Kandi's Wedding: Going to the Chapel and... Mama Joyce is Pissed.

[charming]

Kandi & Todd were on WWHL. Todd was expressing his frustration that Kandi didn't tell him that Joyce was calling his Mother a prostitute. Kandi's face was of annoyance. I don't understand how she doesn't seem to grasp that Todd & His Mother have the right to be offended.

[cooksdelight]

Kandi's facial expressions when Todd was upset that MJ called his mother a prostitute told it all. She was like "What? You talking shit about my momma?"... Anytime Todd spoke his mind, she gave him the side eye. About everything. Poor Todd.

[SpringTulips]

If Mama Joyce has a personality disorder, there should be no expectation for her to change.  Maybe she could go through therapy to show her how to deal better with others but that is it.  Mental and psychological illness takes its toll.  Kandi seems to ignore or lessen a lot of things as her way of coping.  Todd should never expect her to change.

I enjoyed seeing Bell Biv Devoe at the reception, but Poison - at a wedding? Really?

 

I loved Bell Biv Devoe,  Todd  characterized it as a concert so I am sure they did more songs.  Still, it was part of the reception party and not like the wedding song.

If my mother were on TV and starting fights and being rude to people, I'd escort her to the parking lot

 

.Contrast Kandi with Kim, the uber narcissist, who called the cops on her mom for using the bathroom in her home during her wedding.

Edited July 7, 2014 by SpringTulips

[cooksdelight]

The other thing Kandi does that is telling, anytime she feels put on the spot, or has to defend something stupid her mother has done.. or her defense of her mother.. she throws up her hands and says "OK.. OK.. Let me explain...." and then goes into more excuses.

And DAMN! Kandi didn't write thank you notes for her wedding gifts? She sends a pre-printed impersonal thank you note??? Even after NeNe gives her a full set of Hermes plates for her dining room? NeNe, you wasted your money. I bet we will never hear the end of the non-thank you notes. Even Andy was giving her shit about that.

[SpringTulips]

Even after NeNe gives her a full set of Hermes plates for her dining room?

 

 Nene must really, really, really want to be in Kandis next play lol.

[cooksdelight]

SpringTulips, I think you're right. NeNe must have come out of her diva coma and suddenly realized those million dollar offers were just a figment of her imagination. :)

[VioletTemper]

Kudos to nene. I don't send gifts to couples whose wedding I am not invited, lolol. Now, whether it was classy of Nene or a desperate ploy...I dunno.

[mjt626]

Can someone please explain to me why Kandi created her wedding off of the woman that Prince Hakeem didn't marry?  Did she not see the rest of the movie?  It's like having a Shrek theme wedding where the groom is modeled after Farquaad. 

 

Hmm, it would appear that she is only interested in the visuals of the wedding and not the love and emotion of a marriage.

[VioletTemper]

Kudos to nene. I don't send gifts to couples whose wedding I am not invited, lolol. Now, whether it was classy of Nene or a desperate ploy...I dunno.

Oops double post...sorry.

Edited July 7, 2014 by VioletTemper

[sunsheyen]

Okay, I honestly very, very rarely say I hate someone, but I hate that bitch Joyce (I won't even call her Mama). We're not even halfway through the wedding episode and I am so pissed I can't see straight. What she did to Todd's daughter was absolutely inexecusable. Right about now is when I'd throw her out on her ass!!!!

I'm watching my DVR'ed version and had to stop to come here.

She is SUCH A PIECE OF SHIT.

Then to say Kandi was disrespecting her? And her "apology" to Riley that was just her protesting saying anything to Kaela (sp), and not apologizing for her picking and fighting. Then to silent treatment Kandi? I don't know how Kandi didn't just go off and scream, "Get the fuck out!!"

She's not a good actress. She is just a terrible spoiled domineering hateful personality disordered asshole. Period.

Edited July 7, 2014 by sunsheyen

[missyb]

Before tonight, for some reason, I did not know that Todd had a daughter of his own from a previous marriage. It makes how Mama Joyce has behaved about 100 times worse. The man has a daughter who is about to become art of your family.  MJ is just disgusting .

