Small Talk: Out of Genoa

[Gloriole33]

A year ago my cat, Grady, needed dental surgery which he shouldn't have had because one of his kidneys was failing but the vet didn't pick up on that until after the operation, when his recovery did not proceed as expected.  He was one sick kitty.  My 92-year-old mother needed 24/7 care because her mental faculties were diminishing and she started falling with alarming regularity.  I was her primary caretaker.  My boyfriend was recovering from cancer surgery and was in constant pain.  Me?  I was stressed out beyond belief.  A few trips to the emergency room and a couple of stints at the rehab hospital later, my mother is being cared for in a nursing facility (she damn near died because of a UTI), my boyfriend's pain is intermittent and my kitty is thriving with his one good kidney.  My wrist is healing.  I told you guys at Christmas that you were my lifeline and I meant it.  Still do.  Thoughts and prayers to all of you who are in crisis or who have loved ones who are.  I have found some measure of peace.  I wish that for all of my fellow Preverts.

[Cupid Stunt]

10 hours ago, valleycliffe said:

BLECH.  got my hair cut yesterday, tried to explain to hair dresser how i wanted it, but i still ended up with my hair too short on the sides...looks like a high and tight....grrrrrrrr.

It stinks when you get a "I'd like to speak to the manager" hair cut.

6 hours ago, jewel21 said:

Oh, man. Where to start, my life's a mess.

(((Jewel)))

8 hours ago, valleycliffe said:

anyway, he posted a video of some christian lady who was speaking to a group of people...it was about the drink called "monster"...not sure, but i think it's an energy drink or something...anyway, this lady had displays to prove her point...apparently the green lines on front of can, which i thought was just their stylized m for monster drink, but she said it was actually the hebrew symbol for 666 or the devil...it also has a cross in the "o" of the name, then she was going on and on cause it said on the box that it was the drink of choice for milf's...i laughed out loud at that..i think she also showed that it said that on the box..  then it supposedly has a bfc on the can...she said it stood for big f**king can..

i know i sound petty for being annoyed about her going off on the product, but maybe her anger would be better served talking about all the bullying going on in school and how it goes against what jesus preached...or domestic abuse.....she could tell her listeners that a man beating on his spouse/significant other is not acceptable and maybe the wife should have a cast iron frying pan at the ready to use...or help him go to sleep if you know what i mean..

ok, rant over.

I was at a local grocery store that has a Starbucks the weekend of a huge Fundgelical stink over Starbucks coffee cups; November of 2015. A group of angry church members were protesting and at some point entered the store to berate the baristas for the marketing choice their corporate masters had made for the holiday.

As a Christian, these type of hecklers piss me off. They went out of their way to do harm to the workers by blocking patrons that buy Starbucks over-priced, lousy coffee, and in turn reduced the tips they receive for their service. The baristas are the very people that need to be protected from abuse and the people that could benefit by extending grace, but instead they were having abuse heaped on them and being shown the reluctance of Christians to engage positively and encourage a better path to those they disagree. It's very difficult to allow for the legitimacy of Christian persecution complex when they're screaming in your face about the minutia of a paper coffee cup design.

I made my purchase and got some cash. I pushed my full cart through the protesters, bought a cup of chai and dropped $30 in the tip jar. I wedged my cup in one of my bags, and hit ramming speed back into a phalanx of angry protest signs. Three of them followed me out to my car, braying invectives. I opened up the tailgate of the Suburban, and pulled out the tire iron and turned around to a police car pulling up, warning the screamers to disperse or they would be arrested ... and in a plume of sulphur, they scattered.

Dear Lord, save me from your post-modern social-media maddened followers ... Forgive them because they believe their own hateful press.

