Valerie's Home Cooking - General Discussion

[Yeah No]

3 hours ago, chick binewski said:

Ew. I hope this is something the lawyers had him do as a negotiation. Maybe he blew a lot of dough relocating to CA and/or gave up his business and feels the marriage actually left him with less?

But frankly he does not sound great here.

The whole thing is confusing, isn't it?  The way the articles I've read on this are worded, he is also attempting to block her from asking him for spousal support - maybe she asked for spousal support in her divorce agreement and he is retaliating in kind by asking her for it?  The articles don't make him look good but there isn't much explanation for why he did it either.  And yeah, it does sound like something a divorce lawyer might have recommended.  One of my best friends is a divorce lawyer.  I'll have to ask him for his opinion on this.

[buttersister]

When your wife publicly pines for her soulmate and that’s not you, maybe you think she took her vows under false pretenses. Stir in that Tom’s a financial planner and I’m not surprised he and his attorney are challenging the prenup. 

Valerie hasn’t made any recipes I want to try in quite some time. Her yakking about her son weirds me out. 👎🏻

[chediavolo]

5 hours ago, buttersister said:

When your wife publicly pines for her soulmate and that’s not you, maybe you think she took her vows under false pretenses. Stir in that Tom’s a financial planner and I’m not surprised he and his attorney are challenging the prenup. 

Valerie hasn’t made any recipes I want to try in quite some time. Her yakking about her son weirds me out. 👎🏻

Yes. She made him look a fool & this could be his only way of getting back. Also, if she asked for alimony he may also be rightfully angry about that. 
Most of her recipes are a definite pass. 
Agree about the public clingy-ness with her son. 

[Yeah No]

5 hours ago, buttersister said:

When your wife publicly pines for her soulmate and that’s not you, maybe you think she took her vows under false pretenses. Stir in that Tom’s a financial planner and I’m not surprised he and his attorney are challenging the prenup. 

Valerie hasn’t made any recipes I want to try in quite some time. Her yakking about her son weirds me out. 👎🏻

Excellent point.  My divorce lawyer friend doesn't think she asked for financial support but does think Tom's lawyer supported him in asking for it based on seeing a potential way to challenge the validity of the prenup, and based on (presumably) Valerie's higher level of wealth.  And given all the very public humiliation he's had to endure (which probably started privately before they separated) I wouldn't blame him.  Even we have been witnessing her behavior and cringing for him.  We still don't know the real reason the two are getting divorced, though.  "Irreconcilable differences" doesn't explain anything, and so far neither of them is talking about it.  If cheating was involved things might look different.

I used to like a lot of her recipes.  This season only one or two but that's it.

[andidante]

I wonder also if Tom read her book? She gushed over Ed so much and inferred that both marriages were not doing well. Maybe that really hurt Tom also. He may feel betrayed, insulted and humiliated. Just my thoughts. 

[debbie311]

Valerie was on the Today show this morning, with Hoda. I was kind of taken aback by how big she has gotten.  She is usually only seen from the waist up on her cooking show, on Today it was a full-length shot. She kind of fell back when she sat in the chair. She was wearing black pants and a big black long-sleeved top but you could see how big her stomach was below the top. Sorry to be so snarky, but she looked like hell, her face looked puffy and she was crying and her eye make-up was starting to run. 

Of course she talked about Ed and Wolfie.  Hoda complimented her on being such a forgiving person, but she (Valerie) said no, that was actually not the case with this divorce she is going through.  Said she will never marry again (or even love again) because she has "trust issues." 

She did a chicken thigh recipe and said she doesn't know what the future holds as far as Food Network, after the next season. I wonder if she is getting some help, because she clearly seems to be in a bad place.

[Yeah No]

3 hours ago, debbie311 said:

Valerie was on the Today show this morning, with Hoda. I was kind of taken aback by how big she has gotten.  She is usually only seen from the waist up on her cooking show, on Today it was a full-length shot. She kind of fell back when she sat in the chair. She was wearing black pants and a big black long-sleeved top but you could see how big her stomach was below the top. Sorry to be so snarky, but she looked like hell, her face looked puffy and she was crying and her eye make-up was starting to run. 

Of course she talked about Ed and Wolfie.  Hoda complimented her on being such a forgiving person, but she (Valerie) said no, that was actually not the case with this divorce she is going through.  Said she will never marry again (or even love again) because she has "trust issues." 

She did a chicken thigh recipe and said she doesn't know what the future holds as far as Food Network, after the next season. I wonder if she is getting some help, because she clearly seems to be in a bad place.

I found it online on the Today Show site.  As big as her stomach is seeing her silhouette through the fabric proved that the top she was wearing was at least 2 sizes too big for her and made her look as big as a house.  I can't tell you how mad that makes me!  I have a weight issue too but I wouldn't be caught DEAD in a top that makes me look that huge.  She clearly hates herself and is spiting herself and Tom by wearing that.  She says she is "protecting herself" with the weight.  No, she is spiting herself, Tom and the world with it.  I can just hear her internally saying,  "Look where watching my weight got me, now the world and Tom can kiss my big fat Italian ASS".  She thinks she's defending herself with reacting like that, but she's really hating herself deep down.

