Pet Peeves: Aka Things That Make You Go "Gah!"

[PRgal]

My phone is on permanently on vibrate but I still hear amber alerts.  My building likes to call when there are deliveries or when construction/maintenance needs access even though I’ve asked them to message me through their app. My building has a lot of seniors/elderly who aren’t as tech savvy so I guess it’s an automatic thing. 

[kristen111]

On 8/20/2023 at 11:45 AM, oliviabenson said:

Panhandling! I can’t even wait for the bus in peace. Never mind a McDonald’s! Grown men begging a female for $! No I don’t have $ for you. I barely have enough $ for me. 

After food shopping yesterday, we stopped in Burger King.  While waiting in the car, a young guy who looked homeless, passed my car.  He was in his twenties, disheveled and carried a small hefty bag probably with some clothes in it.  He looked so sad I started to cry.  I don’t carry cash, only use my debit card.    My husband came and had no cash, so we left.  I cried all night.  I’m sure there are places he could go to right?  Maybe he had no Mother.  Anyhow, my adult Son said the fast food places feed them.  I hope.

[SoMuchTV]

2 hours ago, EtheltoTillie said:

If I want to use a priority mail, which would be cheaper, I have to go to the PO and wait on line.  I think I could also do it at a kiosk, but it would be much easier to do it at my desk.  If anyone knows an alternative, I'd be interested.

I've been using the "click&ship" option on the USPS website for years now to print labels and drop packages off in the mailbox at the PO, and I don't recall running into any issues.  In fact, they recently introduced an "enhanced" option with lower prices.  Pretty sure Priority Mail is presented as one of the options, but I didn't pay too close attention and normally just choose the cheapest.  So I guess I don't have an alternative to offer - there must be something different in what we're trying to do?  I have an account with them, if that makes any difference.

And while we're talking about USPS, I'll put in a plug for Informed Delivery for anyone who hasn't yet signed up.  You get a daily email (or can view on their site) the mail and packages you're expected to get each day, so you can spot if something went astray.  (That actually saved me some $$ once when a check I wasn't expecting wasn't delivered, and I was able to get it reissued!)

[EtheltoTillie]

3 minutes ago, SoMuchTV said:

I've been using the "click&ship" option on the USPS website for years now to print labels and drop packages off in the mailbox at the PO, and I don't recall running into any issues.  In fact, they recently introduced an "enhanced" option with lower prices.  Pretty sure Priority Mail is presented as one of the options, but I didn't pay too close attention and normally just choose the cheapest.  So I guess I don't have an alternative to offer - there must be something different in what we're trying to do?  I have an account with them, if that makes any difference.

And while we're talking about USPS, I'll put in a plug for Informed Delivery for anyone who hasn't yet signed up.  You get a daily email (or can view on their site) the mail and packages you're expected to get each day, so you can spot if something went astray.  (That actually saved me some $$ once when a check I wasn't expecting wasn't delivered, and I was able to get it reissued!)

So for click and ship you can pay with a credit card and print out the postage?  That's the issue where Fedex differs.  Fedex charges my account without my having to put a postage label on the envelope.  Or if I want to use the priority mail flat rate I can pay for that at my desk? 

Edited August 22, 2023 by EtheltoTillie

[SoMuchTV]

3 minutes ago, EtheltoTillie said:

So for click and ship you can pay with a credit card and print out the postage?  That's the issue where Fedex differs.  Fedex charges my account without my having to put a postage label on the envelope.  Or if I want to use the priority mail flat rate I can pay for that at my desk? 

I haven't dealt with FedEx so I can't make comparisons, but for USPS I go to the website (where I have an account) and under the ClickNShip option, I can put in details about my package/envelope, select among the options it gives me, and print out a label.  I have a credit card on file with them, but don't think that's required - you could enter it each time.  I think there's an option to schedule a pickup (I guess by your regular mail carried?) but I've always just dropped the package at my local PO (no need to go inside/stand in line).

