S11.E14: Stranger Spouse

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1 hour ago, antfitz said:

Congrats Silver Bells! Hard work, but much joy.

 Engaged for 3 years and married for 47. He was finishing university,  and I was teaching. 

That’s quite an accomplishment too.  It’s so good to hear, and many more to come for you both. ❤️

Edited October 18, 2020 by Silver Bells

[Rae Spellman]

4 hours ago, antfitz said:

 I heard Karen is hung up on her old BF.   And she is the one who said before the marriage even that he wasn't her type. I don't think she'll ever come around and he should just leave her.  I think she thinks she's better than him.

According to Karen's bio on the Lifetime sight, she hasn't been with that guy, or anyone in a while. 

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Karen, 30, grew up in Baton Rouge, Louisiana, and has been working in the field of human resources in New Orleans ever since she graduated. Karen has been single for five years and finds dating to be quite difficult. Karen is ready to get Married At First Sight because she believes the experts will find the right man who has been eluding her all this time.

 

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16 hours ago, Starlight925 said:

My niece is in a different college, and she got it, as did her roommate.  She's in a gigantic college, tens of thousands of students.

What they did was moved my niece to an empty dorm room and had her isolate/quarantine for 10 days, and her roommate went home to her hometown for the 10 days.  Those are the options for students who test positive:  move to a private room or go home until negative.  (in both cases, both are fine now).

My granddaughter is in Rhode Island and has to stay in the sorority house with the others.  They test themselves every day.  I guess I won’t be seeing all of them until next year MAYBE.  BUMMER.

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10 hours ago, Rhiannon Hunter said:

According to Karen's bio on the Lifetime sight, she hasn't been with that guy, or anyone in a while. 

 

Usually, you can tell after one date if you want to go forward and if the guy appeals to you.  Although Miles is everything, maybe she wants a more secure and take charge kind of guy.  The one who cheated on her must have had something that attracted her to him. Although I don’t care for her, I get that she wants what she wants. I’m sure we all went out with nice good looking guys, but for some reason didn’t want to go further.  I don’t blame her in a way.  You can’t force your feeling for someone if it isn’t there.  Maybe just friends.

[Chatty Cake]

How many more episodes are left? I thought Stranger Spouse was 14 out of 18 but Lifetime is supposed to go Christmas movies 24/7 starting next weekend.

MAFS Australia was my first time watching the Married at First Sight franchise. It was actually due to the COVID shutdown when I saw ads for Australia and had to see it.  Then I tuned in for New Orleans and found the couples pretty likable other than Christina. 
 

[karenbrady]

On 10/16/2020 at 1:09 AM, JapMo said:

In 1984, I was a contestant on Wheel of  Fortune.  They repeatedly said they were looking for average, ordinary people that the viewers could relate to.  They announced on the air that they were looking for contestants in my town because they were getting great ratings there.  I mean everybody watched it.  There was a number you had to call to reserve a spot at their audition, and my husband called it over and over for 5 days before he finally got us both a spot.  It turned out to be my birthday.  We were in a big room of about 50 people, and the first "test" was a written test where you filled in puzzles like on the show.  We made it through that round, and it turned out to be a series of 5 or 6 eliminations and we kept making the cut.  During a break I look up and my husband is sitting across the room.  I go over and ask him what's the deal, and he says he thought we would have a better chance if they didn't realize we were related.  I'm like 'fine, sit by yourself then'.  But in hindsight, he was correct.  Out of......get this.......5,000 people they auditioned over a 2 day period, they picked 35 people to be on the show.  We both got selected.  They told us later that they didn't realize until the final cuts that we were husband and wife.  I always told everyone they wanted the most bland, boring people and who's more boring and bland than us, LOL.

I think they want you to be very outgoing and rah rah on Price is Right, but on Wheel they wanted people who could relate to the audience, AND were not just from California.  I got these questions many times from people so I'll answer them right now:

