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A teeny tiny, talentless JD maybe....

I reeeaally don't think so. I think Sara Ramirez is doing the best she can with Che. It's the writing. If Che had a different storyline, no one would have a problem with them and we'd probably all like them a lot more.

I've played it a bunch and it's super fun. I do wish they'd reprogram it to take out Big. He's creepy even in the OG show, and I hate hearing him say "baby" or "kid." Replace him with extra-bitchy Anthony and take (even more of) my money.

I agree, I actually enjoyed this episode except revisiting the cringe disaster of that scene. (And I am no stranger to queer couplings, I'm queer myself.) Much as I hate how people keep calling it a lesbian experience and keep calling Che a woman--and much as I find Che fiercely hot myself--I can't defend them. They're cringey and aggressive and boring. It was mentioned upthread, I forget who, that Miranda should've had a crush on her professor. That is a person with real sexual energy, with whom Miranda has actual chemistry. It would've been neat to see her go through the experience of crushing on someone she can't get involved with, who is also of a different gender than her previously-assumed-preferred one. Rather than hitting us over the head with Che, who could still be Carrie's boss and still be inappropriate at the funeral and still inappropriately bring her tequila as she convalesced, we could have Miranda looking at a non-man with different eyes, and handling this with some angst but still a bit of class. Oh, well. If they wanted me to write for the show, they'd have asked.

Did you notice Charlotte saying they were "MY dolls"? Well, put them in your room, Charlotte! You have two teens with their own style and their own stuff. Not everyone wants the same thing as you!

I thought so too. She was super out of it and a fall risk. She was right out of surgery--she would need someone to hold her up if she slipped. And it's SO like Charlotte to be the strongest one who's prepared to carry the heaviest person in her family.

PSA: Che is not a woman, and Miranda is not a lesbian. I do appreciate that Miranda (or maybe Carrie) corrected Charlotte for that (and Charlotte corrected herself when addressing her kids). And while Charlotte was right that their gender is not the point, there's no need to be misgendering people when yelling at your friend. I seriously can't believe Miranda TOLD Charlotte. Even Carrie knowing was bad idea jeans. Like, if you're going to divorce your husband, okay, but it's freaking Charlotte. If you talk to her about your cheating, you should be prepared to be shamed for it. Did you expect a round of applause? I do appreciate that they're drinking alcohol-free wine, though. I've been curious about that stuff, given I'm cutting back on drinks and trying to support some friends who have stopped altogether. It's not an easy thing and it's nice to see them address it beyond just watching her dump her collection of booze down the sink. Like some of you, I noticed that for all her sari-gushing, Carrie didn't even wear a sari! But I figured the outfit must have been Seema-approved, and I'm not Indian, so I am not in a position to criticize. I actually enjoyed the conversation in the sari shop. It was similar to one I've had with a friend, who invites us to Diwali and lends us clothes for it. It's a really wonderful celebration, and everyone there was so welcoming and proud that we were participating in their celebration. It's one of my favorite memories around the holiday season. YES! I cringed. I was hopeful that was just a hastily-put-together set and not a real apartment. Also, she had a big spot on her dress near her left hip. I can't believe the costume dept. dropped the ball on that one--Carrie is usually dressed so impeccably.

Me too! I don't get the love for Big or the actor, even before knowing what we now know about Noth. I think he played Big super smarmy (and well done if that was intentional) but he ALWAYS creeped me out--Big, not necessarily the actor. He was so smug and condescending. They were past middle age and he still called her "kid" and she still called him "Big," for crying out loud! He thought she was a pretty mess, and she was, and he tried on other women--classy Natasha, sexy unattainable actress Willow, adventurous Julia--and he kept coming back to Carrie not because he loved her, but because she desperately and pathetically made herself available to him. The few times she said no to him? Once was after she engaged in an extramarital affair with him, leading his wife to break her freaking face, and another was only after a fancy Russian (another rich guy, of course) swept her away to France, only to have him make a marginal effort to win her back to New York. She'd say no, only for him to raise an eyebrow and say "really?" and she immediately said "welllll, okay." Big was not her great love. Big is a piece of shit. Carrie's pretty and desperate and that's all he ever cared about. He's rich and that's all she ever cared about. When he died, my first thought was "well, her retirement fund finally vested." Ugh I hate that I've thought about this so much. I also hate that I spent an hour in Vegas at a SATC themed slot machine and had a blast. Actually, I take that back. The slot machine was fun and I don't regret it.

