Sweet Fellowship: Duggars and Friends (aka the Bates Family and Other Featured Families Thread)

[GeeGolly]

14 minutes ago, satrunrose said:

Yeah... I'm having a hard time with this one. Honestly, Timcel courting was number one on my "Things I hope it's not list" because I don't see him for a second agreeing to the "technically the headship but really..." role that many of the fundy marriages seem to follow (Jessa and Ben, Carlin and Evan, Jilldo and Dave Rodrigues (a-hem), J-B and Michelle Duggar). That poor kid just turned 19 and her asshole parents sold her off for life as an obedient breeder to Tim - can't hack college, can't drive worth a damn, but still thinks he calls the shots because of his sacred penis - Rod. 

And then I look at the alternatives. Renée courting (what I was hoping for) could leave her in the same place as Olivia. Nurie preggers again or Kaylee having twins just adds another helpless baby to be starved and beaten and trained up to  hate people who are just trying to live life in peace, all in the name of a man who should be known for caring for the people who needed a little compassion and hating on the holier-than-thou hypocrites. 

Some days the whole thing makes me sick. This is one of those days. 

Someone needs to DM Heidi's mother Tim's YT rants.

[beckie]

N/m

Edited February 13, 2023 by beckie
Changed my mind

[Salacious Kitty]

7 minutes ago, GeeGolly said:

Someone needs to DM Heidi's mother Tim's YT rants.

Something tells me that Jill fangirl Ellen has seen them. 

[oliviabenson]

There is a male contestant named Nuri on next level chef. 

[Salacious Kitty]

1 minute ago, oliviabenson said:

There is a male contestant named Nuri on next level chef. 

Well, Jill pronounces it Nu-REE so there's no worries.

[GeeGolly]

A few criteria of Antisocial Personality Disorder - persistent violations of social norms, including lying, inconsistent work behavior and traffic arrests.

[ChristmasCandy]

33 minutes ago, satrunrose said:

but still thinks he calls the shots because of his sacred penis - Rod. 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Thanks for the laugh because I read this as his penises name is Rod so from now on all penises will be named Rod.

[Ljohnson1987]

Timmy went a courtin', and found a bride. Uh-huh, uh-huh. 

[BetyBee]

27 minutes ago, ChristmasCandy said:

Thanks for the laugh because I read this as his penises name is Rod so from now on all penises will be named Rod.

Timcel's is the Golden Rod. Like Smuggar's.

[Salacious Kitty]

2 minutes ago, BetyBee said:

Timcel's is the Golden Rod. Like Smuggar's.

Oh good God. 🤮

[ChristmasCandy]

1 minute ago, BetyBee said:

Timcel's is the Golden Rod. Like Smuggar's.

🤢🤮

[oliviabenson]

[satrunrose]

There are not enough barf emojis in the world.

[oliviabenson]

“I have spent many years, on my knees,”

my brain went there x rated thoughts… (Jill and hunk)

BRAIN BLEACH please

 

Edited February 13, 2023 by oliviabenson

[Salacious Kitty]

Heidi knew the promise ring was coming. Fourth finger, right hand had a very special heart nail. 

[ginger90]

1 minute ago, Salacious Kitty said:

Heidi knew the promise ring was coming. Fourth finger, right hand had a very special heart nail. 

I believe you meant to say “romise” ring. 😁

[Turquoise]

"She has a heart to submit to God and Timothy..." (like they're on even footing?)

The poor child

[oliviabenson]

Neat! 
 

🤢🤢🤢

[ginger90]

  “They love the Lord and they have homeschooled their children and done an excellent job! “. 👀🤦‍♀️

 

Edited February 13, 2023 by ginger90

[Liddy52]

1 hour ago, oliviabenson said:

For this Clueless Old Lady,  what are Marco Polo screen shots? I looked at all the photos on Facebook but wasn't sure what that term meant??

