Meet the Parents: Gil and Kelly Jo Bates

[lookeyloo]

Stint...

[Salacious Kitty]

Just now, lookeyloo said:

Stint...

She's likely going on how she pronounces it with her Southern accent. 

[Meow Mix]

She's very lucky that they caught it in time, that she has access to proper medical care, and that she has Michael to do after care for her.  Not everyone is so fortunate.  I'm glad she recognized both the doctors and others for helping her rather than taking the Rodrigues route and claiming God did it all.

[Salacious Kitty]

Trace has already released a vlog. 🙄

[AstridM]

2 hours ago, lookeyloo said:

Stint...

My thoughts exactly! 🤦‍♀️

[AstridM]

2 hours ago, Salacious Kitty said:

She's likely going on how she pronounces it with her Southern accent. 

Didn’t she allegedly go to college?

[Salacious Kitty]

26 minutes ago, AstridM said:

Didn’t she allegedly go to college?

I made it through college without once mentioning a stent. I imagine KJ had no experience with them before now. 

Edited January 23 by Salacious Kitty

[Me from ME]

Re: stint... at first I was going to give her a pass since autocorrect...but, the rest of her post doesn't have glaring errors so someone must be proof-reading. And someone missed it.

[lookeyloo]

14 hours ago, Salacious Kitty said:

She's likely going on how she pronounces it with her Southern accent. 

I'm sure...but, she spelled it that way too.

[AgathaC]

To be fair, I have a college degree and multiple doctors in my family and I had to look it up to check the spelling when I had one. Just not a word I use or see written much. Though, in my case, I checked before I sent anything.

Kidney stones are no joke. I’ve had 8 (and still have a few hanging out in my kidneys like tiny time bombs). About 7 years ago, I had one that got stuck. Having had them before, I knew exactly what it was, so didn’t have to bother with diagnosis. I did have to wait over a weekend to see the urologist, but he then set me up for the stent the next morning. Infection. So, I had to wait a month or so for the lithotripsy and take strong antibiotics so it wouldn’t get in my bloodstream.. Not fun, but it all moved fast enough that the infection didn’t get out of control. Just goes to show the importance of good, available medical care.

[cereality]

So Mama Jane is getting radiation 5 days/wk for 5 weeks. Kelly is in SC and Mama Jane mentioned Michael is coming.

[Heathen]

15 hours ago, cereality said:

So Mama Jane is getting radiation 5 days/wk for 5 weeks. Kelly is in SC and Mama Jane mentioned Michael is coming.

She was diagnosed with cancer? 

What are the still-at-home kids doing? Is the oldest girl responsible for cooking and cleaning since we all know "Brother Gil" ain't doing shit? 

[ginger90]

42 minutes ago, Heathen said:

She was diagnosed with cancer?

Kelly replied on the post:

[BitterApple]

Poor Jane. I hope she comes out of this okay. 

[Notabug]

50 minutes ago, ginger90 said:

Kelly replied on the post:

 

Sounds like she had uterine cancer which recurred at the top of the vagina.  That's the most common place for uterine cancer to spread and it is treated, usually pretty successfully, with radiation.

[GeeGolly]

Yikes, poor Janie and Bill can't seem to catch a break. I hope they're getting plenty of help. Somebody should park an RV on their land and rotate out the Bates19 as helpers.

[Salacious Kitty]

Kelly seems to be staying there during Jane's treatment. Michael has been there, but it's unclear how long she stayed. Gil's siblings are there, but I don't know how much help they provide. Hopefully, they are around most days. Kelly can't stay there indefinitely. 

[Salacious Kitty]

Didn't know where to put this, but Katie's latest vlog said that Papa Bill is going to hospice care. I didn't watch, so I don't know if he's going to memory care, or if they're going to keep him home. 

Very sad. 

[Absolom]

He could also go to a hospice facility.  

[Salacious Kitty]

10 minutes ago, Absolom said:

He could also go to a hospice facility.  

True. I guess it all depends on how far gone he is. If it's a matter of a week or so, they would probably want to keep him at home.

[andromeda331]

Yeah, that's really sad. Poor Jane. 

[GeeGolly]

In KJ's Mother's Day tribute to Janie there's a photo of Janie holding Papa B's hand. He appears to be sleeping in a hospital bed, wearing a johnny.

[ginger90]

In a now expired story on Whitney’s Instagram, she said, “we're traveling today to say our goodbyes to Zach's grandfather in SC who is on hospice and not doing well.”. 

[Absolom]

7 hours ago, GeeGolly said:

In KJ's Mother's Day tribute to Janie there's a photo of Janie holding Papa B's hand. He appears to be sleeping in a hospital bed, wearing a johnny.

Sadly he does look close to the end.  I hope they have a good plan in place for Grandma Jane for after he's gone. 

[lookeyloo]

2 hours ago, Absolom said:

Sadly he does look close to the end.  I hope they have a good plan in place for Grandma Jane for after he's gone. 