Sounds like Kootie resents the restrictions his religion put on him and his lack of a "carefree" social-life-filled young adulthood, and wants his kids to suffer as he had. Well, he could've forced THEM to take mission trips themselves if he'd been any kind of leader that he thinks he is. I am not in any way saying people should force or indoctrinate their kids to do whatever their own religion dictates, just saying I think Kootie is jealous that his own kids have more freedom (which is funny because I understand most parents want their kids to have BETTER lives than they had, but Kootie seems resentful that they do)--when he could've forced them into his own life's path if he'd been any sort of parent to them.

Well you sure saved up your wisdom during your lurking period! What a perfectly accurate description of this shitshow. Welcome!

Thank you! She is actually very active: she works full time and has a side business, and has teenagers in sports, and a bunch of hobbies. She stays busy--when I visited last month she worked every day I was there and still managed to see me every evening. She and her spouse aren't rich but seem comfortable. I'm hopeful she just got cornered by a "friend" who sells it and isn't selling it herself, and that her doctor steers her away from it. She's not one of those "doctors don't know anything" people, so I'm hoping reason will prevail. A few of us chimed in warning her about MLMs and she seems to have taken it in stride. She's a smart woman so I'm cautiously optimistic.

My sister posted a pink drink today. I didn't know where to mention this but here, as the one MLM shaming group I'm in on FB is now defunct. It makes me so sad. My sister has struggled with her weight for years and has Graves disease. I have hypothyroidism and am still learning how certain foods affect my disease, so I don't know how plexus works for those with Graves, but I'm guessing it can't be good. I was trying to think of a kind way to warn her (my delivery is pretty brusque even when I'm softening it, and I'm not a medical professional, so I was trying to think of the right words) but then my mom jumped in and warned her about MLMs, and my sister thanked her and mentioned she'd be talking to her doctor about it as well. I feel a little bit better that she's probably not sucked into selling this shit, but she did tag her friend (who I presume is her upline) so I will chime in on the predatory nature of MLMs and hope that this friend of hers sees it and knows she's on notice. My sister is a lovely, wonderful person and I want the best for her, including her health, but I don't want to talk down to her about it. Ugh, thank you for letting me rant.

Shut up and take my money!

Couple years ago I tried a mint called Sweet Defeat. Let it melt on your tongue and it changes the flavor of every food--sugar tastes gross, wine taste like nothing, Red Vines taste even more like rubber than usual--you get the idea. Try it, it may help! The hard part is if your sweet cravings are emotional, because it only works if you take it. ;-) Janelle, of course, is hopeless. She doesn't want to change, this is just part of her grift.

Once BGL introduced her "secret weapon" to Usman, he was ruined for all other women.

I haven't followed this show in ages, and rarely post, but this right here--I had to just post to say how spot on this is. I see this in myself sometimes--I keep angling for the next new thing, shopping or drinking or taking up a hobby out of boredom, I'll be happy when I lose these last few pounds, or when I can get that new piece of furniture or clothing, or when I get that job or go on this vacation. It's not until I sit down with myself and really meditate on how those things will feel and if they will make me truly happy. Maybe Kail will be able to achieve that kind of introspection when she hits my age, but I am not optimistic. Thanks for putting all this into such succinct words.

Oh god so you literally meant not eating during the surgery but physically eating through your own organs! OUCH!

Are drag brunches not a thing where you are? They've been around for years and they're SO much fun! And NO you do not need to be pan to enjoy one.

She's starting her challenge off on Betty White Challenge Day so the competition is fierce. This will get no attention and be a colossal failure, as usual.