She said she "clearly has trust issues".  Not sure but I wonder if she was always insecure in the relationship because of her age and weight and ended up sabotaging her marriage with that insecurity.  I can't help but think her weight factors into the divorce somehow.  I am getting a strong feeling that she is thumbing her nose at her ex by gaining all that weight, as if she is showing him that she is who she is now and doesn't have to worry about what he thinks of her anymore.  He may have actually shown some signs of cooling off on her and she blamed it on her weight when it might have been a bunch of other things, like her behavior and inability to get over her ex.  And then she got mad at him for that because in her mind he was rejecting her over her weight.  So now she is like "I'll show you, I'll gain even MORE weight because now I don't have to worry about what you think of me".  Meanwhile a lot of it probably stems from her daddy issues.  Remember what she said about the way her father treated her mother regarding her weight?  It looks to me like she is projecting that onto her husband.

Anyway I cop to the fact that this is all speculation.  They're just my gut feelings from watching that segment.  You know how they say not to marry a man with unresolved mommy issues?  Well, the same goes for women with unresolved daddy issues.

[chick binewski]

4 hours ago, debbie311 said:

Of course she talked about Ed and Wolfie.  Hoda complimented her on being such a forgiving person, but she (Valerie) said no, that was actually not the case with this divorce she is going through.  Said she will never marry again (or even love again) because she has "trust issues." 

At what point is she going to stop publicly opening a vein? I really don't understand how this has become a way for actresses to earn a living (and I feel the same way about Jennifer Aniston and her positive yoga product pushing butt).  Back in the day a person who was at the end of their fame arc would write a fun tell-all and live off their investments. Now we have people worth millions who market their emotions. How many helpings and attention do people need?

Also, get off my lawn (and I totally recommend Adrienne Barbeau's memoir).

Edited June 9, 2022 by chick binewski

[Yogisbooboo64]

5 hours ago, debbie311 said:

I was kind of taken aback by how big she has gotten.  She is usually only seen from the waist up on her cooking show, on Today it was a full-length shot. She kind of fell back when she sat in the chair.

Same here, I literally gasped when she came out.

[chediavolo]

36 minutes ago, Yogisbooboo64 said:

Same here, I literally gasped when she came out.

This must be a combination of menopause, and some sort of emotional/mental issue going on. I know personally how all of a sudden you are 25 pounds heavier than you were and it won’t come off unless you eat only bread and water every day and exercise like a marathoner, which I’m going to do neither, but she is past that. She looks to be 200 pounds. It is shocking. And she said not that long ago she was healthy. Valerie that is not healthy and if don’t lose some of that weight soon your body is going to show you how unhealthy it is and you don’t want that.  I am jealous of her Face though.  I weigh a lot less but my face is a sagging mess and my once luscious hair has thinned. I did see photos of Valerie many years ago where it looked like she had noticeable thinning on top so either she is wearing some sort of pieces in it it all grew back,  lucky her.

[chick binewski]

I like the idea of mimicking popular restaurant recipes at home, but I wished they chose different items. Margarita recipes are everywhere, the focaccia didn't look appetizing (that's where the fresh tomatoes should have gone imo) and I actually like the way the La Scala salad looks online - Val put too much stuff in hers.

I am fairly certain I will never make Clams Casino at home but those did look very good.

[Gramto6]

Yet again too many mentions of Eddie and Wolfie no wonder Tom beat it out of there! 

Really not anything among those recipes I would make...

[Yeah No]

On 6/9/2022 at 5:56 PM, chediavolo said:

This must be a combination of menopause, and some sort of emotional/mental issue going on. I know personally how all of a sudden you are 25 pounds heavier than you were and it won’t come off unless you eat only bread and water every day and exercise like a marathoner, which I’m going to do neither, but she is past that. She looks to be 200 pounds. It is shocking. And she said not that long ago she was healthy. Valerie that is not healthy and if don’t lose some of that weight soon your body is going to show you how unhealthy it is and you don’t want that.  I am jealous of her Face though.  I weigh a lot less but my face is a sagging mess and my once luscious hair has thinned. I did see photos of Valerie many years ago where it looked like she had noticeable thinning on top so either she is wearing some sort of pieces in it it all grew back,  lucky her.

