I tend to agree that the only reason Bobby is surviving his marriage and his life is because Kelton is around. The difference between Bobby and Kelton right now is stark. Kelton has a smile that reaches his eyes. He seems genuinely thrilled to be with Josie and with his life overall; he posts all these plumbing videos where you can tell he genuinely enjoys his job dealing with frozen pipes, leaky pipes etc. And while he and Josie had to of course pop out a honeymoon baby, they appear to still be trying to keep the romance alive with baby in tow – going on their weekly coffee dates, taking road trips etc. Will that be possible once they’re on kid #2 or #6 – likely not, but at least they’re getting to know each other during their newlywed period.
The difference has to be that Kelton married someone who was suited for him personality-wise AND he didn’t upset his entire life to marry her. Josie has some annoying Bates traits but overall is more like Alyssa – wanting to be a bit distant from her family, not loud/shrill etc., which matches Kelton’s personality. And Kelton is from Knox and stayed in Knox post-marriage since he married a local girl, which means he gets to keep his job, see his family etc. And as much as the Bates tend to do it, Josie hasn’t cut out Kelton’s family. Kelton posts tons of pics of his father visiting his daughter; his father was at the hospital for Willow’s birth (likely not in the room but still supporting Kelton); his grandparents, aunts/uncles were at the gender reveal and he was hanging out with them a lot; I think he and Josie go to church with his side of the family etc. In part that may have been a conscious decision on Kelton’s part – i.e. when I marry, I want a local girl. He went away for college, but maybe he didn’t want to leave his family and esp. his dad permanently.
Bobby OTOH has always seemed like he rushed to marry because Kelton – and likely all their bible college friends – were marrying and prob bc SEX. In doing so, I don’t think he paid any attention to whether the girl was right for him or not. He’s a calm, collected, witty kind of guy and she’s a loud, obnoxious complainer who just wants the photograph to be complete with a handsome husband + kids, but doesn’t much care about the husband or his feelings. At first it looked like he used to get annoyed – when he called her out on not being able to watch the green beans on the stove while he put steaks on the grill on their honeymoon; when he looked genuinely hurt as she gushed about how Evan singing a little ditty to Carlin telling her to pack her bags for a Rhode Island engagement was the best engagement surprise ever, when no more than 9-12 mos ago Bobby had gone all out for Tori whisking her away from school to the mountains in Ashville for their engagement etc.
Now Bobby just seems like ‘whatever.’ Like when she went on about how 9 mos away in Nashville with her husband caused her to miss EVERYTHING (which would be what – another fundie courtship + grandkid number 900000??), he barely blinked. I literally thinks he thinks – whatever – this woman give me my son and probably a bunch of other kids down the road, she gives me some sex, let’s just go live in Nashville where your annoying sisters and mom can entertain you and at least I can hang with my bff 40 hrs a week and socialize with my brothers in law, all of whom also find your sisters annoying.