Say Yes To The Dress - General Discussion

[eyelash]

On ‎7‎/‎27‎/‎2017 at 5:33 PM, Spunkygal said:

@eyelash, you might go to Sophia Tolli's FB page, describe the dress and mention that it was on SYTTD UK. Maybe they'll respond with a pic of it and the name of the style. Then you can search to see if it is available somewhere. 

Thanks SpunkyGal, that worked!   It turned out to be the Sophia Tolli's design called Aquarius. What I thought was strips of fabric is actually multiple patterns of lace in V-shapes, not sewn vertically.  So much for my powers of observation.  But my friend indeed loves it and it actually comes in her size.

 

[Shannon L.]

That dress is gorgeous @eyelash and it's the mermaid style that I actually like that I was describing on the previous page.  

[tawny411]

I don't even think of that as mermaid. Maybe it's because all the mermaid we see on the show are strapless,very body hugging and really big at the bottom. I like that dress a lot. Very simple and sophisticated. 

[Lovecat]

I just saw the re-run with the bride who bought not only her dress, but one for her mother and her three daughters (ages 13, 11, and 18 months).  Pnina for everyone, of course!  The bill was $70K, and lordy, each dress was uglier than the next.  The only one I liked was the one for the baby, which cost $4500.  For an 18-month-old.  Mm-kay. 

I mean, I really can't judge what others do with their money, but for that kind of coin, I'd expect some, you know, *pretty* dresses.

[eyelash]

13 minutes ago, Lovecat said:

I just saw the re-run with the bride who bought not only her dress, but one for her mother and her three daughters (ages 13, 11, and 18 months).  Pnina for everyone, of course!  The bill was $70K, and lordy, each dress was uglier than the next.  The only one I liked was the one for the baby, which cost $4500.  For an 18-month-old.  Mm-kay. 

I mean, I really can't judge what others do with their money, but for that kind of coin, I'd expect some, you know, *pretty* dresses.

It sure seem that the higher the budget, the less taste exhibited.  I'm completely baffled why so many SYTTD brides consider their wedding a performance and party instead of a ceremony to publically take vows entering into a marriage.  A marriage that is intended to last longer than the credit card payments rolling in from the Pnina Tornai.  

[Marisagf]

3 hours ago, Lovecat said:

I just saw the re-run with the bride who bought not only her dress, but one for her mother and her three daughters (ages 13, 11, and 18 months).  Pnina for everyone, of course!  The bill was $70K, and lordy, each dress was uglier than the next.  The only one I liked was the one for the baby, which cost $4500.  For an 18-month-old.  Mm-kay. 

I mean, I really can't judge what others do with their money, but for that kind of coin, I'd expect some, you know, *pretty* dresses.

There is a story with her.  I think she is the daughter of an government official of an African country.  And, if I recall, I think they were super corrupt.  Anyone remember?

 

ETA: Totally different bride!  This one spent $200,000 at Kleinfeld!   She is from Angola, a very poor country.  And her dad is in the cabinet.  https://life.spectator.co.uk/2017/03/frock-rocked-nation/

Edited July 29, 2017 by Marisagf

[Spunkygal]

15 hours ago, eyelash said:

Thanks SpunkyGal, that worked!   It turned out to be the Sophia Tolli's design called Aquarius. What I thought was strips of fabric is actually multiple patterns of lace in V-shapes, not sewn vertically.  So much for my powers of observation.  But my friend indeed loves it and it actually comes in her size.

 

glad they responded to you! That dress is drop dead gorgeous!

[Baltimore Betty]

1 hour ago, Spunkygal said:

glad they responded to you! That dress is drop dead gorgeous!

STUNNING!!!

[useryikes]

Aghhhh.  I just saw a tiny bit of SYTD Atlanta.  I feel like punching out the brides.  No, you don't look like a princess when your boobs are sticking out of a strapless dress, or when the middle is see-through.  Why do they bring 10 people to their appointment?  I just saw one where the bride's father crashed.  She also showed too much boobage.  Also sick of the morons who have a budget of $8000 and spend $12000.  You can get a great dress for under $1000, you know.