I think she's had some work done.  I remember photos of her before she did Jenny Craig about a decade ago and her eyelids looked saggy plus she had a lot to lose then too.  I am about that weight myself and built somewhat like her, and like her that weight didn't come on until close to and after menopause.  No amount of dieting and exercise kept the weight from coming on and only starvation will solve it without some kind of medical intervention.  I know from experience that if you have this issue you can definitely become 200 lbs. doing all the right things.  I have an appointment with a medical weight loss program in August.  It's my last hope.  Starvation is not a solution because it's unhealthy and horrible.  BTW, I might have mentioned this before but I spent money for a DNA test that told me I have the cluster of genes called "the fat gene".  My mother, her mother and her mother's mother all suffered from this same issue.  Thin before menopause, then as they approached menopause the weight creeped up.  At that time the dieting and exercise worked for me, just like it did for Valerie.  But the longer you go past your last period, the more difficult it is to maintain a healthy weight.  Metabolic syndrome sets in and you're basically FUCKED.  There are theories that the fat gene doesn't activate in some women until the hormone changes.  The female hormones protected us from gaining.  Once they subside after menopause we lost that protection.   This only applies to women with that specific problem.

I am personally sick and tired of being blamed for a condition that is not my fault.  I was told I was lying about what I ate by dietitians and nutritionists and I will not stand for that again.  What I have (and likely what she has) is a medical issue, not a lifestyle or behavioral problem.  Recently when I saw my endocrinologist and told her about my issue, she told me that the medical community is aware of the problem and is "looking for a solution".  It can't happen soon enough.  So far I am reasonably healthy but I won't lie that my cholesterol and blood sugar are all a little high (not shockingly, but they could stand to go down).  My blood pressure heart and thyroid are all normal so far.  I am 63.  I feel sorry for Valerie because like most women she had been conditioned to believe that she is the problem.  She obviously blames herself for her weight, but I am not so quick to blame her without more information.  She should go have her DNA tested, it might help.

[chediavolo]

19 hours ago, Yeah No said:

I think she's had some work done.  I remember photos of her before she did Jenny Craig about a decade ago and her eyelids looked saggy plus she had a lot to lose then too.  I am about that weight myself and built somewhat like her, and like her that weight didn't come on until close to and after menopause.  No amount of dieting and exercise kept the weight from coming on and only starvation will solve it without some kind of medical intervention.  I know from experience that if you have this issue you can definitely become 200 lbs. doing all the right things.  I have an appointment with a medical weight loss program in August.  It's my last hope.  Starvation is not a solution because it's unhealthy and horrible.  BTW, I might have mentioned this before but I spent money for a DNA test that told me I have the cluster of genes called "the fat gene".  My mother, her mother and her mother's mother all suffered from this same issue.  Thin before menopause, then as they approached menopause the weight creeped up.  At that time the dieting and exercise worked for me, just like it did for Valerie.  But the longer you go past your last period, the more difficult it is to maintain a healthy weight.  Metabolic syndrome sets in and you're basically FUCKED.  There are theories that the fat gene doesn't activate in some women until the hormone changes.  The female hormones protected us from gaining.  Once they subside after menopause we lost that protection.   This only applies to women with that specific problem.

I am personally sick and tired of being blamed for a condition that is not my fault.  I was told I was lying about what I ate by dietitians and nutritionists and I will not stand for that again.  What I have (and likely what she has) is a medical issue, not a lifestyle or behavioral problem.  Recently when I saw my endocrinologist and told her about my issue, she told me that the medical community is aware of the problem and is "looking for a solution".  It can't happen soon enough.  So far I am reasonably healthy but I won't lie that my cholesterol and blood sugar are all a little high (not shockingly, but they could stand to go down).  My blood pressure heart and thyroid are all normal so far.  I am 63.  I feel sorry for Valerie because like most women she had been conditioned to believe that she is the problem.  She obviously blames herself for her weight, but I am not so quick to blame her without more information.  She should go have her DNA tested, it might help.

I’m sorry you’re dealing with this problem and I hope you get well.  But this is not likely what Valerie has. Since she has stated that she is healthy and has no problems. I don’t know much about this metabolic syndrome and I don’t know how prevalent it is. But it seems like something with so many symptoms that just so happen to coincide with each other that produces this problem. Of course doctors never mention it. From the little I’ve read it seems to be weight gain around the waist that is hard to lose plus all these other symptoms combined. Sometimes brought on by an unhealthy lifestyle in many cases.  . Or it seems like it’s just a word for things that start happening to you once you age. Many  peoples  blood pressure goes up, cholesterol, etc. etc.  I’ll have to talk to my dr about it. 
as for having the fat gene, I can tell from my family that a lot of my aunts especially more than uncles, were pretty fat and I don’t know if I even want to know if I have it! It would  mean I would have to work so much harder to keep off the weight and I’m so tired as it is I can barely exercise when I feel like it. This whole thing about being a woman sucks and menopause is the devil! How much Are we supposed to end your? And how little can we possibly eat a day. Well they’ll never be much researching to this because it’s a man’s world and we have to keep inventing new Boner pills instead. 