After some thought, I agree that the Adam = Javi theory is too easy, although I disagree that grown-up Adam could not be Hispanic--Hispanic or Latino/a people are extremely diverse in skin and hair color and builds, and it would not take much for me to suspend disbelief if that is how it worked out. So I don't believe Javi and Adam are the same anymore, but only because it's too easy and predictable. I do think Adam is someone from their past, maybe someone we haven't met yet, rather than some random reporter or fanboy.

When you say "eat through their surgery," do you mean undoing the benefits of bariatric surgery and gaining all the weight back? Because all I'm picturing is them sluggishly trying to shove food in their mouths as the anesthesiologist is trying to get them to count backwards from ten....

Appreciate that, but at least jumping from a plane I had a parachute. I was cringing watching Laura Lee fly without a bailout rig on, but it's not like they had one handy. But during water training one of the things that was hammered into me was "never cut away (your main parachute) over water" because that shit gets hard, even at low altitudes (and also you may think you can eyeball the altitude but your eyes play tricks on you and you're usually lower than you think you are). My highest cliff dive was about 60' and I hit the water wrong. I didn't walk right for a month and consider myself lucky that's as bad as it got. Jumps into water from that height may be survivable, but not likely. I wouldn't blame her for trying, though. In a moment of lucidity you may think it's better to go out in a ball of flames than to be possibly extremely injured or dead from a fall, but I doubt she was thinking clearly. Her priority was prayer, and I can't really fault her for that, either. It was super cool to watch and as annoyed with her as I was in E1, I liked her a lot by the end, and I'm glad she had her final moment of triumph.

At that altitude she'd have died on impact--it only takes a few seconds to reach terminal, and having jumped into water from cliffs and also from planes, it does not take much height to get to a point where water may as well be concrete. I was kind of hoping she'd pop the door open (or a window--those old Cessnas often have a small window for airflow, but not always) and dump Leonard out. Also LOL that the bear's name is Leonard. But she had to focus on the controls, so I get that she wasn't thinking that clearly. I'm no pilot, but I think they should've wiped down the windows AND the fuselage before takeoff. I was impressed that they cleared a runway, though. My money is on Adam being Travis's younger brother, or is that too obvious?

I agree with you--the show's writers do not have the sensitivity or education to handle gender dynamics. I mean, the whole premise was a woman who really likes shoes and stupid hats marrying up so she didn't have to have a job or her own money. Gender identity is such a huge deal (and I have some sensitivity toward Rose being named after Harry's Bubbie, and the grief you may have to deal with when your kid rejects the identity you've chosen for them, but a person's individuality definitely supersedes any antiquated gender norms you've chosen for a child you barely knew when you named them). Oh and while we're on this, Miranda is not a lesbian, and she's not exploring a lesbian side. Che is not a woman, and none of her past love interests have been women. The writers are completely biffing this, but in no way is Miranda being or acting like a lesbian. The name change issue reminded me of when I decided I wanted to change my name as a kid. I chose a gender neutral name, but not because I'm NB (I'm as femme as they come), but just because I liked it. No one ever told my parents and this was the 80s. (Coincidentally, the name I chose is now the name of a close relative who's transitioning currently.) Ultimately it WAS a childish phase, but we can't presume the same of someone who's questioning their gender. They may end up not transitioning at all, but we owe it to them to validate their journey either way. But uh...a show whose major arc and claim to fame is about sex and fashion and extreme consumption is not the vehicle to take on these issues. This episode was horrible as you've all eloquently pointed out, but that sex scene was the most I've ever cringed. Usually I can't stand Carrie's self-centeredness, but she was 100% in the right here. I hope Miranda gets her shit together. I also hate how they're retconning Samantha. I know Kim Catrall has insisted that they can do what they want with the character, but I can't stomach knowing someone else is behind those text messages. In my mind, Samantha belongs to Kim and this feels disingenuous.

Oh, yeah, totally! A fitness app directed at something I really love (like All Trails etc.) is a thoughtful gift. This would be the equivalent of grabbing the cheap shitty gift set from a Rite Aid on Xmas Eve at 6 PM on your way to the party. "I donno, women like plastic nail sets with unicorns on them, right?"/"I donno, women like dieting, right?"