[sunsheyen]

Kudos to nene. I don't send gifts to couples whose wedding I am not invited, lolol. Now, whether it was classy of Nene or a desperate ploy...I dunno.

I see it as NeNe trying to keep up the image of rich and fabulous. That was a "So there! I'll show you!" kind of gift. Dummy is going to regret that, and fast!

[cooksdelight]

Kandi excuses everything her mother does. And side-eyes anyone who questions her mother's statements or assholiness.

Todd was mad, and said so, that Kandi never told him what Joyce said about his mother being a prostitute. I'd be mad too. In fact, that might have been a marriage killer for me. Yet Kandi glares at him like he's evil when he says this.

Before tonight, for some reason, I did not know that Todd had a daughter of his own from a previous marriage

He's never been married before, but says he has a good relationship with his daughter's mother in regards to raising her. Kaela is moving to Atlanta to live with them, so expect to see her somewhat on the next season of RHoA.

Did anyone catch Todd saying that his daughter was graduating next week, on WWHL? This must have been taped a few weeks ago.

I have been a caller on the show before, twice, and they don't always air them the day they are taped. I don't remember seeing them asking people to message in with a phone number and question, like they usually do for a pre-taped show, they post it on Facebook. And the questions that callers had were tailor made for Andy. Makes me wonder.

Edited July 7, 2014 by cooksdelight

[SpringTulips]

cooksdelight, did you catch the episode a while back when Nancy Grace  busted him on his questions.  I think it was something like "I think you made that question up and showing it to me on a card does not prove you didn't"

[cooksdelight]

No! I didn't see that!! LOL!! Wish I had. The whole setup for being a caller is weird. They call me and go over what I'm going to ask. They say stuff like "Well, word it like this..." or tell me not to say something. I am called back close to taping time, which is 9 pm eastern. Then put on hold.. then I hear them talking in the background and Andy says "Hi caller, what's your name and where are you calling from?" After I ask the question, they answer and without warning, they hang up. LOL, no one says goodbye and thank you, or anything.

[sunsheyen]

All I know is that Kandi is snatched, pinched, suctioned, tucked, and vacuumed up in that girdle! Chile, yes!

And why did they tag Miss Lawrence but not Sheree standing right beside him? Oh, the shade!

[SpringTulips]

And why did they tag Miss Lawrence but not Sheree standing right beside him? Oh, the shade!

 

I thought Sheree did get a tag at one point, before she was with Lawrence?

Edited July 7, 2014 by SpringTulips

[sunsheyen]

I thought Sheree did get a tag at one point, before she was with Lawrence?

They may have, I have been multitasking as I'm watching.

[Chrissytd]

I thought Sheree did get a tag at one point, before she was with Lawrence?

They tagged Sheree during the arrivals portion.

[luckyroll3]

I love Riley but that dress, NO! and not being able to walk in those heels made it worse.

I didn't realize Riley was only 11.  The dress would have been appropriate (and not so bad) if Riley actually looked like an 11 year old; but she looks as old as Kaela!

 

Because it can't be said enough, Mama Joyce is a vile, vile woman.  Who says something like that about a child, especially one who hasn't done anything.  And then her protesting that she didn't say/do anything, only to add on at the end "I don't even know what I said".  So which was it, you didn't say anything or you don't remember if you said something rude.  So much damn hate.  And then the way she "gave away" Kandi....ugh!

 

I will say, I thought the wedding was nice, even with the theme.  The set up with the couches and the dancers and everything turned out really well.  I must say, they definitely got me when they gave the girls their rings.  I think I got a little dust in my eye when that happened.

 

And Kandi's figure looked frakking incredible!  Work it girl!

 

ETA:

As I'm watching the after show, it just highlights for me how much this show really made me dislike Kandi.  And she is my favorite housewife.  She not only showed her ass, but showed how much Mama Joyce's despicableness has rubbed off on her.  As someone who also has a mother with a nasty personality, although I love and respect her as my mother, anytime I catch myself acting like her, I quickly check myself and reevaluate my behavior cause I don't want to be seen as just like her.  Kandi needs to do the same because it is really not a good look for her. 

