Meredith Quill April 29, 2018 Share April 29, 2018 Go! Link to comment https://forums.primetimer.com/topic/69552-tales-of-the-city-general-discussion/
Eureka April 30, 2018 Share April 30, 2018 Love the books (except the last Anna Madrigal one, wasn’t crazy about some of it), love the mini series, excited to hear about the Netflix series! Thanks for this forum. 1 Link to comment https://forums.primetimer.com/topic/69552-tales-of-the-city-general-discussion/#findComment-4280271
meep.meep May 3, 2018 Share May 3, 2018 Books? It was a newspaper column. 2 Link to comment https://forums.primetimer.com/topic/69552-tales-of-the-city-general-discussion/#findComment-4290767
Gabs66 May 4, 2018 Share May 4, 2018 Yes, it started as a column, but he wrote 9 books about these characters. Nine fabulous books, I might add. CAN NOT WAIT for this mini-series. 10 Link to comment https://forums.primetimer.com/topic/69552-tales-of-the-city-general-discussion/#findComment-4293211
PamelaMaeSnap May 7, 2018 Share May 7, 2018 Absolutely LOVED the books ... plan on re-reading all of them before watching ... also, not for nothing, but my FAVORITE book by him was not actually part of the TotC series but rather a novel called "Maybe the Moon," a fictionalized account of the life of Tamara De Treaux, one of the three actors who actually "played" ET in the movie. She was a friend of Maupin's and gave him her diaries to use as the basis for the book. She passed away in 1990. 5 Link to comment https://forums.primetimer.com/topic/69552-tales-of-the-city-general-discussion/#findComment-4301364
candall May 8, 2018 Share May 8, 2018 I loved the books. I can't even imagine how cool it must've been to meet these characters through the original newspaper columns. Netflix, though. Crap. My download speed isn't fast enough. Come on, fiber optic technology--CATCH. UP!!! 1 Link to comment https://forums.primetimer.com/topic/69552-tales-of-the-city-general-discussion/#findComment-4304198
Gabs66 May 11, 2018 Share May 11, 2018 On 5/7/2018 at 2:30 PM, PamelaMaeSnap said: Absolutely LOVED the books ... plan on re-reading all of them before watching ... also, not for nothing, but my FAVORITE book by him was not actually part of the TotC series but rather a novel called "Maybe the Moon," a fictionalized account of the life of Tamara De Treaux, one of the three actors who actually "played" ET in the movie. She was a friend of Maupin's and gave him her diaries to use as the basis for the book. She passed away in 1990. I loved that book too! I never realized it was based on a real person. Now I love it even more and will re-read it right away! 1 Link to comment https://forums.primetimer.com/topic/69552-tales-of-the-city-general-discussion/#findComment-4315970
txhorns79 May 29, 2018 Share May 29, 2018 I would say the books started off strong, but the quality ebbed as the series continued and the storylines got more outlandish and unbelievable. I'm looking at you, Jim Jones. 4 Link to comment https://forums.primetimer.com/topic/69552-tales-of-the-city-general-discussion/#findComment-4369484
Bruinsfan February 13, 2019 Share February 13, 2019 It also broke my heart to see how cold and unsympathetic Mary Ann became by Sure of You. I didn't read any of the later books after that. 2 Link to comment https://forums.primetimer.com/topic/69552-tales-of-the-city-general-discussion/#findComment-5052302
starri April 10, 2019 Share April 10, 2019 1 Link to comment https://forums.primetimer.com/topic/69552-tales-of-the-city-general-discussion/#findComment-5198409
starri May 21, 2019 Share May 21, 2019 I absolutely did not get a tear in my eye. 2 Link to comment https://forums.primetimer.com/topic/69552-tales-of-the-city-general-discussion/#findComment-5314756
ApathyMonger June 5, 2019 Share June 5, 2019 I've never read the books, but I watched the previous seasons of the show in advance of the new Netflix episodes. It’s all over the place tonally. Early on it’s mostly a standard slice-of-life drama about a bunch of 20-somethings in 1976 San Francisco, but by the third season it’s all about crazy child-snatchings that are possibly connected to a character's time as a rebel in Cuba. They also recast half the characters after the first season. There’s a lot of cringy stuff in there that I’m surprised they did in even 1993, especially one terribly-conceived storyline, which I think is directly from the book, where the show’s one black character turns out to be a white woman in blackface (played by a black actress in S1, and a white actress later on). Olympia Dukakis playing a transwoman is handled better than I’d expect for the time at least. It mostly reminded me of a queerer Melrose Place, which also started as a down-to-Earth show about young people before going all over the place with crazy twists. Hopefully the continuation will be better than the Melrose Place one (this is not a high bar). Link to comment https://forums.primetimer.com/topic/69552-tales-of-the-city-general-discussion/#findComment-5350898