[cpcathy]

The number of people they bring irritates the hell out of me. I don't know for sure if producers advise them to bring an army to hike up the drama, but if it's in any way real, then it's stupid. Bring ONE person you trust and who is not JEALOUS of your impending nuptials, and leave it at that. That way, everyone at the wedding will not have an opinion on your dress, since you will be happy and glowing and they will only see that. If you ask two dozen people for opinions on your wedding, then they will give them without hesitation or filter.

[Hockeymom]

10 minutes ago, cpcathy said:

If you ask two dozen people for opinions on your wedding, then they will give them without hesitation or filter.

And then you go into the day with hurt feelings and resentments. Because if you pick one friend's recommendations over another's, of course it means you like them better!

[Mrs. Hanson]

39 minutes ago, cpcathy said:

The number of people they bring irritates the hell out of me. I don't know for sure if producers advise them to bring an army to hike up the drama, but if it's in any way real, then it's stupid. Bring ONE person you trust and who is not JEALOUS of your impending nuptials, and leave it at that. That way, everyone at the wedding will not have an opinion on your dress, since you will be happy and glowing and they will only see that. If you ask two dozen people for opinions on your wedding, then they will give them without hesitation or filter.

I brought one person with me, she had her happy wedding back in the day and would be honest and happy for me.  And it was an enjoyable experience.  I used to "hate watch"this show but sometimes I can't take the "fussy sister who has strong feeling on a ball gown" or the mother who wants her daughter in a high neck lace gown when she wants something in silk with a sweetheart neckline.  (Of course she does!!!)  That "friend" probably won't invite you to HER dress buying event anyways!  I did not bring my sister as I did not want her opinion, to be blunt.  I am certain she will show up to my wedding looking like a cross between a cross between a cast member of Pippin' and a refugee from Grateful Dead concert.  

[cpcathy]

I did not bring my sister with me. I brought my best friend (at the time). My sister had her opinions, she thought I should have done everything the same way she did it. She must have been having a hard day because she unloaded all the opinions she had all at once, she did not want to dress up, she did not want to go on a boat, she did not want to eat seafood. I stewed over it, then as kindly as I could muster, asked if she would be happier as a guest than as matron of honor. She accepted.

[Mrs. Hanson]

7 minutes ago, cpcathy said:

I did not bring my sister with me. I brought my best friend (at the time). My sister had her opinions, she thought I should have done everything the same way she did it. She must have been having a hard day because she unloaded all the opinions she had all at once, she did not want to dress up, she did not want to go on a boat, she did not want to eat seafood. I stewed over it, then as kindly as I could muster, asked if she would be happier as a guest than as matron of honor. She accepted.

Are we related?  We are having a professional musician play background music at our luncheon reception.  We knew him in high school.  He is a ONE MAN show, playing fingerstyle guitar like no one else can.  My sister fancies herself a mandolin player......can you connect the dots?  We actually have a few friends on standby that if my sister heads back to her vehicle to get her mandolin and want to "jam" with Tim she will be stopped.  

Sounds like YOUR sister didn't even want to be at the wedding!!  My sister is a "Minneapolis Snob" - anything outside the parameters of Minneapolis is well.....not done.  So I will hear all about our site in Chaska (CHASKA!  TWENTY MINUTES AWAY!) and how it took so long to drive, it seems so far.......and the suburban fine restaurant?  HORRORS!  

I don't even discuss my wedding plans with her....too many unasked for opinions and advice.  I AM 52!!!  I think I got this!  LOL!

[cpcathy]

I should have never have told her anything, I guess, I was 31 and had waited a long time to marry my BF, so yes, I made the mistake of telling her, I got overexcited. I would do it differently if I had the chance.