Edited July 7, 2014 by luckyroll3

[cooksdelight]

She admitted on WWHL to wearing a corset, and gives props to the designer here.

https://www.facebook.com/photo.php?fbid=10152578524544380&set=a.289501084379.143045.235984194379&type=1&theater

[LotusFlower]

cooksdelight - isn't WWHL a live show? As in Watch What Happens LIVE? I feel pretty certain that Andy has sometimes started the show - at 11 PM eastern time - referencing something that happened just before 11:00. I know it's sometimes taped earlier in the night or in advance (like tonight's episode with Kandi and Todd), but how do they get calls beforehand if it is indeed a live show? Or are none of the calls spontaneous?

[swankie]

Why did Kandi get a new ring? She's making a big deal about it, and I thought the other ring was beautiful. I thought that other ring was the one she loved, but I guess MJ finally got to her.... ??? Crazy!

 

MJ got to Kandi on a lot of things, the biggest being Kandi believing that Todd is an opportunist.  All of her complaining about the last minute prenup showed me how much Kandi takes after her mother.  Todd has pretty much given up his job and signed that prenup to be Kandi's bitch.  smdh

 

You know why your smile muscles didn't work, Joyce? Because you're a cunt. That is not a word that I like to use, but for Joyce, I'll make an exception. Sometimes, it applies.

 

 

Amen!!!  In that scene where Todd's mom is talking to Carmon at the rehearsal dinner and Joyce saunters over there trying to pretend she's not trying to listen to them shows how much of a bitch she is.  She had the nerve to tell Kandi that she thought she heard her name mentioned.  They weren't even talking about Joyce.  That's just how much of a liar that heffer is.  She's just so immature for an old beatup broad. 

[Pollock]

Okay, I honestly very, very rarely say I hate someone, but I hate that bitch Joyce (I won't even call her Mama).

That was exactly what I was coming to say. I can't hate people on my television but Bravo managed to make me hate two people this year : Joyce and George from RHONY. This isn't a good year to be an old person on a RH show. 

I hate her. If it's not for the show she does what she does and she says what she says, she's a mega über turd. And I hate her for making me dislike Kandi. She was my favorite housewife on every franchise, strong, (relatively) no BS and all, head on her shoulders. How can she let her mother say those horrible things about her soon to be husband and his family ? No amount of mommy's issues can justify it. 

 

Poor lions. Please let them be free and put them in a room with Joyce. I bet she tates rotten but they would enjoy her anyway.

[swankie]

Poor lions. Please let them be free and put them in a room with Joyce. I bet she tates rotten but they would enjoy her anyway.

 

Better yet, put Joyce in the cage and let her scowl at people as they walk in.  That's basically what she did the whole time she was there anyway.

[cooksdelight]

cooksdelight - isn't WWHL a live show? As in Watch What Happens LIVE? I feel pretty certain that Andy has sometimes started the show - at 11 PM eastern time - referencing something that happened just before 11:00. I know it's sometimes taped earlier in the night or in advance (like tonight's episode with Kandi and Todd), but how do they get calls beforehand if it is indeed a live show? Or are none of the calls spontaneous?

When I called in one time, they were taping at 9 pm on a Tuesday for a show that was to air on Thursday. Everything is taped, the calls, everything. I answered a request to give a question and my phone number via their Facebook page. They called me ahead of time to make sure I asked the question in the way they wanted it asked, then called me again when it was time to tape.

As to referencing a show that aired earlier, Andy gets to see all those shows in advance, so he knows what happened on any particular episode.

So no, the show isn't "live". I can't see Andy getting anyone to sit there at 11 pm and do a live show. They'd have NO idea what someone might say or do. Even the Tonight Show is taped ahead of time, earlier in the afternoon. Or it was when Leno hosted, as I went to a couple of them and they started at 4:30 in the afternoon, L.A. time.

[featherhead]

NeNe probably regifted the Hermes plates that Theresa from RHNJ sent her for her wedding. I would not put it past her.

[cooksdelight]

No, NeNe only got one Hermes plate from Teresa. And it was white and gold. Kandi said the ones she got had red in the pattern.

[bosawks]

The fact that Kandi is even a semi-functioning adult growing up with that black hole of suckitude for a mother is a minor miracle.

