Teen Mom 2: Small Talk

[Pixiebomb]

That's unfortunate. I love this forum and all you guys. You crack me up and I can share my secret teen mom vice with you. Can't in real life. I'm ridiculed enough for watching Big Brother. Can you imagine the grief I'd get for TM?

[badhaggis]

Can someone message me as to what happened please? I was surprised to see it locked this morning.

[Mkay]

7 minutes ago, badhaggis said:

Can someone message me as to what happened please? I was surprised to see it locked this morning.

Same. 

[GreatKazu]

I will PM you. :-) 

 

4 hours ago, druzy said:

I just looked at her thread. I think a new poster was starting trouble. 

Lots of newbies came in at once. 

2 hours ago, Pixiebomb said:

That's unfortunate. I love this forum and all you guys. You crack me up and I can share my secret teen mom vice with you. Can't in real life. I'm ridiculed enough for watching Big Brother. Can you imagine the grief I'd get for TM?

I hear you. And I meant that. I don't have an index card in my hand advising me to respond that way. lol 

[druzy]

1 hour ago, badhaggis said:

Can someone message me as to what happened please? I was surprised to see it locked this morning.

Can someone CC me? Sorry.

[druzy]

I hope the thread opens again. I think Leah and Jeremy are doing it.

[GreatKazu]

1 hour ago, druzy said:

I hope the thread opens again. I think Leah and Jeremy are doing it.

"Doin it and doin it and doin it well" 

Hiding the pickle! 

[Fosca]

I'd like to know what happened in the Leah forum as well.  Thanks in advance!

[Pixiebomb]

7 hours ago, druzy said:

I hope the thread opens again. I think Leah and Jeremy are doing it.

Ewww

[monicageller]

If anybody else still needs the info on what happened in Leah's thread before it was locked, feel free to send me a message!

[Maharincess]

Is it against the rules to just post it in this thread?

[MissMel]

3 hours ago, Maharincess said:

Is it against the rules to just post it in this thread?

Looks like it.  http://forums.previously.tv/topic/1984-teen-mom-2-small-talk/

I've seen other show small talk threads that really only talk about the show, so who knows?  One of us can always ask a mod to be sure though.

[FairyDusted]

Hopefully we just got a time out. Luckily we are in off season.

[Pixiebomb]

Leah is still closed. I wish the mods would give her back to us. We've never really had a problem on these threads- since way back when we all came over from twoP .   We are good little posters. 

[lovesnark]

Because lambs make everything better, here's Heidi! I came home from the grocery store a couple weeks ago to find this little surprise in the barn. I didn't plan on any lambs this spring as my flock is the size I want it. Well, there was obviously a breach in security sometime last September! The mama sheep, Hildy, is quite wooly and a bit on the chubby side, so I had no idea she was pregnant. It's her first baby and she's a most excellent mama! Baby is shy and hides behind her mama when I'm in their pen, so Heidi is a perfect name for the little cutie. Happy almost spring :)

 

 

[GreatKazu]

3 minutes ago, lovesnark said:

Because lambs make everything better, here's Heidi! I came home from the grocery store a couple weeks ago to find this little surprise in the barn. I didn't plan on any lambs this spring as my flock is the size I want it. Well, there was obviously a breach in security sometime last September! The mama sheep, Hildy, is quite wooly and a bit on the chubby side, so I had no idea she was pregnant. It's her first baby and she's a most excellent mama! Baby is shy and hides behind her mama when I'm in their pen, so Heidi is a perfect name for the little cutie. Happy almost spring :)

 

 

How adorable!!!!! What a beauty! Love her color. How exciting it must have been to come home and see this baby. :-) 

[lovesnark]

She is SO damn cute! I turned her and her mama out with the flock for the first time yesterday and it was hilarious to watch. All of the yearlings went to give her the once over and when the baby took off running and jumping, as lambs do, everyone in the flock, young and old, joined in. Even elderly Grandma Blanche acted like a lamb again. It was a beautiful day here yesterday and the sheep really got into the feeling of spring.

Her color will change as she gets older. Her legs and face will stay black but the rest of her will turn silver/gray. Her mom is a Cotswold sheep and while her fiber is a beautiful, shiny silver and gray, it's on the coarse side. The dad sheep is a Bluefaced Leicester and his genetics should make her fiber finer and softer. When she gets her first haircut next fall, I'll be able to tell.

