S08.E04: The Boy Who Cried Divorce

[Pepper Mostly]

Jasmine: Things are very tense in our house. 

Pepper Mostly: So, business as usual, then? 

[MagicEyes]

1 minute ago, magemaud said:

Trying to think of nice things to say about tonight’s episode. Any ideas? 

It's almost over! 

[magemaud]

Callum is cute. That’s all I got 

[Pepper Mostly]

1 minute ago, magemaud said:

Trying to think of nice things to say about tonight’s episode. Any ideas? 

It's almost over? 

[MagicEyes]

Jasmine has a little bald spot. 🙁

[For Cereals]

1 minute ago, magemaud said:

Trying to think of nice things to say about tonight’s episode. Any ideas? 

It looks like all the couples are experiencing nice weather in all their locations. 

[Pepper Mostly]

Jasmine, you LOVE to feel that way. 

[magemaud]

Why is the photographer sitting so much higher than Gino and Jasmine? It makes me think of “Clifford the Big Red Dog.” 

Edited April 8 by magemaud

[For Cereals]

I never thought to use a push broom to clean my windshield.

[xls]

8 minutes ago, magemaud said:

Why is the photographer sitting so much higher than Gino and Jasmine? 

So she can see what pictures they are on in the book?

[Pepper Mostly]

Sigh. Well, goodnight peeps! See you on the other side! 

[magemaud]

Fun fact. I was looking up Our Lady of Perpetual Help in Rochester, and while there is a church by that name in the diocese, the interior scenes were from OLPH in BUFFALO, 75 miles away. 

Edited April 9 by magemaud
clarity

[tvrox]

1 hour ago, Pepper Mostly said:

I had to go outside and have a smoke to calm my nerves. I'm feeling so sad about losing our oddball community we've made here. 

It would take time away from his Bible reading. Plus banging Ashley is a full time job.

I'm in withdrawal from the chat!

Hi everyone, hope you are well. 

[xls]

We could start or find a private FB group or some other platform

[Pepper Mostly]

6 minutes ago, xls said:

We could start or find a private FB group or some other platform

I'll message you. 

[tvrox]

54 minutes ago, magemaud said:

CALLUM looks smug?  

Did Callum seem not so straight to anyone else? I don't think Rob has anything to worry about. 

[goldensglitter]

WTH happened in the chat?? I came here as I do every Sunday night to read the snark and have a few laughs, and its locked.  Im in the dark about why this happened.  This sucks.

[anoninrva]

4 hours ago, magemaud said:

Fun fact. I was looking up Our Lady of Perpetual Help in Rochester, and while there is a church by that name there, the interior shots were from OLPH in BUFFALO, 75 miles away. 

They were driving for a while.  They didn't show the readings.  It's possible they looked for a Spanish language service (I know what was shown was in English, but that's a tiny fraction of the mass) and didn't look that well.

[magemaud]

2 hours ago, goldensglitter said:

WTH happened in the chat?? I came here as I do every Sunday night to read the snark and have a few laughs, and its locked.  Im in the dark about why this happened.  This sucks.

There was a message posted Tuesday night by a mod at the top of the last page of the Live Chat (1634) saying we haven’t been playing nice so the chat is shut down until we behave. 

[Pepper Mostly]

6 hours ago, goldensglitter said:

WTH happened in the chat?? I came here as I do every Sunday night to read the snark and have a few laughs, and its locked.  Im in the dark about why this happened.  This sucks.

Read the mod note. We've been naughty. 

[Gobi]

Wait? What? So, we can’t snark anymore? And I was tempted to watch last night.

I leave you guys alone for a few weeks and this is what happens!

Looks like I picked the wrong week to stop sniffing glue!

Edited April 8 by Gobi

[Pepper Mostly]

1 hour ago, Gobi said:

Wait? What? So, we can’t snark anymore? And I was tempted to watch last night.

I leave you guys alone for a few weeks and this is what happens!

Looks like I picked the wrong week to stop sniffing glue!

@Gobi, I'll message you. 

[suzeecat]

1 hour ago, Pepper Mostly said:

@Gobi, I'll message you. 

Please keep me in the loop as well!  Thanks!

[Shrek]

Just came to read the live chat & it's locked! I know I missed stuff because my posts were being moderated and even having asked about 6 different mods what I had said & what the guidelines were I got ZERO replies so you guys are out of luck if you want to know.