[cooksdelight]

Wow.... for all the "hundreds" of guests she had and the "hundreds" of gifts she couldn't write a hand-written thank you note for, they haven't gotten squat from their registry.

http://registry.theknot.com/kandi-burruss-todd-tucker-april-2014-ga/7742999

Hello Kitty? Moustache and Lipstick plates? At least she is asking for some proper drinking glasses.

And who needs two Kitchen Aid mixers in two different colors? Why, someone who's registering for gifts for her momma, that's who!

Edited July 7, 2014 by cooksdelight

[BestestAuntEver]

Joyce is absolutely vile. She talks loudly about Kaela & gets irritated when Kandi shuts her down. She becomes irrational when Kandi reminds her it's inappropriate to talk about Kaela, who is a child. She keeps arguing & picking at Kandi until Kandi & Riley are upset & crying. She didn't even seem to care that Kandi was upset & crying on her wedding day. Not one second was spent apologising or tending to Kandi. Personallly, I think the only reason she went after Riley is because, if Riley is upset & done with her she's through. She will no longer be able to live the lifestyle she is accoustomed, too.

Joyce's stank face & the way she gave Kandi away, simply further proves how rotten she is to me. I couldn't believe Joyce had the nerve to say, I was taught if you can't say anything nice don't say anything at all. Where was that when she was calling Todd's mom a prostitute or offending Kaela. She can have several seats with that.

I commend Todd's mom for not bringing up Joyce's offensive behaviour on Kandi's wedding day. Unlike Joyce, she understood, it wasn't the right place or time.

SMH, 3 dresses weren't done when the wedding was suppose to start.

I agree the wedding came off better than I thought it would. I'm happy Kandi's happy.

Sadly, I see problems ahead for them. Kandi won't shut Joyce down & gets upset when others call Joyce's behaviour out or confront Joyce about it. Also, on WWHL, Todd stated how he thought marriage was about love not business but now understands it's about business, as well. I can see Todd taking jobs away because if he doesn't & they divorce, he knows that he & his daughter will end up with nothing. I don't see Kandi's tears trumping the reality or business of the prenup.

Cooksdelight, I can see two Kitchen Aids because I believe Kandi has two separate full kitchens in her house. Those suckers aren't light & I hate moving mine.

Edited July 7, 2014 by BestestAuntEver

[Guest]

Porsha tells her sister that she loves the tigers(or words to that effect)

Her sister tells her that they are lions

Porsha's expression=priceless!!

TV gold

Porsha is the new Gracie Allen

[fgoldberg]

Nene,and Kenya, were invited to the wedding.Nene was working in Houston.Kenya,was working in NY.

[DrivingSideways]

This whole prenup issue and wedding series really stretched my 'like' for Kandi.  I still like her, but she treated Todd like garbage.  And I don't think it's an act, because in the WWHL, it was obvious Todd was still pissed about it all, and Kandi was trying to make light of the situation.  Why even bother getting married, Kandi, if you're going to be so cold?

 

Andy normally bugs me in a major way, but I have to admit - he slammed Kandi good over not sending wedding thank yous.  That is extremely ignorant, Kandi.  I think it was payback because she made fun of the Mazel camisole he gave her (also hilarious).

[cooksdelight]

I'm glad the wedding show is over. It was painful to watch. And yes, I agree that my love for Kandi has faded. Seeing her side-eye her husband told me all I need to know.

[mwell345]

 

Joyce is too vile for words. I go back and forth  thinking whether or not this is all for tv, but ignoring Kaela and only acknowledging Riley was gross. Whatever issues she has with Todd, she could at least be an adult and say hello to Kaela.

 

Joyce is disgusting.   She made those comments right in front of Kaela and then to go into her "I didn't say anything" mode, which she does all the time and is starting to get more annoying that what she actually says.  Joyce ruined what should have been a lovely episode.   And Bravo shouldn't have aired half of her footage but they seem to have it in their heads that this is what people want to see.  I remember Andy saying once she was a "fan favorite", which again indicates he is totally out of touch with his viewers.