Edited February 14, 2023 by Liddy52

[ginger90]

3 minutes ago, Liddy52 said:

For this Clueless Old Lady,  what are Marco Polo screen shots? I looked at all the photos on Facebook but wasn't sure what that term meant??

It’s a video chat APP.

[Liddy52]

Just now, ginger90 said:

It’s a video chat APP.

Thank you! I had no idea at all.

[Chicklet]

God doesn't promise these people a happy marriage. It's all about Jesus and does that marriage make him happy. Idiots, all of them.

I have a sister-in-law who made a marriage like this. They now snipe at each other and can barely stand each other. Not sure what they expected when the only thing they had in common was God. Meanwhile my heathen marriage is doing just fine.

[crazy8s]

What I find interesting is Timbits being able to court a female with her own SM, while he still has to" jump on" mama's fb page when he(mama) wants to share something.

Will Heidi have to give up sm, or if they marry will her page suddenly become Timothy Heidi Rodrigues??

[ChristmasCandy]

I feel really sorry for Timcicles bride to be because she is moving from a fairly decent home to a driveway at the barnado.

Edited February 14, 2023 by ChristmasCandy

[Salacious Kitty]

1 hour ago, ChristmasCandy said:

I feel really sorry for Timcicles bride to be because she is moving from a fairly decent home to a driveway at the barnado.

We don't know where they'll live. That's why I asked if anyone knew what Jeremy does (no one does). But there's a possibility that Timcel could work for him in PA (hey, Jonathan relocated). Of course, the Rods are so enmeshed that it's like Hotel California. 👎

Edited February 14, 2023 by Salacious Kitty

[ginger90]

In 2018 Heidi’s father was the children’s ministry director at their church. Not sure if he’s still in that position.

[Salacious Kitty]

48 minutes ago, ginger90 said:

In 2018 Heidi’s father was the children’s ministry director at their church. Not sure if he’s still in that position.

He's a graduate of some rinky dink Christian college.

[oliviabenson]

No way Jillcatraz letting Timmay go to a different state. He will still pay rent and give sweet mama $. 

[ChristmasCandy]

1 hour ago, Salacious Kitty said:

We don't know where they'll live. That's why I asked if anyone knew what Jeremy does (no one does). But there's a possibility that Timcel could work for him in PA (hey, Jonathan relocated). Of course, the Rods are so enmeshed that it's like Hotel California. 👎

BME will never let Timcicle out of her clutches.

[oliviabenson]

Snorts Timcicle lol

On reddit the couple is nicknamed Tidy 

[FizzyPuff]

Well I guess there’s someone for everyone…even Tim. 

[Salacious Kitty]

1 hour ago, oliviabenson said:

Snorts Timcicle lol

On reddit the couple is nicknamed Tidy 

I prefer Tiedi. 😀

[madpsych78]

3 hours ago, crazy8s said:

What I find interesting is Timbits being able to court a female with her own SM, while he still has to" jump on" mama's fb page when he(mama) wants to share something.

Will Heidi have to give up sm, or if they marry will her page suddenly become Timothy Heidi Rodrigues??

If it's anything like Jill, it will become Timothy Heidi Coverett Rodrigues.

Their "exiting" news huh...like they will ever be able to exit Jill.

[Minivanessa]

21 hours ago, mynextmistake said:

This is one of the many, many reasons that the Gothard system sucks so much. As a woman, you’re not allowed to pursue a guy, so you just have to sit and wait until a guy is interested enough to ask to court you and hope it’s a guy you don’t find completely odious. .  .  . 

I agree with your comments, but it's not just the Gothard system. It's how fundies roll, regardless of whether they are in ATI/IBLP. I don't think the Rods were ever in ATI.

And the lack of agency can go beyond just the young woman waiting for a man to ask to court her. Her dad can cut a deal for her marriage although fundies who are into this tend to keep it on the downlow outside their own circles. We've gotten, even among the Duggars, a whiff or two of marriages being arranged by the fathers of the happy couple. Or if not totally arranged, the dads were strongly involved. Jed and Katey come to mind here.