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A year ago my cat, Grady, needed dental surgery which he shouldn't have had because one of his kidneys was failing but the vet didn't pick up on that until after the operation, when his recovery did not proceed as expected.  He was one sick kitty.  My 92-year-old mother needed 24/7 care because her mental faculties were diminishing and she started falling with alarming regularity.  I was her primary caretaker.  My boyfriend was recovering from cancer surgery and was in constant pain.  Me?  I was stressed out beyond belief.  A few trips to the emergency room and a couple of stints at the rehab hospital later, my mother is being cared for in a nursing facility (she damn near died because of a UTI), my boyfriend's pain is intermittent and my kitty is thriving with his one good kidney.  My wrist is healing.  I told you guys at Christmas that you were my lifeline and I meant it.  Still do.  Thoughts and prayers to all of you who are in crisis or who have loved ones who are.  I have found some measure of peace.  I wish that for all of my fellow Preverts.

We couldn't do it without you, Gloriole.

Edited March 2, 2017 by Cupid Stunt

[boes]

16 hours ago, peacheslatour said:

Oh shit. Boes how is your eye situation?

Peacheslatour, thanks for asking.  It's getting better.  Very slowly, but nonetheless it is improving.  In contrast to my cranky posts I'm generally a pleasant person (or so I like to think) but I've been a bit tetchy lately - not being able to read as much seems to be my trigger.

What you're going through with your Dad, peaches, that's so damned tough.  You're his rock, his touchstone, there for him as much as you can be and I suspect you've probably had to put your own grieving on hold to do that.  Not that you'd want to do it any other way but I hope, more than anything, that there is something or someone that can ease things for you while you go through this with your Dad.  I'm so sorry.

And you too, Jewel21, with your brother.  The utter exhaustion, mental and emotional, that sets in from dealing with the instability his crisis has put in motion on top of your grandfather's health and now Steve....too much, too much.

Our dog Hazel has had a bad month.  She's been having trouble walking, getting up, doing a regime of prednisone (which I hate), so her activity has naturally been restricted to keep her comfortable and safe.   I think she's getting better but I know what this is leading to, with her age and everything.  But hopefully she'll just get better and stay that way for a good long while.....

And Petunia13 Gloriole and Valleycliffe and Cupid Stunt and Snaporaz and Capricasix, miamamma, all of you and everyone else on this board, my best to you always.

[Snaporaz]

Yes, may better days be ahead for Preverts and their loved ones, be they 2-legged, 4-legged, feathered or furry.  

Edited March 2, 2017 by Snaporaz

[peacheslatour]

God I love you guys. We're all going through some shit yet we are always here for each other. These last few weeks have been some of the worst of my life and I just don't know what I would do if I couldn't come here and laugh and cry with you lovely people.

[Anna Yolei]

14 hours ago, Cupid Stunt said:

It's very difficult to allow for the legitimacy of Christian persecution complex when they're screaming in your face about the minutia of a paper coffee cup design.

If these people think that's "persecution," I invite them to go take a trip to Saudi Arabia and connect with the Christians there... the ones willing to risk death by being open, that is. :/

[pearlite]

14 hours ago, Cupid Stunt said:

Dear Lord, save me from your post-modern social-media maddened followers ... Forgive them because they believe their own hateful press.

Theology Daughter is at the point of despair where this stuff is concerned. And being in the US, where, as you write, it's maniacally and moronically intense, she finds it hard to deal with, when this stuff is part of the cultural conversation at a Divinity School. I hope your daughter, CS, will enjoy Cambridge more than mine is not-enjoying Yale. She refers to New Haven as "where your soul goes to die."

Boes, Jewel, Peaches, Gloriole, my heart goes out to you, and I send you everything positive that I'm able to.

I think I've said it before, but it bears repeating, this is by far the nicest and most decent place to visit every day, because of all of you.

[peacheslatour]

9 minutes ago, pearlite said:

Theology Daughter is at the point of despair where this stuff is concerned. And being in the US, where, as you write, it's maniacally and moronically intense, she finds it hard to deal with, when this stuff is part of the cultural conversation at a Divinity School. I hope your daughter, CS, will enjoy Cambridge more than mine is not-enjoying Yale. She refers to New Haven as "where your soul goes to die."

Boes, Jewel, Peaches, Gloriole, my heart goes out to you, and I send you everything positive that I'm able to.