 

Kandi looked lovely, although I wasn't too crazy about the dress.  Riley's dress was awful. Todd's suit jacket didn't look like it fit him.  Kaela's dress was stunning. But I guess there are bound to be missteps when you plan a wedding in 4 weeks.   I could have done without the caged lions - hate seeing animals caged like that, and what for? So the guests could walk by caged lions?  Just not cool. They didn't need the lions there - I don't care what her theme was.

[walnutqueen]

That was exactly what I was coming to say. I can't hate people on my television but Bravo managed to make me hate two people this year : Joyce and George from RHONY.

 

 

Same here, Pollock.  Their behavior has managed to incite an unreasonable amount of animosity and rage in me, and I can't help but wonder why they don't have mobs of angry viewers accosting them in public at every turn.

 

I thought the entire wedding was ridiculous, but if it makes Kandi happy I'm OK with everything EXCEPT the caged lions.  That shit must be shut down. 

[cooksdelight]

Kandi got nabbed on the lions by Andy. And she threw up her hands and acted like she had no idea they were going to be there. Bullshit.

After seeing her interviews, and this show, I really wonder why she rushed the wedding. Maybe she was afraid Todd would come to his senses with all the MJ nonsense and run like hell.

Edited July 7, 2014 by cooksdelight

[ToukieSmith]

 

Kandi & Todd were on WWHL. Todd was expressing his frustration that Kandi didn't tell him that Joyce was calling his Mother a prostitute. Kandi's face was of annoyance. I don't understand how she doesn't seem to grasp that Todd & His Mother have the right to be offended.

 

From my perspective, Todd was kind of blase about the whole thing.  I have difficulty taking him seriously because his affect is so mild when you consider the offense that occurred.  Maybe he is just being polite for the cameras.

 

I am a doormat, but even I would have a problem with someone calling my mother a prostitute and treating it as if they had called her a meanie.  I would have a problem with my boyfriend/husband if he just shrugged his shoulders at the situation.  Todd's reactions don't seem appropriate to me.  I guess Ringling Brothers sex does that to a person...or the storyline is fake.

[Lucygirl2]

I am also glad this wedding show is over & done.

 

I was completely over Joyce & her stank face before the 2 hour finale but her behavior regarding Kaela is one of the worst things I have ever seen & even if this is all fake & for the show, to include Todd's daughter in her nastiness is beyond wrong.  I really thought she couldn't stoop any lower than to call Todd's dead father who, if he died when Todd was 3, Todd never really had a relationship with a pimp.  I'm not thrilled she called Todd's mama a prostitution whore either but she is at least still alive & can defend herself (not that she needs to, we all know Joyce is crazy, Sharon!)

 

What kills me is even after all that, the thing that annoyed me the most was the little curtsey Joyce did after her speech at the reception.  SIT THE FUCK DOWN, Joyce, stop trying to make everything about you!!

 

On another note, I really didn't need to see Derek dogging Reco & his Santa sheet garment carrier to Lawrence.  Derek has always had questionable taste with his clothes way too tight & his pumps a size too small.  I also hold Derek completely responsible for the Prince Valiant hairdo on Joyce's big head.

[qtpye]

I really liked Kandi, but I think she had a little girl fantasy of a wedding and that is the main reason she wanted to marry Todd.  She also wanted the satisfaction of being able to say at least she had a "huzzbin".  I am beginning to think she actually cares very little about him.  I have no problem with a prenup, but her attitude was very cold.  Todd has a right to protect himself as well.

 

I hope never to see Joyce on my screen again.

 

Edited July 7, 2014 by qtpye

[WimminWinning]

I think the Joyce storyline is bullshit, but kudos to them for generating a storyline that engages the viewers and keeps arguments going.

 

As much as I love Kandi, I have to admit that Kandi's wedding series only did better than Nene's because of MJ. The blogs are exploding over MJ and people tuned in for 6 weeks or so just to hate-watch her. Hate-watch equals ratings. Kandi is a smart businesswoman, so she knew that, which is why she cast her mama and wrote MJ's "crazy" storyline. Kandi's plan worked. She even outdid Kim's wedding series. All thanks to MJ.

 

[politichick]

I kind of felt sorry for Todd during the prenup scene. It was like a chink was taken out his manhood each time he said yes to the attorney's questions. And as a poster above said, he should definitely take every well-paying job that interests him because if anything goes wrong in that marriage he and his kid will have nothing. Plus, he should not have to dig into his savings to pay his share of the bills as he has in the past and empty his account to appease her and then have nothing if it all goes pear shape.