• No, the show did not pay our way to California.  They were VERY emphatic if you wanted to be on their show you it would be on your dime.
• That board with the letters......it's on wheels.  When they first reveal the puzzle, the 3 contestants have to turn their backs and a second or so before the show starts taping, Vanna holds on for dear life as they push that board onto the set.  They don't have it sitting out earlier because they don't want the contestants to start trying to figure out the puzzle in advance.
• They tape 5 shows in one day and usually film 3-4 days a month.  So that's pretty much all they work, though I'm sure the crew works for different shows too.  Though my husband and I auditioned on the same day, he taped 3 days before me.  They tape around 4 PM but the contestants have to be at the studio by 10 AM so they can go over the rules, let you tour the set, and see what you brought to wear for the show.  You had to bring 2 outfits...no stripes or plaids because they dance around too much on camera.  Only Vanna can wear all white or all black.  I wore pearls and the sound guy came over and said 'what the hell is that noise?'  The necklace was clanking against the microphone.  I had to take it off.
• My husband was on the show first, so he tipped me off to concentrate on the puzzle when it wasn't my turn.  Hubby solved a big puzzle and went to the bonus round, but picked an "A" for the vowel instead of an "E".  Puzzle turned out to be "Say Cheese".  But I wasn't upset.  He won a lot of cool prizes and he looked so relaxed and handsome.  They called me from the audience and I stood right off camera range.  If he solved the bonus puzzle I could run up and hug him; otherwise just stay behind the camera.  
• The wheel is really hard to turn.  They made everyone practice a few times to make sure they could get it all the way around on one spin.  I couldn't get enough oomph into it, so they had me stand on a box.  
• In the morning on tape day, you had to pull out a number between 1-5 out of a bag.  There were 3 of the same number in the bag, representing 3 contestants per show.  My husband picked #2, so he was assigned to the second show.  I picked #5 so I was going to be on the last show.  If you picked #3 or higher, you got to each lunch with Pat & Vanna.  Well, they ate across the room from us peons but it was still exciting.  My husband was on show #2 so no free lunch for him. 
• This is what the show's producers repeatedly tell you from 10AM to 4PM of tape day........just because you got a letter from us inviting you on the show and just because you spent a lot of money to come to California and told all your family and friends, if you get stagefright, feel queasy, or feel like you are going to throw up, we will pull you from the show.  This scared the crap out of everybody because yeah....we all did spend a lot of money and took vacation from work and all our friends and family were rooting us on and we didn't want to look like idiots.  In fact, that was the common thread among all the other contestants I talked to (and all of them are extremely friendly and excited).  They didn't care how much or little they won, they just wanted to solve a puzzle.  But the biggest thing I heard......no one wanted to look like an idiot on TV.
• I told myself if I could just get through the first part of having to say a little bit of stuff about myself to Pat, then I would be OK.  But the theme music started up, and I'm listening to the other contestants talk to him, I started breathing really heavy and thinking....40 million people are going to see you.   This never happened to me before or since, but from the tips of my toes I could feel heat rising up, and it went all the way up to the top of my head.  I felt like my face was on fire but Pat started talking to me and somehow I said I was married and had 3 children and blah blah blah and it was over.  The game started.  
• You have about 5 inches to move either way.  The camera is really close...like 3 feet from your face.  And there's a guy with a sign directly under the camera that says SMILE.  With all that plus having to smile and make sure you clapped and rooted for the other contestants, it's a wonder anyone can remember to concentrate on the puzzle.  And I kept getting Lose a Turn and Bankrupt, even though I didn't get a chance to even pick a letter.  First puzzle was solved by Bob, a really nice guy from Ohio.  I had no clue what it was.  The second puzzle was a big one, and the answer jumped out at me really fast.  I kept counting the letters to make sure I was correct about it.  I was so scared my competitors were going to solve it before me, but thankfully they were clueless.  When it came to me, I spun about 4 times, called out 4 correct letters, and then the 5th time it looked like it was going to go on Bankrupt.  You can actually hear me on tape squeaking "no, no, no", LOL.  But it barely got on to $400 and I called out a letter and then said I want to solve it.  Pat seemed a little surprised, but I did not want to take the chance of continuing on since I was already on friendly terms with Bankrupt and Lose a Turn.
• I won $2500 in prizes, which put me in the lead for the Bonus Round, but the guy from Ohio guessed the last puzzle which put him over the top with a whopping $3,000.  The contestant from California didn't win anything.  Bob didn't solve the bonus puzzle, which I didn't figure out either, so our show was the lowest as far as money/prizes won out of the entire 5 shows.
• Because my husband went to the Bonus Round, he was ineligible for those wonderful "parting gifts".  But I was entitled to them, and for about 2 weeks it was Christmas every day.  The postman brought a case of Rice-a-Roni, Sherwin Williams paint, Maybelline makeup, and I can't remember the rest.  The prizes I won were delivered over the course of about a month. 
• We both became celebrities for about 2 months after the show aired.  I gotta say it was kind of cool to have people yelll "I saw you on Wheel of Fortune". 
• I still have the tape we made when our shows aired.  Yeah, it's a VCR tape...that's how long ago it was.  My husband passed away 16 years ago next month.  My kids and I dust it off and watch it every Christmas along with old VCR tapes of Christmases when they were little (one of the prizes my husband won was a camcorder.  It was huge, but we taped about 6 or 7 Christmases and it's still fun to watch, even though my son gripes every time about having to get the VCR out of storage to play them).  