[TattleTeeny]

1 hour ago, kristen111 said:

After food shopping yesterday, we stopped in Burger King.  While waiting in the car, a young guy who looked homeless, passed my car.  He was in his twenties, disheveled and carried a small hefty bag probably with some clothes in it.  He looked so sad I started to cry.  I don’t carry cash, only use my debit card.    My husband came and had no cash, so we left.  I cried all night.  I’m sure there are places he could go to right?  Maybe he had no Mother.  Anyhow, my adult Son said the fast food places feed them.  I hope.

I just don't understand why it's not a standard for all food establishments to contribute to feeding people who need it. I mean, I don't understand the ins and outs of creating and maintaining societal rules and processes, so I am just saying this out of some moral gut feeling that may not make actual sense. All I know is that we can and should be better. 

[peacheslatour]

4 minutes ago, TattleTeeny said:

I just don't understand why it's not a standard for all food establishments to contribute to feeding people who need it. I mean, I don't understand the ins and outs of creating and maintaining societal rules and processes, so I am just saying this out of some moral gut feeling that may not make actual sense. All I know is that we can and should be better. 

Profit margins in the restaurant business are razor thin. It should not be up to individual business' to feed the homeless. If our society truly wants to be the best in the world, we need better social safety nets for Americans who are down on their luck.

Edited August 22, 2023 by peacheslatour

[Laura Holt]

When my daughter worked at a coffee shop a number of years ago it was their standard practice to donate any unsold pastries and  sandwiches to a homeless shelter at the end of the working day.  I think that's not unusual.  But they didn't make a practice of  giving out free handouts to people when they were open.

[TattleTeeny]

36 minutes ago, peacheslatour said:

Profit margins in the restaurant business are razor thin. It should not be up to individual business' to feed the homeless. If our society truly wants to be the best in the world, we need better social safety nets for Americans who are down on their luck.

I didn’t mean in a “walk in and ask for free food” kind of way — more like something “official,” like @Laura Holt mentioned. And I suppose I mean that people should just want to help, not that it “should be up to” them. I don’t disagree at all about safety nets; I guess my hippie brain just wishes that safety nets (of all kinds, not just food) were not such an enormous necessity (or so often fought against by certain types of people).

Edited August 22, 2023 by TattleTeeny

[peacheslatour]

3 minutes ago, TattleTeeny said:

I didn’t mean in a “walk in and ask for free food” kind of way — more like something “official,” like @Laura Holt mentioned. And I suppose I mean that people should just want to help, not that it “should be up to” them. I don’t disagree at all about safety nets; I guess my hippie brain just wishes that safety nets (of all kinds, not just food) were not such an enormous necessity (or so often fought against by certain types of people).

One of the reasons restaurants and grocery stores don't donate leftover food is because our society is so litigious, they're afraid of being sued by someone looking for a pay day. I don't know what the answer is but we waste entirely too much food in this country.

[TattleTeeny]

26 minutes ago, peacheslatour said:

One of the reasons restaurants and grocery stores don't donate leftover food is because our society is so litigious, they're afraid of being sued by someone looking for a pay day. I don't know what the answer is but we waste entirely too much food in this country.

YUP! I mean, I feel bad when I do and I am only a 2-adult household.* I can't even imagine the impact made by commercial operations. 

*Sometimes my fault for overbuying or forgetting I have it, but also because sometimes you have to buy more than you may be able to consume because that's how it's sold! That's why I buy the more expensive, but pre-chopped/diced/whatever vegetables -- easier to use up that way!

[SuprSuprElevated]

1 hour ago, Laura Holt said:

When my daughter worked at a coffee shop a number of years ago it was their standard practice to donate any unsold pastries and  sandwiches to a homeless shelter at the end of the working day.  I think that's not unusual.  But they didn't make a practice of  giving out free handouts to people when they were open.

Very recently, the bakery mgr at our local supermarket informed me that he is required to throw away any product that is past it's sell date. He is not allowed to donate it. What I don't know is if that is a local health dept mandate, or a managment edict from the store's owners. 

Makes me ill to think about that.

[peacheslatour]

28 minutes ago, SuprSuprElevated said:

Very recently, the bakery mgr at our local supermarket informed me that he is required to throw away any product that is past it's sell date. He is not allowed to donate it. What I don't know is if that is a local health dept mandate, or a managment edict from the store's owners. 