I think I've said it before, but it bears repeating, this is by far the nicest and most decent place to visit every day, because of all of you.

My dad went to Yale and calls New Haven "the Jersey Shore of Connecticut".

[pearlite]

Just now, peacheslatour said:

My dad went to Yale and calls New Haven "the Jersey Shore of Connecticut".

Thank the Lord you understand, Peaches! People, including family [who are sometimes people] think she's being snarky and should just be nice about being there. She finds it provincial, oppressively Ralph-Lauren-brained, and really limited. Toronto isn't Shangri-La, but it's more cosmopolitan by nature--I found NH a lot of nothing, myself, when I was there. And frankly a lot of U of T buildings are more impressive and older than what I saw at Yale.

[Petunia13]

21 hours ago, jewel21 said:

Oh, man. Where to start, my life's a mess.

Brother was stopped by the police a week after I posted here about his gf having to call the cops because he was sitting in her driveway for 3 hours. They brought him to the psych ward of one hospital and five days later transferred him to his regular mental hospital. He's been there 30 days. He's not coming out of it very quickly, and they want to try Lithium on him. No one in the family wants to see him, visit him, talk to him, or bring him clothes. He's been wearing the same shirt and pants and underwear for a month now.

Today is the second time since Sunday my grandfather had to be taken away by ambulance. I came home to see a firetruck pulling up.  He's been sick and last Sunday got weak and almost fainted and peed the floor. They doctors ran tests and didn't find anything wrong with him other than being sick. And stress. Today, he peed himself twice, almost fell, and seems out of it. And his body temperature has been all over the place, mostly below normal. It dropped to 93 at one point and he's been shivering. He's quiet and not following commands and seems very lost. I don't know what's happening. He's at the hospital waiting to see a doctor as we speak.

Uncle wants to throw crazy brother out once he comes back, with a letter from a lawyer saying he needs to leave in 10 days. My mom wants me to tell my uncle that is ridiculous and you can't just throw someone out in 10 days, but I don't want to get involved.

They suspect Steve has cirrhosis of the liver and want to try a new med on him. It'll help with inflammation and help prevent new fibrous tissues from forming in the liver. It won't get rid of the existing fibrous tissues, though. It's supposed to be something we try for 3 months and then do another biochemistry. I'm debating it.

I'm so over 2017.

I'm so sorry @jewel21 I love you and truly am sad you have all this on your plate. I hope handsome boy Steve gets well soon. 

@boes I hope Hazel feels better with the rest and meds. Bigger dogs sometimes get achy and have muscle or knees issues and then bounce back kinda like an athlete does. Hazel could be due for Lindsay Vonn SnapBack. 

I have to echo the comments about the awesomeness and heart of our y&r board fam. It is so fun, funny and cool and each of you have so much sincerity and wisdom. A day doesn't pass that you guys don't make me laugh and teach me by your grace. There's a lot of beauty here. I am very neurotic and worry about small things or bullshit but whenever I'm overwhelmed or stressed I am inspired by your guys strength, warmth and wit. I am very lucky to be in your company. 

[valleycliffe]

43 minutes ago, peacheslatour said:

My dad went to Yale and calls New Haven "the Jersey Shore of Connecticut".

i think my dad may have finished grade 6 but i'm not sure..

he was quite young 11 or so when his family emigrated from england to canada..saskatchewan to be exact...anyway, after about 1 year here, they decided they wanted to go back to england, took the youngest child, a girl lily, and went home.  they left my dad and his year older brother charlie here...my dad said to live, he worked on farms for little more than board. he worked lots of menial jobs and when we moved from sask. to bc, he got a job at a lumber mill and worked there until he retired.  education was not highly encouraged in my house.  my brother bert was the only one of 6 kids to graduate grade 12....we girls were all married by the time we turned 17, me included..  things sure are different nowadays tho.  while i had my 3 girls by the time i was 25, my daughters were just thinking of having their first child at that age..i did encourage them to graduate high school at the very least and happy they all did.

with all that said, i wish with my whole heart that i learned more about my parents life before i came along..i wish i had talked to them more.. i wish i could tell them how very much i regret not learning more about them.

