Sweet Fellowship: Duggars and Friends (aka the Bates Family and Other Featured Families Thread)

[BetyBee]

Jill and Dave don't worry their pretty little heads about safety of any kind! 

[libgirl2]

23 minutes ago, BradandJanet said:

I was typing as you posted this. This is the major problem here. If there's a fire, the Hills need every way possible to get out of that old house. 

Jill's makeover of Kaylee's kitchen almost feels like retribution of some sort. Maybe Jill is jealous of Kaylee's youth, beauty, and employed husband so she decided dirty carpets, yellowed cabinet paint, cheap stick-on tiles, an oversized piece of furniture blocking a window, door, and a vent, and dried weeds next to the stove would reflect her own feelings perfectly.  

Imagine they are 4 or 5 or more kids in and God forbid, something  happens? The Rods really don't use their brains, do they? 

Then again, they train (beat) the curiosity out of them. 

Edited November 14, 2023 by libgirl2

[laurakaye]

22 minutes ago, BetyBee said:

Jill and Dave don't worry their pretty little heads about safety of any kind! 

True, I forgot who I was talking about here...clearly not people who take safety into any sort of consideration.  I am reminded of when Ma and Pa Noyes came to stay at the Barndo and Jill's house was a literal obstacle course of loose rugs tossed on every available flat surface.

My question is, did Jill pull this crap on her daughter's house as a dare to see if Kaylee and Jonathan will change what she did?  Or is Jill really so clueless as to the basic idea of a window being an exit in case of a fire?  I know she's got Plexus for brains, but I also struggle to think that a grown human person would purposefully block an exit with something that probably takes two people to move out of the way, especially when that home has babies living there.

I wonder the same thing about Jill's own house.  With the random extension cords hanging from ceilings and various single outlets with 12 devices plugged in, it's like she's almost trying to make something bad happen.

[Turquoise]

11 minutes ago, laurakaye said:

True, I forgot who I was talking about here...clearly not people who take safety into any sort of consideration.  I am reminded of when Ma and Pa Noyes came to stay at the Barndo and Jill's house was a literal obstacle course of loose rugs tossed on every available flat surface.

My question is, did Jill pull this crap on her daughter's house as a dare to see if Kaylee and Jonathan will change what she did?  Or is Jill really so clueless as to the basic idea of a window being an exit in case of a fire?  I know she's got Plexus for brains, but I also struggle to think that a grown human person would purposefully block an exit with something that probably takes two people to move out of the way, especially when that home has babies living there.

I wonder the same thing about Jill's own house.  With the random extension cords hanging from ceilings and various single outlets with 12 devices plugged in, it's like she's almost trying to make something bad happen.

I now feel the need to somehow work "Do you have Plexus for brains??" in a conversation...

[farmgal4]

On 11/13/2023 at 1:05 PM, Teriacky said:

It looks like Jill has had tons of sodium. Maybe she salts everything she eats or maybe her magic Plexus is loaded with sodium. Whatever the cause, those are not normal looking hands. (They look like medical gloves that have been blown into to make balloons!)

I’m a saltaholic and my fingers have never looked like that!

[Salacious Kitty]

Holy firetrap, Batman! 

That hutch is a mistake in every possible way. 

[crazy8s]

The hutch used to be in the dining room. I remember we talked about how the floor must really slope because one side had a 2x4 under it to make it level.

As far as fire safety - Jill has no concern there. Her own kitchen has a ceiling mount industrial heater surrounded by fake greenery and hobby lobby bargain day decor.

 

Edited November 14, 2023 by crazy8s

[all fall down]

The hutch definitely blocks the window and possibly the light switch and electrical outlet opening (depending on if it's flush against the wall), but I don't think it blocks the door. Zooming in to the after picture, the hutch sits on 5 floor tiles, and the 5th tile would butt up against the door jam, but not in front of it. 

Edited November 14, 2023 by all fall down

[Westiepeach]

2 hours ago, libgirl2 said:

Imagine they are 4 or 5 or more kids in and God forbid, something  happens? The Rods really don't use their brains, do they? 

Then again, they train (beat) the curiosity out of them. 

Silly, don’t you know they are Jesus’s favorite? He will save them personally.

