90DF Live Chat 3: I Gave Up Everything To Be Here

[sainte-chapelle]

2 minutes ago, Suzywriter said:

So, while nothing interesting is going on, I seem to have gotten myself into some hot water.  My friend from a few states over came to visit while he was in the state on other business. One thing didn't quite lead to another but it probably will next time. 

He's married, and I should run. 

Notice me not running. 

Oh dear. I had a friend in a similar situation and it ended…badly. Try to meet in public and maintain the close friendship you have.

[charmed1]

“I don’t trust women.” Giant red flag. Run Violet.

[Auntie Anxiety]

Riley: Thank you for apologizing. I know it’s hard for you to admit that you’re wrong.

Me: Projection much?

[MagicEyes]

Riley is a major-league asshole, so that means he’s now a permanent 90-day cast member.

[Bees52]

Run, Violet, run. He won't ever trust you, or anyone. Period.

[Pepper Mostly]

Just now, Eldemarge said:

I DON'T TRUST WOMEN

Okay, then stay indoors and don't fucking bother us.

He doesn't trust women but his sex pest dick is screaming for attention. An old sock is not doing it. 

[OneGuy]

Violet just wanted you to shut up.

[sainte-chapelle]

My situation is I have a freelancer working on a project…said she could do it no problem…briefed her several times. She kept making excuses for not hitting the first round deadline. Finally after I pushed she sent it and let’s say it is…not good. I need to send to another company to do it in time. Not sure what to tell her.

[Eldemarge]

When my ex-husband and I first got married, he explained to me that his last girlfriend cheated on him and therefore, he would just never trust me.  Then he treated me like I was the town whore for 14 years, when I was just trying to be a good wife and do everything he wanted.

When a man tells you he doesn't trust women by default, you believe him and RUN.

[Doublemint]

3 minutes ago, Suzywriter said:

So, while nothing interesting is going on, I seem to have gotten myself into some hot water.  My friend from a few states over came to visit while he was in the state on other business. One thing didn't quite lead to another but it probably will next time. 

He's married, and I should run. 

Notice me not running. 

Pull back and reconsider - you're too smart to look for trouble.

[Suzywriter]

3 minutes ago, greekmom said:

I would love to hear the ex's side of this story

Is his the one he caught with a man hiding in the closet? That sounds like a plot in a Neil Simon play.

[Auntie Anxiety]

Just now, sainte-chapelle said:

My situation is I have a freelancer working on a project…said she could do it no problem…briefed her several times. She kept making excuses for not hitting the first round deadline. Finally after I pushed she sent it and let’s say it is…not good. I need to send to another company to do it in time. Not sure what to tell her.

“I think I need to go in another direction.” 

[Gobi]

"It's very hard for Violet to admit when she's wrong." Pot, meet kettle.

[magemaud]

Just now, Suzywriter said:

Is his the one he caught with a man hiding in the closet? That sounds like a plot in a Neil Simon play.

The old “bedroom farce” 

[Auntie Anxiety]

Just now, Suzywriter said:

Is his the one he caught with a man hiding in the closet? That sounds like a plot in a Neil Simon play.

Actually, it’s straight out of R. Kelly.

[Doublemint]

1 minute ago, sainte-chapelle said:

My situation is I have a freelancer working on a project…said she could do it no problem…briefed her several times. She kept making excuses for not hitting the first round deadline. Finally after I pushed she sent it and let’s say it is…not good. I need to send to another company to do it in time. Not sure what to tell her.

The truth - it would be the most beneficial  for her future endeavors.

[Suzywriter]

1 minute ago, Doublemint said:

Pull back and reconsider - you're too smart to look for trouble.

Yeah, but not too smart for some potentially explosive sex with someone that I actually like but don't have to navigate more than a couple of times a year.  Oy. I'm talking myself into it, aren't I?

[greekmom]

When did she go to a hotel?

[Gobi]

Just now, Suzywriter said:

Yeah, but not too smart for some potentially explosive sex with someone that I actually like but don't have to navigate more than a couple of times a year.  Oy. I'm talking myself into it, aren't I?

This will not end well.

[For Cereals]

This new couple on TOW should not be around open flames…that’s a lot of face work…

[greekmom]

Razvan you should have found someone who wasn't as damaged.