[Yeah No]

4 hours ago, chediavolo said:

I’m sorry you’re dealing with this problem and I hope you get well.  But this is not likely what Valerie has. Since she has stated that she is healthy and has no problems. I don’t know much about this metabolic syndrome and I don’t know how prevalent it is. But it seems like something with so many symptoms that just so happen to coincide with each other that produces this problem. Of course doctors never mention it. From the little I’ve read it seems to be weight gain around the waist that is hard to lose plus all these other symptoms combined. Sometimes brought on by an unhealthy lifestyle in many cases.  . Or it seems like it’s just a word for things that start happening to you once you age. Many  peoples  blood pressure goes up, cholesterol, etc. etc.  I’ll have to talk to my dr about it. 
as for having the fat gene, I can tell from my family that a lot of my aunts especially more than uncles, were pretty fat and I don’t know if I even want to know if I have it! It would  mean I would have to work so much harder to keep off the weight and I’m so tired as it is I can barely exercise when I feel like it. This whole thing about being a woman sucks and menopause is the devil! How much Are we supposed to end your? And how little can we possibly eat a day. Well they’ll never be much researching to this because it’s a man’s world and we have to keep inventing new Boner pills instead. 

Haha, I agree about the man's world stuff.  Plus I've read that there's so much to be made off of the diet industry that there hasn't been much push to solve this problem.  Maybe some of that is changing now because the doctors are acting differently about this issue now.  Metabolic syndrome doesn't have to cause problems, although it can depending on the person.  Some people get diabetes, high blood pressure and high cholesterol.  I'm pretty healthy myself for my age.  Most people my age are dealing with worse to be honest.  My doctors tell me I'm OK and I believe them.  Of course that may change as I get older as it might for Valerie.  If she has this syndrome it can worsen.  In my mother's case she was a lot like me in that she didn't have high anything, maybe just a little elevated cholesterol and blood sugar but nothing to be alarmed about, but my mom also had thyroid issues which I don't have and were unrelated to this problem.  So Valerie may be like me and that's why she says she is fine - for now that is.  I am aware that it can change especially if I gain more.  Because I eat a pretty healthy diet with restricted calories I am probably not going to get any worse and I'm maintaining my weight.  If Valerie has unhealthy eating habits her health can change.

BTW, thanks to my Sicilian side, I am very happy eating the Mediterranean diet.  I eat stinky little fish, olives, and vegetables all the time.  I try to stay away from processed foods and don't eat fast foods.  I give myself a treat here and there but once a month maybe.  So I'm hopeful that at least my weight won't deteriorate my health as much as it could if my lifestyle choices were different.

[Rightside]

Can Valerie please get some tops with 3/4 length sleeves that won't get into the food that she is making??

Edited June 16, 2022 by Rightside

[chick binewski]

In this week's episode, we got to see pictures of all the pets Tom's not getting in the divorce. And then we don't get to see the pets interact bc that's not really Valerie's house. It was a lot of set-up just to make BIRD FOOD.

I feel like I've seen Valerie make some variation of the mustard chicken and lemon bars before. The braciole from a few weeks ago actually looked very good - unlike the unfortunate green bean salad from last week.

[andidante]

1 hour ago, chick binewski said:

In this week's episode, we got to see pictures of all the pets Tom's not getting in the divorce. And then we don't get to see the pets interact bc that's not really Valerie's house. It was a lot of set-up just to make BIRD FOOD.

I thought her cat Batman was Tom's, but I could be mistaken. If so, maybe he gave Batman to her so that he could be with the other cats?

[Yeah No]

I made that sheet pan shrimp "boil" from a week ago and it was very good, although not original.  There are a lot of similar recipes online including one by Sunny Anderson that she made with beer.  I'm definitely adding this one to my rotation, though, and will keep experimenting based on reviewer suggestions, like perhaps adding clams next time.

[cynicat]

I thought the show was fun this week., loved seeing all her pets and hearing all of their backstories.  It was not about Ed or Wolfie and she seemed to be enjoying just her. Maybe it's because I can relate closely to foster fails.   Personally, I liked the bird feeder as it was a bit of a novelty from the usual.  I mean, why not?

[HyeChaps]

A dream come true!

https://www.nbcnewyork.com/entertainment/entertainment-news/wolfgang-van-halen-is-engaged-and-mom-valerie-bertinelli-is-so-happy/3765571/?_osource=SocialFlowFB_NYBrand&fbclid=IwAR2StMhyHmHMD8LUr64HCbNrjcA_nV1C91PEqNvMIVdezOKyf4-Eq_9yNjg

[chediavolo]

18 hours ago, HyeChaps said:

A dream come true!

https://www.nbcnewyork.com/entertainment/entertainment-news/wolfgang-van-halen-is-engaged-and-mom-valerie-bertinelli-is-so-happy/3765571/?_osource=SocialFlowFB_NYBrand&fbclid=IwAR2StMhyHmHMD8LUr64HCbNrjcA_nV1C91PEqNvMIVdezOKyf4-Eq_9yNjg

Poor girl! Can you imagine what an interfering MIL she is going to have to deal with? 

[chick binewski]

1 hour ago, chediavolo said:

Poor girl! Can you imagine what an interfering MIL she is going to have to deal with? 