Makes me ill to think about that.

It's true though.

 

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*Sometimes my fault for overbuying or forgetting I have it, but also because sometimes you have to buy more than you may be able to consume because that's how it's sold! That's why I buy the more expensive, but pre-chopped/diced/whatever vegetables -- easier to use up that way!

I have a  problem with wasting bread. I like to serve a carb with dinner, like rolls, biscuits or muffins. But what am I going to do with a giant bag of French rolls or 12 corn muffins? I freeze a lot of it but I find that it just isn't the same as fresh.

[TattleTeeny]

Oh, I get it. I wish I cold team up with a neighbor or something for groceries!

[theredhead77]

3 hours ago, kristen111 said:

After food shopping yesterday, we stopped in Burger King.  While waiting in the car, a young guy who looked homeless, passed my car.  He was in his twenties, disheveled and carried a small hefty bag probably with some clothes in it.  He looked so sad I started to cry.  I don’t carry cash, only use my debit card.    My husband came and had no cash, so we left.  I cried all night.  I’m sure there are places he could go to right?  Maybe he had no Mother.  Anyhow, my adult Son said the fast food places feed them.  I hope.

You can always offer to buy someone a meal or use your non-cash payment method to buy a gift card.

I know people who keep granola bars and water in their car.

If you're inclined to help there are many ways. Research to find one that best meets your desired outcome.

[kristen111]

3 hours ago, TattleTeeny said:

I just don't understand why it's not a standard for all food establishments to contribute to feeding people who need it. I mean, I don't understand the ins and outs of creating and maintaining societal rules and processes, so I am just saying this out of some moral gut feeling that may not make actual sense. All I know is that we can and should be better. 

At one time, my Son was a UPS driver.  He told me that the women in the kitchen take care of situations like that and give to them.  That made me feel better.  Many times they will use the money given for drugs.  This kid just got to me for some reason.  Besides, it was about 95 degrees out and the kid was walking around aimlessly.  Just not right, but who knows his story.  It’s probably the norm unfortunately.

[kristen111]

3 hours ago, TattleTeeny said:

I didn’t mean in a “walk in and ask for free food” kind of way — more like something “official,” like @Laura Holt mentioned. And I suppose I mean that people should just want to help, not that it “should be up to” them. I don’t disagree at all about safety nets; I guess my hippie brain just wishes that safety nets (of all kinds, not just food) were not such an enormous necessity (or so often fought against by certain types of people).

There is this big food store chain where I live.  They make so much Italian food to go it’s unbelievable.  Too much to sell in a day.  My husband asked if they donate after hours.  The manager said they can’t for law suit reasons.  What a waste of food, you have no idea.

[TattleTeeny]

45 minutes ago, kristen111 said:

Many times they will use the money given for drugs.  

I think that, while this may be true sometimes, we don't know that, just as we don't know what kind of food they may buy with it. I personally wouldn't not share a few bucks just because it's a possibility. I can just as easily assume that a person would put it toward food (or any other necessity).  

Edited August 22, 2023 by TattleTeeny

[kristen111]

18 minutes ago, TattleTeeny said:

I think that, while this may be true sometimes, we don't know that, just as we don't know what kind of food they may buy with it. I personally wouldn't not share a few bucks just because it's a possibility. I can just as easily assume that a person would put it toward food (or any other necessity).  

All I know is .. I wish I had ten bucks in my bag yesterday.  I wouldn’t have cared what this kid did with it.   

[peacheslatour]

Just now, kristen111 said:

All I know is .. I wish I had ten bucks in my bag yesterday.  I wouldn’t have cared what this kid did with it.   

There used to be a young guy who stood on the corner right off the freeway where I live. It was right at a intersection and a lot of people, myself included, used to call him over to our cars at red lights and give him money. Kristen, you had no way of knowing you'd see this poor kid. I know you feel bad but there was not a lot you could do other than running after him and offering to buy him some food.