[AstridM]

6 hours ago, crazy8s said:

She is certainly confident in her decorating ability. As far back as when her parents finally got a house in w virginia Jill claimed she would have it "looking like a showcase in no time".

This is one of the most hilarious statements she’s ever made, imho 😆😆😆

4 hours ago, 3 is enough said:

OMG the curtains! 😂

Soooooo bad!

Edited November 14, 2023 by AstridM

[ginger90]

51 minutes ago, crazy8s said:

I remember we talked about how the floor must really slope because one side had a 2x4 under it to make it level.

They just cleared the floor vent with that setup.

[mythoughtis]

I’ve never seen a hutch in a kitchen unless there was no dining room.   The last thing they need is to block any exit door.  I doubt that would pass an inspection. 

[BradandJanet]

The dining room is where the hutch belongs. Why did it end up in the kitchen? 🤔 Maybe somebody was afraid the dining room floor was going to collapse with that heavy object on it and the kitchen floor somehow wouldn't.  

The decor budget should have been invested in structural improvements instead of fuel to feed a fire. 

Jonathan, you need to step up and tell your pushy MIL to go home and feed her children. 

[oliviabenson]

3 hours ago, BetyBee said:

Jill and Dave don't worry their pretty little heads about safety of any kind! 

Most of their blessings don’t even wear seatbelts and forget about decent meals…

[Absolom]

25 minutes ago, mythoughtis said:

I’ve never seen a hutch in a kitchen unless there was no dining room.   The last thing they need is to block any exit door.  I doubt that would pass an inspection. 

I've seen hutches in kitchens where there was a blank wall and insufficient cabinet space, but they never block doors or windows and coordinate with the cabinets or furniture in the kitchen.  I've never seen anyone move a hutch from its matching place in the dining room where there was room to make a mess of the kitchen except with Jill.

[crazy8s]

the large rug in the kitchen after pics is from jonathan's basement space Jill decorated.

 

Edited November 14, 2023 by crazy8s
double pic posted

[Betsyannabelle]

Maybe Kaylee mentioned that she’d like to put a Hoosier cabinet in that spot and Jill figured this cabinet would be just fine, not knowing the difference 🤷🏼‍♀️

[ranchgirl]

It's a real shame that the window got covered.  Natural light in a kitchen is so nice.  

[Salacious Kitty]

I think there's a chance that the door wasn't blocked. The hutch seems to be close to the other wall with cabinets, and there's no after shot of the right side of the back wall. Hard to tell, but I would like to give them benefit of the doubt (that they really don't deserve).

Edited November 15, 2023 by Salacious Kitty

[Iguessnot]

8 hours ago, all fall down said:

The hutch definitely blocks the window and possibly the light switch and electrical outlet opening (depending on if it's flush against the wall), but I don't think it blocks the door. Zooming in to the after picture, the hutch sits on 5 floor tiles, and the 5th tile would butt up against the door jam, but not in front of it. 

I don't understand what you mean. The back wall has a window and door, of which said door is all the way to the edge where it looks like the right side of the jamb is missing. How could the hutch be on the back wall without blocking the door?

[all fall down]

1 hour ago, Iguessnot said:

I don't understand what you mean. The back wall has a window and door, of which said door is all the way to the edge where it looks like the right side of the jamb is missing. How could the hutch be on the back wall without blocking the door?

There's at least 8-9 tiles on the floor that go from the cabinets on the left to the side wall next to the right of door. The hutch only takes up 5 of them. See photos. The hutch isn't as wide as it appears. 

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[LilJen]

4 hours ago, all fall down said:

There's at least 8-9 tiles on the floor that go from the cabinets on the left to the side wall next to the right of door. The hutch only takes up 5 of them. See photos. The hutch isn't as wide as it appears. 

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Waiting for Gideon, in about a year, to trip on that rug and slam his head into the hutch…

[BetyBee]

Putting a large piece of furniture in front of a window is weird. I wonder why they moved the hutch from its appropriate place in the dining room? I will never understand Rod thinking. 

[BradandJanet]

Jamming the hutch into the kitchen is an odd choice, for sure. If the door has space to open, the cabinet doors won't open fully. Then there's the register on the floor, the window, the light switch, and the outlet, all of which are covered now. 