txhorns79 June 6, 2019 Share June 6, 2019 (edited) Quote It’s all over the place tonally. Early on it’s mostly a standard slice-of-life drama about a bunch of 20-somethings in 1976 San Francisco, but by the third season it’s all about crazy child-snatchings that are possibly connected to a character's time as a rebel in Cuba. They also recast half the characters after the first season. I think the shifting tone from miniseries to miniseries is due primarily to the books, since they were following the storylines from those. I think the recasts occured either because the actors who played the roles originally were no longer available (there was a five year gap between the filming of the first and second miniseries), or wanted too much money to return. Edited June 6, 2019 by txhorns79 1 Link to comment https://forums.primetimer.com/topic/69552-tales-of-the-city-general-discussion/#findComment-5352716
ApathyMonger June 6, 2019 Share June 6, 2019 11 hours ago, txhorns79 said: I think the recasts occured either because the actors who played the roles originally were no longer available Yeah, I assume this is true of Paul Gross, who's coming back for the new series after being recast for the other sequels. 1 Link to comment https://forums.primetimer.com/topic/69552-tales-of-the-city-general-discussion/#findComment-5354291
ApathyMonger June 7, 2019 Share June 7, 2019 I didn't realise that the new season was going to be set in the present day, meaning about 35 years have passed since the last series, and that the remaining original actors are now playing much older than they are (except Dukakis, who was always playing younger). 1 Link to comment https://forums.primetimer.com/topic/69552-tales-of-the-city-general-discussion/#findComment-5356823
starri June 7, 2019 Share June 7, 2019 3 hours ago, ApathyMonger said: I didn't realise that the new season was going to be set in the present day, meaning about 35 years have passed since the last series, and that the remaining original actors are now playing much older than they are (except Dukakis, who was always playing younger). I think the time frame is supposed to be a bit wibbly-wobbly. I haven't had time to watch much before work, and I'm honestly unsure if I would call it good or not, but it is DELIGHTFUL. 4 Link to comment https://forums.primetimer.com/topic/69552-tales-of-the-city-general-discussion/#findComment-5356897
txhorns79 June 7, 2019 Share June 7, 2019 5 hours ago, ApathyMonger said: I didn't realise that the new season was going to be set in the present day, meaning about 35 years have passed since the last series, and that the remaining original actors are now playing much older than they are (except Dukakis, who was always playing younger). I think I had read in one of the reviews the age of all the characters is just something you have to not think too hard about. I've only watched a bit, but everyone seems to just be playing it as though the characters are the same age (or close to it) as the actor, rather than the age they would be if the 43 years or so had passed since the the time period of the original series. I mean, otherwise, all the original characters, excepting Anna, should be in their later 60s or even 70s, and they clearly are not. 3 Link to comment https://forums.primetimer.com/topic/69552-tales-of-the-city-general-discussion/#findComment-5357034
ApathyMonger June 7, 2019 Share June 7, 2019 (edited) 1 hour ago, txhorns79 said: I mean, otherwise, all the original characters, excepting Anna, should be in their later 60s or even 70s, and they clearly are not. It depends how young you think they were in the original, which I don't think is ever specifically stated. Paul Gross is 60, and Laura Linney is 55, so them playing mid-60s here isn't unreasonable. On the other hand, Murray Bartlett (Mouse III) is 48, which doesn't really work at all, age-wise. Edit: They specifically say Mouse is 54, meaning he was 12 years old in the original miniseries. Edited June 7, 2019 by ApathyMonger 5 1 Link to comment https://forums.primetimer.com/topic/69552-tales-of-the-city-general-discussion/#findComment-5357124
Bruinsfan June 7, 2019 Share June 7, 2019 Wow, talk about an early bloomer! 4 Link to comment https://forums.primetimer.com/topic/69552-tales-of-the-city-general-discussion/#findComment-5357391
starri June 7, 2019 Share June 7, 2019 Did Mary Anne being reunited with Mrs. M make me cry? You better believe it did. 2 Link to comment https://forums.primetimer.com/topic/69552-tales-of-the-city-general-discussion/#findComment-5357609