[AZChristian]

Former co-worker went shopping with her sister, and made it clear right up front that sister was NOT to get a high-necked, long-sleeved gown, because co-worker had that, and didn't want anyone to compare their gowns.  Must have been really obnoxious about it at the store, as wedding consultant said to bride (in front of co-worker), "Might I suggest you come back and shop when you can pick out what YOU want?"  While telling the story, it was obvious that co-worker didn't understand she'd been a real roadblock to what should have been a happy experience.

[Mrs. Hanson]

1 hour ago, cpcathy said:

I should have never have told her anything, I guess, I was 31 and had waited a long time to marry my BF, so yes, I made the mistake of telling her, I got overexcited. I would do it differently if I had the chance.

I hear you.  I love my sister, I do, but when we talk on the phone or see other I do NOT talk about plans.  Don't need her advice/opinions, we can talk about a lot of other topics!

Back to the show:  I would LOVE to be in the break room listening to some of the consultants talking about the entourage!!!  

[Hockeymom]

I just think that people get unnecessarily worked up over weddings in general. Of course it's a milestone event. People get so crazy nuts about it though. 

Brides are deluded if they think anyone is as invested in their choices as they are. There is no prize for best dress. No prize for the "perfect" anything. Those clever place cards they hand made will be tossed aside. Those meaningful favors they had bitter fights over won't be meaningful to everyone. Half will be discarded on the table. That food that "expresses who we are" won't appeal to everyone. Half the plates will be sent back untouched. 

In many cases, brides have bought into the "It's my special day" mentality. In reality, it's a special day for many people. The bride, the groom, her parents, his parents, family, friends. 

When couples start making it all about themselves, they alienate the people who care enough to get dressed, show up, and make a financial investment. 

Some brides worry about everyone remembering "their" wedding as the best. But, people remember fondly those weddings that made the guests feel welcome. Just because the couple are hikers, doesn't  mean the guests want to trudge up a rocky path to witness sunset vows on a mountaintop. Likewise, just because they are avid fishermen, doesn't mean everyone wants trout for dinner. 

Sure, make it your own, just be mindful that you are hosts as well. Good hosts make everyone feel special and welcome, not like hostages to the "It's my day and we're gonna do it my way" show. 

[Marisagf]

2 hours ago, Hockeymom said:

I just think that people get unnecessarily worked up over weddings in general. Of course it's a milestone event. People get so crazy nuts about it though. 

Brides are deluded if they think anyone is as invested in their choices as they are. There is no prize for best dress. No prize for the "perfect" anything. Those clever place cards they hand made will be tossed aside. Those meaningful favors they had bitter fights over won't be meaningful to everyone. Half will be discarded on the table. That food that "expresses who we are" won't appeal to everyone. Half the plates will be sent back untouched. 

In many cases, brides have bought into the "It's my special day" mentality. In reality, it's a special day for many people. The bride, the groom, her parents, his parents, family, friends. 

When couples start making it all about themselves, they alienate the people who care enough to get dressed, show up, and make a financial investment. 

Some brides worry about everyone remembering "their" wedding as the best. But, people remember fondly those weddings that made the guests feel welcome. Just because the couple are hikers, doesn't  mean the guests want to trudge up a rocky path to witness sunset vows on a mountaintop. Likewise, just because they are avid fishermen, doesn't mean everyone wants trout for dinner. 

Sure, make it your own, just be mindful that you are hosts as well. Good hosts make everyone feel special and welcome, not like hostages to the "It's my day and we're gonna do it my way" show. 

Well said!!!!

[Mrs. Hanson]

3 hours ago, Hockeymom said:

In many cases, brides have bought into the "It's my special day" mentality. In reality, it's a special day for many people. The bride, the groom, her parents, his parents, family, friends. 

When couples start making it all about themselves, they alienate the people who care enough to get dressed, show up, and make a financial investment. 