[kristen111]

4 minutes ago, peacheslatour said:

There used to be a young guy who stood on the corner right off the freeway where I live. It was right at a intersection and a lot of people, myself included, used to call him over to our cars at red lights and give him money. Kristen, you had no way of knowing you'd see this poor kid. I know you feel bad but there was not a lot you could do other than running after him and offering to buy him some food.

Yep.  I know.

[BlueSkies]

Being ghosted without any explanation.

 

One I guess now ex friend and co worker blocked me from texting her.  I mean her texts are now all in green.  While it's not devastating it still sucks.  She gradually answered me less and less over time until being blocked.  So be it 

[isalicat]

8 hours ago, peacheslatour said:

One of the reasons restaurants and grocery stores don't donate leftover food is because our society is so litigious, they're afraid of being sued by someone looking for a pay day. I don't know what the answer is but we waste entirely too much food in this country.

In California it is now legally required that any food provider (stores, restaurants, whatever) must make sure that a certain percentage of what they would throw out is donated or recycled or something...not sure of the actual regs, but the food pantry that I work at gets food from all the local grocery stores and the local McDonalds gives us all the food that "timed out" (was already cooked but not sold quickly enough for health regs). So apparently there is no obstacle here in that regard. We love getting all those wraps and other sandwiches from Trader Joe's because that is what the "walkers" (as we call the un-housed - only about 10% of our total clients at most) can use since they have no kitchens.

Back to the pet peeve topic: Feeling guilty about not giving homeless people money. Don't!!! 99% of the time it will NOT go for food. Make up some bags of non-perishables (like those tuna meal snack kits, etc., juice boxes, that sort of thing) and give them one of those with a bottle of water. I keep those in my car and dole out at least one a day to the folks that sit on the edge of the road with "help me" signs.

[Laura Holt]

I used to give money until the day I saw the son of one of my neighbours standing in front of a Tim Hortons holding out a cup.  I have  no idea why he was begging on a street corner but it certainly was not because he was unhoused or unfed.   I know this is by no means representative but it did make me think twice.

[kristen111]

2 hours ago, BlueSkies said:

Being ghosted without any explanation.

 

One I guess now ex friend and co worker blocked me from texting her.  I mean her texts are now all in green.  While it's not devastating it still sucks.  She gradually answered me less and less over time until being blocked.  So be it 

It’s not only you.  It happens to lots of people.  My friend of over thirty years called me one day to tell me she fell in the street and was getting surgery for her broken arm in three days.  It sounded fishy to me after I didn’t hear from her anymore.  I know for a fact she was a big drinker even in the day and didn’t want anyone to know, even me.  I think she was embarrassed for me to know what really happened.  I left it alone and am waiting for her call, maybe.  Ghosting happens a lot unfortunately.      People might get very embarrassed when there’s something to hide.  Things happen.

 

[Mondrianyone]

Sometimes the restaurant's management makes it harder than it ought to be to feed people. Back in NYC, in Queens, I was heading in to a KFC to get a chicken breast to eat on the run. Just outside the door, a homeless man asked me for food money, and I told him to come in with me and order what he wanted and I'd pay for it. When I tried to do that, the manager said the man couldn't eat there because his personal hygiene offended the other diners. No idea if any of the other diners actually claimed this or the manager just didn't want the man in his store. I put up a fairly vehement fuss, but the man said he'd eat outside. So I bought him his lunch and apologized for my fellow humans. Because it's always good to humiliate people as well as keep them hungry.

I never know quite what to do in these kinds of situations. Maybe stock up on coupons or restaurant gift cards to hand out.

[kristen111]

55 minutes ago, Laura Holt said:

I used to give money until the day I saw the son of one of my neighbours standing in front of a Tim Hortons holding out a cup.  I have  no idea why he was begging on a street corner but it certainly was not because he was unhoused or unfed.   I know this is by no means representative but it did make me think twice.

My husband told me to never open the car door to someone when I am alone.  Also, he said there are places they can go for food, a shower, etc, but they don’t want to.  A church, the Y, etc.  It’s also dangerous sometimes.

[kristen111]

9 hours ago, TattleTeeny said:

YUP! I mean, I feel bad when I do and I am only a 2-adult household.* I can't even imagine the impact made by commercial operations. 