Plus, it's not being used for any kitchen purposes and doesn't match the rest of the room.

The dining room has a bare space where the hutch used to be. Maybe Jill plans to put a bed for Ma and Pa Noyes there. Jill would love to have her parents around as long as they don't require any effort and expense from her. 

 

Edited November 15, 2023 by BradandJanet

[laurakaye]

19 minutes ago, BradandJanet said:

Jamming the hutch into the kitchen is an odd choice, for sure. If the door has space to open, the cabinet doors won't open fully. Then there's the register on the floor, the window, the light switch, and the outlet, all of which are covered now. 

I'm waiting for the post where Jill barges into Kaylee's house and moves a recliner into the dining room, or a microwave into the bathroom, because SHE thinks it makes some sort of twisted sense - never mind that it might not be what Kaylee wants.  It's just another way Jill exerts her control over her married kids.  If Nurie didn't live so darn far away, Jill would be Jilling at her house too.

I can't wait for the day when Jill traipses into Tim and Heidi's house with a plastic bin full of Hobby Lobby clearance tchotchkes all ready to put her "special" Mahmo touch on their place, and Tim turns her away at his front door.

[AstridM]

6 hours ago, mynextmistake said:

The way Jill talks about her kids is so patronizing that I’m surprised they don’t all want to punch her in the face. 

“Oh, look at Kaylee and her cozy little abode! Oh look at Timothy and his… sweet little courtship partner!* Oh look at obedient and industrious little Renee, have I mentioned she’s on the market?” It just reeks of this smug sense of superiority, like what she really wants to say is that Kaylee’s house is too small and Timothy’s fiancé is ugly and poor Renee can’t land a man, and she’s better than all of them because she has a converted aircraft hangar full of cheap crap and a “hunky” husband and why is anyone paying attention to them when all eyes should be on her, Jill, and her hoodie blouses and her dime-store stripper makeup and her hideous tsotchkes and her lazy-ass excuse for a husband? 

Are narcissistic bitches more likely to become fundie, or does something about being fundie make someone into a narcissistic bitch?

*I do take some solace in the fact that Heidi sees Jill and has zero time for her nonsense.

 

And who on earth uses the phrase “cozy abode” in 2023? What is she on about?

[oliviabenson]

Precious Mahmo lol

Who peed in her cereal? 

[oliviabenson]

There are a few more slides of Jill’s incoherent babbling and buy PLEXUS. 

I wish I was a psychiatrist so I could diagnose Mahmo Jill haha.

[oliviabenson]

22 minutes ago, AstridM said:

And who on earth uses the phrase “cozy abode” in 2023? What is she on about?

Plexus brain 🙄

[Westiepeach]

33 minutes ago, AstridM said:

And who on earth uses the phrase “cozy abode” in 2023? What is she on about?

She never left the '80s.

[libgirl2]

1 hour ago, BradandJanet said:

Jamming the hutch into the kitchen is an odd choice, for sure. If the door has space to open, the cabinet doors won't open fully. Then there's the register on the floor, the window, the light switch, and the outlet, all of which are covered now. 

Plus, it's not being used for any kitchen purposes and doesn't match the rest of the room.

The dining room has a bare space where the hutch used to be. Maybe Jill plans to put a bed for Ma and Pa Noyes there. Jill would love to have her parents around as long as they don't require any effort and expense from her. 

 

I know it looked like the floor was uneven where the hutch was. Why not address that? Is there a structural issue that needs to be fixed? The hutch just looks weird in the kitchen and out of place. 

[crazy8s]

Note to Jill - Just think how happy those little girls would be if you put a play set for them, you know like, anywhere on your acre lot. Oh but then they might play and use their imaginations without you there to control the narrative, film them or stop them.

There is a video of Janessa in this post where she is doing something next to jill's bed, several times she tries to talk directly to mama and keeps trying to look around the phone Jill has between them to film. Yep, cherishing every moment....

[BradandJanet]

54 minutes ago, oliviabenson said:

Precious Mahmo lol

Who peed in her cereal? 

My guess is Tim since she seems to be referencing her kids. Kitchen hutch Kaylee is on her good side now. 