 

I hated the way Joyce (God, I wish we didn't share the same first name!) was so rude to Kaela. She seemed like a lovely girl, although I wasn't mad about that dress or any of the dresses. I really didn't like Riley's dress which I think was too old for an 11-year-old and too short for her figure. And she shouldn't have worn such high heels when she cannot walk in them. I also was kind of sad to not see the two girls interact. And I hope Todd's daughter is going to attend college in the fall!

Forgot to say, Kandi was very ungracious about the WWHL gift Andy gave her. I'm sure that most people don't really appreciate or want that crap but they accept it politely. She was rude. He was pretty kind when he chided her on not writing thank-you notes. But it was obvious he was a bit "hurt" about not being invited to the wedding.

[cooksdelight]

 

And I hope Todd's daughter is going to attend college in the fall!

 

 

I hope so too, and that she lives on campus in the dorm. Because, otherwise, she'll be in the house with Todd, Kandi and Riley... and MJ.

[Sims Addict]

Maybe she was afraid Todd would come to his senses with all the MJ nonsense and run like hell.

 

See, that's why I think so many people feel that Todd is an opportunist. No normal person who respected themselves and their family would allow themselves to be treated that way (and on NATIONAL TV no less). The only way I would ever marry a man who disrespected my mother AND child is if I was in it strictly for the coinage. They say when you marry for money you earn every penny. Is the price for staying G'd up that my daughter is made to feel worthless, my deceased father's reputation impugned, and my mother is called a ho? Please.

 

I don't think it's so much that Todd loves Kandi despite the foolery; it's the only way he can keep his pockets laced. He can play the role like the long-suffering husband who can do no right in the eyes of the evil mother-in-law. Todd has worked the perfect con.

[DrivingSideways]

Even if Todd is on the come up - I think he has earned his come up!  I used to think it was just Joyce that was cruel to him (and his mother and child - what a bitch), but Kandi's Wedding showed me that Kandi also treats him like garbage.  So this is one case where I am #teamgolddigger and I hope he manages to find a loophole in that pre-nup when the marriage ends.

[AuntieDiane6]

 

In regards to the money, Kandi isn't being selfish, she's protecting Riley. Every dollar that's given to Todd in the event of a divorce or Kandi's death is a dollar that Riley does not inherit. Quite honestly, looking at it from an adult Riley's future perspective, I would be pissed as hell if my mother divorced or died and half of her estate went to some dude that my mom married a decade and a half after she had built her empire instead of it going to me.

 

If your parents raise you right, you don't NEED to inherit everything.  You've been given a free college education and maybe a lovely wedding and a down payment for your home and 529 plans for your kids.  And you go out and make your own fortune.

 

If it's good enough for Bill Gates' kids and Warren Buffett's kids, it should be good enough for Kandi's daughter.  

 

Money sure hasn't helped Bobbi Kristine or Paris Jackson.

[EtheltoTillie]

There are different ways to approach pre-nups.  You can have the kind where the wealthier spouse gives something to the non-moneyed spouse in case of a breakup, but the non-moneyed spouse waives some of the legal protections that would otherwise be available.  Or you can have the scorched-earth kind of pre-nup, where the non-moneyed spouse waives everything, as was done here.  But Kandi was acting as if prenup had only one definition:  the scorched-earth kind.

 

Kandi was cold!  She wanted to leave Todd with nothing, and she was mad that he was even trying to negotiate some side issues, such as having to get out in 30 days.  I feel bad for Todd.  He had been saying that he didn't want her money, so that resulted in her attorney drafting a prenup that truly gave him zilch.  Meanspirited. 

 

I think he didn't realize what was up until he saw it in black and white, but then it was too late to negotiate.  He was stuck with his previous statements.  On WWHL he looked like he was still feeling the sting, when he said that it felt like business.