My first thought was can you imagine planning a wedding when future MIL is on Tictok saying her marriage made her never able to love or trust again.😐 

Speaking of, I know the source is terrible but this story  raises all sorts of questions. $16 an hour? I thought Tom was the owner of some company? (Also, this article states Tom has $50 a month in expenses so there may be some misprints🙄)

I don't think Valerie is alone as a FN host who just cannot produce enough good content (and the "guests" portion of the show seems convoluted especially post-Tom) but this season felt especially lacking. She made a ham sandwich this week. The cauliflower salad didnt look bad, but don't use potato in the name! That's just going to disappoint people when they bite into it. 

[HyeChaps]

Today was a very enjoyable program with her book club friends. Every recipe looked light and delicious. 

[ChicksDigScars]

They're filming Kid's Baking Championship and I do love Val and Duff's interaction with the kids. It's so much better than the adult version with Molly Yeh walking around asking annoying questions while the chefs are trying to concentrate. 

[chick binewski]

I always assumed the most recent kitchen was some set; had no idea it was in a home Valerie actually owned.

[Yeah No]

3 hours ago, chick binewski said:

I always assumed the most recent kitchen was some set; had no idea it was in a home Valerie actually owned.

Wow, great find, I don't think anybody knew!  It's a beautiful home.  You don't get the sense for how beautiful it is from the way it looks on her show.

That article said she owns several homes in the L.A. area.  I wonder if the kitchens on her earlier seasons were filmed in any of those homes.

[chediavolo]

2 hours ago, Yeah No said:

Wow, great find, I don't think anybody knew!  It's a beautiful home.  You don't get the sense for how beautiful it is from the way it looks on her show.

That article said she owns several homes in the L.A. area.  I wonder if the kitchens on her earlier seasons were filmed in any of those homes.

Beautiful home. One of a few!
Jesus, people really make way too much money for entertaining us. What a world. Here I sit trying to pay off my credit card bills. How nice for her & the rest. 

[opus]

Food Network has a mean side. They reran an ep featuring "Tommy V" today.

[goldenpuppy]

Ugh! Valerie is on social media crying again and talking about how she feels  again! 
This  is a very rich woman, she has her health , Is still very attractive, has a son who loves her , and was able to go from child star to having a new career as a middle aged woman’s .  
I am very tired of her whining and crying all the time when she has the money and opportunity to get REAL help privately.

As someone who went through cancer treatment and had to prematurely leave my job because of leftover side effects from treatment and an insensitive boss who gave me an extra job when I came back to work, I have a hard time with Valerie’s behavior!

I am just grateful to have beaten cancer in spite of mr physical and financial limitations right now . I am happy to finally have hair back! I had to go through treatment alone because of CoVId and could see very few people because of the pandemic and my immune system at the time .  I have just been able to finally see friends and family again . I had to get counseling by phone to help me deal with things 

Valerie just irritates me, she is so self absorbed and hasno sense of privacy or even considers how her son and his fiancée may affected by her hovering , obsessing about her dead ex, and also talking about how crappy relationships are right now.

Her last hubby seems like a jerk asking her for money, but Ii can’t imagine living with Valerie was a picnic ! 

[orangekit]

Hoda and Jenna have a repeat of Valerie when she was promoting her book.

I guess I didn’t realize how much she was crying, talking about Eddie.   She also said how emotionally strong she is ! Really ? She posts herself crying repeatedly and breaks down during interviews and cooking segments .

I think it’s just obnoxious to “share” every private thing and feeling .  With is it lately with everyone lacking boundaries ? 
She defiantly needs a shrink and to shut up and save her sharing and crying for her therapy sessions !

[chediavolo]

On 8/31/2022 at 12:02 PM, goldenpuppy said:

Ugh! Valerie is on social media crying again and talking about how she feels  again! 
This  is a very rich woman, she has her health , Is still very attractive, has a son who loves her , and was able to go from child star to having a new career as a middle aged woman’s .  
I am very tired of her whining and crying all the time when she has the money and opportunity to get REAL help privately.

As someone who went through cancer treatment and had to prematurely leave my job because of leftover side effects from treatment and an insensitive boss who gave me an extra job when I came back to work, I have a hard time with Valerie’s behavior!

I am just grateful to have beaten cancer in spite of mr physical and financial limitations right now . I am happy to finally have hair back! I had to go through treatment alone because of CoVId and could see very few people because of the pandemic and my immune system at the time .  I have just been able to finally see friends and family again . I had to get counseling by phone to help me deal with things 

Valerie just irritates me, she is so self absorbed and hasno sense of privacy or even considers how her son and his fiancée may affected by her hovering , obsessing about her dead ex, and also talking about how crappy relationships are right now.

Her last hubby seems like a jerk asking her for money, but Ii can’t imagine living with Valerie was a picnic ! 