*Sometimes my fault for overbuying or forgetting I have it, but also because sometimes you have to buy more than you may be able to consume because that's how it's sold! That's why I buy the more expensive, but pre-chopped/diced/whatever vegetables -- easier to use up that way!

That’s a good idea.  Plus, I hate chopping fresh carrots and celery stalks and onions.  I hate peeling potatoes too lately.  I just bought the little potatoes you just wash and throw in the pot for stew.  I’m tired of cooking and chopping everyday.  I want a cook and a maid to clean my house too, lol.

[theredhead77]

47 minutes ago, Mondrianyone said:

I never know quite what to do in these kinds of situations. Maybe stock up on coupons or restaurant gift cards to hand out.

 

47 minutes ago, kristen111 said:

My husband told me to never open the car door to someone when I am alone.  Also, he said there are places they can go for food, a shower, etc, but they don’t want to.  A church, the Y, etc.  It’s also dangerous sometimes.

Responding in chit-chat.

Edited August 23, 2023 by theredhead77

[Bastet]

Moved my response to Chit Chat to keep conversation in one thread.

Edited August 23, 2023 by Bastet

[EtheltoTillie]

13 hours ago, SoMuchTV said:

I haven't dealt with FedEx so I can't make comparisons, but for USPS I go to the website (where I have an account) and under the ClickNShip option, I can put in details about my package/envelope, select among the options it gives me, and print out a label.  I have a credit card on file with them, but don't think that's required - you could enter it each time.  I think there's an option to schedule a pickup (I guess by your regular mail carried?) but I've always just dropped the package at my local PO (no need to go inside/stand in line).

Well, I went to check this out and I might be able to use it if I could figure out how to get it to allow me to log in, the same issue I referenced earlier about trying to buy stamps by mail. Oh well. 

Edited August 23, 2023 by EtheltoTillie

[EtheltoTillie]

Update on USPS.  I tried to sign in and I couldn't sign in with the existing credentials.  I wasn't entering the right answers to the security questions.  So it said I had to create a new account.  I had to create a new user name because it said my previous user name was "in use," of course.  When I entered my cell phone number, it said it was already "in use," so I had to just list no cell phone number.  I'll see what happens next time I actually have to send a package. 

[TattleTeeny]

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Back to the pet peeve topic: Feeling guilty about not giving homeless people money. Don't!!! 99% of the time it will NOT go for food. 

Is this percentage a fact from some source? I am not trying to sass you, I swear, I was just wondering how this would be asserted, other than following unhoused people around (which, I suppose, could be done).

Regarding the original post that, I think, began the discussion: I am wondering why it matters whether it's a man who is asking a woman for money.

It's not that I don't believe that these "it won't be used for food" scenarios are possibilities -- but it's also possible, if not probable, that a bird will swoop down and take the money...or the person will use it to make a paper boat or to go see a movie...or give it to someone else. I will continue to give money in some situations. I don't feel comfortable making the assumption that someone is shady just because "shady" is a possibility -- plus, it's not up to me to oversee, much less judge, what a person does with a few dollars that I freely gave to them. 

(Also, I will never assume that someone who is standing around asking strangers for a few bucks has blatantly made a conscious choice to do so over other options.)

Edited August 23, 2023 by TattleTeeny

[Laura Holt]

On another message board I frequent a few of the people there act like every comment or question is directed at them and they have to respond -  "I've never used that product so I don't know" kind of thing.  It's a pettiest of pet peeves but today, for some reason, it's getting on my last nerve!

Edited August 23, 2023 by Laura Holt

[Ohiopirate02]

40 minutes ago, TattleTeeny said:

Is this percentage a fact from some source? I am not trying to sass you, I swear, I was just wondering how this would be asserted, other than following unhoused people around (which, I suppose, could be done).

Regarding the original post that, I think, began the discussion: I am wondering why it matters whether it's a man who is asking a woman for money.

It's not that I don't believe that these "it won't be used for food" scenarios are possibilities -- but it's also possible, if not probable, that a bird will swoop down and take the money...or the person will use it to make a paper boat or to go see a movie...or give it to someone else. I will continue to give money in some situations. I don't feel comfortable making the assumption that someone is shady just because "shady" is a possibility -- plus, it's not up to me to oversee, much less judge, what a person does with a few dollars that I freely gave to them. 