Thank you for sharing in such great detail. How exciting that must have been for you and your deceased husband.

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4 hours ago, Silver Bells said:

Usually, you can tell after one date if you want to go forward and if the guy appeals to you.  Although Miles is everything, maybe she wants a more secure and take charge kind of guy.  The one who cheated on her must have had something that attracted her to him. Although I don’t care for her, I get that she wants what she wants. I’m sure we all went out with nice good looking guys, but for some reason didn’t want to go further.  I don’t blame her in a way.  You can’t force your feeling for someone if it isn’t there.  Maybe just friends.

So, how many stations have Christmas movies?  Lifetime, Hallmark, Free.  I’m waiting for one movie that I love.  “Holiday in Handcuffs” with Melissa Joan Hart and Mario Lopez.  I  Can’t even buy it anywhere.  Amazon has it for about 50 or 60 dollars.

[gingerandcloves]

JapMo, very interesting to hear about your experience on Wheel of Fortune! My brother-in-law competed on Jeopardy! many years ago, and I went with some friends to a The Price is Right taping once, back when Bob Barker was the host, but we didn't get chosen to "come on down" , LOL. It was still a lot of fun. It's so weird how different the studio looks in person from on TV.

I didn't think anything of Amelia's song on her bike. Plus Bennett said she'd been doing a lot of work feeding the homeless, IIRC. So, good for her.

As far as Amani's remarks about Covid, I'm assuming she meant it as more of a silver lining...it's probably more of a real test of a relationship than they would normally have had, and it lets you know who is there for the long haul and how someone behaves when everything isn't easy-breezy.

Congrats, Silver Bells, on your anniversary! 55 years is terrific. My husband and I have been married almost 32 years. It definitely wasn't love at first sight though 🙂

[VioletNevermind]

I’m a big girl and I know all about childbirth, but I could have done without that shot of the doctor with the massive knife in his hand.  Jesus. 

[brilliantbreakfast]

On 10/16/2020 at 6:34 PM, TheMediumBopper said:

I interpreted it differently. She was singing, "Bourbon Street is empty!" in a way that made her sound like she was rejoicing in that fact. Considering that Bourbon Street was empty due to a deadly virus outbreak, it just struck me as oddly insensitive and tone deaf... especially for a healthcare professional. People should be able to still enjoy their lives, yes. But gloating about the empty streets seemed in poor taste. When we saw Henry in the streets commenting on how strange and unsettling it was to see how quiet everything was, that seemed like a much more appropriate response. Most people were pretty shaken during those first few days of COVID lockdown.

Why do you think it was "gloating"?  Look, I get that Amelia isn't everyone's cup of tea, and she and Bennett are so twee that it's hard to believe at times.  But I've had friends like Amelia and Bennett my entire life. I'm quirky too, but not as quirky as they are -- but I know people who have a highly elevated sense of whimsy. I had a friend in high school who fashioned a beanbag dog and wore it on her head every day. My brother-in-law still cosplays at Renassance Faires. My husband was a comic book fan right up to his death at age 58.  I have friends who are old hippies who are every bit as quirky, every bit as ostentatiously environmentally conscious as Bennett, every bit as CAPABLE OF FINDING JOY IN ANYTHING as these two are.

I live near a high school, in an area that's growing like crazy and the roads can't handle it.  When lockdown hit here, I was just like Amelia about being actually able to get out of my street earlier than 9:30 AM and as early in the evening as 5:30 PM for a change. The lack of traffic has been exhilarating, much the same as I'm sure Amelia felt at being able to bike down the middle of Bourbon Street.  It's not gloating, it's a kind of marvelling at the changes. 

Quirky people don't always see things on the straight and narrow.  And this childlike quality that Amelia has is going to be wonderful if in fact she's going to be a family practice doctor.

[Elizzikra]

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And this childlike quality that Amelia has is going to be wonderful if in fact she's going to be a family practice doctor.

I'd find it off putting. Family practice doctors see patients womb to tomb. She will have a lot of adult patients. I'd love this quality in a child life specialist or a kindergarten teacher perhaps but not a physician.

