90DF Live Chat 3: I Gave Up Everything To Be Here

[tvrox]

59 minutes ago, greekmom said:

@sainte-chapelle

alayn and kiriam

justin and eveyln

Danny and Amy

kyle and noon

fernando and carolina

 

Alayn and Kiram were good! So many seasons, so many couples. 

[Suzywriter]

4 minutes ago, Pepper Mostly said:

And here we go. Statler is now going to make Dempsey responsible for all her past (unresolved) trauma. "Wah, I'm adopted! Wah, no one loves me! Wah, if you don't let me move in it will break my heart and traumatize me more!" 

Dempsey, run. Run, don't walk away from this toxic mess. 

In my office, the slogan is "adopted means you were loved twice as much". Say that 10 times every morning, Stapler. 

[greekmom]

I don't understand why no one LITERALY NO ONE has brought it up to Stapler that she cannot just up and move to the UK.

If that was the case, everyone would just up and move there.

[Doublemint]

4 minutes ago, Pepper Mostly said:

That had me rolling. "Leaving all her comforts behind"? Seriously? Its not like England is some untamed wilderness. Fuck off. 

Hot water & heat?

[For Cereals]

Just now, tvrox said:

Alayn and Kiram were good! So many seasons, so many couples. 

The age difference and virgin/purity hunt was a little creepy to me

[Pepper Mostly]

4 minutes ago, sainte-chapelle said:

But she might have left her car behind

If Statler has a car I'll eat my crown, since I am the Queen of Romania.

[magemaud]

5 minutes ago, Suzywriter said:

You may be right...how old is David? It's a fairly new innovation for parents to immerse themselves in a child's world. 

He’s 42 and in his first episode we were told his parents shipped him off to deaf school at a young age and never learned how to sign. 

[Suzywriter]

Just now, greekmom said:

I don't understand why no one LITERALY NO ONE has brought it up to Stapler that she cannot just up and move to the UK.

If that was the case, everyone would just up and move there.

That's why she needs to move in with someone established there. She has to create the drama of an expiring visa and fear of deportation and not being able to work instead of doing the legwork. 

[Gobi]

Yeah, Riley, go fly a kite.

[AR Traveler]

1 minute ago, greekmom said:

I don't understand why no one LITERALY NO ONE has brought it up to Stapler that she cannot just up and move to the UK.

If that was the case, everyone would just up and move there.

My only thought was that discussing a visa and so on makes it sound like moving in is on the table, and Dempsey doesn't want to give that opening.

[Auntie Anxiety]

That kite flying is cool.

[tvrox]

1 hour ago, Suzywriter said:

It would be hard to explain all of those daughters. 

They would magically become "sisters." 

[Doublemint]

1 minute ago, Suzywriter said:

In my office, the slogan is "adopted means you were loved twice as much". Say that 10 times every morning, Stapler. 

That pisses me off, I'm an adoptive Mom, she acts like she was raised by wolves!

[greekmom]

I don't buy that Riley has 100K 

[sainte-chapelle]

1 minute ago, Suzywriter said:

It wasn't Dempsey that abandoned you Lauren or Ann or Ava or whatever regular name your adoptive family actually gave you. Maybe your birth mother gave you up out of love and wanting you to have better than she had available. 

She's acting like Dempsey betrayed her by not letting her bulldoze. Shame on you, Dempsey!

Unpopular opinion but I recall a post on FB where someone said «  your triggers are not my responsibility «  .  I think to an extent that is true, it is my responsibility to understand my anxiety and mange it. A partner should not be responsible for curing or resolving someone’s trauma. Unresolved trauma is not an excuse to treat a parter like garbage. 

[Suzywriter]

Just now, magemaud said:

He’s 42 and in his first episode we were told his parents shipped him off to deaf school at a young age and never learned how to sign. 

It sounds like they didn't have much support, either. Ugh, tough situation all around. Well, dude, you have a nice, loving gf and bonus son. Smile! Eat some ice cream. Play Go Fish. Do something. 

[Auntie Anxiety]

Her we go. Riley gets insulted because Violet wants to have all the facts before she commits.

[Suzywriter]

1 minute ago, tvrox said:

They would magically become "sisters." 

A la Jasmine.

[Zombness]

I think Violet is asking the wrong question, looks like she wants to swindle Riley out of this money.

[torontomeridith]

24 minutes ago, greekmom said:

I've been looking for cookbooks from this particular guy from the 80s in Ontario who had a tv series called Wok with Yan.

No luck so far.

I found some on eBay Canada. They aren't cheap. https://www.ebay.ca/sch/i.html?_nkw=wok+with+yan&ssPageName=GSTL&rt=nc&Country%2FRegion%20of%20Manufacture=Canada&_dcat=261186

But, now I have a mission for myself when I search Value Village. I love a good mission.

[greekmom]

Just now, Zombness said:

I think Violet is asking the wrong question, looks like she wants to swindle Riley out of this money.

I think that is a language and cultural difference.  As North Americans, asking someone their salary and finances isn't a socially proper question. But asking, are you able to support me and my kids is.