[Cupid Stunt]

4 hours ago, Anna Yolei said:

If these people think that's "persecution," I invite them to go take a trip to Saudi Arabia and connect with the Christians there... the ones willing to risk death by being open, that is. :/

Many American Christian denominations, no matter their affiliation, are terrified that their influence and numbers (translation: power and money) are waning. Research data indicate when the "Moral Majority" were at their political peak, 28% the children of the "Majority" were walking away, and numbers kept rising. Many tried other churches, other denominations or left religious affiliation outright. The last Barna and Hartford Institute studies on church youth retention averaged 47-53%. When a group is faced with almost half of it's hereditary membership leaving within 3 years of majority, you end up with a lot of finger pointing ... certainly not at themselves, but at a personified expanding secular culture they find disagreeable or abhorrent. It's easy to pick nits when you are maddened by a plague of your own making.

The Quakers I worship with have been assisting Coptic and Orthodox Christians from Afghanistan, Iraq and Syria to immigrate to the U.S. since 2002 -- after the start of the Afghanistan War in 2001. The Bush Administration took no interest in protecting religious freedom in Afghanistan and Iraq, sidelining Sunni, Kurdish and other religious minorities with the hastily amalgamated new Afghani constitution in 2004, and Iraqi constitution in 2005 by the Coalition Provisional Authority in both countries. That gave populist majority Shiites open season on their traditional religious enemies and political competition; this was not the case when Saddam Hussein was in power; his constitution protected all religions equally as long as they didn't attempt undermining the ruling Arab Socialist Ba'ath Party (re: Saddam Hussein).

What these ancient Christians have had to survive with their homes and towns devastated in religious pogroms by the ruling, heavily-armed political majority, assisted by the U.S. government intervention, they then spent years listening to the clock tick in Syrian refugee camps, not allowed to work and waiting in lines for Green Crescent food; this should not be countenanced by anyone in a civil society. Eight family members of three former Iraqi refugees we sponsored, had their immigration paperwork stopped by the U.S. Embassy in Syria because of the recent Trump Administration Immigration Ban. We have 22 additional Copt's trapped under the same immigration edict. One of our group is in contact with a Quaker immigration group in Canada to see if they can take up sponsorship of our people and we will pay the expenses.

In the mean time, we pray, continue our fund raising, have joined other immigrant sponsorship groups to lobby the Trump Administration to amend the immigration ban, and continue to assist the refugees we have toward full U.S. citizenship.

4 hours ago, pearlite said:

Theology Daughter is at the point of despair where this stuff is concerned. And being in the US, where, as you write, it's maniacally and moronically intense, she finds it hard to deal with, when this stuff is part of the cultural conversation at a Divinity School. I hope your daughter, CS, will enjoy Cambridge more than mine is not-enjoying Yale. She refers to New Haven as "where your soul goes to die."

The uncompromising mania in American religious public outreach is discouraging. To create a safe space for all people and beliefs is antithetical for many vocal and autocratic Fundagelical/Christianist practitioners. Mr.Stunt and I were shown the door by our parish because we openly disagreed with the church financing lobbyists for California Proposition 8. Leaving encouraged us and our children to follow a narrow, but better path.

My daughter is going to England with Mr.Stunt (he has a work obligation) over Spring Break to complete registry and student visa formalities, confirm living arrangements and meet the students she's been texting and FB-ing. They are in the same program and she's made some friends. She's has studied so hard at Stanford, and I want this to be a positive educational and cultural experience that she's been working toward.

I've been going to yoga with a new instructor, practicing Pranayama (breathing) exercises and the corresponding poses, and that has helped my anxiety about losing my baaaby! <inhale exhale> I'm not much of a gym rat, preferring the outdoors and running, but the new studio and people are great.

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Boes, Jewel, Peaches, Gloriole, my heart goes out to you, and I send you everything positive that I'm able to.

I think I've said it before, but it bears repeating, this is by far the nicest and most decent place to visit every day, because of all of you.