[rebel2u]

I would love to have Amelia as a doctor.  I think her non-judgmental and easygoing attitude would be a great asset as a doctor.  For me, feeling comfortable with my doctors, especially the GP that I see several times a year, is key to maintaining a satisfactory doctor-patient relationship.  My niece is a medical doctor and I've always said that, if I didn't know she was a doctor, I wouldn't be able to tell, for all the best reasons. 

Edited October 19, 2020 by rebel2u

[Ilovepie]

1 hour ago, rebel2u said:

I would love to have Amelia as a doctor.  I think her non-judgmental and easygoing attitude would be a great asset as a doctor.  For me, feeling comfortable with my doctors, especially the GP that I see several times a year, is key to maintaining a satisfactory doctor-patient relationship.  My niece is a medical doctor and I've always said that, if I didn't know she was a doctor, I wouldn't be able to tell, for all the best reasons. 

I think she will be great! She has shown herself to be warm, caring and really able to lock in and listen. Those are wonderful qualities in any doctor (or spouse for that matter!). I just switched primary physician this last year after suffering through several years with a GP that was cold as ice with zero bedside manner, so to speak (I was too lazy to look for a different one that was taking new patients). I don't think she's as whimsical and carefree with her career - she couldn't be to get through med school. Everyone has different needs when determining what would be a good fit for their primary doctor, but I do think she will be a good at her job when the time comes.

[Crashcourse]

Being from the DC area, I was embarrassed last season because the "DC" couples were so bad, except for Derek, Austin and Jessica.  However, I think this NOLA season is even worse to watch and I'll be glad when decision day comes.   

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2 hours ago, Ilovepie said:

I think she will be great! She has shown herself to be warm, caring and really able to lock in and listen. Those are wonderful qualities in any doctor (or spouse for that matter!). I just switched primary physician this last year after suffering through several years with a GP that was cold as ice with zero bedside manner, so to speak (I was too lazy to look for a different one that was taking new patients). I don't think she's as whimsical and carefree with her career - she couldn't be to get through med school. Everyone has different needs when determining what would be a good fit for their primary doctor, but I do think she will be a good at her job when the time comes.

It’s funny you should say that about your GP.  I just go out of hospital from cellulitis from a wound on my leg.  I had blood tests everyday to check everything.  I go to mu cardiologist for a check up and my blood pressure was high.  He said he was sending me to a kidney specialist.  I freaked out.  Another new doctor, more tests, etc.  For what?  I told him I have anxiety from the virus, was in hospital and my pressure was high from anxiety and being overwhelmed with everything.  So I cancelled the specialist and want to dump my cardiologist for jumping the gun and making me crazy.  He gave me only 5 minutes of his time and looked annoyed.  Every time I go to him I’m nervous.  When I go to my GP, my pressure is normal.  Some doctors are nice and understanding, and some suck.  A little understanding would benefit us.  Now, I don’t know what to do.  I can’t deal with anymore doctors and tests.  Btw, my pressure was normal the whole time in the hospital or they wouldn’t have discharged me.  Maybe if I go back to the cardiologist and he knows I didn’t go to the specialist, he’ll dump me?  What to do?  He’s young and aggressive.

Edited October 19, 2020 by Silver Bells

[Ilovepie]

2 minutes ago, Silver Bells said:

It’s funny you should say that about your GP.  I just go out of hospital from cellulitis from a wound on my leg.  I had blood tests everyday to check everything.  I go to mu cardiologist for a check up and my blood pressure was high.  He said he was sending me to a kidney specialist.  I freaked out.  Another new doctor, more tests, etc.  For what?  I told him I have anxiety from the virus, was in hospital and my pressure was high from anxiety and being overwhelmed with everything.  So I cancelled the specialist and want to dump my cardiologist for jumping the gun and making me crazy.  He gave me only 5 minutes of his time and looked annoyed.  Every time I go to him I’m nervous.  When I go to my GP, my pressure is normal.  Some doctors are nice and understanding, and some suck.  A little understanding would benefit us.  Now, I don’t know what to do.  I can’t deal with anymore doctors and tests.  Btw, my pressure was normal the whole time in the hospital or they wouldn’t have discharged me.

@Silver Bells I am so sorry to hear this! It's really hard when your doctor doesn't seem interested in actually "caring" about you! That was my problem with my old primary. She talked in a monotone voice that showed zero emotion and she seemed like she didn't care at all. I developed severe insomnia a year after my son was born to the point I was melting down and having panic attacks. I was neurotic by the time I went in to see her. I was almost in tears. She listened to me silently and then said "Ok. I'm going to prescribe Ambien. Try that. I'll see you in a month." I was almost more upset when I left than when I went in! The Ambien did help me, but she was horrible. Stupidly, I continued to go to her until two years ago when I had an infected toe and she prescribed the wrong antibiotic. I ended up in urgent care 2 days later. Some people are just not good doctors, and you are correct - a little understanding goes a long way!