Some brides worry about everyone remembering "their" wedding as the best. But, people remember fondly those weddings that made the guests feel welcome. Just because the couple are hikers, doesn't  mean the guests want to trudge up a rocky path to witness sunset vows on a mountaintop. Likewise, just because they are avid fishermen, doesn't mean everyone wants trout for dinner. 

I have to laugh at the second part I quoted:  My fiance and I LOVE to go to Isle Royale National Park and we also love to hike other national and state parks.  We joked about having a destination wedding at Isle Royale, as, well....that would keep the guest list down!!!  LOL!  Who would want to take a three hour boat ride (and not a comfy one, at that) and hike over rough terrain?  

But seriously, you are SPOT ON about it being a special day for a lot of people.  My kids are getting a stepdad, I am getting two nephews, his parents are getting a daughter in law.  Lots of people are making time out of their busy lives to share with us this day when they could be doing something else.  It is going to be a meaningful day for many many people, not just me.    

[Hockeymom]

12 minutes ago, Mrs. Hanson said:

But seriously, you are SPOT ON about it being a special day for a lot of people.  My kids are getting a stepdad, I am getting two nephews, his parents are getting a daughter in law.  Lots of people are making time out of their busy lives to share with us this day when they could be doing something else.  It is going to be a meaningful day for many many people, not just me.    

Yes! That's exactly what I meant!

Congratulations on the wedding!

[Mrs. Hanson]

51 minutes ago, Hockeymom said:

Yes! That's exactly what I meant!

Congratulations on the wedding!

thank you Hockeymom!  It will be here before you know it.  I am happy about the planning but I will be glad when it is over.

[Kohola3]

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 She had enormous boobs & cleavage everywhere; it's like most of her boobs were out of the dress & not in where they should have been. 

And they are simply standing on a pedestal when they are deciding.  What happens when they try to dance or bend over to talk with people at the tables or hug relatives?  Is that top shelf going to stay contained or spill out and knock someone over?  

Oh, wait.  The wedding is All About Her (the groom seems to be an afterthought most of the time) so maybe the Princess Bride will sit on her throne and just accept the adulation of the guests.  So no danger of suffocating anyone with her boobs.

[mstar1125]

On 7/31/2017 at 2:10 PM, Hockeymom said:

I just think that people get unnecessarily worked up over weddings in general. Of course it's a milestone event. People get so crazy nuts about it though. 

Brides are deluded if they think anyone is as invested in their choices as they are. There is no prize for best dress. No prize for the "perfect" anything. Those clever place cards they hand made will be tossed aside. Those meaningful favors they had bitter fights over won't be meaningful to everyone. Half will be discarded on the table. That food that "expresses who we are" won't appeal to everyone. Half the plates will be sent back untouched. 

In many cases, brides have bought into the "It's my special day" mentality. In reality, it's a special day for many people. The bride, the groom, her parents, his parents, family, friends. 

When couples start making it all about themselves, they alienate the people who care enough to get dressed, show up, and make a financial investment. 

Some brides worry about everyone remembering "their" wedding as the best. But, people remember fondly those weddings that made the guests feel welcome. Just because the couple are hikers, doesn't  mean the guests want to trudge up a rocky path to witness sunset vows on a mountaintop. Likewise, just because they are avid fishermen, doesn't mean everyone wants trout for dinner. 

Sure, make it your own, just be mindful that you are hosts as well. Good hosts make everyone feel special and welcome, not like hostages to the "It's my day and we're gonna do it my way" show. 

Yes, yes, yes! With that said, I definitely remember a lot of the weddings where the couple made it all about themselves - but I remember them with bitterness. 

[brilliantbreakfast]

On 7/3/2017 at 2:46 PM, cpcathy said:

I always thought they did a wonderful job on Diana's dress. It was the eighties, so yes, it was big and bold but it was so beautiful and she looked beautiful in it.

Damn, he was handsome.  And she went and married ol' Jug-Ears?  