Gabs66 June 8, 2019 Share June 8, 2019 23 hours ago, starri said: Did Mary Anne being reunited with Mrs. M make me cry? You better believe it did. Michael calling Mary Anne Babycakes did it for me. 1 Link to comment https://forums.primetimer.com/topic/69552-tales-of-the-city-general-discussion/#findComment-5359408
Eureka June 8, 2019 Share June 8, 2019 I’ve only watched the first episode so far but I am on the fence. I love the book series and the other tv series. Laura Linney is one of my favorites so she could do pretty much anything and I’ll watch it. I don’t like that Shawna doesn’t know she adopted bc that is different from the book. (Do we have a book spoiler rule here?) I am liking the new Mouse, and there was even a moment early on where he seemed to be channeling the original Mouse in a mannerism, but now I can’t remember what it is. Ben I haven’t decided about, I wonder if we will get any more of his and Michael’s backstory like in the books. I am not liking Brian’s hair at all...not the gray/silver but the hairdo. I think the casting of Shawna was great (loved Ellen Page in Juno and Inception) but time will tell what I think of what they’ve done with her. Are the twins supposed to be Anna and Edgar but with different names? Jake is not what I pictured, but again, we’ll see. I guess my first reaction is I wanted it to be more like the book and wanted to like it more immediately. 2 Link to comment https://forums.primetimer.com/topic/69552-tales-of-the-city-general-discussion/#findComment-5359622
Eureka June 8, 2019 Share June 8, 2019 (edited) On 6/7/2019 at 9:08 AM, txhorns79 said: I think I had read in one of the reviews the age of all the characters is just something you have to not think too hard about. I've only watched a bit, but everyone seems to just be playing it as though the characters are the same age (or close to it) as the actor, rather than the age they would be if the 43 years or so had passed since the the time period of the original series. I mean, otherwise, all the original characters, excepting Anna, should be in their later 60s or even 70s, and they clearly are not. Yeah, I think I figured out that if it was 20 years later from when Maryann left, it should be 2008 or so but then Anna was 56 in 1976 and that would make her 99. And it messed me up when Brian said Shawna was two when Maryann left because they kept saying 20 years and in the books she was five, not two. Edited June 8, 2019 by Eureka 1 Link to comment https://forums.primetimer.com/topic/69552-tales-of-the-city-general-discussion/#findComment-5359634
ApathyMonger June 8, 2019 Share June 8, 2019 1 minute ago, Eureka said: Are the twins supposed to be Anna and Edgar but with different names? Anna and Edgar are mentioned in the second episode as not talking to DeDe at the moment. The twins are mostly just comic relief. 3 Link to comment https://forums.primetimer.com/topic/69552-tales-of-the-city-general-discussion/#findComment-5359635
starri June 8, 2019 Share June 8, 2019 Jen Richards was PHENOMENAL as the younger Anna. 7 Link to comment https://forums.primetimer.com/topic/69552-tales-of-the-city-general-discussion/#findComment-5359759
txhorns79 June 9, 2019 Share June 9, 2019 (edited) I binged it. Some things were very good. Dede is obviously the person who is living her best life. Ben was just awful. Everything he did just rubbed me the wrong way, and I seriously wondered how a relationship between he and Michael could ever work given the fairly big age difference. I also enjoyed it when the older guys told him off. I am further glad never to have attended a wedding where a sex tent was a thing. Spoiler I didn't love the resolution of the mystery. It felt rushed and fairly cheesey. And when Mary Ann expressed surprise that Anna could have been hiding something, I just wish there was some kind of reminder that way back in the first series, Mary Ann covered up the death of that private eye and burned his file on Anna in order to protect her. So it's not like Mary Ann has never been in a situation where Anna was hiding things. Edited June 9, 2019 by txhorns79 4 Link to comment https://forums.primetimer.com/topic/69552-tales-of-the-city-general-discussion/#findComment-5360208