[GreatKazu]

1 hour ago, lovesnark said:

She is SO damn cute! I turned her and her mama out with the flock for the first time yesterday and it was hilarious to watch. All of the yearlings went to give her the once over and when the baby took off running and jumping, as lambs do, everyone in the flock, young and old, joined in. Even elderly Grandma Blanche acted like a lamb again. It was a beautiful day here yesterday and the sheep really got into the feeling of spring.

Her color will change as she gets older. Her legs and face will stay black but the rest of her will turn silver/gray. Her mom is a Cotswold sheep and while her fiber is a beautiful, shiny silver and gray, it's on the coarse side. The dad sheep is a Bluefaced Leicester and his genetics should make her fiber finer and softer. When she gets her first haircut next fall, I'll be able to tell.

Such a blessing.

[animalnurse]

Awwwwww! What a wonderful surprise!

[Tatum]

Hi guys, just checking in. My parents are officially divorcing after more than 38 years of marriage. My dad is filing the paperwork this week. My mom is doing okay, much better than last year. She just got back from an extended vacation and is settling in to her new life. She just made a new friend who is 60 and recently divorced, and they have a lot in common, and are meeting up for dinner soon. My dad is not doing great, but he still says this is what he wants. If he starts dating I am going to lose my shit. I don't want him to be miserable and alone, but the thought of him having a "girlfriend" makes me want to yak.

[Booger666]

Sorry to hear that @Tatum.

[animalnurse]

I'm sorry Tatum. That has got to be rough. 

Edited March 7, 2018 by animalnurse

[FairyDusted]

Wow @Tatum. I'm sorry to hear that. It doesn't matter how old you are that is incredibly painful. I'm taking care of my Father and his wife and broke down yesterday because he refused to go to his doctor appointment. He has missed 5. Not looking good. We will always be children. 

[lovesnark]

I'm so sorry @TATUM. I'm happy your mom is able to begin her new life with a friend she has a lot in common with. Hopefully, your dad will be able to do the same. @FAIRYDUSTED, I took care of my dad for the last few years of his life and he also refused to go have his routine bloodwork done (he took blood thinners and had to have blood drawn all the time). I called his doctor and the doc referred us to a nurse practitioner who specialized in home care for seniors. She was made of awesome and he was able to enjoy the last couple years of his life without ever having to go to the doctor again. The nurse practitioner did his visits at home and arranged for a mobile lab tech to come to his house for any blood draws he needed. Call your dad's doctor and see if there is anything like this available in your area. It's becoming more and more popular everywhere and really makes life easier for the loved one and the family taking care of them!

Does anyone here  have experience with gestational diabetes? Our daughter found out last week that she's developed it. Poor kid. My heart just broke for her because she was blaming herself and it could not have been farther from the truth. She eats an extremely healthy diet and has done everything right before she got pregnant and throughout her pregnancy. She can't get in to see the specialist until next week, so she bought some cookbooks and is eating a dietetic diet. I'm going with her and my son in law to see the specialist and we are hoping she can control things with diet and increased exercise but, if she needs to use insulin, she'll get though it like a champ!  She's 30 weeks along now and is glad this happened now instead of earlier on in her pregnancy. 

[Tatum]

There's definitely a stigma to gestational diabetes, like every woman that has it sits around like Cate and Amber all day long eating bon bons.

 

A woman in my pregnancy group got it and took it really hard as well (like your daughter she was in shape and a healthy eater) . I don't think she needed insulin though- just a major overhaul to her diet (not like she was previously eating candy all day or anything, but now she had to worry about getting in all these different ratios of carbs and fats and it was a huge pain in the ass). My cousin got it (she was a bigger girl before and during pregnancy) and pretty much brushed it off. As far as I know, she didn't have any complications but I definitely don't recommend ignoring an OB's advice!

[GreatKazu]

On ‎3‎/‎7‎/‎2018 at 5:07 AM, Tatum said:

Hi guys, just checking in. My parents are officially divorcing after more than 38 years of marriage. My dad is filing the paperwork this week. My mom is doing okay, much better than last year. She just got back from an extended vacation and is settling in to her new life. She just made a new friend who is 60 and recently divorced, and they have a lot in common, and are meeting up for dinner soon. My dad is not doing great, but he still says this is what he wants. If he starts dating I am going to lose my shit. I don't want him to be miserable and alone, but the thought of him having a "girlfriend" makes me want to yak.