[Auntie Anxiety]

Amanda is now reconsidering her poor choices. And now she goes running back to her kids and her husband’s ashes. Razvan should have had a plan B. Now he’ll need to find another young widow to get him into the US.

[Pepper Mostly]

2 minutes ago, sainte-chapelle said:

My situation is I have a freelancer working on a project…said she could do it no problem…briefed her several times. She kept making excuses for not hitting the first round deadline. Finally after I pushed she sent it and let’s say it is…not good. I need to send to another company to do it in time. Not sure what to tell her.

Is the freelancer from an agency? Call the agency and ask them to remove her and send a replacement. Tell them why and let them handle it. If not, and you have to tell her yourself, just tell her the truth. You were assured that she could deliver the goods and she let you down, causing additional trouble and expense. You're sure that she'll be a great fit somewhere, but its clear that its not with your team. 

[Suzywriter]

4 minutes ago, sainte-chapelle said:

My situation is I have a freelancer working on a project…said she could do it no problem…briefed her several times. She kept making excuses for not hitting the first round deadline. Finally after I pushed she sent it and let’s say it is…not good. I need to send to another company to do it in time. Not sure what to tell her.

Will she still get paid for her work if you use another company? 

[sainte-chapelle]

5 minutes ago, Auntie Anxiety said:

“I think I need to go in another direction.” 

Thanks I think I will say due to timing we need to take this back internally. I don’t want to be an asshole but I should probably tell her the templates  are not functioning correctly but in a nice way.  She needs to know. I don’t want to hurt her feelings, she is young, but if you don’t have the skill set to do a project don’t take it on you know?

Edited August 28, 2023 by sainte-chapelle

[LEILANI2]

12 minutes ago, Suzywriter said:

So, while nothing interesting is going on, I seem to have gotten myself into some hot water.  My friend from a few states over came to visit while he was in the state on other business. One thing didn't quite lead to another but it probably will next time. 

He's married, and I should run. 

Notice me not running. 

What do you want out of this... sex or for him to leave his wife? If just sex that's taboo then fine, otherwise married men will cheat with anyone willing, it's not the flattery you might think it is.  Go on Tinder to get that itch scratched and leave married men alone.

Does he have small children because sex is easy to get anywhere if you're a 2 out of 10 and female with working body parts, not worth ruining a family.

Edited August 28, 2023 by LEILANI2

[kacesq]

Just now, Auntie Anxiety said:

Amanda is now reconsidering her poor choices. And now she goes running back to her kids and her husband’s ashes. Razvan should have had a plan B. Now he’ll need to find another young widow to get him into the US.

Amanda will find a new great love as soon as she hits the states. I’m over her. 

[Auntie Anxiety]

1 minute ago, Suzywriter said:

Yeah, but not too smart for some potentially explosive sex with someone that I actually like but don't have to navigate more than a couple of times a year.  Oy. I'm talking myself into it, aren't I?

Beware the Unintended consequences, like he’s going to divorce his wife or some shit like that.

[Suzywriter]

5 minutes ago, Eldemarge said:

When my ex-husband and I first got married, he explained to me that his last girlfriend cheated on him and therefore, he would just never trust me.  Then he treated me like I was the town whore for 14 years, when I was just trying to be a good wife and do everything he wanted.

When a man tells you he doesn't trust women by default, you believe him and RUN.

Oy, I had the same nonsense. I wonder if the last girlfriend cheated because she was tired of being treated like she was cheating. 

[Doublemint]

1 minute ago, Suzywriter said:

Yeah, but not too smart for some potentially explosive sex with someone that I actually like but don't have to navigate more than a couple of times a year.  Oy. I'm talking myself into it, aren't I?

You might fall madly in love and want more and get hurt - but you already know this.  

[magemaud]

Amanda: “like…like…like…”

[Suzywriter]

1 minute ago, sainte-chapelle said:

Thanks I think I will say due to timing we need to take this back internally. I don’t want to be an asshole but I should probably tell her the templates  are not functioning correctly but in a nice way. I don’t want to hurt her feelings, she is young, but if you don’t have the skill set to do a project don’t take it on you know?

You're not hurting feelings to tell someone that they are charging you for a product that does not fit your needs. 

[Gobi]

I am sure there are a multitude of acting jobs in the US for heavily accented Romanians.