I remember getting caught up in that whole business and I couldn't wait to see that dress.  And then she somehow managed to pull herself and those acres of satin and tulle and bows and ongepotchket this and that out of the carriage and I thought "THAT???"  I thought Diana's dress was a horror then and I think it's a horror now.  Even for 1985 it was just too much.  But think about it -- brides in the 80s wanted those big puffy sleeves after Diana's wedding, but the "Kate Middleton dress" lasted about a season.  The way we think about "The Royals" now has changed a lot since then.  Kate Middleton's dress was lovely but too modest for the Staten Island/Joisey stripper brides that frequent Kleinfeld's.

[useryikes]

Just caught this episode:

Huffington Post fashionista, Caitlyn - Too heavy for the dress she chose.

Candace from California, with look-alike overly made up mom - $13000 Pnina dress, what every strumpet has worn dozens of times.

Danielle - being fitted for dress; mom with bad face lift.  Dress was displaying way too much boobage and she was a big chunky around the hips for it.

So - 3 strikes & out.  All horrible.

[Baltimore Betty]

19 hours ago, brilliantbreakfast said:

Damn, he was handsome.  And she went and married ol' Jug-Ears?  

I remember getting caught up in that whole business and I couldn't wait to see that dress.  And then she somehow managed to pull herself and those acres of satin and tulle and bows and ongepotchket this and that out of the carriage and I thought "THAT???"  I thought Diana's dress was a horror then and I think it's a horror now.  Even for 1985 it was just too much.  But think about it -- brides in the 80s wanted those big puffy sleeves after Diana's wedding, but the "Kate Middleton dress" lasted about a season.  The way we think about "The Royals" now has changed a lot since then.  Kate Middleton's dress was lovely but too modest for the Staten Island/Joisey stripper brides that frequent Kleinfeld's.

Diana's dress was awful!  I saw it in person on my first honeymoon in 1987 and it looked like a wrinkled mess on the mannequin.  I never took to the mutton chop sleeve and overly puffy shoulders back then.  Kate M's dress is one to copy, tasteful. 

And then she somehow managed to pull herself and those acres of satin and tulle and bows and ongepotchket this and that out of the carriage and I thought "THAT???" 

I love how you spelled that word, Yiddish can be tricky to spell.  I use that word a lot!

I kind of root for the brides that leave Kleinfeld's empty handed, like they came to their senses.

[Mrs. Hanson]

1 hour ago, Baltimore Betty said:

I kind of root for the brides that leave Kleinfeld's empty handed, like they came to their senses.

I do too!!  I think to myself:  Go look up Bridal Consignment and see what pops up.  Take your $3000 budget and ONE FRIEND to the store.  Buy a dress for $600, bank the remaining $2400 in a CD that will mature in five years.  When (not if) your car needs repairs, your roof needs repairs, you want to get away for a week......trust me, that $$$ will mean a lot more than that outdated dress with a sweetheart neckline, mermaid style and glitter belt and bling along the neckline that no one will buy as it is now outdated.   

[gonecrackers]

3 minutes ago, Mrs. Hanson said:

I do too!!  I think to myself:  Go look up Bridal Consignment and see what pops up.  Take your $3000 budget and ONE FRIEND to the store.  Buy a dress for $600, bank the remaining $2400 in a CD that will mature in five years.  When (not if) your car needs repairs, your roof needs repairs, you want to get away for a week......trust me, that $$$ will mean a lot more than that outdated dress with a sweetheart neckline, mermaid style and glitter belt and bling along the neckline that no one will buy as it is now outdated.   

I totally agree, but I also think the mindset of many of these brides is simply, entitlement. I often wonder how they do after being married. Are they in a partnership, or do they expect constant pampering? So many of them want to be princesses, & have been brought up feeling like they deserve whatever they want.

I guess what I'm saying is I don't see a lot of them as being the most practical types LOL. Maybe they feel like they don't have to prepare for anything because someone else will always provide it.