I am sure you are dealing with a lot of emotions right now. I know you were feeling really upset about it last year. I am glad to hear your mom is adjusting and is moving forward. I can feel you on the dad dating issue. Been there after my mom died. It must be definitely hard on you. I am sorry. 

@lovesnark you sound like a great support system for your daughter. She will definitely need it. She surely should not blame herself since that can happen no matter how healthy one is during their pregnancy, but I can understand why she feels that way. It comes with the territory of being pregnant. All those hormones and the emotions are running rampant. I wish her the best during this time and pray all will be fine for her and the baby. 

Edited March 9, 2018 by GreatKazu

[lovesnark]

35 minutes ago, Tatum said:

There's definitely a stigma to gestational diabetes, like every woman that has it sits around like Cate and Amber all day long eating bon bons.

 

A woman in my pregnancy group got it and took it really hard as well (like your daughter she was in shape and a healthy eater) . I don't think she needed insulin though- just a major overhaul to her diet (not like she was previously eating candy all day or anything, but now she had to worry about getting in all these different ratios of carbs and fats and it was a huge pain in the ass). My cousin got it (she was a bigger girl before and during pregnancy) and pretty much brushed it off. As far as I know, she didn't have any complications but I definitely don't recommend ignoring an OB's advice!

She felt a lot better after our 90 minute phone conversation and stopped blaming herself. She told me about a woman at her OB's office that has appointments on the same day as her. She's grossly overweight, reeks of cigarettes, drinks her Mountain Dew in the waiting room while she eats Doritos, hasn't washed her hair or changed her clothes in ages and is breezing through pregnancy with no trouble. Daughter commented on how unfair it is that she winds up with gestational diabetes and NOT this woman. Then said "I know, mom. Life isn't fair. You've told me that for as long as I can remember" - LOL. I think the initial shock really threw her for a loop and the label of now being considered a high risk pregnancy scared the crap out of her. The major concern is the greater possibility of having to be induced and/or having a c section because babies of diabetic moms can get really big. But, the important thing is a healthy mom and a healthy baby, no matter how it's delivered. 

Thanks, @GREATKAZU. After some time had passed, she knew it just happens sometimes, no matter how well you take care of yourself. Part of it was the way her OB handled it. She more or less told my daughter that it was her fault because of the american diet. Her OB is from India and boasted that gestational diabetes is extremely rare there because the diet is so much healthier. But, she doesn't KNOW my daughter and she didn't take them time to even discuss her diet. Just told her to make an appointment with the endocrinologist. This doc has said some things that have made my daughter decide to check out the other OB docs at her office. You want the person who will deliver your baby and will be part of the most amazing day of your life to be someone you feel comfortable with. This woman is NOT that person and, hopefully, there is a doc in that office that has had children of their own (her doc has no kids) and will take the time to get to know their patients as human beings, not their 2:15 appointment.

[Birdee]

Glad she's looking into a new OB! Pregnancy and labor/delivery are hard enough without having to deal with a dr. who doesn't care about you. I love my OB/GYN and can't imagine having to go through pregnancy with someone who talks down to you.

[lovesnark]

11 minutes ago, Birdee said:

Glad she's looking into a new OB! Pregnancy and labor/delivery are hard enough without having to deal with a dr. who doesn't care about you. I love my OB/GYN and can't imagine having to go through pregnancy with someone who talks down to you.

Right? She'd been seeing a nurse practitioner in the office that she loved. She only saw the doctor occasionally and the nurse practitioner doesn't deliver babies, so she's going to talk to the nurse practitioner about a recommendation for a new OB.  The one she'd been seeing is very dismissive and rushes through every appointment. When my daughter had questions, she actually told her to google it! Not the one she wants to deliver her baby, no way, no how.

[Tatum]

48 minutes ago, lovesnark said:

She felt a lot better after our 90 minute phone conversation and stopped blaming herself. She told me about a woman at her OB's office that has appointments on the same day as her. She's grossly overweight, reeks of cigarettes, drinks her Mountain Dew in the waiting room while she eats Doritos, hasn't washed her hair or changed her clothes in ages and is breezing through pregnancy with no trouble....