Edited August 28, 2023 by Gobi

[For Cereals]

Just now, sainte-chapelle said:

Thanks I think I will say due to timing we need to take this back internally. I don’t want to be an asshole but I should probably tell her the templates  are not functioning correctly but in a nice way. I don’t want to hurt her feelings, she is young, but if you don’t have the skill set to do a project don’t take it on you know?

I agree with the honest approach here.  She needs to learn and you deserve to be satisfied with the work.  Give her polite but actionable feedback.  Her feelings may be hurt regardless but it will be better for her.

[judylo]

I hate that bitch Amanda.

[Pepper Mostly]

2 minutes ago, Suzywriter said:

Yeah, but not too smart for some potentially explosive sex with someone that I actually like but don't have to navigate more than a couple of times a year.  Oy. I'm talking myself into it, aren't I?

You are, and you know it, sister. Do you know his wife? Would you ever run into her socially? And what if the sex is, you know, just fine? Not explosive? Don't do it. If you have to talk yourself into it then its not worth it. Think of the aggravation and the potential blowback. Not worth it for a few afternoons of fun. 

[Eldemarge]

@Suzywriter whatever you decide to do or not do with this dude, I fully support your decision! 💘

[Auntie Anxiety]

Amanda got what she, um, came for. She was horny. Now she’s ready to go home.

[Suzywriter]

1 minute ago, Auntie Anxiety said:

Beware the Unintended consequences, like he’s going to divorce his wife or some shit like that.

Good God, I hope not! He has a lot of good qualities, but it would just be too complicated. I'm not worried about him leaving her. I'm worried about getting outed on FB.

[kacesq]

Oh puhleeze. Razvan just isn’t what you want or who you expected. Find yourself another older dude who will pay your way and keep you in Botox. 

Also Razvan? You are not that good an actor because you clearly are more upset about losing your ticket to America than losing Amanda.

[sainte-chapelle]

7 minutes ago, Pepper Mostly said:

Is the freelancer from an agency? Call the agency and ask them to remove her and send a replacement. Tell them why and let them handle it. If not, and you have to tell her yourself, just tell her the truth. You were assured that she could deliver the goods and she let you down, causing additional trouble and expense. You're sure that she'll be a great fit somewhere, but its clear that its not with your team. 

Freelancer, we still will use her for smaller projects. This one was little above her experience level as what I got back is not functioning at all the way it should. I think she thought it was easier than it is and once she started  realized this and stalled for time. We use her for other things so I trusted her.

@Suzywriter I am fine to pay her for the time she spent on it but she didn’t deliver what we needed. 

Edited August 28, 2023 by sainte-chapelle

[charmed1]

If Razvan were just a little more trashy he’d be perfect for Darcey. 

[Pepper Mostly]

2 minutes ago, Suzywriter said:

You're not hurting feelings to tell someone that they are charging you for a product that does not fit your needs. 

Exactly. If she's smart she can learn from it. She'll need a certain amount of ass kicking in life. Why not start now?

[Doublemint]

There's an actor's/ writer's strike here - so stay home Razan.

[For Cereals]

1 minute ago, Auntie Anxiety said:

Amanda got what she, um, came for. She was horny. Now she’s ready to go home.

Oh no she wasn’t.  That was a spite fuck because of what his friend said.  She would still be trying to avoid sex if the friend hadn’t told her she was toxic.

[Auntie Anxiety]

Janelle and Christine are color coordinated. Did they decide that black and purple are their team colors? The Ex-Wives.

Edited August 28, 2023 by Auntie Anxiety

[greekmom]

Just now, Doublemint said:

There's an actor's/ writer's strike here - so stay home Razan.

This was probably filmed a year ago

[magemaud]

I hope this means the end of Amanda on my tv 

[Bees52]

Aww Amanda's over there breaking Romanian hotties' hearts left and right.

I cry for Razvan! 😢

[For Cereals]

Just now, sainte-chapelle said:

Freelancer, we still will use her for smaller projects. This one was little above her experience level as what I got back is not functioning at all the way it should. I think she thought it was easier than it is and once she for into realized this and stalled for time. We use her for other things so I trusted her.

@Suzywriter I am fine to pay her for the time she spent on it but she didn’t deliver what we needed. 

Nope not even that.  I think I would short pay and I will swear up and down the FB AITAH group that you are not!