starri June 9, 2019 Share June 9, 2019 I know Jake's story was ultimately about him figuring out who he was after his transition, but I was really disappointed he and Flaco didn't get more of an ending. They had great chemistry. 11 hours ago, txhorns79 said: I seriously wondered how a relationship between he and Michael could ever work given the fairly big age difference. Michael's relationship with Ben is based on that of Maupin (who has always acknowledged that Michael is an aspirational version of himself) and his husband Chris. I think their age difference might even be a bit bigger than their fictional counterparts'. The real pair have been together for a long time, so as unusual as it may be, it works. 2 Link to comment https://forums.primetimer.com/topic/69552-tales-of-the-city-general-discussion/#findComment-5360664
txhorns79 June 9, 2019 Share June 9, 2019 3 hours ago, starri said: Michael's relationship with Ben is based on that of Maupin (who has always acknowledged that Michael is an aspirational version of himself) and his husband Chris. I think their age difference might even be a bit bigger than their fictional counterparts'. The real pair have been together for a long time, so as unusual as it may be, it works. You are right, the age difference is greater with those two, but I think it's a celebrity relationship where normal relationship rules don't always apply. For me, looking at Michael and Ben, it was Ben not getting Michael's pop culture references, pointing out that Michael's finances were such that he was 54 and couldn't afford to live on his own and just the drastically different places they were in their lives. Also, there was something about Brian's haircut and general look that made me feel like he could easily have played an Aunt on the The Handmaid's Tale. I can't quite put my finger on it, but he would have been a very handsome woman. 3 1 Link to comment https://forums.primetimer.com/topic/69552-tales-of-the-city-general-discussion/#findComment-5360901
buckboard June 10, 2019 Share June 10, 2019 Okay, I give up. IMDB says Molly Ringwald was in 6 episodes of Tales, but doesn't say what her role was. What SIX episodes did she appear in? I might figure it out if she was in one or two episodes, but SIX? 2 Link to comment https://forums.primetimer.com/topic/69552-tales-of-the-city-general-discussion/#findComment-5362785
HollyG June 10, 2019 Share June 10, 2019 7 minutes ago, buckboard said: Okay, I give up. IMDB says Molly Ringwald was in 6 episodes of Tales, but doesn't say what her role was. What SIX episodes did she appear in? I might figure it out if she was in one or two episodes, but SIX? I saw that too. I only remember her in the last episode. Maybe her scenes were cut during editing or maybe a contract thing? p.s. she plays the videographer's mother. 3 Link to comment https://forums.primetimer.com/topic/69552-tales-of-the-city-general-discussion/#findComment-5362793
ApathyMonger June 10, 2019 Share June 10, 2019 3 hours ago, buckboard said: Okay, I give up. IMDB says Molly Ringwald was in 6 episodes of Tales, but doesn't say what her role was. What SIX episodes did she appear in? I might figure it out if she was in one or two episodes, but SIX? IMDb is terrible for TV credits until a while after airing, especially for shows where all the episodes are dropped at once. Usually people see that someone is in a show, and credit them for every episode. Page, Linney, etc are all still credited on IMDb for the flashback episode they're not in or credited for. 1 Link to comment https://forums.primetimer.com/topic/69552-tales-of-the-city-general-discussion/#findComment-5362876
Pickles June 10, 2019 Share June 10, 2019 I thought I would love this series, but could barely make it through. Even then, I fast forwarded through several parts. I just did not care about any of these people. And I know this is ridiculous, but it bothered me how unrealistic the outside of the house/yard area looked. It was like a bad set on a soundstage, which I guess it was. The grass looked like a green rug. 3 Link to comment https://forums.primetimer.com/topic/69552-tales-of-the-city-general-discussion/#findComment-5363906
skotnikov June 12, 2019 Share June 12, 2019 I was looking forward to it, but it's just unwatchable. The original doesn't deserve to be turned in that mess. 5 Link to comment https://forums.primetimer.com/topic/69552-tales-of-the-city-general-discussion/#findComment-5367645
atlantaloves June 12, 2019 Share June 12, 2019 I agree, the new series is pretty bad, I don't know if it is the script which he did not write or some of the horrible acting. The story has perked up with the second episode, but the first one was literally painful to endure. I'm not sure if I will bother to finish this either, and I was a huge fan of the original series and of course the books. Damn it, I am upset. 2 Link to comment https://forums.primetimer.com/topic/69552-tales-of-the-city-general-discussion/#findComment-5368290