That happened to me! I didn't have GD, but I did fail my one hour glucose test with both pregnancies and had to come back for the three hour fasting one (failing both leads to a GD diagnosis). The second time I took it in stride, but the first time I went to the bathroom and cried. I felt like such a loser. And then this morbidly obese pregnant lady comes out (full sugar drink in hand) and crows to her mother in the waiting room, I passed! This was particularly painful because they had told me that consuming sugar or carbs the day of the test might lead to failing, regardless of not having GD, so to be on the safe side just stick to proteins the day of, which I did. I gave up my beloved cereal that day for nothing and this chick couldn't even put down her pepsi during her appt (she was being tested across the lab from me) and SHE passed.

 

I totally get that GD is not caused by obesity or poor eating habits but I was pretty raw about it at the time. Good luck to your daughter!

Edited March 9, 2018 by Tatum

[lovesnark]

1 hour ago, Tatum said:

That happened to me! I didn't have GD, but I did fail my one hour glucose test with both pregnancies and had to come back for the three hour fasting one (failing both leads to a GD diagnosis). The second time I took it in stride, but the first time I went to the bathroom and cried. I felt like such a loser. And then this morbidly obese pregnant lady comes out (full sugar drink in hand) and crows to her mother in the waiting room, I passed! This was particularly painful because they had told me that consuming sugar or carbs the day of the test might lead to failing, regardless of not having GD, so to be on the safe side just stick to proteins the day of, which I did. I gave up my beloved cereal that day for nothing and this chick couldn't even put down her pepsi during her appt (she was being tested across the lab from me) and SHE passed.

 

I totally get that GD is not caused by obesity or poor eating habits but I was pretty raw about it at the time. Good luck to your daughter!

That must have been horrible for you! I bet you felt like slapping that Pepsi right out of her hand. I know I would have. I've done some reading about it and I know it's manageable and that placental hormones are what causes it. No woman has control over the hormones her placenta produces and there damn well shouldn't be any stigma attached to it. Unless you're a Cate or Amber and DO lay on the couch all day eating nothing but crap. 

[FairyDusted]

4 hours ago, lovesnark said:

I'm so sorry @TATUM. I'm happy your mom is able to begin her new life with a friend she has a lot in common with. Hopefully, your dad will be able to do the same. @FAIRYDUSTED, I took care of my dad for the last few years of his life and he also refused to go have his routine bloodwork done (he took blood thinners and had to have blood drawn all the time). I called his doctor and the doc referred us to a nurse practitioner who specialized in home care for seniors. She was made of awesome and he was able to enjoy the last couple years of his life without ever having to go to the doctor again. The nurse practitioner did his visits at home and arranged for a mobile lab tech to come to his house for any blood draws he needed. Call your dad's doctor and see if there is anything like this available in your area. It's becoming more and more popular everywhere and really makes life easier for the loved one and the family taking care of them!

Does anyone here  have experience with gestational diabetes? Our daughter found out last week that she's developed it. Poor kid. My heart just broke for her because she was blaming herself and it could not have been farther from the truth. She eats an extremely healthy diet and has done everything right before she got pregnant and throughout her pregnancy. She can't get in to see the specialist until next week, so she bought some cookbooks and is eating a dietetic diet. I'm going with her and my son in law to see the specialist and we are hoping she can control things with diet and increased exercise but, if she needs to use insulin, she'll get though it like a champ!  She's 30 weeks along now and is glad this happened now instead of earlier on in her pregnancy. 

Good advice!   Thank you @lovesnark He gave me permission to speak with the Dr. FuckFace (Caller ID). He's a real Peckerhead but I'm going up to the office on Monday to speak with them. I hate this office but if I can get some help that would be great. My problem really is he has given in. It totally breaks my heart. Yesterday he sent me a music video. Brian Adams, Everything I do. Wrecked me. Usually he sends me Bevis and Butthead or Waylon and Willie. I usually put them in a file but this one I'm keeping in my inbox. Life got real. Real fucking quick. 

[lovesnark]

1 hour ago, FairyDusted said:

Good advice!   Thank you @lovesnark He gave me permission to speak with the Dr. FuckFace (Caller ID). He's a real Peckerhead but I'm going up to the office on Monday to speak with them. I hate this office but if I can get some help that would be great. My problem really is he has given in. It totally breaks my heart. Yesterday he sent me a music video. Brian Adams, Everything I do. Wrecked me. Usually he sends me Bevis and Butthead or Waylon and Willie. I usually put them in a file but this one I'm keeping in my inbox. Life got real. Real fucking quick. 