[TheMediumBopper]

9 hours ago, brilliantbreakfast said:

Why do you think it was "gloating"?  Look, I get that Amelia isn't everyone's cup of tea, and she and Bennett are so twee that it's hard to believe at times.  But I've had friends like Amelia and Bennett my entire life. I'm quirky too, but not as quirky as they are -- but I know people who have a highly elevated sense of whimsy. I had a friend in high school who fashioned a beanbag dog and wore it on her head every day. My brother-in-law still cosplays at Renassance Faires. My husband was a comic book fan right up to his death at age 58.  I have friends who are old hippies who are every bit as quirky, every bit as ostentatiously environmentally conscious as Bennett, every bit as CAPABLE OF FINDING JOY IN ANYTHING as these two are.

I live near a high school, in an area that's growing like crazy and the roads can't handle it.  When lockdown hit here, I was just like Amelia about being actually able to get out of my street earlier than 9:30 AM and as early in the evening as 5:30 PM for a change. The lack of traffic has been exhilarating, much the same as I'm sure Amelia felt at being able to bike down the middle of Bourbon Street.  It's not gloating, it's a kind of marvelling at the changes. 

Quirky people don't always see things on the straight and narrow.  And this childlike quality that Amelia has is going to be wonderful if in fact she's going to be a family practice doctor.

 

9 hours ago, brilliantbreakfast said:

Why do you think it was "gloating"?  Look, I get that Amelia isn't everyone's cup of tea, and she and Bennett are so twee that it's hard to believe at times.  But I've had friends like Amelia and Bennett my entire life. I'm quirky too, but not as quirky as they are -- but I know people who have a highly elevated sense of whimsy. I had a friend in high school who fashioned a beanbag dog and wore it on her head every day. My brother-in-law still cosplays at Renassance Faires. My husband was a comic book fan right up to his death at age 58.  I have friends who are old hippies who are every bit as quirky, every bit as ostentatiously environmentally conscious as Bennett, every bit as CAPABLE OF FINDING JOY IN ANYTHING as these two are.

I live near a high school, in an area that's growing like crazy and the roads can't handle it.  When lockdown hit here, I was just like Amelia about being actually able to get out of my street earlier than 9:30 AM and as early in the evening as 5:30 PM for a change. The lack of traffic has been exhilarating, much the same as I'm sure Amelia felt at being able to bike down the middle of Bourbon Street.  It's not gloating, it's a kind of marvelling at the changes. 

Quirky people don't always see things on the straight and narrow.  And this childlike quality that Amelia has is going to be wonderful if in fact she's going to be a family practice doctor.

"Gloating" was not the best choice of words. She did seem too exuberant for the occasion though. Again, I think that if anyone should be sobered by what was happening in those early davs of COVID, it would be a doctor. Perhaps she's just so blinded by her newfound love and her stint on TV that she isn't thinking clearly. Or, as always, it could be a simple matter of editing. Whatever the case, it hit me the wrong way.

If you knew who I was, you'd find it very funny that you were explaining to me how "quirky" people live and act. 😉 Let's just say that I already know.

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6 minutes ago, TheMediumBopper said:

 

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Edited October 19, 2020 by TheMediumBopper

[gingerandcloves]

I'd love to have  Amelia for my primary care physician. In fact, I would love to have my daughter's pediatrician as my doctor - she is SO nice and funny and non-judgmental. I hate going to the doctor. I have to be really sick. Otherwise I always just end up feeling worse about myself than before I went. It's not that my doctors are terrible but I never feel like they really listen, plus they make assumptions based on the way I look. It's too bad so many doctors have terrible bedside manners. Hugs to you both, Silver Bells and ilovepie.

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2 hours ago, Ilovepie said:

@Silver Bells I am so sorry to hear this! It's really hard when your doctor doesn't seem interested in actually "caring" about you! That was my problem with my old primary. She talked in a monotone voice that showed zero emotion and she seemed like she didn't care at all. I developed severe insomnia a year after my son was born to the point I was melting down and having panic attacks. I was neurotic by the time I went in to see her. I was almost in tears. She listened to me silently and then said "Ok. I'm going to prescribe Ambien. Try that. I'll see you in a month." I was almost more upset when I left than when I went in! The Ambien did help me, but she was horrible. Stupidly, I continued to go to her until two years ago when I had an infected toe and she prescribed the wrong antibiotic. I ended up in urgent care 2 days later. Some people are just not good doctors, and you are correct - a little understanding goes a long way!

