AstridM April 23 Share April 23 1 hour ago, andromeda331 said: I don't either. I can't see her ever saying no Jeremy on anything. Same. Her health and eating issues might also be making it difficult to conceive again. 1 1 Link to comment
Snow Fairy April 24 Share April 24 To me, her answer goes a bit towards "having problem conceiving another one". Like she is saying they would like 3, but remain happy even with 2 - because 3 isn't happening as planned 3 Link to comment
Meow Mix April 25 Share April 25 From reading Jill's book, it seems as though JB had a lot of problems with people who had "only" two kids. He even disparagingly referred to Cross Church as a "two kid church". I think Jill was really bothered by the fact she may not have been able to have any more after Sam. So, Jinger may feel the same way - being fine with two, but having a nagging feeling that she is letting God down by not having any more. 1 7 1 Link to comment
Salacious Kitty April 25 Share April 25 I think Jinger has deconstructed enough from IBLP think to realize she isn't letting God down if she "only" has 2. 8 1 Link to comment
andromeda331 April 25 Share April 25 5 hours ago, Salacious Kitty said: I think Jinger has deconstructed enough from IBLP think to realize she isn't letting God down if she "only" has 2. I hope so. 7 1 Link to comment
GeeGolly April 25 Share April 25 I think all the sisters' husbands leave the number of kids up to the wives. Well maybe not Austin. I do believe Jeremy influenced when they had their first child and Derick wanted to wait until he finished school before having more, but other than that, IMO, its the wives decisions. As for the wives of the Duggar brothers, I'm not sure this is true. 4 Link to comment
Mod-Tigerkatze April 26 Share April 26 Hi everyone, I wanted to drop you a note acknowledging the respectful way in which you've discussed Jinger's answer on Instagram regarding having more children as well as how much her faith/husband might influence her decisions. There's just one thing I have to bring up: While the manner in which you addressed the issue wasn't inconsiderate, please remember that pregnancy related issues can be very hard if not traumatic on women and speculation on infertility can be triggering regardless of how respectful the discussion is. Overall though, it’s a constructive conversation about sensitive subjects. Thank you. 1 Link to comment
dargosmydaddy Monday at 01:03 AM Share Monday at 01:03 AM On 4/26/2024 at 6:44 PM, Mod-Tigerkatze said: While the manner in which you addressed the issue wasn't inconsiderate, please remember that pregnancy related issues can be very hard if not traumatic on women and speculation on infertility can be triggering regardless of how respectful the discussion is. Question-- are we meant to avoid any respectful discussion of potentially triggering topics? Or just pregnancy-related issues? Or just topics that a moderator posts a directive about? Or are we welcome to continue respectfully discussing potentially triggering topics, but only if we include trigger warnings on our post? (If so, is there a site-wide list of what is considered potentially triggering?) In case it doesn't come across, I am not trying to be combative, just genuinely curious/ don't want to run afoul in future. 2 2 11 Link to comment
Salacious Kitty Monday at 01:16 AM Share Monday at 01:16 AM Maybe we could say something like: Trigger Warning (infertility) at the beginning of a post? That should be enough warning for someone for whom that issue could be a trigger. Is that sufficient? 7 Link to comment
Absolom Monday at 02:37 AM Share Monday at 02:37 AM (edited) Infertility is definitely triggering for many people. I think at least part of the problem was potentially imputing infertility to Jinger for only having two children and tying it to potentially body shame of being too thin. We have no evidence of Jinger ever having trouble conceiving when she planned. IMO any discussion of infertility and Jinger was not really needed. Edited Monday at 03:22 AM by Absolom 3 Link to comment
Popular Post Notabug Monday at 02:40 AM Popular Post Share Monday at 02:40 AM (edited) 1 hour ago, Salacious Kitty said: Maybe we could say something like: Trigger Warning (infertility) at the beginning of a post? That should be enough warning for someone for whom that issue could be a trigger. Is that sufficient? Aren't we perhaps heading to a slippery slope where virtually everything will be potentially triggering? As we delve deeper and deeper into what might be difficult for another reader on the site, I think we could come to the point where we acknowledge that someone somewhere will have personal experience and emotions involving virtually all the topics at hand. If the speculation is respectful and considerate, I don't think discussing that one of the reasons Jinger might be reticent to discuss their intentions regarding future kids might be because they're having trouble getting pregnant at present is out of line. Edited Monday at 02:42 AM by Notabug 27 2 Link to comment
MaryAnneSpier Monday at 11:29 PM Share Monday at 11:29 PM There's a lot of potentially triggering stuff that's involved with the Duggars. When we involve religious trauma along with the Josh mess, there's not a way to handle discussion under the new guidelines other than avoid them altogether. The quality of discussions and insights here has dwindled because of the new mods, and the latest directive from the mod is the final straw for me. 10 4 1 9 1 Link to comment
