S08.E16: Second Guessing

[mamadrama]

1 hour ago, Mrs. Hanson said:

I give you so much credit for being able to watch her.  She reminds me of the girl in high school who thinks she is really funny but is not.  When her show appears in in promos, my husband is like, "Is she crying AGAIN?"

Or the mean girl who cries "bully" but is really the biggest bully of them all. Watching her has given me a VERY high tolerance of the 90 Day cast, this season in particular. 

[magemaud]

All season I have been drawing comparisons between cougars Stephanie and Darcey, with many similarities in their stories, but one difference just occurred to me. In all her seasons, I think Darcey rarely had anything she said “bleeped”, and then only when she was upset, whereas Potty Mouth Stephanie routinely drops F bombs and other profanities into her daily conversation seemingly just for shock value and to appear young and cool. 

Edited to add an example. Darcey would scream “Get out of my life” while Stephanie would say “Get the (bleep) out of my (bleep) life.” 

Edited April 3, 2021 by magemaud

[mamadrama]

15 hours ago, magemaud said:

All season I have been drawing comparisons between cougars Stephanie and Darcey, with many similarities in their stories, but one difference just occurred to me. In all her seasons, I think Darcey rarely had anything she said “bleeped”, and then only when she was upset, whereas Potty Mouth Stephanie routinely drops F bombs and other profanities into her daily conversation seemingly just for shock value and to appear young and cool. 

I feel like at least Darcey is authentically fucked up. So much of Stephanie's shtick, aside from what I'm assuming must be pills and booze, is just a put on. 

[Auntie Anxiety]

Mike doesn’t like you, much less love you, Nuttie. Why would you keep trying to get him to marry you? Even a green card isn’t worth it.

[AZChristian]

26 minutes ago, Auntie Anxiety said:

Mike doesn’t like you, much less love you, Nuttie. Why would you keep trying to get him to marry you? Even a green card isn’t worth it.

I got the feeling that Mike had already made up his mind (back when she threw the ring into his suitcase in Kiev) that he didn't want to marry Natalie; she just kept trying to change his mind.  Even after he broke up with her the day of their scheduled wedding, she spent the next day telling him he needed to make a decision.  He had already made it; it just wasn't the decision she wanted, so she wasn't accepting his decision.  

[Mrs. Hanson]

On 4/2/2021 at 3:44 PM, mamadrama said:

Or the mean girl who cries "bully" but is really the biggest bully of them all. Watching her has given me a VERY high tolerance of the 90 Day cast, this season in particular. 

Oh my gosh as a teacher......can I please have a dollar for every parent that wants to complain that their child is being bullied (which is very misunderstood term - your kid is pushed off the swings once does not mean she was bullied.  It was wrong, but not bullying behavior) I could retire today.

 

5 hours ago, AZChristian said:

I got the feeling that Mike had already made up his mind (back when she threw the ring into his suitcase in Kiev) that he didn't want to marry Natalie; she just kept trying to change his mind.  Even after he broke up with her the day of their scheduled wedding, she spent the next day telling him he needed to make a decision.  He had already made it; it just wasn't the decision she wanted, so she wasn't accepting his decision.  

Preach!  Natalie, by being so wishy washy is telling you his decision.

@AZChristian, is is creepy and weird that I saw a license plate with the three letters AZC and thought of you?  Too weird?  I will see myself out now, lol, and you are free to block me.  😉

[AZChristian]

23 minutes ago, Mrs. Hanson said:

Preach!  Natalie, by being so wishy washy is telling you his decision.

@AZChristian, is is creepy and weird that I saw a license plate with the three letters AZC and thought of you?  Too weird?  I will see myself out now, lol, and you are free to block me.  😉

Not creepy at all.  I am amused and honored.  LOL.

[Hangin Out]

What was Rebecca doing the last ninety days .. eating buckets of chicken?  S couldn’t ge the apartment together or plan a very simple wedding.  The dress doesn’t fit so she has to wear the girdle over the dress.  Where’s the bouquet?  Every bride with a gown has a bouquet, and from what I have seen, Georgia makes beautiful ones.  Beautiful flowers.  Then you have a flannel shirt and baseball cap walk you down the aisle.  The horse and carriage was more important.  I put my whole 120 people together by myself, every detail, and worked full time.  A church wedding and reception.  All this woman is interested in is getting laid.  I feel sorry for Zied.

[Hangin Out]

Never mind.

[CrazyInAlabama]

Wearing that corset on the outside was bizarre.   

[Mrs. Hanson]

14 hours ago, Silver Bells said:

What was Rebecca doing the last ninety days .. eating buckets of chicken?  S couldn’t ge the apartment together or plan a very simple wedding.  The dress doesn’t fit so she has to wear the girdle over the dress.  Where’s the bouquet?  Every bride with a gown has a bouquet, and from what I have seen, Georgia makes beautiful ones.  Beautiful flowers.  Then you have a flannel shirt and baseball cap walk you down the aisle.  The horse and carriage was more important.  I put my whole 120 people together by myself, every detail, and worked full time.  A church wedding and reception.  All this woman is interested in is getting laid.  I feel sorry for Zied.

I bought a wedding dress and we postponed our first date so it was two years later and guess what?  I put on a few pounds.  Guess what I did?  Tried it on a few MONTHS before and bought another dress on Amazon.  Don't worry, Rebecca, you will have wedding number five to do to do it all again!