Thanks for that.  I came out of his office worse than I went in.  My next appt is in four months.  I’m going to talk to my wonderful GP and get his input.  He sits there with legs crossed and listens.  Plus, male doctors don’t know and understand about women’s hormones that play havoc with the body.  I’m old, but swear I still have PMS.  I know my body and nobody can tell me different.  My Mother was the same way.

[Hangin Out]

1 hour ago, gingerandcloves said:

I'd love to have  Amelia for my primary care physician. In fact, I would love to have my daughter's pediatrician as my doctor - she is SO nice and funny and non-judgmental. I hate going to the doctor. I have to be really sick. Otherwise I always just end up feeling worse about myself than before I went. It's not that my doctors are terrible but I never feel like they really listen, plus they make assumptions based on the way I look. It's too bad so many doctors have terrible bedside manners. Hugs to you both, Silver Bells and ilovepie.

Thanks for listening.😀

Edited October 19, 2020 by Silver Bells

[antfitz]

Did no one else here Amelia say she didn't want  To be married Comus you wanted to be on a reality show because she thought it would be fun? I wonder how that makes Bennett feel.  Maybe we will find out this week. I look stunned when she saw that.

[TheMediumBopper]

1 hour ago, antfitz said:

Did no one else here Amelia say she didn't want  To be married Comus you wanted to be on a reality show because she thought it would be fun? I wonder how that makes Bennett feel.  Maybe we will find out this week. I look stunned when she saw that.

Out of all the reality shows Amelia could've been on, I did wonder why she'd pick MAFS if she wasn't all that keen on being married. I also wondered if maybe she'd applied to other ones and been passed over. Personally, I think she's be a shoo-in for Survivor... smart enough to strategize, strong enough to do the physical challenges, and unhygienic enough to not mind the lack of regular bathing. 

[Yeah No]

1 hour ago, TheMediumBopper said:

Out of all the reality shows Amelia could've been on, I did wonder why she'd pick MAFS if she wasn't all that keen on being married. I also wondered if maybe she'd applied to other ones and been passed over. Personally, I think she's be a shoo-in for Survivor... smart enough to strategize, strong enough to do the physical challenges, and unhygienic enough to not mind the lack of regular bathing. 

I still think Bennett and her were already a couple before going on the show and this was some kind of lark they both entered into together.  Seen in that light her comment about not being all that keen on being married but wanting to be on a reality show would have a completely different meaning.

[Yeah No]

9 hours ago, Silver Bells said:

It’s funny you should say that about your GP.  I just go out of hospital from cellulitis from a wound on my leg.  I had blood tests everyday to check everything.  I go to mu cardiologist for a check up and my blood pressure was high.  He said he was sending me to a kidney specialist.  I freaked out.  Another new doctor, more tests, etc.  For what?  I told him I have anxiety from the virus, was in hospital and my pressure was high from anxiety and being overwhelmed with everything.  So I cancelled the specialist and want to dump my cardiologist for jumping the gun and making me crazy.  He gave me only 5 minutes of his time and looked annoyed.  Every time I go to him I’m nervous.  When I go to my GP, my pressure is normal.  Some doctors are nice and understanding, and some suck.  A little understanding would benefit us.  Now, I don’t know what to do.  I can’t deal with anymore doctors and tests.  Btw, my pressure was normal the whole time in the hospital or they wouldn’t have discharged me.  Maybe if I go back to the cardiologist and he knows I didn’t go to the specialist, he’ll dump me?  What to do?  He’s young and aggressive.

I have had doctors like that.  I think Amelia would have a calming effect on patients which would actually be a very good thing.  Some doctors have no "beside manner".  I think she would have that in spades.  I have been to the doctor myself at a hospital since the pandemic hit - talk about Covid anxiety!  They took my blood pressure and it was very high for me.  I told them it was from all the anxiety I have experienced both being there and just in general these days.  It made me go out and get a home blood pressure monitor just to reassure myself that my resting blood pressure is nowhere near that high!

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6 hours ago, Yeah No said:

I have had doctors like that.  I think Amelia would have a calming effect on patients which would actually be a very good thing.  Some doctors have no "beside manner".  I think she would have that in spades.  I have been to the doctor myself at a hospital since the pandemic hit - talk about Covid anxiety!  They took my blood pressure and it was very high for me.  I told them it was from all the anxiety I have experienced both being there and just in general these days.  It made me go out and get a home blood pressure monitor just to reassure myself that my resting blood pressure is nowhere near that high!