I totally understand. I am seeing a counselor myself I wish I had the money for intense therapy like she does. I am also sick of her whining and crying and not doing anything to help herself. I understand she may be depressed  now grieving or whatever but get some help. I agree. I don’t think she realizes how good she has it being a billionaire most likely and not having to worry for 1/2 a second about where money is coming from and how she’s going to leave until old age. She really should start counting her blessings maybe go away somewhere on a retreat.

I agree I don’t think she realizes how good she has it being a billionaire most likely and not having to worry for 1/2 a second about where money is coming from and how she’s going to live until old age. She really should start Clint counting her blessings maybe go away somewhere on a retreat.

you are the one that is strong and should be admired. I can’t imagine going through what you did especially alone through Covid, my God!

4 hours ago, orangekit said:

Hoda and Jenna have a repeat of Valerie when she was promoting her book.

I guess I didn’t realize how much she was crying, talking about Eddie.   She also said how emotionally strong she is ! Really ? She posts herself crying repeatedly and breaks down during interviews and cooking segments .

I think it’s just obnoxious to “share” every private thing and feeling .  With is it lately with everyone lacking boundaries ? 
She defiantly needs a shrink and to shut up and save her sharing and crying for her therapy sessions !

I’m really starting to get sick(er)of the Valerie poor poor me bullshit. I don’t know if she realizes how much she is offending her Fanbase   Some of whom are living paycheck to paycheck or dealing with sickness and grief and do not have it as easy as she does financially, she has family, she has friends, she has money. some of us do not and we are suffering also but not shouting it to the world like some immature entitles twit. shut the f*** up Valerie

[chessiegal]

26 minutes ago, chediavolo said:

I don’t think she realizes how good she has it being a billionaire

Not even close. She's got plenty of money, but not in billionaire territory.

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What is Valerie Bertinelli's Net Worth?

Valerie Bertinelli is an American actress who has a net worth of $20 million. Bertinelli has earned her net worth through her many acting roles on television and from her marriage to Eddie Van Halen. 

[andidante]

And she just went to London cause Wolfie is playing there. 

[chediavolo]

8 hours ago, andidante said:

And she just went to London cause Wolfie is playing there. 

Yes, of course . Able to do just about whatever she pleases.  What a pain in the ass MIL his poor girlfriend is going to have to endure. She seems to have attachment issues with her ex husband and her son. 

[Gam2]

I’m sorry for Valerie. She seems so sad and lonely now. She’s trying to hang onto her son and her long term ex husband. I cannot imagine how this must have made her husband, Tom, feel .She entered the entertainment industry at a very young age and doesn’t seem to have been able to exit. I do hope that she can find a way out of this nightmare of a lifestyle. God bless her and her son.

[goldenpuppy]

7 hours ago, Gam2 said:

I’m sorry for Valerie. She seems so sad and lonely now. She’s trying to hang onto her son and her long term ex husband. I cannot imagine how this must have made her husband, Tom, feel .She entered the entertainment industry at a very young age and doesn’t seem to have been able to exit. I do hope that she can find a way out of this nightmare of a lifestyle. God bless her and her son.

I’m not sorry for her at all ! She has way too much time and money on her hands so she can be super self absorbed!  She has the resources to get help and just wallows in self pity .  She has been privileged all her life and is used to a lot of attention and fame , so she never learns to not have an audience for everything .   Maybe she should get outside is her own selfish head and  try to use her fame to help others who are really suffering . 

She’s lonely? She has family and friends who love her , many people don’t have that at all .

Sorry , but most people go through similar things or way worse things than Valerie and don’t have the money or resources to even get the help they need , or they don’t have time since they are taking care of kids or working full time .   

On 9/1/2022 at 3:30 PM, chessiegal said:

Not even close. She's got plenty of money, but not in billionaire territory.

She has enough money to never have to work and has has that for years .  

Edited September 3, 2022 by goldenpuppy

[Gam2]

Compassion is in short supply in this world.

[goldenpuppy]

12 hours ago, Gam2 said:

Compassion is in short supply in this world.

And self pity and over sharing is way too common in this world .  Sorry , a rich, healthy celebrity crying everyday on social media because someone told her she was fat, needs to get perspective and therapy . 

[orangekit]

Valerie has posted 3 videos recently crying and sharing emotions about how sad she is , now she’s posted a new video swing she’s going through hell.

Give me a break !  She is ridiculous .  I’m not saying she’s not having a difficult time with her ex husband, but I wouldn’t call it hell!

She’s 60 years old and she has no sense of perspective.  People are unable to afford groceries, have children dying of diseases, are dealing with serious illnesses , or don’t have the resources or the ability to even take days day off or work to handle difficult situations.

She actually said she has a therapist. A good therapist would advise her to stop blabbing on social media about her personal life !

Oh she’s also selling her wedding ring and some very expensive shoes .  Why wouldn’t someone who is as rich as she is donate items ?

She really needs to get out of her own pity party and use her energy to use her celebrity to help some people in need through charities..