And, it's their special day, you know, so it must be perfect!!  Until the divorce & subsequent marriages... I wonder if every one will be their 'one special day' to be a princess, again & again...

[Kohola3]

3 minutes ago, gonecrackers said:

So many of them want to be princesses, & have been brought up feeling like they deserve whatever they want.

I think that's the scary part.  Not one of them seems capable of handling the inevitable vagaries of married life.  They go from being pampered and sheltered at home to expecting the same with a husband.  I would kill to see the statistics on how many of these entitled brats have a viable marriage.  I bet it's a very low number.  

[Mrs. Hanson]

2 hours ago, gonecrackers said:

I totally agree, but I also think the mindset of many of these brides is simply, entitlement. I often wonder how they do after being married. Are they in a partnership, or do they expect constant pampering? So many of them want to be princesses, & have been brought up feeling like they deserve whatever they want.

I guess what I'm saying is I don't see a lot of them as being the most practical types LOL. Maybe they feel like they don't have to prepare for anything because someone else will always provide it.

And, it's their special day, you know, so it must be perfect!!  Until the divorce & subsequent marriages... I wonder if every one will be their 'one special day' to be a princess, again & again...

You are right about the entitlement and princess thing.  Think about it:  this show was filming between 2007 and now.  Brides born around 1985 would have been 22 when the show began, and brides born up until the early 90's are profiled.  Prime Disney Princess Theme Time!!!  LOL!  "I wanna be a princess when I grow up!"  And per entitlement:  many of these brides have dads and moms, sitting right there, saying "She is our princess, she can get whatever she wants!"

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I think that's the scary part.  Not one of them seems capable of handling the inevitable vagaries of married life.  They go from being pampered and sheltered at home to expecting the same with a husband.  I would kill to see the statistics on how many of these entitled brats have a viable marriage.  I bet it's a very low number.  

Edited to add the above quote - I have a dear friend, beautiful mother, wonderful friend and wife.  She went from being take care of by her parents to being taken care of by her husband.  If her hubby were to pass she would be LOST.  I love her but she would have NO CLUE how insurance works, health care, nothing.  And for a shocking twist: she is obsessed with DisneyWorld!!!  They go every two years!! LOL!  And she is mid-forties so she can still learn these things.

I am 52 so my role model in the movies was Pippi Longstocking!!!! 

And now I am off to my fitting for my $300 Bridal Consignment dress!!!  (My fiance paid half and it was STILL hard to lay out the $150!!! LOL!)

Edited August 4, 2017 by Mrs. Hanson

[camom]

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I kind of root for the brides that leave Kleinfeld's empty handed, like they came to their senses.

Mostly I agree, but I also think some of them never had any intention of buying a dress.  They just come for their 15 minutes of fame.

[gonecrackers]

2 hours ago, Baltimore Betty said:

Diana's dress was awful!  I saw it in person on my first honeymoon in 1987 and it looked like a wrinkled mess on the mannequin.  I never took to the mutton chop sleeve and overly puffy shoulders back then.  Kate M's dress is one to copy, tasteful. 

Yahoo articles are lousy & this doesn't have much either, but since it's come up here thought I'd post it-

https://www.yahoo.com/style/princess-diana-wedding-dress-designer-131538120.html

She was very young, becoming a princess, & really went all out for the 80s princess look. But I wonder why they didn't at least use a fabric that wouldn't have been so wrinkly making her into such a hot mess.

Edited August 4, 2017 by gonecrackers

[Guest]

On 8/1/2017 at 6:03 PM, Kohola3 said:

And they are simply standing on a pedestal when they are deciding.  What happens when they try to dance or bend over to talk with people at the tables or hug relatives?  

I spent over 400.00 on my teenager's first prom gown from a - no return for any reason anytime - boutique. When she put it on at home, she realized she couldn't sit down because the thighs were too tight. Another 200.00 for fabric and days of labor later, she could sit.