How old is your dad? And, does his doctor have a lot of experience with geriatric patients? The nurse practitioner that took over Pop's care was SO in tune with geriatric folks and especially medicating them, the change in his attitude and his general health was truly amazing. She made several changes to his meds and his appetite came back, he stopped wanting to lay in bed all the time (because he felt better) and he enjoyed  living again. Let me know if I can help in any way. It's terribly hard to watch our folks get old and sometimes being the one providing care and support can be a very lonely and scary endeavour.

[GreatKazu]

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She felt a lot better after our 90 minute phone conversation and stopped blaming herself. She told me about a woman at her OB's office that has appointments on the same day as her. She's grossly overweight, reeks of cigarettes, drinks her Mountain Dew in the waiting room while she eats Doritos, hasn't washed her hair or changed her clothes in ages and is breezing through pregnancy with no trouble.

I am happy to read this. I am sure the initial shock hit her hard. I am glad to know she will seek another doctor. Generalizing the eating habits of American patients sounds crazy and then, blatantly accusing her without so much as consulting with her about her diet and overall eating habits? Oy. Sounds like a very judgy doctor. As for that gross pregnant woman you described, I wonder, who the hell was so desperate to have sex with her and then impregnate her? Yuck! I am sure he is no prize. 

I don't remember what doctor I was visiting, but I recall her mentioning the Hispanic diet and to stay away from flour tortillas, etc. I think it was one of my pain management doctors from years ago. Anyways, I was blown away because this doctor just assumes I ate flour tortillas and beans with every meal, at least that is how I took it. Yes, I am Hispanic, but that doesn't mean beans and tortillas are the norm. In fact, they rarely are eaten in our home. Yes, I make homemade chicken tacos and rice on occasion, and homemade enchiladas probably once every other month. As for beans, that is probably once every three months. Overall our food consists of baked chicken, steak, turkey meat dishes, sometimes pasta and sometimes fish with lots of veggies and salad.  

Edited March 10, 2018 by GreatKazu

[FairyDusted]

@lovesnark You have it down pretty well. THANK YOU!  I'm bookmarking this to come back to you in the AM . This shit was exhausting . Not AMBER exhausted either LOL .

Nites Folks! Sleep Well in Prevert Land! XoXOX FD

[GreatKazu]

1 hour ago, FairyDusted said:

@lovesnark You have it down pretty well. THANK YOU!  I'm bookmarking this to come back to you in the AM . This shit was exhausting . Not AMBER exhausted either LOL .

Nites Folks! Sleep Well in Prevert Land! XoXOX FD

Nighty night!?

[lovesnark]

Woohoo! My daughter got in with one of her friend and colleague's doctor!! She wasn't accepting new patients but after hearing what's going on, agreed to take her. She sees her next week ?

[Maharincess]

I need some advice my friends.  A little back story first.  My kids biological father was abusive and I left him when my daughter was 2 years old and my son was about 4 months. He stalked and harassed me for about a year, then  disappeared and next I heard of him, detectives were at my door to tell me he had died in a meth lab explosion and needed my help to identify the body.    In the meantime I had met Luke when my kids were 5 and 3 and he's been their daddy ever since and he's the best dad. He's also a fantastic grandpa and our grandkids adore him.   Luke and I celebrate 29 years together in May.  My 9 year old granddaughter has been asking a lot of questions lately, like how come my daughter and son don't have their daddy's name like she and her brother do. My kids half brother has also contacted them and wants to reconnect. My granddaughter doesn't understand how he is her uncle and her mom's brother but not my son. 

My daughter and I know it's time to sit her down and explain our family.   Neither of us has ever been in a situation like this and have no clue where to start. We're of course going to do the "family doesn't have to be blood and grandpa doesn't love you any less because you don't share blood" but other than that we're stumped.  How do you tell a little girl that her grandpa isn't her "real" grandpa.  He is her real grandpa in every single way that's important,  but you know what I mean. 

Did we do her wrong by waiting so long? Should this have always been a part of conversation so she understood from the start?  We're both feeling guilty about it.   Any advice???

