I see the situation through a different lens. Brandi brought up the poop story on the bus (way to mend fences and develop friendships) which blind-sighted Leeanne and caused issues between Marie and Leeanne. This is a mean girl tactic to me. If the beef between Brandi and Leeanne had been squashed at this point in time, why bring up a negative to cause Leeanne to go on the defensive?
Leeanne told 3 people about her situation and somehow the women that don't like her knew about it. Yeah, she could have laughed it off, but it would have been easier to do in a group of supportive women versus a group of women that really don't like her. I credit her for going out by the pool to get away from the group. A well adjusted person would have had the conversation with Marie at poolside then let it go. Leeanne needs to seek help for how she handles slights and digs. She is too old to act like a teenage girl. Plus, it looks bad when you are trying to come up in high society. She won't be in high society because she was not born to it, but she is messing with her status as a fringe player by acting like a fool. Nonetheless, she had a reason to be pissed that her confidence was breached and that the people that don't like her had the information.
Marie and Leeanne are friends and friends fight. I think close friends are like married folk in that they have their own language. I just don't raise an eyebrow when I hear errant words passed between folks, because different things are allowed in different relationships. Now, that does not mean that I won't call the cops when I hear or see something that is upsetting to me. I called the cops when I heard a couple arguing because the tone and language seemed to escalate and she sounded scared. On another occasion, I called the cops when I overheard hitting. In this instance, I did not hear anything that made me want to call the cops on Leeanne. Maybe the full audio would make me feel differently, but I think Marie and Leeanne were having a fight over betrayal and disrespect. Leeanne got heated and said things she should not have said. Marie was upset that the fight went to a level that it never went before. They made up. For the other women to continuously harp on Leeanne as if they really had some concerns about Marie was bullshit IMO. I felt that it was all about ganging up on Leeanne not true concern for Marie. Did they go see what was going on and comfort Marie after they heard the exchange between her and Leeanne? I suspect they turned over and went back to sleep.
Stephanie and Brandi, as hosts, contributed to the negative air by continuing to make Leeanne's accident the topic of discussion after they arrived at the house. If its no big deal, why would you continue talking about it?
This is the subtle mean girl stuff I am talking about.