[Mrs. Hanson]

6 minutes ago, Swim mom said:

I spent over 400.00 on my teenager's first prom gown from a - no return for any reason anytime - boutique. When she put it on at home, she realized she couldn't sit down because the thighs were too tight. Another 200.00 for fabric and days of labor later, she could sit.

I hear you - I tried on one dress and it was gorgeous, lovely fit, in budget.....but I could not sit down.  Oops!!  So the next one we made sure I could sit!!  Now it is being altered and before I go I need to remember to sit!!  

[Hockeymom]

1 hour ago, Swim mom said:

I spent over 400.00 on my teenager's first prom gown from a - no return for any reason anytime - boutique. When she put it on at home, she realized she couldn't sit down because the thighs were too tight. Another 200.00 for fabric and days of labor later, she could sit.

She's lucky to have you! It's great you were able to save the day.

That would have been a disaster in our house.

[Shannon L.]

I was at the hair salon a little early yesterday, so I looked through a couple of the Bridal Guide magazines that they had out and while I understand that Kleinfeld's and Confetti and Lace only carry designs from certain designers, I was left irritated that we see the same gowns over and over.  Especially from Kleinfeld's!  It's a huge shop, so surely there must a be a ton that we're not seeing.  I love looking at wedding dresses--it's why I watch the show--and these magazines had many that were breathtaking. 

There were two that I saw that made me want to renew my vows on a beach somewhere--and I hate the beach!  I tried to find them online, but I can't.  They were both light and airy--one was cute and fun, the other was elegant and beautiful.  I'm always perplexed at the dresses that most of the brides who are getting married on a beach or in a hot area choose.  They almost always look too heavy and all I can think is that they're going to sweat profusely--even if it's sleeveless. 

Speaking of weather--let's address fall/winter weddings or the bride who wants to be a little more covered up:  When looking for one of the dresses, I was able to see a ton on one of the designers' websites and they have a long sleeved, high on the chest scoop neck (about as covered up as you can get w/o a high neck) that is gorgeous and I wondered again to myself "Where are these dresses at Kleinfeld's and C&L?"  They always act like it's such a challenge to find a long sleeved wedding dress when they obviously exist.  This designer alone had a few really pretty ones. 

I don't know why I keep watching the show--habit I guess.  Anyone know if they are done with the new episodes already?

[cpcathy]

I have not seen any new episodes recently. I'm waiting for my boyfriend David Emmauel to come back.

 

I also dislike it when brides pick big, poofy dresses for the beach. Everything needs to be scaled down, I feel, the beach is so casual to me. Maybe something flowy and simple, especially if you're going barefoot. The urge to buy big princess dresses just overtakes a lot of brides.

[camom]

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 I was left irritated that we see the same gowns over and over.

I agree with this so much.  I really liked a show that was on a few years ago (don't remember the name of the show) that was set at a salon that sold dresses at a big discount.  They would go to fancy stores and buy up the dresses they wanted to get rid of.  It wouldn't work for everyone, but the brides got some really great deals.  That show was more fun for me.

[gonecrackers]

I think that was "I Found the Gown" ?

[tawny411]

I remember "I Found the Gown." I liked the variety of gowns they had. I watch SYTTD when it's on, but I don't enjoy it anymore. I hate seeing the same damn dresses over and over again. I even like SYTTD Atlanta more now.

[gonecrackers]

I Found the Gown had a bit more variety but also there wasn't drama, except for maybe a little (probably) contrived *gasp I'll never find it!*, *they don't love it!*, or whatever they could muster up, so that was nice too.

Edited August 11, 2017 by gonecrackers

[cpcathy]

Ugh, the "I'll never find a dress!" exclamations. Just, no. You will find a dress, it is just a dress, not the end of the world. Even if you wore jeans and a t shirt, you'd still be married.

[Baltimore Betty]

The brides are all about getting the right dress rightfully so but last night a friend of mine showed me photos from a wedding in Ireland (friend of a friend, sadly no invite for me, lol) and the mother of the bride flew in for the wedding for 24 hours in yoga pants and a fur stole and that is how she showed up to the wedding.  No lost luggage story to go with that.