Good opportunity for the chad paines to take residence

[AstridM]

18 minutes ago, lookeyloo said:

Good opportunity for the chad paines to take residence

Maybe. But they certainly shouldn’t expect that to be given to them, imho🤷‍♀️.

[Salacious Kitty]

Jane still has two of her own children living on the property. I don't know what the daughter is doing these days, but she could certainly help out Jane as needed. So could the son. 

[Heathen]

It sure as shit is NOT Jane's responsibility to provide a home for her deadbeat granddaughter and family. Erin and Chad need to grow up and act like adults. 

[Salacious Kitty]

2 hours ago, Heathen said:

It sure as shit is NOT Jane's responsibility to provide a home for her deadbeat granddaughter and family. Erin and Chad need to grow up and act like adults. 

Jane's children can take care of her. No need to uproot the grifting Paines. 

[andromeda331]

15 hours ago, ginger90 said:

In a now expired story on Whitney’s Instagram, she said, “we're traveling today to say our goodbyes to Zach's grandfather in SC who is on hospice and not doing well.”. 

At least they'll get to say goodbye. I've never had the chance. 

Edited May 14 by andromeda331

[ginger90]

He passed away May 13th.

[Salacious Kitty]

He was in a hospice facility. 

https://tributearchive.com/obituaries/42531172/william-gilvin-bill-bates/anderson/south-carolina/mcdougald-funeral-services

Edited May 16 by Salacious Kitty

[BitterApple]

I'm sorry to hear that. Dementia is such an awful disease. 

I'm a little confused though. The obit says Bill passed on the 13th, but Alyssa is posting smiley pics of her and her brood on a road trip to a wedding. Even if the event was earlier it seems a bit weird to be posting about it while the family is grieving. Ditto for Tiffany and her recently uploaded cruise pics. 

Edited May 16 by BitterApple

[Absolom]

I was brought up that you held off on announcing things and I'd put posting happy photos of vacations or going to a wedding until at least after the funeral.  Of course, that assumes the funeral is held fairly soon.  In this case it's less than a week so it would seem more gracious and responsible to wait until next Tuesday or so.  A week wouldn't hurt any of them to wait, IMO.  

[Salacious Kitty]

I believe the funeral/burial is on Sunday . 

Edited to correct the day. Should have re read the article. 

Edited May 16 by Salacious Kitty

[Absolom]

Yes, the funeral is Sunday afternoon and waiting until at least Tuesday would give a day of grace afterward and make it a week after the death.  The culture I grew up in would find that within the realm of tolerable. 

[Salacious Kitty]

Carlin had been uncharacteristically quiet these past few days, so I knew something was up. Let's see how long she can go without exploiting this. 

Edited May 16 by Salacious Kitty

[ginger90]

5 hours ago, Salacious Kitty said:

Carlin had been uncharacteristically quiet these past few days, so I knew something was up. Let's see how long she can go without exploiting this. 

In my mind Lawson was already at the top of the list as far as exploitation even before he passed.

[Salacious Kitty]

6 hours ago, ginger90 said:

In my mind Lawson was already at the top of the list as far as exploitation even before he passed.

True. He wrote a song and made a video about it. 

[ranchgirl]

I just hope that Gil and Kelly got back from their Alaskan cruise in time to go and say their goodbyes.  The timing of that cruise was not well planned.  

[RebeccatheWriter]

On 5/18/2025 at 6:45 AM, ranchgirl said:

I just hope that Gil and Kelly got back from their Alaskan cruise in time to go and say their goodbyes.  The timing of that cruise was not well planned.  

Most people end up planning an Alaskan cruise a year or more in advance. They fill up and the excursions book up. As expensive as the excursions are, it is something that you have to do unless you know where you are going and what you are doing. I'm sure they had not thought that he would pass away so quickly. May cruises to Alaska are significantly cheaper than June/July/August and better because there aren't 5,000 children due to school. It wasn't so cold as everyone had warned when I went.  

They probably booked before he was even on hospice. Sometimes patients will go fast with that and sometimes they linger. With my aunt she was placed on hospice care a month before my parents came to visit me. The hospice nurse and doctor said it would probably be 2-3 months. On the second night of their visit, the nurse called and said she seemed a little restless. An hour later she called and said she was gone. 

What is the old saying? "Man plans and God laughs."

On 5/16/2025 at 10:55 AM, Salacious Kitty said:

True. He wrote a song and made a video about it. 

Carlin and Evan were credited by Lawson and doing the videography of that music video. So they have been dabbling in his exploitation as well.

[Lisa418722]

28 minutes ago, RebeccatheWriter said:

They probably booked before he was even on hospice. Sometimes patients will go fast with that and sometimes they linger. With my aunt she was placed on hospice care a month before my parents came to visit me. The hospice nurse and doctor said it would probably be 2-3 months. On the second night of their visit, the nurse called and said she seemed a little restless. An hour later she called and said she was gone. 