Almighty Father, through Your love and compassion, visit Boes, Jewel, Peaches, Gloriole and all that suffer. Grant them strength to bear their afflictions, with patience, and trust in Your loving care. Grant them Your mercy, for You are the Physician of our souls and bodies, and to You we pray for recovery and health: to the Father, Son and Holy Spirit, Both now and forever, and to the ages of ages. Amen.

Edited March 3, 2017 by Cupid Stunt

[Anna Yolei]

Bless you @Cupid Stunt and Mr Stunt for the work that you do. We need more Christians like yourself in the world.

[jewel21]

Thank you so much for the kind words and thoughts and prayers, everyone. I love you all.

Gramps is in the hospital. They suspect a urinary tract infection. I went to see him today. He's still in emergency. He has oxygen and and IV and he looks so old and it's so shocking because while 89 he always looked younger than his age. He's sleeping a lot and still seems dazed. We're told he's going to get a room and they did some blood tests around midnight last night, but my uncle still hasn't been able to speak with a doctor. I hope he'll recover fully and soon because it breaks my heart to see him so sick and frail.

[PatsyandEddie]

UTIs can have a devastating effect on the mind in an elderly person. It can cause terrible confusion and sleepiness. My mother would be more confused than usual and the staff would immediately test her urine. Sure enough she had a bladder infection. How she lived to almost 97 with one kidney always amazed her doctors. 

Hopefully he will feel better soon! ((HUGS)) to you!

[peacheslatour]

1 hour ago, PatsyandEddie said:

UTIs can have a devastating effect on the mind in an elderly person. It can cause terrible confusion and sleepiness. My mother would be more confused than usual and the staff would immediately test her urine. Sure enough she had a bladder infection. How she lived to almost 97 with one kidney always amazed her doctors. 

Hopefully he will feel better soon! ((HUGS)) to you!

Yes, this is true. My FIL went through the exact same thing when he was in care. It's definitely a thing. 

So sorry jewel and P&E. ((((hugs))). It's so hard sometimes. I just feel gratitude for the loved ones still in my life. But they are dwindling. 

[Petunia13]

I'm going to talk to my store director next time he's available. I got my promotion and it's all official.

And a bit of backstory when I was hired I had a supervisor and she said she had that role. She discouraged me from the training and made a big deal how she aced it all and was like the best person in this position eva. She told everyone she did this training and had that position and I was her grunt. I'd work from midnight or 4am changing all the computer stuff and prices. She'd come in whenever like 8 or 9 on the days she did show up and goof off with Joel the guy who messed w my stuff and threw a plastic crate at me. So essentially the tail was wagging the dog of the department. Anyhow she ended up taking an extended leave of absence twice and is on another one now. I found out she not only never had that position officially she never did the training or certifications. But told me and everyone she did. I have. So I'm not really sure what's going to happen. Since she wants to come back and be the department head (once Joel probably called her or told he when they were partying). 

I think in my union contract and employee manual or site I am entitled to this position since I did the requirements. I mean I guess they can transfer me? But they have made comments many times they'd block my transfer since I'm such a hard worker. Also why should I have to leave I did everything by the book. 

[Petunia13]

Also my store management didn't think I knew she lied about her her job title and certifications. And she probably doesn't know I know. She printed emails arguing with them about it and threatening them and left them in my printer before her second "break."  Sorry this story is so long ! 

[boes]

It's astounding, Petunia13, the lengths people will go to, just astounding.  Did she really think her lies would never be found out??

You DID the requirements, you have the certifications, all in black and white and you just did it all.  Can you speak to your union rep, even off the record and alert that person to what might end up happening?  Plastic Crate Joel needs to be the one transferred, along with the faker.

I hope this all doesn't start up again for you.

[Cupid Stunt]

2 minutes ago, boes said:

It's astounding, Petunia13, the lengths people will go to, just astounding.  Did she really think her lies would never be found out??

You DID the requirements, you have the certifications, all in black and white and you just did it all.  Can you speak to your union rep, even off the record and alert that person to what might end up happening?  Plastic Crate Joel needs to be the one transferred, along with the faker.