 

[Gobi]

"Oh, there's a sleeping dog. Let me wake it up!" Riley, probably.

[Pepper Mostly]

I fucking hate Riley so fucking much I am about to bust a gasket. He is a controlling gaslighting bastard. The way he speaks to Violet is so patronizing and insulting. She should flatten him. 

[magemaud]

He has a Facebook group 

Edited August 21, 2023 by magemaud

[Eldemarge]

2 minutes ago, greekmom said:

I don't buy that Riley has 100K 

At his age, that doesn't sound like much to me. He said savings AND investments.  When does he think he's going to retire?  

[Auntie Anxiety]

I like Violet. She isn’t easily intimidated and speaks her mind. Now she tells Riley that’s he’s a kill joy. Hahaha

[Zombness]

Just now, Auntie Anxiety said:

Her we go. Riley gets insulted because Violet wants to have all the facts before she commits.

It is the way she asked that made it look scary.

[For Cereals]

3 minutes ago, greekmom said:

I don't buy that Riley has 100K 

I can see him being a cheapskate except for when it comes to what he wants or it’s really the balance of his 401k.

[greekmom]

We got screaming Jasmine next week.

[Auntie Anxiety]

Just now, greekmom said:

We got screaming Jasmine next week.

Wake me up when she grabs the hat off his head. Because that was comedy gold.

[Pepper Mostly]

Just now, greekmom said:

We got screaming Jasmine next week.

No way! Sweet, gentle Jasmine? Such a shrinking violet, she is. I'm shocked. 

[Suzywriter]

5 minutes ago, Doublemint said:

That pisses me off, I'm an adoptive Mom, she acts like she was raised by wolves!

Or that she was treated like a second class citizen in her adoptive family. Her demeanor tells me that she had every form of support, access to whatever she wanted and no financial hardship. 

[For Cereals]

Just now, Suzywriter said:

Or that she was treated like a second class citizen in her adoptive family. Her demeanor tells me that she had every form of support, access to whatever she wanted and no financial hardship. 

Yes, especially if she has time to dig for bugs as a hobby.  Seems unbothered to me.

[Bees52]

6 minutes ago, greekmom said:

I think that is a language and cultural difference.  As North Americans, asking someone their salary and finances isn't a socially proper question. But asking, are you able to support me and my kids is.

 

As rude as it sounds to straight up ask how much is in your bank account, it's a good question that most of these fiances don't ask each other at the right time.

Edited August 21, 2023 by Bees52

[Gobi]

Cyster Wives.

[tvrox]

55 minutes ago, Drogo said:

An expert astrologer… kill me

How does one become an expert? Is there a graduate degree? 

[Doublemint]

1 minute ago, Suzywriter said:

Or that she was treated like a second class citizen in her adoptive family. Her demeanor tells me that she had every form of support, access to whatever she wanted and no financial hardship. 

Yes, I pick that up too.  She's an ingrate, and breaking her Mom's heart by saying she's not wanted.  (This is my opinion).

[magemaud]

You can’t spell finance without fiance. 

[Suzywriter]

3 minutes ago, Eldemarge said:

At his age, that doesn't sound like much to me. He said savings AND investments.  When does he think he's going to retire?  

He was in the military for a long time...he may have a retirement account that is currently not accessible, but still there. My ex had that--he socked away a lot of money that way and was able to protect it when we divorced. 

I want to talk to the ex who had the man in the closet. Stories like that are rarely true, and lying ass sorts always claim to have come home and found the woman in the act or men in the closet or some other scene that sounds like it's out of General Hospital. 

[mmecorday]

Quote

Cyster Wives.

Cystic Wives -- a Dr. Pimple Popper spin-off. 

[tvrox]

Lol "is this going to be a funeral?" 

[Pepper Mostly]

1 minute ago, tvrox said:

How does one become an expert? Is there a graduate degree? 

Maybe you can get one at Tania's witch doctor school.

[Auntie Anxiety]

Nicola is such a loving soul.

[greekmom]

You're 46 freaking old.

Grow a backbone asshole.

[Gobi]

"A girlfriend? All this time I thought you were gay!" Nicola's mom, probably.

[sainte-chapelle]

Why is the wheel worn down to metal.

[Suzywriter]

1 minute ago, tvrox said:

Lol "is this going to be a funeral?" 

Possibly, Meisha. Possibly. 

[mmecorday]

I think these two are the most boring couple of the season. I haven't even bothered to know their names. 

[Auntie Anxiety]

Nicola, you never “dated” another woman, so not bringing anyone else home to meet your mother wasn’t a possibility.

[CrazyInAlabama]

8 minutes ago, torontomeridith said:

I found some on eBay Canada. They aren't cheap. https://www.ebay.ca/sch/i.html?_nkw=wok+with+yan&ssPageName=GSTL&rt=nc&Country%2FRegion%20of%20Manufacture=Canada&_dcat=261186

But, now I have a mission for myself when I search Value Village. I love a good mission.

I searched "Wok with Yan cookbooks" and they turned up a bunch from used book stores, Etsy, Abe Books, and ebay.   Didn't look at the prices though.  On Amazon U.S., there are several, in th $40 and up range.