(Also, I will never assume that someone who is standing around asking strangers for a few bucks has blatantly made a conscious choice to do so over other options.)

I honestly do not care if the money I give an unhoused person goes to drugs or alcohol.  I would literally be giving my beer money to them to buy beer, and they need it more than me.  

[TattleTeeny]

Yeah, who am I to deny someone a beer or two?! I have been known to indulge and I, for sure, have an easier life than a guy standing outside asking if I have a couple of dollars!

[EtheltoTillie]

Further update on USPS.  Triumph!  I was able to order a roll of stamps.  Now I have to make sure I save my new user name and password.

Edited August 23, 2023 by EtheltoTillie

[TattleTeeny]

49 minutes ago, Laura Holt said:

On another message board I frequent a few of the people there act like every comment or question is directed at them and they have to respond -  "I've never used that product so I don't know" kind of thing.  It's a pettiest of pet peeves but today, for some reason, it's getting on my last nerve!

YES! I see this on Amazon all the time! I assume an email goes out to anyone/everyone who has bought (or saved or viewed?) the item, but some people must assume that the message was specifically for them, hahahhahahaa!

Edited August 23, 2023 by TattleTeeny

[nokat]

On 8/19/2023 at 10:36 AM, emma675 said:

Yet another reason I try to stay out of prison, I don't want to wear the same outfit as everyone else.

I want to know more, as in what other reasons? Same outfit, the lack of make-up, showering in front of a warden?

[Laura Holt]

1 hour ago, Ohiopirate02 said:

I honestly do not care if the money I give an unhoused person goes to drugs or alcohol.  I would literally be giving my beer money to them to buy beer, and they need it more than me.  

The advice I always see is rather than give money to give food.  That's all very well but not usually practical.  My Dad experienced this a few months ago when he exited a restaurant with a container of leftovers and saw a man sitting on the curb looking pretty beaten up and pathetic.  Dad had no cash on him (who does anymore?) so he asked the guy if he wanted the food.  He definitely did.  Which made Dad feel good until he looked back and saw the fellow eating that food with his hands.  It hadn't occurred to Dad in the moment that it wasn't likely the man had a fork in his pocket...or likely a room to go back to where he could eat in privacy.

[TattleTeeny]

Your dad did what he could in that moment; even if he didn't immediately think of the "extras," it's a testament to his character that he did immediately help the man, fork or no fork. Everyone can't do everything all the time.

Edited August 23, 2023 by TattleTeeny

[peacheslatour]

40 minutes ago, Laura Holt said:

The advice I always see is rather than give money to give food.  That's all very well but not usually practical.  My Dad experienced this a few months ago when he exited a restaurant with a container of leftovers and saw a man sitting on the curb looking pretty beaten up and pathetic.  Dad had no cash on him (who does anymore?) so he asked the guy if he wanted the food.  He definitely did.  Which made Dad feel good until he looked back and saw the fellow eating that food with his hands.  It hadn't occurred to Dad in the moment that it wasn't likely the man had a fork in his pocket...or likely a room to go back to where he could eat in privacy.

The guy off the freeway that I talked about before always had a dog with him. I was coming home from the company Christmas luncheon and I had a styrofoam container with a hamburger, neatly cut in half and a bunch of fries. I stopped at 7-11 to get some smokes and he was outside. I said "Hi, hang on, I have a treat for your dog." I got my burger and fries out of my car and gave it to him along with twenty bucks. I said "Merry Christmas, I hope your dog like burgers." He said "Hey, I'm going to split it with him! Merry Christmas to you too!" No flatware necessary.

[TattleTeeny]

MY HEART!

You know what is another peeve I have is (and it probably is yet another that comes from my gut, and definitely not from knowledge of how a "system" works). Anyway...