Can we have a show about the mothers of the brides and grooms getting dresses?  My son is getting married in September and I went with a girlfriend to look at dresses, it was fun, how often do you get to buy a long gown? I did not settle for a typical MOB dress at all.  The challenge for Randy would be to dress an older woman who may not have the perfect youthful figure, I think he would really be a help finding the perfect dress.  Think of how colorful that show would be and not one of those women (at least I hope none) would ask for a princess gown.

[AZChristian]

I wonder how many times Randy would have to talk the MotB out of a full-length white gown with a plunging neckline and see-through bodice.  We've seen a couple of those types of mamas on this show.

[Baltimore Betty]

1 hour ago, AZChristian said:

I wonder how many times Randy would have to talk the MotB out of a full-length white gown with a plunging neckline and see-through bodice.  We've seen a couple of those types of mamas on this show.

Yes, those women in competition with their daughters, entertainment value for sure!

[Missy Vixen]

On 8/1/2017 at 7:49 PM, mstar1125 said:

Yes, yes, yes! With that said, I definitely remember a lot of the weddings where the couple made it all about themselves - but I remember them with bitterness. 

There was a wedding in our family last year that we declined to attend. We love the bride and groom but they were married in a very remote location and insisted the guests camp for three days. It was their choice and their day, so we sent regrets and a gift. 

One more thing: I realize nobody makes a registry now because they want money. I'm sorry, but it's rude.

[Mrs. Hanson]

1 hour ago, Missy Vixen said:

There was a wedding in our family last year that we declined to attend. We love the bride and groom but they were married in a very remote location and insisted the guests camp for three days. It was their choice and their day, so we sent regrets and a gift. 

One more thing: I realize nobody makes a registry now because they want money. I'm sorry, but it's rude.

My man and I are not registering as we have a house, a fully furnished house at that.  We don't need towels, dishes or anything.  I want to tell people to not bring anything but to address gifts in any way is rude.

On 8/11/2017 at 1:39 PM, Baltimore Betty said:

Yes, those women in competition with their daughters, entertainment value for sure!

You know there are women out there who want to outshine their daughters!!!  Go Randy, go!!!

[Missy Vixen]

56 minutes ago, Mrs. Hanson said:

My man and I are not registering as we have a house, a fully furnished house at that.  We don't need towels, dishes or anything.  I want to tell people to not bring anything but to address gifts in any way is rude.

 

 

My opinion.

It's possible to address the "gift or no gift" question with tact. Most people would know that a couple combining households aren't going to be looking for the typical crystal/china/etcetera. If these people are coming to your wedding, they know you well enough to know what charities you may support and/or if you'd welcome a small-ish gift like a "breakfast for two" coffee shop gift card enclosed in a greeting card.

Again, my opinion.

I really wish Randy would write a book about his experiences at Kleinfeld's but he'd have to write under an assumed name.  ;-)

[Mrs. Hanson]

1 hour ago, Missy Vixen said:

My opinion.

It's possible to address the "gift or no gift" question with tact. Most people would know that a couple combining households aren't going to be looking for the typical crystal/china/etcetera. If these people are coming to your wedding, they know you well enough to know what charities you may support and/or if you'd welcome a small-ish gift like a "breakfast for two" coffee shop gift card enclosed in a greeting card.

Again, my opinion.

I really wish Randy would write a book about his experiences at Kleinfeld's but he'd have to write under an assumed name.  ;-)

I agree!!  I would LOVE a gift card for a breakfast place to treat ourselves or, because we are practical, a Cub Foods (grocery store) gift card.  Hey - we gotta eat!!  But just showing up and wishing us well is enough.  

Per the tell all book from Randy - I wish there was a tell all book from ALL the consultants!!!  No real names of clients, of course, and the consultants would have to use fake names too.  That wold be a hoot!!