I hope this all doesn't start up again for you.

I second Boes suggestion.

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I think in my union contract and employee manual or site I am entitled to this position since I did the requirements. I mean I guess they can transfer me? But they have made comments many times they'd block my transfer since I'm such a hard worker. Also why should I have to leave I did everything by the book. 

Is "they" the management of your store? The union should back you 100% with a transfer to another facility, if that's what you want and the position is available for your qualifications and seniority.

I would discuss with the union your options gaining a position with your promotion. The store management has to adhere to the union contract, even if your store management doesn't want to deal directly with the faux-supervisor or the belligerent coworker. Your union representative may have some insight into your situation, and that might make your decision to stay or transfer easier.

Personally, any manager who says they will hamper your career progress because you are a hard worker, will only act in what is their best interest to exploit you and shouldn't be trusted. From what you've told us about the atmosphere at your facility, I would pursue a transfer and a fresh start with my new promotion.

Good luck, Petunia.

[Cupid Stunt]

4 hours ago, Anna Yolei said:

Bless you @Cupid Stunt and Mr Stunt for the work that you do. We need more Christians like yourself in the world.

Thank you Anna. Christians don't have a corner on the market in doing the right thing, far from it. I like the book by Robert Fulghum, All I Need to Know I Learned in Kindergarten

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All I really need to know about how to live and what to do and how to be I learned in kindergarten. Wisdom was not at the top of the graduate school mountain, but there in the sand pile at school.

These are the things I learned:

• Share everything.
• Play fair.
• Don't hit people.
• Put things back where you found them.
• Clean up your own mess.
• Don't take things that aren't yours.
• Say you're sorry when you hurt somebody.
• Wash your hands before you eat.
• Flush.
• Warm cookies and cold milk are good for you.
• Live a balanced life - learn some and think some and draw and paint and sing and dance and play and work every day some.
• Take a nap every afternoon.
• When you go out in the world, watch out for traffic, hold hands and stick together.
• Be aware of wonder. Remember the little seed in the Styrofoam cup: the roots go down and the plant goes up and nobody really knows how or why, but we are all like that.
• Goldfish and hamsters and white mice and even the little seed in the Styrofoam cup - they all die. So do we.
• And then remember the Dick-and-Jane books and the first word you learned - the biggest word of all - LOOK.

Everything you need to know is in there somewhere. The Golden Rule and love and basic sanitation. Ecology and politics and equality and sane living.

Take any one of those items and extrapolate it into sophisticated adult terms and apply it to your family life or your work or government or your world and it holds true and clear and firm. Think what a better world it would be if we all - the whole world - had cookies and milk at about 3 o'clock in the afternoon and then lay down with our blankies for a nap. Or if all governments had as a basic policy to always put things back where they found them and to clean up their own mess.

And it is still true, no matter how old you are, when you go out in the world, it is best to hold hands and stick together.

Well considered, and thank you, Mr.Fulghum.

Robert Fulghum.com

Edited March 3, 2017 by Cupid Stunt

[Petunia13]

@BOES thank you. Not a day I doesn't go by I don't thank God for your perspective about ... a lot. 

@CUPID STUNT I've heard from our people service manager and our store director he would block it. But the position is open at our prolific store and I did x requirements and she hasn't. A posed answer was I'll make my raise wage and be in the computer category as  x but she will be at both lower; however be called dept head anyhow or possible share that title even though she didn't do it but claimed she did. 

I appreciate y'all letting me blab about bull crap. I know it's trivial and minor  but you guys never judge me. 

[PatsyandEddie]

It's never trivial or minor when it's so upsetting. ❤

[Petunia13]

After I posted all that i vomited and have been ever since plus headache and shaking. I probably would have got the flu anyhow but the stress escalated it. 

[boes]

3 hours ago, Petunia13 said:

After I posted all that i vomited and have been ever since plus headache and shaking. I probably would have got the flu anyhow but the stress escalated it. 

In bed, covered up, clear broth, weak tea and toast only, for now.  Feel better!