Senior living facilities (or any similar establishment, really) that doesn't allow people to have their pets. I know that there are complications involved in this scenario (especially with dogs, probably?). But imagine having to be moved into a place because you need help that you didn't need before and not being able to go there with someone you care for and love and who loves and needs you as well -- especially people who may not have anyone else, either to come see them or to take on the care of their pet. I swear, I will cry just typing this. My grandma neither has nor wants a pet, but I was so happy to see that her place allows others to have pets. 

ETA: OH MY GOD! I just realized that, being a childless person who loves having pets, I should probably not get anymore after I reach a certain age, just so I don't leave them all alone if I die. Ugh, what a fucking thought to have;  I am going outside to sit in the sun and attempt to erase it!

Edited August 23, 2023 by TattleTeeny

[peacheslatour]

25 minutes ago, TattleTeeny said:

MY HEART!

You know what is another peeve I have is (and it probably is yet another that comes from my gut, and definitely not from knowledge of how a "system" works). Anyway...

Senior living facilities (or any similar establishment, really) that doesn't allow people to have their pets. I know that there are complications involved in this scenario (especially with dogs, probably?). But imagine having to be moved into a place because you need help that you didn't need before and not being able to go there with someone you care for and love and who loves and needs you as well -- especially people who may not have anyone else, either to come see them or to take on the care of their pet. I swear, I will cry just typing this. My grandma neither has nor wants a pet, but I was so happy to see that her place allows others to have pets. 

ETA: OH MY GOD! I just realized that, being a childless person who loves having pets, I should probably not get anymore after I reach a certain age, just so I don't leave them all alone if I die. Ugh, what a fucking thought to have;  I am going outside to sit in the sun and attempt to erase it!

The senior care facility my dad used to be at allowed pets. At least one lady had a cat but these were probably the light care residents that rented the larger apartments and needed only the most basic care. They also took them to Kroger/Fred Meyer once a week. All of the apartments had kitchens and storage cabinets. I used to bring my dad food until I figured out he wasn't eating any of it. They had a very nice dining room though. The whole place was set up like a high end resort.

[Laura Holt]

My niece is the director of nursing care in a retirement community and they allow pets as long as the resident can care for the pet themselves or has the means to get private care for the pet.  That seems  like a reasonable compromise to me.

[peacheslatour]

22 minutes ago, Laura Holt said:

My niece is the director of nursing care in a retirement community and they allow pets as long as the resident can care for the pet themselves or has the means to get private care for the pet.  That seems  like a reasonable compromise to me.

Me too.

[ABay]

1 hour ago, TattleTeeny said:

ETA: OH MY GOD! I just realized that, being a childless person who loves having pets, I should probably not get anymore after I reach a certain age, just so I don't leave them all alone if I die.

That's where I'm at. There's only one person I could trust a pet to after I die and they're in another state and have multiple pets of their own. But I really miss having a furry friend to greet me when I come home and sit with me in the evenings.

[peacheslatour]

5 minutes ago, ABay said:

That's where I'm at. There's only one person I could trust a pet to after I die and they're in another state and have multiple pets of their own. But I really miss having a furry friend to greet me when I come home and sit with me in the evenings.

That's how I feel. I've always had cats (and dogs when I was a kid). Elizabeth is my constant companion, where I am, she is. I'm probably crazy but I talk to her all the time. I think she will be my last cat.

Edited August 23, 2023 by peacheslatour

[annzeepark914]

I was just wondering about this touchy, sad, depressing topic yesterday. We adopted a 7 year old gorgeous (but she doesn't know it or act like it) B/W Mainecoon mix in 2017, one year after our previous Mainecoon mix had to be put to sleep at 21 years of age. Whew! I couldn't respond to this earlier...had to get some distance & recovery time thinking about planning for a furry loved one's future 🥴.  Right now I just pray that we outlive my "punkin pie". She's healthy & plays hard, so who knows. 

Edited August 23, 2023 by annzeepark914

[kristen111]

9 hours ago, TattleTeeny said:

Yeah, who am I to deny someone a beer or two?! I have been known to indulge and I, for sure, have an easier life than a guy standing outside asking if I have a couple of dollars!

Lots of people don’t have health insurance, therefor hurting from various ailments.  I’m sure a shot or two of booze would help.  Who knows what some people go through.   Then, there is the No job situation.