AstridM Monday at 11:51 PM Share Monday at 11:51 PM 22 minutes ago, MaryAnneSpier said: There's a lot of potentially triggering stuff that's involved with the Duggars. When we involve religious trauma along with the Josh mess, there's not a way to handle discussion under the new guidelines other than avoid them altogether. The quality of discussions and insights here has dwindled because of the new mods, and the latest directive from the mod is the final straw for me. I’m completely over it also 🥲. 2 3 3 Link to comment
jschoolgirl Monday at 11:57 PM Share Monday at 11:57 PM There is far less discussion across all the forums I use on this site. It is too bad, because the quality of discussion used to be so high. 17 6 3 Link to comment
precious pupp Tuesday at 12:52 AM Share Tuesday at 12:52 AM 52 minutes ago, jschoolgirl said: There is far less discussion across all the forums I use on this site. It is too bad, because the quality of discussion used to be so high. It's getting very weird around here. I've heard members say they will quit posting. That's not good. 1 7 3 Link to comment
Natalie68 Wednesday at 04:28 PM Share Wednesday at 04:28 PM (edited) On 4/29/2024 at 4:51 PM, AstridM said: I’m completely over it also 🥲. I have been posting less. It is hard to have a full throttle discussion. ETA: I have been wondering about the lack of new posts among all of my regular groups. Are people just lurking? Edited Wednesday at 08:13 PM by Natalie68 16 4 Link to comment
Suzn Wednesday at 08:58 PM Share Wednesday at 08:58 PM 4 hours ago, Natalie68 said: I have been posting less. It is hard to have a full throttle discussion. ETA: I have been wondering about the lack of new posts among all of my regular groups. Are people just lurking? I seldom post but always read here and I see a major difference. The atmosphere is so constrained that it feels chilled. People seem afraid to express completely harmless things. It used to be possible to discuss tough topics, topics that don't lend themselves to only saying "nice" things. It's sad that the new regime wants this. 15 7 Link to comment
Natalie68 Wednesday at 09:00 PM Share Wednesday at 09:00 PM Just now, Suzn said: I seldom post but always read here and I see a major difference. The atmosphere is so constrained that it feels chilled. People seem afraid to express completely harmless things. It used to be possible to discuss tough topics, topics that don't lend themselves to only saying "nice" things. It's sad that the new regime wants this. That makes me sad. Gonna look around for other options. 6 2 Link to comment
GeeGolly Wednesday at 11:18 PM Share Wednesday at 11:18 PM IMO, the Counting On threads had an unwarranted bad reputation. There are other sub forums on PT that have far worse thread titles and highly critical posts and they go unnoticed. Also in my opinion I think Jeremy would actually like being called a Holy Goalie. Whether he's as good as he thinks he is of either, is up for debate. 😁🙏🏽🏒 11 3 7 Link to comment
Salacious Kitty Wednesday at 11:38 PM Share Wednesday at 11:38 PM Well, there was that time when Jer thought he was hot stuff. 😂 3 10 Link to comment
precious pupp Thursday at 12:05 AM Share Thursday at 12:05 AM 3 hours ago, Natalie68 said: That makes me sad. Gonna look around for other options. If you find any, I'd love it if you would PM me. Thanks :) 5 1 Link to comment
andromeda331 Thursday at 05:10 AM Share Thursday at 05:10 AM 5 hours ago, GeeGolly said: IMO, the Counting On threads had an unwarranted bad reputation. There are other sub forums on PT that have far worse thread titles and highly critical posts and they go unnoticed. Also in my opinion I think Jeremy would actually like being called a Holy Goalie. Whether he's as good as he thinks he is of either, is up for debate. 😁🙏🏽🏒 He probably would since he thinks he's the best at both. 1 3 Link to comment
Natalie68 Thursday at 03:03 PM Share Thursday at 03:03 PM 14 hours ago, precious pupp said: If you find any, I'd love it if you would PM me. Thanks :) will do!!!! 1 Link to comment
Dehumidifier Thursday at 06:11 PM Share Thursday at 06:11 PM 18 hours ago, GeeGolly said: IMO, the Counting On threads had an unwarranted bad reputation. There are other sub forums on PT that have far worse thread titles and highly critical posts and they go unnoticed. Also in my opinion I think Jeremy would actually like being called a Holy Goalie. Whether he's as good as he thinks he is of either, is up for debate. 😁🙏🏽🏒 Would you feel the same if he was a religion other than Christian? Link to comment
GeeGolly Thursday at 06:28 PM Share Thursday at 06:28 PM 10 minutes ago, Dehumidifier said: Would you feel the same if he was a religion other than Christian? I'm totally not understanding this question. Could you please clarify? 3 1 Link to comment
Dehumidifier Thursday at 06:32 PM Share Thursday at 06:32 PM 3 minutes ago, GeeGolly said: I'm totally not understanding this question. Could you please clarify? I think it is pretty clear. 1 Link to comment
GeeGolly Thursday at 06:42 PM Share Thursday at 06:42 PM 8 minutes ago, Dehumidifier said: I think it is pretty clear. I'm so sorry, but it is not clear to me. Are you asking if I would feel Jeremy would like being called a Holy Goalie is he was a different religion? 4 1 Link to comment