[WimminWinning]

 

Plus, he should not have to dig into his savings to pay his share of the bills as he has in the past and empty his account to appease her and then have nothing if it all goes pear shape

 

That's his side of the story. Kandi hasn't spoken on this and his side doesn't entirely make sense. If he can't keep up with the utility and cable bills at Kandi's house without digging into his savings, how the hell did he support himself and his daughter as a single man before Kandi? The electricity bill (even in Hotlanta heat) isn't that damn high here. If he dug into his savings, I'm sure it was to buy Kandi's ring and keep up with his new Buckhead lifestyle (or wherever they live).

 

He really did use this series as a platform to build his case for divorce court.

 

First he tried that line about giving up his career for Kandi - it was only later that we found out that he made what Kandi made on the play and didn't have to put up a single red cent as investment in the project and we know that he's working in LA now so she didn't restrict him to GA.

 

Then he tried saying that he didn't want any of Kandi's money and wouldn't hire a lawyer until after the prenup was drafted (which means that he is just as much to blame for the 48hr rush as Kandi is), but then had his lawyer come back with all of these modifications for financial support in the event of divorce/death that he specifically told Kandi that he didn't want. By communicating and agreeing on one thing to Kandi and having her put it in writing, then coming back on camera and acting as if he's getting a raw deal, he set Kandi up to be perceived as unfair and deceitful in this prenup situation (which is why Kandi's lawyer smartly required that Todd confirm every line of the prenup on camera so he can't come back later and say he was under duress with the time crunch and didn't know what he was signing).

 

The problem isn't whether or not Todd deserves some kinda money from Kandi's estate, the problem for me is how he went about it. It rubs me the wrong way and makes me feel like he's setting her up. He wouldn't hire a lawyer until the prenup was complete. I can't think of a single reason to do that besides to push back the negotiations to be close to the wedding date and pressure Kandi into adding things to the prenup or at least make a case for himself - on camera - that he was pressured. He tells Kandi all along that he wants nothing, but uses his lawyer to make money demands so he could use the line "my lawyer is the one who suggests..." instead of being straight up with Kandi from the beginning.

 

Kandi's actions in this prenup situation make sense - she had her lawyer write up what was verbally agreed upon between her and her fiance and she does everything last minute so it's no surprise that the prenup was last minute especially consider that Todd had her thinking that it was going to be a straight up "what's mine is mine and what's yours is yours" situation.

 

Todd is the one who's suspect. Why demand to wait until after the prenup was drafted to hire a lawyer and start negotiations? Why tell Kandi one thing and tell your lawyer another? Of all the lawyers in ATL, why hire Nene's lawyer who is known for negotiating a prenup that is ruthlessly skewed toward Nene if you had no intentions of negotiating for part of Kandi's estate? Why fight MJ on the phrase "to which I am accustomed" if you didn't want anything and it was only the lawyer (that you just hired) who thought you should get money? Why make a big deal - on camera! - about you accepting a job working with your fiance instead of an out-of-state job and portray it like you are working for Kandi instead of the 50/50 partnership that it is? Why blow up and throw water bottles around the room proclaiming to Kandi "all y'all think about is money" when confronted with money demands that your lawyer is bringing up (that you never discussed with Kandi!) if you don't want anything? Why is Todd's mom whispering about them doing a post-nup - which puts Kandi in an extremely vulnerable position? Why is Todd in a TH after the wedding saying that he signed the prenup "against his lawyer's advice" as if to get official record of it? I could probably rationalize away any one of these things, but all of these things together is suspect. Something doesn't smell right here. I think Todd is running game. He's been accused of always being on the come-up and the way he handled this prenup doesn't help his case. For Kandi's sake, I hope I'm wrong.

Edited July 8, 2014 by WimminWinning

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A friend of ours had his wife sign a pre-nup, and after 10 years of marriage they began fighting bitterly about it. She wanted it discontinued, and he wouldn't budge.  He finally ended up taking out a huge insurance policy on himself.  She will end up with something when he dies, but not much if they divorce.  I hope he took the guns out of the home!I

 

Joyce, (not the big fat pig, Brandi Glanville) would hate any man that Kandi married, unless  the man was much, much wealthier than Kandi.  I think she would be okay with any bad behavior, as long as the guy had the big bucks. 

 

I don't have much hope for this marriage, unfortunately.  Bad in-law, money squabbles, teenage daughters, yikes!