After the cardio took my pressure and it was high, I said to him “why is it low when other doctors take it and high just when I come here? He answered “ because we have better equipment”.  Wtf was that?  My husband said “dump the fuc.er.”  “The specialist is probably his cousin”.   Enough of my crap.  We visited our daughter yesterday for the first time in months and sat in the backyard away from each other.  The kids were in school, but we still didn’t go in the house in case the virus is in the air.  We are getting crazy because of it.

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19 hours ago, Ilovepie said:

I think she will be great! She has shown herself to be warm, caring and really able to lock in and listen. Those are wonderful qualities in any doctor (or spouse for that matter!). I just switched primary physician this last year after suffering through several years with a GP that was cold as ice with zero bedside manner, so to speak (I was too lazy to look for a different one that was taking new patients). I don't think she's as whimsical and carefree with her career - she couldn't be to get through med school. Everyone has different needs when determining what would be a good fit for their primary doctor, but I do think she will be a good at her job when the time comes.

A good story.  My mother had a big operation.  Her specialist sat by her bedside all night after surgery and watched over her.  Once, we went to her apartment after hours.  She was eccentric with books piled up everywhere, and canned string beans boiling over all over the stove.  The apartment was very cluttered, but she was great with her patients and knew her stuff.  We just loved her.  She was caring and even took us into her house after hours.  She saved my mothers life.

[cardigirl]

Regarding doctors and blood pressure, I love my general practioner, or family doctor or whatever they are called these days. He's my age and he's the best. I've been with him for about 20 years.  He's always told me about "white coat syndrome," which is a syndrome where one's blood pressure rises because one is in the doctor's office. Even if you like your doctor or feel comfortable with them, you're somewhat stressed to be there. Sounds like specialists do that for you @Silver Bells.

 

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1 hour ago, cardigirl said:

Regarding doctors and blood pressure, I love my general practioner, or family doctor or whatever they are called these days. He's my age and he's the best. I've been with him for about 20 years.  He's always told me about "white coat syndrome," which is a syndrome where one's blood pressure rises because one is in the doctor's office. Even if you like your doctor or feel comfortable with them, you're somewhat stressed to be there. Sounds like specialists do that for you @Silver Bells.

 

I am very stressed, especially when he said it should always be 140/80.  Yeah right.  I love my primary care also.  He’s calm and relaxes me.  I’m going to talk to him about this.  Thanks so much.  I’ve been in hospital a lot past couple of years.  Car accident, stitches, two eyesurgeries, cellulitis and two daughters that were diagnosed with cancer last year and always have to be checked ( breast and colon).  And he’s wondering why my pressure is up?  My mind is always racing.  Thank you for your input.  All of you are the best.  Oh, and this damn virus to boot.  How much can we all stay in the house, especially with winter coming.  Hope I didn’t depress anyone.  We should be laughing about this stupid show.  I will shut up now. Lol

 

Edited October 20, 2020 by Silver Bells

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3 hours ago, Silver Bells said:

A good story.  My mother had a big operation.  Her specialist sat by her bedside all night after surgery and watched over her.  Once, we went to her apartment after hours.  She was eccentric with books piled up everywhere, and canned string beans boiling over all over the stove.  The apartment was very cluttered, but she was great with her patients and knew her stuff.  We just loved her.  She was caring and even took us into her house after hours.  She saved my mothers life.

That is awesome! Now that is a fantastic doctor! The reason I ended up with my bad Primary was that my beloved doctor stopped seeing patients and we were transferred to his replacement within the group. He was kind of an old hippie with longish hair, but he was so kind, warm and caring. He took the time to listen! I was so sad when he left and I was left with Dr. Robot. When I think of my old doctor, it kind of reminds me of Amelia. This is why I think she will make a great doctor. At the end of the day, people want to feel cared about, and she will be able to do that.

[OnceSane]

Personal anecdotes are off-topic for this thread.  Please take your discussion about personal doctor encounters to the Small Talk thread. 

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On 10/18/2020 at 12:51 PM, Chatty Cake said:

How many more episodes are left? I thought Stranger Spouse was 14 out of 18 but Lifetime is supposed to go Christmas movies 24/7 starting next weekend.

MAFS Australia was my first time watching the Married at First Sight franchise. It was actually due to the COVID shutdown when I saw ads for Australia and had to see it.  Then I tuned in for New Orleans and found the couples pretty likable other than Christina. 
 

How did you like Australia?  It was interesting and different.  The only thing was that I couldn’t understand the way they spoke.