txhorns79 June 12, 2019 Share June 12, 2019 5 hours ago, atlantaloves said: I agree, the new series is pretty bad, I don't know if it is the script which he did not write or some of the horrible acting. The story has perked up with the second episode, but the first one was literally painful to endure. I'm not sure if I will bother to finish this either, and I was a huge fan of the original series and of course the books. Damn it, I am upset. I wouldn't say it is bad. It does feel a lot like they aren't quite sure what they want to say. Further, there is so much unexplained backstory between Brian, Maryann and Shawna (I know it is explained in the books, but it's not clear what is supposed to be canon from the books and what is not) that I don't know you could make much sense of it if you haven't read the books. 2 Link to comment https://forums.primetimer.com/topic/69552-tales-of-the-city-general-discussion/#findComment-5369012
starri June 12, 2019 Share June 12, 2019 3 Link to comment https://forums.primetimer.com/topic/69552-tales-of-the-city-general-discussion/#findComment-5369043
marsha June 13, 2019 Share June 13, 2019 I've been reading (and re-and-re-reading) the books since the early 1980s when I was in my early twenties. When what was to be the final TOTC book came out (Sure of You) I went to a reading Armistead was giving (and got my copy autographed) and in a Q&A he said that he would like to see Colleen Dewhurst as Anna (this was years before the series was made and, by then Miss Dewhurst had died). I loved the first series and remember what a big thing it was on PBS at the time. I also thought it was almost perfectly cast (especially Mary Ann, Mouse and Mona). I wish so much I could say the same for this version of what seems like a 'bizzaro' Barbary Lane. AND: there a far, far too many just plain awful changes/differences from the books that it get so irritating to watch ... and to sit next to loudly bitching about it on the couch, it would seem. My favourite episode was, oddly enough, the one that told of Anna's past that took place in '66. The acting (Jen Richards, Luke Kirby and the divine Daniela Vega) was superb as were the writing and directing. I liked Ellen Page as Shawna and I could still talk with Anna Madrigal all night long. 3 Link to comment https://forums.primetimer.com/topic/69552-tales-of-the-city-general-discussion/#findComment-5370462
buckboard June 13, 2019 Share June 13, 2019 Mrs. Madrigal selling Barbary Lane made no sense. If she felt guilty about her behavior in the '60s, there were numerous ways to make reparations to her transgender friends other than selling Barbary Lane. She didn't seem to take into account how this would affect her tenants, people she has always considered family. Many had been with her for decades. But now they're they're forced to go looking for new places to live. Lots of luck finding something affordable in San Francisco. Lots of luck finding a family-like community like they had in Barbary Lane. And then they get 24-hour notice the building is being torn down? I know that was just a plot thing to bring the story to a culmination, but it was completely unrealistic and never would have happened that way. And then Anna turns over the deed to her old acquaintance without any mention of whether the current tenants would be allowed to stay there. And don't get me started on the blackmail story line. 8 Link to comment https://forums.primetimer.com/topic/69552-tales-of-the-city-general-discussion/#findComment-5371606
gesundheit June 14, 2019 Share June 14, 2019 (edited) On 6/10/2019 at 1:59 AM, buckboard said: Okay, I give up. IMDB says Molly Ringwald was in 6 episodes of Tales, but doesn't say what her role was. What SIX episodes did she appear in? I might figure it out if she was in one or two episodes, but SIX? She was only in episodes 9 and 10. I'm almost done but annoyingly had to leave the house when I had 20 minutes left in the finale. I have to say I was glad of the Claire reveal because I loathed her the entire way through (though for all I know everyone forgives and includes her in the last 20 minutes). The flashback episode was easily the highlight of the show. Beautifully done. Otherwise, I really liked the Jake and Margot story. And DeDe in general. I usually liked Michael and Ben, and the conflict at the dinner party was pretty well done. I didn't care much about Shawna (another laconic stoic Ellen Page character!) until the last handful of episodes. The twins were embarrassingly awful. Their scenes made me want to avoid SF like the plague if they're in any way representative of the LGBTQ+-and-allies "scene," though I'm way too old for a scene anyway. Anyway, I thought it had one great episode and a handful of great moments. In general, though, it was overwritten and just trying too hard. Edited June 14, 2019 by gesundheit 5 Link to comment https://forums.primetimer.com/topic/69552-tales-of-the-city-general-discussion/#findComment-5373510