Great lesson in how to kill a message board. I knew it was bad before as I'm on my 2nd account anyway but jeez. 

 

[magemaud]

3 hours ago, Gobi said:

I leave you guys alone for a few weeks and this is what happens!

It’s Jihoon’s fault! 

[JayDub1987]

Probably just makes the most sense to start talking about the show on.....another platform. Perhaps one that starts with a primary color (that isn't blue or yellow) and ends with "dit," for me. This whole green light/red light system makes me feel like I'm being spoken to like a preschooler. Kinda had a feeling that was the direction this site was going after the third or fourth long-term shutdown to "improve." 

[ethalfrida]

13 hours ago, Pepper Mostly said:

I'll message you. 

Please, I want in. Hardly ever watch the shows, it’s better to come here and read what you all think.

[Pepper Mostly]

47 minutes ago, ethalfrida said:

Please, I want in. Hardly ever watch the shows, it’s better to come here and read what you all think.

@ethalfrida, I just messaged you!

[Shrek]

If anybody would care to let me in on this I would appreciate it. Thanks

[Gobi]

48 minutes ago, Shrek said:

If anybody would care to let me in on this I would appreciate it. Thanks

Go to the last page of the live chat. There’s a lengthy note from the mods explaining it. Page 1634, right at the top.

Edited April 8 by Gobi

[magemaud]

10 hours ago, anoninrva said:

They were driving for a while.  They didn't show the readings.  It's possible they looked for a Spanish language service (I know what was shown was in English, but that's a tiny fraction of the mass) and didn't look that well.

I doubt they had to go that far to find a Spanish Mass and the responses they showed would usually be said in Spanish. I think it might be because they needed to find a church that would allow them to film. 

[anoninrva]

29 minutes ago, magemaud said:

I doubt they had to go that far to find a Spanish Mass and the responses they showed would usually be said in Spanish. I think it might be because they needed to find a church that would allow them to film. 

They might have had to drive that far to find a deacon who wanted to be filmed and spoke fluent Spanish, though.

Our Cathedral does Spanish readings with English mass.  There are plenty of churches here with all Spanish services.  Richmond doesn't have a particularly large Hispanic population, but they are a very large proportion of practicing Catholics.

[heatherchandler]

6 hours ago, Pepper Mostly said:

Read the mod note. We've been naughty. 

I couldn’t find the note but I saw an admonishment on another forum… This is insane.  We can’t make fun of the people on the show?  That’s why we are here.

[JayDub1987]

Also, @Pepper Mostly, if you could let me in on what’s up, I’d appreciate it. I’m not gonna continue providing traffic to a site that wants to treat its users like children. 

[Pepper Mostly]

7 minutes ago, JayDub1987 said:

Also, @Pepper Mostly, if you could let me in on what’s up, I’d appreciate it. I’m not gonna continue providing traffic to a site that wants to treat its users like children. 

@JayDub1987, I just messaged you!

[magemaud]

1 hour ago, heatherchandler said:

I couldn’t find the note but I saw an admonishment on another forum… This is insane.  We can’t make fun of the people on the show?  That’s why we are here.

I'll cut and paste it here: 

Message added by CM-CrispMtAir, Tuesday at 11:06 PM

  Red Light: Community Check-In

This live chat thread has been assigned red light status due to a number of posts that don’t align with our community values of respect, diversity and inclusivity.

As it is representative of the general tone across the 90Day Fiancée forums, the live chat will remain locked until we observe a broader adoption of a more inclusive tone in the other topics.

Let’s shift the focus from the individual to their actions, fostering a space where every participant feels respected in their humanity. Consider how your words might influence not only current members but also those who observe from afar and how it shapes their perception of our forum's culture.

The topics will maintain this Red Light status until we observe a broader adoption of a more inclusive tone.

Here's what we're focusing on:

- Improvement Period: We have until May 2nd, 2024 to enhance the quality of our discussions. Otherwise, the entire 90Day Fiancée forum will be assigned Yellow Light status.

- Guidance: Highlighting what works well and identifying areas for growth are crucial. Our aim is constructive, respectful dialogue that includes all perspectives. The principle of kindness and inclusivity applies to everyone, even to the participants of the show. (Please note that that doesn’t mean you have to condone everything they say and do. It just means that comments should be mindful of their humanity).

- Assistance: If you’re unsure about contributing constructively, please consult our guidelines for helpful advice and best practices.
Check out the Top Chef S20 Live Chat for reference on healthy discussions of contestants.