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On 10/14/2020 at 9:28 PM, gonecrackers said:

Wonder where Karen & Woody are during these talks.

Oops.  I thought Karen and Miles.  I don’t know.  Woody and Amani are too good to be true.  I have a feeling we might be surprised in the end.  I hope not.  These shows are tricky.

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On 10/18/2020 at 5:20 PM, gingerandcloves said:

JapMo, very interesting to hear about your experience on Wheel of Fortune! My brother-in-law competed on Jeopardy! many years ago, and I went with some friends to a The Price is Right taping once, back when Bob Barker was the host, but we didn't get chosen to "come on down" , LOL. It was still a lot of fun. It's so weird how different the studio looks in person from on TV.

I didn't think anything of Amelia's song on her bike. Plus Bennett said she'd been doing a lot of work feeding the homeless, IIRC. So, good for her.

As far as Amani's remarks about Covid, I'm assuming she meant it as more of a silver lining...it's probably more of a real test of a relationship than they would normally have had, and it lets you know who is there for the long haul and how someone behaves when everything isn't easy-breezy.

Congrats, Silver Bells, on your anniversary! 55 years is terrific. My husband and I have been married almost 32 years. It definitely wasn't love at first sight though 🙂

Well, there must have been some sparks there.  32 years is not the norm now.  Good luck!  😍🍸

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On 10/15/2020 at 5:31 AM, qtpye said:

This episode has changed my mind on Christina. She went from a slightly weird socially awkward person making the best of a bad situation to someone who might truly be unhinged.

It is interesting to me that some chronic liars become very good at lying (practice makes perfect) and some are horrible but continue to lie anyway. Michael from last season was an example of someone who was a horrible liar.

The fact that she could not show Henry the incriminating text message means that she probably made the whole thing up. If she was smart, she would have just said she "heard a rumor" and then just say she refused to reveal the source.

Did she expect telling Henry that someone told her that he was gay was going to make him fall at her feet and yell "Yes, I am gay...it is the only way that I am able to resist your Goddess like beauty"?

Everyone was cringing in embarrassment over her crocodile tears over Olivia because she did not get to go on this trip. It is obvious that she was being totally insincere and I doubt if Olivia counts her as a friend.

She readily admits that she was a flamboyant liar at one time and probably is still makes up things for dramatic reactions.

Just goes to show everyone what a true gentleman he is by staying to the end.  He’ll have women all over him.  She is not  worthy of him.

 

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3 hours ago, OnceSane said:

Personal anecdotes are off-topic for this thread.  Please take your discussion about personal doctor encounters to the Small Talk thread. 

Sorry I was thinking I was on the Small Talk thread, as I keep going back n forth.  Sorry everyone.  I’m bored with it myself.

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5 hours ago, Silver Bells said:

9 hours ago, OnceSane said:

Personal anecdotes are off-topic for this thread.  Please take your discussion about personal doctor encounters to the Small Talk thread. 

Sorry I was thinking I was on the Small Talk thread, as I keep going back n forth.  Sorry everyone.  I’m bored with it myself.

 I'm guilty too.

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7 hours ago, JapMo said:

 I'm guilty too.

Maybe there should be a thread for “hypochondriacs, ailments and crummy doctors”, hahahaha.🤒😷

[Ilovepie]

Sorry as well! We were speaking about Amelia as a doctor and then SQUIRREL!!!!! 😜

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On 10/19/2020 at 4:23 PM, Ilovepie said:

@Silver Bells I am so sorry to hear this! It's really hard when your doctor doesn't seem interested in actually "caring" about you! That was my problem with my old primary. She talked in a monotone voice that showed zero emotion and she seemed like she didn't care at all. I developed severe insomnia a year after my son was born to the point I was melting down and having panic attacks. I was neurotic by the time I went in to see her. I was almost in tears. She listened to me silently and then said "Ok. I'm going to prescribe Ambien. Try that. I'll see you in a month." I was almost more upset when I left than when I went in! The Ambien did help me, but she was horrible. Stupidly, I continued to go to her until two years ago when I had an infected toe and she prescribed the wrong antibiotic. I ended up in urgent care 2 days later. Some people are just not good doctors, and you are correct - a little understanding goes a long way!

I don’t care what anyone says.  I think hormones have a lot to do with women’s problems.  Lots of women get that depression after child birth and can’t help it.

 

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On 10/16/2020 at 9:16 PM, ChiMama said:

Happy anniversary -- that's awesome! 🙂 Enjoy the day and YEARS of anniversaries to come!

Nice of you .. thanks.