There are many many fundies who aren't in ATI or IBLP, but their beliefs line up pretty well with many of Gothard's strictures on how people are spozed to live their lives. Gothard didn't invent that cr*p, but he did a helluva job figuring out how to monetize it and set himself up as the little tin god in charge of a lot of believers (and paying members). 

BTW, I don't know if JillR ever aspired to join ATI; there's a lengthy application form and I'm sure there are fees to pay. Besides their chronic lack of funds, I have the impression that David would be resistant to joining an organization where there was such a strong leader whose word was law. I don't think David plays well with others on a sustained basis. As an independent missionary he gets to visit churches and preach at people, but doesn't have the constraints of actually answering to anyone on the daily. 

(I shoule re-read the book "Lovingly Abused," by Heather Grace Heath, her story of growing up in ATI and then leaving it. It explains a lot about ATI and Gothard and I've forgotten so many of the details since I read it many months ago.That's where I learned about the application to join ATI.) 

And I so agree, that the prospect of Tim marrying anybody is chilling; now that he's landed someone to court, it's a sickening subject to think about. 

Edited February 14, 2023 by Jeeves

[BetyBee]

Heidi's Dad looks and dresses like a normal guy. Her Mom could be very attractive if she wore some color. They are fools to put their innocent daughter in lifelong submission to Tim and his narcissistic, greedy BME. That girl is doomed to a miserable existence. 😩

[laurakaye]

I don't get why Jill has to present her future daughter-in-law's bio like that - "Heidi is 19, daughter of so-and-so, she's the 4th of eleventy-seven children, her favorite color is light pink and her pastimes include painting hearts on her fingernails and playing the banjo.  Her parents are blah blah blah and we already love them soooooo much!"

It's a combo of a failed humblebrag and trying to ingratiate herself with a new family.  Like, no one cares about this girl's pedigree...the concern is that she's marrying a man-boy with dangerously warped views regarding women, thanks to Jill's parenting.

I'll bet Jill was on her knees praying that somehow, a completely naïve waif would enter their social sphere who had parents dumb enough to let her marry her disturbed eldest son.  Congrats, Mahmo.

Edited February 14, 2023 by laurakaye

[Dimi1]

12 hours ago, crazy8s said:

What I find interesting is Timbits being able to court a female with her own SM, while he still has to" jump on" mama's fb page when he(mama) wants to share something.

Will Heidi have to give up sm, or if they marry will her page suddenly become Timothy Heidi Rodrigues??

these are  my thoughts exactly...this little Heidi could have a back bone and give Jill a run for her money....she could actually control tim.....we shall see....I am getting the popcorn...

[mom2two]

can someone slip this poor girl a note that jesus spoke to them and told them to tell her to run, and that Timmy is NOT her god chosen one.  I would love to see the courtship and fail and Jill implode.

 

 

[ginger90]

35 minutes ago, laurakaye said:

I'll bet Jill was on her knees praying that somehow, a completely naïve waif would enter their social sphere who had parents dumb enough to let her marry her disturbed eldest son. 

BEGGING, Jill was BEGGING. 🤦‍♀️

[ChristmasCandy]

16 hours ago, oliviabenson said:

“I have spent many years, on my knees,”

my brain went there x rated thoughts… (Jill and hunk)

BRAIN BLEACH please

 

Your welcome.

[crazy8s]

34 minutes ago, ChristmasCandy said:

Your welcome.

also goes along well with jill's "first part" of the florida grift tour video she posted today.

She shows the family at a pizza place, she shows a close up of hunk and the caption says "watch for the pepper shaker" or something like that. But she only shows hunk from the chest up. pepper shaker was not my first thought 😬 - so brain bleach is needed

Other things from the video - pizza place video shows sofia back in the corner of a booth and she seems to be sharing a plate with Janessa.