[peacheslatour]

14 minutes ago, boes said:

In bed, covered up, clear broth, weak tea and toast only, for now.  Feel better!

Oh jeez boes, you sound like my mom! "Sick? Tea with no sugar, toast with no butter for you!" But then it was "Ice cream for dinner, sure no problem it's good for the throat!" She was funny that way.

[FairyDusted]

Please forgive for all the notifications that are from last year. I hadn't been down here forever so I'm still reading. Sorry/NotSorry

Best posters Ever

[jewel21]

Haha, welcome back, FairyDusted!

Petunia, I`m so sorry for all the b.s. you`re going through. I hope you feel better.

My uncle finally spoke to the doctor. Gramps does indeed have a UTI and it appears some of the infection went into his blood? In any case, they adjusted his meds, and while I haven't seen him today I hear he's doing much better than yesterday.

[PatsyandEddie]

That's great jewel! Smooches ? 

[boes]

6 hours ago, peacheslatour said:

Oh jeez boes, you sound like my mom! "Sick? Tea with no sugar, toast with no butter for you!" But then it was "Ice cream for dinner, sure no problem it's good for the throat!" She was funny that way.

Ice cream for dinner!!  I'm with your mom - THAT is how to cure just about anything.  My grandmother, who is fondly remembered by all of our family, used to give the great grandchildren ice cream for breakfast.  And no parent ever dared to tell her not to.

[Snaporaz]

Oh, @Petunia13, here's some unsolicited advice....NO JOB IS WORTH MAKING YOURSELF SICK OVER. Really. I lived it.  Maybe you should consider a transfer.  You might find the personalities and interpersonal dynamics are healthier in another store.  It might even be a fun environment to work in instead of the toxic one you're experiencing now.  I get that you don't feel you should have to be the one to move, but it sounds like there are too many bad apples in your store.  It just might be easier for you to get away from the people who are making you miserable.

[FairyDusted]

Well I read the whole thread and glad I did. Even when  SHOW gives us nothing. Or worse yet, bullshit. It's nice to get personal down here. It's been a cluncker of a year already as we ended the last. If I was still a good Catholic, I'd pray. But since I'm not norm. I'll put crystals under my bed and burn a white candle.

Seriously Y'all are the best well thought out posters. Sure wish I was. I'm more like " Oh look at the ponies;)"

My family is more like,"Fucking Gallagers!" 

Edited March 4, 2017 by FairyDusted
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[MollyB]

16 hours ago, Snaporaz said:

Oh, @Petunia13, here's some unsolicited advice....NO JOB IS WORTH MAKING YOURSELF SICK OVER. Really. I lived it.

Me, too (the bolded part) and Snaporaz is absolutely right.  I also add:  you are not going to change this environment and they are not going to change it.  So, save yourself and move to a new one.

[Anna Yolei]

17 hours ago, Snaporaz said:

Oh, @Petunia13, here's some unsolicited advice....NO JOB IS WORTH MAKING YOURSELF SICK OVER. Really. I lived it.  Maybe you should consider a transfer.  You might find the personalities and interpersonal dynamics are healthier in another store.  It might even be a fun environment to work in instead of the toxic one you're experiencing now.  I get that you don't feel you should have to be the one to move, but it sounds like there are too many bad apples in your store.  It just might be easier for you to get away from the people who are making you miserable.

Absolutely this. The first sales jobs I had was full of so much cliquishness and obvious favoritism. It wasn't till I transferred to a different dealership (one that didn't rotate salespeople like Y&R rotates Billys) and talked to people who had been there a while that I realized the problem wasn't entirely with me.

[Petunia13]

Thanks guys I'm feeling better. @boes and @peacheslatour always know the right things. I talked to my store director and we talked about everything I stated here. There wasn't really a resolution and some of my computer programs and account access to them messed with in my absence. This happened before in the summer, at that time I knew it was her, we shared a dept account and the password was changed while she was on leave then and she didn't answer anyone's texts or calls. There's a way to bypass it by making one for me alone but it wasn't completed today. 