[laurakaye]

1 hour ago, oliviabenson said:

Precious Mahmo lol

Who peed in her cereal? 

Imagine you're one of Jill's kids, trying to fall asleep for the night in the Barndo, and from across the hall you hear your mother suddenly wail, "Please help me!!"  Nothing like a bit of terror and some heart palpitations for a restful night's sleep.

Those poor kids.  They must walk on eggshells around Jill every single day.  I wonder if they even know what it feels like to fully relax.

I also wonder what Dave does during Jill's nightly wailing - probably just sweetly grunts and falls back to sleep.

Edited November 15, 2023 by laurakaye

[libgirl2]

10 minutes ago, laurakaye said:

Imagine you're one of Jill's kids, trying to fall asleep for the night in the Barndo, and from across the hall you hear your mother suddenly wail, "Please help me!!"  Nothing like a bit of terror and some heart palpitations for a restful night's sleep.

Those poor kids.  They must walk on eggshells around Jill every single day.  I wonder if they even know what it feels like to fully relax.

I also wonder what Dave does during Jill's nightly wailing - probably just sweetly grunts and falls back to sleep.

I know those poor kids. 

I think Dave is pretty checked out and just ignores it while he watches the map. 

[Iguessnot]

8 hours ago, all fall down said:

There's at least 8-9 tiles on the floor that go from the cabinets on the left to the side wall next to the right of door. The hutch only takes up 5 of them. See photos. The hutch isn't as wide as it appears. 

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I can't fathom what they are trying to accomplish. The kitchen door opens to the back of the hutch and the hutch is partially blocking the opening to the next room. What is the purpose of that ratty throw rug?

[Absolom]

1 hour ago, laurakaye said:

I can't wait for the day when Jill traipses into Tim and Heidi's house with a plastic bin full of Hobby Lobby clearance tchotchkes all ready to put her "special" Mahmo touch on their place, and Tim turns her away at his front door.

Or Heidi asks to keep the bin and as Tim is saying goodbye, Heidi is refilling the bin to dump in the trash as soon as Jill's car is out of sight.

[Madtown]

It would be nice if one day, these kids got a backbone. Told MAHMO to get the fuck out of their house and leave the "decorating" to them. Hoping Heidi and Tim do this.

That hutch does not belong in the kitchen. If it wasn't safe to have it in the dining room because of the floor, then it's time to give it away or put ir in the barnado until something else can be done with it.

Covering up a window and door is the dumbest thing ever. It's not like it was a tiny window either. That brought in a ton of light. Plus, it's wedged by their big pantry cabinet. Is their room to even open those doors? There is nothing in that hutch that it needs to be in the kitchen.

Oh and Jill, perhaps you should've gotten some nicer rugs. You want that hutch in the kitchen and then put the most disgusting torn up rug under it. The other rug from Jonathon's basement room, is a monstrosity in that kitchen. I'm sure it is probably just as filthy as the other one.

Hopefully that hutch never comes crashing down on Gideon, because as we know, these people know nothing about safety.

[libgirl2]

10 minutes ago, Madtown said:

Hopefully that hutch never comes crashing down on Gideon, because as we know, these people know nothing about safety.

I highly doubt it is secured to the wall. 

[BetyBee]

21 minutes ago, libgirl2 said:

I highly doubt it is secured to the wall. 

The Rods can't be bothered with details like that!

[ginger90]

A Coverett visit to Ohio included Timothy.

[Teriacky]

Oh Jill, 

Please either buy a couple of decorating magazines (REAL magazines) or watch HGTV on the map. Two people with a baby who live in an already small house need SPACE, not decorative chaos. 
And by the way, not every empty space on the floor needs to have a rug on it. 

[libgirl2]

he looks happy and the smile isn't forced. And no fingers in the frame! 

[YupItsMe]

3 hours ago, laurakaye said:

Imagine you're one of Jill's kids, trying to fall asleep for the night in the Barndo, and from across the hall you hear your mother suddenly wail, "Please help me!!"  Nothing like a bit of terror and some heart palpitations for a restful night's sleep.

Those poor kids.  They must walk on eggshells around Jill every single day.  I wonder if they even know what it feels like to fully relax.