[SweetieDarling]

7 hours ago, Maharincess said:

I need some advice my friends.  A little back story first.  My kids biological father was abusive and I left him when my daughter was 2 years old and my son was about 4 months. He stalked and harassed me for about a year, then  disappeared and next I heard of him, detectives were at my door to tell me he had died in a meth lab explosion and needed my help to identify the body.    In the meantime I had met Luke when my kids were 5 and 3 and he's been their daddy ever since and he's the best dad. He's also a fantastic grandpa and our grandkids adore him.   Luke and I celebrate 29 years together in May.  My 9 year old granddaughter has been asking a lot of questions lately, like how come my daughter and son don't have their daddy's name like she and her brother do. My kids half brother has also contacted them and wants to reconnect. My granddaughter doesn't understand how he is her uncle and her mom's brother but not my son. 

My daughter and I know it's time to sit her down and explain our family.   Neither of us has ever been in a situation like this and have no clue where to start. We're of course going to do the "family doesn't have to be blood and grandpa doesn't love you any less because you don't share blood" but other than that we're stumped.  How do you tell a little girl that her grandpa isn't her "real" grandpa.  He is her real grandpa in every single way that's important,  but you know what I mean. 

Did we do her wrong by waiting so long? Should this have always been a part of conversation so she understood from the start?  We're both feeling guilty about it.   Any advice???

If she's 9, she may be able to understand more than you think. If it were me, I would leave out the nasty abusive and meth-lab stuff, and just tell her that you separated/divorced years ago, her mother's and uncle's father passed away (if asked, give minimal or vague info), and you were lucky enough have Luke come into your lives and be a wonderful father and husband. She probably has some classmates whose parents are divorced, so the concept of the differing last names and the half-brother might not be too hard for her to comprehend. I don't think you've done her any disservice by not explaining this. It sounds like she has an amazing family, and, imo, that's what's most important.

[SPLAIN]

@MaharincessI was 7 years old when I was told I was adopted. I fully understood what I was being told. I think my advice would be to just keep it simple. My adoption was said to me in very simple terms.  I was almost ecstatic to hear I was adopted. It opened my eyes to the fact that I was truly loved by my parents because, as my 7 year old mind thought, "I am not really their kid and they love me like I am." It was a special feeling and one I carry to this day. When I was told about my adoption, I had a few questions then. As I got older I had more questions. As a matter of fact, just last year I asked my sister more questions. You don't have to go into every single detail. Kids can only soak up so much information. As she gets older you can tell her little by little. In fact, let her know if she ever has any questions, to don't hesitate to ask.

My advice - take it or leave it - about the previous husband is you can be upfront with her and let her know that you were in a marriage that wasn't healthy for you. A simple, "I was married to a guy who was hurting me in many ways." It may be a chance to give her a little education about loving and respectful relationships and how people should never put their hands on her.  I think she is at an age that it is not too early to teach kids about abusive relationships. Segue that into how she is loved and surrounded by wonderful family members. Then you can let her know how your new husband came into your life and with that, a new and loving family. I know you will figure it out as you speak to her. Sometimes kids will lead the conversation as you talk to them about such topics.

Edited March 25, 2018 by SPLAIN

[Maharincess]

Thank you both. 

@SweetieDarling, it goes without saying that we wouldn't tell her about the meth lab, she doesn't need to know that.  

@SPLAIN, what you said is pretty much how we are planning to tell her. That I was married to a man who hurt me and then I found her grandpa who loves me and our family and couldn't love us more if he did share blood with them.  She adores her grandpa, I have pictures of him, a 6 foot 4 inch truck driving Teamster crammed into a tiny pink chair having a tea party with her and her dolls.  He's also had his nails painted multiple times and once he let her color in his tattoos with pink permanent marker. 

[LBS]

@Maharincess there is nothing stronger than teaching your grand babies (male or female) that actively leaving for an unknown future is 300% than living in a known bad situation.   Your daughter gained wisdom and strength from you and you both will teach your granddaughter the same.  Family is love not genetics.   You taught by example.  Kudos to you both!  You have nothing to worry about.  

[Maharincess]

4 hours ago, LBS said:

@Maharincess there is nothing stronger than teaching your grand babies (male or female) that actively leaving for an unknown future is 300% than living in a known bad situation.   Your daughter gained wisdom and strength from you and you both will teach your granddaughter the same.  Family is love not genetics.   You taught by example.  Kudos to you both!  You have nothing to worry about.  