Edited September 16, 2022 by orangekit

[cynicat]

10 hours ago, orangekit said:

She really needs to get out of her own pity party and use her energy to use her celebrity to help some people in need through charities.

All the money in the world can't necessarily fix a deep depression, if that's where she is.  It's an equal opportunity disease.

[chediavolo]

12 hours ago, orangekit said:

Valerie has posted 3 videos recently crying and sharing emotions about how sad she is , now she’s posted a new video swing she’s going through hell.

Give me a break !  She is ridiculous .  I’m not saying she’s not having a difficult time with her ex husband, but I wouldn’t call it hell!

She’s 60 years old and she has no sense of perspective.  People are unable to afford groceries, have children dying of diseases, are dealing with serious illnesses , or don’t have the resources or the ability to even take days day off or work to handle difficult situations.

She actually said she has a therapist. A good therapist would advise her to stop blabbing on social media about her personal life !

Oh she’s also selling her wedding ring and some very expensive shoes .  Why wouldn’t someone who is as rich as she is donate items ?

She really needs to get out of her own pity party and use her energy to use her celebrity to help some people in need through charities..

I’m with yoU! How sad to be selling $$$$ shoes & a Tiffany wedding set among other things.🙄 Hey Valerie, maybe you’d feel better if you made a big donation. You can start with me. My utility bills have gone up so far as having my monthly heating double. So, I feel for you girl. 🤣You need a new shrink. I have depression myself but I don’t act a fool on social media. She needs to count her blessings every day. Maybe visit towns with un drinkable water, cancer centers, nursing homes, homeless shelters. And I say this as someone her age with lifelong depression. Money won’t cure it but it will ease a ton of anxiety $ being grateful does help. This is not someone who suffers from loneliness, isolation, etc. I wish she would post about her mental health journey in a positive way. 

2 hours ago, cynicat said:

All the money in the world can't necessarily fix a deep depression, if that's where she is.  It's an equal opportunity disease.

This is true , I know it firsthand. but she can stop her fingers from typing from her privileged perch. . She’s not garnering any sympathy posting about how she is selling tens of thousands of dollars worth of items among the other things she writes about.  You were divorced twice. So are many many many other women in this world who didn’t make out as well as you did. How has she handled life until now.?  I’d really like an some insight because I think the Valerie we thought we knew is  nothing like who she really is. 

[orangekit]

18 hours ago, cynicat said:

All the money in the world can't necessarily fix a deep depression, if that's where she is.  It's an equal opportunity disease.

Very true , but she has the resources to get help that the majority if people don’t have , and she wallows in self pity and seems to l love the attention she gets .

15 hours ago, chediavolo said:

These celebrities really should be coached about what they say. Some  of us do not want to hear about your luxurious lives at least preface it with I am grateful and blessed these are the charities I give to. to as a matter of fact there should be a list of celebrities and how much money they give to charities each year because that would make me love them . as of now I just have to wonder what they are doing with all their money.  I know you can do what you want with the money that you make but they are making it off of us, they are out there they’re in the public eye and people in this world really do need to take care of each other give  to charities and let it be known. I’m not a big fan of Rachael Ray either. Some thing about her irks me. When she first started the show she had to be about 50 pounds lighter than she is now which makes me not want to cook a damn thing she makes. Goes for Valerie and the rest of them that have cooking shows and just keep gaining weight,  it’s not a selling point . And I’ve said it before Valerie has the money for a personal trainer. She could just hire someone to go on walks with her every day start slow start easy m, my god if I had her money I’d be looking for someone today. 

You are right ! Many women her age are not  healthy and have had breast cancer or are spending days taking care of very sick parents while working . They don’t have the time or money to work out and try to lose weight .

Valerie literally cries if someone mentions her weight when she herself talks about it all the time .

Rachael Ray can also be annoying, but she doesn’t whine and constantly talks about how lucky she is . She also does a lot for many charities.

lna Garten is also not skinny , but she doesn’t constantly look for reassurance that she is beautiful by whining about her looks .

I honestly don’t care what someone weights if they have good recipes .  Valerie’s whining , crying and over sharing is what annoys me .  

Edited September 17, 2022 by orangekit

[Yeah No]

16 hours ago, chediavolo said:

These celebrities really should be coached about what they say. Some  of us do not want to hear about your luxurious lives at least preface it with I am grateful and blessed these are the charities I give to. to as a matter of fact there should be a list of celebrities and how much money they give to charities each year because that would make me love them . as of now I just have to wonder what they are doing with all their money.  I know you can do what you want with the money that you make but they are making it off of us, they are out there they’re in the public eye and people in this world really do need to take care of each other give  to charities and let it be known. I’m not a big fan of Rachael Ray either. Some thing about her irks me. When she first started the show she had to be about 50 pounds lighter than she is now which makes me not want to cook a damn thing she makes. Goes for Valerie and the rest of them that have cooking shows and just keep gaining weight,  it’s not a selling point . And I’ve said it before Valerie has the money for a personal trainer. She could just hire someone to go on walks with her every day start slow start easy m, my god if I had her money I’d be looking for someone today. 