Renee and Samuel do a skit and Nurthan"s church where they play a married couple and he forgets valentine's day.

Older children "making memories" playing a card game at Nurthan's. Background - Sadie or Olivia making poptarts or something and repeatedly telling Janessa she needs to put whatever on a plate. Janessa comes up next to dave with said food, no plate and is doted on as usual.

Sadie and Sofia shivering at the beach. I don't think they brought towels. Samuel "built" his own wake board that seems to be a thin sheet of balsa or cardboard🙄

I did laugh at the circus type music Jill has when David is shown preaching.

 

[farmgal4]

23 hours ago, libgirl2 said:

I was thinking that maybe they would live with her family. 

That might not be a bad thing.  He’s less likely to abuse her as long as her family is around.

[libgirl2]

1 minute ago, farmgal4 said:

That might not be a bad thing.  He’s less likely to abuse her as long as her family is around.

I don't trust them either. 

58 minutes ago, crazy8s said:

also goes along well with jill's "first part" of the florida grift tour video she posted today.

She shows the family at a pizza place, she shows a close up of hunk and the caption says "watch for the pepper shaker" or something like that. But she only shows hunk from the chest up. pepper shaker was not my first thought 😬 - so brain bleach is needed

Other things from the video - pizza place video shows sofia back in the corner of a booth and she seems to be sharing a plate with Janessa.

Renee and Samuel do a skit and Nurthan"s church where they play a married couple and he forgets valentine's day.

Older children "making memories" playing a card game at Nurthan's. Background - Sadie or Olivia making poptarts or something and repeatedly telling Janessa she needs to put whatever on a plate. Janessa comes up next to dave with said food, no plate and is doted on as usual.

Sadie and Sofia shivering at the beach. I don't think they brought towels. Samuel "built" his own wake board that seems to be a thin sheet of balsa or cardboard🙄

I did laugh at the circus type music Jill has when David is shown preaching.

 

These people do eat an awful lot of pizza. I guess it is cheap. 

Of course the girls were shivering. They shouldn't be wearing dresses to swim and they should have towels. I wonder just how warm it is for them to be in the water (and how warm the water is). 

[Madtown]

3 hours ago, ginger90 said:

BEGGING, Jill was BEGGING. 🤦‍♀️

Yeah, BEGGING for some poor sap to take her problem child away so she doesn't have to deal with him anymore.

1 hour ago, crazy8s said:

Renee and Samuel do a skit and Nurthan"s church where they play a married couple and he forgets valentine's day.

 

Trying to picture myself when I was Renee's age(or any age), putting on a skit with my brother where we pretend to married. Um yeah, no!

Edited February 14, 2023 by Madtown

[ginger90]

9 minutes ago, Madtown said:

Trying to picture myself when I was Renee's age(or any age), putting on a skit with my brother where we pretend to married. Um yeah, no!

Well, she could have been married to a broom.

[libgirl2]

9 minutes ago, ginger90 said:

Well, she could have been married to a broom.

which might be a better option then some of her choices out there. 

[Meow Mix]

So is all this begging for a bride for Tim how Jill tore four things in her knee and supposedly needed surgery?  Guess she milked that for all she could, so now there is no more mention of her severely injured knee.  I see from the one still that Tim and Heidi are already dressing in the same color.  And Heidi's mother's floor length denim skirt is tragic.

[farmgal4]

20 hours ago, GeeGolly said:

A few criteria of Antisocial Personality Disorder - persistent violations of social norms, including lying, inconsistent work behavior and traffic arrests.

I’m almost positive that I read somewhere that Tim had a problem with telling the truth when he was a child and that was another behavior that BME and DD had to break him of. I’m no psychiatrist, but my theory is that subconsciously (or consciously?) Tim hates women, all women, because of what BME did to him when he was growing up.

[farmgal4]

19 hours ago, oliviabenson said:

Jill is one f’ed up POS.