My dad went into Hospice in March, and I had a pre-planned vacation to Yellowstone scheduled at the end of May. I asked my mom if I should cancel the trip as it got closer. She told me to go because my dad had always wanted to go to Yellowstone and never did. I went and called her every night to check in. My dad lived for about three weeks after I got back.   I don't regret going.  I do wish he (and my mom) had had a chance to see Yellowstone in person.  

Maybe Jane had told them to go ahead on the trip since it had already been planned.  

[Notabug]

17 minutes ago, Lisa418722 said:

My dad went into Hospice in March, and I had a pre-planned vacation to Yellowstone scheduled at the end of May. I asked my mom if I should cancel the trip as it got closer. She told me to go because my dad had always wanted to go to Yellowstone and never did. I went and called her every night to check in. My dad lived for about three weeks after I got back.   I don't regret going.  I do wish he (and my mom) had had a chance to see Yellowstone in person.  

Maybe Jane had told them to go ahead on the trip since it had already been planned.  

I agree; the trip was probably planned and paid for long before Bill's final decline, let alone before he was ready for hospice.  The first thing hospice counselors advise is that the rest of the family and friends should live their lives.  I am sure Jane would've been willing to delay the services had that been necessary.  With an elderly man with as many health problems as Bill, I expect Gil and Kelly have been saying their goodbyes as if it was the last time for quite a while before now.  

Hospice care is generally entered when the person is expected to live no more than a couple more months, but it is totally an estimate.  I have a friend whose husband had cancer and was placed into hospice care with the doctor estimating he'd live for no more than a month.  He died more than 2 years later.  Sheer force of will as far as I can tell; there is no other way to explain how he lived as long as he did.  Hospice is there to make the transition easier; not to complicate the situation.

[ranchgirl]

OK, I guess I won't think less of Gil and Kelly for going on the cruise because of all the reasons above.  I just think with Mama Jane's cancer and Papa Bill getting worse off, that the timing was not good.  But maybe Kelly and Gil needed the time off and away.  

I do know that the timeline with Hospice can be hours/days/months and even years.  Both my mom and dad were on Hospice before their passing.  Dad for several months and my mom for days.  Hospice was AMAZING in both circumstances.  They made my parents last days as peaceful as possible and helped to prepare us, the family.  

 

 

[Absolom]

The hospice literature I've read says most people don't think of hospice until it's very late in the process.  As I've said Medicare covers from six months expected life expectancy on. Mom went on as soon as she was eligible and I heartily recommend sooner rather than later.  You get decisions out of the way while you're still less concerned about imminent death.  You get the full use of the services.  The patient gets the extra attention and you can save yourself from paying for and having to obtain certain things like even toothpaste and "Depends."  They simply provided all of that and most of Mom's medications. Getting relief from some of the logistical concerns frees up the family to spend more quality time with the patient. They even pre-positioned oxygen weeks before it was needed so I didn't have to give that a single thought.  

[Heathen]

On 5/20/2025 at 11:09 AM, ranchgirl said:

OK, I guess I won't think less of Gil and Kelly for going on the cruise because of all the reasons above.  I just think with Mama Jane's cancer and Papa Bill getting worse off, that the timing was not good.  But maybe Kelly and Gil needed the time off and away.  

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Time off from what? What's less than doing nothing? 

[Salacious Kitty]

1 hour ago, Heathen said:

Time off from what? What's less than doing nothing? 

Kelly had recently been on the farm when Jane had her radiation treatments. She made it sound like she was there for the duration. No word on where Gil was for that month. 

[lookeyloo]

I am no fan of the beliefs of these people.  But, we really don't know what they do.  We see snippets on instagram?  They don't wear a go-pro or have documentarians following them around.  So, do they do anything?  No one knows for sure.  Someone might  think I have nothing better to do than be on here.  

[EmeraldGirl]

Death is always so complicated and different for so many people. My father-in-law was doing really well in rehab, but could not wait to get home. He ate a big breakfast and then died. Only had technically been on hospice for a day.
 

My brother-in-law spent about two weeks on hospice at home. He didn’t pass until the middle of the night when no one was awake. Some people wait until they are surrounded by family, and some people want to pass alone.

if anyone is in that situation and would like to know more about it, YouTube has videos from a hospice nurse called Julie. She will explain absolutely everything you need to know. And she will even talk about the last 24 hours and after death. I sent my sister all of the videos. Then the social worker ended up asking if she knew anything about hospice and she said she watched a lot of videos. It’s really important to know everything you can. Especially when you find out how much support you will get, all of the supplies, etc. And also the fact that they are not always there, but they teach you how to handle things on your own.

[ranchgirl]

6 hours ago, Heathen said:

Time off from what? What's less than doing nothing? 

Kelly has had a very busy Winter/Spring ... first, she nearly died.  (Was helping Gil's parents when this happened.)  Then she was in Utah for the family ski week and then hosted I Love You Day and then said she was helping Mama Jane's with her radiation treatments and one of the girls still at home (can't remember names) graduated high school, right?  And there was a baby shower (Emerson and maybe someone else) that she helped plan and put on.