western and Indian bathroom in their apartment.

[Xebug67]

16 hours ago, magemaud said:

While Ari is in the US for medical reasons, maybe she should get her vision checked

If this doesn't epitomize the saying, "A face only a mother could love," then I don't know what does, LOL.😈

[magemaud]

3 hours ago, Twopper said:

You might want to see the version with the bonus section where Sumit tries to teach Jenny the proper way to use an Indian toilet and explains why it is better than the American way.  It seems they have both a western and Indian bathroom in their apartment.

That segment reminded me of a sign I saw in Yellowstone instructing the foreign visitors how to use the toilet 

[JLaw]

On 10/22/2021 at 3:40 PM, JLaw said:

I'm just glad Steven got his first NFL win last week...

I just hope he gets out from under the clutches of Urban Meyer... Boy is a talent

[JLaw]

21 hours ago, Mrs. Hanson said:

Do NOT smear Trevor Lawrence!!!! 😉

I'm just glad i wasn't the only one who thought it...

[Mrs. Hanson]

23 hours ago, JLaw said:

I just hope he gets out from under the clutches of Urban Meyer... Boy is a talent

Trevor is waaaay too religous (for real, not Steven-like) to fall under Urban's spell.

[JLaw]

15 hours ago, Mrs. Hanson said:

Trevor is waaaay too religous (for real, not Steven-like) to fall under Urban's spell.

I'm happy there is someone else whose TV viewing habits include the NFL and 90 day fiance😀. I feel seen!!

[Hotel Snarker]

On 10/21/2021 at 12:02 PM, Xebug67 said:

What exactly has Victor been doing for work all of his life prior to meeting his bank, I mean girlfriend, Ellie?

I don’t know. I believe she said he was a resort worker or something. I have to check.

[Mrs. Hanson]

22 hours ago, JLaw said:

I'm happy there is someone else whose TV viewing habits include the NFL and 90 day fiance😀. I feel seen!!

Oh yes.....certain Sundays?  Early London game, noon game, 3:30 (my time) game then SNF. I can't get MNF but I now get Thursday night.

[CattyK]

On 10/23/2021 at 1:07 PM, Twopper said:

You might want to see the version with the bonus section where Sumit tries to teach Jenny the proper way to use an Indian toilet and explains why it is better than the American way.  It seems they have both a western and Indian bathroom in their apartment.

I did miss that!  Is it the More toLove version of This episode? 

Edited October 27, 2021 by CattyK
Named wrong episode

[Scout Finch]

While I wouldn't say I'm a Jenny fan, I don't mind her. Although she should have given up a while ago, I like her and Sumit, and she has a good heart. Having said that: if you KNOW your potential mother-in-law is going to judge you starting when she walks in the door, why did you (and Sumit) not clean up the kitchen?? We're ALL judging you for your apparent lack of understanding basic causation. 

Victor, in the store, saying something about not being able to make any money. Me: "There are a lot of us who will chip in a few bucks for you to cut off that thing hanging from your chin."

 

Edited October 31, 2021 by Scout Finch

[Mrs. Hanson]

13 hours ago, Scout Finch said:

. Having said that: if you KNOW your potential mother-in-law is going to judge you starting when she walks in the door, why did you (and Sumit) not clean up the kitchen?? We're ALL judging you for your apparent lack of understanding basic causation.

When my now retied former home ec teacher MIL would come, I would hire a team to clean.  I am not kidding.  I keep a clean house but I am NOT opening myself for ANYTHING.  And lady, your able bodied son lives here, too.  FYI.

[TwirlyGirly]

On 10/18/2021 at 11:11 AM, Mr. Miner said:

They are doing unspeakable things to each other. Mom and Dad are putting a big kink in their routine.

Most likely Mom and Dad are taking the kink out of their routine, if you know what I mean.

On 10/18/2021 at 1:18 PM, Dobian said:

To be fair, Areola and her RN mother never presented a compelling medical case for why it was okay for her to deliver a baby in Ethiopia but having a simple hernia surgery there was unacceptable.

My research indicates the private hospitals in Addis Ababa are able to perform laparoscopic hernia surgeries.

It would have been less expensive for Ari's parents to pay for the surgery at one of the private hospitals in Addis Ababa than to pay for transportation for Ari and Avi to the U.S. and whatever deductible and/or co-pays Avi's U.S. medical insurance requires.