Obviously, I don't know what goes on behind closed doors but during 19 Kids & Counting, the show usually showed Jill leading and being in charge of the younger siblings and the household. I remember an episode where the kids made snacks to deliver to local fire stations and Jill headed that up. She oversaw the baking and packaging and then she was the spokesperson when they arrived at the station etc.
I remember when the rumors of Jessa courting first surfaced and the Duggars did an interview with some TV show and they elected Jill to be the spokesperson about courtships. I remember how I thought Jessa was so shy and would never be able to really speak about a courtship, much less, be in one. And look at Jessa now! (This was the interview where one of the littles exposed that Jill was in a courtship too.)
The Jill that is shown now is meek, timid, unsure of herself, and doesn't want to be left alone. I remember an episode not long after she was married and she was saying how she wanted Derick to quit his job and stay home with her. Derick reminded her that he had to make money and then she said something like, "Well, we will talk about it more."
Here is what Jill said when asked what she thought the gender of Jessa and Ben's baby was in last weeks episode:
While looking up to the left with her eyes as if trying to recall a conversation a long time ago .... "I think Derick said he thought maybe they were having a girl or somethin, so, I said 'well, I'm gonna pick what you pick cause your always right and I'm always wrong'."
(The baby is either a girl or a boy, so the bolded words above really threw me off.)
The way she phrased this answer to such a simple question made me sad. Its like she isn't allowed a thought or she doesn't want a thought. Maybe since Derick was wrong on this baby, she will feel she could make a guess on her own next time.
I had such high hopes for Derick and Jill. By the way she was portrayed in the series and how she ran that household, I really thought she was strong and would be independent after marriage. It seemed like she made decisions for the household all the time. I thought she would be an excellent house cleaner, cook, and baby mamma. But once married and into her own household, its like she reverted into a little girl.