txhorns79 June 14, 2019 Share June 14, 2019 12 minutes ago, gesundheit said: I didn't care much about Shawna (another laconic stoic Ellen Page character!) until the last handful of episodes. I wanted to tell her three things. 1) Wash your hair, 2) get a haircut and 3) stop wearing that gross hat everywhere. 20 hours ago, buckboard said: And then Anna turns over the deed to her old acquaintance without any mention of whether the current tenants would be allowed to stay there. This. For people she regularly referred to as her family, Anna didn't seem to give much thought to what would happen to them when she deeded Barbary Lane to her old acquaintance. 5 Link to comment https://forums.primetimer.com/topic/69552-tales-of-the-city-general-discussion/#findComment-5373572
gesundheit June 14, 2019 Share June 14, 2019 4 minutes ago, txhorns79 said: I wanted to tell her three things. 1) Wash your hair, 2) get a haircut and 3) stop wearing that gross hat everywhere. I could not stop thinking about how horrific that cap must smell. Also she wore the same thing every day. I don't know, honey, put on a navy t-shirt on Wednesdays or something! 4 Link to comment https://forums.primetimer.com/topic/69552-tales-of-the-city-general-discussion/#findComment-5373582
starri June 15, 2019 Share June 15, 2019 On 6/13/2019 at 2:40 PM, buckboard said: Mrs. Madrigal selling Barbary Lane made no sense. She didn't sell it. That was the blackmail plot; she was forced to sign it over to the blackmailer. 1 Link to comment https://forums.primetimer.com/topic/69552-tales-of-the-city-general-discussion/#findComment-5375231
ElectricBoogaloo June 16, 2019 Share June 16, 2019 Laura Linney, Ellen Page, Alan Poul, Zosia Mamet, Charlie Barnett, and showrunner Lauren Morelli discuss Tales of the City: Link to comment https://forums.primetimer.com/topic/69552-tales-of-the-city-general-discussion/#findComment-5376569
meep.meep June 16, 2019 Share June 16, 2019 I watched the first episode last night. It was OK but I don't feel compelled to watch more immediately. However, as a resident of the San Francisco Bay Area, I wonder why after making such a big deal about the Sisters of Perpetual Indulgence attending Anna's party, they couldn't bother to actually have one or two of them at the party. 1 Link to comment https://forums.primetimer.com/topic/69552-tales-of-the-city-general-discussion/#findComment-5377167
JessePinkman June 16, 2019 Share June 16, 2019 On 6/14/2019 at 11:16 AM, gesundheit said: The flashback episode was easily the highlight of the show. Beautifully done. Otherwise, I really liked the Jake and Margot story. And DeDe in general. I usually liked Michael and Ben, and the conflict at the dinner party was pretty well done. I didn't care much about Shawna (another laconic stoic Ellen Page character!) until the last handful of episodes. That dinner party was a highlight for me because it's rather a TV argument articulates both sides so well. Personally I'm firmly on Ben's side (I'm a liberal millenial, I can't help it) but I could see where the other guests were coming from even though they way they expressed that was beyond ugly and hateful. Well, I've never seen the original series (but I do recall hearing about it as a kid) but I loved this one. I've loved Laura Linney for 20 years now and she was magnificent here. Everyone was really, Jake and Margot were a little green for the heavy material but both got better as the show went on. Another highlight was the first time Michael and Ben said I love you, I've been there, it felt so authentic, almost voyeuristic. I pretty much ugly cried through the last two episodes so that was fun. I know nothing about these characters beyond what we learned in this series but it felt like a fitting ending to their stories? I don't know, I was satisfied. 4 Link to comment https://forums.primetimer.com/topic/69552-tales-of-the-city-general-discussion/#findComment-5377182
txhorns79 June 17, 2019 Share June 17, 2019 5 hours ago, JessePinkman said: That dinner party was a highlight for me because it's rather a TV argument articulates both sides so well. Personally I'm firmly on Ben's side (I'm a liberal millenial, I can't help it) but I could see where the other guests were coming from even though they way they expressed that was beyond ugly and hateful. It's interesting, I viewed it from the opposite perspective. They are having a dinner party, and a complete stranger feels the need to lecture them on language. I understand Ben's perspective, but I also understand the "and who exactly are you?" response he got. To me, it's telling that Ben's decision on how to handle things was to essentially run away, and then go into "how dare they" mode where he attempts to use his race as a way to one up their suffering with his. 2 Link to comment https://forums.primetimer.com/topic/69552-tales-of-the-city-general-discussion/#findComment-5377772