Thank you for this.   One of the main reasons I escaped that relationship is because I didn't want my daughter to grow up thinking that being abused was normal in relationships and I didn't want my son to grow up to be an abuser.  My son is a wonderful partner to his girlfriend of almost 10 years but I know he would have been complicated different if I'd stayed.  He's told me everything he is today is because of his dad (we refer to their biological father by his initials whenever we mention him). 

Thanks again everyone. I appreciate the advice so much. 

[GreatKazu]

21 hours ago, LBS said:

@Maharincess there is nothing stronger than teaching your grand babies (male or female) that actively leaving for an unknown future is 300% than living in a known bad situation.   Your daughter gained wisdom and strength from you and you both will teach your granddaughter the same.  Family is love not genetics.   You taught by example.  Kudos to you both!  You have nothing to worry about.  

I think that is a wonderful way of putting things in perspective. 

I agree with the sentiments that it will be a chance to teach your daughter about learning to set boundaries and to protect herself from future harm. The first time someone disrespects you, lays a hand on you, verbally or physically harms you, they should never be allowed a second opportunity. When teaching our kids about protecting themselves from predators and molesters, abusive relationships should be a part of that talk because it all goes back to a child's boundary being protected. 

[animalnurse]

On 3/9/2018 at 10:27 AM, lovesnark said:

Does anyone here  have experience with gestational diabetes? Our daughter found out last week that she's developed it. Poor kid. My heart just broke for her because she was blaming herself and it could not have been farther from the truth. She eats an extremely healthy diet and has done everything right before she got pregnant and throughout her pregnancy. She can't get in to see the specialist until next week, so she bought some cookbooks and is eating a dietetic diet. I'm going with her and my son in law to see the specialist and we are hoping she can control things with diet and increased exercise but, if she needs to use insulin, she'll get though it like a champ!  She's 30 weeks along now and is glad this happened now instead of earlier on in her pregnancy. 

I'm late to the party as usual and I hope your daughter has already received all the answers she needs from her new OB and diabetes care provider. But I wanted to let you know that I had gestational diabetes. I ended up on insulin and my son had (temporary) complications. He and I are doing great now and I'd be more than happy to answer any questions you might have!

[GreatKazu]

On ‎3‎/‎10‎/‎2018 at 6:48 AM, lovesnark said:

Woohoo! My daughter got in with one of her friend and colleague's doctor!! She wasn't accepting new patients but after hearing what's going on, agreed to take her. She sees her next week ?

How did things go? 

[lovesnark]

It looks like the diagnosis of gestational diabetes may have been a mistake. After Seeing the diabetes doc and 10 days of glucose testing 4 times a day, the doc told her everything was perfect and to eat whatever she wants. Her new OB (who she loves!!) will keep a close eye on everything but it looks like everything is moving along just like it should and mom and peanut are in perfect health. What a relief!!

[druzy]

1 hour ago, lovesnark said:

It looks like the diagnosis of gestational diabetes may have been a mistake. After Seeing the diabetes doc and 10 days of glucose testing 4 times a day, the doc told her everything was perfect and to eat whatever she wants. Her new OB (who she loves!!) will keep a close eye on everything but it looks like everything is moving along just like it should and mom and peanut are in perfect health. What a relief!!

Great news!

[ReadMeLattice]

3 hours ago, lovesnark said:

It looks like the diagnosis of gestational diabetes may have been a mistake. After Seeing the diabetes doc and 10 days of glucose testing 4 times a day, the doc told her everything was perfect and to eat whatever she wants. Her new OB (who she loves!!) will keep a close eye on everything but it looks like everything is moving along just like it should and mom and peanut are in perfect health. What a relief!!

That's great! Gestational diabetes is very rough, I've heard.

[animalnurse]

6 hours ago, lovesnark said:

It looks like the diagnosis of gestational diabetes may have been a mistake. After Seeing the diabetes doc and 10 days of glucose testing 4 times a day, the doc told her everything was perfect and to eat whatever she wants. Her new OB (who she loves!!) will keep a close eye on everything but it looks like everything is moving along just like it should and mom and peanut are in perfect health. What a relief!!

I'm so relieved for her! What great news!!!