[ava111]

On 3/30/2021 at 7:18 PM, monagatuna said:

I think I'm just confused. It may be the way it's phrased, but it just comes off as your choices are "religious ceremony" or "elope/courthouse wedding" and nothing in between. Clearly that's not the case, it just seems strange to me to default to ministers performing the ritual whereas actually anyone can. But it may just be a function of ministers and religious leaders already being qualified to perform the ceremony with the state as part of their job function, and anyone else who isn't will need to be, so that's why non-clergy people are being called out.

I think I'm reading too much into this. I'm very tired.

 

On 3/30/2021 at 5:31 PM, StatisticalOutlier said:

In the statute I linked to in my post, there's a provision for judges officiating at weddings without the need for authorization or posting a bond.  Think of people eloping and going to the justice of the peace to get married.

 

Zied said he liked it, and theoretically he's the one who really counts.  But then again, he likes Rebecca...

I live in northern Virginia and got married to my husband 5 years ago. We decided just to elope after 17 years together so I thought we would go to court to get married. But Virginia doesn't do court weddings. You just pick from list of officiants and contact them and tell them when and where to show up. So we ended up with the perfect wedding - just two of us and our dog on the dock of our condominium wearing birkenstock and corduroy pants in middle of January. Then we went to Silver diner for brunch and then home watched the movie we went to see on our first date  - L. A. Confidential. All for under 150 USD (including marriage license, officiant fee and food).  Officiant took few pics of us with our phone. Then we emailed our families and friends the pics and that we got married. 

No stress and waste of money. Wouldn't have it any other way.

[Colfrmb]

@Tuneful, funny you should mention “worse than Mohammed”, now that we know more about the outcome of the Mike & Natalie nightmare and our guess is that she is out and about the USA without Mike, I compare her to... Mohammed.  Please don’t yell at me!  If she was a guy, would it not seem like a similar scenario?  

Edited April 5, 2021 by Colfrmb

[Back Atcha]

1 hour ago, Colfrmb said:

 Please don’t yell at me!  If she was a guy, would it not seem like a similar scenario?  

I'd have to take a "Mike" into the equation.  I'd escape ASAP too.  He played his cruel manipulations until the last minute (90th day); perhaps she was just biding her time.   Well, biding her time cooking, worrying,  cleaning, and having sex with him.  It would make a good movie if we'd learn her thought processes.

[Back Atcha]

17 hours ago, Silver Bells said:

 I put my whole 120 people together by myself, every detail, and worked full time.  A church wedding and reception.

Me too...as a23yr old stenographer with a second job. Hotel reception.  My divorced mother had raised three girls alone and was able to help with reception costs.  Otherwise...all on my own, like you.  Perhaps we were NOT idiots!

[Back Atcha]

On 4/3/2021 at 11:57 AM, Auntie Anxiety said:

Even a green card isn’t worth it.

Seems like it is...to so many.

[Tuneful]

 

On 4/5/2021 at 11:25 AM, Colfrmb said:

@Tuneful, funny you should mention “worse than Mohammed”...our guess is that [Natalie] is out and about the USA without Mike, I compare her to... Mohammed.   

Fear not, Colfrmb, I shan't yell. I consider the snark here to be all in good fun...for all we know, any shenanigan could be producer scripted.

But you have inspired me to play matchmaker: Dinyel and Mike. 4-EVAH. Except for the ginger, they even look alike.   

Mrs. Hanson, about your wedding dress, it sounds like you have a good perspective!! We women (especially, IMO) can be hard on ourselves when our bodies change, and believe me, from midlife into the senior years mine has, even though I eat, and exercise, moderately. Some of the clothes I've had to give away have been nice but I have tried to think someone else who maybe couldn't afford new can enjoy them. I had to really think hard about that when I mistakenly put a beautiful designer silk dress (small size) from Saks that I wore to a family wedding, into a donation bag during a move. Of course it was gone when I checked back with the shop...I think RayBayKa is having psych issues. There's no reason she couldn't put more effort into planning her wedding outfit, even from a thrift shop or Target.  

Edited April 6, 2021 by Tuneful

[Mrs. Hanson]

14 hours ago, Tuneful said:

Mrs. Hanson, about your wedding dress, it sounds like you have a good perspective!! We women (especially, IMO) can be hard on ourselves when our bodies change, and believe me, from midlife into the senior years mine has, even though I eat, and exercise, moderately. Some of the clothes I've had to give away have been nice but I have tried to think someone else who maybe couldn't afford new can enjoy them. I had to really think hard about that when I mistakenly put a beautiful designer silk dress (small size) from Saks that I wore to a family wedding, into a donation bag during a move. Of course it was gone when I checked back with the shop...I think RayBayKa is having psych issues. There's no reason she couldn't put more effort into planning her wedding outfit, even from a thrift shop or Target.  

Thank you!  When I was clicking on the box for size when I was buying the dress, I was like......now now....be honest, lol.  This is what got us into trouble the first time!  I, too, have a lot of dresses that I need to wash , hang to dry and donate.  Better someone else enjoy them!

[J80134]

You never know what the alterations are on a used gown. I bought an 18 to fit my very ample cleavage, then had the rest altered to fit my size 10 body. If I sold it as an tailored 18...that poor bride might have to wear an ugly corset sausage casing over it. Lol

Howdy doody in the fungi tub, taking the good end, so proud of his romantic prowess....gag me with a pitchfork. 

I now pronounce you Mrs. McToothy. And raise a toast to your kid resembling mommy!