JessePinkman June 17, 2019 Share June 17, 2019 (edited) 16 minutes ago, txhorns79 said: It's interesting, I viewed it from the opposite perspective. They are having a dinner party, and a complete stranger feels the need to lecture them on language. I understand Ben's perspective, but I also understand the "and who exactly are you?" response he got. To me, it's telling that Ben's decision on how to handle things was to essentially run away, and then go into "how dare they" mode where he attempts to use his race as a way to one up their suffering with his. I'm definitely of the idea that words mean things and that sitting idly by while someone else uses derogatory language in your presence makes you complicit in their actions. Would you have felt the same way if he were throwing around the n-word? And I'm coming at this from a similar perspective. I'm a young-ish black man whose friend group is largely older white gays (I am an old soul and my favorite pasttime is playing board games, sue me) so I've sort of been there, my friends are much nicer, but I've found that I've had to sort of gently nudge them that some of their terminology is outdated and offensive. I don't do it in an "I'm better than you" sort of way and more in a...society has evolved and if I can educate them a little, why not? They have no qualms telling me about NY in the 80s or Madonna when she was ruling the world, why can't I tell them how the kids have reclaimed queer? Edited June 17, 2019 by JessePinkman 6 Link to comment https://forums.primetimer.com/topic/69552-tales-of-the-city-general-discussion/#findComment-5377858
txhorns79 June 17, 2019 Share June 17, 2019 Quote I'm definitely of the idea that words mean things and that sitting idly by while someone else uses derogatory language in your presence makes you complicit in their actions. Would you have felt the same way if he were throwing around the n-word? I think I would try to read the room before I decide it's my job to start correcting strangers. If the people truly offend me, I probably would not see them again. I'm sure there are scenarios where someone uses extreme language that might make me say something in the moment, just like I'm sure there are scenarios where I might decide direct confrontation is a bad idea. As it was, it didn't seem like Ben convinced anyone, and he took away the wrong message from his confrontation. 2 Link to comment https://forums.primetimer.com/topic/69552-tales-of-the-city-general-discussion/#findComment-5377964
JessePinkman June 17, 2019 Share June 17, 2019 3 minutes ago, txhorns79 said: I think I would try to read the room before I decide it's my job to start correcting strangers. If the people truly offend me, I probably would not see them again. I'm sure there are scenarios where someone uses extreme language that might make me say something in the moment, just like I'm sure there are scenarios where I might decide direct confrontation is a bad idea. As it was, it didn't seem like Ben convinced anyone, and he took away the wrong message from his confrontation. He didn't seem overly confrontational. They definitely reached a boiling point long before he did. It seemed they were immediately on the defensive because they've either heard this before from his generation or expected it from him since he was the only young person and non-white person in the room. That one dude was in a rage. 4 Link to comment https://forums.primetimer.com/topic/69552-tales-of-the-city-general-discussion/#findComment-5377999
txhorns79 June 17, 2019 Share June 17, 2019 7 minutes ago, JessePinkman said: He didn't seem overly confrontational. They definitely reached a boiling point long before he did. It seemed they were immediately on the defensive because they've either heard this before from his generation or expected it from him since he was the only young person and non-white person in the room. That one dude was in a rage. I think he was confrontational. I think the one guy got upset because it's pretty obnoxious to tell someone who lived through a time period where his mere existence was illegal, followed by the anti-gay backlash of the late 70s (heck, Anita Bryant was a huge plot point of the second series) and AIDS crisis of the 80s and early 90s, how privileged they are. 4 Link to comment https://forums.primetimer.com/topic/69552-tales-of-the-city-general-discussion/#findComment-5378068
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