- Your Contribution: Your active, respectful participation can help guide our discussions toward a Green Light status.

Together, we're committed to making this forum an inclusive environment for everyone. Your thoughtful engagement is essential to our collective progress.

[Gobi]

So, we’re in a red light district now?

[xls]

Who decides all this stuff &why can't we take a vote?

 

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[Pepper Mostly]

1 hour ago, Gobi said:

So, we’re in a red light district now?

Well, I personally find that delightful!

[heatherchandler]

1 hour ago, magemaud said:

I'll cut and paste it here: 

Message added by CM-CrispMtAir, Tuesday at 11:06 PM

  Red Light: Community Check-In

This live chat thread has been assigned red light status due to a number of posts that don’t align with our community values of respect, diversity and inclusivity.

As it is representative of the general tone across the 90Day Fiancée forums, the live chat will remain locked until we observe a broader adoption of a more inclusive tone in the other topics.

Let’s shift the focus from the individual to their actions, fostering a space where every participant feels respected in their humanity. Consider how your words might influence not only current members but also those who observe from afar and how it shapes their perception of our forum's culture.

The topics will maintain this Red Light status until we observe a broader adoption of a more inclusive tone.

Here's what we're focusing on:

- Improvement Period: We have until May 2nd, 2024 to enhance the quality of our discussions. Otherwise, the entire 90Day Fiancée forum will be assigned Yellow Light status.

- Guidance: Highlighting what works well and identifying areas for growth are crucial. Our aim is constructive, respectful dialogue that includes all perspectives. The principle of kindness and inclusivity applies to everyone, even to the participants of the show. (Please note that that doesn’t mean you have to condone everything they say and do. It just means that comments should be mindful of their humanity).

- Assistance: If you’re unsure about contributing constructively, please consult our guidelines for helpful advice and best practices.
Check out the Top Chef S20 Live Chat for reference on healthy discussions of contestants.

- Your Contribution: Your active, respectful participation can help guide our discussions toward a Green Light status.

Together, we're committed to making this forum an inclusive environment for everyone. Your thoughtful engagement is essential to our collective progress.

(Picks mouth up from floor)

WHAT???

 

1 hour ago, Gobi said:

So, we’re in a red light district now?

That’s the kinda talk that’s going to get us kicked off!  Lolololol

 

So I assume the forum is over (probably all forums) and we are all off to somewhere else right?

I’ve seen the end of days before.  RIP televisionwithoutpity.  

[magemaud]

If someone is so offended by what is posted here, nobody is forcing them to stick around. 

[xls]

21 minutes ago, magemaud said:

If someone is so offended by what is posted here, nobody is forcing them to stick around. 

And who are we not 'including'?

[magemaud]

I totally agree with not saying offensive things about other posters, but these "reality stars" have deliberately put themselves in the public eye and I consider them fair game. If they act like idiots...

[xls]

25 minutes ago, magemaud said:

I totally agree with not saying offensive things about other posters, but these "reality stars" have deliberately put themselves in the public eye and I consider them fair game. If they act like idiots...

If we can't snark about them what's the point of having a forum? 

[CrazyInAlabama]

So, after Ashley and Manuel have been married this long, and are on a national TV show, she thinks no one knows about her religious practices? 

 

 

[TMI]

Bg Brother is watching!  Thought forums were a place for watchers to react to shows. I have lost faith in TLC with the inclusion of the repetitive cast and creating "stars " out of the people on the shows BUT enjoyed reading an paticipating in the forums esp the one just closed SO I am done with both and the result I'll be an increase amount of free time,,,Will miss the posters here but FAREWELL PRIMETIME and TLC,,,,somehow I feel that my free speech has been diminished....beware

 

[JayDub1987]

Just a heads up, we're probably all going to get in trouble for even talking about this. I got a "point" once for saying that I got a message from an angry mod.

I bet I get a point for this, too. 

[magemaud]

1 hour ago, CrazyInAlabama said:

So, after Ashley and Manuel have been married this long, and are on a national TV show, she thinks no one knows about her religious practices? 

 

 

And Manuel hasn't been to a Mass in the year that he's been here nor gone to visit his relatives in New York, oops, make that Newark. 

[mytmo]

@Pepper Mostly can you message me?  Thanks.

[Azanscrazyhair]

1 hour ago, mytmo said:

@Pepper Mostly can you message me?  Thanks.

Will you please message me too 

I don't comment often, but I love the boards.