Dehumidifier Thursday at 06:46 PM Share Thursday at 06:46 PM (edited) 5 minutes ago, GeeGolly said: I'm so sorry, but it is not clear to me. Are you asking if I would feel Jeremy would like being called a Holy Goalie is he was a different religion? A) Would you consider the thread title bad if he was being mocked for being a religiously inclined goalie of another belief than Christianity? B) Do you think that title would even have been under consideration if he was of a religion other than Christian? Edited Thursday at 06:54 PM by Dehumidifier 1 Link to comment
GeeGolly Thursday at 07:01 PM Share Thursday at 07:01 PM 11 minutes ago, Dehumidifier said: A) Would you consider the thread title bad if he was being mocked for being a religiously inclined goalie of another belief than Christianity? B) Do you think that title would even have been under consideration if he was of a religion other than Christian? A) I don't see the title as mocking. B) I don't believe the word holy applies only to Christianity. I've always seen it as an all encompassing religious word. 9 10 Link to comment
Dehumidifier Thursday at 08:58 PM Share Thursday at 08:58 PM Holey Goalie -- a great opportunity somehow missed. Link to comment
GeeGolly Thursday at 09:18 PM Share Thursday at 09:18 PM Jin & Jer just golfed in some religious tournament in AZ. 2 Link to comment
CalicoKitty Thursday at 09:31 PM Share Thursday at 09:31 PM (edited) Seeing Jinger doing "normal" activities and wearing new "appropriate for the task" clothing of her own makes me very happy. No matter what some think of Jeremy, he has provided a life for her that is so different from her childhood, and they seem to be a very happy family. It may not be the lifestyle or belief that we might personally choose, but she seems very happy, and I am happy for her and their family. Edited Thursday at 09:36 PM by CalicoKitty extra word 12 1 Link to comment
emma675 Thursday at 10:46 PM Share Thursday at 10:46 PM 1 hour ago, GeeGolly said: Jin & Jer just golfed in some religious tournament in AZ. Jinger looks super cute in her shorts and sleeveless top. I think back to when she was dressed in a prairie style gown, with a crunchy perm and awful brown foundation, talking about being terrified of messing up in front of God, and I wonder if she could have ever dreamed of herself like this. I'm not Jeremy's biggest fan, but I do think he's given her the opportunity to break away from a lot of the crap her family put her through. I hope she's happy and hasn't just traded one headship and his beliefs for another. 12 1 Link to comment
Mod-Tigerkatze Thursday at 11:38 PM Share Thursday at 11:38 PM On 4/28/2024 at 9:03 PM, dargosmydaddy said: Question-- are we meant to avoid any respectful discussion of potentially triggering topics? Or just pregnancy-related issues? Or just topics that a moderator posts a directive about? Or are we welcome to continue respectfully discussing potentially triggering topics, but only if we include trigger warnings on our post? (If so, is there a site-wide list of what is considered potentially triggering?) In case it doesn't come across, I am not trying to be combative, just genuinely curious/ don't want to run afoul in future. Thanks for asking. To answer your question about avoiding potentially triggering topics, no, you're not meant to do that. There would be little left to talk about if that were the goal. You're welcome to continue respectfully discussing triggering topics - as you did with the pregnancy discussion. A trigger-warning would certainly be very mindful, thank you for suggesting it. However, it isn't necessary and posters wouldn't get reprimanded if they didn't include one. Please note that a mod directive doesn't always mean that a discussion wasn't acceptable or that it was a moderator who noticed something of concern. Sometimes, it's used to acknowledge concerns that may have been raised without reprimanding the posters involved in the discussion. I noticed that there still seems to be a bit of uncertainty with regards to what is allowed. I'm sorry about that. Maybe the following questions will provide some clearer guidance: When you post, it can be helpful to consider if: - you would say it to a person's face - you would be comfortable if the person you're talking about read the comment - how you would feel if you were the person you're talking about and you read the comment - how would you feel if you were sympathizing with the person you're talking about and you read the comment These are questions every poster would have to answer for themselves but as you answer them, keep in mind that the person you're talking about likely doesn't know you, so they don't know what you sound like or how a comment is meant. Generally, it's not so much about what it discussed, as it is about how it's discussed. 1 3 1 Link to comment
awaken Yest. at 02:07 AM Share Yest. at 02:07 AM 5 hours ago, Dehumidifier said: Holey Goalie -- a great opportunity somehow missed. Too mocking. Probably not an option. Link to comment
AstridM Yest. at 02:48 AM Share Yest. at 02:48 AM 8 hours ago, Dehumidifier said: 3 hours ago, Mod-Tigerkatze said: Please note that a mod directive doesn't always mean that a discussion wasn't acceptable or that it was a moderator who noticed something of concern. Sometimes, it's used to acknowledge concerns that may have been raised without reprimanding the posters involved in the discussion. What? Raised by whom? 2 Link to comment
pinkandsparkly13 Yest. at 04:20 AM Share Yest. at 04:20 AM Oh Holy Goalie, Good Lord! 1 1 Link to comment
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