[valleycliffe]

holy crap, got this story from facebook.

http://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-4281314/Human-shaped-cloud-appears-Zambian-shopping-centre.html?ito=social-facebook

[valleycliffe]

tee hee, sorry, we're going to take a break....

http://dailyhive.com/vancouver/canada-dumps-america-break-up-video

[peacheslatour]

God I'm so hungover....*head falls off, rolls under bed*

[valleycliffe]

bailey's and coffee to the rescue?

[peacheslatour]

1 hour ago, valleycliffe said:

bailey's and coffee to the rescue?

Just took a nice hot shower and am having a cup of tea. Feel slightly better, thanks. I all excited to watch Feud tonight!

[pearlite]

10 minutes ago, peacheslatour said:

Just took a nice hot shower and am having a cup of tea. Feel slightly better, thanks. I all excited to watch Feud tonight!

Me too. Although I'm not sure whether or not I envy you the hangover. All I do currently is mark papers, do laundry, and look at wiener dogs on Twitter...

[valleycliffe]

1 hour ago, peacheslatour said:

God I'm so hungover....*head falls off, rolls under bed*

Just took a nice hot shower and am having a cup of tea. Feel slightly better, thanks. I all excited to watch Feud tonight!

 

lawdy, i try not to get one, and when i do, i usually am sick for 3 days..

never used to be like that...:(

 

[peacheslatour]

17 minutes ago, valleycliffe said:

lawdy, i try not to get one, and when i do, i usually am sick for 3 days..

never used to be like that...:(

Right? I used to be able to party all night and get up and go to class with about an hour's sleep. Those were the days...

[valleycliffe]

16 minutes ago, peacheslatour said:

Right? I used to be able to party all night and get up and go to class with about an hour's sleep. Those were the days...

LOL  nowadays, i can "partyhearty" until about 7:30 then i just wanna go to bed...

my "partyhearty" now consists of about 3 or 4 glasses of boxed white.

and even if i don't drink any wine, i still wanna got to bed at about 7:30.

my excuse is, i go to bed early cause i get up early, i get up early cause i go to bed early..

[peacheslatour]

4 minutes ago, valleycliffe said:

LOL  nowadays, i can "partyhearty" until about 7:30 then i just wanna go to bed...

my "partyhearty" now consists of about 3 or 4 glasses of boxed white.

and even if i don't drink any wine, i still wanna got to bed at about 7:30.

my excuse is, i go to bed early cause i get up early, i get up early cause i go to bed early..

Yup. Sucks don't it?

[Petunia13]

2 hours ago, peacheslatour said:

Just took a nice hot shower and am having a cup of tea. Feel slightly better, thanks. I all excited to watch Feud tonight!

Feud looks really good. I have always liked Susan Sarandon. She is SO beautiful to me and has such comic timing and intelligence in her delivery. Jessica Lange is so strong as an actor. They did a good job with her makeup to create a resemblance to Joan Crawford. Old Hollywood stories and period pieces are always interesting since there was more character and class IMHO. They don't make them like they used to. I love all the old greats like Clark Gable, Henry Fonda, Joseph Cotten, Liz, Marilyn, Sophia, Paul Newman, etc they had a different quality. It was like larger than life and impressive, yet natural, so you could as a viewer lose yourself in the performances finding it believable while being stunned. 

[peacheslatour]

If any of you are fans of Turner Classic Movies, I regret to inform you that Robert Osborn has passed away.

[boes]

3 hours ago, peacheslatour said:

If any of you are fans of Turner Classic Movies, I regret to inform you that Robert Osborn has passed away.

He was wonderful.

[bannana]

I am an avid TCM viewer.  I know RO was ill a few years back, but even when he returned, he looked so much younger than his years; I was amazed.  But we haven't seen him in a while now.  So sad to hear the news; I read a great obit on the In Memoriam thread on this site, and was surprised to hear of the path he took to get to where we finally met him on TCM

[Snaporaz]

He always had some great anecdotes to tell.  I loved the weekly discussions he had with Drew Barrymore a few years back.