I think Rachael looks pretty good for a 54 year old.  Most people gain a little weight over 20 years and she's been on TV about that long now.  She certainly isn't that heavy.  At least she gives a lot to charity.  I don't love her either, at least on a personal level, but her dog food profits go to help rescue animals and she is heavily involved in WCK with José Andres and doesn't toot her own horn about it on social media either.  Plus, and this may be the biggest thing I admire about her is that she doesn't air her "dirty laundry" online in public like Valerie does.  That's probably Rachael's Sicilian influence there as I know my Sicilian family would be mortified and feel like I was embarrassing them crying and having a pity party online like Valerie does.  That kind of thing is highly frowned upon in Sicilian culture.  You don't dishonor your family!

I just don't get it with Valerie.  The more I get to know about her the more I think she has a screw loose somewhere.  Or this is what happens when you have major issues that you don't address for decades and then when things suddenly don't go your way you have a nervous breakdown in front of the entire world.  She could be one of those stars that has surrounded herself with "yes" people and no one ever challenges her or tells her that maybe she should do something different and get the right kind of help.  They just confirm her delusion that she is helping herself when in reality what she is doing is self destructive.  And using social media and other very public situations as your "therapist" is never a good idea for anyone.

[marmalade]

Valerie seems to cry and whine on some social medial and then get angry and insulting on Twitter .This was here latest “Don’t come at me with ‘not all men’ because I know that, but Jesus most men are shit.”

If this is how she acts while in therapy she may need to think about finding a new shrink!

She has no filter or self control when it comes to sharing every feeling with the world !

Does she not have any boundaries or need for privacy ? 

[chediavolo]

11 hours ago, marmalade said:

Valerie seems to cry and whine on some social medial and then get angry and insulting on Twitter .This was here latest “Don’t come at me with ‘not all men’ because I know that, but Jesus most men are shit.”

If this is how she acts while in therapy she may need to think about finding a new shrink!

She has no filter or self control when it comes to sharing every feeling with the world !

Does she not have any boundaries or need for privacy ? 

She’s a privileged, entitled little whiner who doesn’t take advantage of her enormous wealth by getting the best in counseling, trainers, cooks, etc. Also, maybe doing some charity work where she will see people with problems & lives far worse than hers  will be a wake up call.  

[Yeah No]

On 9/24/2022 at 7:05 PM, marmalade said:

Valerie seems to cry and whine on some social medial and then get angry and insulting on Twitter .This was here latest “Don’t come at me with ‘not all men’ because I know that, but Jesus most men are shit.”

If this is how she acts while in therapy she may need to think about finding a new shrink!

She has no filter or self control when it comes to sharing every feeling with the world !

Does she not have any boundaries or need for privacy ? 

What gets me is that this is a woman who has carefully crafted a very "appropriate" persona to present to the world on TV that's all rainbows and unicorns, meanwhile the reality is all demons and pitchforks.  You would think someone like that would be mortified to let the world see her "dirty laundry".  How does she think that the public that has bought into her as the "nice girl next door" is going to feel when they see what's really going on inside of her?  She doesn't realize how wackadoodle that makes her look.

I'd be lying if I said I never thought most men were shit, but when I did I had the good sense not to tell anyone but my best friend because I also had the good sense to know that while I was justifiably in a very bad mood over men after a bad experience, it would most likely pass.  I wouldn't want to give anyone that didn't know me well the impression that this was how bitter and angry I was all the time.  And it's especially bad when you air that kind of stuff on social media because first of all, people may not realize that it's just a passing mood, and second of all, you can never take it back!  But what's especially disturbing about Valerie is that she seems to WANT the world to think that this is what she is going to feel now forever.  Not a good look for anyone, let alone a celebrity.  That she doesn't care what people think about it or that it is completely at odds with and destroys that carefully crafted and now obviously fake and phony persona she had going for several decades is really screwed up.  She may end up regretting it one day if she does get to the point of recovering from this phase.  If what she is spewing on her social media is her "genuine" self, she's in some big trouble psychologically and it's no wonder she hid it with this fake, phony "sanitized" version of herself for her entire career.

[buttersister]

On 9/26/2022 at 1:26 AM, Yeah No said:

She may end up regretting it one day if she does get to the point of recovering from this phase. 

Nah, that'll just be another book. And a season of recipes to go with it.

[Yogisbooboo64]

Man, Tom must have really put the whammy on her if she's feeling this bad.  

I still like her and hope she'll eventually find the joy she's been wanting so much.

[chediavolo]

11 hours ago, Yogisbooboo64 said:

Man, Tom must have really put the whammy on her if she's feeling this bad.  

I still like her and hope she'll eventually find the joy she's been wanting so much.

Don’t think it’s all his fault. She was obsessed with her ex and she’s obsessed with her son. Give people space. Get a life. She can afford to do whatever she wants instead of crying on social media. Have some pride.