I also wonder what Dave does during Jill's nightly wailing - probably just sweetly grunts and falls back to sleep.

And, believe me, they know when they are the ones causing her agony. The little ones probably live in fear that her loud, pleading prayers are about them.

[laurakaye]

21 minutes ago, libgirl2 said:

he looks happy and the smile isn't forced. And no fingers in the frame! 

But!  How are we supposed to know which one is Timothy??

Maybe it's my hopeful imagination but I feel like in that second picture, Tim's smile is like, "quit caterwauling for me to smile and take the damn pitcher already, Mahmo." 

[Westiepeach]

3 hours ago, Iguessnot said:

I can't fathom what they are trying to accomplish. The kitchen door opens to the back of the hutch and the hutch is partially blocking the opening to the next room. What is the purpose of that ratty throw rug?

I hope that is not the "good"side of the rug...

[ginger90]

7 hours ago, oliviabenson said:

Precious Mahmo lol

Who peed in her cereal? 

Here’s the whole thing, as a spoiler because it’s long…..

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I often feel at the end of myself.  😢  Being a Mom to 13 children is no easy feat.  😔 Yet, I wouldn't trade it for the world.  ❤️  I many times kneel before climbing into my bed, and cry out to God, "Please help me!"   🙏  I sometimes feel I have failed at everything and need God's help!  🩵

God is so faithful.  🙌  He has been teaching me the meaning of the words....forgiveness, faith and "let go and let God"!  I am a fixer.  Growing up, sometimes my Mom would get discouraged.  I would stay by her side until she cheered up.  I love to encourage people.  Inspire them to do right.  Cultivate loving relationships.  Communicate until all is understood.  My Daddy even called me a "peace maker" at my wedding.  💗

But, sometimes, God wants me to learn that HE is the only One that can fix things.  He wants me to lean on HIM and let HIM do the work, and not me.  It is NOT an easy lesson for my personality, but a necessary one.  

In these moments, I sometimes feel useless, or cast aside.  😕  It is then that God allows me to see this quote below.  He reminds me that He loves me just the way He made me, but wants me to learn some hard lessons in life.  He wants me to learn that it is ALWAYS His glory I should be seeking, and not my own.  These moments I come to the end of myself, are SO good for me! 🥰 They keep me humble and realizing in me, dwelleth no good thing.  It is ONLY the power of God resting upon me that brings out anything good in my life.  

If you are struggling today, remember that God (who made and named ALL the stars), knows YOU intimately!  ✨️ Rest in Him and His care for you!  Let His power rest upon you.  Let Him take your burdens.  LET HIM.  And when you do this, miraculous things will happen; and God will be the one glorified through it all.  🙏 I love you, all!  ❤️  Jill R. 

II Corinthians 12:9 "And he said unto me, My grace is sufficient for thee: for my strength is made perfect in weakness. Most gladly therefore will I rather glory in my infirmities, that the power of Christ may rest upon me.
10 Therefore I take pleasure in infirmities, in reproaches, in necessities, in persecutions, in distresses for Christ's sake: for when I am weak, then am I strong.
11 I am become a fool in glorying; ye have compelled me: for I ought to have been commended of you: for in nothing am I behind the very chiefest apostles, though I be nothing."

 

[Absolom]

Awww one of her kids doesn't want to be "fixed?"  I'm guessing it's Tim.  She's been put on the back burner for wedding planning.  

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In these moments, I sometimes feel useless, or cast aside.  😕 

 

[Turquoise]

I guess Jilly is going to have to find a scene-stealing dress to wear to Tim's wedding so all the attention can be put back on her. Teidi who?

There's always this (and I'm fairly sure my grandma had a crocheted toilet paper cover that was similar back in the day):

[crazy8s]

She really needs to get over the "13 children" and move on to I have 6 children over 18 who will choose their own path and I trust that we have done our damndest and to  "Train up a child in the way he should go: and when he is old, he will not depart from it."

She spouts that one fairly often going way back.

Next summer she will have more "children" over 18 than under. The loss of control must be horrible for her.

Samuel will be 19 Nov 24th, Sadie turns 10 on Nov 27th. 

The pics of Tim and Heidi I will have to say I loved the one where it was Tim doing the fundie adoring gaze at Heidi.